>> Hello and welcome to
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It Is Written Canada.
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Today we're gonna be talking
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to Lorna Spencer.
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Lorna is a mother,
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a homemaker, a woman of God,
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a woman with many talents
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including writing and she has
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written a book called,
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I'm Still Standing, she's
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telling her personal story.
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And Lorna's with us today and
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I'm looking at your book here,
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Lorna, and it's an amazing
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title, we've heard those words
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before, but what you're
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standing on there is solid
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rock and you're in the midst
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of an ocean.
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So thank you for joining us
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and thank you for being
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prepared to share your story
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with us today.
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>> Thank you for having me.
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It's an honour to be here.
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>> Well, Lorna, tell us about
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yourself, so tell us who is
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Lorna Spencer?
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>> Lorna Spencer is a
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Seventh-day Adventist
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Christian, a woman who has
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found her worth in Jesus
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Christ and as you've said I am
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a mother of two young-adult
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daughters, I am an author of
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the book, I'm Still Standing,
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a mental health advocate,
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and an early childhood
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educator by profession.
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>> That's multiple talents.
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>> Yes, very talented.
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>> And lots of
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responsibilities.
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[Lorna] Thank you.
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>> So, Lorna, can you give us
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a synopsis of your book
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that you wrote?
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>> After my pastor,
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Dr. Maitland, and my best
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friend, Tana, continued to
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bother me about writing a book
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and having a story.
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Dr. Maitland gave the title,
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"I Survived."
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However, that title didn't
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seem quite fitting.
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And so I prayed about it and
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came up with the title,
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I'm Still Standing.
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And I'm Still Standing is a
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story of Lorne Gregory who was
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a new bride and she was on the
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top of the world after
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getting married.
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But just two weeks after
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marriage, her world came
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crashing down.
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The man that she married
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turned out not to be who he
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claimed to be.
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He was living a double life.
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Very maladaptive kind of
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lifestyle, very outlandish
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kind of lifestyle.
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He had multiple women,
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including a child that I
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didn't know about and after
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finding out the details of his
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sordid affairs--
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He didn't tell me, by the way.
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I had to investigate him to
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dig to the bottom of
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the truth.
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>> My sister and I are very
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close, I feel like we do have
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a very close relationship.
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I feel like we do butt heads a
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lot, of course, we're family,
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families do that, but at the
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end of the day we will always,
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always love each other.
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We always do have that
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communication, we basically
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feed off of each other.
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If one is down of course we'll
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try and bring the other one up
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and, yeah, just basically
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again that communication, we
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are able to talk things
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through, we're able to really
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get to the bottom of each
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other and just
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understand each other.
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>> I feel my mother's
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situation impacted my life in
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a number of different ways.
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I would say the biggest impact
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that it did have on my life
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is just being able to learn
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from her experiences.
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Just taking exactly what she
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went through and just applying
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it to my own relationships and
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friendships.
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People can be very deceitful
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in your life.
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Obviously my mother was
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deceived, she wasn't able to
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see Jones's true colours until
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later on down the road which
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is what I was able to take and
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just apply because I was able
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to just study people more in
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my life, not let them in as
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easily and really just get to
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know their true intentions of
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why they maybe want to be
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around me or
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just a part of my life.
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And then also I would say
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just the stability aspect of
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it, seeing the commitment,
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seeing my mother and Jones in
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this commitment, but then not
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seeing him around very often.
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It was very misleading for me
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as a young girl, just not
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being able to see that
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stability in their
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relationship so it was really
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just misleading and confusing
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for me as-- watching it,
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growing up.
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>> What I've learned is that
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it's never our fault.
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You know, we think that it's
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one thing and for whatever
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reason, if we're forcing it
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then it takes a different
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direction.
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You must always trust
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your intuition.
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I do not feel like there was a
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balance in the relationship,
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I do 100% feel like my mother
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was the bread-winner, she had
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the pants on, you know...
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She was doing it all,
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honestly, like a Superwoman
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and Superman and effortlessly.
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She would never question it,
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that's the thing.
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This was just my mother,
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right? So...
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Unfortunately, some people
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prey on that, right?
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They see the good in somebody
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and they just keep taking,
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right, and that's when we need
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to take a step back to realize,
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like, "Wait a second," like,
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"I really respect myself,"
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"but this person doesn't"
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"respect me as much so"
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"something needs to change"
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"here," right?
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Of course some things get
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too far gone and it's
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easy to stay.
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We get comfortable and
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complacent, but we really need
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to jump on those signs right
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when we see them.
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We can't keep lying to
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ourselves, that's the number
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one thing, just being honest
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with yourself.
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I find that sometimes when red
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flags come up, we try to
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change it to a green flag.
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Right? Because that's just our
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level of perception.
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What-- The way that they're
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treating us, we may never do
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to them or to somebody else so
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sometimes we just can't
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comprehend that it's a red
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flag or that it's even
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happening the way that
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it is, right?
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So we just allow it to happen
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because we think, "Maybe it"
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"was just a mistake,"
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"they apologized,"
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"it was a mistake."
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"It's OK moving forward,"
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right, but when it becomes
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repetitive and it's consistent
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then that's when we need to
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realize that, I mean, this is
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not just a red flag, like,
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this is who they are as a
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person, right?
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And to fight and flight,
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really, flight would be it.
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>> Which is why it is so
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important to really just
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notice those patterns in
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people and just when they say
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that it's a mistake, when they
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say that changes are gonna
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happen and their actions
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aren't matching their words
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then it's really important to
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just realize exactly what's
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going on and notice those
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exact patterns so that you can
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strive away from them.
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>> In the book, I am
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Pastor Moore.
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I am the one who did the
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counselling, pre-marital
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counselling, did the wedding,
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did baptism, did follow-up
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after the wedding and tried to
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mend what was broken.
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Part of Lorna's transparency
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that strikes me was the
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motivation that she received
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from what was not happening.
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She had married a man who was
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anything but transparent and
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he was hiding everything,
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everything was undercover.
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This man had a mistress who
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had a child for him, 14 months
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old that he was covering up so
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I could see some of that come
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out in Lorna saying, "Mm-mm,"
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"I cannot cover up the mess,"
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"but I'll be transparent,"
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"let the world know who I am"
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"and what's happening to me"
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"so that in order to receive"
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"help, that help can only"
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"come if God and the world"
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"knows what I'm"
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"going through."
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>> In the book I'm "Tango,"
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I'm Lorna's best friend.
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I chose that name because it
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meant "Tana on the go"
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and I'm always on the go.
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Being transparent was so
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important because it allowed
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others to open their own self.
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A lot of people are becoming
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like prisoners within
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themselves because they're in
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so much pain.
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They're walking around...
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with a mask, hiding behind
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their shame, their hurt,
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their pain, their rejection.
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Not until you remove the mask
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will you be able to
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be true to yourself
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and to be true to God.
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>> In the book, Lorna was
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incredibly transparent and I
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think that as she journeyed
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with God through this
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experience He encouraged her
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to be transparent for
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her healing.
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As Lorna was writing and was
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being transparent she had to
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face certain things
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about herself.
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And it's in facing those
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things that I believe God
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was bringing on the
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transformation.
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Transparency
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is a part of healing.
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>> Along the way there were,
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you know, heartbreak, there
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was a pregnancy that came
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about because of a violation
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from my husband and I was
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pregnant with twins and I
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wasn't excited about being
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pregnant after all, you know,
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how it happened and I didn't
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know if I could love,
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you know, the child, at that
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time I didn't know
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it was twins.
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And so I had to pray to God,
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you know, to ask Him to help
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me to accept my situation and
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the fact that I was going to
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be a mother again.
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And so I fell in love with
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these babies, but three months
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after that I had a miscarriage
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and that sent me into the
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abyss of darkness.
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I had given up the will to
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live, I felt as though all
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hope was gone and prayer was
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my weapon.
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Prayer was the key to finding
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my way back to reality.
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And so that's the synopsis of
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I'm Still Standing.
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>> You went through quite a
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lot, I mean this is very, very
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devastating, everything you
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went through.
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The title, I'm Still Standing,
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obviously saying this has not
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destroyed you...
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>> That's right.
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>> At times did it feel
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like that?
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>> Oh, absolutely.
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There were times when I felt
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defeated, I was perplexed,
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I felt as though I was
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destroyed and--
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because my life was so wrapped
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up and tied up in Jones,
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you know, and wanting to be
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loved and wanting to be happy.
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I, you know, when my world
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fell apart, it hit me hard.
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But the good thing about it is
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that I knew Christ.
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I had a relationship with
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Jesus Christ and although it
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was difficult and challenging
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and overwhelming, I still had
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a glimpse of hope and I prayed
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like Hannah and Rachel
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and Naomi.
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Prayer became my way of life.
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And so although it was hard,
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prayer helped me to live.
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Prayer kept me standing.
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>> You know, Lorna, I read
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your book and there were many
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times that I had to put the
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book down and I'm like,
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"I need to finish this book,"
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"but I just can't read"
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"any more."
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>> Oh dear!
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[René] I had to put it down a
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little bit, but the thing that
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really stood out to me was the
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way that you had just
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mentioned now, that you just
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hung onto Jesus right through
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all of this.
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I was like, "This is"
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"incredible, it's such an"
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"inspiration," because you
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did, you prayed and you didn't
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put God aside.
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[Lorna] No.
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>> You-- like, He was...
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He was really your life line.
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>> My anchor, yes.
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>> And your anchor, as you
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were going through all of
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this, you know, and I think
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for me, that was very
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encouraging because I would
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read and would like, "How is"
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"she going through this?"
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Like, you know, how can
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someone live a double life and
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be such a good con artist?
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[Lorna] Mmhmm!
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>> And you were just,
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you know, and then I was like,
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"OK, I need to finish it,"
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but I was so angry and so
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upset, you know, but then I
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need to finish it, but the
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thing that was really
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inspirational was that, like
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you said, Jesus was your
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anchor and He helped you to go
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through this and because of
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Him you're still standing.
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>> I am, I am, yes.
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And although it was difficult
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for me to be transparent and
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put myself out there,
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you know, knowing that not
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everyone will get it because
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I have been scrutinized
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and criticized
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so I would be foolish to think
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that everyone would be
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receptive of my story.
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However, my message is for
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hope because I know what it's
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like to feel hopeless,
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I know what it's like to
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suffer in silence and I want
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people to know that with God
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they can overcome their
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circumstances, only with God.
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And so it's important for them
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to hold on to Christ.
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>> So as I was reading the
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book, I'm Still Standing,
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there were some themes that
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really resonated with me.
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One of them was this stark
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contrast between brokenness
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and wholeness.
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When I was reading about
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Lorna's pain, her doubt, her
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frustrations, her moments of
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hopelessness, it reminded me
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of brokenness, but it also
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reminded me of how God
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transforms and so I started to
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see evidence of wholeness.
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She goes through this
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poetic expression:
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"I was learning about"
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"perseverance in the face of"
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"tremendous difficulty."
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"I was learning to love"
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"myself and enjoy my own"
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"company."
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"I was learning to let go."
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"I was learning to accept"
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"my imperfections."
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Only a whole person can state
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that confidently.
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And as she transitioned from
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brokenness, it reminds me of
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the song, "God Bless the"
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"broken road that led me"
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"straight to you."
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And when I look at that song
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and I read this book...
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>> It's powerful
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because we've all had our
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moments of brokenness
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and just as long as we journey
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the path with God
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and in her journey, she made
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it more about God than her.
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That's how she became whole.
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So there was the brokenness to
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wholeness and the only other
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one that I would add that you
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can draw from that is this
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metamorphic experience she
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went through.
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I would even go so far as to
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say Lorna became Lorne.
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I would go so far as to say in
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her book she speaks about the
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fact that the struggle to
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come out of the cocoon
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empowers the butterfly to fly.
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Oh my goodness!
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How else could you not miss
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that scripture of Romans 8:28,
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And so that theme literally
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screamed out to me.
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Not just the brokenness to
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wholeness, but that
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metamorphic experience that
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she went through.
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The caterpillar
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becoming the butterfly.
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The chicken she refers to in
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her book becoming the eagle.
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And the Bible talks about
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"one can mount up on wings"
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"like eagle" and that's
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exactly what Lorna had become.
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>> So you are in a place where
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it's just like
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pretty much a nightmare.
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[Lorna] Yes.
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>> And you know that you can't
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trust this man.
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You called him "Jones," that's
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not his real name.
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[Lorna] That's right.
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[Mike] It's a pseudonym to
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protect him.
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[Lorna] Yes.
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[Mike] And so he's doing all
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these things.
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Did you get help from
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someone else?
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>> My pastor, Dr. Maitland was
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very supportive.
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He was the pastor that
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officiated our marriage.
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He counselled us for months.
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But Pastor Maitland was there
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to support me and guide me and
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also my best friend who I
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refer to as "Tango" in the
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book, she was very supportive
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as well.
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She carried my pain,
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she carried my burden.
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God is such and awesome God
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because He knew I couldn't
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carry this burden and
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this pain.
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If I had to carry the full
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effect of the pain that was
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inflicted on me, I don't think
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I would be here right now.
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But my best friend carried my
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pain, she felt my pain.
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There were times when at the
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beginning when my world came
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crashing down, I didn't shed a
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tear, I didn't cry.
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But my best friend cried for
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me and that just goes to show
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how God knows best and that He
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works in such awesome ways.
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You know, so I had the support
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of my best friend and
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my pastor.
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My daughters, of course, they
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were supportive, you know,
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as supportive as they could be.
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My mom who was a praying woman
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of God, I knew she was
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praying for me.
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My adopted mom who is my best
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friend's mom is also a prayer
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warrior and I knew that there
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were people who loved me who
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were praying for me, yes.
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I'm Still Standing is an
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incredibly powerful book and
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there were some things that I
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took away for my own personal
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experience looking toward the
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opportunity of continual
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growth in the hand of God.
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It says, "I can never sink so"
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"low where God's hand"
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"couldn't reach me,"
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Lorna says.
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She also says, "Only God can"
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"turn a mess into a message."
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She says, "God fought for me"
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"and rescued me."
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And the last is, "God is"
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"everything in every"
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"situation."
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And so as I read the book, for
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me, these are principles that
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I wanna infuse in my life so
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that when I face the next
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challenge, the next trial, the
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next tribulation, not only do
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I have scripture, but I have
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these beautiful gems of truth
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to help me which I believe is
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a part of her mission in
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sharing her mess for God's
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powerful message.
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>> A survivor is one who lives
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after an ordeal.
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We see Lorna as a survivor.
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Lorna survived because
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she was able to claim the
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promises of God.
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She latched into those
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promises, the book is replete
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with promises from God,
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but one that stood out among
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all the others is that
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"No weapon formed against"
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"Me will prosper,"
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in Isaiah 54.
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And she saw all the weapons
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that the Devil had forged,
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all the weapons that were ever
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formed and she said, "No,"
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"by the help of God they will"
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"not prosper."
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And here she is, still
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standing because the weapons
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have not prospered.
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She is a survivor.
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>> So, Lorna, you talked about
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the word, "intimacy," and I
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always think of the word,
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"intimacy," as "into me see"
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and the only one who can allow
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anyone to see into me is me.
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And so you're opening your
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heart to God and you're
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allowing Him to see into you
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and He speaks to you through
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His word and you get to know
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Him through His word.
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So is there a Bible text that
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speaks to you?
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I mean, there are many,
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I'm sure.
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Is there one specifically that
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you can share with us?
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>> Yes, there is.
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Jeremiah 29, verse 11 is my
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favourite Bible text and I've
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quoted it several times
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in the book...
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I know that I can trust in
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God's promises.
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He's gifted me with two
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priceless gifts.
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You know, there are things
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that money can buy, but it is
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true that money cannot buy joy
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and money cannot buy peace
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and these are gifts that God
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has gifted me and I would not
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trade them for the world.
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This is my encouragement to
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you, just trust God, hold onto
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Him, don't let go.
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>> So you have gone from not
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being able to talk about it to
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writing it, now you're talking
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about it and as you said,
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you're inspiring others with
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it and so as we close off our
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program today, I wonder,
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Lorna, if you could have a
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word of prayer for us?
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>> Absolutely,
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I would love to.
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Our Father Who art in heaven,
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hallowed be Thy Holy and Thy
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powerful name.
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Lord, we are so grateful for
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Your love.
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In spite of the challenges
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that we face, we know that we
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can look to You for help,
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we know that we can come to
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You for help.
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You not just care about the
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big things, You care about the
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small things as well.
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You care about everything
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that concerns us.
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And, Lord, as I've shared my
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story today, I pray, dear God,
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that it will be a blessing to
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others and that You will get
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the glory, the honour, and the
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praise, that lives will be
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inspired and transformed,
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that others will know of Your
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faithfulness, to know that
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they can trust You
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implicitly.
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And, Lord, we thank you for
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the victories, we also thank
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You for the tests, Lord,
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because if there are no tests,
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there will be no testimony.
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So we just ask that You'd give
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us the strength and the
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courage to continue to press
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forward knowing that You will
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keep us standing.
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In Jesus's name I pray, amen.
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[Mike] Amen.
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Lorna, thank you very much for
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your wonderful prayer.
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Thank you for being vulnerable
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enough to share your story,
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to write it so that others can
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be blessed by it and by coming
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in and sharing with us today
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here on It Is Written Canada.
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>> Thank you so much.
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God bless you.
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>> So Lorna's book,
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I'm Still Standing, has many
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more details as I'm sure
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you're aware of her story and
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she has made them available
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for you, free of charge and
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>> And after they run out,
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[Mike] You, too, can
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experience the same kind of
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strength that Lorna had by
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putting your trust in Jesus
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Who Himself remains standing
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when He was tempted by
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the Devil the wilderness
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and said,
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>> In building a relationship
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with God, she has discovered
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that God does not withhold
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anything good from His
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children that walk upright
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with Him
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and she is walking with Him.
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She also discovered her
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self-worth and to whom
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she belongs.
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And once you are able to
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discover those things,
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it is amazing.
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So she's not walking alone
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anymore, she's walking
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with God.
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Through earth's storms,
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He's in there with her and
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that is why she's now changed.
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