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>> Dear friend, thank
you so much for watching
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"It Is Written
Canada." Today, I am joined by
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special guest Dr.
Neil Nedley. Dr. Nedley,
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welcome to the
program. >> Thank you.
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It's good to be here, Chris. >>
Dr. Nedley is no stranger to the
"It Is Written Canada"
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audience. Dr. Nedley has been
featured on our program a number
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of times. Dr. Nedley, we've
talked about mental health.
We've talked about depression.
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We've talked about a number of
different topics. Now, today,
we're going to talk
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about a kind of a provocative
topic as we talk about sex and
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mental health. Now, to our
audience, we're going to be
discussing a mature topic,
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but we will be discussing it in
an appropriate way. Dr. Nedley,
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before we get into this topic, I
want to talk to you a little bit
about Weimar Institute.
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>> Mm-hmm. >> You are the
president of that institution,
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which is both an educational
institution but also an
institution of healing.
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>> Mm-hmm. >> Talk to me a
little bit about the New Start
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Program and some of the other
lifestyle programs that you
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offer at Weimar that may be able
to help people that are having
some type of chronic lifestyle
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issues. >> Well, Weimar is known
as an obesity treatment center.
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It has one of, really,
the best treatment for obesity
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on planet Earth,
and that's a problem
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has dramatically risen in
our world as of late. Also, for
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coronary artery disease or
vascular disease, high blood
pressure, diabetes. We treat a
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lot of advanced diabetes at
Weimar, and we're able to
actually reverse that disease.
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On top of it, we have programs
for depression recovery, anxiety
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recovery, OCD, obsessive
compulsive disorder,
post-traumatic stress disorder,
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panic disorder. Those are things
that will dramatically improve
if not be completely eradicated
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in the vast majority of cases at
Weimar Institute. >> And how
might an individual
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learn about those programs and
how they can get to those
programs, the different
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questions they may
have? >> Yeah, newstart.org
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would be a good way to start,
or depressionrecoveryprogram.com
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would also be a
good way to start,
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but you can also log on
to the educational component
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at weimar.edu. >> Fantastic.
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Now as we get into this
topic of sex and mental health,
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it doesn't take a lot
of time on the Internet
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or in the
newspapers to see that sex
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and that topic really just
all over the headlines. So let's
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just talk from a practical
standpoint. Sexual problems --
are they increasing or
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decreasing in the world
today? >> They're increasing
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significantly. There's more
sexually transmitted diseases
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than ever before. There is more
rape than ever before. There are
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more problems with sex crimes
than ever before in human
history, and we are living
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in a sexualized, sexually
provocative society, and the
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sexual revolution has produced
its sexual complications, and
unfortunately, those sexual
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complications of what we're
hearing about in the news is
just the tip of the iceberg.
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Underneath it, it's even worse
than what you even might imagine
by listening to the news.
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>> We're going to talk
about this in relation to mental
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health, and, you know, as you
read and you hear different
individuals talking,
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let's just start with a very
bottom-line question, and let's
talk about sex itself.
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Is it possible for an individual
to have too much sex? >>
Absolutely, it is, and,
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in fact, first, we found this
out in animal studies, and then
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have subsequently found it out
in human studies, but, you know,
the interesting thing is, when
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you drop a receptive female rat
into a male rat's cage, first,
you'll see a frenzy
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of copulation, but eventually,
that male rat tires of that
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particular female even if she
wants more. He has had enough,
but then drop in a new female,
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and then you see that frenzy
of copulation. We call that the
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Coolidge effect, and it's the
automatic response to what we
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call novel mates, and it is
actually what sets up the
pornography pathway, which
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reveals and results in some very
adverse brain changes. >> Let's
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talk about those adverse brain
changes, so too much sex and the
pathway to the pornography
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or the pathway of pornography
opening up, what happens? What's
happening in the brain?
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What are some of those brain
changes that are going on? >>
Yes, it's what we call
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the supernormal stimuli, so, you
know, an intimate sexual act as
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a part of marriage on occasion
is actually a healthy thing, but
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when it's not part of intimacy
and when it's a supernormal type
of act where it's not
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just a natural part but more
stimulating than that or if it's
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too frequent, it will produce
three definite adverse brain
changes. The first one is, more
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pleasure actually leads to less
pleasure, and so as this
supernormal stimuli take hold,
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the person is not able to
experience the pleasure that he
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or she once was, and this is one
of the reasons why marriages
after about 3 1/2 years
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or 4 years go from the euphoric
stage to the noneuphoric stage.
If people understood this topic
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of sex and mental health, they
would be able to stay in the
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euphoria stage throughout life
in the vast majority of cases,
but because of the tendency
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of overdoing it, they actually
drive themselves into less
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pleasure, and then there is a
supernormal, or I should say a
super memory of the pleasurable
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events driving down what we call
D2 receptors or dopamine
receptors, and the individual
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actually has an increase in
anxiety as a result. >> Mm-hmm.
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>> The usual nuisances of life
become far more irritable to the
person in this stage,
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and both anxiety levels and also
occasionally depression levels
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can go up. And then the third
change... We call that
desensitization, by the way.
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The first one is called
sensitization, and then there's
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desensitization. >> Okay. >> And
then the third change is what we
call hypofrontality.
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This is where your frontal lobe
actually shrinks, and the gray
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matter starts to shrink down in
the frontal lobe of the brain,
and that makes the brain
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unable to foresee consequences
as well so a marked, diminished
ability to foresee consequences.
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Empathy goes down in these
individuals significantly, and
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then they're prone to relapse
into a previous addiction in
response to stress, and these
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are very common changes that
take place in a large segment of
humanity because of their
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misunderstanding of this topic.
>> So let's try to bring some
understanding to the topic.
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How then can an individual
see... because that's actually
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quite frightening to think about
the fact that the frontal lobe
can actually shrink
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when we actually want to be
having a larger frontal lobe and
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a more functioning frontal lobe.
>> Yes. >> And that is happening
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as a direct result of someone's
unhealthy approach to sex. >>
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Correct. >> So what are some
things that can make the
approach more healthy
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and to actually not see these
three negative brain changes? >>
Well, if the person has
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already started to experience
these three negative brain
changes, we recommend
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a reboot of the brain, and that
is called a 90-day sex fast.
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This is where the individual
uses no pornography, no
masturbation, no orgasm.
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Even if they're married,
they stay away from the intimate
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relations for a total of 90
days. Of course, they would need
to have an agreement
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with their partner about this
and inform them of the reasons
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and make sure that they're
buying in to this, but it's
amazing what begins to happen
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after the 90-day reboot. There's
now been thousands of
individuals who have undergone
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this reboot as a result of this
research, and they all talk
about very positive brain
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changes that happen and physical
changes across the board. >>
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This is dramatic because
something so simple can help an
individual reboot who is having
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an unhealthy or unnatural
relationship to sex, so let me
ask you a question because we've
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been seeing in the news quite a
bit coming up about sexual
harassment and inappropriate
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behaviors toward individuals.
>> Mm-hmm. >> Often, those
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individuals are toward women. It
does happen toward men as well.
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>> Mm-hmm. >> But what are some
of the causes that we're hearing
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about all of this today? Why are
we hearing about this? >> We're
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hearing about it because these
people have all been overdoing
it. They're all in the adverse
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brain changes, and when you
actually have conversations with
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people where there's sexual
connotations that are either
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interpreted or also, you know,
meant to be in the conversation,
it's a sign that they're already
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in the desensitization mode. The
desensitization mode, they will
actually have and think...
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There'll be associations that
happen where, all of a sudden,
they're thinking of sex,
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and you'll be able to see this
sometimes in every day,
sometimes, office conversations
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or things like that where
something comes in that's not
even sexually related,
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but somebody takes it that way,
and that's a sign that they're
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actually in the desensitization
mode, so that in and of itself,
is a sign of a need of a reboot,
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and what we will notice is,
if the person goes through the
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reboot, they'll be far more
respectful in their
conversations. They'll be much
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more engaged to life that's not
related to sex, and if they are
in a marriage and in an intimate
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relationship, their sex will
then be far better. It's not
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just about achieving orgasm.
It's actually about the whole
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intimate act, and then you see
partners actually becoming far
closer as a result.
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Now, how frequent would it be to
experience these adverse brain
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changes? If you're having
orgasmic activity more than once
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every 4 days, you're definitely
going to get into it, but
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ideally, it's actually better
for the brain to wait a week, so
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after the 90 days is over with
and you're in an intimate
marriage, it's better to plan it
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about every 7 days so the
male can get a nice testosterone
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spike that wouldn't occur
otherwise and to prevent those
three unhealthy brain changes.
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>> So an individual who's got
this inappropriate situation,
this unhealthy relationship
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to sex, it seems, as we've been
talking, that it's a downward
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spiral. >> Mm-hmm. >> An
individual desires to have sex
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on too frequent of a basis or
too stimulating of a basis, then
actually affects the brain
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negatively and creates now this
pathway where an individual is
engaged in masturbation,
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where an individual is engaged
in pornography, which then
spirals this further
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and further out of control. >>
Exactly. Exactly right, and, you
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know, the masturbation and
pornography tend to go hand in
hand, and it's not just an issue
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with males. It's become far more
common in females than it used
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to be, and a study was done in
2014 showing that half of the
male population has masturbated
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within the last 6 days, whether
they're married, whether they're
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not married. Masturbation
universally produces adverse
brain changes. It doesn't
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produce that "I'm done"
response, and so there's a much
more greater drive to actually
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do more and more over time, and
we have people that come to our
program that have been
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trying to masturbate seven
or 10 times a day. They're an
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emotional mess, and they think
this is their solving the
problem because, you know,
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after you masturbate, there's an
increase in opioids that kind of
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make you feel a little calmer,
but they don't realize that
their solution is the problem,
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and what a difference it makes
when they go through this sex
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fast. >> And so an individual
that is maybe viewing today or
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listening today and sensing that
they are in a hopeless
situation, there is, in fact,
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hope. >> Absolutely. >> And
let's talk about some of those
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steps to hope, some of those
because, instead of those
negative brain changes, we want
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to see some positive
brain changes. >> Mm-hmm. >> You
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talked about the sex
fast. >> Mm-hmm. >> Let's talk,
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practically speaking, a little
bit more about that. What can a
person do during that
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fast then to help them to
actually reverse some of these
other brain changes?
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What are some other positive
things they can do during that
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90 days to really help them with
their mental health? >> Well,
it's important for them
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to be busy and important for
them to be away from screens
because it's normally
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in front of screens that
they have been doing their too
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frequent or too stimulating of
acts, and it might mean that
they need to actually...
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You know, if they're not in a
marriage relationship or
intimate relationship,
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they may need to break off those
relationships which are just
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related to basically orgasmic
activity or what we would call
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casual sex, and the casual-sex
thing really drives these three
adverse brain changes as well.
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And so, yes, because it's
an addiction, you know, it's
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difficult, and if you get
onto sites that talk about this
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90-day sex fast... And by the
way, Hollywood stars are doing
it. There's a whole lot of
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people that have had marital
problems in their family or all
sorts of relationship problems,
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and it's amazing. You'll see the
testimonies when they go through
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the 90-day sex fast, and they'll
talk about the struggles, you
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know? Sometimes, they blow it
after day 70, and then they have
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to start over again, but they'll
talk about the need for physical
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exercise, the need for being
busy so that they're not locked
in a room by themselves,
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and then it gets down to a
two-word, you know, instruction
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-- hands off, you know? And that
comprehensive approach can
actually bring about
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a tremendous victory and enhance
the lives of marriages. One of
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the myths that's out there,
Chris, is that male libido is
always going to be greater than
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female. One of the signs that
your relationship could be in
this is if the male libido
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is far greater than the female's
because once you go through a
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sex fast and once you're doing
it less frequently, both male
and female libido will be equal,
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and the female will be looking
forward to the intimate act just
as much as the male is,
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and so when women get into
this mode where it's annoying to
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them, they don't want to be
approached, and they feel bad
about turning it down,
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that is normally a sign
that there has been supernormal
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activity either in regards to
frequency or type, and so that's
a sign. Sex fast coming your way
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is going to produce tremendous
benefit for both partners. >>
And so it sounds like,
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when we talk about it, that we
have a solution to the world's
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sex problem and the world's
infatuation with sex, and that
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is this sex fast. >> Correct.
>> And as you have said, the
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pornography, the masturbation,
the other things that come along
with this, the too-frequent,
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too-intense sexual encounters
really, as you've pointed out,
is an addictive behavior.
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What are some other aspects of
overcoming addictions that can
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help an individual who's saying,
"This 90 days, Dr. Nedley, this
is impossible"? >> [ Chuckles ]
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Well, you know, getting rid of
the associations that may lead
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to it. You know, a lot of
people, males in the sports
world, there's the lovely lady
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of the day who basically, is,
you know, photographed with all
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sorts of provocative poses, you
know. There's the Sports
Illustrated swimsuit issue.
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There's all of these popular
magazines that are continually
confronting you with sex
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and putting it in front of
your brain. It requires some
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planning, you know, to get rid
of those things, to, you know...
And you might have to do
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a sports fast along with it, and
so you can put up the
appropriate barriers
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that are there. If you do have
an intimate partner, it's good
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to inform your intimate partner
of this. Now we haven't gone
into all the science,
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but we have a DVD called Sex and
Mental Health that will explain
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all of the science behind it,
what's happening with the brain
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chemistry. We tell couples to
look at that and to make a wise
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decision together. You know, the
interesting thing is, I've never
had an individual or a couple go
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through this that hasn't had a
very positive experience on the
other side, and so, you know,
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we need to remind ourselves sex
is a voluntary act. Sometimes,
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society gets in this mode where
they think sex is totally
involuntary. No, it's voluntary,
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and it does require a choice,
usually on both partners, but at
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least one, and it's important
for us to be consciously
competent and to go through the
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struggle and the effort and the
busyness of life and get more
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exercise and get, you know,
better diet. All of those things
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are going to help. The reading
of Scripture -- one of the
things we found out is when
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people read the Book of Proverbs
or Scripture every day, they
actually have more success
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in this 90-day fast, and so
that's frontal-lobe enhancement
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to be able to read Scripture,
and they're actually far less
likely to have sexual relations
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outside of a marriage
relationship when they're
reading Scripture, and you can
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actually Google our name on that
and look at abstract thought in
Scripture and sex outside of
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marriage. We've actually
published on it and then
presented it at a big sexual
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conference, and so these are all
tools that can help people to
overcome this potent
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addiction in their life that is
actually unwittingly... They
often don't realize
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all the adverse brain changes
until they stop it, and then
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they realize, "Wow, I had no
idea my brain could be so much
better." You know, we've had
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guys say, "I start overachieving
at work now," and they're able
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to get so much better work done
and be more efficient in things,
and they say it's noticed,
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you know, by the rest of people
in their, you know, in their
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work environment. It does
produce a little bit of problems
because they'll say, "What has
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happened to you? You are getting
so much more done! You never
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used to work like this, and
you're so creative and things,"
and they can't smile and say, "I
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quit masturbating 90 days ago,"
but it actually produces some
very positive changes,
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and that's just the beginning of
the positive changes that take
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place. >> And so, you know, one
of the things that we've talked
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about before, it sounds like
this comes down to a very
practical decision on
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deciphering what the difference
is between a need and a want. >>
Okay, very good. >> And so why
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don't you help us with that, Dr.
Nedley? How do we decide what is
the difference between
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a need and a want? >> Well,
you just ask yourself a simple
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question: How long can I go
without this before I die? If it
doesn't affect that,
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it is a want and not a need, and
there's no reason for us to get
all angry and upset
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over not getting a want. I can
understand in regards to a need,
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but many people elevate this
area of their life as some sort
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of absolute need, and there's
never been a death certificate
signed that has, "Lack of sex,"
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as a cause of death. You know,
we always have to put, when we
sign death certificates
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as doctors, what was the disease
that caused the death and then
what caused that disease?
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There's causes underneath it.
Lack of sex is not a cause of
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death, and it's not a cause of
disease. Although we have men
that say, you know, "I need to
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do this because I need to empty
my prostate gland," no. One of
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the signs that you're rebooting
is when you have what's called a
nocturnal emission,
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and the body has a way of taking
care of that. We actually don't
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need to have sex frequently in
order for our prostates to be
healthy. Our prostates can be
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perfectly healthy even in an
abstinent environment. If we're
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single or not in a married
relationship, when we go through
that nocturnal emission,
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it's actually a sign that
the brain is rebooting, and it's
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actually a healthy thing, and
so, yeah, sex is a want, and, of
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course, it's in the brain there
for good reason. It was
implanted there, but it was also
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implanted in a brain that had a
frontal lobe in regards to, you
know, if they're going to do it
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or when they're going to do it
or who they're going to do it
with and those sorts of things,
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and so God anticipated the
frontal lobe to be fully in
charge of that desire so that,
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even though we have a libido, we
don't have to do it, and by not
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doing it, what a significant
benefit can happen if you've had
those three adverse brain
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changes. >> And so while you say
there's never been a death
certificate that said someone
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has died from a lack of sex,
what you seem to allude to
though is that, in fact,
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someone as a result of decreased
brain function and mental
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function could, although the
cause may not be too much sex,
an individual could die
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or put themself on the pathway
to a very unhealthy life by
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continuing to have a mental
function that is not moving
along properly through
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acting upon this desire, this
want, in an unhealthy way. >>
Exactly, and, you know,
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death can occur. You know,
sexually transmitted diseases
are in top 10 causes
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of death in our country, and
sexually transmitted diseases,
vast majority of time,
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are occurring as a result of
this felt need where they have
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to get it, and they're not
utilizing their frontal lobe in
regards to who they're doing it
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with or how they're doing it or
any of those types of things,
so, yes, it can involve
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premature death, but it also can
involve a decrease in vitality,
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a suppression of the immune
system, and so it does open
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ourself up for more disease and
death when we are overdoing it.
>> And so what we come
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as we wind up with our
last minute here, Dr. Nedley,
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to the individual that may be
struggling with this issue,
what's a word of hope
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in addition to the counsel we've
given? >> A word of hope is,
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your brain can change, and you
can actually gain self-control
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in this area of your life. What
we have found is that people who
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go through the reboot, even if
they're in an intimate
relationship, if they have
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self-control with their
partner, they're going to have
00:27:31.85\00:27:34.82
self-control over everybody else
as well. In other words, they're
not going to be so tempted by,
00:27:34.82\00:27:40.36
you know, a provocative person
who presents themself for that
00:27:40.36\00:27:45.23
possibility because they're
going to think, "I'd much rather
do it with my intimate partner,
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and it's not time yet, and so
why in the world would I do it
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with you and start to have all
those adverse brain changes?" So
you have self-control
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in this area of your life. You
can have self-control in a lot
00:27:56.74\00:28:00.61
of areas of your life as
well, and that is only going to
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produce the psychological good
life. >> And with that, Dr.
Nedley, we'll bring this program
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to a close. Would you
pray for us today? >> Yes.
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Father in heaven, we thank
You that, although You are the
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inventor of sex, You are also
the inventor of the front part
of our brain, the thinking part
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of our brain, and we pray that
each person who has viewed this
today will be able to apply
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this knowledge in their own life
so that they can experience life
and it more abundantly.
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In Jesus' name, we
pray. Amen. >> Amen.
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Dear friend, sex and mental
health is a sensitive issue that
we don't often talk about,
00:28:41.05\00:28:46.76
but there is hope. There
is hope for a future in Jesus.
00:28:46.76\00:28:51.23
There is hope for a future free
from this addiction. I want to
00:28:51.23\00:28:57.73
offer you the DVD of the
program. This two-part series
will give you information,
00:28:57.73\00:29:02.50
will give you insight and
help you realize there can be
00:29:02.50\00:29:07.38
victory. Here is the information
you need to receive today's
00:29:07.38\00:29:11.48
offer. >> To request
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If you prefer, you may call
00:29:13.82\00:29:19.62
toll-free at 1-888-CALLIIW. >>
Dr. Nedley, thank you so much
for joining us today.
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>> Thanks. It's been great being
here. >> Dear friend, Jesus
00:29:26.93\00:29:32.57
desires that we would have an
abundant life in Him. There is
hope for the future.
00:29:32.57\00:29:37.24
I invite you to go to the "It Is
Written Canada" website,
itiswrittencanada.ca.
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There, you can find resources on
how to grow spiritually. Thank
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you for watching. I encourage
you to join us again next week.
Until then, remember,
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it is written, "Man
shall not live by bread alone,
00:29:52.02\00:29:55.62
but by every word that
proceeds from the mouth of God."
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