Welcome to Issues and Answers.
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Today our topic is Love Drops.
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So if you're interested
in learning more about love,
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how to build love,
how to grow in love,
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come on and join us today.
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Our guest today is
Pastor Steven Caza.
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He is a graduate from
Weimar College in California.
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He's pastored in Kentucky,
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the Cayman
Islands, Utah and Tennessee.
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His current
churches are the Raleigh
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and Covenant churches
near Memphis, Tennessee.
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He likes to be
involved in public evangelism,
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giving Bible studies
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and training
members to do outreach.
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His lovely wife, Leslie,
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he's been married
to her for 31 years
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and they have
three grown children,
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Shannon, Emily and Isaac.
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His favorite hobbies
when he's not preaching
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and doing all those
other wonderful things,
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is planting orchards
and maintaining them,
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berry patches,
gardening, jogging, and biking.
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Welcome to the
program, Pastor Caza.
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Glad you could spare the time
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for more of your
wonderful hobbies
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that talk to us
about Love Drops.
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I just love that title
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so I'd like to say, Love Drops.
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I know you do.
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Good to be here.
Thank you for having me.
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Oh, you're so welcome.
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So where do we start?
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Well, let's go back
to Genesis Chapter 26.
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Okay.
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And Isaac and Rebecca
were living during the famine
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and they realized they
couldn't live there anymore
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so they decided to move.
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Okay.
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And they went down to Gerar,
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King Abimelech was a
Philistine King of that area.
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While they were there,
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God came to Isaac and
gave him a blessing again,
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"I'll make your descendents
like the stars of heaven."
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And then with them being
the new people on the block,
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what happens when
someone moves in who is new.
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What do the
neighbors like to do?
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Like to come on
and check them out.
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Check them out,
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where they were
checking his tents,
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his herds, his carts,
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and then something
was really interesting,
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they started
checking out his wife.
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So they asked him,
"Who is this woman?"
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"Oh, she's my sister."
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Was that really the case?
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No, was not the case.
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Starting here in
verse 7 at chapter 26,
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"And the men of the
place asked him of his wife,
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and he said, She is my sister:
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for he feared to say,
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She is my wife, lest, said he,
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the men of the place
should kill me for Rebecca,
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because she was
fair to look upon."
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So she was a real good looker.
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Oh, those were
extra friendly neighbors.
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I know they
were bold to do that.
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And it says here
and it came to pass
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when they had
been there a long time.
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So this
deception had been going on
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for quite a while hiding
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who they were and
it picks up here that
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"Abimelech king
of the Philistines
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looked out at a
window, and saw, and,
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behold Isaac was
sporting with Rebecca his wife."
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So he looked out and he
saw something and sporting.
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Well, New American
Standard says caressing,
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New Revised
Standard says fondling,
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New King James
says showing endearment.
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Contemporary English version
says hugging and kissing,
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I say they were
flirting and teasing.
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They were having a
ball, they were having fun.
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Abimelech didn't have
a modern English Bible
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to figure out what it
was but he didn't need it.
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He looked at what was going on
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and he realizes that is
not brother and sister stuff.
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Not at all.
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Not at all.
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Now, here's the
point, Isaac had blown it.
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Somehow they had made up
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and they were
having fun together.
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They were enjoying
each other's company
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touching, talking, laughing,
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he could see in their eyes,
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he could just see
their actions that there was,
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it was that they were married.
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It was obvious
that they were married,
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and I would like to say today,
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I like it to be
obvious in our marriages
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where husbands and
wives that we are married.
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Amen.
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That we are a couple,
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that there's a
warmth between us,
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we care for each other.
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It's in our eyes,
Son of Solomon says,
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dove's eyes.
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The look of gentleness.
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Doves are gentle birds.
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You know my
beloved has dove's eyes.
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You can see it there is,
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there's a chemistry there
there's electricity there,
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and a warmth and
they have like each other,
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they like each other.
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Wow.
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A couple who shares
hobbies, plays together,
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have common interest,
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talking, sharing,
planning together,
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building good solid marriages.
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We need to come
to the understanding
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that marriage is a
covenant of companionship.
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It's a covenant of companionship
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and we find
that in Malachi 2:14,
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"Yet you say, "For what reason?"
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Because the Lord has
been witness between you
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and the wife of your youth."
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So what it's saying
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this lady has been
with you a long time...
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Right.
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From your youth, you're
gonna put about the pasture
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or this man has been
with you a long time.
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I mean significantly has
invested their life in you
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from their youth.
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Right.
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You've been together and
then he continues on here.
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"With whom you have
dealt treacherously,
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Yet she is your companion."
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Your lifelong
partner, soul mate...
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It's beautiful.
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Friend, so God is telling him,
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she's been with you a long time.
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What you're doing by
putting her away is treachery.
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And why?
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She is your
companion. She's been with you.
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She hung in thick and thin,
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and you know she loves you,
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and here it says
as he continues on,
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"Yet she is your companion
and your wife by covenant."
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What does that covenant mean?
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That you...
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very good,
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it's an agreement
between two parties.
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Okay. For mutual benefit here.
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So they made a covenant.
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They made a covenant,
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the husband and wife,
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it was by covenant
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they both agreed of
their own free will,
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not put a gun to their head
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and say you have
to marry this person,
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they agreed to
blend their lives,
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that two become one.
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Now, when I do weddings,
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there's something at
the end of the wedding.
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Everybody is waiting for...
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You're right.
You have that prayer.
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They get up the veil
goes up and the minister says,
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"You may salute the
bride or kiss your bride?
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Kiss the bride,
everybody smiling.
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Do you know
where that came from?
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No.
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It actually came
from ancient Rome
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where they sealed
agreements with a kiss
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and it came into
the marriage ceremony.
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So not only does a couple
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seals their
commitment to covenant with the,
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"I do" actually ancient
custom is they kiss too.
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That they have
covenanted to stay together,
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to love one
another, to stick together,
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so that's where
that came in from.
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And this question...
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Who know that? Excuse me.
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Who know that coming
all the way from Rome,
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a Roman custom...
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That's just a custom of Rome.
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That's kept going
thousands of years later.
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Thousands of years.
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There must be something to that.
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Well, that kiss
is sealing my, "I do"
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that I am committed to you,
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and I'm going to stay with you,
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and love you, and bless you,
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when it's both it's mutual.
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It should always be mutual.
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And this commitment to marriage
was an issue in Jesus' day.
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And they actually came to
him, the Pharisees came to him.
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And in Matthew 19:3-6,
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the Pharisee also came unto him
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tempting him
and saying into him,
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"Is it lawful for a man
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to put away his
wife for every cause?
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And he answered
and said unto them,
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Have ye not read..."
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So he's saying
you know the answer.
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They're just trying to
get through the back door,
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and I think this
is where the whole,
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all of us as Christians,
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"Have ye not read,
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that he which made
them at the beginning
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made them male or female,
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And said, For this cause
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shall a man leave
father and mother,
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and shall cleave to his wife,
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and they twain
shall be one flesh.
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Wherefore they are
no more twain, but one.
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What therefore God
hath joined together,
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let no man put asunder."
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As I thought about this
that no man put asunder,
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that word for men is anthropos,
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mankind to Jesus saying,
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no one male or
female relative, friend.
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Nobody has a right to get
into and split your marriage
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that the God's plan
was for us to work it out,
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to stick, to cleave
as it stick together,
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because sometimes you
just have to stick together.
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Things are just as
problems, there's struggles,
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that's a part of every marriage,
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all our lives
we're gonna get problems.
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Isaac and
Rebecca, as we started off,
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he denied his
wife, "She's my sister."
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How do you think she felt?
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Yeah, she had to feel
really badly for a moment.
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Really bad but
somehow in that story
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they had to have made up
because they were supporting,
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so Isaac must have
went to her and said,
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"Look it, I blew it.
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I was afraid."
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He just owned up to it
told that he was sorry,
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asked her for forgiveness.
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She took a big deep breath,
she was waiting for that.
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And now they can work it out
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and get back together.
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So God's plan is for
the two to become one
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and to become one flesh,
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it takes a lot of
work, but it's well worth it,
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very worthwhile well worth it.
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And when you ask ourselves,
are our marriages strong?
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Right.
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Are they strong?
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How do we... How to
get marriages strong.
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Yeah, how to get them strong
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and are they strong.
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Well, there's a book
called, Love as a Lubricant,
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and the stories that
are told of a workman
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who boarded the
bus was going to work
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and every time the
door opened it squeaked.
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So what he did
is, he just got up,
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he got his little oil can,
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went over the offending
spot, put a couple drops on.
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Put it back in
went back to his seat
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and made the comment,
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"I always carry oil
can for there were always
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something that a few
drops of oil can quiet."
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A few drops of oil,
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that's where we get
the title, Love Drops,
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because love is the oil
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that brings
harmony into our homes.
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Amen.
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Can quiet the fuming
so it's a love drops.
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It's a love is what does that.
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I want to share a
few scriptures here
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to help us to have that
love drops in our marriage,
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and let's take a look here.
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Proverbs Chapter 31.
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Proverbs 31?
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And verse 26.
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Okay.
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And this is talking to the wife
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and I think it's well for,
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for couples to go into the Bible
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and just read these verses
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and get a tune up
in maybe even a perk,
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a perk up in...
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See that God is
interested in their homes.
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He's interested in them.
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He's interested
in their wellbeing.
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God wants us to be successful.
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He's pulling for us.
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He's cheering, God's
our biggest cheerleader.
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He wants us to
have the abundant life
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but there's keys
to the abundant life.
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There's laws of life it
has given us in the scriptures
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that if we follow
will bring freedom,
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it will bring joy,
it will bring happiness.
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God's primary goal
for us is to be happy.
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That's what he wants,
he wants us to be happy.
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In Proverbs 31:26,
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speaking to the
wife the verse says,
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"She openeth her
mouth with wisdom,
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and in her tongue is
the law of kindness."
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So when the wife opens her mouth
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she's speaking with wisdom...
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And where is she
getting that wisdom from?
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The word of God, okay.
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Life experience, skill,
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hopefully we're
learning from our mistakes.
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Right. We're not
doing that again.
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Wisdom, we learn as
we age and as we grow,
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and as God works with
us, as we are polishing.
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When we get married, we're just,
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we're not finished products,
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we're just two people
trying to mesh our lives
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with our own baggage...
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Right
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And hopefully as we're marrying
things are being laid off,
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you know, dropped off.
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And we're maturing, and
we're figuring things out.
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Couples who stay
together even in the hard times
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eventually will
figure things out
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and I will testify that,
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31 years, my marriage
is as sweet now as ever,
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better I should say,
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because I have learned things
on what makes my wife happy,
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and she has learned
things that make me happy and...
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So we have a good marriage,
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we don't have a
perfect marriage,
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but we strive
for a good marriage.
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Does that make sense? Sure.
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To have a good marriage. Yes.
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And we can.
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There is no marriage so far gone
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that God can't heal.
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I believe that God can
heal even the worst situations.
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He can help a
couple to start dialoguing,
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working things out step by step,
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may take some time
but he can reclaim.
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If he can reclaim a human person
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who is unconverted,
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he can reclaim a marriage,
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he can reclaim demoniacs
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and prostitutes
and drug addicts,
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he can reclaim marriages.
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So there's hope
for our marriages.
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Yes.
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There's hope that the
commitment is, is both.
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So, "She openeth
her mouth with wisdom,
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and in her tongue
is a law of kindness."
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It's just the way of
life, speaking kindness.
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I think kindness
goes a long way in a home,
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speaking kindly,
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good manners, having gentleness.
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So telling the
wife when you speak,
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try to be wise in what you say
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and in your tongue
have the law of kindness.
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Proverbs 31:10-12,
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says to the woman,
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"Who can find a virtuous woman?"
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Well, that's a good question.
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You stopped right there.
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Well, look who
asked the question.
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No, what...
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Today as I was looking at this
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and I've been
thinking about this
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who can find a virtuous woman.
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Well, there are a lot of
virtuous women out there.
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There are and there
are lot of good men.
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Yes, yes.
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It's just, "Are you
willing to wait and find one?"
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And I want to back up,
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there are women who maybe
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when they were
younger did things
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they shouldn't have done
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and made foolish
mistakes, youthful lust.
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But when they give
their hearts to Jesus,
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they become virtuous women.
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Amen.
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The woman at the well,
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five husbands and one living.
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Right. She left that day.
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She left converted
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and she was a different person.
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The lady caught in adultery
that they brought to Jesus.
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He says, "I
condemn you no more."
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She left a converted woman,
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a virtuous woman,
her life was changed.
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So even though we
have made mistakes
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when we were younger,
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we can be reclaimed
and become virtuous,
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that's part of the
new birth experience.
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Amen. Right.
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Yeah, that's exacting.
That's right, it is exciting.
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Another one would
be Rahab the harlot.
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She's in Jesus' genealogy.
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Wow.
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A pagan. Right.
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And that she's
in Jesus' genealogy,
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she became pure woman and
she was actually in the...
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Might have been the great,
great grandmother of David,
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I may have it
little bit off of Jesse
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and then David and
so she was in that.
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So David actually had
Canaanite blood in him.
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So God can put together people
from different backgrounds.
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He can.
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So the point I'm getting out,
who can find a virtuous woman,
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it's possible.
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Every woman to be virtuous.
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Every woman to be
can be a lovely, godly,
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well balanced person.
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God has designed
us to be reclaimed,
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redeemed, restored, revived,
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so it can happen,
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so we can find a virtuous woman.
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And when you find her,
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for her price is
far above rubies.
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So when you find her grab her.
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Don't let it get away.
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Don't let it get away.
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And here's a fun part of this,
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"You can find a virtuous woman,
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for her price is
far above rubies,
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the heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her."
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What does that mean?
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Just know she's
gonna do him good.
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What she's gonna do?
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He doesn't have to go behind her
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and watch how
she's spending the money,
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how she's raising the kids,
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what's she doing
in her spare time,
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he just trust her.
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I got married 31 years ago,
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I have not seen her
paycheck the whole time.
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Really? Yeah.
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Everyone's going
to my wife, day one.
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Yeah, I'm decent with money
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but she's a
really good with money
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and I just trust her.
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I trust her with the finances,
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with running of the
home or she comes home
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and say, "Oh, I had a...
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I bought recently a
microwave, is that okay?"
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Of course 'cause
you're always good with money.
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You're always
reliable, I trust you.
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This is an area that I
try to just trust my wife,
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and I don't have to question her
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and sometimes... Praise God.
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Yeah, very good, it's very good.
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So there it says here.
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"The heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her."
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Safely trust, you can
be sure she's reliable.
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"So that he shall
have no need of spoil.
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She will do him
good and not evil
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all the days of her life."
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Wow.
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Doing good.
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Can you imagine a wife
was just thinking about,
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how can I make this man happy,
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thinking, helping
the marriage to stay
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well oiled if I
can put that out there.
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Yes, yes.
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You know, pulling
out your own little can.
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There it comes... Here it comes.
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Pulling out your own
little can of love drops.
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Love drops is very interesting.
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You know, of course it's a love
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but we need to
put in a drop form.
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If we are using
love drops daily,
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it will keep things,
the machinery well oiled,
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but if we neglect something.
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And there's a squeak a problem,
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love drops will help
heal that as we talk,
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make amends, and work
things out, negotiate.
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So love on the front end
helps marriage to run well.
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And if something goes bad,
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love will reclaim that marriage.
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And love is a choice.
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It's a choice.
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It's a choice.
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Yes, we need to love by faith.
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Explain that love by faith?
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Sometimes a
marriage can be so bad,
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you just want to run away.
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But by faith you can say,
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"God, you have
brought us together.
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I believe you can fix this,
00:19:17.55\00:19:19.35
and by faith I'm
gonna love this man
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or by faith I'm
gonna love this woman."
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You know we're
not getting along,
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both of us want
to check out here,
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by loving by faith,
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that's actually a
New Testament term,
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love by faith, yeah.
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Yeah, love by faith.
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Sometimes it's just by
faith you're staying together.
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That's part of the
covenant agreement,
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that's part of
sticking together,
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that's part of
becoming the two becoming one
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is I'd rather be
anywhere else right now
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because this marriage
is, is so hurtful to me.
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And I'm talking about,
I'm not talking about abuse.
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Abusive marriage is a
whole different thing,
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a whole different topic.
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I say couples
who have grown apart
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and not getting
along, they're arguing,
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they're fuming, they're fussing.
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You know, it's
been going for long time
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and maybe the love
has, has died down some,
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so those marriages yes,
00:20:02.73\00:20:04.67
and even the other marriages
where there's abuse that
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they get help, they
can be reclaimed too,
00:20:06.50\00:20:07.84
but I don't want
to go there today,
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I want to stick with this.
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Okay.
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So by loving, loving
by faith in that person,
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God has given her to me.
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God has given him to me.
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And I believe that
we can come out of this
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and learn some things
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or maybe even
be stronger for it.
00:20:23.18\00:20:25.69
So loving by faith
and just giving it to God,
00:20:25.72\00:20:29.19
praying,
claiming Bible promises.
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And letting him soothe you
00:20:31.96\00:20:34.93
and letting him
bring you comfort,
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God, He is a God of all comfort.
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He will comfort us
in all our afflictions,
00:20:38.27\00:20:41.14
and so God can comfort you
00:20:41.17\00:20:43.10
and carry you through this time,
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and He's working with you
00:20:45.34\00:20:46.68
and pray that He'll
work with your spouse.
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So love drops.
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There was a long way.
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Now, Karen, let's
go to Ecclesiastes 9:9
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and we'll find some
counsel for husbands here.
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"Live joyfully with
the wife whom you love
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all the days of your vain life
00:21:02.02\00:21:03.96
which He has
given you under the sun,
00:21:03.99\00:21:06.03
all your days of vanity,
00:21:06.06\00:21:07.66
for this is
your portion in life,
00:21:07.70\00:21:09.56
and in the labor which
you perform under the sun."
00:21:09.60\00:21:14.04
Ecclesiastes, Solomon is telling
00:21:14.07\00:21:15.97
husbands to live joyfully
or we can say enjoy life.
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Yeah. Enjoy life.
00:21:21.24\00:21:22.58
That sounds good.
00:21:22.61\00:21:23.95
God wanted us to have
an enjoyment in our lives
00:21:23.98\00:21:25.55
and it says, "With
our wife who you love
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all the days of your vain life
00:21:28.65\00:21:31.79
which He has given
you under the sun."
00:21:31.82\00:21:34.12
So what's with
your wife whom you love.
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We should be loving our
wives and caring for them.
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But it's interesting as we
take a look at this, that says,
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"This is your
portion in life and labor
00:21:44.10\00:21:46.20
which you
perform under the sun."
00:21:46.23\00:21:47.57
but in verse 10,
the first phrase,
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Karen, read the
first phrase of verse 10.
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"Whatever your hand finds to do,
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do it with your might,
00:21:55.91\00:21:57.55
for there is no work or device
00:21:57.58\00:21:59.38
or knowledge or
wisdom in the grave
00:21:59.41\00:22:01.02
where you are going."
00:22:01.05\00:22:02.38
Okay, the context of this.
00:22:02.42\00:22:04.62
"Whatever you hands finds to do,
00:22:04.65\00:22:06.12
do it with all your might,"
00:22:06.15\00:22:07.76
The context says
living joyfully with your wife
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that's your
portion under the sun.
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Wow.
00:22:13.70\00:22:15.03
We take out of context,
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if you're gonna work
at a job or whatever,
00:22:16.43\00:22:17.77
do that right, and that's good,
00:22:17.80\00:22:19.13
we need to, but
here is really saying,
00:22:19.17\00:22:21.34
you need to put
everything into your marriage.
00:22:21.37\00:22:23.10
Wow.
00:22:23.14\00:22:24.47
And the reason is because
00:22:24.51\00:22:25.84
the last part
of this verse says,
00:22:25.87\00:22:27.21
"There's no work or device
00:22:27.24\00:22:28.58
or knowledge or
wisdom in the grave
00:22:28.61\00:22:30.65
where you are going."
00:22:30.68\00:22:32.31
So you can't fix your
marriage after you're dead.
00:22:32.35\00:22:34.92
No.
00:22:34.95\00:22:36.52
It's got to be on
this side of death
00:22:36.55\00:22:39.52
when you're on top of
the topsoil not underneath.
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And that's...
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No coming back from the grave...
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No coming back.
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And putting your hands in
the life of your loved ones.
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Things you wanted to teach them,
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tell them, work with them.
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There's none of that.
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So, "Whatever
your hands finds to do,
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do with all your might,
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that's living
joyfully with your wife."
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We need to be putting our
efforts into our marriages.
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And when computers blank out,
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we'll spend
hours trying to fix it,
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but if there's a
glitch in our marriage,
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do we put as much energy
into fixing our marriages
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as we do the other,
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our cars, our boats, computers.
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Right.
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So whatever hand finds to do,
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we are commanded to do it
with husband and wife both
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and to do it joyfully.
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Let's go to here Ephesians 4:32,
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'cause I want to
talk about love drops,
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what are the
ingredients in love drops.
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You know it's
an ancient formula.
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It has not been used much
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'cause people really don't know,
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it's gone out of use, so...
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The idea of love drops.
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The idea of love drops
and also the ingredients,
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what makes a love drop?
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We need to bring it
back Ephesians 4:32,
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go ahead, would you read it?
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Thirty two? Yes.
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okay.
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"And be kind to one
another, tenderhearted,
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forgiving one another,
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even as God in
Christ forgave you."
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Okay, three
ingredients be ye kind,
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that's actually a song,
"be ye kind went to another"
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Yeah.
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You know that
one, tenderhearted,
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forgiving one another.
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That's even a song that we sing,
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kindness,
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gentleness, goodness,
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treating each other well
is a ingredient in love drop,
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that's the first one
is, is having a kindness.
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Then there's a tenderheartedness
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where we're
dealing sympathetically,
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empathetically, patiently,
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enter into their world,
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our spouses have downturns,
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things aren't going well at work
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with the children or whatever,
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is just being a tenderhearted
reaching out to them...
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Coming out of ourselves?
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Coming out of ourselves,
yeah, being tenderhearted,
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not coldhearted
or cold shoulder.
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So there's a tenderheartedness,
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so be ye kind went
another tenderhearted
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and it says,
forgiving one another.
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So forgiveness is a part
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where we need to
learn to forgive.
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Rebecca had to forgive Isaac.
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Yes.
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For a big blunder
publicly, public blunder.
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You know, he disgraced
himself in front of everybody,
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once they were found out
but she had to forgive him.
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They made up and got
their marriage back on line,
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learned some
lessons and moved forward,
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so kind, it's
not holding grudges.
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Not letting them fester in us,
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dialoguing, talking.
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Love drops
isn't an eye problems.
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Love drops is actually
the way to fix the problems.
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So it goes as
putting love drops down
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and I'm turning
my head to problems,
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it means we're
gonna talk about this
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kindly, gently, lovingly,
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and we're going to solve this.
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Now, these three ingredients
are not rare ingredients.
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They're not rare ingredients.
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They're in the
reach of all of us.
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All of us can be kind,
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all of us can be tenderhearted,
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and all of us can
learn to forgive one another.
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Amen.
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So we can all have that
love that we're longing for,
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giving love, receiving love,
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having love
drops, having love drops.
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Pastor, we're in need of love
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certainly to be able
to come out of ourselves,
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to be able to look
to the needs of others.
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Would you offer
prayer for us please?
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I would love to.
Thank you for having me.
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Thank you.
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Loving Father in heaven,
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I just pray dear
Lord for our homes,
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for our marriages,
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that couples today
will just have a softening
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in their hearts
towards one another
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and realize that know what?
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We had it one
time, we can get it back.
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Bless us, help us
to put the energy in.
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Give us your Holy Spirit.
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Give us the desires.
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Give us the tools
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that we can do that
and bless each other.
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We love you.
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We thank you for the
hope you have given us.
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We thank you for our spouses,
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and help us to
rejoice with each other
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in Jesus' name.
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Amen.
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Amen, amen.
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Well, Pastor, how did you...
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First of all thank
you for the prayer.
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How did you discover all
these wonderful love drops?
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Did they just...
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Did you go to
class and study all that,
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how did this come to be?
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I did go to class,
school, School of Hard Knocks.
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That was a good one.
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That's true. That is true.
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So your life experiences.
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Life experiences
with my wife and I
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learning to...
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You're just
saying the scripture is
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coming alive to you.
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My wife has been
a blessing to me.
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We've had our ups and
downs like all couples do,
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but we stuck together,
we have a good marriage.
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We love each other.
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I feel fulfilled.
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You know a lot
of these were just,
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just for my own personal
struggle tackling these verses.
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Well, thank you so much
again for coming to the program
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and sharing with us love drops.
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Thank you.
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Really appreciating
for those of you at home.
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I know, I
learned something today.
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I hope you did as well.
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Let's put that love
into the relationships.
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Keep that love going
as God would have us to.
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God bless you.
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