Hello, I'm Shelley Quinn
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and we welcome you once
again to Issues and Answers.
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This program, we
try to talk about topics
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that many times it's
topics that you have suggested,
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it's issues that are relevant
to you in the world today.
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And we're going to be
talking about something
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that it's really important today
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and that is the power of
having the right attitude,
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the power of a new attitude.
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If we are new
creations in Christ,
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we should have renewed
minds and a renewed attitude.
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Let me introduce to
you our special guest
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who is returning
and we're just...
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She's just becoming
a fixture around here,
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we'd like to
have her around more
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and that is Doris Gothard.
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Doris, it is so
good to have you here.
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Thank you for having me.
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Thank you for inviting me.
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You know, there's something
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that we've never
really talked about yet
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and that is you have a degree
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in pure
mathematics and engineering,
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you were a corporate manager
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for General Motors
Electronic Data Systems,
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had a corporate career
of leadership team building
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and certainly you
can speak to attitude.
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But let me just back up
for a second and ask you
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how, you know, mathematics
was my favorite topic,
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and I wish I had
pursued a different major.
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What drove you
toward getting your degree
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in mathematics and engineering?
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That's a great question.
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I think it was because,
it was a field at that time
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that few females
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were encouraged to enter into
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and I grew up with most of my...
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I grew up on a farm
as a matter of fact,
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let me just tell you that.
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Did you really?
Yes, I grew up on a farm.
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And so some might say
that I was like a tomboy
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but most of my cousins
that lived next door to me
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on my
grandfather's farm were boys.
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And so every game that I played,
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I played football,
basketball with them
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it was always with the boys.
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And so when I made the decision,
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of course, not going to
college was not an option.
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Even though we lived on a farm
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and even though I
worked on the farm,
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education was important
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and we were taught that
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from the time
that I could remember.
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But I chose a field
because keep in mind,
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I had always worked
with boys on the farm,
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played with boys, all
of my cousins were boys,
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there were no
girls at that time.
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And I wanted to
choose a field in college
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where there were very
few girls if any in my class.
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Ah, that's so funny.
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But you must've
had a love for math.
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Listen, I had a love
for math and I did well.
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If I could
attribute it to a person,
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I believe Miss
Balner was her name,
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the greatest math teacher ever.
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And she was the one
that instilled in me
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that you could use
your mind to think through
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and solve problems
without ever saying a word
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and that was what
attracted me to mathematics.
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I could actually be
in any place at any time
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and work on a math problem
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that I may have been
unable to solve the day before.
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And my mind would
continue to work on it
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even though I might
have been doing a chore.
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I loved mathematics
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and it was a mind thing with me,
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it really was.
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And the fact that it was a class
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that I wouldn't
be too distracted
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because I'd be in
there with mostly boys.
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Okay, so you weren't a
girly girl at this point.
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I wasn't a girly
girl at that point.
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But you are such
a girly girl now.
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Thank you very much.
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Thank you very much.
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Did you always...
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One thing that
attracted me to you when we met
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was you are an
exuberant personality,
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you have a joyful personality,
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and you have a very
optimistic personality,
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you have a great attitude.
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Did you grow up...
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was your family Christian?
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Yes, they were Christian. Okay.
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But they were not
of the same religion
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or denomination that I am today
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because I am a
Seventh-day Adventist today.
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And my experience was,
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because I was
raised by my grandparents,
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they were, one was Methodist
and the other was Baptist
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and we went to church on Sunday.
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And because I love
both of my grandparents,
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I love them dearly,
what do you think I did?
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One Sunday I was
with my grandfather
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and then the next Sunday
I was with my grandmother.
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But it all worked out well
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because there
was nothing but love
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and Jesus was at the center.
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Wonderful. Wonderful.
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So you are also an author,
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I think you've
written six books.
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And one book that you've
written about is attitude
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and I know that
2 Corinthians 5:17
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was kind of your
foundational scripture.
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You want to share that with us?
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Yes, as a matter of fact
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the subject of
attitude is a passion
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and I think every person should
find out what your passion is
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because if you know
what your passion is,
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then that's what
you would do well at.
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I have written
more than one book,
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I think maybe
three books on attitude
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because I learned
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at the very early
stage of my corporate career
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that if i
wanted to be successful
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in my goal of being a
part of the leadership team
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which I was blessed
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and I served for
many years as a leader,
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that attitude was key.
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And I knew then
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that attitude is a
reflection of the person inside.
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So when you see
the smile is on my face
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and you described me
in other ways that are,
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you know, I had like, I have joy
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and I'm always, you
know, just kind of upbeat,
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that's truly who
I am as a person,
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that's the reflection
of who I really am inside.
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Shelley, I have inside of me
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that which causes you to
see what's on the outside of me.
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What's inside is Jesus.
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Amen.
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He doesn't have a bad attitude.
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Never.
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Jesus never has a bad attitude.
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And so I'm really
just reflecting who it is
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that I invite to live
inside of me each and every day.
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I'm really
delighted to just share
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my passionate subject
on the subject of attitude
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because I think it
is the key to success.
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I agree with you very much,
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and I would like if I may
to read 2 Corinthians 5:17.
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Please.
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Because this is our springboard
for today's topic on attitude,
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and Paul writes to
the Corinthians saying,
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"Therefore if
anyone is in Christ,
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he is a new creation.
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Old things have passed away,
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behold, all
things have become new."
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So those old attitudes,
old which lead to habits,
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you know, actions and habits,
all of those are really dead,
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that is the
whole idea of baptism
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is that we were
buried with Christ,
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those were buried
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and then we are resurrected
to a new way of life.
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Now, of course, we know
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sometimes things spring forward,
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you know, old
attitudes can come up.
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Romans 4:17 Paul
says, "God calls things
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that are not as
though they already were."
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So when he says, "All
things have become new,"
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we have to accept that by faith,
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but renewing our minds
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through reading the
Scripture, through prayer,
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becoming a new
creation in Christ as you said,
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inviting the Holy Spirit
to dwell in you day by day,
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so that Christ may
live in your heart by faith.
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These are important
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and it's something that's
not just important for leaders
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or important for
people in our church,
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the mature members,
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what I think we need to do
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and I'm sure this
is where you're headed
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from some things you've told me.
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We need to
impress upon our youth,
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how important having a
Christ like attitude is
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and how this can
make you successful
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not just in the
kingdom but here on earth.
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I agree with you, I couldn't
have said it better, Shelley.
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But let's go back
because you get the spirit
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of how the Holy
Spirit was leading me
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to write about this subject
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because we live in a world
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where we read about many things
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and we see many things.
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And each book
that I have written
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passionately from my heart
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on the subject of attitude
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really was
inspired by this scripture.
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Yes.
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But the part that I
want us to focus on is
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not just to read the
scripture and skip over.
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What I think is
really the gem there.
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And that is inherent in
this text, at least for me,
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and as the Holy
Spirit has impressed me
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is a most precious gift.
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There's a gift.
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Yes.
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I mean, if anyone in Christ,
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He's getting
ready to do something
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but He is also getting ready to
give us the most precious gift
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and that gift I
believe is the power
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in having a new attitude,
a new attitude in Christ.
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Attitude is really the key.
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It is the secret to success
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for what so many of our
young people have a desire for.
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You know, it's interesting,
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here's the attitude that I have.
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I believe that every
parent who has a child
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regardless as to
what their religion is,
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whether they have faith or not,
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what community they live in,
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whether they live in a big house
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or a small
house or an apartment,
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whether they have no home
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if they have
children they have some...
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their attitude is this,
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they have some of the
same wants and desires
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as those who are
more abundant if you will
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and some of the
things that they have been
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able to acquire on this earth.
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But God is a
God of great promise
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and He is the
best gift giver I know.
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He gave us
Jesus, didn't He? Amen.
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And He certainly has a power to
recreate us into something new
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and along with
that that recreation,
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with that new creation
comes a most precious gift.
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And so today is
just appropriate,
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I titled the book The
Power of a New Attitude.
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Nothing can stop a person.
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I like what you say
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that we need to
choose a positive attitude.
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I mean, day by
day we have to choose
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whom we're going to
serve, is that not true?
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That is very true.
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So we have to choose to,
when we get up to surrender,
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control of our life to the Lord
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and to know
that He's in control,
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if we will allow Him,
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He will instill
this attitude in us.
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Let me tell you something.
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There's no person
exempt from waking up one day
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and you think
everything is going fine
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but before the end of that day
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you have
encountered a challenge,
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even here at the studio.
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I know that there are
many in our listening audience
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who pray for this
telecast all the time,
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daily they make it as
a matter of their prayer.
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But you have to admit
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that prior to our
taping earlier today,
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there was little
technical problem.
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Sometimes computers don't work,
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sometimes our
telephones don't work,
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sometimes we have
challenges in life.
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But let me tell you something,
for me the attitude that I have
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because some of these
things that we go through,
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you and I sat here
with a smile on our face,
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you said a
prayer, the Lord answered
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and the technical
problems were fixed
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and even the technician
acknowledged your prayer
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and thanked you for it
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and said, "God
answered, the problem is fixed."
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And I was just
praising the Lord along with you
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and with everybody else.
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But let me just say this,
this is just my personal view
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about the subject of attitude
which I'm passionate about.
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I just don't like
to really be around
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people who have
negative attitudes all the time.
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Your attitude
about the little stuff
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is a great indicator
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about the
attitude that you'll have
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about the bigger stuff.
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And if you and I
live long enough,
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I mean, small problem
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that's little stuff to
have a little technical problem,
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we've got very smart technician
that can work through that.
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But in life, sometimes,
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some big problems can
happen to good people.
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Yes.
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And it's our attitude
about the little stuff,
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those small things
that will determine
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how we'll handle
the bigger stuff.
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You know, I'm thinking
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when you say
that of Isaiah 26:3.
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God says that if we will
keep our eyes focused on Him,
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trusting in Him,
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He promises to
give us perfect peace.
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When you have perfect peace,
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if you choose to have an
attitude of trust in God,
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then you will have
that peace in your heart
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and it seems that to me
people who trust in God,
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the reason I
like being around them
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is they're much more optimistic.
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And when it comes to problems,
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you know, everybody has problems
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as you said everybody.
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They come in
different shapes and sizes...
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In Reader's Digest
I once read, Doris,
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where they said,
if you could put...
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Let's say that
you've got 12 problems,
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I've got 12 problems
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and we put them in a pile
with everybody else's problems
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that nine times out of ten
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when you look at
everyone else's problems,
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you would choose the
12 you're dealing with.
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You're right.
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And that's so interesting.
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But as a Christian,
part of our attitude,
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it is trusting in the Lord.
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It keeps us optimistic.
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We have hope. That's true.
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I don't know how
people who don't have the Lord
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go through the problems.
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Well, I believe that that's one
blessing of the Christian life.
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That's one of the reasons
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why the Lord has
blessed us with 3ABN
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so that we can
share with the world...
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Amen.
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That God is a God
who sees everything
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and He cares about
every detail in our lives
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whether it's
small or big God cares.
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You know, Shelley, this...
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and sometimes in
life about attitude
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we all have to do a little
self talk from time to time.
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I was just getting ready to say.
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And I do, the longer I live
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I'm doing more
and more self talk.
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And I'll give you
example of one of the things
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that I am doing
some self talk about.
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I want to have as
my life progresses
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and we don't know
always whether or not
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we will be challenged
with a major health problem
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or something to that nature,
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but there may be
someone listening today
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and I hope that this
attitude conversation
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that you and I will have
will be encouraging to them.
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But I say to
myself and in my prayer
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as I'm just
having a conversation
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with Jesus about it.
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I don't know of anything
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that I should be concerned about
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that's going on in my body now.
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But what I do know
that I can speak about is,
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"Jesus, I love You.
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I love You for
more than I can express
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for all that You
have done for me,
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and where You
have brought me from."
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Amen.
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"But I thank you for
the life that I have today,"
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that's how I began my
prayer as I told you earlier.
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When I recognize
and I'm alive every day,
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I fall on my knees
and I, that's attitude,
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and I'm thanking God for life,
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for the
provision of another day.
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I don't know how the
whole day is going to progress,
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but I start out and
I'm putting Him first,
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and then I start praying
for other specific needs,
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but certainly my
husband and my family,
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and then I have
very special friends,
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we all have friends in ministry,
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and we're praying for them
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that they and their families
will be successful in ministry.
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And then I go now praying
for every elder in my church,
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praying for the
pastor of my church,
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praying for the
leader of my conference,
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praying,
praying, praying, praying,
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I'm down there on my
knees for some period of time.
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But I say to the Lord,
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"I'm thankful for
the degree of health
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that I have today.
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I'm thankful for life.
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But Lord, if I should live
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and be challenged
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with something major
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that's nothing
positive," you know,
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then I pray that, "My
faith will keep me strong
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that I will not
let go of the joy
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that I'm experiencing
with you right now."
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And so that's
attitude and that's my prayer
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that how I'm handling
the small little things,
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maybe a little
headache every now and then
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or maybe an ache or pain that,
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you know, I'm wondering,
"Well, why do I have this?"
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No, don't let that be
all consuming, just say,
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"Lord, you know and I
know you can handle it,
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but if I happen to be challenged
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with some bigger stuff,
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I pray that I will be able
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to demonstrate
the same kind of faith
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that I am
demonstrating to you today."
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Amen. That's attitude.
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But you are, your
attitude there as well
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if I may identify that you have
an attitude of thanksgiving.
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It reminds me of what
Paul wrote to the Philippians
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in chapter 5, you
know, to be thankful always.
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And I think what
you're saying right now,
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I'm thinking of a
precious little soul
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who lives in Colorado.
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I've not met her
but we talk frequently
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and she has
become my Aunty Lorna.
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And, Aunty Lorna,
if you are watching,
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"Hello, and I love you."
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But this precious saint
is she's up in years but...
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and I know she has so
many health challenges
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but she never complains.
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She is always
focusing on how good God is.
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Now that's
power in her attitude.
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Oh, she has most
positive attitude
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and love, I mean, she
chooses to love everyone.
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She opens her heart,
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let God, lets,
allows God to pour His love
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into her heart for others
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and she has an
attitude of thanksgiving,
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an attitude of love
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and just her
appreciation for everything
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that sometimes I'll ask her,
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"How are you doing
today, Aunty Lorna?"
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And she'll say, "Oh,
honey, I'll be better,
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I'll be getting better."
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So she'll never say,
"Oh, I'm down, I'm alone,
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or I'm lonely," or...
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She's just an amazing woman.
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And I'll tell you
something, it's interesting.
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My aunt once told me
that she had a friend
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whose children did
not want to talk with her.
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They avoided
phone conversations,
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they lived out of town.
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And the friend said to her,
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"I don't know
what's wrong with me
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but, you know, my kids,
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I don't know
what's wrong with my kids
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they won't call me."
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And she said I finally
had to tell her one day
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perhaps they're not calling you
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because all you do
is whine and complain.
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She said that was the way
the conversation always went.
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This is a different
aunt that's telling me this,
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but this is
something that's so true
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that I think the reason
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that people were
attracted to Jesus
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is because He had this attitude
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of love and joy, and...
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Hope.
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Hope and peace.
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And healing.
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And this is what
attracts people to you.
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It attracts people,
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I mean, this is what
makes me love Aunty Lorna.
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I'm always eager
to speak with her
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because I end up being so
blessed by the conversation.
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So attitude is
important in your self-talk.
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Sometimes we just have to change
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your perspective
on things, don't we?
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Yes, we do. Yes, we do.
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May I share with you a
couple of other thoughts
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if we have the time? Surely.
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Not sure how much time we have.
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But one of the
things that I would share
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with my employees
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was I think I had done
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one, two, three, four, five step
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and I think I would share them.
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And that's, you know what,
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I know who I am,
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you know, as a person.
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I've given time to think about
00:21:05.09\00:21:08.33
what it is I want to do in life,
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what it is I want to become,
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and I have made the decision
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that I'm going to do
everything that I can.
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No one makes it in
any degree of success
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without having someone
00:21:23.78\00:21:25.11
who has helped
them along the way.
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So whatever accomplishments
00:21:26.51\00:21:28.95
I've been able
to make in my life
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I know that
there were individuals,
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certainly grandmothers,
and my mother, and my parents,
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and aunts and uncles who were
always there praying for me.
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People need people. Amen.
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We need the Lord most of all.
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But while I was
praying for myself,
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I know that there were
many others who were praying.
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But I would say to myself
00:21:48.34\00:21:49.80
and this was that self-talk
00:21:49.84\00:21:51.17
in having that
positive attitude,
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"I know who I am as a person.
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I know that I'm doing
the very best possible job
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that I can do in the assignment
that I have been given."
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And I had one
experience early on
00:22:02.35\00:22:05.75
that set me on the path
to the successful career
00:22:05.79\00:22:09.52
that I believe I had in
leadership and it was this.
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No one really
enjoys an evaluation,
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and it doesn't happen so much,
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you know, in churches
00:22:19.13\00:22:22.10
maybe we do a little
of this in our homes,
00:22:22.14\00:22:24.37
but we had to undergo
00:22:24.41\00:22:26.74
an annual or a yearly
performance job appraisal.
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That was not a time
that I would look forward to
00:22:31.65\00:22:34.58
but I learned that I
needed to change my attitude
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about having to go
through that period
00:22:37.49\00:22:39.65
that was challenging,
00:22:39.69\00:22:41.36
my experience, and
this was early on before
00:22:41.39\00:22:43.76
I ever was placed in
a leadership position
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was it seemed as though
00:22:46.29\00:22:49.10
no matter what I did on my job
00:22:49.13\00:22:51.70
in working for that
particular leader at the time
00:22:51.73\00:22:54.70
was never quite good enough.
00:22:54.74\00:22:56.91
It was never enough.
00:22:56.94\00:22:58.97
And year after year I would
go and sit for that hour review
00:22:59.01\00:23:03.85
and I knew that at the very end
there would be a long list of,
00:23:03.88\00:23:08.72
"But, you know, you
need to improve in this area,
00:23:08.75\00:23:11.69
but you need to
improve in that area."
00:23:11.72\00:23:14.29
And the attitude
00:23:14.32\00:23:15.66
that I
demonstrated in that session,
00:23:15.69\00:23:18.36
I think was a
key contributor to me
00:23:18.39\00:23:21.86
having that same
experience year after year.
00:23:21.90\00:23:24.40
Are you following me? Yes.
00:23:24.43\00:23:26.17
I changed my attitude
00:23:26.20\00:23:28.27
because you can't change
the attitude of another person.
00:23:28.30\00:23:30.24
No. That's a good point.
00:23:30.27\00:23:31.61
That set me on a different path,
00:23:31.64\00:23:34.01
it set me on a journey
00:23:34.04\00:23:36.61
of success after
success after success.
00:23:36.64\00:23:39.65
And here is what I
did, I changed my attitude.
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I prayed about it
00:23:43.08\00:23:44.45
and I said, "Lord,
give me a new attitude,
00:23:44.49\00:23:49.29
just a new spirit
00:23:49.32\00:23:50.99
so that when I walk in that door
00:23:51.03\00:23:52.96
no matter what
negative comes out,
00:23:52.99\00:23:57.70
my response is going to be,
00:23:57.73\00:24:00.64
"Thank you for
bringing that to my attention."
00:24:00.67\00:24:02.80
Good.
00:24:02.84\00:24:04.17
"I'm committed, I'm
going to work on it."
00:24:04.21\00:24:07.58
And I made note of all of those
00:24:07.61\00:24:09.84
negative,
negative, negative things
00:24:09.88\00:24:11.45
and I was intentional about it.
00:24:11.48\00:24:13.78
And from time to time
I would request a meeting
00:24:13.82\00:24:16.99
to go over those areas
00:24:17.02\00:24:18.72
that were
identified as improvements.
00:24:18.75\00:24:20.92
With the change in my attitude,
00:24:20.96\00:24:23.29
you already know
00:24:23.32\00:24:24.73
that there was a change
in my performance review.
00:24:24.76\00:24:27.13
From that point on
00:24:27.16\00:24:29.06
I learned that
people reflect back to us
00:24:29.10\00:24:33.30
the attitude that
we demonstrate to them.
00:24:33.34\00:24:36.74
So I no longer
carry it around within me
00:24:36.77\00:24:40.58
an attitude that said,
"I don't have a good leader.
00:24:40.61\00:24:44.41
This leader is not this,
00:24:44.45\00:24:45.91
this leader
doesn't treat me right,"
00:24:45.95\00:24:47.48
or using some difference
that there may have been
00:24:47.52\00:24:51.35
between me and
the leader to suggest
00:24:51.39\00:24:54.12
that there was
some unfair treatment.
00:24:54.16\00:24:56.79
When you change
the way you see things,
00:24:56.83\00:24:59.73
then the things
you see will change.
00:24:59.76\00:25:02.50
I changed my
attitude and things changed.
00:25:02.53\00:25:05.77
And, you know,
this just makes...
00:25:05.80\00:25:07.40
we're just down to
the last couple of minutes
00:25:07.44\00:25:09.30
but I have to make it
application to the church.
00:25:09.34\00:25:12.71
Christians, many
have an identity crisis,
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they don't know
who they are in Christ.
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You said, you knew who you were.
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You came to know that... Yes.
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And I think if we come to
know as we get into His word
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and read His promises,
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if we understand who
we are in Christ Jesus
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that will change our attitude.
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And when we have that attitude
even when we're in the church
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when someone comes to us
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maybe with a
critical or judgmental remark,
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you know, when
we're reflecting Christ
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and He is in our heart,
it will be much the same,
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"Thank you for bringing
me that to my attention.
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I'll work on that."
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It should be, you
know, even if it's,
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you think it's unfair criticism,
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that poor person needs...
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they need to have something
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Christ like
demonstrated to them.
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But that's where you...
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if you go into a church
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where you find a good
attitude in the church,
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you know this is a
church that is going to grow,
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it is going to attract like
a magnet would attract lead,
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it attracts success.
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And that's what
happened with you.
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Well, you know,
I began by saying
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that I believe that attitude
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is a reflection
of the person inside.
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Amen.
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And so when Jesus is
inside, you can't hide a light.
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That positive
attitude will be reflected
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from the first
person to the least.
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Whenever there is
a visitor or a member
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who comes to our
door, or to the church,
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or within your work environment,
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they will know who is inside
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by what is being reflected
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in the attitude
that you show to them.
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Amen.
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I just thank you so
much for bringing this to us
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and I just can't
express enough of,
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I mean, the word is
escaping me right now
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but I just
cannot emphasize enough
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how important it is that you,
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if you're a
parent or grandparent
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teach your children
how important attitude is
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because there's an old saying
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that your attitude
determine your altitude.
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If you think you're a chicken,
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you're not going to
soar with the eagles
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and God wants us to
soar with the eagles.
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Yes, He does.
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Doris, thank you
for being here today.
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My pleasure.
And wonderful again.
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And for those of you at
home, may God richly bless you
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and increase His
mercies and compassions to you.
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Thanks for joining us.
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Good bye.
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