Hi, if you are like me
I am sure that sometimes
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your life feels overburdened
and if you are beginning
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to get that sins that you
can't even standup straight
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because of these
burdens, you will certainly want
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to stay tune today
for Issues and Answers,
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as Dr. Janice
Browne joins us to tell us
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ten ways how to
declutter your life.
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Hello, I'm Shelley
Quinn and we are so glad that
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you've joined us today
for Issues and Answers.
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No matter, where
you're tuning in from around
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the world, I hope
you had time just to kind
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of sit back and really so
can what our special guest
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is going to bring to
us today. Let me begin
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by reading a
scripture then I'll introduce
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you to our guest. This
comes from Luke Chapter 13
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and I am going to
begin with verse 10.
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It's talking about
Jesus and it says that he was
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teaching one of the
synagogues on the Sabbath
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and, behold, there was
a woman who had a spirit
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of infirmity 18
years, and was bent over
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and could in no
way raised herself up.
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Can you imagine, bent
over and can't raise up,
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but when Jesus saw
her he called her to him
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and said to her, women
you are loosed from your
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infirmity and he
laid his hands on her
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and immediately
she was made straight
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and glorified God. How
wonderful, well I believe
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God sent somebody
here today to help us
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if you are bent
over with burdens.
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He sent somebody here
today to touch our lives
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through what she
has to say and that is
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Dr. Janice Browne,
Janice we are so glad to have
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you join us on
Issues and Answers.
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Is this your first time to 3ABN?
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No, it actually isn't, I
was here about 10 years ago
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and it's just absolutely
wonderful to be able to
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come back once more,
I'm just very pleased to see
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everything that has
occurred since I have
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been gone, the place is
more beautiful than ever.
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Grown a lot. The
Church is now built
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and it's just
wonderful and it's a pleasure
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to be here. We are
so glad you are here.
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Thank you. Now you
have your Masters degree
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is in Clinical
Psychology, your Doctoral Degree
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is in leadership with
the Specialty in Psychology
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is that
correct? That is correct.
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How did you happen
to come into I know you
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are married, yes,
you are a missionary,
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your husband was
the President of the
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Ethiopian Conference,
the Ethiopia Union Mission,
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the Ethiopia Union
Mission, yes, alright,
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and when you came
back to United States
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you became involved
in a personal ministry
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and your ministry
is called Heavenly
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Inspired Ministries. Why
did you choose that name?
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Because it's all about
him, the acronym heavenly
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inspired ministries
and it's all about him.
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So, I couldn't do
anything, but come up with
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something that would
just in body and encompass
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the idea that
anything that I do in ministry
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will be because
it's all about him. Amen,
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I like that. And you
are adjunct professor
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for three different
universities, yes I am,
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and then you go and
you do speaking engagements
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in a variety, you actually
a beautiful singer as well.
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Thank you, thank you.
Now, when we are talking
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today about how to
declutter our lives;
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one thing that I've noticed
if I really began to feel
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burden in my life,
sometimes when I am
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out of sorts, I
can almost not always,
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but almost always find
a spiritual route at it,
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so let's talk about
the beginning of declutter
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in our lives getting
rid of these burdens.
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You know it's
interesting you should say
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that and I myself
experienced declutter
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from time to time
in my life and you are
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exactly correct. There is
usually a spiritual route,
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so the first thing
that I would suggest
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for an individual, who
is burdened with so many
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things because you
know we have family,
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we have careers,
we have children,
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we have aging
parents, Church, you know,
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that can you know we
get involved in a lot of
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different things and
sometimes we forget that
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we need to get into
the word of God, Amen.
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We forget that we
need to pray about it.
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God knows everything,
but he wants us to tell him,
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so that we can
become even more aware that
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God I am bent over
with too many things to do,
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sometimes fasting
is very necessary also.
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Fasting helps God to
know even though he already
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knows that we are
very serious about this
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and we feel pressed
down, we feel burden,
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so prayer, fasting,
and reading the word,
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you know there were as
you read at the beginning
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and I just love that
text because it talked about
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a women that was
bent over and she couldn't
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stand up straight. Now we
know that hers was physical,
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she had a curvature
of the spine, however,
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we have spiritual
curvatures of the spine,
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amen, and we are bent
over with so many things
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in our lives and do
you know what she did,
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as you read she went to
Jesus, he called her to him
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and he said women
standup you are loosed
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and Jesus can do the
same thing for us when
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we go to him. Amen, so
if we feel that I think
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that's a good place
to start as a starting
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checkpoint is to when
you are feeling overwhelm,
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you know, the Bible says
in First Corinthians 14:33,
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God is not the author
of confusion and sometimes
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when I get a feeling
like everything is just
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overwhelming me, I can
realize that I have somehow
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allowed my life to
become over schedule
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and I am not putting enough time
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in for the Lord. So,
that's a good start point,
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is number one, make
sure that you are not
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in a Christ, an absence
you don't have an absence
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of Christ
presence in your life, yes,
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that's the first
thing. What about when we are
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feeling overwhelmed,
the burden of health,
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diet this is something
else that we really can,
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if we are not paying
close attention to what
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we are doing this can
be overwhelming for us.
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Here again you are
very correct, exercise,
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diet is very,
very important just as
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we have to exercise our
mind spiritually through
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fasting and
praying in the word of God,
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it's very important
that we take care of our
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physical health, you
know, we are running around
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doing so many things,
but sometimes we actually
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do neglect our
health and we find ourselves
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so busy that instead
of eating the proper foods
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with the nutrients
that are necessary for us
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to stay healthy and
happy and less dressed
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we pop something in
our mouths or we stand
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and eat or sometimes
individuals who will watch
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television while they
are eating, which they think
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is relaxing when it
really isn't especially
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if you are looking
at the evening news,
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it can be very
stressful. We do need exercise
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and exercise doesn't
mean that you have to get
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this big gym
membership, walking up and down
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your stairs in your
house that's a good thing,
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walking up and
down the stairs in front
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of your house, walking
up and down the street,
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where you live
hopefully you don't have very
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mini-canned foods in
your pantry, but if you have
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some canned foods use
that as weightlifters,
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so that you can
strengthen the muscles
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and your arms, there
are just so many things
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that you can do
that aren't difficult,
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we do need
according to some doctors
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that have studied
exercise and diet,
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we need at least 15
to 30 minutes of exercise
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per day and we find
that when we do exercise
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we don't feel
stressed, we feel much better,
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so it's very necessary.
This is something that
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sometimes, you know,
we feel that we are so
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busy throughout the day
and we are just constantly
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need to go and you
think why do I need exercise
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when I am just
running constantly,
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but it's quite different
that the hectic activity
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of our daily
schedules is something
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that is a stressor
where as when you get out
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and do the aerobic
exercise and really get to
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the deep breathing
this brings a relaxation
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and also really improves
all the muscles, and I do know
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that I am one that's
very sensitive to foods,
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so if I get
stressed out and I am eating
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in a hurry and
just grabbing something
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that's not healthy then I
am gonna pay it for later,
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you know, because I am
gonna have a blood sugar
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just drop or something
like this so that's very
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important. Now, when
we think of the burdens
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that are on our
minds what about people,
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who are constantly
speaking in a negative way,
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how much does this
effect what we speak and say,
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what we think, how much
do you believe this affects
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our ability to
handle our life schedules?
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Negative speaking and
thinking really does have
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a terrible effect upon
us mentally, physically,
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and spiritually.
Self-talk that's always putting
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one self down
can cause depression,
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it can cause an individual
to become very stressed,
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it of course lowers
the self-esteem, it's very
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important that you
tell yourself good things
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about yourself, there is
something good in all of us.
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After all we were
created by the creator
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and we are made in
his image and he of course
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didn't make
anything that is not a value,
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we are a value to
him. And sometimes we find
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ourselves always
picking out the negative things.
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Oh, I don't like my hair.
Oh, I don't like the shape
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of my face, I
don't like my size,
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I don't like my height, I
don't like the way I sound,
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I don't like anything
about me and if you continue
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that you will find
that you fall into a slump
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or a depression and
the self-esteem goes down
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the tubes as well,
but I find it very helpful
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to actually do what
is known as positive
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self-talk and this
is why you tell yourself
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I like this about me,
find the positive things
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about yourself. I like
my eyes, I like the shape
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of my nose, I love my
hair and you will find
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that the more you say
those things about yourself,
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the better you
will feel about yourself
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and guess what there
is an added bonus to that,
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guess what you will start
to see more positive things
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about other people
and they will respond to
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you differently.
Sometimes, we are so negative
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about ourselves that
when we talk to people
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the negativity comes
out and it kind of pushes
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people away, but if
you become more positive
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about yourself, you
will become more positive
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about others and it
will draw people into
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conversations with you
more, it will draw them
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into more friendships
with you, so positive thinking
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is very important and I
happened to also believe
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that when you speak
negatively about yourself,
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you are really
speaking negatively about
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the creator. I
agree 100%, you know,
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the Bible says in Proverbs
18:21 that there is power
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of death and life in
the tongue and I think
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sometimes when we
speak in such a negative
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way about ourselves,
we are speaking death
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into our life and one
of the things that I teach
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actually because I
think this is really wonderful
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to change your self talk
is to find God's promises
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and to speak them over
your life and to pray them
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back to the Lord
and suddenly it when our
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self talk is kind of
like the software that runs
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a computer and if we've
got bad software in there
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what can we
expect, except bad results,
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but as we change
ourselves talk in lineup in
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agreement with what
God has to say about us.
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I think then very
definitely it changes
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rewires and renews the
mind, so that you begin
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to lineup in his will.
So, I think that's very
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important. Now, we said
that we were talking about
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and we are kind of
listing all of these
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burdens today, but one
thing that you use a word
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that really captured
my attention for the title
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of this program and
that was a cluttered life.
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I am a neat freak and
you wouldn't be able to tell
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it by looking at my
office, sometimes my office
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because I'm sanguine and
out of sites, out of mind,
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so I have little piles of
things that I don't forget
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to do it, but at
home if things are not
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in order at home, in my
home then if there is chaos
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in my home as far as
not being clean and orderly
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and put away then I
don't function well.
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How much does a
cluttered life affect us
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have the impact on us
mentally? It has a very,
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very major impact upon
us. And it's interesting
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you are not
abnormal, you are very normal
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there many of us who
have that same kind of bent,
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in fact it's interesting
I am sanguineous as well
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and you are correct,
if things are not in order
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at home they do
tend to stress me and if,
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my husband and I have
a study, a joint study,
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his side is perfectly
neat, my side is in piles
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because that's my
filing system, yes, however
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the rest of the
house, the kitchen everything
00:14:17.39\00:14:20.26
has to be spotless,
if it's not it can cause
00:14:20.83\00:14:23.48
difficulties cause
stress and it makes me
00:14:23.51\00:14:25.76
very uncomfortable,
you know, there are many
00:14:25.79\00:14:28.28
people out there,
many listeners today,
00:14:28.31\00:14:30.22
who have clutter in
their lives, in their at work,
00:14:30.77\00:14:36.09
in their houses, in
their cars, just all over
00:14:36.86\00:14:41.41
the place and they
don't realize how stressful
00:14:41.44\00:14:44.70
that really is. Let me
tell you just a short story,
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I was at the
grocery store and I am a
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people person, I just
love people and I love to talk
00:14:51.57\00:14:55.45
so of course I struck up
a conversation with a lady
00:14:56.08\00:14:58.86
in the grocery store
and it was so interesting
00:14:58.89\00:15:01.11
because we seemed to
be going down the same
00:15:01.14\00:15:02.81
isles most of the
time. Well, after we finished
00:15:02.84\00:15:05.73
shopping, we
happened to be in the line at
00:15:05.76\00:15:07.32
the same time, so we
continued our conversation
00:15:07.35\00:15:09.43
and we got to the
car and then our cars
00:15:09.94\00:15:12.66
weren't far from
each other, she was first
00:15:12.69\00:15:14.61
and then I was second,
when we got to our car,
00:15:14.64\00:15:16.53
she said I am so
embarrassed and I said why?
00:15:16.56\00:15:20.32
She says my car is so
cluttered, I don't even
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know how I'm going
to get these groceries
00:15:24.53\00:15:26.24
in the car. She says
my front seat is full,
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my back seat is full,
my third seat in the van
00:15:29.19\00:15:31.92
is full and she says
if I'll open it everything
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will fall out, what am
I going to do and I said
00:15:34.35\00:15:36.86
does it stress you
out although and she said
00:15:36.89\00:15:38.85
it really does and
she said I just love to do
00:15:38.88\00:15:42.72
something about it, so
we just started talking
00:15:42.75\00:15:44.61
about ways to start
removing things that
00:15:44.64\00:15:48.81
aren't necessary, not
only in our lives with people,
00:15:48.84\00:15:53.23
you know people
can clear their lives,
00:15:53.26\00:15:54.90
but also material
possessions around us,
00:15:54.93\00:15:58.06
closets sometimes we
are stressed when we are
00:15:58.60\00:16:01.65
getting dressed
because there are so many shoes
00:16:01.68\00:16:03.24
in there and you have to
go through all of the shoes
00:16:03.27\00:16:05.00
to find the ones you
want. You are going through
00:16:05.03\00:16:07.49
the racks looking for
the dress that you want,
00:16:07.52\00:16:09.70
mine are still in
the shoe boxes, of course
00:16:09.73\00:16:13.12
neat freak, okay it has
to be. But there are so many
00:16:13.15\00:16:17.29
people out there,
who just have it thrown
00:16:17.32\00:16:19.99
in together and they
find that when they clean
00:16:20.02\00:16:22.38
those places out
and reward themselves
00:16:22.41\00:16:25.91
by giving to someone
else feeling that altruistic
00:16:25.94\00:16:29.33
feeling that helps
the endorphins do go up
00:16:29.36\00:16:31.57
and off in our brains,
it just feels so much better
00:16:31.60\00:16:34.48
and is less stressful. It
is actually more stressful
00:16:34.51\00:16:37.79
to have too many things
that it is to have less,
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when my husband
and I left for Ethiopia
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I had a Epiphanie.
I felt so wonderful,
00:16:44.34\00:16:47.55
cleaning that house
out even though it was neat
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to look at, but there
were so many things that were
00:16:50.88\00:16:53.22
neatly put away, I
felt so wonderful to give
00:16:53.25\00:16:57.18
those things away, to
throw those things away,
00:16:57.21\00:16:59.20
whatever it took to
get the house totally
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cleared out, so
that can be stressful.
00:17:01.93\00:17:04.70
But let me ask
you a question because
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I do know that
there are a lot of people,
00:17:05.74\00:17:07.51
you know, I think
that we can sometimes
00:17:08.59\00:17:11.30
I maybe stressful, I
make stress my husband out,
00:17:11.33\00:17:14.20
I try not to be
obsessive-compulsive
00:17:14.23\00:17:17.53
about it, but he is
the kind that comes in
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and he'll put a little
pile here and little pile there,
00:17:20.28\00:17:22.28
so I don't want to
harp it and what I do
00:17:22.31\00:17:25.60
is go around behind
him, I'll pick it up
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and I put it where
it belongs and then
00:17:27.32\00:17:29.39
he knows if he says
well where is my step,
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I'll say honey it's in
it's spot, where it belongs
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and you know he
always tells me how much
00:17:34.27\00:17:36.95
he appreciates a clean
home, but I do have to be
00:17:36.98\00:17:39.30
careful so that I
don't stress him out
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and you can go too
far in either direction,
00:17:41.72\00:17:44.28
but I know for a fact
it's kind of surprise me,
00:17:44.50\00:17:47.29
there are lot of
people whose lives in homes
00:17:47.32\00:17:50.04
are very cluttered.
How do you recommend
00:17:50.07\00:17:53.66
if somebody is
sitting there maybe you're
00:17:53.69\00:17:55.61
watching us right now
and you are one of those,
00:17:55.64\00:17:57.39
who sit with clutter
all around you and you say
00:17:57.42\00:18:00.21
yeah I know I
should, but I don't know
00:18:00.24\00:18:02.17
where to start, how if
somebody are there people
00:18:02.20\00:18:05.51
that can help
people, who how do you start
00:18:05.54\00:18:08.80
if you don't know where
to start is my question.
00:18:08.83\00:18:11.14
Well, you know, there
are people that can help
00:18:11.77\00:18:13.96
you in fact there
are so many shows on the
00:18:14.06\00:18:16.31
television now, where
they have the cleaning
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squad to come in and
they help individuals
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to organize and to
clean out their homes,
00:18:20.91\00:18:23.12
but so many
people don't have persons
00:18:23.52\00:18:26.36
that can come in,
sometimes friends can
00:18:26.45\00:18:28.46
come in and help,
sometimes family members
00:18:28.49\00:18:31.20
are willing to do
that especially if you have
00:18:31.23\00:18:33.21
a neat freak
friend, who really kind,
00:18:33.24\00:18:36.70
that's it,
partially, yeah, sometimes those
00:18:37.86\00:18:41.70
individuals can be
very, very helpful. However,
00:18:41.73\00:18:44.76
the first thing that
one needs to do is to tell
00:18:44.79\00:18:47.27
themselves that they
need to make that change
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because if you don't
make the change mentally
00:18:50.12\00:18:52.91
you are not going
to do it physically
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so you have to make
that commitment to yourself,
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I want to change, I
want to declutter my life,
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I want to declutter
my home and then you can
00:19:00.57\00:19:03.63
start very small
simply by going and taking out
00:19:03.66\00:19:08.22
one or two things
at a time. You can even
00:19:08.25\00:19:12.69
organize it for once
per week, I am taking
00:19:12.72\00:19:15.38
something out of my
closet and I am giving
00:19:15.41\00:19:17.61
to the goodwill or I
am giving it to someone
00:19:17.64\00:19:20.51
who needs it or a
neighbor or some child
00:19:20.54\00:19:22.80
or some family
member or I am sending it
00:19:22.83\00:19:25.13
overseas to someone
who needs it or I am going
00:19:25.16\00:19:28.15
to go to the
homeless shelter and take my
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things there, you will
be surprised at how many
00:19:30.61\00:19:34.01
things you can get
out of your closet,
00:19:34.04\00:19:37.39
out of your kitchen,
kitchens with too many
00:19:37.42\00:19:40.96
things and then too many dishes
00:19:40.99\00:19:42.52
and there are so many
people that can benefit
00:19:42.55\00:19:44.83
from it. So, making
the commitment and then
00:19:44.86\00:19:47.63
following through by
moving at least one thing,
00:19:47.66\00:19:49.73
if you are trying to
do too many that becomes
00:19:49.76\00:19:52.42
stressful and overwhelming also,
00:19:52.45\00:19:54.28
so if you just start
small, or just a room by room,
00:19:54.31\00:19:58.15
room by room, sure. And
then there is a condition
00:19:58.18\00:20:02.23
called Hoarding and
we are not, we don't have
00:20:02.26\00:20:05.65
time to even go there
today, but if your clutter
00:20:05.68\00:20:08.75
is so severe and if
you have absolutely no room
00:20:08.78\00:20:11.90
to put anything else
because you never throw
00:20:11.93\00:20:13.80
anything away perhaps
you should see a professional
00:20:13.83\00:20:17.81
about that because
there is a condition
00:20:17.84\00:20:20.31
and that can be
very serious detrimental
00:20:20.34\00:20:23.33
to your health. We need
to kind a hustle on here
00:20:23.36\00:20:25.53
because our time is
going away, but you mentioned
00:20:25.56\00:20:27.88
to me earlier about
emotional and mental
00:20:27.91\00:20:33.43
hunger and that's
something that can be
00:20:33.46\00:20:37.13
a real burden to people
when they are emotionally
00:20:37.16\00:20:40.20
and mentally hungry,
what did you mean by that?
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Sometimes, I find that
individuals are not feeding
00:20:43.48\00:20:48.63
their soul as we
talked about at the beginning
00:20:48.66\00:20:52.00
with the word of God and
then sometimes individuals
00:20:52.03\00:20:55.93
are not feeding their
intellect, they are not
00:20:55.96\00:20:59.06
feeding that desire to
read more, to listen to more
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positive videos or
look at more positive CD's,
00:21:04.27\00:21:08.58
reading is very,
very, very, very important,
00:21:08.61\00:21:11.83
and if you are not
a reader some people
00:21:11.86\00:21:14.02
don't like to read, but
they do love to hear it read,
00:21:14.05\00:21:18.10
they are many, many
CD's, where individuals
00:21:18.13\00:21:22.33
can listen in fact
can I tell you about it,
00:21:22.36\00:21:24.43
about your books, yeah
in fact I have a spoken
00:21:24.46\00:21:26.94
word CD that I have
authored, I've written
00:21:26.97\00:21:29.46
the stories, and I
read them and they are
00:21:29.49\00:21:32.80
actually 15 devotionals
and people listen to them
00:21:32.83\00:21:37.42
and they told me
that it suits them,
00:21:37.45\00:21:39.63
it calms them, it distresses
them, and it feeds that
00:21:39.66\00:21:44.40
soul hunger. So,
reading, listening to good books
00:21:44.43\00:21:50.87
that are, that are
read, there are books on tape
00:21:50.90\00:21:53.62
books on CD that
are very, very helpful.
00:21:53.65\00:21:56.71
When we don't
have that in our lives,
00:21:57.10\00:21:58.90
we have a stressful
feeling, anger can creep
00:21:59.26\00:22:04.29
in and we won't even
know why and it's because
00:22:04.32\00:22:07.61
we are not feeding that
part of ourselves. Amen,
00:22:07.64\00:22:10.30
and I'll tell
you know some people,
00:22:10.33\00:22:11.93
it's such a vicious cycle,
it's kind of like the little
00:22:12.32\00:22:16.54
hamster on the
wheel just going round
00:22:16.57\00:22:18.41
and round is that
sometimes we allow
00:22:18.44\00:22:20.86
our lives to become so cluttered
00:22:20.89\00:22:23.21
and overscheduled
that when we do come home
00:22:23.24\00:22:26.58
from the work
perhaps I hear so many people
00:22:26.61\00:22:28.82
who say oh I know
I should be studying
00:22:28.85\00:22:31.18
or reading or I should
do this that or the other,
00:22:31.21\00:22:33.49
but I am so exhausted,
I just want to pull up
00:22:33.68\00:22:36.70
in front of the TV
and I think sometimes
00:22:36.73\00:22:39.53
we just need to make
an agreement with our self
00:22:39.56\00:22:43.26
that we are gonna
fast from the television
00:22:43.29\00:22:45.09
for a week or so,
not from 3ABN of course,
00:22:45.12\00:22:47.75
but to turn the
television off during
00:22:48.13\00:22:51.13
certain hours so
that we will be more apps
00:22:51.16\00:22:53.67
to read because sometimes
the thought of picking up
00:22:53.70\00:22:56.47
and maybe reading your
Bible or studying is just
00:22:56.50\00:22:59.47
another thing
that seems overwhelming
00:22:59.83\00:23:01.64
because you are tired,
but if there is nothing else
00:23:01.67\00:23:03.98
going on and you
do pick it up suddenly
00:23:04.01\00:23:06.60
you find
yourself revitalized and
00:23:06.63\00:23:09.27
reenergize, okay to carry on,
00:23:09.30\00:23:12.58
what about unforgiveness?
00:23:13.80\00:23:16.20
How much does
that burden our life?
00:23:16.27\00:23:18.62
Oh boy, that is a
biggie. Lack of forgiveness
00:23:18.65\00:23:25.88
is one of the areas of
stress that is damaging
00:23:26.49\00:23:32.46
spiritually, mentally,
emotionally, physically.
00:23:32.49\00:23:38.61
Lack of forgiveness
causes an individual
00:23:39.40\00:23:42.61
to live in hatred and
it's not easy, bitterness,
00:23:42.64\00:23:49.03
yes bitterness,
and I don't say this
00:23:49.32\00:23:53.23
very lightly, but
it's something that
00:23:53.26\00:23:55.77
is not easily done
and to forgive from my
00:23:56.60\00:24:00.92
perspective is
actually a miracle, yes,
00:24:00.95\00:24:03.75
it's a miracle, it is
not something that I can do,
00:24:03.78\00:24:06.80
it's God given, it's not
something that you can do,
00:24:06.83\00:24:08.88
it's not something
that our viewers can do,
00:24:09.37\00:24:11.60
but it's something
that God has to do through
00:24:12.01\00:24:14.82
you that's why we
have to have a close walk
00:24:14.85\00:24:17.41
with him, that's
why we need to read the
00:24:17.44\00:24:19.91
word of God, that's why
we need to study his word,
00:24:19.94\00:24:22.08
that's why we need
to fast, we need to pray
00:24:22.11\00:24:24.87
because it's
something that we can't do
00:24:24.90\00:24:27.03
within ourselves.
Sometimes, we have been
00:24:27.06\00:24:29.36
justifiably hurt, amen,
it hurts when someone says
00:24:29.39\00:24:33.58
something about
you that isn't true,
00:24:33.61\00:24:34.96
it hurts when
you've been married for
00:24:35.44\00:24:37.76
10, 15, 20, 25, 30,
35 years and the spouse
00:24:37.84\00:24:42.04
walks away it hurts,
when your best friend
00:24:42.07\00:24:45.67
is the person he
marries it hurts, amen,
00:24:45.70\00:24:49.37
when the children
you put your everything
00:24:49.40\00:24:51.63
into no longer wants
to do what you've trained
00:24:51.66\00:24:55.44
them to do, it hurts
and we find that because
00:24:55.47\00:24:59.85
it is so painful we
start to become resentful
00:24:59.88\00:25:02.66
and bitter and angry
and we don't forgive,
00:25:02.69\00:25:05.74
but lack of
forgiveness is a danger, amen.
00:25:06.25\00:25:11.41
I have a friend
Cheryl Vandenberg and Cheryl
00:25:11.44\00:25:15.54
said to me Janice
you know what lack of
00:25:15.57\00:25:17.21
forgiveness is, it's
like you taking poison
00:25:17.25\00:25:20.84
and waiting for
the other person to die
00:25:21.24\00:25:23.01
and said Cheryl you
are correct, that's right,
00:25:23.44\00:25:25.72
it really is because
it damages you even more
00:25:25.75\00:25:28.68
than the persons that
you are holding that anger
00:25:28.71\00:25:30.99
and the resentment
against. So, that is one
00:25:31.02\00:25:34.26
of the things that
we really want to take
00:25:34.29\00:25:36.33
out of our lives and we
really have to go to God
00:25:36.62\00:25:39.70
and God can help you
to do it. He says call
00:25:39.73\00:25:42.16
on to me and I
will answer them, amen,
00:25:42.19\00:25:43.89
and I will show you
greater in many things that
00:25:44.06\00:25:45.96
I know is not; I'll
show you how to forgive
00:25:45.99\00:25:48.59
and unless we
forgive he cannot forgive us.
00:25:48.62\00:25:51.51
He says forgives our
sins as we forgive others,
00:25:51.89\00:25:56.53
right. Yes and I
think that's something that.
00:25:56.56\00:25:59.41
Tell me do you
agree with me here,
00:26:01.59\00:26:04.18
I feel that if I am
still holding on to a hurt,
00:26:04.21\00:26:09.23
if I think back on
something and it still
00:26:09.26\00:26:11.85
brings up all
those intense emotions,
00:26:11.88\00:26:13.95
I feel like I haven't
really forgiven, if I can look
00:26:13.98\00:26:17.71
back on things and
hence realize that,
00:26:17.74\00:26:21.40
yes this was
horrible, it was a disservice
00:26:21.43\00:26:24.44
to me in that, but I
don't have all that intense
00:26:24.47\00:26:27.37
emotion I feel like
yeah, I've actually forgiven,
00:26:27.40\00:26:29.68
would you agree with
that? I would totally
00:26:29.71\00:26:31.30
agree with that. That's
kind of, that's always been
00:26:31.33\00:26:33.48
my parameter. Some
people say forgive and forget,
00:26:33.51\00:26:35.58
well it's not always
good to forget because
00:26:36.04\00:26:38.42
if we forget sometimes
we make the same mistake,
00:26:38.45\00:26:41.70
absolutely, but if we
can say yes I remember
00:26:41.73\00:26:43.82
and it was wrong,
but I forgive, amen,
00:26:43.85\00:26:46.72
I forgive the
situation, I forgive the person,
00:26:46.75\00:26:49.31
you will feel so
much better and you will
00:26:49.61\00:26:51.70
help yourself. And we
have to like go of our I mean
00:26:51.73\00:26:55.63
to forgive ourselves,
let go a bold regrets right,
00:26:55.66\00:26:58.70
we only have about
45 seconds, can you just
00:26:58.73\00:27:02.17
mention that what it's
like to hold on to regret
00:27:02.20\00:27:06.86
some things that
we've done in the past?
00:27:06.89\00:27:08.73
You know, sometimes
we live in, what I call
00:27:08.76\00:27:10.16
the house of regret,
we regret where we did
00:27:10.20\00:27:13.35
or did not go to school
or if we did or did not go
00:27:13.38\00:27:16.54
to school, we sometimes
regret whom we married,
00:27:16.57\00:27:19.63
we regret that we have
or do not have children,
00:27:19.66\00:27:22.33
we find all kinds of
regrets and I find that that
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is one of the tools
of Satan, if he wants us
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to regret, regret,
regret, we spend our lives
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living there,
thinking that and feeling
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it rather than
living in the moment, amen,
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living in the
positive, amen. As the Lord said
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through Isaiah do
no dwell on the past,
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release it for I am
doing a new thing in you
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and see it will,
do not recognize it,
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it will suddenly
spring forward, amen, yes.
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Dr. Janice
Browne, thank you so much
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for being here today,
you will return won't you?
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Yes, indeed and
it was my pleasure.
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Thank you for those
of you at home if you are
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like the women, who
was bent over just looking
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in the dust and come to Jesus,
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he'll cut those burdens
free from you, bye, bye.
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