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Hello and welcome
again to Issues and Answers.
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This is a program that really
focuses on the issues that all
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of us have in our lives. We
are far more similar than we are
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different. All of us have issues
and needs that only God can
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fill. Today we have a subject
that we'd like to share with you
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that we hope will match up
closely to an issue or a need in
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your life and that is building.
Building bridges. And you're
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going to say, Ruthie, come
on. I am not building bridges.
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That's for engineers and heavy
equipment. No, it's for all of
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us as Christians. Building
bridges, building relationships.
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Advancing God's kingdom through
friendships. And he has told us
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in Isaiah 45 I will go with you
and prepare the way and I will
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break down gates of brass
and crash through iron bars.
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Nothing is impossible.
That neighbor, that person who
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seems to be farthest from the
Lord may be just waiting for a
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touch from you and the Holy
Spirit working through you and
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maybe you'll see something
incredible that you've been
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praying and waiting for. God
is so good. I'm anxious for you
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to meet my special guests.
Tim Garrison from Camarillo,
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California, welcome.
Good to be here Ruthie.
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And Derek Morris from Apopka,
Florida. Glad to be here.
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So what can you tell us about
bridge building? How important
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is it in what you do?
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Well as you know, Ruthie, I'm
involved in planting a church
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and when you're going to a new
area and you start a church from
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the very beginning and you get
together as a little core of 20
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people determined to do this,
you have to examine how did
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Christ go about, you know,
ministering and touching and
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building bridges to other
people's lives and one thing we
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realize is we could not expect
people to come to us. We had to
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go to them. And so that's a
part of this metaphor building
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bridges as you know from your
book of building those ways of
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touching other people's lives
just like Christ did. And we
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determined that we would have
to develop mechanisms for bridge
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building. You
know, he went out where
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people were who needed him. He
went where the lepers were. He
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went where people didn't go. He
went to the parties where they
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we're drinking wine and getting
drunk. And he was criticized.
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It got him into trouble, but he
kept on because he had a world
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to save. This is a
really important topic
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Ruthie, because we most
naturally build walls rather
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that building bridges. Why do
we do that. I think we grow up
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trying to protect ourselves and
maybe other people are different
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but we see Jesus doing the
exact opposite. I think of a
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story in John chapter 4 where
Jesus is coming to Samaria and
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instinctively the disciples
are building walls because they
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don't get along with the
Samaritans and they don't
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associate with them. So they're
separating themselves while
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Jesus begins to build a bridge
with one person who's come to
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the well. In fact that story I
think has great lessons for us.
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But certainly Jesus
models being a bridge builder.
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You know, I'd like to back up.
Speaking of Christ as a bridge
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builder. Everything he did
was bathed in prayer. He spent
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in prayer. He prayed a lot
because that's one of the rules
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of the kingdom. When the Father
told him I've put all of the
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earth into your hands. That's
your inheritance, you're going
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to inherit the earth. But Christ
knew that one of the rules of
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the kingdom is you have to ask.
So even Christ the Son of God
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had to pray. He had to ask. And
so he did that and then he was
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prepared to go out and build
bridges. So we have to pray
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earnestly before we can build
bridges, otherwise we're just
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doing something nice. You know,
random acts of kindness, but if
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we're praying the Holy Spirit
and the compassion of God is
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what changes hearts.
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And, of course, he also gives
the Lord permission to throw him
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out, that radical prayer,
because Mark 1 says that he was
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thrown out by the Spirit. So he
also prays and it's interesting
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in John 4 it says he needed
to go through Samaria. Well the
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disciples didn't want to go
through Samaria. Why did Jesus
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need to go? Answer: He's praying
this radical prayer. He has been
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bathing his life in prayer
and he has given God permission
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knowing that there's a bridge
to be built with this one lady
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whose heart is open.
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Let me give you an example of
what we've done in the Moorpark,
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California church plant that
I'm involved in and that is in
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California the housing
developments often have common
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mail box areas, you know. They
call them gang boxes. And the
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problem you see in terms of
connecting with your neighbor
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in most modern housing
developments is the automatic
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garage door. You know, people
open the door, they pull their
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car in and they never see their
neighbors. But I've discovered
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there's one place where they do
gather and that's to go get the
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mail. So what we've tried to do
with our community of believers
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is have radical prayer, as
you say, about making that an
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opportunity for building bridges
and so going down to that gang
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mailbox right after the letter
carrier has delivered the mail
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when you know others are going
to be gathering. So I've made
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that a point personally to do
that and as they come in I greet
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them and I talk to them and many
of them know that I'm a pastor.
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I remember one time that I went
down and an elderly lady came
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and I greeted her and I
said how are you doing and she
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paused and I'd seen her
before. We had a little bit of a
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relationship. Her husband
had just been in an accident and
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they had just retired. And she
talked to me about how she had
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hoped differently for her
retired life, but now she was
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ministering to her husband.
And I said, Ma'am, can we have
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prayer. And so we paused right
there by those mail boxes and I
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had prayer with this woman. But
again you have to be intentional
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to build those bridges and
that's the kind of thing that
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when you pray to God he inspires
you to find ways to make those
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connections.
That's right, he does open
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doors. When we first moved to
the neighborhood where we live
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now we didn't know anybody. We
didn't know anybody in the town.
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We didn't know anybody in the
church and we discovered that
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there were some people who we
had known in Florida later. But
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we thought that we were there
at the end of the earth, because
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you don't go to Hiawassee,
GA if you're not planning to go
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there. You don't go there going
to anywhere. But we live on a
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mountain and we looked up and
down our hill and we saw all of
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these houses. There are over
a hundred in our homeowner's
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association. And I started
praying for Ramie Mountain.
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I said, Lord, who was it that
prayed give me Scotland or I
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die. John Knox. Knox. And I said
I want Ramie Mountain. Lord give
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me Ramie Mountain. For some
reason you've just given me a
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sense of urgency for these dear
people I've never even met. Well
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before long we started meeting
at the library, at the grocery
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store, everywhere. And people
invited me over to their home.
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We were just getting acquainted
with everybody. Then they asked
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my husband to be the homeowners
association president. Well then
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we had people coming to our
home, we were going to their
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homes, we were planning meetings
all kinds of events and we were
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given opportunities to pray with
them. They started coming to our
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church, just an incredible thing
but not long ago I was speaking
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over at a Methodist church
not far from where we live and I
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invited all my neighbors. I said
I'm speaking over at this church
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Do you want to come over
and hear me? Sure. So they went.
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And coming home the neighbor
who was riding with me said
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you know we were laughing about
you the other day. I said, you
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were? What was so funny? She
said well we weren't laughing at
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you. We were envious. And I
said why? She said you've only
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lived here two years, Ruthie,
and you know the whole town of
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Hiawassee. And I said, you know
that's pretty true. We know so
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many people here now. And she
said I've lived here 14 years
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and you know lots more people
than I do. And under my breath
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I was saying thank you Lord,
that's an answer to prayer.
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You know, one of the things that
Tim said that's so important and
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we see it in Jesus is you went
to that mailbox area. Right. You
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were intentional about saying
this is a place where I could
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build bridges. I think of Jesus
you referred to earlier after
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a tax collector became one
of his disciples, Jesus went to
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that tax collector's party. He
was going to connect with people
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that he probably would never see
any other place. But he begins
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to build bridges with them and
I want to learn how to do that
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more effectively. I think that
your book, Bridges 101, helps us
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to think, maybe not just do
these things, but Lord show me
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some ways. The
mailbox technique or whatever.
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That fit my
personality and my situation.
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Where I can build bridges
to people rather than building
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walls. I tell
you, you have to really
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you know be ready when you pray
that prayer, because it's just
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amazing what the Lord does.
You know I prayed to the Lord, I
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would like to be in a roomful
of strangers and the very next
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day I got jury notice and I
ended up at the court house in a
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room full of 200 people
that I had never met before.
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And it's just like the Lord is
smiling and he's saying OK now
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is this what you had in mind?
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Now once you get there, whether
it's at the mailbox or it's in
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the jury waiting room then
you have to be prepared to...
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And I discovered that your
praying doesn't stop when you
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have been thrown out or when
you are reaching out with some
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method of building a bridge.
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It's like it's almost
like a constant conversation.
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I was just thinking of something
that happened in our family. Our
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neighbor was sick and he called,
an interesting phone call. He
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said please pray for me. I've
got a problem with my health.
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So we went to the hospital.
My wife stopped and picked up a
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beautiful arrangement of flowers
I'm a little more thrifty, but
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she understood what that would
do for him and his wife who was
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there. Giving them the flowers,
that was a bridge, and he said
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wow the flowers are so beautiful
thank you so much. And I just
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said do you know we have prayer
quilts at our church? Maybe
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you'd like a prayer quilt. And
his eyes lit up and his wife was
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excited and so it's like one
more step. You don't just bring
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flowers day after day. The quilt
came, we cleaned up some sticks
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in the drive way and before
long we're inviting them to have
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lunch with us. I shared a
DVD series on healthy Christians
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that I'd done. If I'd just
walked out of the blue and said
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you need to listen to this, he
probably would have been polite
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and taken it but... (or a book
they had) or worse I would say
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you know I'm going to build
a wall because I know that my
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neighbors are not interested.
But when you begin to build
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bridges and I think the key is
that you're asking the Lord to
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show you when and how to do
that It's really quite exciting.
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It really is exciting and yet
you know as Jesus clearly showed
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there's risk involved. I mean,
when he interfaced with the
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Samaritan woman there was a risk
how would she respond, would she
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be open. And so when we face
that risk and we allow the Lord
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to take the fear away then some
amazing things begin to happen.
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That's right. But I believe
that when we're willing to take
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those first steps, he shows his
grace and he meets not only our
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needs but the needs of the
people. I like what you did with
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the flowers and with the
prayer quilts because those are
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tangible things. After you're
gone the Holy Spirit can use,
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that's right, they're still
there and the Holy Spirit can
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speak through things and remind
people, this is the love of God.
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Because people ask what makes
somebody do something like this?
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What would cause somebody to
have a totally free car wash, no
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strings attached, wash my
windshield, give me a bar of
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granola or something or have a
little prayer with me while I'm
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waiting in line. What would make
people do that? And they ask
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questions. You
know, I think there's a
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principle here of bridge
building and that is also
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Jesus recognized. He met people
where they had a need. And so if
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I'd walked into the hospital
room and given him the DVD,
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first of all he has nowhere to
play it. Secondly he's not well
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and he doesn't particularly feel
like watching a DVD, but some
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beauty to his room or maybe
a tangible quilt to remind him
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that people are praying. Jesus
did that when he'd been teaching
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all day and the people were
hungry and he gave them food.
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He tried to talk about being
the bread of life, but first he
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built a bridge. I
think that there's a very
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important principle here.
Sometimes we're happy to share
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the love of the Lord or to meet
people or to build a bridge but
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we're tempted to do that on our
ground of comfort. We want to do
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what makes us feel good. Never
mind what that person may need.
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This is what I think you
need so you better take this and
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jolly well get this and read it
or whatever it is and we can go
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away saying well you know I've
done my good deed and this is
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my whatever for the day, my good
thing that I've done for the
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Lord, for the kingdom of God and
the Lord may be shaking his head
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saying you missed it. Don't do
it for you, do it for me and for
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him and there's a totally
different way that we live and
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minister when we
have that mind set.
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We also find, at least I've
found that when I break out of
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my comfort zone, interact with
my neighbors, try to befriend
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them, that there is a mutual
benefit. There's something about
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establishing those relationships
learning from those people as
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well and being enriched by that
relationship that is wonderful
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for me as well as what I
might be able to offer to them.
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It's like a two-way
street isn't it. (It is, yeah.)
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The Lord doesn't just send us
out and say do this for me and
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whether you like it or not. No,
he says this is going to enrich
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your life. This is going
to make you a better person.
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You know, something happened
in my ministry. When I began
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ministry I gave myself kind of
like an island. If you said you
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built walls around yourself
I probably would have denied it
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but really I wasn't building
bridges at least. I've noticed
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in recent years that God
is giving me courage to build
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bridges; going to the local
ministerial alliance, I ended up
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being the president of the
ministerial alliance and it's
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totally new and yet I've had
the opportunity to pray blessing
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for pastors in the community
that I otherwise wouldn't meet.
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So I think it's that recognition
that if we are light to the
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world and salt of the earth,
it's not going to happen by
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hiding under a bushel, to use
the same image as the light of
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the world. I need to be getting
out there, letting my light
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shine and building
bridges with people.
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And it's amazing how the Lord
will prompt you and push you.
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My husband and I were having
lunch in a place near Highlands,
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North Carolina. We were
sitting out on a patio under an
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umbrella and there was a big
kind of an outdoor dining area.
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And we were having a wonderful
time and the weather was perfect
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I noticed over in the corner
there were two couples and they
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were so loud. They were talking
to their waitress and just
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having so much fun and I said
to Don, I'm going to go over
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there and tell them to quiet
this down. They are just you
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know, disturbing the peace. And
he laughed and he said no don't
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do that. Well Don is much more
what's the word, levelheaded,
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cautious. But I really felt a
prompting in my spirit. I felt
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like the Lord was saying
here's some people you could get
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acquainted with. So when Don
went to the car for something, I
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walked over there to their table
and the waitress was still there
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and they were talking. I just
kind of had a sparkle in my eye
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and a big smile on my face but
I said to them you know you're
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going to have to calm this down
because this is altogether too
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noisy. They said pull up a chair
and we were instant friends.
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They could tell that I was just
being funny or you know enjoying
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them. And we got acquainted.
Come to find out they had
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relatives that lived not far
from us in Hiawassee. They said
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we're going to be in you town
tomorrow. We want to see you
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tomorrow. Well they did call us
the next day and we happened to
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be gone so we missed them.
But they gave us the name of the
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name of the sister and her
husband. A couple weeks later
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we were driving out in that
neighborhood and I said, Honey
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this is where Virginia and
Howard live. Let's go see them.
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So we pulled up into their
driveway. They came out and they
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said Oh we know about you.
We heard about you. We've been
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wanting to meet you. That's
God. And I get e-mails from her
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nearly every day. She's been to
our church. We've been to their
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church. We have just become very
good friends. She's been to our
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home several times, we've been
to theirs. But see that was God
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saying here are some people
that I want to use you for.
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You see he was throwing you
out into his harvest using your
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personality. I can imagine
someone watching the program
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today going, I could never do
that and it's possible that God
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would never ask them to do that.
But God is going to use the
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personality and the gifts
that each of has to build their
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bridges. What we have in
common is that we don't want to
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separate ourselves from those
people but we want to connect
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with them. That's
right and use whatever
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means will work.
Whatever God brings to our mind.
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That's right. And we all have
different tools. We all have
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different personalities. But
I really believe that the key of
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the universe, the God who made
us, knows how he made us, he
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knows what gifts and talents and
interests we have and he says,
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you know if you work with me I'm
going to make it a joy. I want
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you to experience the joy of
actually being a partner with me
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So I suppose, Ruthie, as a part
of the prayer that our viewers
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could think about as well
as ourselves is use me as I am.
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Use me as my personality and my
unique gifts measure, you know.
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And so a simple smile to a
neighbor. Just the little things
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that show that you're trying to
make connections in whatever way
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you can. I tell
people smile because
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people will think you're
smarter than you are. But really
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I'm glad you said what
you did because a smile can be
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powerful if you have put
yourself in God's hands for the
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day and you just said Lord
whatever. If somebody needs a
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little hug, or somebody needs
a sandwich. If you are in a
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restaurant and you see somebody
that is counting out their money
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and worried, may be they
don't have the money to meet the
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ticket, the price of the meal,
you could just quietly say to
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the cashier I want to cover that
and you'll be blessed for it.
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The Lord just does that and
you know people will say well I
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can't do big things. God doesn't
ask you to build a hospital.
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Just a bridge. You know I've
been reading your book and my
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wife and I have been reading
it actually at worship and it's
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been such a blessing, that's
Bridges 101, and something
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happened at the airport and
I know it happened because of
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reading the book. Not that there
was a story there that I was
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trying to duplicate but just
thinking about building bridges.
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I was getting ready to get on a
flight and I saw someone and she
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said hello to me and my name.
I didn't know who she was. That
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happens sometimes. I found out
that she was a media person from
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the area but she was in
transition. I had a copy of my
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book The Radical Prayer with
me and I said you know sometimes
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when we're at change times we
can give God permission to throw
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us out into wherever he wants
us to be and join him in his
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work. She's a Christian. So I
gave her the book and she said
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thank you. That was the last
I heard. Several weeks went by.
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Just recently she called. She's
now back working for a news
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paper in our area. Then she
called and said you know I would
00:23:12.24\00:23:15.48
love to do an article on
what God's doing in your church.
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And I was shocked and yet I
realized that that probably was
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a response to building that
bridge. You said it's two-way,
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right? Once the bridge is there
it's not only reaching out to
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that person, it allows that
person to reach back to you.
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Sometimes the things that we may
do may seem so infinitesimal,
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so inconsequential. And the Lord
says you know I'm not expecting
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you to do something big but
if you give it to me I can make
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something big out of it. You
don't have to. But that's what
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Christ said; a cup of cold
water simple things, just simple
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things. You notice
there seems to be a
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lot of suspicion in our world
and in our culture. And so when
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you pass somebody on the
sidewalk or you know they tend
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to not always look, but just
a simple smile just breaks the
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whole barrier there and they
know that there's a friendship
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connection and
that's really all it takes.
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It's disarming. In our little
town, we live in north Georgia,
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we live in the Bible belt and
we can see North Carolina from
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where we live. But the people
there are for the most part down
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home. There are a lot of people
that have moved there from
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Florida. Somebody said to me,
a Florida transplant, she said
00:24:37.58\00:24:41.13
to me, you now have you noticed
how friendly everybody is in
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this town. And I said yes.
And she said well we're all from
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Florida. How come we weren't
that way down there? But people
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you see them at the post office
and they'll say g'mornin', how
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are y'all. And it's just a happy
environment and that in itself
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will invite you to make a
comment or to say something that
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will build a bridge.
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Back to Jesus because I know
we're speaking as followers of
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Jesus. We're not making
something up that's new.
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This is a novel idea. We're
following the example of Jesus.
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He was constantly building
bridges. He did that because he
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loved people. And he
did simple things. He
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gave food, he held children on
his lap, he blessed the children
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You know, he just gave a word
of comfort and encouragement.
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He started by meeting a need.
Then he moved to developing a
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relationship before he
ever really talked about people
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following him. That's
right. And if we follow
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his method we're going to have
success. I love the text in, is
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it Psalms or Proverbs that says
Commit your plans to the Lord
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and they will succeed.
Proverbs 16 and verse 3.
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Is there a song that
your wife wrote about that.
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Actually there is. It's
one way to memorize the Bible.
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Are you going to sing it for us?
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No I'm not but I think it's true
that as we commit our ways to
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God and allow him to
guide us that our plans will be
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established. I
believe that too. Now do
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either one of you have a quick
last word of encouragement.
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Well I would just tell people,
our viewers, that if they will
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just pray that prayer at the
beginning of every day, Lord let
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me be sensitive, let me be open
to the opportunities you present
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he will present them.
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Like you said, Ruthie, don't
wait for some huge thing to do
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for God. Just look for each
opportunity he puts in front of
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you and build that
bridge and see what he'll do.
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And if the Holy Spirit is
in it there can be eternal
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consequences. Well we have
enjoyed sharing with you today
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I would like to know what
kind of bridges have you been
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building. You probably are
sitting there thinking I've done
00:27:06.71\00:27:11.23
something like that. And I'll
bet you have. Pray about the
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opportunities that you
have because the Lord has bigger
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plans in mind for us than we can
possibly imagine. If you ever
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doubt that, read Ephesians 3:20.
He can do more than you can
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imagine. And he wants to use
your hands, your eyes, your lips
00:27:29.44\00:27:34.37
your words, your kind heart and
you will be amazed. I believe
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that in heaven he will show
you the faces of people who are
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there because you were faithful,
because you built a bridge,
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in honor of your king. God bless
you. Thanks for joining us.
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