Participants: Shelley Quinn (Host), Douglas Weiss
Series Code: IAA
Program Code: IAA000353
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00:30 Hello, I'm Shelley Quinn
00:31 and welcome to Issues and Answers. 00:33 Today is a hot topic and you're going to want to stay tuned 00:37 whether you are a parent or grandparent, 00:40 maybe an unmarried young single. 00:43 We are going to be talking today about sexual purity. 00:47 And if you are a teenager please stay tuned 00:49 because you are gonna hear something different 00:51 than you probably ever heard in your life before. 00:54 You know Paul wrote to the Corinthians 00:56 and we are all familiar with the scripture. 00:57 1 Corinthians 6:18, his advice was 01:01 "Shun immorality and all sexual looseness." 01:04 He's saying flee from the impurity 01:06 whether it's in word, thought, action or deed. 01:09 And he said, "Any other sin which a man commits 01:12 is one outside the body, but he who commits 01:15 sexual immorality sins against his own body." 01:20 Why does the Lord tell us to be sexually pure? 01:25 Well, we need to be able to explain this to our youth 01:28 in such a way that they will understand 01:32 that there are-- there's science behind it. 01:34 There is many good reasons. 01:36 And here joining us again today is Dr. Douglas Weiss. 01:40 Doug, you are getting ready to go talk 01:42 and with the whole group of teens about this, aren't you? 01:46 Yes, ma'am. We love doing that. 01:47 Yeah. And when you are physiologist. 01:50 Yes. You have Heart to Heart-- 01:53 Counseling centers in Colorado Springs. 01:55 Counseling centers in Colorado Springs, 01:56 written 20 books. 01:57 Why you like to talk to kids about sexual purity? 02:01 Well, one of the things we specialize is the back end 02:03 where people have sexual addictions. 02:05 And so what we want to do is to stop that 02:07 from happening to began with. 02:08 Amen, and we see that the devil is coming 02:11 at our children from every direction. 02:13 Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. 02:14 Every form of media, magazines, television, the internet, 02:18 now its even on their phones, 02:20 its in the homes, without blocking it 02:22 the children get really into serious trouble. 02:24 But the enemy is after something very specific 02:27 and that's in Revelation 2-20. Okay? 02:29 This women Jezebel is teaching people in the church 02:32 so they can be immortal and be Christians. 02:35 And God says, I give her time to repent, 02:37 she won't repent, I am gonna strike her children dead. 02:41 I am going to deal with those who do this. 02:42 But in verse 26 He gets into a whole crux of this. 02:45 He says, to him or her who overcomes 02:49 this doctrine of sexual morality and Christianity, 02:52 he trying to mix the two. 02:53 If you overcome that doctrine I will, 02:56 and God always keeps His word. 02:58 I will give you authority over the nations. 03:01 All right, now-- And so, no. 03:03 Let me stop, what we were talking about is, 03:04 your sexual purity and your spiritual authority 03:08 are inter connected 03:11 and the enemy has always knows this. 03:13 If you can get a country or a group of people immoral 03:17 then God has a discipline because he's just. 03:21 Do you see what I am saying? Yes. 03:22 And so he's after our children's spiritual authority. 03:26 That's what this game is really about, 03:28 to give then shame and secrecy 03:30 and so they don't pick up their spiritual swords 03:31 and charge their generation with the gospel. 03:35 And this is something that you know, 03:39 during our day at the I love Lucy and-- 03:41 Right, right, right. 03:43 We kind of understood that as a Christian, 03:47 I mean, it was not kind of it 03:49 used to be preached all the time about sexual purity. 03:52 And this was something that we accepted 03:54 but weren't bombarded on every front. 03:59 Young people today have a much greater problem 04:03 because it is being presented as, this is the norm. 04:08 You are not natural if you don't. 04:10 Well, purity is actually about 04:11 50% of kidsare staying sexually pure 04:14 but we want more, especially more in the Christian faith. 04:17 We are--we've all known teen girls 04:20 who raise in Christian homes, 04:21 who had issues and young man as well. 04:23 And the scripture you use was interesting 04:25 because that's the scripture 04:26 and we are gonna take to teach teenagers about this 04:28 because the way that we are wired physically, okay, 04:32 is that when we do participate in that behavior 04:35 we get the highest level of endorphins and enkephalins 04:37 the brain chemicals hits the excitement center of your brain 04:40 and you literally glue to whatever is in your vision. 04:43 So that's that the pornography industry is so powerful 04:46 because young men will glue to that 04:47 and create an appetite for that. 04:49 James calls that lust then sin then death. 04:51 You know, put us down that path. 04:53 But young people don't know that if they do that, 04:55 they are actually setting up neuropath way of enforcement 04:57 and that's what it's taking about. 04:58 We are sending this through our body. 05:00 That Greek word body actually means body, okay. 05:04 You are actually gluing yourself to something 05:07 that you shouldn't be gluing to, okay. 05:09 So this is-- And that really, really hurts. 05:10 This is biological scientific that it's not just something 05:14 that you can look at then dismiss. 05:18 You get into it and your mind is glued to it. 05:21 So you are gonna bring all of this baggage, 05:23 this sin even if you repented of the sin 05:26 you've got something now going on 05:29 and it comes into the marriage. 05:30 And it can take you into 05:31 all kinds of stuff as an adult, okay. 05:33 And you know, they did a Redbook to the study 05:35 and I think they found results kind of 05:37 not what they were looking for 05:39 but they did a study of women, 500,000 women, 05:43 that's bigger than the town we are in, okay. 05:44 Yeah. 500,000 women answered the survey 05:47 and they found that women who had started earlier, 05:50 had more partners had the lowest 05:53 physical satisfaction in their marriage. 05:58 That didn't surprise me though. 05:59 So young people, you want to stay pure, 06:01 you want to have really good boundaries around this. 06:04 This is really, really critical 06:06 because if you don't then you'll get in trouble. 06:07 See, the enemy wants to hurt, God wants to heal 06:09 and He wants us to have purity 06:11 because see with purity comes spiritual authority. 06:13 We can go through this with scripture, okay. 06:15 The strongest man in the world 06:17 was taken down by a immorality, that's Samson. 06:20 The wisest man under Jesus was Solomon. 06:22 He was taken down at the end of his life 06:23 through all the women he got involved with 06:26 and adultery in there. 06:30 And then so the-- we know it can impact you. 06:34 Then we can look at people who didn't involve, okay. 06:37 We don't see Moses falling. 06:40 We don't see Joshua falling. 06:43 We don't see Joseph 06:44 who was really tempted to fall by his master's wife. 06:48 Didn't fall and God made him 06:50 the second most powerful man in the world 06:52 but his purity had he given it up 06:55 he will lost his position. Amen. 06:57 Do you see what I am saying? 06:58 So purity and position, 06:59 purity and authority are connected. 07:01 So young people, I always say 07:02 if God has a call in your life and really want to see 07:05 that nation had changed and gospel promoted 07:07 and you want to see Jesus Christ show up in your life 07:10 your purity is really critical. 07:12 Not that God will be merciful 07:13 if you make mistakes or stuff like that. 07:15 And the blood is more powerful than any of our sins, okay, 07:18 we know that. 07:19 But there is a correlation between purity and position. 07:21 Aren't we glad that Mary stayed a virgin? Amen. 07:24 Aren't we glad that Jesus stayed sexually pure? 07:27 Amen. Yes. Okay. 07:29 And we can look throughout church history 07:30 and see God uses people 07:32 who really have this thing together. 07:33 And we've all seen the stories and the newscast 07:35 and newspapers about men of God who have fallen. 07:39 Do you see what I am saying? 07:40 And they have lost what God have for them in their life. 07:44 Now of say a parent is watching right now 07:47 or perhaps a grandparent which I am sure many of you are 07:50 and we've got this young person in their life 07:54 that's beginning to dress a little, 07:58 you know, as they are growing a little 07:59 but, dressing a little more scads, 08:01 they are beginning to listen to some music 08:03 that you don't think is appropriate 08:04 and you see them beginning to run with the faster crowd. 08:07 Let's set up, how do you give children boundaries 08:11 or not just children but the youth boundaries? 08:13 Right, well, you need to invite them into a process. 08:16 And the way I like to invite the teens 08:18 into a process is this way, you are becoming an adult, 08:22 you are growing up so because of that 08:25 now we need to talk about this, okay. 08:27 And we've got materials that they can go on our website 08:29 and find if they want some more information but. 08:31 So then we say, okay, here's some, here's-- 08:33 let's talk about how long until someone gives you a kiss, 08:37 holds you hands, hugs you, hugs you front wise? 08:41 How long until xyz behaviors? 08:44 Okay. Let's walk through that. 08:45 In other words, there's actually a form 08:46 we have that we give to kids 08:48 and they fill this out 08:49 because it makes them think through it 08:50 because so many singles, 08:52 the churches abandoned a lot of singles in general. 08:55 We don't ask, you don't tell. Okay. 08:57 We don't invite them as a family. 08:58 The church is the only family who doesn't say, 09:00 you know what, come in here. 09:01 These are the family guidelines when it comes to dating. 09:03 Few churches have that. That's good point. 09:05 You know what I am saying? 09:06 They are saying you know what, if you are a single, 09:07 here is the boundaries 09:09 and you are accountable to this person, 09:10 this person and here's the way we do it. 09:11 No, just come on in 09:13 and you guys just do whatever you want to. 09:14 We hope you all being good and you know, 09:15 let us know when you get married. 09:16 And that's global abandonment of our single people. 09:20 That's true. You see what I am saying? 09:21 Yes. Okay. 09:22 As family you wouldn't do that with your children. 09:23 No family does that but the church family does. 09:26 And the singles feel it and they have some feelings about that. 09:29 They don't feel protective 09:30 and safe in the church that they could. 09:32 Now, so then it becomes it comes on them 09:34 to set up the boundaries on how long 09:37 and all this kind of stuff. 09:38 And I encourage young people 09:40 to get accountable to another couple. 09:44 Spiritual couple that they respect and-- 09:47 And now you are talking people who are what college age? 09:50 Sixteen to college, yeah. 09:51 Well, actually 16 to 60 09:53 because we got the whole singles again group. All right. 09:56 Because they don't want to be told what to do either. 09:57 You can't tell me I can't hold her hand, okay. 09:59 Listen, what you want to do 10:01 because you can have "accidents" 10:02 at 50 just like you did when you were 15. 10:04 That's good. Okay. 10:05 And when the single group is really good 10:07 at planning accidents. 10:09 Do you know what I am saying? Right. 10:10 I was over there at 10 o'clock and don't know how it happened. 10:12 What were you doing over there at 10 o'clock? Okay. 10:14 Do you know what I am saying? 10:16 They have to have those boundaries 10:17 no matter what your age is. 10:18 So you have these listed boundaries 10:19 then you make yourself accountable to another couple. 10:21 Every other week you go over to that couple 10:23 and go over your boundaries to make sure they are intact. 10:26 And after there's been a sin you ask forgiveness, 10:28 you own it, you pray through that. 10:29 And that will keep the younger people 10:31 more solid during that dating, quoting, 10:35 finding someone process whether they are 15 10:38 or whether they are 50. 10:39 And I can tell you do a singles again 10:41 you know, talks that's group is harder to talk to 10:44 because they think they know something. 10:46 They are just as human and now they say well, 10:47 and they were even more so with the hurt 10:49 and pain and desperation in this age. 10:51 So now, what are some of the boundaries? 10:52 You have a daughter and as she's coming into her teen years, 10:58 what are some of the boundaries 11:00 that you might try to lay down for her? 11:03 Sure. Well, this is again. 11:04 This is as we invite her into the process 11:06 because she's a part of the process now. 11:08 My daughter is precious in a lot of ways, 11:10 this is one of them, okay. 11:12 She goes to a Christian school 11:13 which if you can afford it, I recommend it. Amen. 11:15 Because the most mistakes are going to happen 11:18 between about you know, 14 to 24. 11:21 So better the pure group is the better chances 11:24 are you gonna have better outcomes, okay. 11:26 And I am okay with people working little extra 11:29 to get their kids into a Christian environment. Amen. 11:31 You know, I am not with--hey, let's throw these great lambs 11:35 into the wolves and see how they do. 11:37 That's not fair. Okay. 11:39 So anyway that's just my personal preference. 11:41 But, so she goes to Christian school. 11:43 One of her teacher said 11:45 that she made a deal with her daughter 11:47 that if she wait till the end of high school 11:50 that she would give her x-amount of money. 11:53 Wait till the end of high to-- 11:55 Before she kissed. 11:56 Before she kissed. Before she kissed a boy. 11:57 Okay. 11:58 And my daughter is little smart. 11:59 She think I make more money than the health teacher, okay. 12:03 So she comes home, she goes, dad, 12:04 she goes, you know, she tells me a story about this 12:06 and she goes, what do you think about this? 12:08 And I say, well, I tell you what Vanessa, 12:09 I'll give you five times of that amount 12:11 if you wait till high-school. 12:13 I'll give you five times of that amount 12:15 if you wait till college 12:16 and I'll give you five times of that amount 12:18 if you wait till day you are married. Oh, that's good. 12:21 Now see, here' what happened. 12:24 We moved the boundary of what's valuable 12:27 to our family down to the first kiss. 12:32 That's excellent. 12:33 Do you see what I am saying? Yeah. 12:34 So now she has a huge-- she could buy a car 12:38 with how much money if all three of those put together, 12:40 she can buy a car for that money. Okay. 12:43 So she now has a value 12:46 on what that first kiss is from our family. 12:48 So help me real quickly because there's somebody 12:50 that's watching right now. 12:52 Let's say, boy, I wish I can do that, 12:53 I don't have enough money to make that. 12:56 How can I put that same kind of-- 12:58 Wel,l there other ways of doing that. 12:59 I saw a--read an article. My daughter gave me an article. 13:01 She loves purity. She thinks it's a great thing. 13:03 Gave me and article where the couple gave the girl 13:06 a bracelet with about six different stones. 13:07 One was for the first time kiss, first time this, 13:10 first time that all the way to marriage. 13:12 And the story went like this that the girls had to give, 13:16 take the stone out of the bracelet 13:18 and give it to the boy that she had the first 13:22 whatever with which would ruin the bracelet. 13:25 So she started thinking I don't want to ruin my bracelet 13:27 for this little kiss thing, you know. 13:29 So I am going to wait, you know. So there are ways. 13:32 There's other creative ways of thinking through this, okay. 13:34 It's doesn't be just money 13:35 but that is very powerful to teens. Yes. 13:38 Let's face it, they like to have little extra resources. 13:40 And so whatever you come up with 13:42 but they need to buy into the process. 13:45 You know, if you just you coming down on them 13:47 that probably doesn't work. 13:48 You can say here's our values, what do you think, 13:51 where do you want to go with this? 13:52 You can't control your kid's purity, you can't. 13:55 You wish you can. 13:57 All parents fear it but you can't control it. 14:00 So but you can work together on it. 14:02 Say listen, how do you want to do this? 14:04 And you know my children have been exposed to some information 14:06 that other children haven't yet but you can teach them. 14:10 Listen, this is what the enemy wants to do, 14:12 this is what God wants to do with you 14:14 and this purity peace right here 14:16 is gonna be factor in all of your life. 14:19 So how do you want to do that? 14:21 You know, Malachi, I believe that's Malachi Chapter 2. 14:25 You see my Bible that's falling apart. 14:26 This is a scripture that I share with you sometimes 14:30 is that one of the reason that God wants us to be pure 14:35 is that He's looking for Godly offspring. 14:39 Absolutely. You know, He says here. 14:41 Some people, when I've counsel with youth 14:44 who actually somehow some-- 14:47 they weren't in church or their parents didn't talk about 14:50 and they didn't realize that it was important to God. 14:52 But He says in Malachi 2:15, 14:54 He says, talking to the husband and wife, 14:56 "Did God not he make one? 14:58 And why did he make you one and preserve your spirit alive 15:02 so that--" It says, "Why did he make you one 15:06 because He sought a godly offspring from your union. 15:10 Therefore take heed to your spirit." Totally. 15:13 And one thing that you said is that this study that they did, 15:18 this Redbook showed that women who had multiple partners 15:23 before marrying came in with unhealthy attitudes 15:28 about sexuality and about intimacy 15:32 and so they were dissatisfied in their marriage. 15:35 You've said that what scientifically 15:38 and biologically speaking, it's been proven 15:40 that anything that you-- 15:42 if a young man is using pornography. 15:47 He's going to damage himself. He is damage his brain. 15:50 So there are setting everything that they do before marriage-- 15:53 God isn't just sitting there and telling you, 15:56 I am putting these boundaries around you. 15:58 These are just rules and regulations and it's not-- 16:01 we always give these talks bout like STD, 16:04 the sexually transmitted disease 16:06 and we put these little fear factors here on them 16:09 and kids think they are absolutely-- 16:13 That's not going to happen to them 16:14 because that's developmentally 16:15 and unless you don't think these going to happen to you. Yeah. 16:17 That's why they drive fast and do all that kind of stuff. 16:19 So that's not the best deterrent 16:21 but if they understand that the type of thing activity 16:25 that they are becoming involved in before marriage 16:28 could ruin their marriage, could ruin for generations. 16:32 Several things. 16:33 The way things are going on that's-- 16:34 And the thing is here is that, Shelly, that the-- 16:37 the brain doesn't fully develop till 21. Boy. 16:41 So that's why the enemy tries to get them 16:42 when they are 14, 15 and 16 16:44 because it actually goes into the developing brain. 16:48 This isn't a fully mature brain, okay. 16:51 So now these inroads 16:52 are actually in the developmental process 16:56 and they get hooked in there. 16:57 So this is very important for teens to understand. 17:01 Parents, it's very important for you 17:02 to get more information on this 17:03 to shepherd your children to this process. 17:06 We have a DVD called "Shepherding Your Sons" 17:09 because men need to walk through men 17:10 through that whole period from 14 to 24 17:13 or until they get married. 17:15 And shepherd them, not just a little-- 17:17 we had our talk, that one minute talk. 17:20 This is the most powerful thing God has given 17:22 to your son and to your daughter, okay. 17:25 It needs more than a one minute talk, okay. 17:28 And it needs to be shepherded over that period of time 17:31 and have honest dialogue. 17:32 Of course you got to get rid 17:33 of your own shame and stuff like that. 17:35 And one other thing you know, when I do talk to kids 17:37 because a lot kids have made mistakes 17:41 and you can have faith in your mistakes 17:43 or you can have faith in Christ and His blood. 17:46 And I tell kids all time, listen, 17:47 the blood is more powerful than all of your sins, 17:49 all of your family's sins, city sins, state sins, 17:52 nation sins, all nations of the world sins, 17:54 all nation of the world of all time, past, present and future 17:57 that's how powerful the blood is. 17:59 Your little sin didn't put a scar in the blood. 18:02 Right. It's still good. 18:03 The blood is still good. You are forgiven. 18:06 He can still cleanse you. 18:07 I was a mess as an out of lesson. 18:09 I didn't come towards Lord till I was about 19 really as Lord. 18:12 I made lots of mistakes and He has covered those. 18:15 And I had to work through some pain 18:17 and it caused an addiction for me. 18:19 It cost several things with that to clean up 18:21 and it took years to clean that mess up. 18:24 So what I am hoping is, is that teens are listening 18:28 so I don't want to go down that road. 18:29 And it's actually what's happening. 18:30 I think I am looking at our '60s, '70s generation 18:33 and when gosh, you guys can't stay married, 18:35 you can't handle your money, you can't figure out life, 18:37 you can't you know, you can't do life. 18:39 What's the problem? 18:40 So we don't want to go down that road. 18:42 So we're not gonna you know, get ourselves into 18:44 just do what you want, love the one you are with. 18:46 That's nonsense. 18:47 We are waiting for the right person. 18:49 We are waiting to be married. 18:51 And there is this whole absence moment 18:53 that's really been healthy, which is great. 18:55 I'm really proud of those people who are doing that. Amen. 18:58 And we had-- we know there are several couples 18:59 who work here at 3ABN who never kissed till the day-- 19:04 until the moment they said, I do. 19:06 That was their first kiss. Right. 19:07 And they are the happiest and cutest couples. 19:10 I mean, it's precious. 19:11 Now one thing that we don't want to discourage anyone as you said 19:16 the Bible tells us in 1 John 1:9 that if we have sinned 19:20 and if we confess our sin that He is faithful 19:23 and just to forgive us of our sins 19:24 and cleanses us of all unrighteousness. 19:27 So you can be restored but I am thinking 19:31 and is there a practical way you've mentioned before 19:35 that there's great filters for-- 19:38 You defiantly want to block the internet. 19:40 You want to block the internet on your home computer, okay. 19:44 And there's plenty of those out there. 19:47 And also, Shelly, what we need to do is 19:48 deactivate the internet access on our kid's phones. 19:52 One of the most infiltrating ways 19:54 kids are getting into pornography 19:55 is through the telephone, going on the internet. 19:58 Kids are swapping phones, 20:00 they are taking pictures doing inappropriate things. 20:02 This can't happen if you don't have 20:04 internet access on your child's phone. So-- 20:06 Never had stopped so you say that by giving them these phones 20:09 that kids could actually be in schools and watching-- 20:12 You are giving them a porn store 20:13 if you don't block the internet access on there. 20:16 Okay. Mercy. 20:17 And this is very, very common of what's going on. 20:20 So we are in a different culture 20:21 and parents aren't as informed as our kids are. 20:24 You know what I am saying? Yes. 20:25 And so it's time to educate ourselves 20:27 and you know, parents, I just would say to you know, 20:29 look at what you've already told 20:31 you know, your son or your daughter 20:34 and see if that's adequate for the generation they are in, 20:37 not the generation you are in. 20:39 Just saying no, isn't going to do anymore. 20:41 They need to know the body facts, 20:43 they need to know the science 20:45 behind what you are telling them to do. 20:46 And then they tend to make better choices 20:48 because their generation that likes to be informed. 20:52 So give them the information they need to be 20:54 as good of godly young people they can be. 20:57 It's so important that parents look at this 20:58 as their responsibility as a parent 21:02 to make sure this area is taken care of. 21:04 Too long we've been silent in the church 21:06 and too long we've been silent as parents 21:08 and in this now in a critical state. 21:10 You know, I believe very strongly 21:12 that modesty of dress is something 21:14 very important that we teach our youth. 21:17 But it's again, this is science. Okay. 21:19 I draw the brain along these 21:21 and it show, okay, now if a guy who is looking at pornography 21:22 he's already got this neural image towards that. 21:25 So the closer you dress to that 21:28 you will attract the sickest guys in the church 21:31 and in the school and in your neighborhood to you 21:35 because those brains will be attracted. 21:37 So what I tell Lisa listen, if you want to be someone 21:40 who is more safe and picking healthier guys 21:43 dress in such a way that your shape 21:46 of your top or your bottom isn't so obvious. Yes. 21:51 Do you know what I am saying? 21:52 And if you are, you know, jumping around. 21:53 That's, you dressed appropriate 21:55 so that you are not drawing that negative attention to you. 22:00 Let someone else get the sick guys. 22:02 That's good. Do you know what I am saying? 22:03 And I want to tell this story before we end today 22:06 is you know, when I was in high school I wasn't saved. 22:08 And I was really, sadly making bad choices 22:12 in this area of my life, okay. 22:14 And there was a girl I dated, her name was Alisa Cromer. 22:19 Now of all the people I was inappropriate with, 22:21 I don't remember their names. 22:24 I don't remember who they were, 22:26 what we did all but I can tell you about Alisa. 22:28 Because you never had any-- 22:30 I never was inappropriate with her. 22:31 She wouldn't let me, she was actually Christian and I wasn't. 22:33 I think she's actually part where I got saved. 22:35 I think she prayed me in, you know. Praise God. 22:37 But she was pure, she would try to had me 22:40 listen to Christian music and you know, 22:41 and she just wouldn't go anywhere there. Right. 22:45 And she actually just broke up with me 22:46 because like you know, Doug, this is not-- 22:48 that's not means where I am going and, you know. 22:49 But see, I remember her because she had purity. 22:55 She was special. Yeah. 22:57 And so I tell girls all the time, listen, 22:59 if you want to really be remembered 23:00 be the one who doesn't. Amen. 23:04 You now, because that person you know, 23:05 you could still be friends 25 years down the road. Right. 23:09 You see, other people, you can't hang with them all 23:10 because your spouse will think, no, these guys were there, 23:13 you can't so that, you know. 23:15 And so be the one who's remembered 23:17 not only by people you date but be one that God looks down 23:21 and goes, wow, that person I can trust. Amen. 23:27 Because you see, this is an exciting thing 23:29 and we will hop just a little bit 23:30 but a lot of Christians get excited when they can trust God. 23:35 Okay, now for me that's a no greater. 23:37 He's trustworthy. 23:38 He's faithful, He has died for us, 23:40 He rose from dead, He is gloriously responsible. 23:42 Do you know what I am saying? 23:43 So to trusting someone who is gloriously responsible 23:44 isn't exactly a big leap. 23:47 It is for some but I see your point. 23:49 It is for some, it is for some. Yeah. 23:50 Well, what's exciting for me or what I see 23:52 when the Christian walk becomes exciting 23:54 is when God decides to trust you. 23:56 And you proven that you are walking in a manner 23:59 worthy of your calling and He can trust you. 24:01 He says, you know what, I can trust this boy, 24:03 I can trust this young lady and I can give them this. 24:06 You see, what I am saying? 24:08 I can give then this and trust them. 24:10 And so we want our purity in place 24:12 where God can look at us and He can go, well done. Amen. 24:15 Well done good and faithful servant 24:17 and I am gonna give you this blessing. Amen. 24:20 You know you had spoken about one thing that I-- 24:23 when we said that we'd like to do this program, 24:25 I haven't thought about the singles agains. 24:27 We only have a couple of minutes. 24:28 For someone who has been perhaps widowed, maybe divorced 24:35 and they have known physical intimacy with their spouse 24:40 and now they are single again there must be 24:44 probably even more special challenges for them. 24:47 There is more challenges and that's why they need 24:49 a little bit more boundaries, little more safety 24:51 and a little bit more from the church 24:52 to provide that safety. 24:55 And to give those young women and young man or you know, 24:57 sometimes they are young at 40 and 50 and 60, okay. 25:00 And say, you know what, 25:01 we are going to walk with you 25:02 through this together, not alone. Right. 25:06 Because alone they are going to make those bad choices 25:08 and stay up late and do things and kind of isolates 25:11 just like they did when they were teenagers. 25:13 That single again group is very parallel 25:15 to that 15 to 22 group. 25:18 They want to isolate, get alone 25:20 and have accidents and do things. 25:21 And you got to kind of be careful with that. 25:23 And they get really offended when you are honest with them 25:26 about what they are doing 25:27 but we need to be involved. 25:29 You know, this you are saying, 25:32 I am going to reduce it to three simple words 25:34 or four, plan to be pure. 25:36 And so you mention on several occasions 25:39 now this isolation, if you are planning to be pure 25:42 you can't go off with the opposite sex 25:46 and be alone in a secluded place-- 25:50 And expect good things to happen. 25:51 And expect good things to happen. 25:52 Okay. Yeah. 25:53 You got to use this thing that God gave you, okay. 25:56 And see, I tell men-- 25:58 now this is a man talk here but I tell men, 26:01 listen, men are called to protect women, okay. 26:04 and if you are dating a women the first responsibility 26:07 you have is to protect her from you. 26:10 You are dangerous, you are lethal, 26:11 you've got all this energy of hormones. 26:13 You are a lion in a cage, okay. 26:16 you have got to make sure you protect her from you. 26:20 If you protect her from you, 26:22 she will know that you'll protect her from others. 26:24 Oh, that's wonderful. That's excellent advice. 26:25 Do you know what I am saying? 26:27 And the guys get, they go, 26:28 oh, I never thought about protecting her from me. 26:30 You are right, I am a bare man, 26:32 I need to protect her from me. 26:34 So then you have curfews, you have boundaries, 26:37 you won't go certain places alone 26:39 or be alone in each other's apartment 26:41 or dorm room or stuff like that 26:42 because like you know, honey, I got to protect you from me. 26:45 You are really too attractive. 26:46 If I get you alone, I may think improperly. 26:48 So let me keep you in a public contact 26:50 so that we can both be safe. 26:51 That's beautiful. That's wonderful. 26:53 Well, I really, sincerely appreciate you coming back 26:57 and talking to us about this. Sure. 26:58 Because I think this is such an important topic. 27:01 And I never really-- I knew the devil was trying, 27:04 you know, the-- he's trying to destroy our youth 27:08 but I never stopped to think he's-- 27:11 what the ultimate purpose 27:12 is to rob them of their spiritual authority 27:14 Yeah, because if he can do that in this generation 27:16 America will become a lot more secularized like Europe 27:20 and that's the end goal 27:21 of all this sexual onslaught in America. 27:24 And it's not-- I mean, I know we've got 27:25 viewers from around the world watching 27:27 and it's happening pretty much everywhere. 27:30 Dr. Douglas Wise, thank you so much for joining us today. 27:32 It's good to be here, Shelly, thank you. 27:34 I hope that you've learned something today 27:36 that you can share with the youth in your life 27:39 or the single again but this is something 27:41 that we know this is God's will is for our purity. 27:46 And it doesn't matter whether you are a married couple 27:48 and remaining in your thought process of spirit 27:51 or if you are single. 27:52 Just practice God's plan. Plan to be pure. |
Revised 2014-12-17