Hello, I'm Shelley Quinn
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and welcome again
to Issues and Answers.
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Today our issue is
going to be women's fears.
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But men don't tune out
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because you've all
got women in your life
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and there're certain fears
that are common among many women
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and you may want to know
how to give a word to the weary,
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to give them some
really sound scriptural advice.
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Let me share a
scripture with you
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that applies to all of us
and it comes from Isaiah 43.
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I'm going to begin with verse 1
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and one of my favorite
passages of scriptures.
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And this is the Lord speaking.
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He says "Fear not,
for I have redeemed you,
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I have called you by
your name, you are mine.
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When you pass
through the waters,
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I will be with you,
and through the rivers,
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they will not overwhelm you,
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when you walk through the fire
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you will not be
burned or scorched
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nor with the
flame kindle up on you,
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for I am the Lord your
God, the Holy One of Israel."
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God doesn't want
us to live in fear.
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He wants us to know that
we're precious in His sight.
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He did not give
us the spirit of fear
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but a spirit of love and
power and self discipline.
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And here today to talk to us
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about women's
issues is Derry James.
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And Derry is a, has
a doctorate in divinity
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and you also specialize
in Christian counseling.
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You're the chaplain for the
Sierra Nevada Memorial Hospital
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in Grass Valley, California.
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You got this
time, Shelley. I got it.
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I always say
grass something else.
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I knew you do. I never--
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but anyway, Derry, welcome back.
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We're so glad that you
could come back with us again.
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Thank you, it's good to be here.
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It's always good to come
home to some of the friends
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that I don't get
to see all the time
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and enjoy everybody's company.
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I'm glad that you
could call it home.
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That's good that
you feel at home here
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because we feel like
you're part of the 3ABN family.
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You know, I want to
encourage our viewers--
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we're going to
be talking about--
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since we can't go into
an in depth presentation
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on fear, woman's fears
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we're going to
kind of group them
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into several
different areas or categories.
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And I want to encourage
you to get a pen and paper
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because Derry is going to give
you some scriptures promises
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that have to do with each
one of these categories of fear.
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So Derry, with no further ado
let me turn this over to you.
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Okay.
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Well, let me tell
you a precipitated
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this whole
presentation as we talked about
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and decided that
this was something
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we want to talk about.
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And that's the women of
all ages that come to me
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that particularly are
fearful of being alone at night.
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I'm amazed at how many women
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are frightened with that.
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And that was catalyst
that started this whole thing
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going as began
listening for other fears
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that women have in common.
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So I have grouped them together.
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Let me just give
you the group to start
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with then we'll go back
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and we'll talk about
them a little more, okay.
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So in our first group
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we're going to talk
about physical safety.
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And under that
that's the possibility
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for women of abuse or rape,
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the fear of being alone at night
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or even having vehicle problems
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particularly in
night and getting stranded.
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And we could add a
lot of other things to it.
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So we're just, we're
highlighting, okay. Okay.
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And then the second group
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we're going to
talk about security,
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financial job
security or provisions
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like housing, food,
utilities, healthcare
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and also being
taken advantage off.
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Like if a woman needs a
car repair or house repairs
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and that kind of things.
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So being taken advantage of.
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And our third
group being isolated,
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that's having a
desire for friends
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but being alone, stand single
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and wanting a companion
and then not being fooled
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or coerced into
a new relationship.
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Lot of women are really--
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that is something
people talk about a lot.
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So you have the
fear of being alone
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and not having a companion
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but then you have the fear
of getting the wrong companion,
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and being fooled.
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Okay and not
being loved your lovable
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and then if
there is single parent
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attempting to be both mom
and dad to their children.
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And then the fourth group
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is developing addictive
behaviors or health issues
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and doing that just
to numb the pain of life
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or fighting illness or
life threatening diseases
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and then they're giving up.
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I can't just do this anymore.
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So those are the categories
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we're going to take in my
main purpose today Shelley,
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is may be this show
to share a few stories
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where I've been
in similar situations
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and how God has kept His word,
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filled His promise
and how God has blessed me
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but also particularly to give
our viewers some Bible promises
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that when they're going
through any of these things
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they can turn to
personalized scripture
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present to God and
claim for fulfillment. Amen.
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So in our first group
which is physical safety
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and that's the possibility
of abuse or rape or fear
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of being alone at night
and vehicle problems and so on
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these are the texts that
I would like to share. Okay
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Psalms 34:7, I hope you
got your pencil and paper
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and you'll write these down.
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And some of these
texts will be on the screen
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for you but no tall of them.
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So listen carefully, please.
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Psalms 34:7, "The
angel of the Lord encampeth
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round about them that
fear him, and delivereth them."
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Now that takes care of us
pretty much wherever we are.
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Deuteronomy 31:6, 8 says,
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"I will never leave
you or forsake you."
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And I think the graphical
will probably be up for that one
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because that is
a powerful promise.
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Psalms 4:8, and ladies,
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if you're fearful of being
alone at night they're two--
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these next two are
especially for you.
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And I can remember
the time that Shelley,
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I was afraid to
go at sleep at night.
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And this is when I
had children at home
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and when I was married
and my husband was gone.
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Terrible of fear you've
even opening the backdoor
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and going out and to the night
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to take care of
anything on the deck.
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And as I came
before God and said,
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you know, fear is not of you.
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I don't need this.
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You know and came
against it in the name of Jesus.
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And the Lord
removed that fear from me
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and then clung
to these promises.
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I'm by myself now.
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When I hear a noise outside
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and this is the
promise that I cling to.
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And it is Psalms 4:8.
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"I will lie down and
sleep in peace, for You alone,
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O Lord, make me
dwell in safety."
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And likewise in
Job 11:18, 19 it says,
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"You will be secure,
because there is hope,
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you will look about you
and take your rest in safety.
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You will lie down, and no
one will make you afraid."
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You know, sometimes I
just post Jesus at the door.
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I say, You're at the door
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and no one can
enter except through You.
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And this is Your
home I need to sleep.
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You promised to encampeth
your angels around about me
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and I'm going
to sleep now, Lord.
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Amen. You know, that's something
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that I don't think I have
ever been a very fearful person
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that may have
something to do I don't know.
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And the fact
that I'm 6 feet tall.
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That could
possibly have something
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may be the smaller you are
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but then I've just lived
alone a great deal of my life
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and was very
adventurous and going out.
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So it is lovely though to know
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that you had the
presence of the Lord with you.
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My sister to just
recently was taking a bus trip
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and got to a bus station
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and when she got there it
was gonna be a five hour layover
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and the bus
station was gonna close
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and just post them outside.
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And there were
two men from prison
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that had just been released.
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And she is all fearful
and she called me and I said,
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you know, I was
claiming some of these promises
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over her and others.
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And said, I know God is
going to take care of you.
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And then she called
me back few hours later
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and said the Lord sent a soldier
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who was a Christian and she said
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they had a marvelous time
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just talking about
the Lord all the time.
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So God she said, and
it was that as soon as
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you hung up praying assuring me
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how God was gonna make
provision that here He came.
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And I do believe that God
puts in our life's to help us
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not be so fearful sometimes.
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Well, there are sometimes
that we have life experiences
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that put us into
the spirit of fear.
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I have had my home
not where I'm right now
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but I've had a couple of times
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people have tried
to break into my home.
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Yeah, I've had that.
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So, you know, that
just kind of threatens
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your security a little bit
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but those were also the times
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that I wasn't claiming
the promises for peaces
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I went to sleep either.
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So there is, there is a
peace, there is security
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and trusting our
evening with the Lord
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and starting it that
way before something happens
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just asking God
to take charge of it.
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And you know I just
make a one point here.
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We're not glossing over.
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Some people live in fear
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because there are in
very fearful situations
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if they're being
physically abused.
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And sometimes it takes more than
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just claiming
the promises of God.
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If you're an abusive situation
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you should seek help and seek
help and seek a way of escape.
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Because that's not something
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that we just claim promises
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and I mean God
gives us common sense
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and He gives us away out
of these situations as well.
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Exactly and thank you
I was just about to bring
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that out but you and I
think on the same track.
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I know we--
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So if one doesn't
cover the other will.
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So that's perfect way,
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absolutely don't want
anyone jeopardize their life.
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All right. And
there are situations
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where people should
have left a long time ago
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because their life is
being threatened, absolutely.
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Okay shall we go
onto the second group?
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Sure. All right.
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So the second
group is about security
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and that's financial security,
job security, provisions,
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house food, utilities,
healthcare or being taken
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advantage of when you get
any car or house repair done.
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Particularly for
a woman its like,
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sometimes you feel like
you're just easy target.
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You don't know the
right questions to ask.
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And you obviously walk
in and they got you pegged.
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She doesn't
know a lot about this
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so where can we get away with.
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So there are some, there
are some good promises for that.
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But I would like to
just a share a little bit.
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Let's do with
financial and job security.
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When I first went
through my divorce
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which you know saddens
me that I have to even say
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because that isn't
God's perfect plan for us.
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But when I did God
already knew what was going on
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and God had
provided me the opportunity
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to get through school
and set me in a position,
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you know where I would have
a job to take care of myself.
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And I don't know that
would have not have happened
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if I had not been already tuned
in to spending time with God
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and listening for His direction.
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Because you were
married and had number of boys.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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And the Lord
just really impressed
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you to go back to school
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and of all things
you were too excited
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when the Lord
first told you that you--
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He wanted you to be a chaplain.
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Well, the chaplain
part was fine though
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but to going back to
school is the thing I bought at
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and to start with wherever I go.
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Why am I going
back to school now?
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You know I why do
I need to do this?
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But it's as we
spend time with God,
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as we're willing
to listen to His voice
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and whether what He says to us
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makes sense or not if
we don't argue but we obey.
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Sometimes it's a
huge, hugely by faith.
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Sometimes the things that
we think God asks us to do
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go completely against
where we are in our trust issues
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of Him or with other people
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it goes against
what we think our life
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is going to be in the
future where everything--
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the direction that
looks like its going.
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Yes. It's so
diametrically opposed
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to what everything
around us seems to be suggesting
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and God is saying go do this.
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You're thinking for what?
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Like how does
this fit into anything.
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Telling Abraham
to "Get out of her,
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get out of the
country and get into--
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you know you're go into a
land that you know not aware."
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But it's amazing.
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But as we obey obviously
God has the bigger picture.
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Obviously, God
knew that my whole life
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was about to just
crash and fall apart.
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And if I had not by faith
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lacking understanding
moved forward and obeyed Him
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I never would have been
ready to take care of myself.
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You know, I just have to
insert a quick comment here.
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We have a young
lady who works here.
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She's a dear friend of
ours and she came from same area
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that we were living in Texas.
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And she went
through a nasty divorce,
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lost everything that she'd
come into this marriage with.
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I mean everything.
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And she--when she came to
work we took her to ASI with us
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and she was
introduced to 3ABN, moved here.
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And when she came to 3ABN
had nothing, I mean nothing.
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She had lost everything
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and she'd worked very
hard for all of her life
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and giving up the career and all
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to go into this marriage.
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So everything she
would work for was gone.
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Her home, her car, her
vehicles and everything.
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And her
companion. And her companion.
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And she came here and
I have never seen anybody
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walk by faith more
and just be content
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with what she had, just happy
to have a safe environment.
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And she was never
complaining and I thought,
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you know, I think I
could have felt a little bit
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sorry for myself if I just
lost everything and had nothing.
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And I watched in just
within about 18 months
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how her walking by faith
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and just saying
God's my provider.
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He is my Jehovah-Jireh.
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I watched how the Lord
met her where her faith was.
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And she claimed His
promises, didn't murmur,
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didn't complaint
and God has restored
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just like in the story of Job
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when Job quit complain and
start praying for his friends.
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God restore to
him a double portion
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and He has restored
to her a double portion.
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And it's amazing.
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Well, you know
there's power in praise. Amen.
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We're told there's
power in praise. Absolutely.
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And when we surrender to God
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and praise Him in all things
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somehow opens
the windows of heaven
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as well as because as
peace and empowerment.
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Exactly. We're
back those words again.
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Well, let's go back to
some more examples here
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and if so that we get this in.
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Sometimes we're
worried about whether or not
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we're gonna have food on
the table or have enough food.
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And I just-- I don't know
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that I have
shared this here at 3ABN.
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I know that I read the
devotional on it for our book.
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But just want to share
with our viewers the time
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that I was having a
group of young people come over
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to the house for lunch.
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And we were going to be studying
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how to claim Bible promises
and sharing answers to prayer
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because they have the first week
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and they were
supposed to be applying it.
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Now why my faith
was strong in some areas
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but not in others at
that time, I don't' know.
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Nevertheless, I
didn't think any young people
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are gonna show up.
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So I only made a
small portion of food
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but also my
finances where very limited.
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And when I got home
there is this string of cars
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behind me for two
blocks and I'm thinking oh, no.
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I just have this
medium sized crock pot
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full of little wheat
balls for this group.
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Lord, I don't enough.
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And so because the
only promise at that time
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I could think of
was, Lord, you multiplied
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the fish and lobes and
you can multiply this to me.
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And I remember the
first couple of young people
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that went through
line they had to think,
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this lady had us all over.
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She has got more
food in the kitchen
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and I didn't and
they loaded their plates.
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And I just went oh, no.
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And I just said Father,
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I'm just trusting
You to multiply this food
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and I'm not gonna
go in the kitchen,
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I'm not even gonna look.
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So I went into the kitchen
and pretty soon I hear is,
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"Derry, aren't you
gonna come join us?"
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And I come in, and the
crock pot is half full.
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Now, and I'm not
saying half empty,
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I'm saying it as half full
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because the Lord
kept that crock pot full.
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And all of these young people
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there must have
been 25 or 30 went back
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and had seconds and when
we were all finished eating
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they were like two little bowls
at the bottom of that crock pot.
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Just smiling I'm saying
there was enough for everybody.
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You know, I have heard,
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I have heard stories
on 3ABN of missionaries
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who have experienced
this and young people
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who went out to
feed the homeless
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and realized that
three times as many people
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have shown up as
they've expected.
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And we don't-- a lot of times
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we don't expect those
kinds of miracles to take.
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But God is still on the miracle
working business, isn't it?
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He is a miracle
working God, absolutely.
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And I think the other thing
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we need to remember
just like with Joseph.
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God means things for good. Yes.
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God means things for
good and we need to trust
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that even at our deepest need,
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at our deepest pain level
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and at our deepest anxiety level
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of whatever is
going on in our life
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that God does mean it for good.
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And God is faithful
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and He has not
only our best interest
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but our eternal welfare.
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Exactly. And mind.
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So I need to
share these promises
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with our viewers, Shelley.
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Okay. And they
are powerful promises.
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So again hope you
have your pencil and paper
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and if you would
write down 2 Kings 17:39.
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That is, "Worship
the Lord your God,
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it is He who will deliver you
from the hand of your enemies."
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That might be good one
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if you think you're gonna be
taking advantage of you repairs.
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And actually I
have got to tell a story
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about this real quick, Shelley.
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My roof was leaking
and I got bills to redo
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my roof $18,000-20,000.
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I thought this is
unbelievable, I can't do this.
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And I didn't. You know, I
just prayed and I said Lord,
00:19:07.14\00:19:10.79
this is Your house I
have dedicated to You.
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You're the one that
told me to buy this place.
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You're my husband
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this is really
your responsibility
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I'm just the steward
and I just I'm claiming
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your word to take care of this.
00:19:21.72\00:19:24.51
And God had me
do memorial service
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where I wasn't
going to say, yes.
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And a gentleman came up
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and introduced to himself
and said hi, I'm so and so.
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I'm roofer and I
have done it 20 years
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and I just love it.
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And I was like,
why did I say that.
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Anyway long
stories short Shelley,
00:19:39.73\00:19:42.04
my roof is just
now being finished
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for just a little over $2000.
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Oh, glory to God.
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And I have an old truck
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that he would like very much
00:19:49.15\00:19:50.31
to take an exchange
for part of that payment.
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Glory to God.
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So if you have any
question is to whether or not
00:19:53.55\00:19:55.83
God can't take care of
your repairs or can or will.
00:19:55.86\00:19:59.74
You just need to
get on your knees
00:19:59.77\00:20:01.39
and spent a few minutes with Him
00:20:01.42\00:20:02.88
and claim Him as your husband.
00:20:02.91\00:20:04.94
So another promise,
Lamentations 3:20-26
00:20:04.97\00:20:10.74
"God's mercy is
new every morning.
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It is good to wait
and hope for the Lord."
00:20:13.34\00:20:16.46
And Deuteronomy 28:12
00:20:16.49\00:20:19.21
"The Lord shall open
unto thee his good treasure,
00:20:19.24\00:20:22.16
the heaven to give rain
unto the land in his season,
00:20:22.19\00:20:26.55
and to bless all
the work of thine hand
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and thou shalt
lend unto many nations,
00:20:29.56\00:20:32.35
and thou shalt not borrow."
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Now He wants us to be
the head not the tail.
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That's right.
00:20:35.86\00:20:37.49
Jeremiah 33:3
says, "Call unto me,
00:20:37.52\00:20:40.19
and I will answer thee,
00:20:40.22\00:20:41.85
and show the
great and mighty things,
00:20:41.88\00:20:44.01
which thou knowest not."
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Zechariah 2:8
says "He that touches,
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you touches the
apple of his eye."
00:20:49.93\00:20:52.09
So Jesus isn't gonna
let anybody touch you.
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Joshua 23:3 "And ye
have seen all that the Lord
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your God hath
done because of you,
00:21:00.55\00:21:03.61
for the Lord your God that
is he that hath fought for you."
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Amen. And the powerful promise
00:21:07.68\00:21:10.28
that I held on to
with the lot these stories
00:21:10.31\00:21:13.58
that have shared
with you here today
00:21:13.61\00:21:15.06
and other times
which is the promise
00:21:15.09\00:21:17.42
that brought me
into this relationship
00:21:17.45\00:21:19.98
with intimacy with
Jesus is the one in Matthew 6.
00:21:20.01\00:21:23.94
Starting with
verse 24 through 34
00:21:23.97\00:21:26.87
that talks about how
Jesus will care for the birds,
00:21:26.90\00:21:30.74
will care for the
lilies of the field
00:21:30.77\00:21:32.26
and certainly He
will care for us.
00:21:32.29\00:21:34.21
And if we seek for
His the kingdom of God
00:21:34.24\00:21:36.79
and His righteousness
all of these things
00:21:36.82\00:21:39.33
will be added on to us.
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That's right. Powerful comments.
00:21:40.80\00:21:41.98
And that something
the Lord that proves
00:21:42.01\00:21:43.94
over and over in
my life. Absolutely.
00:21:43.97\00:21:47.55
And then we have the
promise in Malachi 3:10
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that's the tithe paying promise
00:21:49.87\00:21:51.74
that if we bring the tithes
00:21:51.77\00:21:53.06
under the storehouse
that God will open up
00:21:53.09\00:21:55.69
the windows of
heaven and pour the blessing
00:21:55.72\00:21:57.62
so big we won't
have them to receive it.
00:21:57.65\00:21:59.78
And let me just tell
you He does all the time
00:21:59.81\00:22:03.16
over and over if we trust
in Him and fill that condition.
00:22:03.19\00:22:09.27
Okay, Shelley.
00:22:09.30\00:22:10.80
So we're on to group
3 about being isolated.
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Okay and this is
when we have a desire
00:22:14.74\00:22:16.68
for friendship or companions
00:22:16.71\00:22:19.16
and we're worried
about staying single or not
00:22:19.19\00:22:23.34
and that we want to be fooled
by having wrong relationships
00:22:23.37\00:22:27.30
or having someone convinces us
00:22:27.33\00:22:29.54
that we need to be in their life
00:22:29.57\00:22:31.85
and we don't
and not being loved.
00:22:31.88\00:22:35.28
The feeling of being loved
or not even feeling lovable
00:22:35.31\00:22:38.58
because of past experience
not being cherished before
00:22:38.61\00:22:42.87
and not
understanding that we're loved
00:22:42.90\00:22:47.50
or feeling
loved that set's us up
00:22:47.53\00:22:49.29
for just a series of
failures in our life.
00:22:49.32\00:22:53.00
So it's going
back again to not being
00:22:53.03\00:22:56.71
so concerned about
being loved by a human being
00:22:56.74\00:23:00.09
but understanding our value
00:23:00.12\00:23:02.16
and how much we
are loved by Lord
00:23:02.19\00:23:05.14
and then again if
we're single parent
00:23:05.17\00:23:08.15
attempting to be both
mom and dad to our children.
00:23:08.18\00:23:11.63
Which is near impossible.
00:23:11.66\00:23:13.45
You can't do
it. You can't do it.
00:23:13.48\00:23:14.88
Just can't do it, no
matter how hard do we try.
00:23:14.91\00:23:17.88
So let's down some
scripture references
00:23:17.91\00:23:19.70
for that for you to help you
00:23:19.73\00:23:21.34
with some of those situations.
00:23:21.37\00:23:23.93
In Hosea 2:19, 20 God says,
00:23:23.96\00:23:27.08
"I will betroth
thee unto me for ever,
00:23:27.11\00:23:30.55
in righteousness,
judgment, lovingkindness,
00:23:30.58\00:23:33.26
and mercy and you
shalt know the Lord."
00:23:33.29\00:23:35.82
And I'm not quoting
the whole text for you
00:23:35.85\00:23:37.62
and giving you kind of
a summary statement of it.
00:23:37.65\00:23:40.36
And then Isaiah 44:3 is,
00:23:40.39\00:23:42.37
"I will pour my
spirit upon your seed
00:23:42.40\00:23:45.80
and my blessing
upon your offspring."
00:23:45.83\00:23:48.74
We love our children
but God loves them more.
00:23:48.77\00:23:51.37
Absolutely. And God desires that
they spend eternity with Him.
00:23:51.40\00:23:55.50
So He will take
care of our children.
00:23:55.53\00:23:58.61
You know, isn't it
easy for us to talk like
00:23:58.64\00:24:01.49
we can say that
to other people that,
00:24:01.52\00:24:03.51
you know, God
loves you more than
00:24:03.54\00:24:04.85
anyone else here on this earth.
00:24:04.88\00:24:06.90
And yet sometimes we
have a hard time believing
00:24:06.93\00:24:09.75
that about ourselves
that how much God loves us.
00:24:09.78\00:24:13.14
And I don't think
that we can really enjoy
00:24:13.17\00:24:15.25
that intimacy of relationship
with God that He wants to have
00:24:15.28\00:24:19.75
until we really begin
to get a vision of the love
00:24:19.78\00:24:23.66
that He has for us.
00:24:23.69\00:24:24.87
John wrote in 1
John that we love Him
00:24:24.90\00:24:27.99
because He first
loved us and I think
00:24:28.02\00:24:30.30
that it's as we
understand God's love
00:24:30.33\00:24:34.40
we begin to
respond to God's love.
00:24:34.43\00:24:37.04
And then if we understand
our worth and value to Him
00:24:37.07\00:24:42.73
don't you think
that we have a tendency
00:24:42.76\00:24:45.04
not to be as hoodwinked in
relationships with other people?
00:24:45.07\00:24:49.35
Absolutely but on
the flipside of that
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I don't think that we can truly
embrace an intimate relationship
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with someone else in
either give or receiving love
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very effectively until we
have realize our value in Christ
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and how much Christ loves us.
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I think when we understand
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that I think it
makes all the difference
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in our relationships completely.
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Because, if you
have that sense of value,
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if you know how
much Jesus loves you,
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you're not easily offended
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and you don't
easily defend yourself.
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You don't need to.
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You don't need to
because you already know
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that you're the apple of
His eye and that He loves you.
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It's good. It's good.
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Okay, Romans 8:26, 27,
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"The Spirit helps
us in our weakness,
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searches our heart
and intercedes for us
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in accordance to God's will."
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So when we don't even
know what to ask for Shelley,
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we can count on this promise
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with the Holy
Spirit interceding for us.
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And a powerful promise
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that I found is
Deuteronomy 30:5-9
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"Circumcising our hearts
and the hearts of our children."
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And Genesis 2:18 "It is
not good for man to be alone."
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That was out of God's mouth.
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"I will make a
help mat for him."
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And Isaiah 54:4-10, that
"God will be your husband."
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Amen. Well, we're
running out of time.
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I see that we're
running out of time.
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So let's leave with
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.
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Two are better than
one for the section.
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I'm going to
quickly talked about
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developing addictive behaviors
and worried about disease.
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And Isaiah 14:3 says
"The Lord will give us rest
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from our sorrow from
fear and heart bondage."
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And Isaiah 40:31 it
says "Wait upon the Lord
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and He will renew your
strength walk and not faint."
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And in Proverbs 4:20, 21 it says
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"God's word is life
to those that find them
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and health to the whole body."
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And you know one of
my favorite scripture
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promises for bad addictions
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and that fear is Psalm
129:4 that "Lord is righteous,
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He will cut you free
from the cord of the wicked."
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Derry, thank you so
much for being with us today.
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You have shared a
lot of Bible promises
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that are life
giving and empowering.
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It was good to be
with you. Thank you.
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And we have to
remember that God's plan
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is for good for
us for the future.
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Absolutely. You know,
for those of you at home
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she is quoting Jeremiah 29:11
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that God has a
plan for your life.
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It's a plan to
prosper you, not to harm you.
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But to give you
hope in the future.
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And I think that His plan
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is better than the
one that we're living.
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So we always need
to continue to look
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to the Lord and seek
His plan for our life.
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Now, may the grace of
our Lord Jesus Christ,
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the love of the Father
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and the
fellowship of the Holy Spirit
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be with you today and everyday
for the rest of your lives.
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Thank you.
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