Hello, I'm Shelley
Quinn and welcome again to
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Issues and Answers.
Do you find yourself
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starved for time,
finding difficulty in
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putting boundaries
in your life so that you
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have balance in your
life? I know I do and I'm
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so glad that we are
going to be talking about
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time management today,
specifically boundaries
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and balance. Let me share a
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scripture with you,
it comes from Ephesians
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chapter 5 and this
is verses 15 and 16 from
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the amplified Bible.
Listen carefully it says,
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Look carefully
then how you walk!
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Live purposefully and
worthily and accurately,
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not as the unwise
and witless, but is wise.
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Making the very
most of the time,
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because the days
are evil. The Bible is
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counseling us to
consider how we're living our
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lives and we have
returning with us today
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someone who has
really got a lot of personal
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experience in learning
how to develop boundaries
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and gain balance back in her
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life and that is Linda Schultz.
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Linda, thank you so
much for coming back all
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the way from
Spokane, Washington.
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Now many people know
you as the Vice President
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of Transforming
Lives for Christ,
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you work with Cynthia Prime,
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we're very thrilled
to have you back here
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and let me ask you a question,
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we talked during the
last program that you
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were with us a
little bit about your
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personal testimony,
can you just kind of
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give us that in a
nut shell again today for
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people who don't know
you. Tell us why gaining,
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learning how to
set boundaries and gain
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balance in your
life was so important.
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Well, what I found
in my life was that I
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had let people provide
the control for my life
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rather then Christ
and I had detached more
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and more from my
relationship and my
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commitment to him
and I had increased the
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demands that were
coming in from the church.
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I'm a pastor's wife
and there was much to
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be done and I love
working with people and
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I allowed that to take control.
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But it was after
that, that I then discovered
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through the process of
becoming so empty because
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I didn't have Christ
in my life giving not
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refilling that I ended
up going through anger,
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resentment and
depression and then coming out
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of that realizing that
I had nothing to do with
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this people but the
fact that I had lost that
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connection with
Christ and was then able to
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reconnect and I would
just like to share a text
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here that probably
most, I think it very
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realistically states
exactly how I felt which
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is Ecclesiastes 2:11,
it says then I looked on
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all the works that
my hands had wrought,
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and on the labor
that I had labored to do;
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and behold, all was vanity and
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vexation of spirit,
and there was no profit
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under the sun. Amen, amen.
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It was through that
process of coming to
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that and then realizing
I was so empty and then
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ending up transitioning,
thank the Lord for my
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husband into a
good counselor so that
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I could get help that
I was then able to put
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aside the demands
of society and start
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reconnecting
with my savior. Amen.
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And something we
learned last time that I
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really appreciated
here you were a nurse,
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a mother of two
young elementary students,
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a pastor's wife,
entertaining in your
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home all the time and
what your counselor had you
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do is empty your life
of your busyness learn
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how to say no
without guilt and come to the
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Lord and learn to
rest, that's right,
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and it was beautiful
how he led you in all that.
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What, the bottom
line was you had time that
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you weren't managing,
the Lord wasn't managing
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it was being
surrendered to everyone else.
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That's correct,
so let's talk about
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today how you learned
to set boundaries in your
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life so that you
actually ended up
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with balancing.
Well I like to address
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probably three areas
that we find or and I found
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most distinctly
happens when we don't
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manage our time,
yeah, and when I say that
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I say that in the
context that when I'm talking
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about managed time
I'm talking about managed
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time with Christ at
the head, Amen, amen.
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Unmanaged time means
we aren't in control,
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typically somebody
else is in control,
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so one of the first
ways we see it is unmanaged
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time surrenders to the
demands of all emergencies
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and there's probably
not one of us that haven't
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had that time
when something comes up
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there is emergencies
that take place and we
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feel we are the
person for the cause, right,
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and we have to step in
where the cure or we got
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in a call and
we're supposed to be they
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desperately need us
on that committee or an
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emergency has come
up and it needs to be,
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their attention
needs to be paid now. Amen.
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And you know we
forget that the Lord
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is as close as par away
from us and we surrender
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too often our time
to all these little
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emergencies and I'm
reminded of the story of
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Lazarus death,
yes. If we want to talk
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about an emergency
there was an emergency.
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Lazarus was
dying where was Jesus,
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he was told he was
to come but Jesus put
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that off and I think
it was meant for many
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reasons but I
think one of them was to
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demonstrate that
we don't have to,
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not every emergency
is one that we need to
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respond immediately to
because there could be,
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if we are connected
with the father there could
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be a reason
that we need to wait,
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there could be
something else that's going to
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be done in that
person's life or on that
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committee where there
is another person that
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needs to come into
play at that time, Amen,
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that's why we need to
be in tune to make sure
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that we aren't
always stepping in where
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maybe God doesn't want us.
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You know this is
something that what
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you just said strikes
me is that often people
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who are gifted or
talented are called upon
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particularly in
church to say, yes,
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we've got 20
percent of the people who do
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80 percent of the
work, that's right and what
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will happen is
because you have gotten into
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an habit of doing
these type of things,
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stepping in to fill
on the committees in
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the board and
this, that and the other
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what happens is if
you always allow someone
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else to manipulate
your time by saying we've
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got to have you,
you could actually
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be robbing someone
else of that opportunity
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that the Lord may want
to raise up in the church,
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that's correct,
to stand up there,
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exactly, God does have
purposes for us in saying
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no and we should
just realize he sees the
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end from the
beginning, that's right,
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right we don't. That's right,
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that's right and
sometimes it's a process,
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sometimes it's a
process in which we need to
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allow maybe
whatever is occurring,
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if it's a crises maybe
in a family or something
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or someone
perceives we need to step
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in right away, so
often that's dangerous,
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that is especially
dangerous ground to
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go into without
making sure that we
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submitted that to God, Amen,
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because those are
the kinds of times we
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definitely need his
wisdom and discernment
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if we are to be
part of that process.
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So we just need to be
sure we are connected,
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make sure that if
we are to be a part of
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that we have, we're going in his
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strength and in
his wisdom and not
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in our own, Amen.
And I like what you said
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that its unmanaged
time is anytime that he's
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not in control, that's right,
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so what are some of
the other things that you
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found about unmanaged time?
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The other thing I
noticed is that it gets
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invested in things that
gain public acclamation,
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its interesting that
we are more likely to give
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our unbudgeted time
to events that will bring
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the most immediate
and greatest praise.
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Give me some
examples of what you are
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talking about?
Well, for instance when
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you get the call on
the phone and somebody
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wants you to be the
chairman of the board,
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the school
board let's say, okay,
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well you feel very
honored that they would
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consider you for such
a position and so often
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what you do is or I
found even that I would
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be doing I would be
doing is that I would
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look at the position
and I start thinking about
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it and think wow that
will be fun thing to do.
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I think I could do
it and I start thinking
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within myself
without including God in
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the conversation,
and that's where the
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problem rises
because we don't want to go
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anywhere that God
doesn't go with us, Amen.
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Because we have to
do it in his strength,
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when he commands he enables,
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otherwise we step
out of step with him.
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So, one of the things
is then if we are looking
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at that public acclamation
which we all have that
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tendency to
appreciate recognition,
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let's put it that way.
So what you're saying is
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time that we are
managing ourselves which is
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unmanaged time
because God is not in control,
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that's right, we
can then go beyond
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where he wants us to
be where our life gets
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out of balance then
more of these types of
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things that we
accept. That's correct,
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that's correct, that's right
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and you know its not
a matter of choosing the
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good from the bad
it's the matter of choosing
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the best from all of
the good and it's a matter
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of including God in
that. Keeping him in that
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equation because
for the most part we are
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involved in very
good things when we take a
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look at our lives,
you know we're good people
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we want to do
what's right but we become
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overburdened with what
we choose to allow come,
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what we choose to
allow coming into our lives.
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What can I
relate to what you are
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saying right
now, so essentially if
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we are not allowing
God to manage our time
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what we end up
doing is sacrificing our
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time to others, is that correct?
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That's correct,
because we either
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choose to give our
time to the Lord and work
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with him where we find
our joy or we relinquish
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it to others and
they are in control and we
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essentially turn our
control over to those
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other people.
So, so when who do we
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most likely I mean who
is the one if we are not
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giving it to God.
Who in our life is
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the one that is
taking control without
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us recognizing it?
Interestingly enough
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dominant people in
our world and I think we
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probably all experienced that,
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someone that you get a
lot of pressure from that
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you must do
this, you are the only
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one that can do this, I
need you to do this very
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and we have a sense that we're,
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we feel the
pressure of needing to submit
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and to acknowledge
that we're willing to do
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whatever it is they
would like and you know
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its in those times that
we are on very dangerous
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territory because
again if we're not submitting
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it to the Lord and
making sure it's where he
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wants us to go we
are gonna be walking that
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path alone in our
own power and that's why
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I love the verse
where we are told that Jesus
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stands at the door
and he knocks and he wants
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to come in and he
wants to dine with us and
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I love because that
means He is coming in
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not just to, not just to
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hear about our, not just to come
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into our home, He
wants to sit down,
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He wants us to
lay before him on a,
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He wants us to lay out
before him all of our day
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activities and then
He and I together can
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discuss where he wants
me, where he can use me
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best and its when we do that,
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that we get accomplished
what needs to be done.
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Its been reported
that Martin Luther said
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the busier his day
was when people would say
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you do not have time for prayer,
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he said the busier
my day is the longer I
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take in the morning
because the more I know
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I need it and there is
a lot of truth in that.
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If you lay it out
before the Lord he will order
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your steps and
you can count on being
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empowered to do what
he is calling you to do
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that day and sometimes I even,
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I prayed for,
when I pray for divine
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appointments the
Lord always gives me.
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That's right, that's right,
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someone else once said
that Jesus went from place
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of prayer to
place of prayer and did
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miracles in
between, oh! I like that,
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and I love it, I
think of it in practical
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life for me today I
should be going from
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place to prayer to
place to prayer and doing his
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bidding in
between, that's beautiful.
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Jesus was and as
you have learned the
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perfect role model for
time management and you
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mentioned that before
the program I'm interested
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to hear in how the
Lord has led you and what
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he has taught you from the word?
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He is, he is just beautiful,
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you know that's the
beauty of scripture and
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the demonstration of
his life because if you
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go back and you look
through it you realize
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that he is so well
provided for us a role
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model in so many
different areas but he did it
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also in time management.
One of the first things
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I noticed is
that he actually knew
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his own limits.
Now I know that comes
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a little bit funny
because we don't think of
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Christ in terms
of having limits but
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interestingly enough
he knew that he had to be
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before his Father in
the morning before he go
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forth with His day. He was,
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He could not go out
without that connection,
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in fact in Mark
1:35, let me just read
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this for you,
Now in the morning,
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having risen a long
while before daylight,
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He went out and
departed to a solitary place;
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and there He
prayed. First thing before
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anything else and
what is interesting is the
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verse that
follows, And Simon and those
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who were with
Him searched for Him.
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Immediately being
inundated by the world,
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the needs, the
press and they were
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all good things but
he always took time first
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of all with his
Father so that was important.
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And you know
when you speak of the
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limitations even though
we don't think about that
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of course as
Philippians 2 tells us that he
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limited himself of
this glory he took on this
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form of a man, that's right,
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so he did had this
same physical limitations,
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that's right that you and I had.
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And he did then
have to know that it is,
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as He said He would
come apart for a day of rest
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or something He would
spend all night in prayer
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to the Lord often
but Christ knew his
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limitations as a human
being and he knew he had
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to rely totally on
his Father didn't he,
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that's right, that's right.
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And I think of some of
the wilderness experiences
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that we so often
see you know Moses in
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that wilderness,
Jesus wilderness experience,
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"Joseph's
wilderness experience,"
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I always think to
myself usually those were
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needed in
preparation for the mission
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that God had, yes, so we,
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if we can look at it
is a very positive time
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obviously our
prayer life is positive.
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The time that we
spend with him and
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we get filled,
our cup gets filled to
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such a blessing that
even those times when
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it feels like we are in drought.
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We need to realize
it's diamonds in desert
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during that time,
that's good, that's good.
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So, Jesus
understood his mission?
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He did, he
understood his mission,
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he knew the value of
rest, there is an old time
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Italian proverb I
love what it says,
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it says where the
river is deepest it makes
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the least noise.
We're deepened in
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the quiet
places, that's beautiful.
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Call back, call
back. In Isaiah 30:15,
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another one that
falls on that same tone,
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in quietness and
in confidence shall
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be our strength.
That's actually a verse
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that I used a life
verse Isaiah 30:15,
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in the beginning of it
says in returning to me
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and resting in me the
Lord showed me that that
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was when I
celebrated the first Sabbath.
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That was the first
time that I got in to
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at resting in
God and I mean it was
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beautiful and
that was an experience.
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So, we are looking
then at the understanding
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our limitations,
now Jesus did but
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he also understood his mission,
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he certainly did and
you know He was spiritually
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sharpened by His
time with His Father and
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then He understood
exactly where his Father
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want to send Him. John 5:30,
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let me just give
another verse here,
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it says I can of my
own self do nothing.
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I seek not my own
will, but the will of the
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Father which has sent
me. We can only do His will
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if we know Him, Amen,
and you know He was never
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held hostage by the
demands of the world
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that's what was interesting.
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If you want to talk
about something that
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was pressed in from
every side with expectations
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that was Jesus. But Jesus chose
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where he went and
when he went and that,
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He chose after
the Father told him,
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yes, absolutely, absolutely,
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that connection was
so, that connection was so
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tight from that time
in the morning that he
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spend with him,
that when they laid out
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the day he knew
where he was to go
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and he knew
what he needed to do.
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So what we're
trying to point out here is
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that understanding
your own limitations helps
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you to put
boundaries in your life,
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understanding you
mission helps you to
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put boundaries on
you life and its all
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we're gonna, all this is coming
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together to help
us understand how to
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have balance in our
life right, yes, yes.
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So what else did
you learn through Jesus?
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Well you know Proverbs 16:9,
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says A man's
heart devises his way,
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but the Lord directs his steps,
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yeah. So I think
that the important when
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we're talking about
balance and boundaries
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I think the very
first think I think about is
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connection with
Jesus first thing,
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spending that time
with him in the word
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and in prayer,
what's been beautiful
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about the prayer.
What's been beautiful
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about the word is
I found that its like
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a open scripture.
God know where I'm
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in my walk and its
like he takes me right,
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absolutely, right there with
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him in the
scripture. I'm so amazed of
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what he gives to
me, I come away excited
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because it's like he
has laid before me and
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said I
understand, I understand where
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you are at, what you have,
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here let me give you
some valuable thoughts.
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And Linda it is over
and over again no matter
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who we're talking
with, when they're in
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the word that
everyone's experience,
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this word is inexhaustible,
it is you cannot wear
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it out but God always
meets you where your need
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is and that's where
he speaks to you from
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that point, yes, its amazing.
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It is, its for me
I can't help myself,
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I get so excited, I
have to run say Clinton
00:19:13.79\00:19:16.78
look what he gave me
today because it is so
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exciting to see what he does.
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And you know the
other thing I think about
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when I think about
balance and boundaries is that
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things can come
in that we don't have
00:19:26.62\00:19:28.25
planned or that we
don't anticipate but it's
00:19:28.26\00:19:30.85
something that God
has planned for the day.
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And I remember once
specific incident when I
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was in the
middle of the day that
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was
unbelievable, I had so much on
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my plate I had no idea
how it's gonna get done
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and I got a call in
the middle of the day and
00:19:41.66\00:19:43.96
it was an individual a
woman that had called and
00:19:43.97\00:19:47.78
said well she was
crying and she said I really
00:19:47.79\00:19:50.25
need to talk, I need to talk
00:19:50.26\00:19:51.55
to someone and my
immediate response
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I'm very type A I
see what my plate is,
00:19:54.17\00:19:56.88
so let's see if we can
you know is that something
00:19:56.89\00:19:59.61
that needs to be done
now or may we could do
00:19:59.62\00:20:01.32
it in an hour or
two if you seek my mind
00:20:01.33\00:20:03.87
was functioning like
that. This is well I said is
00:20:03.88\00:20:06.13
this something that
we need that you would
00:20:06.14\00:20:07.94
like for me to you
would like to come over and
00:20:07.95\00:20:10.07
we can talk now or is
this something that maybe
00:20:10.08\00:20:11.88
I could talk with
you a little bit later
00:20:11.89\00:20:13.36
about and boy, the Lord rebuked
00:20:13.37\00:20:15.47
to me and he said
no its now and so I
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immediately said, you know what,
00:20:19.11\00:20:20.62
I said forget that
I said you come over,
00:20:20.63\00:20:23.01
I said lets spend
some time in prayer and in
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talking and so she
came over and I bet she
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was there probably
two to three hours out of
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my day and I thought
to myself when I got done
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with it I felt so at
peace and so grateful that
00:20:32.82\00:20:36.63
God could use me and
so grateful for the peace
00:20:36.64\00:20:39.55
that it brought to
her and I said Lord,
00:20:39.56\00:20:41.97
you just reminded me
this day is about you and
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so whatever I get
done today is what you
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intended from me to get done,
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absolutely
because I've followed your
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direction so,
when I got done with
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my day and I looked
over my day exactly what
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needed to be accomplished was
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nothing more, nothing less.
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And you know something
that I'm trying to really
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grasp in my own life
because I have a tendency
00:21:03.16\00:21:06.47
to be a
workaholic, the Lord led me out
00:21:06.48\00:21:09.50
of that and I was
really had a lot of balance
00:21:09.51\00:21:14.30
in my life for
a number of years,
00:21:14.31\00:21:15.96
now I'm finding that
I'm struggling to maintain
00:21:15.97\00:21:18.97
balance again and
something that I've found
00:21:18.98\00:21:21.99
though is that the
work never gets done,
00:21:22.00\00:21:24.92
that's right. Sometimes we just
00:21:24.93\00:21:26.78
have to if God gives
you a divine appointment
00:21:26.79\00:21:29.43
or something comes
up maybe it's a divine
00:21:29.44\00:21:31.69
appointment with
a child, your child,
00:21:31.70\00:21:33.36
that's right, that needs you.
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You just have to let
realize that sometimes
00:21:35.62\00:21:39.53
even I'm beginning to
see some things that I
00:21:39.54\00:21:42.29
think were just,
are so critical to get
00:21:42.30\00:21:44.80
done they don't
and yet life goes
00:21:44.81\00:21:47.27
on without
them. That's right and
00:21:47.28\00:21:49.49
interestingly
enough that's why if
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it's God's agenda,
the important things will,
00:21:51.96\00:21:54.39
the rest of them
obviously can wait.
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And it really does
bring perspective back
00:21:58.72\00:22:01.01
into my life, because before I
00:22:01.02\00:22:03.66
would have been run by
that whole agenda for my
00:22:03.67\00:22:07.17
day and felt that
okay now I'm going to be up
00:22:07.18\00:22:09.28
till midnight
trying to complete my work.
00:22:09.29\00:22:10.88
But that's not all
at all what happens;
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the other thing I
love is because in balance
00:22:14.01\00:22:16.27
and in boundaries he
brings us peace, Amen.
00:22:16.28\00:22:19.72
And lets for the
purpose of our viewing audience
00:22:19.73\00:22:23.32
and listening audience
lets describe what we're
00:22:23.33\00:22:26.53
talking about
when we say balance.
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Balance is interesting
isn't it because when
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you look at it it's
like you have a plate full
00:22:32.56\00:22:37.21
of things to be done
and a lot of times what
00:22:37.22\00:22:40.27
happens is the
weight on one side gets much
00:22:40.28\00:22:43.88
heavier than the
weight on the other side
00:22:43.89\00:22:45.82
and so how I think
of balance is that I
00:22:46.34\00:22:50.59
have on one side
God's priorities and I have
00:22:50.60\00:22:53.88
on the other side the
demands of the world and
00:22:53.89\00:22:57.47
what I assume
might need to get done.
00:22:57.48\00:23:00.32
And what I do is
when I wake up in
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the morning and I
spend that time with
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him he takes his and
mine combines them and makes
00:23:04.64\00:23:09.70
it balanced, that's good.
00:23:09.71\00:23:12.08
And then that way I
know I'm doing his bidding
00:23:12.79\00:23:16.23
and that might mean
that some of these things
00:23:16.81\00:23:18.46
that are over here
initially aren't there
00:23:18.47\00:23:20.25
when we get done
with our time together.
00:23:20.26\00:23:22.98
And sometimes we
have to remember too that
00:23:23.37\00:23:25.15
balance means that
for example one area I'm
00:23:25.16\00:23:28.42
out of balance
in my life right now
00:23:28.43\00:23:29.95
is in exercise.
Everything crowd out
00:23:29.96\00:23:34.25
anytime to
exercise and I know that my
00:23:34.26\00:23:37.18
body is the
temple of the living God,
00:23:37.19\00:23:38.81
I know I should
be exercising but my
00:23:38.82\00:23:41.84
schedule is so
jam packed there is no
00:23:41.85\00:23:44.87
time for that. So being balanced
00:23:44.88\00:23:47.93
means to be
balanced in your home life,
00:23:47.94\00:23:50.85
your work life,
your mission work,
00:23:50.93\00:23:52.96
your exercise and
taking care of yourself
00:23:52.97\00:23:56.34
and rest, there is all
00:23:56.49\00:23:57.96
of these areas that
again I keep referring
00:23:57.97\00:24:01.03
to the juggling
balls that we have,
00:24:01.10\00:24:03.18
but we need to
keep them in balance and
00:24:03.55\00:24:05.53
as you said, I like the way
00:24:05.54\00:24:07.20
you said it because
when I tell people for
00:24:07.21\00:24:10.27
me if it's not under
God's control its all out
00:24:10.28\00:24:12.91
of balance, that's right,
00:24:12.92\00:24:13.89
so that's wonderful.
Yes, and I appreciate
00:24:13.98\00:24:17.43
what you just
brought up because it is so
00:24:17.44\00:24:18.82
important that we
remember that we have to take
00:24:18.83\00:24:21.15
care of our bodies,
its an important part
00:24:21.16\00:24:23.54
because if we don't
take care of our bodies
00:24:23.55\00:24:25.11
we will not be
able to work for Jesus.
00:24:25.12\00:24:27.45
And so he's given us, you know,
00:24:28.07\00:24:29.87
we know that we
need to be temperament
00:24:29.88\00:24:32.13
in all things, we need to
00:24:32.14\00:24:33.23
have our rest and we
need to be able to have
00:24:33.24\00:24:36.88
good diet because
right now there's so many
00:24:36.89\00:24:40.27
times when people aren't even,
00:24:40.28\00:24:41.46
we're not even
getting the meals we
00:24:41.47\00:24:42.85
need and the nutrition we need.
00:24:42.86\00:24:44.63
And we really need
to also make time have
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adequate time for
those who are closest to us,
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yes, which often that's
what all the demands and
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the pressures you find
parents who are finding
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they're not having
quality time with their
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children and you
find couples who you have
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become strangers but
that's one thing you see
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about Jesus is he
always took time for those
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around Him to
teach them didn't he.
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Yes he did, he disciple them and
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he didn't feel
that, he didn't have the
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great need to
think that he could do it
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to everyone, everywhere.
It was those who were
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closest to Him, He took a few he
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mentored them, he disciple them.
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He still fed the 5000,
he still did his healing
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but he discipled and
mentored those closest to
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him and he spend
time and that's another
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important part because
as we give its important
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that we also as we receive,
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its also important
that we give back and
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mentoring others
spiritually and what a
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blessing it enlivens
our life and it provides a
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blessing and a foundation for
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someone else, Amen, Amen.
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So what are some of
the practical ways that you
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are keeping
balance? You go before the
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Lord and it's easy
to start off that way,
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but how are you keeping balance,
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how do you draw
boundaries in your life.
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We've got just
about a minute left,
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tell me some of the
very particles things you do?
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One of the important
things that I've added
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into my life
there is important news,
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I've added my
exercise program in, okay,
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and I found as a
result to that I actually feel
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better and I
can accomplish more.
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First thing
Christ, second thing I've
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is my exercise, I'm trying,
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I'm still working on
the issue of being very
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balanced on my meals
but I'm also balancing
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out I think
everything just is encompassed
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with my relationship
with Jesus and day by
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day it's in that connection and
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allowing him to speak
to me that I'm then able
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to go forth and he
gives me that balance
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in all of these areas
because any one area can
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become out of balance easily,
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easily and it happens and it is,
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I know I'm gonna
confront that again and again
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but its something
that I know where to go
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now to be fed.
Well I know change can
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throw you out of
balance as you go through
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different changes and
that we have ran out of
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time for today but I
thank you so much for
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being with us again
and I just want to talk
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to you at home, to
really watch how God
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is leading you get up
in the morning ask Him
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to lead and to give
you balance to teach
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you how to draw
boundaries in your life
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because you will be
so much happier if you
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do and now until the next time,
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may the grace of our
Lord Jesus Christ the love
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of the Father and
the fellowship of the
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Holy Spirit be
with you. And I hope you
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will be joining us
again when Linda Schultz
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comes back for our next program.
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Thank you so much.
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