Hello, and welcome to
Heaven's Point of View.
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And this series is on,
Love, Marriage, Sex and Divorce
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from the New
Testament perspective.
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I'm Dr. Yvonne Lewis
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and our featured
host is Dr. Tom Sheperd,
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who is and I'm gonna
name all of these things,
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he is the director for the PhD
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and ThD programs
for religion is it?
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Yes, at Andrews University.
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At Andrews University,
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and professor of New
Testament Interpretation
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at Andrews University.
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He's also an MPH and a
doctor of Public Health as well.
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So Dr. Sheperd has a long, long.
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Hopefully not like
a Festus said to Paul
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"Much learning
hath made thee mad.
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No, Doctor, you've been given us
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some great insights, you know.
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You know, the
Bible has such relevance.
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To our lives today.
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And, this is,
this is so important
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because we look around us,
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and we see the
erosion of the family.
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We see how relationships
are so just messed up.
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We see people
not getting married
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and just living together.
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We see all of these things
and so, you're going to give us
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a biblical
perspective on relationships.
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And today we're going to talk
about sex outside of marriage.
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That's correct.
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Which is really, which really
an important thing to look at
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because it's so rampant.
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In our society today.
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Millions of people involved.
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We just looked at in
the last couple of programs
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at I Corinthians 6,
and what it had to say,
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but we want to look at
some other passages as well.
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Yes, what does the Bible
say about where sexual relation
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should and
should not be practiced?
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Well, the first place to
begin is the Ten Commandments.
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So we should turn
over to Exodus Chapter 20.
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And we want to read
there the seventh commandment
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which is in Exodus 20:14.
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It's very short
but right to the point.
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Exodus 20:14. Go
ahead and read that for us.
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"You shall not commit adultery."
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Yeah, I mean,
it's just very brief,
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but it says,
"Don't commit adultery."
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Now adultery is a married person
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having sexual relations
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with somebody
who's not their spouse.
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That's the
definition of adultery.
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There are three
commands in this second section
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of the half of
the Ten Commandments
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that are a
combination of Hebrew word
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that means, "No"
the word is, "Low"
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that means,
"No" and then a verb.
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So it's no and then this
verb so it's don't do this.
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And those three commands
are found right in a row
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in verse 13, 14,
and 15 of Exodus 20,
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"You shall not murder.
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You shall not commit adultery.
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You shall not steal." Right?
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Three very brief,
right to the point commands
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about
relationships between people.
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They talk about life,
life itself, "Do not murder."
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They talk about marriage,
"Do not commit adultery."
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And they talk
about personal ownership,
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"Do not steal."
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These simple commands,
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they get at the basic
simple central stuff of life.
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Life itself, our person,
our family and our property.
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Without safety for
these three things,
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human life is on the edge.
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And growth and development
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are greatly hindered
or denied as a process.
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And isn't it interesting
that in the middle of those
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is, "Do not commit adultery."
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Exactly, yeah.
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Now, you see most people
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abhor the idea
of killing people.
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They're saddened by
it, they say, "It's wrong."
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It's just you know, and I mean,
this is what makes it news,
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when there is war
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or when there's
somebody that was shot,
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or somebody was killed
or even kill themselves.
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This is news
because we abhor that.
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'Cause life is so important.
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On the other side,
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we think the same
thing about stealing.
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It's wrong to steal.
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And when we hear of theft
show, we hear banks closing
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because of somebody you
know, was siphoning off funds,
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you know, we are
all are upset by that.
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But the strange thing is,
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that this middle
one about adultery
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doesn't seem to be as
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you know, it doesn't
seem to bother people
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quite this much.
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At least now, it
doesn't as much as it used too.
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You know, that is so true.
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When you look at
where the culture has gone,
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when, when I was growing up,
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we had little
programs on television
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like Father Knows Best and--
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Leave it to Beaver
and things like that.
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I'm dating
myself now by the way.
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But now you have
programs on that emphasize sex
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and sex outside of
marriage and adultery
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and I mean, the
culture has gotten so jaded.
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With sexual
things and it's by design
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Satan has led us
into that, through media.
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In a lot of ways
through music, through media,
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through what we
see on television,
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the printed word.
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So many things are
leading and alluring people.
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It's, it's a frightening thing
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to see what
Satan has done with it.
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And it's because I believe
sex is such an important,
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God created it. Yes.
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He gave it to Adam
and Eve for a reason.
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And Satan has taken it and done
what he's wanted to do with it
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and so I'm so glad
we're dealing with this topic
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because it is critical.
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What we see go on society now,
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it's just so far
from God's ideal.
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Yeah, there are, there
people that want to suggest that
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well, the media
isn't important it's not--
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it doesn't have that
much impact on our life
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and the people who make films
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always want to try to
downplay that the violence there
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and their focus on
sex has any impact.
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That's just not true.
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You see if it, if it were true
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that the media had
no impact on people,
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then I imagine the
advertiser would stop,
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they would stop putting
ads on television and...
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Exactly.
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And everywhere,
because they know
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that those ads
sell their products.
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That's right.
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And Hollywood has learned
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that if they put
together sex and violence,
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that these make money for them.
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They're not,
they're not concerned
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about the moral issues
that we, that we describe here
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and the kinds of
issues we read the other time
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about that
people who are married
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have sex more often,
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people who are
married enjoy sex more.
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Hollywood will
never tell you that.
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In fact, they
tell you the opposite.
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They make sex
outside of marriage
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seem much more interesting
than sex within marriage.
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Why is that?
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Because Satan again, has
his plan for destruction.
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And God has His plan,
which is the ideal plan.
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Yeah, which
actually makes for happiness.
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And for more joy and I mean,
sex is one of the greatest,
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we've said in
this program before,
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sex is dynamite.
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It's one of the
greatest joys of life.
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And God wants us
to have more joy.
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So what does He say,
"It belongs in marriage.
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Not outside of marriage."
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And guess what?
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The US government
came along and found out
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that what the
Bible teaches is true.
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Isn't that
amazing? It's wonderful.
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It's often how you know,
the US government it comes
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and it corroborates science.
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You know, with, with
what the Bible teaches
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about the body and health.
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And now, there's
this with marriage
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so it's really interesting.
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We talked about in
Exodus 20, you know,
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"Do not commit
adultery" and all.
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But Jesus talks
about adultery as well.
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He does. What does He say?
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We should turn
over to Matthew 5,
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which is the
Sermon on the Mount,
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kind of the inaugural
sermon where Jesus describes
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what He wants His
disciples to live like
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and how they're
supposed to think about things,
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and how they're
supposed to carry on their life.
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And in Matthew 5:27 to 30,
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He brings up the
subject of adultery,
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which we just read
in the Ten Commandments.
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You see, this
issue is so important
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that God planted it
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in the heart of
the Ten Commandments.
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I mean, the Ten
Commandments the moral law,
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I mean, people recognize
that this is the big ten
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these are the
biggest issues of life.
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That is such a
fundamental issue,
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the stability of the family.
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And Jesus has
something to say. Let's read it.
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Matthew 5:27 to 30. Okay.
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"You have heard that it
was said to those of old,
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'You shall not commit adultery.'
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But I say to you
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that whoever looks at
a woman to lust for her
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has already committed
adultery with her in his heart.
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If your right eye
causes you to sin,
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pluck it out and
cast it from you;
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for it is more
profitable for you
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that one of your members perish,
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than for your whole
body to be cast into hell.
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And if your right
hand causes you to sin,
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cut it off and cast it from you;
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for it is more
profitable for you
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that one of your members perish,
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than for your whole
body to be cast into hell."
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Now this is one of six passages
that are called antithesis
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where, where Jesus will say,
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"You heard that
it was like this.
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But I say this." All right.
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That's an
antithesis and sometimes people
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when they see this they say,
"All well, Jesus doesn't take
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the Old Testament
commands importantly."
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You know, "He said this.
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But I say" so and so. All right.
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It's not a contradiction.
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No, no it's not a contradiction.
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And in particularly,
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if you go back just a
few verses earlier in,
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in verse 17 and
onward Jesus says,
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"Do not think that I
have come to abolish the Law
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or the Prophets."
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"I have not come to
abolish them but to fulfill them
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for truly I say to you
until heaven and earth pass away
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not an iota not a dot
will pass from the law
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until all is accomplished."
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So, Jesus
actually didn't come to.
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When he says, "I
came to fulfill it."
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He doesn't mean I
came to set it aside.
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He said I didn't
come to abolish it.
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He said, "Came to
show its full extent."
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Right, so in Jesus'
day people were saying
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adultery was the physical
act of having sex with somebody
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that is not your spouse.
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And, of course,
that is the definition.
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We've already said of adultery
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if you're having
sex with somebody
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that's not your spouse.
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But Jesus shows
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that adultery doesn't
start with the physical act.
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Adultery starts
in the mind, okay.
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And so He says, "I
say to you that everyone
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who looks at a
woman with lustful intent
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has already committed
adultery with her in his heart."
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Now, this, this is,
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most men struggle
with this actually.
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You and I were
talking beforehand
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and you mentioned how
men are visually oriented.
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A lot of men, most men
struggle with this issue
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and they kind of wonder
what is Jesus saying here,
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is he saying you
know, just wear blinders
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and you know or
don't, when a women comes,
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just look the other way.
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You know, that's the way
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that some people get the
idea of what He's saying.
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But if we look at it carefully,
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and knowledge of
Greek helps here.
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I, one time had a
young person come to me
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and say, he was a graduate
from one of our colleges
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and he said, "Dr. Sheperd,
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why should we
study Greek and Hebrew?"
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Now to say that to a
New Testament professor
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is kind of like
taking a red cape
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and waving it in
front of a bull you know.
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But it was like I had
been touched with inspiration
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that one moment
I said, "Young man,
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I have a one
word answer for you."
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And I said, "Intimacy,
intimacy with the Word of God."
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And then I said, I said,
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the original languages
help you with that intimacy.
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But then I said too,
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I thought something
that he could understand.
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Well, I said, "I mean,
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would you rather
have a goodnight handshake
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or good night kiss?"
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Intimacy with God's word.
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So when you know
some Greek and Hebrew.
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It helps you because Jesus says,
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"Anyone who looks at a woman"
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and the tense is the
present tense in Greek.
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This is like a line
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that has an ongoing
kind of concept of action.
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So you could translate and say,
"Anyone who keeps on looking."
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Now what do you call it
when somebody keeps on looking?
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Staring. Staring, yeah.
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You're staring.
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He's staring and he's
watching that'll go by, okay.
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That's the stare
that He talks about.
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Jesus is not saying
that a man cannot recognize
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that woman's beautiful.
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Right. But it's that stare.
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Now it's also true in
the English standard version
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I'm reading puts it
very nicely. It helps it.
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He says, "Anyone who looks at
a woman with lust full intent."
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Now the question
is which came first,
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the look or the lust.
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And according to
what Jesus is saying here
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in the way the
Greek construction is,
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the lust comes first.
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Wow!
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Now you would think
that the look comes first
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which elicits a lustful feeling.
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Well, it can be that too.
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By the way, by the
way He's constructed here.
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He's, He's is talking
about where does adultery begin.
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It begins in the mind. In mind.
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Yeah, and so He's
talking about that,
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that look that is
focused on that for a purpose.
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And the purpose is to
lust after that person.
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And can not one
have a lustful spirit?
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Yes.
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That will then
cause one to stare.
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Yes. Yeah. So
that lust comes first.
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I can see how
that could come first.
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So what has to happen is the,
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where, where
things have to change,
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it's not just actions.
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It has to go
back into the heart.
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Go back to the mind
where, where these things begin.
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Okay. So that's that verse.
So, Jesus condemns adultery.
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But what about sex with
people that aren't married?
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You know, you have adultery
that's between married people.
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What about people
that aren't married?
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All right, so we've
got a number of passages
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we want to look at to understand
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what does the Bible say
about sex outside of marriage.
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Now we're going to
move from married people.
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That was a question of adultery.
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You're not supposed to
break your marriage bond
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and go have sex
with somebody else
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than your spouse.
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But what about
people who aren't married?
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Can they just... Right.
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You know, sleep
around. Is it okay?
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Right. Turn over to Genesis 34.
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A rather sad story
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but one which we take
note of several times in these,
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in this series of meeting.
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This is, this is Genesis 34.
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It's the story of
Dinah and Shechem.
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So let's just read
the first seven verses.
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Okay.
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"Now Dinah the daughter of Leah,
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whom she had born to Jacob,
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went out to see the
daughters of the land.
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And when Shechem the
son of Hamor the Hivite,"
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excuse me, "prince
of the country, saw her,
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he took her and lay
with her, and violated her.
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His soul was
strongly attracted to Dinah
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the daughter of Jacob,
and love the young woman
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and spoke kindly
to the young woman.
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So Shechem spoke to
his father Hamor, saying,
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"Get me this
young woman as a wife."
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And Jacob heard that he
had defiled Dinah his daughter.
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Now his sons were with
his livestock in the field;
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so Jacob held his
peace until they came.
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Then Hamor father of
Shechem went out to meet Jacob
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to speak with him.
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And the sons of Jacob
came in from the field
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when they heard it;
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and the men were
grieved and very angry,
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because he had
done a disgraceful thing
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in Israel by lying
with Jacob's daughter,
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a thing which
ought not to be done."
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It was pretty clear isn't it?
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This was wrong. Right.
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Now were these
people married? No.
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No, obviously not married.
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But they had sex. Right.
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Did that make them married?
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No. No.
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He raped her. He
raped her, right.
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So this young
man, forcing himself
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on the on this
young girl, it's over,
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and over the text
indicates that it's wrong.
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Right. Right. What he did.
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It says that,
"Jacob holds his peace."
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He was upset but
he was going to talk
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till his sons came home.
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Right.
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And when his sons came
home, they are indignant.
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Right. And they are very angry.
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Right.
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He says he's done
an outrageous thing.
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"Something that
ought not to be done."
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I don't know if you
can get much clearer
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that this is a wrong.
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Right.
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And I mean, everybody
in society recognize today
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that rape is evil and wrong.
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Yes. And should not happen.
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But for some people
who get the idea that,
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just having sex
makes you married.
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No. No.
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It doesn't make you married.
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Sex is not marriage.
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Marriage is a ceremony;
marriage is a relationship
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that's created in
a society's presence,
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in the presence of other people
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and that is what
produces marriage.
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So sex which is
forced on somebody is wrong.
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And if you're not clear
on that, get the message.
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Right, now what about
when it's done willingly?
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Okay, then we look
at some other passages.
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We turn over to
Genesis, Exodus 22,
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Exodus Chapter 22:16, 17.
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Just after the Ten Commandments.
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Now this is again, of course,
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the setting for
the life of Israel,
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but it's still the
principles hold true
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so we're looking at
Exodus 22:16 and 17.
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And it says it, "If
a man entices a virgin
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who is not
betrothed, and lies with her,
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he shall surely
pay the bride-price
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for her to be his wife.
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If her father utterly
refuses to give her to him,
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he shall pay money according
to the bride-price of virgins."
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All right, now
first, we need to look,
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now, first what happened.
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Well, it seems that
what happened was there
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was a young fellow and,
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he started
talking to a young girl
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and he seduced her.
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So that idea gives
you the sense that,
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well, she was naive.
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She didn't understand
where this was leading.
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And before she knew it,
they were sleeping together.
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Okay?
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Now what the text
says here is that,
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when they're found,
when that this is found out,
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he has to marry the girl.
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That's that that was their rule.
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This is how
seriously sex is taken.
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Yeah. That he
has had sex with her.
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Now he needs to marry
her. Yeah. He has to marry her.
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And actually it says that
he has to pay the bride price.
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Now we don't do bride
price in our society today.
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Right.
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People look at
this and they say,
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"What bride price, you're,
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you're buying the
girl, what is this?"
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No, its, it's
not buying the girl.
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She's not a piece of
property that you buy.
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Bride price was a
concept of a young man showing
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that he was capable of supplying
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the needs of his family.
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So he has to come up
with a certain amount of money
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and be able to show
that he can support this girl
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that he's
interested in marrying.
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So he brings the bride price.
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And the bride price would stay,
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now in different times it
would be different things,
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but it was stay on reserve,
and if there was a divorce,
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the bride price would
go to the girl as she left.
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So it was some
protection for the young women
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against the kinds of
thing that would happen.
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Now the
foolishness of this young man
00:20:05.93\00:20:10.07
and seducing this girl
and having sex with her
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is also illustrated, if
the father just says, "No"
00:20:12.24\00:20:15.88
course this is a male
lineal, patrilineal society.
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The fathers were
very much involved
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in these kinds of issues.
00:20:20.42\00:20:22.08
And if the father
just refuses and says,
00:20:22.12\00:20:23.99
"No, this girl, I
cannot give my girl."
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This guy's a jerk.
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I'm not going to
give my daughter to him.
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Right.
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He still has to
pay the bride price.
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Now so there's a fine.
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So you think about
it, he was stupid enough
00:20:35.70\00:20:38.73
that he had sex with this
girl and what did he have to do,
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he had to pay the bride price
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and he doesn't have
a bride to show for it.
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So it is very clear, it's wrong,
00:20:46.91\00:20:50.48
it's wrong for
him to seduce her.
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All right.
00:20:52.28\00:20:53.95
Now what about
somebody who just slept around?
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The willing participants.
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Yes. Yes. Yeah.
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What if both of
them are, are willing?
00:21:01.52\00:21:03.56
Now, we turn over to
the book of Deuteronomy.
00:21:03.59\00:21:05.69
So we're talking
about consensual sex.
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Consensual sex,
yeah, is it okay?
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Deuteronomy 22:13 to 29.
00:21:09.36\00:21:14.57
I teach at Sabbath School
class and usually say to them.
00:21:17.17\00:21:19.51
Well, you know, we don't
have time for anything else,
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we read the Bible.
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Yes.
00:21:22.58\00:21:23.91
Because that's important
too so this is a long section
00:21:23.95\00:21:27.78
but it's all about laws
about sexual immorality.
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So it's Deuteronomy 22:13 to 29.
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Okay, you want
me to read it? Yep.
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"If any man takes a
wife, and goes in to her,
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and detests her, and charges her
00:21:39.93\00:21:41.80
with shameful conduct,
00:21:41.83\00:21:43.16
and brings a bad
name on her, and says,
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'I took this woman,
and when I came to her
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I found she was not a virgin,'
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then the father and
mother of the young woman
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shall take and
bring out the evidence
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of the young woman's virginity
00:21:53.54\00:21:55.08
to the elders of
the city at the gate.
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And the young woman's
father shall say to the elders,
00:21:57.48\00:21:59.85
'I gave my daughter
to this man as wife,
00:21:59.88\00:22:01.88
and he detests her.
00:22:01.92\00:22:03.28
Now he has charged her
with shameful conduct, saying,
00:22:03.32\00:22:06.29
"I found your
daughter was not a virgin,"
00:22:06.32\00:22:08.59
and yet these are the evidences
of my daughter's virginity.'
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And they shall spread the cloth
before the elders of the city.
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Then the elders of that
city shall take that man
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and punish him;
00:22:17.73\00:22:19.07
and they shall fine him
one hundred shekels of silver
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and give them to the
father of the young woman,
00:22:21.70\00:22:23.81
because he has
brought a bad name
00:22:23.84\00:22:26.11
on a virgin of Israel.
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And she shall be his wife;
00:22:27.58\00:22:29.21
he cannot
divorce her all his days.
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But if the thing is true,
00:22:31.78\00:22:33.42
and evidences of virginity
00:22:33.45\00:22:34.92
are not found
for the young woman,
00:22:34.95\00:22:36.82
then they shall
bring out the young woman
00:22:36.85\00:22:39.19
to the door of
her father's house,
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and the men of her city
00:22:40.92\00:22:42.26
shall stone her
to death with stones,
00:22:42.29\00:22:44.13
because she has done a
disgraceful thing in Israel,
00:22:44.16\00:22:46.66
to play the harlot
in her father's house.
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So you shall put away
the evil from among you.
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If a man is found lying
00:22:52.13\00:22:54.24
with a woman
married to a husband,
00:22:54.27\00:22:55.74
then both of them shall die,
00:22:55.77\00:22:57.41
the man that lay with
the woman, and the woman;
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so you shall put
away the evil from Israel.
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If a young woman who is a virgin
00:23:02.48\00:23:04.35
is betrothed to a husband,
00:23:04.38\00:23:05.71
and a man finds her in
the city and lies with her,
00:23:05.75\00:23:08.38
then you shall bring them both
out to the gate of that city,
00:23:08.42\00:23:11.25
and you shall stone
them to death with stones,
00:23:11.29\00:23:13.46
the young women
00:23:13.49\00:23:14.82
because she did not
cry out in the city,
00:23:14.86\00:23:16.52
and the man because he
humbled his neighbor's wife;
00:23:16.56\00:23:19.29
so you shall put away
the evil from among you.
00:23:19.33\00:23:22.26
But if a man finds a
betrothed young woman
00:23:22.30\00:23:24.63
in the countryside,
00:23:24.67\00:23:26.00
and the man forces
her and lies with her,
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then only the man who
lay with her shall die.
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But you shall do
nothing to the young woman;
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there is in the young
woman no sin deserving of death,
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for just as when a man rises
00:23:37.18\00:23:38.91
against his
neighbor and kills him,
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even so is this matter.
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For he found her
in the countryside,
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and the betrothed
young woman cried out,
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but there was
no one to save her.
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If a man finds a
young woman who is a virgin,
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who is not betrothed,
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and he seizes her
and lies with her,
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and they are found out,
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then the man who lay with her
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shall give to the
young woman's father
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fifty shekels of silver,
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and she shall be his wife
because he has humbled her;
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he shall not be permitted
to divorce her all his days."
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All right, so these
are, are laws that were,
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you know, that Israel used.
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And you can see
that they were considered
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as very serious crimes.
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Yes. Very serious crimes.
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So there's five
different sexual scenarios
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that are described here.
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The first is the
young woman who did,
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or did not live as a harlot.
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And the sign of her virginity
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would be the
blood stained cloak.
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Right.
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Of her when she
started to have her menses.
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Then there's the
case of the adulterer,
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there's the case
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of the consensual
sleeping together in the city,
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the case of rape
in the countryside,
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and the case of the
young betrothed virgin
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in verses 28 and 29.
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Now what these
all have in common
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is in one way or another
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that sex outside of
marriage is punishable by death
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or by some kind of
fine, or some kind of penalty
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that the person,
you know, has to pay.
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If the person was unable to
escape, they are not guilty.
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Like the young woman
out in the country side.
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She's raped. Yeah. Yeah.
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In none of these
cases is merely having sex
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consider marriage, all right.
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And the violation of
sexual purity is taken
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very seriously,
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sometimes to the point of
imposing the death penalty.
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So in summary, we can
say that the Bible teaches
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that sexual
relations are reserved
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rightfully for
marriage alone, right.
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They are not to be
practiced outside of marriage.
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But they are to be
enjoyed within marriage.
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And why? Why
only within marriage?
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Yeah, yeah.
Biblically, why only...
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That's, that's the
kind of question now,
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we have already noticed
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that the US
government found that
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it's better in marriage,
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you know, you
have you have more joy
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and everything but
you see sex is dynamite.
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We've already said this
before but sex is dynamite
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and it's, it's very powerful.
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Because it's so powerful,
you have to handle it carefully.
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I mean, you would
take a stick of dynamite
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and just throw it around.
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It's, it's too powerful.
Well, sex is the same way.
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There's a great
benefit that's possible.
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But there's also great risk.
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The other thing is
that the power of dynamite
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is enhanced when you confine it,
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when you put it
into a space that,
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you know, it
can't move or anything,
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it will blow up much more
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and have much
more powerful effects.
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So when you
confine sex to marriage,
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there is much more power.
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Number three, it
protects children.
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That's why sex is
only for marriage.
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It protects children and women.
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So again, you know, we
have science or studies
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corroborating what
the Bible says that,
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"Women and children
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are protected through marriage."
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Yes, and I think
people find that actually
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in just everyday life.
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They recognize that broken homes
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are a much harder to
manage and everything.
00:26:58.05\00:27:02.55
So the Bible's message
that sex is only for marriage,
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is both
reasonable and of course,
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it's theologically sound.
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It's based on what
the Scripture says.
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No, sex outside of
marriage for married partners.
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No sex for people who
are, you know, rape is wrong,
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and seducing somebody is wrong
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and consensual sex,
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even if they both
agree on it is also wrong.
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It's to be avoided.
Sex is only for marriage.
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That's where the
blessing belongs.
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Yes, and that's
where the blessing is.
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And that's, this is some
powerful stuff Dr. Sheperd.
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Thank you so much for
sharing these insights with us.
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What are we going
to talk about next?
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Well, next we will
turn to the question of
00:27:46.03\00:27:48.43
is that there is it ever
wrong to have sex in marriage.
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I mean, there's
a time in marriage
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when it, when you
should step back from,
00:27:52.27\00:27:54.24
from sex and not have it.
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So we'll be
looking at I Corinthians 7,
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a passage that's
often misunderstood.
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Great, thank you
so much Dr. Sheperd.
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And thank you, for tuning in.
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Please join us next time
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as we share these
wonderful biblical truths.
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