Heaven's Point of View
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Hello I'm Shelley Quinn
and this is Dr. Tom Sheperd
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and we welcome you to
Heaven's Point of View.
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This is a series on
love, marriage, sex and divorce
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and today we are
going to be talking about
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instructions to wives.
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One of the key
concepts in the Bible,
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of having a "Blessed Marriage"
is to submit to the Lord
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and be in submission
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and that's what we're
going to be talking about today.
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Yes, we've been looking in
the book of Ephesians already
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but now we're going
to look specifically
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at the instructions
that Paul gives to people
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in the Christian household,
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so we want to turn
to Ephesians chapter 5,
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and we're going to
read the entire passage
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because Paul has instructions
for the entire household
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and sometimes it's...
people will listen to...
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or read part of it
but not the whole thing,
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so, Ephesians 5 verses
21 through chapter 6 verse 9
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so a little bit of a section.
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All right... Ephesians
chapter 5 then verse 21,
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"Submitting to one
another in the fear of God.
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Wives, submit to your
own husbands, as to the Lord.
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For the husband
is head of the wife,
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as also Christ is
head of the church:
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and He is the
Savior of the body.
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Therefore, just as the
church is subject to Christ,
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so let the wives be to their
own husbands in everything.
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Husbands, love your wives,
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just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself for her,
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that He might
sanctify and cleanse her
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with the washing
of water by the word,
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that He might present her
to Himself a glorious church,
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not having spot or
wrinkle or any such thing,
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but that she should be
holy and without blemish.
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So husbands ought
to love their own wives
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as their own bodies;
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he who loves his
wife loves himself.
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For no one ever
hated his own flesh,
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but nourishes and cherishes it,
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just as the
Lord does the church.
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For we are members of His body,
of His flesh and of His bones.
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'For this reason a man shall
leave his father and mother
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and be joined to his wife,
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and the two shall
become one flesh. '
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This is a great mystery,
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but I speak concerning
Christ and the church.
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Nevertheless let each
one of you in particular
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so love his own wife as himself,
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and let the wife see that
she respects her husband. "
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Chapter 6...
"Children, obey your parents
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in the Lord, for this is right.
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'Honor your father and mother'
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which is the first
commandment with promise;
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'that it may be well with you
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and you may live
long on the earth. '
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And you, fathers,
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do not provoke
your children to wrath,
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but bring them
up in the training
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and admonition of the Lord.
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Bondservants, be obedient
to those who are your masters
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according to the flesh,
with fear and trembling,
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in sincerity of
heart, as to Christ;
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not with eye
service, as men-pleasers,
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but as bondservants of Christ,
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doing the will of
God from the heart,
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with goodwill doing service,
as to the Lord, and not to men,
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knowing that
whatever good anyone does,
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he will receive
the same from the Lord,
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whether he is a slave or free.
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And you, masters, do
the same things to them,
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giving up threatening,
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knowing that your own
Master also is in heaven,
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and there is no
partiality with Him. "
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Hmmm... hmmm... quite a passage.
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That is quite a passage,
it covers it all doesn't it?
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It does, yeah, when you
go back over this passage
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and take a look at it,
you notice that there are
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pairs of people,
wives and husbands,
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children and
parents, slaves and masters,
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now, these were
groupings of people
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or different roles people had
in the Greco-Roman household,
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and so, you have these two pairs
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and he responds,
and he speaks to each,
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so he has something to say
to everybody in the household
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that's kind of the first
thing you can take away from it
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and he has something to
talk to... each of them.
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We've already
noted in the context
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that we've studied before this,
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the importance of being
filled with God's spirit
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and that the
filling of the Spirit,
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is expressed in the verses
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just before what
you've read for us
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just before that... it
is expressed in five...
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what we call...
participles... or...
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well, they are
"ing" words in English
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like running and
hopping and singing,
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those would all be participles
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okay... and it's kind
of like a verbal adjective,
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and there are five of
these in verses 19 to 21,
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speaking, singing, praising,
thanking and then, surprise...
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submitting, so...
knowing God's will for the house
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is what... the household,
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the people that make
up the Christian household
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is what we're going
to be talking about.
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It's the household instructions
and it can only be fulfilled
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if a person is
filled with the Holy Spirit,
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only by the
Spirit is it possible
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for us to really do
what Paul now tells us to do.
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Okay, so, the key
phrase is in verse 21,
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it's not uncommon
that Paul in writing will
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sort of give a thesis statement
and then he'll explain it
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okay, so the thesis statement
is really here in verse 21,
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so maybe we should read
that one verse once again.
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Verse 21, "Submitting to
one another in the fear of God"
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how does yours read?
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Mine says,
"Submitting to one another
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out of reverence for Christ"
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yeah, there's a
difference in some manuscripts
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have the word, "God,"
some have the word, "Christ,"
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but it's reverence
or fear that they have,
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so, there's a... there
are actually two aspects
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to this thesis statement, okay,
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the first one is
the idea of "submission"
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and the second one is the
idea of "in the fear of Christ"
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all right, so we got
to unpack these two ideas.
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So, what does
submission mean here?
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Well, the Greek
word is "epotasso"
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some pronounce it
hupotassó and it means to...
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in the active voice it means
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"to subject or
subordinate somebody"
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to put them underneath someone
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now, it's
actually a compound word,
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with the word "epo" or "hupo"
which means: under or below
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and the word
"tasso" and tasso is a...
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was a military word,
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it was a word that you
used to line up troops,
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you would line up the troops,
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and get them
ready for battle, see...
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so, "epotasso" is
to put somebody under
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like... the control or
the direction of somebody else
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the English word that
we would have for that
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would be to subjugate, okay,
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but here it's not in that
form, it's in the, what we call,
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passive voice, and
in the passive voice,
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it means to be
subject to subordinate oneself
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or to submit to somebody else.
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It's a willingness to be under
someone's authority if you will.
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Okay, so, that's the
kind of concept here,
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now, it's
interesting that he says,
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"You submit to one another. "
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Right.
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Submit to one another, we
got more to say about that,
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we'll talk about
that in a little bit,
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but, first we want to look at...
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further at this idea
of reverence for Christ
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or the fear of Christ.
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So many people misunderstand
that word, "fear. "
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It's true, it's
true, we got to unpack that
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so, but, the fear of Christ
or the reverence for Christ
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is the reason why you submit.
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That's the reason why
you submit to one another
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it's because of
reverence for Christ,
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it's like... if you go
back to the story of Joseph,
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and Potiphar's wife wants
him to go to bed with her,
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and he has this wonderful
explanation he gives to her,
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he says, "My master has made me
in charge of all the household,"
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so first, I have a
relationship with my master,
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"and nothing in
this house is under...
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has he reserved to himself,
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except you
because you are his wife
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so I have a
relationship with to the master,
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I have to be
faithful to the master,
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you, by the way, are his wife,
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and ought not to be
asking me that, right?"
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Okay, but then he
goes on and he says,
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"How could I do this
and sin against God?"
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He's living in
the presence of God,
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that's this concept of "fear,"
he has this reverence for God.
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And I love that Scripture
because to me it proves...
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it's one of the proofs
that God's Ten Commandments
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were in effect
before Mount Sinai, yeah.
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Right, before
Mount Sinai, okay so...
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so here's this idea
of reverence or fear...
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And that's what
that word, "fear"
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when some of us, in
English, if we say, "fear,"
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it's kind of
to... Tom: Afraid...
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Yeah, and you're just
start trembling and afraid but
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here the word "fear" is
like a "reverent awe of God. "
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Yes, you could
say it's somewhat like
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going to Niagara Falls.
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Okay.
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Niagara Falls is beautiful
but you have respect for it,
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you don't get too close
because it's so powerful
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because it could kill you
if you stood under the water,
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it's just so powerful, so
you have a... you fear it...
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in the sense that you
notice how powerful it is,
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you respect that and
you don't play with it
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so actually in
Scripture when the word
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"fear... the
fear of God" is used,
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there's a little bit of that
trembling because you recognize
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He's powerful, He's no...
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well as C.S. Lewis
said about Christ figure
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in his Narnia books,
that the Aslan figure,
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this Lion... and he
said, "he's not a tame lion"
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he's not somebody you just...
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I love the analogy
of the Niagara Falls,
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that was really good.
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Yeah, so, this relationship
to Christ sets the course
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for all the relationships
within the Christian home,
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that's important to recognize,
the relationship to Christ,
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this fear of Christ,
this reverence for Christ,
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sets the course for
all the relationships
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in fact, it modifies
all the relationships.
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So, may I... let me make sure
we're understanding is that...
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when we say that it's
essential and sets the course,
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that the husband is
in fear of the Lord,
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that the wife is
in fear of the Lord,
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that the children
are in fear of the Lord,
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because this is how the whole
system of submission works.
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Yeah, like, say the... the
relationships are modified,
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see in the Greco-Roman world,
the father was pretty much it,
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he was called
the "Pater familias"
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and he was large and in charge,
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he was... everything was
in his hands, pretty much,
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the Apostle Paul
takes in... shifts this idea
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because everything is
in relationship to Christ,
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it's a Christian
home, don't be surprised,
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so everything is in relationship
to this fear for Christ,
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you don't just do
anything, so, it sets the course
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it modifies relationships
and it sets limits,
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limits on how much
submission there is to be,
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limits on how
power is to be used
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all of these things
are related to this idea
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in reference to Christ, okay,
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so, we probably should
understand a little bit more
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about how Paul uses the
idea of fear and kinds of fear.
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Keep our hand here in Ephesians,
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mark that one so
you don't lose it,
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and turn over to
Romans 8 verse 15,
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Paul uses the word,
"fear" in a variety of ways,
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this is just one of
them, Romans 8 verse 15,
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Romans 8 and verse 15,
says, "For you did not receive
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the spirit of
bondage again to fear;
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but you received
the Spirit of adoption,
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by whom we cry
out, 'Abba, Father. '"
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All right and notice the
word "fear" is there isn't it?
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Yes.
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And that you would fall
back into fear, all right,
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what does that mean,
well, it's referring back to
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the person
before they knew Christ,
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and this fear of judgment
that you're under God's judgment
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and you're afraid of
that, he doesn't want you to
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fall back into that
kind of fear because
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you've been redeemed.
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So, that's what John... in
1st John... when he says that
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"Perfect love casts out
fear" that's what he's saying.
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Yeah, yeah, that kind of fear...
the fear of judgment, okay,
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now, he does use the term a lot
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to refer to reverence
and awe for who God is...
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the Creator, the Savior, it
is respect for His authority,
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maybe one of the good
ones for us to look at
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is Romans 11 verse 19,
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since we're already
in the book of Romans,
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just turn over to
Romans 11 verse 19,
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it's kind of an
interesting verse
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where the
Gentiles are talking about
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how the Jews
were... fell away...
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so that... and then
they came into the church,
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look at verse 19.
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Romans 11:19,
"You will say then,
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'Branches were broken off,
that I might be grafted in. '"
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Am I in the right place?
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Yes, hmmm... hmmm... keep going.
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"Well said, because of unbelief,
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they were broken off
and you stand by faith.
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Do not be haughty
but fear... " ah ha...
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So he doesn't...
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in chapter 8, he doesn't want
you to fall back into fear...
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the fear of judgment,
but he wants you to realize
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that when you're a
Christian, and if you get proud,
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you know, he
says, "Wait a minute,
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this pride... you have
no basis for this pride"
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he says, "these
branches were broken off,
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so that I can be
grafted in that's true,
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but you only stand by faith,
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so don't be proud,
instead, have reverence. "
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Yeah, because if God
broke off the natural branches,
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he said, He can break you off.
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He can break you off as
well, that's exactly right,
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so you have to
have reverence for God,
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he uses it a number of ways
but basically we can suggest
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that the idea of the fear of God
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has two effects
on the Christian,
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one is it guards the new life
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against the false security
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that you can
just do as you please,
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and second, it
guides the new life
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so that you live for Jesus,
it guards it and it guides it,
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so reverence for Christ means,
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yes, you recognize
you have been saved,
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you recognize that
it's by the grace of God,
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you stand by faith and
you dare not trust yourself.
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You can have
assurance of salvation
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but you're not to be
presumptuous to think that
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you can live loosely and
still count on that assurance.
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Yeah and just
do as you please...
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Your life now is in
relationship to Christ,
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so you must follow
him, it guards the new life
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and it guides the new
life, those two different ideas.
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That's
excellent, so now, before...
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this is fear before
Christ, now, he also...
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Paul used the word
to respect other humans.
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Yes, he does, in Romans 13, I
guess we can turn to Romans 13
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we're all in Romans
here, Romans 13 verse 7,
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Romans 13 and verse 7 says,
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"Render therefore
to all their dues:
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taxes to whom taxes are
due; customs to whom customs;
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fear to whom fear;
honour to whom honour. "
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Yeah, so respect
or fear to whom...
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so, the people that are
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in positions of
authority in Government,
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we should respect them
because they have that position,
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the God-given position
of taking care of Society,
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so you respect them,
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over in Ephesians 5
that we've been looking at,
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he will talk about
this within the family,
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he tells the wife
to respect her husband,
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okay... to have that kind
of respect for him as well,
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so, we can
summarize all of this,
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we can say that Paul calls
for submission to one another
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placing oneself under another
person's leadership, right.
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Now, the
atmosphere or reason for this
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that you do this is
because of reverence for Christ,
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meaning deep
respect for who He is,
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what He has done and the
future that He set before us,
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so, there are certain
things that you can do,
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there are certain
things that you cannot do,
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I... many times when
talking about this idea of fear
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I tell a story to
help illustrate it is,
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a ten-year-old boy and
chocolate chip cookies,
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and his mother...
my wife, by the way,
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makes amazing
chocolate chip cookies,
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I'm coming to your house.
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We have a ministry that we
do where I visit the young men
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in the dormitory
and pray with them,
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and the way to get in the door
is those chocolate chip cookies,
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and they really love
the chocolate chip cookies
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that she makes and
they appreciate prayer
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but this
ten-year-old boy... he comes in,
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and his mother has just
made chocolate chip cookies
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and they're just
on the rack, you know,
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they're warm and still fresh
and the chocolate is still warm
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and moist... and so he
comes in and he looks around
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and he doesn't see his mother...
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and the smell of
those wonderful cookies,
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and he's inching
closer and closer,
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he's about to take
one of those cookies
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when his mother
walks into the room,
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he starts whistling and he
starts walking off and says,
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"I'm going to play
baseball, Mom, see you later. "
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Now, why couldn't
he take that cookie?
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Out of respect for his mother,
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fear for this mother.
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If he were to put his
hand on one of those cookies,
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you can be sure
that she would say,
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"Young man, what do
you think you're doing?
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You can't eat that cookie
now, wait till after dinner,"
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you know, she
would lay it to him,
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so because he lived in
the presence of his mother,
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see... he
couldn't do that thing.
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Oh! boy, that's wonderful.
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Because he had respect for her.
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Because if we think
about that, then out of...
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if we are living in that
awareness of the divine...
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awareness of
Christ's presence in our life,
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if we're living,
then we won't do things
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because, we recognize he's
there and we wouldn't do that.
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Yeah, there are
some things you can do,
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and there are other
things you cannot do,
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there are some
things you must do,
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there are some
things you must not do
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and he says that the submission
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that is the terminology
00:19:07.31\00:19:09.24
that controls the
entire household code,
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is all in relationship to
this reverence for Christ.
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You know, there is... and I
know we're going to get more
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into this in our next Program
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but this is one
thing that I had found
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that... particularly it
seems with younger women
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who want to be more
assertive in relationships,
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who've... sometimes they'll
just have such a difficult time
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thinking about this
idea of being submissive,
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and I think we're going to
talk more in the next Program,
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this is not a doormat
position but there can only be,
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you know, any animal, in any...
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if there's any animal
that has more than one head,
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it's a freak, and
so there can only be
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one head in the family,
or it's a freakish family
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but it's... it's... I
always tell young brides
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when we're
counseling, I'll tell them,
00:20:07.17\00:20:09.60
the man may have been...
God placed the man as the head,
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of course, he has to be
in submission to Christ,
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but you're the neck that
turns the head, you know, so,
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it's easy for me to be
submissive to my husband
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because my husband loves
me as Christ loves the church
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just like the Scripture says.
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Well, we'll see much more
of this as we walk through this
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because we got like three
programs to try to understand
00:20:35.16\00:20:38.07
this idea of
submission and what it means
00:20:38.10\00:20:40.74
because it's very
easy to be misunderstood,
00:20:40.80\00:20:43.41
and it's very easy to be abused,
00:20:43.44\00:20:45.67
there are people who will say,
00:20:45.74\00:20:47.58
"I am the head
of this household"
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you know, that will be
very strong and forceful.
00:20:49.38\00:20:51.45
But now, Paul, you know,
some people have the idea that
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when Paul is saying, in
verse 21, I believe it is,
00:20:55.25\00:20:59.42
that we are to
submit to one another
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that he's speaking of
every member in the family
00:21:02.02\00:21:05.33
submitting to one another,
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do you think
that's what he's saying?
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Well, yes and no,
I used to say, "No"
00:21:10.70\00:21:14.10
but then I thought
about it a bit more
00:21:14.14\00:21:17.47
as I was working in this
class and of teaching this,
00:21:17.51\00:21:20.64
yes and no, now,
here's the "yes" side of it
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first we remember that
verse 21 is the thesis statement
00:21:24.11\00:21:32.52
for the entire passage, right,
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now, in many
Bibles, if we look at that,
00:21:37.03\00:21:39.73
you might not sense
that because, in my Bible,
00:21:39.76\00:21:44.20
the section chapter 5
starts with the title that says,
00:21:44.27\00:21:49.87
"walk in love" and it
goes all the way through
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verse 21, and then
section... starting in verse 22,
00:21:51.47\00:21:54.61
seems to be a new
section, "Wives and Husbands,"
00:21:54.64\00:21:57.71
so people kind of
separate it and say,
00:21:57.75\00:22:00.32
"Oh no, that's from
the previous context,
00:22:00.35\00:22:02.85
that's not
related to this at all,"
00:22:02.88\00:22:04.55
well, there's a
problem with that,
00:22:04.59\00:22:06.25
and the problem is this,
00:22:06.29\00:22:08.36
in verse 21 we have
that last participle,
00:22:08.39\00:22:11.66
the fifth of the five...
submitting to one another
00:22:11.69\00:22:14.53
and verse 22 doesn't
even have a participle,
00:22:14.56\00:22:17.40
it doesn't have any verb at all,
00:22:17.43\00:22:18.90
no participle, nothing,
now, that would be bad English,
00:22:18.93\00:22:22.67
but it's good Greek,
00:22:22.70\00:22:24.27
he borrows the
idea of submission
00:22:24.31\00:22:28.11
from verse 21, and
places it in verse 22,
00:22:28.14\00:22:31.85
so there's nowhere...
when you read in your Bible...
00:22:31.88\00:22:34.45
So, there's no "submit" in
verse 22 actually in the Greek,
00:22:34.48\00:22:37.29
It doesn't say,
"Wives, submit to your own
00:22:37.32\00:22:40.06
husbands as to the Lord,"
it doesn't say that... it says,
00:22:40.12\00:22:42.26
"Wives to your own husbands
as to the Lord," well...
00:22:42.29\00:22:45.86
Obviously, dependent upon...
00:22:45.89\00:22:47.40
On the previous
verse... which means that
00:22:47.43\00:22:49.80
verse 22 is tied in to verse
21, intimate connection to it,
00:22:49.83\00:22:54.60
right, so, the first thing
we start off with and we say is,
00:22:54.64\00:22:57.91
"Look, verse 21 is
the thesis statement
00:22:57.94\00:23:01.81
for the entire passage"
00:23:01.84\00:23:03.18
and that will become
more clear as we go on here,
00:23:03.21\00:23:05.45
but... so you have to take
it by faith, a little bit now,
00:23:05.48\00:23:09.08
but if it's the
thesis statement,
00:23:09.12\00:23:11.22
then, what we can say is,
00:23:11.25\00:23:13.36
if it only
applied to some people
00:23:13.39\00:23:15.59
and not to everybody,
00:23:15.62\00:23:17.63
it wouldn't be the
thesis statement, now, would it?
00:23:17.66\00:23:19.36
Okay, so, that's the
first step, all right,
00:23:19.39\00:23:23.43
but we'll turn
around and we'll say,
00:23:23.47\00:23:24.80
"Well, no, it's not
submitting to one another
00:23:24.83\00:23:28.94
in the sense that the apostle
describes pairs of people,
00:23:28.97\00:23:33.04
wives and husbands,
children and parents,
00:23:33.07\00:23:38.25
slaves and
masters, in each case,
00:23:38.28\00:23:41.05
these two pairs...
there's a power differential
00:23:41.08\00:23:43.52
between them in the home,
00:23:43.59\00:23:44.92
it's easier seen with
the children and the parents
00:23:44.95\00:23:47.89
or with the
slaves and the masters,
00:23:47.92\00:23:49.82
obvious power difference,
00:23:49.86\00:23:51.29
so now actually, Paul
is describing the same
00:23:51.33\00:23:53.13
between husbands and wives
but when he describes this,
00:23:53.16\00:23:57.50
he never tells parents
to obey their children,
00:23:57.57\00:24:00.24
I can hear some parents
out there saying, "Amen,"
00:24:00.27\00:24:04.21
but he never tells
parents to obey their children,
00:24:04.24\00:24:07.98
he never tells
masters to obey their slaves,
00:24:08.01\00:24:10.41
he never tells husbands,
he never specifically says
00:24:10.45\00:24:13.31
when he talks to husbands,
"submit to their wives,"
00:24:13.35\00:24:16.22
so, in that sense,
no... he doesn't say,
00:24:16.25\00:24:18.75
this term,
"Submit to one another"
00:24:18.79\00:24:21.99
he doesn't refer
to the leader, okay...
00:24:22.02\00:24:25.16
But he does tell the husband
and the master and the parent
00:24:25.19\00:24:29.60
to be submissive to Christ.
00:24:29.66\00:24:31.50
Not only that but... he
will illustrate each way
00:24:31.53\00:24:34.84
that these individuals
are related to Christ
00:24:34.90\00:24:38.17
and how they are to use
the power that they have
00:24:38.21\00:24:41.44
and he always
modifies or limits that power.
00:24:41.48\00:24:45.41
Like the husbands
are to love their wives
00:24:45.45\00:24:48.38
as they do their
own body, they are...
00:24:48.42\00:24:51.29
parents are not to exasperate,
00:24:51.32\00:24:53.76
"Fathers don't
exasperate your child
00:24:53.79\00:24:55.72
with strong discipline,"
00:24:55.76\00:24:57.63
you're not to
frustrate that poor child
00:24:57.66\00:25:00.53
and browbeat the child,
00:25:00.56\00:25:02.13
and the masters are
to be kind to the slaves.
00:25:02.16\00:25:05.83
Yeah, they're not
supposed to, he says,
00:25:05.87\00:25:07.87
"stop threatening"
00:25:07.90\00:25:09.24
now, actually a
person who threatens,
00:25:09.27\00:25:12.94
this is a little strange
but the person who threatens,
00:25:12.97\00:25:16.21
or a person who
forces other people...
00:25:16.24\00:25:19.78
is actually weaker because
00:25:19.81\00:25:22.72
the other person
doesn't recognize their power,
00:25:22.78\00:25:24.72
so they're having
to show it, you see...
00:25:24.75\00:25:26.72
when people recognize
your status or your power,
00:25:26.76\00:25:30.23
you don't have to go out of
your way to force them to do so,
00:25:30.26\00:25:33.93
all right, so,
00:25:34.00\00:25:35.33
Paul always takes
their position of power,
00:25:35.36\00:25:39.03
and he says, "Look,
that power has to be used
00:25:39.07\00:25:42.84
to bless other
people, so, in one sense,
00:25:42.87\00:25:47.71
he will say,
"Yes, everybody submits"
00:25:47.74\00:25:52.21
everybody submits to Christ,
00:25:52.25\00:25:54.15
but everybody
has a different role
00:25:54.18\00:25:56.79
and each role,
whatever role you're in,
00:25:56.82\00:26:00.39
he will say, he will show...
00:26:00.42\00:26:02.19
as we walk through
the husbands and wives
00:26:02.22\00:26:04.46
who we're
particularly looking at
00:26:04.49\00:26:05.83
in this series of programs,
in each of these cases,
00:26:05.86\00:26:09.36
he will show that you are to use
00:26:09.40\00:26:12.30
your understanding of Christ,
00:26:12.33\00:26:15.17
you should use that
reference for Christ
00:26:15.20\00:26:16.54
to use what the
Bible teaches about
00:26:16.57\00:26:18.81
your relationship to Christ,
00:26:18.84\00:26:20.58
now becomes the guiding
spirit, the guiding direction
00:26:20.61\00:26:23.78
of how you are to relate
to people in your family,
00:26:23.81\00:26:26.95
it is a Christian home,
and he thoroughly Christianizes
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the Greco-Roman household.
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So that it isn't like
the Greco-Roman household,
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where the man was
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the "all in all...
crack the whip," not at all.
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Oh my! you read some
of those stories about
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and what they said about women
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and the women were stupid
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or where they
weren't as good as men,
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and the men had to control them
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and a whole
variety of things like that
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so, Paul is...
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now, a lot of people today
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they'll look at
this and they'll say,
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"This is
terrible, he's so backwards,
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he's so
controlling," and so forth...
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actually within that context
of where you're speaking,
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he's quite radical in
terms of reordering the home
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and making it a positive
place for all members involved.
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And I think that...
we're out of time...
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from what I know but,
you're going to really enjoy
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our study, the
next couple of studies
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on this because as I said,
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when it's done
properly, it is easy...
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a woman will easily
submit to her husband,
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thankfully
submit to her husband,
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if she has a
husband who is loving her
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as Christ loves the church
who is being that supportive
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and looking for her
benefit and it's not going to be
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a situation...
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we're not going to be
trying to tell you that
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you're supposed to be a
doormat for your husband
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because that's not it at all,
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thank you so much,
our time has long gone
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we just so
appreciate your being here,
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and for those of you at
home, our prayer is that
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God will multiply His mercy,
His love and His grace to you.
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