Hello, and
welcome to Heart Lift.
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I'm Jill Morikone,
and I'm so glad that you
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have joined us today.
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We're on a journey
toward hope, toward healing,
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toward the transformation
that the Lord Jesus Christ
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wants to work in your
heart and in mine, as women,
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as daughters of God.
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If you're just joining us,
we're in the middle of several
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programs, a discussion
on the topic of purity.
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I know purity can be a
difficult and sensitive topic,
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but the beautiful thing
is that the Lord Jesus Christ
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wants to cleanse us.
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Whatever our
impurity, He can take it away.
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Last week, last program, we
discussed the first three keys,
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the first three steps
toward experiencing purity,
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experiencing
purity of heart and life.
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Impurity is really a measure of
how much we accept and receive
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the
righteousness of Jesus Christ.
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The first three steps to recap:
1. Is to seek forgiveness.
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Go to God right now and
say, God, You know the shame
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all over me. You
know the junk in my past.
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Will You forgive me?
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And He says, Yes, immediately.
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If we confess our sins,
He is faithful and just.
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He will forgive us,
and He will cleanse us from
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all unrighteousness.
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2. Is to surrender.
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Surrender those
lustful thoughts,
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surrender those emotions.
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Or if you're currently acting
out with somebody, surrender
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that person, and break off
that relationship before God.
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Now we know we cannot do
that of our own strength.
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We go to God and we
say, God, we need Your help.
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I ask that You
take this from me.
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And sometimes we
surrender, and those thoughts,
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those emotions, those feelings,
they pop right back up again.
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But we go back to
God and we re-surrender.
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3. Is to behold Jesus.
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We don't want to just
surrender, and leave our
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hearts an open vacuum.
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We want to behold Jesus.
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We behold Him in His Word.
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We behold Him with Scripture,
with song, through prayer.
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Today we're going to be
discussing the next four steps
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to experiencing
purity of life and heart.
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Our Scripture for today is
Romans 13:14, Romans 13:14.
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And I love this Scripture.
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If you have your Bible,
open along, and follow along.
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If not, you can
always jot down the reference
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to look it up later.
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The Bible says, But put
on the Lord Jesus Christ,
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and make no provision for the
flesh, to fulfill it's lusts.
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Let's pray. Father, we come
before You in the name of Jesus,
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and we thank
You for Your purity.
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We thank You that You
can exchange our filthy rags
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for Your dazzling
white robe of righteousness.
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We thank You that nothing we've
done in the past can be too bad
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that you cannot cover,
and You cannot forgive.
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Right now we open up our hearts
to receive what You want to give
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us today from Your Word.
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And we thank You in the precious
and Holy name of Jesus, Amen.
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One of my friends,
she's actually one of my very
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good girl friends,
is a beautiful picture
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of what Jesus is like.
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She ministers to other people.
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She walks in authenticity.
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She's not one of these
fake Christians who paste on a
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smile, and it's
not really genuine.
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She's real, she's genuine.
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She's honest about where
she's been, and she shares,
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This is where God is taking me.
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This is where God has led me.
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Hers is a beautiful experience.
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She shares with other
people often her story.
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She ministers. She
blesses my heart incredibly.
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In her past she
was an alcoholic.
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And she is quite
honest about that.
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And she shares about that.
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But God broke that
addiction off of her life.
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In addition, as well as
that alcoholism from her past,
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and this was years ago,
she also had a love addiction.
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Now you might say, What in the
world is the difference between
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a sex addiction
and a love addiction?
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I think a sex addiction
has more to do with an object,
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and maybe you would disassociate
a little bit from the person.
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It's more you
view that as an object.
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A love addiction is
a little bit different.
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And she dealt with this.
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She said that she would get a
sort of high from those romantic
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fantasies, from those thoughts,
from going out and sleeping with
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her neighbor, or
whoever it happened to be.
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She was seeking sex in
order to feel better inside,
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in order to fill
whatever that brokenness was,
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whatever that pain was in
her heart and in her life.
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You know what the
beautiful thing is?
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The Lord gave her deliverance.
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The Lord freed her.
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If you knew her today, you
would have no idea that that was
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ever a battle in her life.
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You would have no idea that
she ever struggled with that.
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The Lord Jesus filled
her heart, He cleansed her,
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He filled her with His
grace, and with His comfort
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for all of those
broken places in her heart.
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And she is a new
creation in Christ Jesus.
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And now she ministers in a
beautiful and effective way
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to many men and women.
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It's an incredible
story of what God can do.
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Now you might say, I
don't have a love addiction,
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and I'm not acting
out sexually right now,
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but I struggled
with my thoughts.
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That was exactly where
I was, and I shared that
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a couple programs ago.
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I won't share
the story again now.
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But my battle was with
my fantasies in my mind.
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My lust was
internal; it was in my head.
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It was a result of
those romance novels I read,
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or those soap operas
that I used to watch.
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And God said, Jill, I want
to break that off of your life.
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Whatever your battle is, God
says, I came to set you free.
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I came to bring
deliverance to your heart.
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So we're looking
at the four keys.
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We looked at three last program.
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This program is the next four
keys in our battle to freedom
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from sin to purity of heart.
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1. Guard the
avenues of the mind.
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Galatians 6:7, 8
says, What we feed grows.
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What we starve dies.
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In essence it says that.
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It's the law of sowing,
and reaping what we sow.
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If we sow to the
flesh, we're going to of the
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flesh reap corruption.
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If we sow to the spirit,
we're going to of the spirit
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reap life everlasting.
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Whatever you feed in
your soul, and your spirit
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it's going to grow.
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And whatever you choose
to push aside and to starve,
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that is going to die.
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Romans 13:14. That
was our opening Scripture.
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Put on the Lord Jesus
Christ, and make no provision
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for the flesh, to
fulfill its lusts.
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Practically speaking, how
are we to accomplish this?
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How do we put on
the Lord Jesus Christ?
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And how do we make no
provision for the flesh?
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for that thing that
would feed our sexual thoughts,
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or those fantasies?
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How do we do that?
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I think, in my own experience,
the solution, how we do this,
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is to remove the temptation as
far as possible from our homes.
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What do I mean by that?
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If you're struggling, and you're
addicted to a certain program on
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the TV, get rid of it.
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Then you don't have that
open temptation in your home.
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Maybe it's a magazine
subscription that you have
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to one of those
racier magazines,
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and that feeds the
lust in your heart.
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Cancel that subscription.
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Maybe it's a book that you
have in your home that feeds
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that romantic fantasy.
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Throw the book away.
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I used to think,
I'm strong in Jesus.
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I'm strong in Jesus.
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And I'm okay. These
things won't tempt me anymore.
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And I could go weeks, months,
and even years without even,
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maybe pulling that
book off the bookshelf.
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But then in a moment, in a
weak moment, it would be there,
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right there on the
shelf staring me in the face.
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How much better to remove that
temptation from your home at
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all. I know that this
principle seems harsh.
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You might say, Jill,
that's a little harsh.
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But I can tell you it works.
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Now how do you decide
what's appropriate for you?
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How do you
decide, What do I watch?
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What do I listen to?
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What movies do I see?
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What music do I listen to?
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What books do I read?
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What TV shows am
I going to watch?
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Philippians 4:8 gives us
a really good litmus test.
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Philippians 4:8 is a
great litmus test for this.
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The Bible says, Finally,
brethren, whatever things are
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true, whatever things are
honest, whatever things are
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just, whatever things are pure,
whatever things are lovely,
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whatever things are of good
report; if there's any virtue,
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if there's any
praise, think on these things.
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So how do we know?
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We go to God and
say, Is this honest?
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Is this going to strengthen
my purity? Is this just?
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And when you go down that list
you'll find that there's a few
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that might
automatically be eliminated.
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I think the key, nobody can
come into your home and say,
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You should do this,
and you shouldn't do that.
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Because that's control, and
we are not talking about that.
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I think the key is you
yourself go to God and ask Him,
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and keep an open mind, an open
heart to be open to what the
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Holy Spirit wants to tell
you, to what the Holy Spirit
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wants to teach you.
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I know sometimes I'll read
a book, or watch a movie...
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And maybe you
have this experience.
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Say I watch a certain movie,
and when I'm done at the end
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of the couple hours,
you know what happens?
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I think, Wow, I
want to follow God more.
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Wow, I feel encouraged
in my own walk with God.
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Wow, I want to be a better wife.
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I want to witness for
Jesus more effectively.
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If I watch a movie and
it has that effect on me,
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I know that's a good movie.
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That's, for me,
that's a good movie.
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Now what if I watch a movie,
and when I'm done I think,
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Why doesn't my
husband treat me like that?
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Man, and I start fantasizing
about some romantic thing
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going on with the movie,
or boy, that kissing scene,
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I think I'm going to
replay that in my mind a bit.
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Or it starts to feed some of
that lust in my heart, then I
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know for me, that's a movie
I'm going to struggle with.
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That's a movie I
need to be careful of.
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And I need to say, Okay,
I'm going to make that decision,
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and I will get rid of that.
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I think the more we seek God's
face, the more we just desire
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to serve Him,
He's going to show you.
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Open up your heart to Him,
and He will reveal it to you.
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So 1. We put on
the Lord Jesus Christ.
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We get rid of those
temptations in our home.
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We make no
provision for the flesh.
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2. Serve Jesus where you're at.
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Philippians 4:11. It says, Not
that I speak in regard of need:
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for I have learned, in
whatever state I am in,
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therewith to be content.
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Serve Jesus where you're at.
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If you're single, and you
wish that you could be married,
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instead of sitting in self pity,
pining, wishing for something
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you don't have, surrender that
to God, and seek to serve Jesus
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where you're at right now.
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If you're married, thank God
for the husband He gave to you.
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Don't pine for something
else, or some other fantasy.
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Thank God for who He blessed
you with, and seek to serve God
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together with who
God has given you.
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Now maybe you
might be saying, Jill,
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my husband's not a believer.
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My husband
doesn't believe in Jesus.
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I'm serving God by myself.
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And I know many of you
might be in that category.
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If that is the case,
come before God and just say,
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God I'm choosing to honor my
husband, and at the same time
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fill me with Your joy, and
help me to serve You completely.
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1. We make no
provision for the flesh.
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We put away those temptations,
those things in our home
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that are specially hurtful.
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2. We just serve
Jesus where we're at.
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3. Become accountable.
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I believe
addiction thrives in secrecy.
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If you're married and
your husband is open to talking
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with you about your
struggles, share with him.
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If you're not, find
a trusted Godly woman
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that you can share with.
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Find a Christian counselor.
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Those are all good options.
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My one counsel would be, Don't
go sharing with another man
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who's not your husband.
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Because that's going to
lead to some sort of intimacy.
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And right now you're struggling
to break that emotional
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bondage that
you're in. Pray together.
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Seek God's face together over
what you're struggling with.
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I think an
accountability partner is huge.
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In my own life I shared my
battle with my husband Greg,
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and then we prayed
together, and I sought to be
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accountable to him.
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In addition I found
a Godly woman that I
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pray with every week.
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Every week we pray together.
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And she's my prayer partner.
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Every week she will ask
me, Jill, how can I pray
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for you this week?
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And I'll say, You know what?
I'm really struggling this week
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with... whatever it is.
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Maybe I'm feeling jealous about
a certain situation or a person.
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And I'll say, Pray that
the Lord Jesus breaks off that
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jealousy from my life.
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Maybe there's pride in my heart,
and I say, I see it cropping up,
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and I don't want
it. Pray for that.
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Maybe I'm not having
joy in Jesus this week.
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And I say, Please pray
for me that I experience
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anew the joy in Jesus;
the joy of my salvation.
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Maybe it's something else.
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Maybe it's dealing with lust.
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Whatever it is,
I share with her.
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Then she shares with me.
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This was how my week was.
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This is what God did in my week.
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And then, This is my battle.
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This is my struggle.
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Jill, would you
pray for me here?
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And then we pray together
on the phone every week.
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It's a beautiful time.
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It encourages me.
It strengthens me.
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It's changed me. I know it has.
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She is a
beautiful picture of Jesus,
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and I can be honest with her.
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I think there's five
steps when you are looking,
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when you're looking, when
you're analyzing, finding an
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accountability partner.
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There's five things to look for:
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1. You want to find
someone who's Godly.
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That is important.
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Now you don't need someone
perfect; nobody is perfect.
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So if you're looking for a
perfect accountability partner,
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they don't exist, so
just scratch that idea.
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But look for someone
who is at least seeking God.
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Obviously, you don't
want someone who's attained.
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Because if we think we've
attained, then we know for
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certain we have not.
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So just look for someone
who's heart follows after God,
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who every day wants
to seek more of His face,
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who wants to
become more like Jesus.
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1. Find someone who's Godly.
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2. You want
someone who's confidential.
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This is huge! You don't
want your struggles passed
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around the church.
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The worst thing could be
you sharing with a woman,
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who is Godly, but you can
say, Oh, I'm struggling here.
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Would you please pray for me?
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And the next time you come to
church the Pastor talks to you
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about your own struggle,
or another member over here.
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And you think, I
thought it was safe.
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I thought she was confidential.
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Now if the woman you choose is
truly Godly, then we pray that
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she would be
confidential as well.
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But that would be a key.
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And sometimes we say, How do
we even know who we can trust?
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How do I know if this
woman is confidential?
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Share a little bit at the
beginning, and then if you find
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that they are trustworthy,
share just a little bit more.
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Sometimes we could
over share at the beginning.
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So I think trust
takes time to build.
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I would say it's
going to take a year or two
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before you truly know.
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But in the
beginning share just a bit.
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And then, over
time, you can share more.
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Godly, confidential, safe.
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Safe is a lot like
confidential, but to me it's
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a little different.
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To me it would be someone who
does not belittle your struggle.
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You don't want someone
who's going to make fun of you,
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someone who's going to say,
Oh, you're dealing with that?
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That's nothing! You should
have seen what I dealt with.
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You want someone
who won't belittle what
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you are dealing with.
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Someone who's encouraging,
someone who will acknowledge
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and affirm the progress
that you are making. That's key.
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And 5. Seek a woman who's
prayerful, a woman who doesn't
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need to know all of the answers,
but someone who's willing
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to pray with and for you.
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First we go before God
and we seek forgiveness.
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This was last program.
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Second we surrender
those lustful thoughts,
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or that person to God.
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3. We behold Jesus.
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Then, dealing with
today's program, we put behind,
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we put behind any of those
things that are in our home
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that are tempting us.
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We don't make any
provision for the flesh.
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We serve Jesus where we're at.
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We become accountable.
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Finally, we don't
compare ourselves to others.
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I was, when I was
teaching school...
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I work at 3ABN full time
now, but I taught music lessons
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at our local church
school for about ten years.
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And when I was teaching,
one of the little kids...
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He was probably nine or ten.
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He came into school and
he's telling all of his friends
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about this movie that he
saw, and he was all excited.
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And it was not a bad movie.
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I'm just being honest.
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It was not a bad rating.
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It was a wholesome movie.
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But when he shared, in
my heart I was troubled,
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because I've seen
that movie before.
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And I knew if I went
back and watched it again,
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it's going to rekindle all
of that old lust in my heart.
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It's going to bring
it back to the surface.
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And so I complained
to my prayer partner.
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Remember the accountability
partner we just talked about?
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And I complained to her, and
I said, How come a ten year old
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kid can watch the same
thing that would bother me?
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can watch the same
thing that would stir up that
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old lust in my heart?
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And you know what she said?
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You don't compare
yourself to others, Jill.
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All you need to
do is look to Jesus.
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If he can watch that, and that
feed his soul, Praise the Lord!
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That's wonderful! You're not
accountable for anybody else.
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You don't compare yourself
and say, I do this, you don't.
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We get into pride, we get into
judging, we get into a critical
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spirit if we get into that.
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She said, Simply go to God.
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God knows the
way my heart works.
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God knows my own battles
in the past with impurity,
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and so He has a special guard
over my heart, and that's okay.
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That's not only okay, it's
a blessing. It's a blessing.
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So don't, in your own
experience, don't feel like,
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if so and so does it,
then it's fine for me.
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And it might be fine for you,
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and that's wonderful.
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The key is go to God.
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He knows the battles you
have fought in your past.
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Nobody else knows
them like Jesus knows them.
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No one ever knows us as
truly inside as the Lord Jesus
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cause He made us. He
knows all about our struggles.
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So come to Him and say, Is
there anything that You want
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me to get rid of? Is there
anything that would pull me
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back to that old
cauldron of lust?
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Is there anything that
You say, I need to get rid of?
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Go to God; He'll show you.
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And then the key is, ask.
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We, sometimes we can't
even get rid of that stuff.
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We just ask God for
the grace, the courage,
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and the strength
to get rid of it.
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We're going to
take a short break here,
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and when we come back
we're going to do our practical
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application for this week.
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It's something that you can take
with you this week in your own
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journey with Freedom From Lust.
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