Hello, and
welcome to Heart Lift.
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I'm Jill Morikone,
and I'm so glad that you
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have joined us today.
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We're on a journey
toward hope, toward healing,
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toward the transformation that
the Lord Jesus wants to work
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in your heart, and in mine,
as woman, as daughters of God.
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If you're just
joining us for the first time,
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we spent our first several
programs discussing forgiveness;
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the fact that the Lord
Jesus means what He says
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when He says we can come to Him.
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And if we confess our sins,
He will forgive and cleanse us
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from all unrighteousness.
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We discussed the forgiveness
He wants to pour into our hearts
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so that we can extend that
forgiveness to someone else.
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Then we moved on to fear,
and discussed how God wants to
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break us free from the
cord of Satan, from that fear.
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Our last couple
programs dealt with sadness,
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with pain, with sorrow, and
how Jesus wants to pour in the
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the oil of the Holy
Spirit, His comfort and grace,
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and turn our sorrow into joy.
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Right now we're
beginning a section.
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We will go several
programs on the topic of purity.
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Now you know this is a woman's
program, so we're going to be
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discussing purity
from a woman's perspective.
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Our Scripture is 1
Corinthians 6:18-20.
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If you have your Bible, I
encourage that you open it up,
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and follow along with us.
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If not, you can
always jot down the reference
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and look it up later.
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Now I always used to think that
this Scripture was about health,
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but if we read verse 18,
we'll see it's not about health.
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Flee sexual immorality.
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Every sin that a man
does is outside the body;
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but he who
commits sexual immorality
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sins against his own body.
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Or do you not know that
your body is the temple of the
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Holy Spirit who is in
you, whom you have from God,
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and you are not your own?
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Therefore glorify God
in your body, and in your
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spirit, which are God's.
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As I mentioned before,
this is a sensitive topic,
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and a difficult topic.
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But I know that the Lord Jesus
Christ wants to bring freedom;
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freedom from the addiction,
freedom from sexual addiction,
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freedom from lust, and
give us purity again inside.
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Let's go to the Lord in prayer.
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Father, we just come before You
right now in the name of Jesus.
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And right now I ask
that You would hide me,
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that You would
fill me in a special way
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with Your Holy Spirit.
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And I pray for my
sisters out there.
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Lord I don't know
what their battle is,
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and what their struggle
is, but I pray that You would
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bring healing,
hope, and deliverance.
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And we thank You in the precious
and holy name of Jesus, Amen.
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From childhood I
had a vivid imagination.
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My sister and I
could play dolls for hours.
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And I would always
provide the story line.
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The story of what was
going on in the dolls' lives.
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We had our dolls, and animals,
and I made up lots of stories.
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I loved stories. I
loved to read stories.
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I loved to tell stories.
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As I grew into my teens, and
young adulthood, Satan took that
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active imagination, which
I believe is a gift from God,
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and he turned it, and warped
it into something more sinister.
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I discovered something
that latched onto my heart,
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and onto my soul, and
that is romance novels.
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I didn't necessarily act
out, and go out and sleep with
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people. However, I latched onto
romance novels, and I developed
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an addiction for them.
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To me they were those fantasies
from childhood, and imagination,
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but it had a few other
things pulled in with it.
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And I was hooked. I loved
it, and I loved to read them.
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Over time I thought,
Jill it's not really pure.
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Some of the stuff you're
reading isn't really holy.
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And I said, God, forgive me.
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I do want to walk
before You in purity.
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Even though I'm not acting
out any of those thoughts,
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they were still in my
mind; those romantic fantasies
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that I would spin.
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And so I would decide
not to read those books.
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And that would work for
a week or two, or a month.
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And then in a weak
moment I'd pick them up again,
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and I'd begin to read them.
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So I decided to get rid of the
romantic novels out of my home,
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and that would give me more
purity, more freedom in Jesus.
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I met my husband Greg.
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We got married. I'm in my
early twenty's by this point.
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And it was a
beautiful love story.
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And Greg is so
incredibly good to me.
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Not long into our marriage,
I would say the first couple
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weeks, we went out,
we're setting up housekeeping.
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Doing all of that stuff.
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And we went out and we
purchased a little 13" TV.
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Now this was way before
the days of flat screen TV's,
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so it had the big back.
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And it was just a little TV.
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We had rabbit ears.
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And, of course, every home,
you need your TV to keep up
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with what's going on.
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Now Greg loves
news, weather, and sports.
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They're fairly
typical masculine pursuits.
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And he really enjoyed them.
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And that was wonderful.
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But I, I latched
onto something else,
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something called soap operas.
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To me they were a very
good romance novel come to life.
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They had marital infidelity.
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They had
romance. They had drama.
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They had all of
that, and I was hooked.
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I hid my addiction from my
husband Greg as best I could.
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Because I thought,
That's not real holy.
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That's not real pure.
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I really don't
want to be doing that.
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But try as I might, I
could not pull myself away.
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I was hooked. I was, as
you would say, I was addicted.
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One night Greg came to me
and he said, Jilly let's talk.
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Can we talk? And I said, Sure.
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I mean we always talked.
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But it was rather unusual,
because usually he does not
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broach a subject in that way.
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I mean we just freely conversed.
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And for him to
say, We need to talk.
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I knew something was up.
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So we sat down on our couch
and he began to share how God
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had called him as
Priest of our home,
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to be
accountable for his family.
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How he was accountable to God
for the salvation of his family.
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And I just sat there
kinda nervous, and uncertain,
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and squirming on the couch,
because I didn't know where this
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was going and what
was going, to happen.
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Then all of a sudden he hit
on my cherished sin: soap opera.
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You know all that time I
thought I had been hiding it?
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I'd been hiding
it from my husband?
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I hadn't been. He
knew about it all along.
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And he said, Jilly I
can see you're addicted.
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And I was like, Yeh,
but I can't give it up.
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No, I can't give it up.
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I don't want to give it up.
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And he said, Yeh, I know.
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But I really believe
that's pulling you from Jesus.
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And I said, I know it is.
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Because, you know what?
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When I opened up my
Bible, it didn't energize me.
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It didn't excite me.
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I thought, This is dry.
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Throw it across the room.
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I didn't want to read it.
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I knew that it was
pulling me from Jesus.
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So we knelt down by
our couch, Greg and I.
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We knelt down by
our couch and we prayed.
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And we asked God for
purity; purity of heart,
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and purity of life.
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And we made a
radical decision that day.
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And you may say, Jill this
decision is really radical.
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And it was. But we
decided to throw out our TV.
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Now we're not
talking about 3ABN.
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We're not talking
about that type of stuff.
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And I'm not talking
about much of what is on TV.
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You can watch the weather.
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You can watch
the news, or sports.
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I'm not saying that.
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Just for me in my own battle,
it was easier to remove that
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temptation for those soap
operas entirely from our home.
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That decision, it's
been probably ten years,
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that decision made all those
years ago, I think was the best
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decision we've ever made.
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It started me anew
on that path to purity,
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and to oneness with my Savior.
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And I've never regretted it.
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And I'm always thankful
that my husband had the courage
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to sit down and to say,
Jill I'm concerned here.
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You're wandering
from God. I'm concerned.
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Even after we got rid of that TV
it was an intense battle for me.
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And I don't know
where you feel right now.
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You are in a relationship with
God in the matter of purity.
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You might be saying,
Jill I'm sleeping with
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the next door neighbor.
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My husband doesn't know.
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You might be saying, I'm not
going out, and I'm not sleeping
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with other people, but
I'm having emotional affairs.
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Or I'm trapped
just like you were;
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struggling in that addiction.
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In my head those
romantic fantasies around maybe
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romance novels, or maybe around
TV, or some sort of soap opera
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like I was addicted to.
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Let's look at
our self evaluation.
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Do I walk in purity?
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How much does
lust control my life?
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Now with our self
evaluations it's always
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important to be honest.
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Don't feel like you
have to share this with your
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spouse, or your pastor.
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This is between you and God. 1.
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If you're here you're
actually in the stage of
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acting out what you think. 2.
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That was where I was.
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Maybe that's not
where you are though.
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Maybe you're at the next. 3.
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Maybe you're at 4.
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I'm here to tell you
today that there is hope,
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there is victory in Jesus.
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Don't despair if
you've already fallen,
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or if you're consumed in
the cauldron of lust and sin,
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or if there's shame
and guilt all over you.
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Don't despair. Don't feel
discouraged if there's impurity
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lurking in your heart that
you're trying to keep hidden.
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And I want to encourage
you to don't tune this out,
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because you consider yourself
exempt from the struggle.
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You think, I've
never battled with that.
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But maybe someone you know
has, and you can encourage them.
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Our God is longing to
cleanse us, and to set us free;
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free from the addiction to lust,
free from that stain of sin,
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free from even our
judgmental spirit toward other
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people who have fallen.
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Isn't it amazing
how we judge sin?
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Isn't that true? We
think, this sin is really bad,
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and over here isn't so bad.
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We might say, I'm
not really sinning.
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I just have a
few impure thoughts.
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I just have some
lustful fantasies.
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I just have some
romantic daydreams.
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But I would never go out
and sleep with someone else.
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You know what? In the sight of
God it's really the same thing.
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And God says, I want
to bring you freedom.
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I was doing a teen retreat.
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We were talking to young
girls 13 to 18, maybe up to 20.
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And we were talking
about this topic of purity.
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This topic of who we
are in Jesus as young women,
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and how do we deal with
romance and relationships?
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And I gave them a question.
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I said, What is love?
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This is to you.
What is love to you?
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Now they wrote
down their answers.
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They did not put their
name; and that was important.
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Otherwise they probably
would not have been very honest.
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They did not
put their name down.
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But they wrote, and
they handed them in.
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And I have some of them here.
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I actually wrote them down.
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What is love,
romance and happiness?
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Treating someone
with care and affection.
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Being with someone who
loves you just the way you are.
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Love is when you have
emotion for someone else.
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Love is being
important to someone else.
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Love is doing
anything for the other person.
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Letting someone
else hold your heart.
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Love is pain and happiness.
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Love is an action not a feeling.
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Love is someone else caring
so much for you that they would
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do anything for you.
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Love is freedom.
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Love is being vulnerable.
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Love is when someone else
feels sexual tension for you.
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Now that list, I'm not
saying they're all Biblical,
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that's simply what
the teen girls put down.
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What is love? We
went to the next question.
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And the next question
I asked these girls was,
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What does purity mean to you?
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These are the answers
that they came up with:
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Purity is no
sex before marriage.
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Purity is keeping
a promise to myself.
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Purity is being clean.
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There's some really
good definitions here.
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Purity is keeping your
body and thoughts clean.
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I like that one.
Purity is no blemish.
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Purity is living like Jesus.
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Knowing your self worth.
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Keeping body,
mind, and soul pure.
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Purity is being
innocent and having no sin.
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Purity is staying true
to yourself and to God.
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This one says, I guess
purity is being abstinate,
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but that's harder nowadays.
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And if you choose to not
abstain that's your own choice.
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Purity is to be
clean, not only physically,
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but spiritually, and mentally.
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Remember this is the list from
the girls from the teen retreat;
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what they thought purity is.
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Finally, purity is not being
tainted, or someone who has
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been renewed in Christ.
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I think that is one of
my favorite definitions.
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It's not being tainted.
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Or it's someone who
has been renewed in Christ.
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Because to be honest with
you, we all have impurity.
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We all have impurity
of some kind or another.
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And I'm reminded of that Bible
promise, 2 Corinthians 5:17.
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If anyone is in Christ,
he or she is a new creation:
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old things have
passed away; behold,
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all things have become new.
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I believe God's call to purity
of heart and life is high,
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much higher
than I ever imagined.
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And I think much higher
than we ever imagined as women.
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Purity is not a line
in the sand where we say,
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I come this far and no farther.
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As long as I don't step
over the line, I'm okay.
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I don't think purity
is a line in the sand.
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Purity comes from the heart.
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It's a state of the heart.
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Turn with me to
Luke, Luke 6:45, Luke 6:45.
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True purity stems from a
heart that has been cleansed
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and purified by Jesus.
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True purity
springs from the heart.
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Natasha Nebblett was
here at 3ABN not too long ago,
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and she talked about purity.
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And her definition,
I like this definition,
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so I guess I'm plagiarizing,
but I'm giving credit.
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She said, None of us are pure.
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And that is the truth.
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But purity is simply a
measure of how much we accept
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and receive the
righteousness of Christ.
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Did you catch that?
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Purity is simply a measure
of how much I accept and receive
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the righteousness of Christ.
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What are some things
that could stain my purity?
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You might be saying, Jill I
think I'm doing pretty good.
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Or you might be
saying, Jill I'm way back here.
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I know that I struggle.
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Let's examine some of
those things that might
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actually stain our purity.
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We know men are
more visually stimulated.
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And we read a lot about that.
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And you would hear a
lot about that as well.
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So maybe for a man, he might
be more tempted by pornography,
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or something of that nature.
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I believe, as women, we
are emotionally stimulated.
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We are relational creatures.
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We love to be in community.
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We love to share with other
women, and with men as well.
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We love relationships.
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We would be
emotionally stimulated.
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So I think a lot of our acting
out with impurity has to do
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with that emotional dimension.
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What would be some
ways that we could,
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what things that
could stain our purity.
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One would be acting out.
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You might say, I
wish I could be loved.
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So I jump in and out of
relationships thinking somehow
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that the next guy is going to
fill the void inside my heart.
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You might say, I wish I could
be loved, so I freely give my
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body to my
boyfriend, to my co-worker,
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to the neighbor next door.
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Why? Because it's
going to make him love me.
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And it might
make him stay with me.
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You might say, I wish I could
be loved, so I retreat into
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this fantasy world.
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I retreat from reality where I
can be beautiful, where I can be
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sought after for awhile.
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Matthew 5:27, 28.
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What does the Bible say?
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Let me just jump
over there real quick.
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The Bible says, You've
heard of old it was said,
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You shall not commit
adultery: but I say to you,
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whoever looks at a woman
with lust has already committed
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adultery in his own heart.
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Now this is talking
specifically about a man,
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but I believe we can
apply it to us as women.
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We might think, Oh it's just
a fantasy in my mind. It's okay.
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God says, Even if we have
those thoughts, that's impurity.
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And He said, I
want to cleanse you.
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I want to make you pure.
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Remember, none of us are pure.
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Purity is only a measure of how
much we accept the righteousness
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of the Lord Jesus.
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Maybe acting out
is not your thing.
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Maybe your struggle with
purity deals with comparisons.
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You might say, I wish
my husband had a body like
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my favorite actor.
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I wish he was funny
like the guy at the office.
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I wish he made more
money like my boss does.
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I wish he prayed for
me like the deacon does
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at church for his wife.
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I wish he listened to me like
my best friend's husband does.
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I wish he brought me
flowers like so and so does.
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Comparisons are dangerous.
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I was reading about a
woman once, and she said she was
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having six, not five, six
affairs with six different
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men at the same time.
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Now before you jump out
of your skin, they were all
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emotional affairs.
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But remember
what the Bible says.
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Even if it's
thinking in our heart,
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it's the same as committing it.
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She said she worked out at the
local gym, and she wished that
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her husband was as
funny as the guy at the gym.
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She said every Friday
night she and her husband
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would watch a movie.
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And she always wanted to
rent movies, or watch movies
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from a certain actor, because
she thought he was really hot.
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And she wished her husband had
a body like her favorite actor.
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She said that she wished
her husband listened to her,
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and she wished her
husband prayed for her.
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And she would compare her
husband to these other men,
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and wish that her
husband was like these
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other men; comparisons.
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I think the other thing
that could stain our purity:
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we have acting out,
we have comparisons,
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then we have romantic daydreams.
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I wish I could be
like the girl in the movie.
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I'd love to be
as beautiful as her.
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I want to be as
sought after like her.
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I wish I were kissed like her.
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What about, I could be
like the girl in the book?
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I'd like to be swept
off my feet like a princess.
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I'd like to live
happily ever after.
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I'd like to live in
that romantic fantasy land.
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I think specifically, as women,
our type of lust is fed more
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from these romantic emotional
attractions, attachments.
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That might be some of
those romantic movies.
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It might be some
of those soap operas.
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It might be some of
those romance novels.
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They feed that desire inside.
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Now no matter where you feel
you are in your life, in your
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heart right now, whether you
feel covered over with shame.
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The Lord Jesus says, I'm
going to forgive, and cleanse,
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and you are My princess.
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You can be
covered in dazzling white.
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The next two programs
we're going to look and examine
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the steps, the keys we can
take to experiencing purity,
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to experiencing freedom
from this addiction to lust.
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In just a moment we're
going to have to take a break.
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We always want to give
you something practical,
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some sort of application,
something that you can take
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with you this week that
can be a help and a blessing.
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So we're going to take a
break and we'll be right back.
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