The following program presents principles 00:00:01.98\00:00:03.65 designed to promote good health and is not 00:00:03.87\00:00:05.95 intended to take the place of 00:00:06.01\00:00:07.16 personalized professional care. 00:00:07.38\00:00:09.01 The opinions and ideas expressed are those 00:00:09.78\00:00:11.95 of the speaker. Viewers are encouraged to 00:00:12.01\00:00:14.27 draw their own conclusions 00:00:14.44\00:00:15.49 about the information presented. 00:00:15.67\00:00:17.17 Hello and welcome to Health For A 00:00:50.29\00:00:51.31 Lifetime. I'm your host Don Mackintosh and 00:00:51.41\00:00:53.82 today we are gonna be talking about an 00:00:53.91\00:00:55.37 important and troubling subject eating disorders 00:00:56.03\00:00:58.93 and joining us in the studio today to talk 00:00:59.57\00:01:01.19 about this is Jennifer Schwirzer. She has a 00:01:01.29\00:01:04.38 webpage, jenniferjill.org, and she has done a 00:01:04.58\00:01:09.02 very important book "Dying to Be Beautiful" 00:01:09.05\00:01:13.58 and I highly recommend the book and 00:01:13.86\00:01:15.15 we are glad that you are with us today. 00:01:15.35\00:01:16.39 It's good to be here. The reason I liked the 00:01:16.48\00:01:18.47 book is the research, the team you pull 00:01:18.54\00:01:21.67 together and then the fact that you are writing 00:01:21.88\00:01:24.10 it from, you know, perspective of a survivor. 00:01:24.13\00:01:27.21 Some of who has been through it. 00:01:27.40\00:01:28.37 Survivor. Many times you've got 00:01:28.75\00:01:30.42 people that right books about this never had the 00:01:31.13\00:01:33.02 problem and they just don't have that you know 00:01:33.23\00:01:36.14 the warmth that comes from the different 00:01:36.34\00:01:38.15 stories. You said there is about 10 different 00:01:38.37\00:01:40.04 testimonies in the book and then the information. 00:01:40.28\00:01:43.44 I'm talking about eating disorders. We were 00:01:43.92\00:01:46.13 talking about anorexia and bulimia, bulimia. 00:01:46.29\00:01:49.80 And just a quick definition of what those 00:01:50.60\00:01:52.45 are. Okay, anorexia is characterized by 00:01:52.48\00:01:56.01 obsession with thinness and anorexics limit the 00:01:56.76\00:02:01.78 amount of foods so there, it's basically 00:02:01.93\00:02:03.28 self-starvation. Bulimia in contrast is a binging 00:02:03.49\00:02:07.24 and purging disease consuming large 00:02:07.34\00:02:09.20 quantities of foods typically high calorie 00:02:09.33\00:02:11.88 foods and then finding some way of eliminating 00:02:11.96\00:02:14.09 them through vomiting or laxatives or exercise. 00:02:14.21\00:02:17.05 You know, in your book you talk about how 00:02:17.52\00:02:19.30 we got here as a culture. Yeah. We talked 00:02:19.38\00:02:21.86 about the social factors, the biological factors, 00:02:21.97\00:02:25.01 the physiological factor, all these different 00:02:25.04\00:02:27.29 things. We talked about how the culture is 00:02:27.52\00:02:29.62 changed from being fat is in or fats, where it's 00:02:29.74\00:02:32.63 at, thin is in, and how models get thinner, 00:02:32.68\00:02:37.11 but people are in reality getting fatter and that 00:02:37.26\00:02:39.16 disparity. We talked about all different 00:02:39.46\00:02:41.10 things and by the way you know, I'm glad 00:02:41.26\00:02:43.05 you have the webpage and you have a lot of 00:02:43.23\00:02:44.78 this information for people who want to 00:02:44.99\00:02:46.46 review that, but in this program you really 00:02:46.62\00:02:49.20 wanna talk about how to help someone that 00:02:49.34\00:02:52.85 has an eating disorder. Yeah, I'm assuming 00:02:53.13\00:02:55.47 that some of the people listening have a loved 00:02:55.60\00:02:57.66 one or friend that they suspect might have 00:02:57.76\00:03:00.65 either anorexia or bulimia and they wanna 00:03:00.81\00:03:02.98 help that individual, so I wanna go over some 00:03:03.15\00:03:05.01 techniques and something σσσσσ. 00:03:05.42\00:03:06.55 So what are some of those techniques? 00:03:06.58\00:03:07.78 Well, I want to start out by saying that helping. 00:03:08.04\00:03:10.83 Well, let's just sort of given overview here with 00:03:11.79\00:03:14.09 this next graphic. We wanna, we wanna 00:03:14.27\00:03:17.23 encompass three steps in our helping attempts. 00:03:17.48\00:03:19.79 One is disclosure, then decision, and then 00:03:19.90\00:03:22.40 connection. What I mean by disclosure is you 00:03:22.69\00:03:24.57 want to get the person to admit that they are 00:03:24.70\00:03:26.09 having this problem or that they are 00:03:26.27\00:03:27.77 struggling with this problem. 00:03:27.98\00:03:28.99 Sometimes as real hard. That's very difficult and 00:03:29.02\00:03:31.80 in a couple of minute I'm gonna talk about 00:03:31.93\00:03:33.17 how to, how to make that approach and then, 00:03:33.40\00:03:34.89 okay, so you want them to disclose. You want to 00:03:34.93\00:03:37.04 say, yes, you're right. You know, your suspicions 00:03:37.19\00:03:39.28 are confirmed. I am struggling and that's the 00:03:39.38\00:03:42.03 entering point and then you wanna bring them to 00:03:42.17\00:03:44.13 decision to do something about it because just 00:03:44.24\00:03:45.96 disclosing isn't enough. You want them to come 00:03:46.10\00:03:48.21 to the place, where they are like okay, 00:03:48.24\00:03:49.59 you're right, I need to get help because this 00:03:49.89\00:03:51.46 is a dangerous situation and then finally you 00:03:51.49\00:03:54.55 want to connect them with the people that are 00:03:54.65\00:03:56.12 gonna be able to help them and that involves 00:03:56.20\00:03:58.06 you doing some legwork. You doing some 00:03:58.09\00:03:59.88 reading up on these disorders, a good place 00:04:00.06\00:04:02.45 to start is the book, but there is very, very 00:04:02.48\00:04:05.47 many resources out there. There is couple of 00:04:05.50\00:04:07.13 websites that you can look at. There is one 00:04:07.37\00:04:09.88 called somethingfishy.org, oh, I don't why it's 00:04:10.03\00:04:12.05 called that, but it has a lot of about eating 00:04:12.28\00:04:13.73 disorders or you can just do a Google search 00:04:13.87\00:04:15.85 and you need to start reading up and start 00:04:16.53\00:04:17.96 understanding some of these things and then 00:04:18.22\00:04:19.46 look into your local area and try to find resource 00:04:19.63\00:04:21.55 that you can connect that person to, so that you 00:04:21.58\00:04:24.09 have those options right there. You want them 00:04:24.27\00:04:26.44 to engage their own will in seeking help because 00:04:26.71\00:04:30.77 they are not really gonna be helped unless they 00:04:30.87\00:04:32.41 are involved in the process, however, 00:04:32.48\00:04:34.34 you want to make it easy for them as possible. 00:04:34.39\00:04:36.48 So disclosure. Disclosure, decision, 00:04:37.47\00:04:39.17 connection. Decision, connects like that. 00:04:39.68\00:04:41.75 Okay, so the first part is often the hardest. 00:04:41.83\00:04:43.84 That's the disclosure getting them to admit 00:04:44.57\00:04:46.32 that they really do have a problem, so I wanna 00:04:46.59\00:04:48.26 talk about that for a moment here. Let's look 00:04:48.47\00:04:50.67 at the next graphic. Your initial approach is 00:04:50.70\00:04:53.33 gonna weigh heavily in terms of your success or 00:04:53.49\00:04:55.85 failure at this. You've got to be very careful 00:04:56.02\00:04:58.90 with what you say to a person with an eating 00:04:58.93\00:05:01.74 disorder because remember they are obsessed 00:05:01.77\00:05:04.02 with the way that they look. They are obsessed 00:05:04.05\00:05:05.90 with food. This is on their mind constantly. 00:05:06.02\00:05:08.53 This is kind of their world. 00:05:08.85\00:05:10.38 So, if you say "You look so thin!" that's bad 00:05:10.41\00:05:12.50 because they think they are failure. 00:05:12.61\00:05:13.78 That's right. They are translating that "You're 00:05:13.90\00:05:15.16 a failure!" If you say, "It looks as though 00:05:15.19\00:05:16.68 you're gaining weight!" they translate it "You're 00:05:16.71\00:05:18.89 fat!" If you say, "Boy, you sure ate a lot" 00:05:19.08\00:05:22.16 they translate it "Time to purge pig!" You know, 00:05:22.39\00:05:24.47 so there you have a cognitive distortion 00:05:24.58\00:05:26.77 going on and they are gonna read into what you 00:05:26.91\00:05:29.21 are saying. You are gonna try to encourage them, 00:05:29.24\00:05:30.86 they are gonna read it wrong, so you have to be 00:05:31.18\00:05:32.49 very careful how you approach them. 00:05:32.74\00:05:34.71 Oh! Well, that's interesting. So they 00:05:34.74\00:05:36.22 really have some distortions and you could 00:05:36.39\00:05:37.95 just feed into it. You have to have a 00:05:38.02\00:05:39.57 lot of tact and you have to, you have to pray, 00:05:39.72\00:05:42.64 I think it's time for prayer when you're facing 00:05:43.43\00:05:45.58 life or death issue like that. 00:05:46.36\00:05:47.43 Okay, so what's the next step? 00:05:48.03\00:05:49.31 Okay, so then you wanna connect them with some 00:05:49.59\00:05:51.80 helping resources in their community or whoever. 00:05:51.83\00:05:55.43 There are some online resources, but I always 00:05:55.70\00:05:57.65 think it's better to first try to find someone, 00:05:57.79\00:05:59.57 right, that they can help, get help from face to 00:05:59.60\00:06:01.36 face. Umm! Umm! So I wanna look at 00:06:01.50\00:06:02.92 some of the options for therapy. 00:06:03.18\00:06:04.42 Let's look at that behavioral therapy you 00:06:04.77\00:06:06.30 are gonna talk about. Okay, let's look at this 00:06:06.33\00:06:07.82 graphic. Behavioral therapy is one of the 00:06:08.08\00:06:10.64 therapy sits out there for treating eating 00:06:10.88\00:06:12.93 disorders not involves a technique called 00:06:13.11\00:06:15.56 desensitization. I wanna develop this for a 00:06:15.76\00:06:17.52 moment here. Desensitization is simply 00:06:17.77\00:06:20.43 pairing deep relaxation with imagining or 00:06:20.67\00:06:24.80 envisioning whatever is you afraid of and so 00:06:25.03\00:06:26.93 often with for instance anorexia there is a food 00:06:27.00\00:06:29.24 phobia, you are afraid of food, you are afraid 00:06:29.32\00:06:30.86 to eat. So, pairing deep relaxation with visioning 00:06:30.89\00:06:35.22 food can often take the edge off of that fear 00:06:35.45\00:06:38.21 and some people might have an issue with that 00:06:38.64\00:06:39.79 they might think it's too new age. I believe that 00:06:39.90\00:06:42.27 prayer accomplishes the same thing. When you 00:06:42.59\00:06:44.95 have a stressful situation and you pray 00:06:45.10\00:06:47.17 about it, what you doing is you are affectively 00:06:47.24\00:06:49.03 bringing that situation, bring yourself face to 00:06:49.78\00:06:51.95 face with that situation in the presence of God, 00:06:52.05\00:06:54.55 and you. Hence confection of the Holy 00:06:55.10\00:06:56.07 Spirit what's right, what's wrong, and the 00:06:56.30\00:06:57.99 fact that it matters, right. That's right, 00:06:58.05\00:06:59.85 but you are also, you are also taking a place 00:06:59.88\00:07:01.99 for your safe, which is in God's presence, umm! 00:07:02.05\00:07:03.96 umm! and you are bringing that issue into God's 00:07:03.99\00:07:06.07 presence and so it takes the sting out of it, 00:07:06.39\00:07:08.07 so then you are prepared. Have you ever had that 00:07:08.14\00:07:10.20 experience, where you afraid of something, 00:07:10.29\00:07:12.22 you are anxious, you are concerned, you pray 00:07:12.25\00:07:14.44 about it, and you are able to face it with 00:07:14.56\00:07:16.36 curse, so I think the same thing is accomplished 00:07:16.39\00:07:18.72 with prayer as this is accomplished with 00:07:19.35\00:07:20.69 desensitization. Let's go back to that graphic. 00:07:21.01\00:07:22.66 Another. Behavioral Modification. 00:07:23.59\00:07:25.28 Another proponent of behavioral therapy is 00:07:25.44\00:07:27.20 behavioral wise just rewarding good behavior, 00:07:27.38\00:07:29.06 punishing bad behavior. The point of behavioral 00:07:29.24\00:07:32.37 therapy is arresting behavior, which is 00:07:32.62\00:07:34.38 important particularly in the case of anorexia, 00:07:34.54\00:07:37.24 where there is malnutrition because 00:07:37.36\00:07:38.43 the brain is physical organ. It's not properly 00:07:38.46\00:07:40.78 nourished and you are not gonna be able to 00:07:41.00\00:07:41.97 change the thought patterns. 00:07:42.12\00:07:43.16 All we need to stop it. So you need to arrest 00:07:43.19\00:07:44.38 the behavior. The problem with behavioral 00:07:44.64\00:07:46.28 therapy is that there is a high relapse rate 00:07:46.51\00:07:48.07 because you don't deal with the root problem. 00:07:48.74\00:07:50.14 So usually behavioral therapy needs to be 00:07:50.58\00:07:52.07 combined with something else and that 00:07:52.34\00:07:54.18 cognitive therapy, so then we have cognitive 00:07:54.42\00:07:57.26 behavioral therapy, which is real big right 00:07:57.41\00:07:59.02 now, coming from Aaron Beck and Albert Delvis 00:07:59.21\00:08:01.83 studies, different kinds of cognitive therapy 00:08:02.12\00:08:03.90 they deal with both behaviors and underlying 00:08:04.59\00:08:07.37 thinking, so you are arresting the behavior, 00:08:07.47\00:08:09.02 but you are also dealing with the root cause of 00:08:09.17\00:08:10.68 the behavior. One of the ways of doing this is 00:08:10.71\00:08:13.90 something I called "Bibliotherapy" just start 00:08:14.13\00:08:16.17 reading about it. There are many self-help books 00:08:16.20\00:08:18.52 out there on eating disorders not all of them 00:08:18.72\00:08:21.30 are valuable as others, but if you can just start 00:08:21.33\00:08:24.11 cracking the box, so to speaking getting out 00:08:24.58\00:08:26.25 there and informing yourself it can take the 00:08:26.37\00:08:28.39 mistake out of something there is lots of online 00:08:28.44\00:08:30.77 resources. Now you are saying the people that 00:08:30.80\00:08:31.87 need to read this is not the people so much 00:08:31.93\00:08:33.35 suffering as those who are trying to have. 00:08:33.54\00:08:34.99 Both. Both, okay. Yeah, Bibliotherapy is a type 00:08:35.02\00:08:37.20 of cognitive therapy. Okay. So, there is lots 00:08:37.23\00:08:39.26 online information and then there is also talk 00:08:39.51\00:08:41.72 therapy and sometimes in a counseling situation. 00:08:41.76\00:08:44.25 A counselor can identify, where that 00:08:44.94\00:08:46.77 persons thoughts become distorted, become 00:08:46.87\00:08:49.21 catastrophes, become negative, where they 00:08:49.45\00:08:51.17 don't need to be and they can help that person 00:08:51.30\00:08:53.06 bring those thoughts back in line with reality, 00:08:53.09\00:08:54.92 so that's cognitive behavioral therapy. 00:08:55.09\00:08:57.18 Is that very affective? And it's, it's quite 00:08:57.21\00:08:59.54 affective, but I'm gonna get to 00:08:59.68\00:09:00.65 effectiveness a little bit later down the line. 00:09:00.76\00:09:02.98 Okay. It overall it is a fact of especially with 00:09:03.01\00:09:04.95 depression and anxiety related disorder. 00:09:05.13\00:09:07.34 Psychodynamic. Psychodynamic therapy 00:09:07.40\00:09:10.04 is basically Freudian. It stems from Freudian 00:09:10.35\00:09:13.86 psychoanalysis dwelling heavily upon the past 00:09:14.09\00:09:16.84 or this is where you find clients recovering 00:09:17.37\00:09:20.35 memories. The problem with psychodynamic, 00:09:20.38\00:09:23.18 the psychodynamic approach is that overall 00:09:23.33\00:09:25.31 it is never really been proven effective. 00:09:25.52\00:09:27.25 Freudians theories were never really tested. 00:09:27.82\00:09:30.26 He lived at a time, where they didn't have much 00:09:30.47\00:09:32.05 empirical testing and there wasn't as much peer 00:09:32.56\00:09:35.59 pressure within the psychological community, 00:09:35.89\00:09:37.99 so his theories were never proven and this has 00:09:38.25\00:09:40.52 not been proven effective. And then 00:09:40.59\00:09:43.29 you know one thing you said before is that 00:09:43.32\00:09:45.43 many times people, who are anorexics also have 00:09:45.71\00:09:48.65 in the past many times cases of insets, yeah, 00:09:48.76\00:09:53.10 so wouldn't you wanna go back and discover 00:09:53.61\00:09:56.70 that? Yes, I think that there is a place for 00:09:56.93\00:09:59.49 understanding the person. When you have a 00:09:59.69\00:10:01.30 person sitting before you, you have a history 00:10:01.41\00:10:03.27 sitting before you and you as a therapist need 00:10:03.35\00:10:05.87 to know something about that history, so that 00:10:05.93\00:10:08.01 you can help them connect the dots between what 00:10:08.04\00:10:10.47 happened and who they are now and also so you 00:10:10.61\00:10:12.59 can build trust with them. But dwelling 00:10:12.64\00:10:15.18 heavily, there is a difference between 00:10:15.21\00:10:16.36 understanding the past and it's impact on the 00:10:16.48\00:10:18.45 present and dwelling heavily and ruminating 00:10:18.67\00:10:20.93 on the past it reaches a point with the heavily 00:10:21.08\00:10:23.74 dwelling on the past, where it becomes 00:10:23.82\00:10:25.29 I think self-destructive. So, we've talked about 00:10:25.49\00:10:27.53 behavioral cognitive psychoanalysis or 00:10:27.64\00:10:30.76 psychoanalytical dynamic in family. 00:10:31.00\00:10:33.68 Family therapy. Okay, we will look at the next 00:10:33.90\00:10:35.44 graphic here. It used to be that they would 00:10:35.57\00:10:37.33 do what's called a parentectomy for someone 00:10:37.36\00:10:39.04 with an eating disorder. They felt they needed to 00:10:39.30\00:10:41.09 be taken out of their family system because 00:10:41.25\00:10:42.69 often it was dynamics within the family system 00:10:42.91\00:10:44.64 that was predisposing a person to the eating 00:10:44.76\00:10:47.11 disorder and in fact feeling that eating 00:10:47.26\00:10:49.35 disorder they take him out and they move the 00:10:49.38\00:10:51.64 parents out of the picture, but they don't 00:10:51.77\00:10:53.29 do it anymore. They recognize that because 00:10:53.41\00:10:55.71 the person when go back into the family system 00:10:55.83\00:10:57.59 and they relapse, so now they deal with the entire 00:10:57.71\00:10:59.94 family system. And sometime a family 00:11:00.45\00:11:02.74 system can support a disorder, but it can work 00:11:02.91\00:11:05.87 in the positive as well. The family system 00:11:06.06\00:11:08.05 can be taught to support recovery from the 00:11:08.21\00:11:10.62 disorder. Good, yeah family system therapy. 00:11:10.73\00:11:13.48 So you work with the family. Often you know 00:11:13.51\00:11:14.48 when you are doing individual counseling 00:11:14.49\00:11:15.46 then you will eventually bring the family in. 00:11:15.49\00:11:16.84 Support groups. Okay, support groups 00:11:17.43\00:11:19.24 are valuable for bringing people out of isolation 00:11:19.27\00:11:22.66 one of the great, the motivators in any given 00:11:22.85\00:11:26.67 addiction can be the sense of isolation you 00:11:26.99\00:11:28.89 like you are the only person with this problem 00:11:29.16\00:11:30.46 and sometimes coming out of isolation can be a 00:11:30.60\00:11:33.23 positive move. Those include reading groups, 00:11:33.41\00:11:35.74 talking or rap groups, not as in rap music, 00:11:36.47\00:11:38.53 but talking, on online chat. The caution with 00:11:38.71\00:11:42.28 support groups is sometimes people relive 00:11:42.44\00:11:45.22 their falls, so to speak of their temptations. 00:11:45.88\00:11:48.99 This is true of alcoholic synonyms, they will not 00:11:49.51\00:11:51.43 allow a person in a group, but good group 00:11:51.46\00:11:54.28 will not allow them to recount in detail they 00:11:54.58\00:11:57.21 are drunken binges. They can say I messed up, 00:11:57.24\00:11:59.35 but they can't go into detail because the 00:11:59.44\00:12:01.23 experience once called the dry drunk. 00:12:01.42\00:12:03.04 The experience again is the second time. 00:12:03.60\00:12:05.18 So the same thing can happen with any 00:12:05.27\00:12:06.46 addiction, so you need to be cautious that it 00:12:06.63\00:12:08.71 doesn't become just a way of ruminating in 00:12:08.91\00:12:11.08 your problem that you are actually 00:12:11.11\00:12:12.23 working towards solving it. 00:12:12.50\00:12:13.50 Is there medication? And medications have 00:12:13.80\00:12:15.87 proven, have been helpful I should say 00:12:16.28\00:12:19.10 especially in bulimia because of it's genetic 00:12:19.82\00:12:22.55 connection to major affective disorder, 00:12:22.74\00:12:25.26 so that which works on depression can also 00:12:25.65\00:12:29.12 work sometimes on bulimia less often on 00:12:29.21\00:12:31.74 anorexia, so that has been helpful. 00:12:31.85\00:12:34.13 Some of those serotonin reuptake inhibitors 00:12:34.16\00:12:36.23 and all those different Paxil and all those 00:12:36.35\00:12:38.03 different kind of things, sometimes in the 00:12:38.27\00:12:39.88 short-term or whatever that doctor says can 00:12:40.14\00:12:42.58 be addressing the underlying issue. 00:12:42.78\00:12:44.84 You know, I wanna say something at this 00:12:44.89\00:12:46.04 point and that is I struggled with depression 00:12:46.17\00:12:47.95 and I have found it taking a while, I did 00:12:48.95\00:12:50.35 some reading, σσσσ and some other 00:12:50.38\00:12:52.26 things and I read about sunlight and I decided 00:12:52.47\00:12:57.53 to start walking in the morning and it's made 00:12:57.56\00:12:58.82 a big difference because I think it 00:12:58.85\00:13:01.24 increases serotonin in the system. 00:13:01.35\00:13:02.93 So these clinical treatments that you've 00:13:03.49\00:13:05.18 mentioned, I mean if we click through a lot 00:13:05.37\00:13:06.70 of them have they, no one of them may be as 00:13:06.73\00:13:12.23 that helpful, but are they helpful taken 00:13:12.26\00:13:14.10 altogether? You know, not really. Let's look at 00:13:14.35\00:13:18.73 the next graphic here. The clinical treatments 00:13:18.76\00:13:21.86 do not have a high success rate 00:13:21.89\00:13:23.67 unfortunately. And that's been documented 00:13:23.92\00:13:26.46 by scientific literature. According to the reading 00:13:26.49\00:13:28.63 I've done in the scientific literature 00:13:28.74\00:13:30.30 there has, there is not the magic bullet hasn't 00:13:30.56\00:13:32.79 been discovered yet. Now you are a survivor. 00:13:32.82\00:13:34.82 You got through it, hopefully when we 00:13:35.32\00:13:36.44 comeback we will learn more about what is 00:13:36.54\00:13:39.04 effective That's right. And we will look at 00:13:39.33\00:13:40.88 that. We have been talking with Jennifer 00:13:40.91\00:13:43.28 Schwirzer. She has written a book : 00:13:43.55\00:13:44.52 "Dying to Be Beautiful", excellent book you 00:13:44.71\00:13:46.45 can find more information about it on her 00:13:46.48\00:13:48.81 website at jenniferjill.org and when 00:13:48.84\00:13:53.23 we come back we will look at how she got 00:13:53.26\00:13:55.51 through it? Maybe you will find things I know 00:13:55.60\00:13:57.75 you will find things that can help you join 00:13:57.78\00:13:59.57 us when we come back. 00:13:59.60\00:14:00.57 Have you found yourself wishing that you could 00:14:02.12\00:14:03.62 shed a few pounds, have you been on a diet for 00:14:03.65\00:14:06.28 most of your life, but not found anything 00:14:06.54\00:14:08.61 that will really keep the weight off, if you 00:14:08.64\00:14:11.01 have answered yes to any of these questions 00:14:11.04\00:14:13.05 then we have a solution for you that works. 00:14:13.49\00:14:15.56 Dr. Hans Diehl and Dr. Aileen Ludington have 00:14:16.42\00:14:19.24 written a marvelous booklet called Reversing 00:14:19.42\00:14:21.73 Obesity Naturally and we would like to send 00:14:22.18\00:14:24.08 it to you free of charge. 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She has written a book 00:15:04.17\00:15:05.65 "Dying to Be Beautiful" and it deals with 00:15:05.95\00:15:08.60 anorexia and bulimia, very important and 00:15:08.63\00:15:11.70 troubling subject for that percentage of 00:15:12.44\00:15:14.74 people that really get caught within its grip. 00:15:14.93\00:15:18.09 In this section, when we were talking with 00:15:18.58\00:15:19.75 you about what happened to you? How you kind 00:15:19.84\00:15:21.96 a overcame this? And you know, there is hope, 00:15:21.99\00:15:26.19 there is hope, there is happiness at the 00:15:26.22\00:15:27.87 end of the tunnel, right. That's right. I was 00:15:28.05\00:15:29.90 saying before that the clinical treatments don't 00:15:29.96\00:15:32.15 have a high success rate, but I wanna clarify 00:15:32.21\00:15:34.24 that you should try everything available, 00:15:34.27\00:15:36.90 you should, you should bring everything to the 00:15:37.14\00:15:38.54 table because this is a life or death issue for 00:15:38.75\00:15:40.54 some people. And so I'm not saying that it 00:15:40.63\00:15:42.95 never helps because often you know the thing 00:15:43.10\00:15:45.35 that, that has a high success rate is the 00:15:45.51\00:15:47.77 grace of God. Every person that I talk to, 00:15:47.86\00:15:50.62 interviewed from my book was in some 00:15:50.91\00:15:53.51 way shaper form health by the grace of God 00:15:53.54\00:15:55.70 through their problem, umm! and had some 00:15:55.97\00:15:58.25 kind of spiritual testimony to give. 00:15:58.29\00:16:00.11 So sometimes God uses, however, various 00:16:00.72\00:16:04.50 channels and sometimes he uses therapist or 00:16:04.79\00:16:07.59 he might use a doctor or he might use a 00:16:07.62\00:16:09.49 support group, so we need to leave those 00:16:09.52\00:16:11.49 channels open because his grace can move 00:16:11.63\00:16:13.44 through them as well. Right and grace, 00:16:13.47\00:16:15.37 of course, you know the grace of God teaches 00:16:15.54\00:16:18.76 us that denying this or doing this or doing that. 00:16:18.79\00:16:21.59 Right. Grace has many different things. 00:16:21.75\00:16:23.12 That's right. The grace of God can change 00:16:23.15\00:16:25.63 distorted ideas it's cognitively behavioral, 00:16:25.89\00:16:29.36 your thinking can change as a result of grace. 00:16:29.39\00:16:33.15 So, lot of these things can have elements of 00:16:33.41\00:16:34.87 grace in them, but tell us about your story 00:16:35.00\00:16:37.57 what happened? Yeah. How do the grace of 00:16:37.72\00:16:38.89 God take you from being you know what 00:16:39.19\00:16:42.90 you were to what you are? Pretty sick to being well, 00:16:42.97\00:16:45.95 it was actually the love of an individual and 00:16:46.77\00:16:49.19 God's love working through that individual. 00:16:49.44\00:16:51.34 I mentioned before that my husband had dealt 00:16:51.95\00:16:54.29 with the certain type of anorexia himself. 00:16:54.32\00:16:56.59 It was what you would call spiritual anorexia, 00:16:56.75\00:16:58.72 as I mentioned before there are two types one 00:16:58.88\00:17:01.00 is diet and fashion related. The other 00:17:01.03\00:17:03.52 is related to religious exercises. A person 00:17:03.55\00:17:06.64 trying to become more holy versus becoming 00:17:06.81\00:17:08.87 more fashionable, and he was involved in 00:17:08.98\00:17:10.90 some alternate religion and he ended up 00:17:11.19\00:17:14.58 starving himself down to a very low weight, 00:17:15.11\00:17:16.65 but survive the experience. 00:17:16.91\00:17:18.11 Was this, was this a tenant of the religion to 00:17:18.14\00:17:19.55 to starve yourself down? What it was, was 00:17:19.58\00:17:21.17 macrobiotic diet and, okay, they had very 00:17:21.38\00:17:24.48 strict ideas of what kinds of things you 00:17:24.77\00:17:26.50 couldn't, couldn't eat and portion control, 00:17:26.78\00:17:28.18 but everybody else was binging and he wasn't 00:17:28.52\00:17:30.81 because he was very consciousness, 00:17:30.99\00:17:32.32 so he ended up following the diet and almost 00:17:32.70\00:17:35.00 dying from it. So because he had recovered, 00:17:35.17\00:17:37.71 he was living in a community and he saw 00:17:38.39\00:17:41.30 the leader of the community levitate off 00:17:41.75\00:17:43.26 the ground. He said, I'm getting out of here. 00:17:43.29\00:17:44.88 So that was it for him and he ended up renting 00:17:45.59\00:17:47.48 an apartment, σσσ on the floor, girl that 00:17:47.51\00:17:49.40 he met him came and she nourished him with 00:17:49.44\00:17:51.77 the chicken broth. He came back to health and 00:17:51.93\00:17:53.64 to life anyway and he was able to start eating 00:17:54.07\00:17:55.84 was able to start eating again. So he had 00:17:55.87\00:17:57.04 survived that experience and then he met me 00:17:57.20\00:17:58.90 and he could see me struggling with some of 00:17:59.21\00:18:00.53 the same things and it was through his love for 00:18:00.56\00:18:03.44 me. His really is unconditional love for me 00:18:03.57\00:18:05.37 then I was able to see Gods unconditional love 00:18:06.02\00:18:08.11 and feel secure enough to overcome this 00:18:08.14\00:18:10.18 problem. The way it all penned out was he and 00:18:10.42\00:18:14.82 I were actually in a relationship, umm! umm! 00:18:14.85\00:18:17.13 And he would warn me that I was heading 00:18:17.19\00:18:19.38 down a very unhealthy path. He would say I 00:18:19.52\00:18:21.97 have been through that and you need to eat 00:18:22.00\00:18:23.86 more and I would brush it off, you know, 00:18:24.02\00:18:26.33 and as I did with just about everyone. 00:18:26.55\00:18:28.09 And I was hovering around 95 pounds all 00:18:28.78\00:18:31.78 the time and that isn't like a severe anorexic. 00:18:31.81\00:18:34.15 A really severe anorexics will continue 00:18:35.03\00:18:36.60 to lose weight and finally die starvation, 00:18:36.69\00:18:38.39 but I was, I wanted to stay. 00:18:38.58\00:18:39.74 And you were how tall? 5 feet 6 inches. 00:18:39.77\00:18:41.43 5 feet 6 inches. I mean, it's okay to be 00:18:41.46\00:18:42.73 95 pounds, but if you are 5 feet 6 inches 00:18:43.11\00:18:44.86 that's kind of thin. That's too thin, 00:18:44.95\00:18:46.35 it's like 20 pounds off me now, so I was too 00:18:46.42\00:18:48.59 thin, but I didn't think I needed any body fat 00:18:48.62\00:18:51.47 or anything and I felt like I could be that way 00:18:51.54\00:18:53.39 and I actually liked it and that's the real 00:18:53.56\00:18:55.09 thing about anorexia it's called an 00:18:55.12\00:18:56.90 ego-syntonic disease, meaning it can sink 00:18:57.09\00:18:59.37 with your ego. You like it. 00:18:59.52\00:19:00.71 Yeah, you feel better even though no one 00:19:01.25\00:19:02.61 is fighting your game, you're kind of 00:19:02.91\00:19:04.49 You like it, you feel self-satisfied. 00:19:05.01\00:19:06.55 Bulimia is the opposite it's ego-dystonic, 00:19:06.74\00:19:08.82 but I was quite contempt being 95 pounds. 00:19:09.54\00:19:11.80 I wanted to stay there, but I got a flu and the 00:19:11.87\00:19:14.96 flu lasted for a solid week I couldn't eat 00:19:15.21\00:19:16.91 anything, umm! And so, I went down to 85 00:19:17.27\00:19:19.44 pounds, wow! And I remembered being 85 00:19:19.67\00:19:22.16 pounds and getting in the bathtub. And I just 00:19:22.32\00:19:24.73 the bones like straight against the porcelain 00:19:24.76\00:19:26.91 of the bathtub and it, that moment I had 00:19:26.94\00:19:29.55 epiphany that I was sick and then I needed 00:19:29.58\00:19:33.05 to, to gain weight. And so, began to climb 00:19:33.32\00:19:36.40 back up to a normal weight, which was 00:19:36.55\00:19:38.10 actually very difficult and it's hard to conceive 00:19:38.82\00:19:41.20 of that for people. So, that was where 00:19:41.23\00:19:42.36 disclosure came and you say may be I am, 00:19:42.61\00:19:44.64 that's right, and then you made a decision. 00:19:44.67\00:19:47.37 I made a decision, I was getting married. 00:19:47.72\00:19:49.73 Well, I regain the weight to my normal 95 00:19:50.29\00:19:52.91 pounds, but then once I got married I realized 00:19:53.11\00:19:55.60 that I needed to gain back to a normal 00:19:55.63\00:19:57.82 weight and so because I was in 00:19:57.98\00:20:00.34 the secure relationship this person who is gonna stick 00:20:00.37\00:20:02.87 with me through thick or thin, I was able to overcome 00:20:02.90\00:20:05.57 lot of thought patterns that have been 00:20:05.60\00:20:07.45 sort of an addiction for a woman. 00:20:07.48\00:20:09.03 Now, were you a Christian when you married your 00:20:09.06\00:20:11.68 husband Michael, yes I was, and he was now coming into 00:20:11.71\00:20:14.54 Christianity or he was? He was already a Christian too. 00:20:14.57\00:20:16.95 But he had been into some kind of Eastern religion 00:20:16.98\00:20:19.04 stuff, right, and so, you had, you came together. 00:20:19.07\00:20:22.31 Yeah. Amazingly the minute you become a Christian all 00:20:22.34\00:20:24.39 your problems starts to instantly go away, have you 00:20:24.42\00:20:26.98 notice that? Right. That is amazing. Yes, it is 00:20:27.01\00:20:29.83 amazing. So, I still has some issues I had to deal with, 00:20:29.86\00:20:32.13 but in the context to my relationship with him I was 00:20:32.66\00:20:35.45 able to, to deal with some of the underlying thinking 00:20:35.48\00:20:38.20 and it was difficult for me to eat a normal amount of 00:20:38.23\00:20:40.95 food when you shrunk your stomach down and you have 00:20:40.98\00:20:43.48 got into this mindset, but by the grace of God I was 00:20:43.51\00:20:46.62 back up to whopping 120 you know 00:20:46.65\00:20:49.17 within a few months of getting married. 00:20:49.20\00:20:50.82 Wow! So, since that time have you ever had like a 00:20:50.85\00:20:53.98 relapse mentally, cdid you ever say, 00:20:54.01\00:20:56.33 I'm going back to no food. 00:20:57.08\00:20:58.49 Not at all. I'm the type of person that if I get really 00:20:58.52\00:21:01.94 depressed about something, I will like have to remind 00:21:01.97\00:21:04.39 myself to eat. Some people medicate with food on the 00:21:04.42\00:21:07.39 opposite, I'll just like flake out and I'll stop 00:21:07.42\00:21:09.30 eating in sleeping. But I don't want to be skinny, 00:21:09.33\00:21:13.54 I wish I could gain weight in fact if you know of any 00:21:13.57\00:21:16.25 way that I can I would be glad to try it because I am 00:21:16.28\00:21:19.58 one of those people, who is chronically more active 00:21:19.61\00:21:22.80 then the number of calories I take in, but in mentally 00:21:22.83\00:21:26.55 I'm on a totally different page. Umm! Umm! I do not 00:21:26.58\00:21:30.09 want to be thin, I do not want to get any thinner. 00:21:30.12\00:21:32.27 I don't obsess about food. You are able to eat even 00:21:32.30\00:21:35.38 sometimes laugh about what happened even though it's 00:21:35.41\00:21:37.59 not really laughable in some ways. 00:21:37.62\00:21:40.78 I have to laugh about it. Yeah. 00:21:40.81\00:21:42.26 I mean, I used to make all kinds of foods that 00:21:42.29\00:21:44.40 typically anorexics will make food for other people 00:21:44.43\00:21:46.70 they won't eat it. Some of them will wash there hands 00:21:46.73\00:21:48.58 repeatedly, so they don't absorb calories through 00:21:48.61\00:21:50.41 their skin. I wasn't that bad. But I make all kinds of 00:21:50.44\00:21:53.38 food for him and he would eat it, but now I make food 00:21:53.41\00:21:56.07 for me like. I've been making fudge, trying to 00:21:56.10\00:21:57.75 perfect this, this fudge recipe, you know, and I, 00:21:57.78\00:22:00.39 I eat it. You have, you actually these is kind 00:22:00.42\00:22:03.38 a ironic, but you move from, from I guess what you just 00:22:03.41\00:22:07.67 said might make this little different, but you move 00:22:07.70\00:22:09.53 from like not eating food, and now you are having a 00:22:09.56\00:22:11.73 restaurant, yeah, eating food yourself and serving it 00:22:11.76\00:22:15.58 to other people, serving it to other people. 00:22:15.61\00:22:16.80 But like I said anorexic will, anorexics will often 00:22:16.83\00:22:20.79 really cook a lot of food for other people, but they 00:22:20.82\00:22:22.61 won't eat it themselves, but yeah I had this restaurant 00:22:22.64\00:22:25.02 for three years and developed the menu and 00:22:25.05\00:22:27.80 prioritized that the food had to taste good, yeah, 00:22:27.83\00:22:31.06 you know. So, but I wanna, I wanna just highlight one 00:22:31.09\00:22:34.49 individual that I interviewed in the process 00:22:34.52\00:22:36.83 of doing research for the book, her name was Lacey 00:22:36.86\00:22:39.49 and she went down to, she went to down to 57 pounds. 00:22:39.52\00:22:44.05 57, how tall was she? She is 5.4 so, she was little 00:22:44.08\00:22:46.93 short. She had moved away from her home of origin to a 00:22:46.96\00:22:52.00 place, where she was not able to connect socially 00:22:52.03\00:22:54.04 when she was an adolescent. Umm! Umm! And because 00:22:54.07\00:22:56.14 she had a difficult time connecting she was very 00:22:56.17\00:22:58.34 lonely, finally she got in with the group of girls, 00:22:58.37\00:23:00.89 who were pathological dieters and she said Ah! 00:23:00.92\00:23:03.71 This is the key to acceptance is being thin. 00:23:03.74\00:23:07.40 She looked at them they were thin, she started to 00:23:07.43\00:23:09.26 become thin and to make a long story short she went 00:23:09.29\00:23:12.28 down over a several months to extremely dangerous way 00:23:12.31\00:23:16.23 and finally one week nothing seem to be helping she went 00:23:16.26\00:23:20.57 in for her weekly way and it was found that she weighed 00:23:20.60\00:23:23.21 57 pounds. You know, just that the family was 00:23:23.24\00:23:26.74 traumatized, the mother and daughter were just crying 00:23:26.77\00:23:29.52 in each other arms, they wanted to sent her to 00:23:29.55\00:23:33.23 another facility, where she could live in, but the 00:23:33.26\00:23:37.08 mother didn't feel the girl would survive the trip the 00:23:37.11\00:23:39.89 plane flight. So, they made this disparate decision 00:23:39.92\00:23:42.31 and this is so interesting to me they decided that they 00:23:42.34\00:23:45.07 would go back to where she was healthy, so they went 00:23:45.10\00:23:47.82 back to her home town that she had moved from when all 00:23:47.85\00:23:50.87 this began. And in route to the town, a medical miracle 00:23:50.90\00:23:55.90 took place and they pulled over to the side of the road 00:23:55.93\00:23:58.78 and she ordered a sandwich and 00:23:58.81\00:24:00.08 ate a full meal for the first time in years. 00:24:00.11\00:24:02.75 Wow! Was that dangerous to eat a 00:24:02.78\00:24:04.55 big meal once in a while, well, yeah. 00:24:04.58\00:24:06.13 I mean you can, you can overeat 00:24:06.16\00:24:07.77 you know and you've got to gradually. 00:24:07.80\00:24:09.72 But the change in the mind just because of the location 00:24:09.75\00:24:12.53 of going back to a place, where she was healthy 00:24:12.56\00:24:15.76 and then once she got there she met her family and her 00:24:15.79\00:24:18.04 friends at a restaurant ate again. And that began her 00:24:18.07\00:24:20.85 road to recovery and to me the thing that is, that is 00:24:20.88\00:24:23.60 made obvious in that story is the fact that love heals 00:24:23.63\00:24:26.27 people. Is what happened to me, you know, somebody 00:24:26.30\00:24:28.32 loved me and in the context of that security I was able 00:24:28.35\00:24:32.09 to overcome, I was able value myself enough to feed 00:24:32.12\00:24:35.15 myself basically and the same thing was true of her 00:24:35.18\00:24:38.84 she, she was suddenly had a reason to live. Well, this 00:24:38.87\00:24:42.74 book again weaves all the stories together Dying to be 00:24:42.77\00:24:46.04 Beautiful, that's right, and now you are living 00:24:46.07\00:24:48.71 because you are beautiful. Well, I <24:51>. 00:24:48.74\00:24:51.12 And because you are. What would that I mean. 00:24:51.15\00:24:52.81 What I mean is that you see yourself as beautiful in 00:24:52.84\00:24:55.37 God's eye because you see yourself as he sees you 00:24:55.40\00:24:58.43 and that is a personal value. That's right. 00:24:58.46\00:25:02.17 It's not based so much on anything in me done as it's 00:25:02.20\00:25:05.67 based on the value that he placed on me and I think 00:25:05.70\00:25:08.43 that's a crucial point because as soon as people 00:25:08.46\00:25:10.67 turn to themselves to say I'm good, I'm beautiful, 00:25:10.70\00:25:13.73 high self-esteem because I have all these qualities. 00:25:13.76\00:25:16.24 You know those things are very fragile and often 00:25:16.57\00:25:19.05 they are based on being better then someone else and 00:25:19.08\00:25:21.23 so it's very fragile situation, but if you base 00:25:21.26\00:25:23.90 yourself-forth on, on the price that Jesus paid for 00:25:23.93\00:25:26.28 you on the cross and also on the difference that you 00:25:26.31\00:25:28.82 can make in the world serving others and 00:25:28.85\00:25:31.38 blessing others that is a solid foundation. 00:25:31.41\00:25:34.29 What would you say to the person watching right now, 00:25:34.32\00:25:36.51 maybe a family member or actually someone struggling 00:25:36.54\00:25:38.85 with anorexia or bulimia? What would you say, 00:25:38.88\00:25:41.64 what are the steps you would take right now 00:25:41.67\00:25:43.82 as you are watching this program you know within 00:25:44.09\00:25:46.95 the spiritual context as well? Well, I would first of 00:25:46.98\00:25:49.61 all get on your knees and pray. This person has a 00:25:49.64\00:25:53.30 disorder or possibly has a disorder that could, 00:25:53.33\00:25:56.02 could lead to you know permanent problems are 00:25:56.05\00:25:59.15 ultimately death, serious situation. Not only that, 00:25:59.18\00:26:03.35 but they are totally engrossed in something 00:26:03.38\00:26:05.10 that's taking their eyes off what's really important 00:26:05.13\00:26:07.00 that is their soul salvation and their mission in life 00:26:07.03\00:26:10.30 and so they are consumed with something that's taking 00:26:10.33\00:26:12.81 him off the path. So, get on your knees and pray that 00:26:12.84\00:26:15.81 this person becomes all that they can be in Christ and 00:26:15.84\00:26:19.20 then approach that person once you've prayed and try 00:26:19.23\00:26:22.17 to get them to be honest with you about their problem 00:26:22.20\00:26:24.73 if they have it. To disclose it. Disclose, that's right. 00:26:24.76\00:26:27.06 And, but before you do any of that actually let's back 00:26:27.09\00:26:29.74 up a minute, just do some research, do some reading. 00:26:29.77\00:26:32.01 Go to your website jenniferjill.org, get your 00:26:32.41\00:26:35.54 book Dying to be Beautiful is a good start, 00:26:35.57\00:26:37.36 but there is many other resources. Many other 00:26:37.39\00:26:38.78 resources, which I list in the book as well. 00:26:38.81\00:26:40.78 So become informed and then once you go to the person 00:26:40.81\00:26:44.81 if you can get them to the place, where they are 00:26:44.84\00:26:46.57 willing to admit their struggling then you can 00:26:46.60\00:26:48.76 connect them. Then you can lead them to a decision to 00:26:48.79\00:26:51.49 do something and you can give them some options, 00:26:51.52\00:26:53.38 as to how they can do something and that's just 00:26:53.41\00:26:55.18 beginning. It maybe the one facility doesn't help, 00:26:55.21\00:26:58.24 one counselor doesn't help, but they can keep trying 00:26:58.27\00:27:00.49 give him a sense that there is hope and that they can 00:27:00.83\00:27:03.52 change because it's, it's true that they can. 00:27:03.55\00:27:06.30 Thank you so much for spending the time Jennifer 00:27:06.33\00:27:08.99 with us and for writing the book, I mean look, it takes 00:27:09.02\00:27:12.08 a lot of energy to write a book. I just recently 00:27:12.11\00:27:14.47 worked on one of those projects. I mean that's, 00:27:14.50\00:27:17.37 that's, that's a big project. Thank you for the 00:27:17.40\00:27:19.87 research, thank you also for pulling that team together 00:27:19.90\00:27:23.62 in the book and also thank you for just being 00:27:23.65\00:27:26.27 completely honest about your situation 00:27:26.30\00:27:28.70 that's really helpful. And thank you for watching us 00:27:28.73\00:27:31.05 here today on Health for a Lifetime. 00:27:31.08\00:27:32.68 You've heard some excellent information. 00:27:32.71\00:27:34.86 You can again get more information about this book 00:27:35.43\00:27:37.93 by going to Jennifer's website. Jenniferjill.org 00:27:37.96\00:27:42.64 and the title of the book is Dying to be Beautiful, 00:27:42.67\00:27:45.93 as all kinds of resources on the website and in the book 00:27:45.96\00:27:48.98 and we hope that you will find things there that would 00:27:49.01\00:27:51.83 just increase the effectiveness of this program 00:27:51.86\00:27:54.64 information that you have watched today. 00:27:54.67\00:27:56.79