Hello and welcome to
Help In Daily Living.
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Today we are going to talk
about how we deal with hurt
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feelings, how do we deal
with frustration and anger?
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How do we deal when
someone steps on our toes?
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I mean if they do it on
purpose it really hurts.
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But what if they do it
unintentionally? It still hurts.
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How do we deal with
it when people hurt us?
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In Romans 12:21 it tells
us, "do not be overcome with
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"evil, but
overcome evil with good."
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What that is actually saying
is that when someone is bad
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to me, I should
actually be good to them.
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In my human nature, really
that is not natural to me.
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So I think we really do
need to find strength when we
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deal with this topic on
how to deal with conflict?
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How to deal with frustration
and anger and hurt feelings?
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So I'm going to ask Carmen
to lead us in a word or prayer.
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Carmen would you do that?
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Dear heavenly Father I
thank you so much for this
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beautiful day and
for Your nature here.
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And God I just want to ask
that You will come and be with
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us now as we talk about how
You would have us to relate to
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our brothers and sisters in
Christ, in Jesus name. Amen!
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One of my life goals
is to run a marathon.
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But preparing for a
marathon takes about 16 weeks of
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training, and before you
can even start the average
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training program, you have
to be able to run 30 minutes
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nonstop, yeah I can do that,
but it is extremely tiring.
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When training starts, you
run three or four days a week.
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As the weeks go by
the mileage increases.
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By the last week of
training you run 34.2 miles.
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This is just the
running part of training.
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In preparation for a
marathon you also have to eat
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healthy food, drink
lots of water, not pop,
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and get plenty of sleep.
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All of this is done so
use can say, I ran a marathon.
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Throughout the
whole training program,
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your body is being
pushed to the max and there
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are days when you want to quit.
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This whole training
thing to me seems like a lot of
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hard work and sacrifice
to go through for a little
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ribbon to hang around the neck.
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But for me, it is a life goal.
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It is something I want to do.
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In order to achieve
this goal, I have to face the
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challenges and endure the
struggles that it will take
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to concur, also on my
list of life goals, far above
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the marathon, is a
simple phrase, Jesus in heaven.
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To obtain this goal will
take more than sitting in church
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once a week, more than
praying before every meal and
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before I get into bed.
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Reaching my destination
will take more than reading
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a Bible verse every morning.
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To achieve a saving
relationship with God will take
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a sacrifice of
myself at every level.
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It will take a daily
battle, an intense struggle,
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but I know that when I get to
heaven and I receive my prize,
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I will look back on this
life and say without a shadow of
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a doubt, truly
heaven is cheap enough.
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Never be sad or desponding,
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only have faith to believe.
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Grace, for the
duties before thee,
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Ask of thy God and receive.
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Never give up, never give up,
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Never give up to thy sorrows,
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Jesus will bid them depart.
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord,
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord!
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Sing when your
trials are greatest,
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Trust in the
Lord and take heart.
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What if thy
burdens oppress thee;
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What though thy
life may be drear;
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Look on the side
that is brightest,
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Pray, and thy
path will be clear.
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Never give up, never give up,
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Never give up, never give up!
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Never give up to thy sorrows,
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Jesus will bid them depart.
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord,
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord!
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Sing when thy
trials are greatest
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trust in the Lord and take heart
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Never be sad or desponding,
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lean on the arm of the Lord
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dwell in the
depths of His mercy,
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thou shalt receive thy reward.
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Never give up, never give up,
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Never give up, never give up!
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Never give up to thy sorrows
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Jesus will bid them depart.
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord,
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Trust in the
Lord, trust in the Lord!
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Sing when thy
trials are greatest
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trust in the Lord and take heart
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So that song, Never Give up
says that we should never be
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sad or desponding, so what
it is actually saying is that
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we should be
cheerful as Christians.
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We should never
give up being kind,
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and being cheerful with others.
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Why do you think that is
important for us as Christians?
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Well if we are sad and
grumpy all the time then people
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won't want to
be friends with us.
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How can we lead
them to Christ if
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they're not friends with us?
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I kind of have an
example, a story that happened
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to me a couple Fridays ago.
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I was playing soccer after
lunch and I was wearing these
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shoes that had
elastic on the front.
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Every time I would kick the
softball my shoe would go flying
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into the air, so I
decided it would be better just
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to take my shoes
off and played barefoot.
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So that is what I
did. The only problem was,
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I kept getting my toes
stepped on with all the other
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players with their shoes on.
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I kept getting my toes
stepped on and kicked and all
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sorts of things,
that wasn't too fun.
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It wasn't bad at first
though, I was able to avoid the
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People's feet, there was
only about six of us playing at
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first, but then a couple
more people joined us and
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we were playing with a few more.
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My toes kept getting
stepped on more and more and
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I was getting kind of
upset because my feet were
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hurting and it was too much fun.
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The other thing that was
happening the other team was
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playing really well together,
they were making excellent
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passes and great goals and
working really well together
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as a team and our
team wasn't doing so well.
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I was kind of
discouraged, this is not fair,
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I was thinking this to
myself in my head and I wanted
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to just complain
about the situation.
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But then I looked around at
everybody else and they were
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having such a fun time, it
was a really fun game to play.
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It is just a game, it wasn't
a big deal that we weren't doing
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too well, it was just fun.
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So I decided why should I
ruin this fun time everyone
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else is having by complaining
and so I prayed in my head
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to God, Lord please help
me not to complain about this.
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Help me to be cheerful and
silent about these complaints
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I wanted to say.
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He really came
through, God was able to help me
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keep those complaints inside.
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So you had to literally
had someone was stepping
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on your toes, but people did
not know how you are feeling?
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Probably not. - probably not.
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You had this internal
struggle with yourself. - yeah.
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You turned to God, and God gave
you peace of the whole thing
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and helped you to be cheerful
in that situation. - yeah.
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So internally when we go
through the struggles, that is
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really where it is,
isn't it Carmen? - yes!
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How do you do with
internal struggles?
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Have you had that
kind of experience?
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Yeah a couple years ago it
was like a lifestyle for me.
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I judged people a lot
because I would think they were
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doing something against
me, or speaking badly to me.
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So I would have these feelings
against people that just would
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not like them, wouldn't talk to
them and depressed and everybody
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thought I just hated everybody.
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I was having kind of a
pity party for myself in my room
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one time, and I'm not sure
exactly why but I just picked up
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Ministry of Healing and opened
up on the chapter of the Mind.
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and the first thing I read
was, it is our positive duty
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to resist melancholy
and discontented thoughts
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is as much of a duty
as it is to pray. - wow.
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So I was really struck
with that and like wow, I'm not
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really living up to God's
will for me and I'm not leading
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people to Christ, and
I'm not fulfilling my duties.
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It's saying it is as much a
duty to resist those thoughts
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as it is to pray? - right!
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God can't make you
resist those thoughts.
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- God wants us to pray
so we know that. - exactly.
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You choose to pray, you
choose to resist those thoughts.
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Yeah, and so I chose to
resist and I chose to change
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but it wasn't easy, and even
still now, it is hard for me
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to just resist that and
go out in a self-defense mode
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and look at it from a different
perspective and look at
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it for more on the outside
that they probably didn't
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really mean to do that, or
even if they did, I can just
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give it to God and it
really hasn't been easy.
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This year I read in Help
In Daily Living how we should
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not allow our spirits
to chafe from any real or
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supposed wrongs done unto
us and it has been helping me
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to resist the tendency.
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Have you ever felt you are
the only one who knows what
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you're going through?
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When those depressing
feelings press upon us we have
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a remedy, a balm, no not a
bomb like kaboom, but a balm.
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Or a concealing
ointment, the balm from Gilead.
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In ancient times the balm of
Gilead, called 'balsam of Mecca'
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The balm was used to heal
wounds and it was so scarce
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that is was worth
twice its weight in silver.
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Known for its pleasing aromatic
fragrance, a one ounce bottle of
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balsam of Mecca perfume
today is worth around $10,000.
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This perfume
carries a deeper meaning.
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In Jeremiah 46:11 it says
go up to Gilead and take balm,
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O virgin, the daughter of
Egypt; in vain you will use
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many remedies; there
is no healing for you.
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In Israel balm is a
metaphor for the Messiah, Jesus.
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Gilead was a healing testimony.
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The song 'There Is A
Balm in Gilead' is a constant
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reminder of the salvation
that Jesus bought for us on
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Calvary's Hill. So don't
search for remedies in vain,
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Let Jesus will be that pleasing
aromatic scent that fills
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your life and
provides the healing you need.
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¤ (Musical Introduction)
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There is a balm in Gilead
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To make the wounded whole
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There is a balm in Gilead
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To heal the sin sick soul
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Some times I feel discouraged
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And I seek thy works in vain
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Oh but then the Holy Spirit
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Revives my soul again
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There is a balm in Gilead
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to heal the sin, sick soul
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if you cannot preach like Peter
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if you cannot pray thy balm
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you can tell the love of Jesus
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and say He died for all,
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There is a balm,
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there is a balm
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To heal the sin sick soul
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So you have these feelings
of frustration and sometimes you
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turn to God and deal with
it, but sometimes we need others
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to kind of pull us out of it.
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You know we are angry, we're
frustrated at having conflict
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someone, have you ever
had a feeling or an experience
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like that where
someone else is actually pulled
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you out of it? - I have.
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I know I am a typical teenager.
I cherished the freedoms
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I have and there is nothing
that bugs me more than a rule
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that I see as something
trespassing against my rights
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as a young adult.
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Recently, after our dorm
worship, our head Dean got up
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because he said he had
an announcement to make.
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This wasn't just any announce-
ment, this was a notification
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with of a new rule that
had just been made, something
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we had to do or whatever it was.
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I saw it as something
messing with my rights,
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I got so upset I remember
that after that worship,
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after that announcement
a bunch of us guys were
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sitting around the
lobby and we're talking about
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why it wasn't right.
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Others were
saying, oh it makes sense.
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To me it did not make any
sense at all and right then
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our head Dean came up and
said, so how are you guys doing?
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I was so upset and so
some of the guys started asking
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questions and nothing
was making sense to me and
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I just stomped off to my room.
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I had had enough of
it and now I was going,
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I was just upset
and went to my room.
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A couple of hours later,
when it was time to go to bed,
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our Dean was walking
around and making sure everyone
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was in their rooms.
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I ran into him in the
hallway and he said, look Randy
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I can tell that you are upset.
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- I said yeah! I'm really upset.
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He said can I
answer any questions.
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I said, boy you can, so I
just laid into him and said
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I have this question and I
don't understand why this is
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this way, and the thing
that amazed me was while
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I was so frustrated one
by one he took every question
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and calmly and
quietly answered it so that
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it made sense to me.
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After, I don't know how
long we talked there, 15 or 20
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minutes, I was able to leave
and I wasn't upset anymore.
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I was calm and
the rule made sense.
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I look back on that
and I read in the Bible in
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Proverbs 15:1 where it says,
a soft answer turns away wrath.
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I saw it to be true
in my life. - yeah, yeah!
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Sometimes when we, I
don't know I've had that
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experience and I have seen
in other people when you feel
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like you are rights are
being taken away, your volume
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goes up, right? - oh
yeah. But as my volume went up,
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his went down and just
calmed me down, it was amazing.
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That is amazing, yeah.
Just keep that self-control.
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So God sent someone
else to help you out of that
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situation, and a soft
answer turns away wrath as the
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Bible says, - it
can be really helpful.
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Have you had an
experience like that Rachel?
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Yeah well what Randy was
saying reminds me a lot of my
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mom, because when I was
younger I used to get in trouble
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a lot, for all
different kinds of things.
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Not making my bed, or
forgetting to fold my laundry,
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or just a lot of mischievous
things I would get into that
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I would get in trouble for.
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And I hate it,
getting in trouble.
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I absolutely hated it,
so I would get really mad
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at my mom and I would
just scream and cry and
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I would not say
very nice things to her.
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It was really interesting
because at first my mom would
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get really frustrated too,
but then suddenly in the middle
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of it, I don't know she, I
don't know how she did it but
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she kind of all of a sudden
stopped and started talking
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to me really quietly,
really intently showing that
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she was listening to
what I was screaming.
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I don't know, just somehow
by her doing that it made me
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kind of calm down
and snap out of it.
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I realize she's actually
listening to what I'm screaming.
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Like she actually wants to
hear where I'm coming from.
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- So you wanted to be
listened to? - yeah pretty much.
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After that we were able to
talk things out more rationally
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and usually I would still get
in trouble and have to pay the
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consequences, but at the
end of the day though I wasn't
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holding a grudge against her.
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I didn't hate her
for what happened.
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So instead of your volume
continuing to climb, I mean it
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made no sense right? I
mean you just bring it down
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because you know they are
listening, so you bring it down
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and you calm down and all
of a sudden your rational mind
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kicks in instead
of the emotions right?
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We need other people to
bring us out of these things
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sometimes, and sometimes we
need to be that other person
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to bring someone
else out of it right?
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So when we get someone
speaking angry words to us, just
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remember that verse, that a
soft answer turns away wrath.
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So when someone treats as
a harsh way to be calm and to
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remember the words of
the Bible, turn towards God
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ourselves and we can help
others out of those situations.
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Right, I think likes as we
experienced that every day,
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you know we are dealing
with people and something may
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bother us or what ever, but
when we are able and willing
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to be calmer we
can deal with that.
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The thing of it is that
they didn't do it themselves,
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Mr. James, as he was
listening to Randy, his problems
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about the new rule, and
Rachel's mom when she was
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listening to Rachel screaming
at her, they did become
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that part by themselves -
yeah they had to be praying and
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God her working through them.
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To listen and have that
patience, it takes patience
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Yes it does, and so the
enemy that we most need to be
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afraid of is who?
- ourselves. - self.
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God has shown me that
life is too precious to waste.
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This year I was faced with
a Doctor telling me I had the
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possibility of having cancer.
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The news came as reality
check, thankfully, through the
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grace of God, test
showed there was no cancer.
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Looking back on what
happened, I could see that I was
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constantly focusing on myself.
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Through this whole
experience, I have realized that
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I really can cast my cares
upon Jesus and not worry about
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myself. Psalms 55:22 says,
cast thy burden upon the Lord
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and He shall sustain me.
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Jesus knows what
our burdens are like and
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He calls us to give them to Him.
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God has taught me to take
everything in life seriously
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and to make the
most of every day.
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Live every day like it was
your last and you will live
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a fulfilled life.
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In everything you
do, put God first.
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Today when you hear His
voice listen and give Him the
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top priority in your life.
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I have found a friend in
Jesus, He's everything to me,
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He's the fairest of
ten thousand to my soul;
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The Lily of the
Valley, in Him alone I see
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All I need to cleanse
and make me fully whole.
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In sorrow He's my comfort,
in trouble He's my stay;
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He tells me every care
on Him to roll. Hallelujah!
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He's the Lily of the Valley,
the Bright and Morning Star,
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He's the fairest of
ten thousand to my soul.
00:22:17.00\00:22:21.52
He all my grief has
taken, and all my sorrows borne;
00:22:21.56\00:22:26.25
In temptation He's my
strong and mighty tow'r;
00:22:26.29\00:22:30.59
I have all for Him
forsaken, and all my idols torn
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From my heart and now
He keeps me by His pow'r.
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Though all the world forsake
me, and Satan tempt me sore,
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Through Jesus I shall safely
reach the goal. Hallelujah!
00:22:43.88\00:22:48.07
He's the Lily of the Valley,
the Bright and Morning Star,
00:22:48.10\00:22:52.25
He the fairest of
ten thousand to my soul,
00:22:52.28\00:22:56.84
He'll never, never leave
me, He will not forsake me here.
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While I live by faith
and do His blessed will;
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A wall of fire about me,
I've nothing now to fear,
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With His manna He my
hungry soul doth fill.
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Then sweeping up to glory
I'll see His blessed face,
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Where rivers of delight
shall ever roll. Hallelujah!
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He's the Lily of the
Valley, the bright morning Star
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He's the fairest of
ten thousand to my soul.
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Jesus is that Lily of
the Valley. He is the one who
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pulls us out of the circum-
stances where it's frustrating,
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where we have a
conflict and it just seems
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to get worse and worse.
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We turn to Him, He's the one
that can pull us out at that.
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I have a situation that happened
last year where God really
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helped me with that.
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My friend and I had this
conflict that kept coming up
00:23:59.15\00:24:02.65
over and over and over again.
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We thought we had dealt with
it or whenever, and the next
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thing it would come up
again and show up somewhere else
00:24:07.24\00:24:10.29
and we would have misunder-
standings and disagreements
00:24:10.32\00:24:13.34
and maybe arguments or whatever.
00:24:13.37\00:24:15.69
There are many times
where I think we both questioned
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if we really even
wanted to have a friendship
00:24:19.87\00:24:21.54
with each other.
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Like what is the
point of being a friend when
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you have so
many problems, right?
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So we've kind of struggling
with those thoughts sometimes,
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and one of those times
when I was struggling with those
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thoughts, I'm just going
to go talk to her again and we
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are going to settle this out
once and for all or whatever.
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I went to go see her, she
was available to talk at the
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time, she wasn't doing anything
and so I sat down in her
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room and decided to
tell her what I thought.
00:24:45.67\00:24:47.53
Next thing nasty comments
were flying both ways and
00:24:47.56\00:24:52.74
it was not a
very good situation.
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The conversation
was going downhill and
00:24:55.02\00:24:56.97
we weren't getting
anywhere and so then there was
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a time where we both just
stop talking and were silent.
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I think in a way we
were almost afraid if we said
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something we would
regret what we would have said.
00:25:06.66\00:25:09.62
So anyway we were just
sitting there and I was praying
00:25:09.66\00:25:12.59
and asking God what to do.
00:25:12.62\00:25:14.45
He told me to pray out
loud, so with the person I was
00:25:14.48\00:25:20.01
having this argument with
and I'm like pray out loud?
00:25:20.04\00:25:23.68
That will be too weird
just sitting here and all of
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a sudden You want
me to pray out loud.
00:25:27.36\00:25:28.66
But the impression came
again, yes pray out loud.
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I'm like okay Lord, so
I said I'm going to pray.
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I closed my eyes and bowed
my head and started to pray
00:25:35.75\00:25:39.85
and asked God to be with
our conversation and to help
00:25:39.88\00:25:45.70
to move forward and upward.
I said Lord if you want us
00:25:45.73\00:25:49.70
to really have this
friendship please make us repent
00:25:49.73\00:25:53.63
so this conversation really
help us and I said Amen. We both
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looked at each other
and thought were to for now.
00:25:59.30\00:26:02.64
The conversation was
just completely different.
00:26:02.67\00:26:06.29
We both started to take
responsibility for what we
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had done and we started
to apologize and things just
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really got on the table
and God just helped us so much.
00:26:13.06\00:26:16.78
We were able, by the
end of the conversation
00:26:16.82\00:26:18.90
we were able to say I
love you and I'm glad that
00:26:18.94\00:26:22.53
we were able to
get this figured out.
00:26:22.57\00:26:23.89
Got really helped and we
prayed together at the end too.
00:26:23.93\00:26:27.15
And because God came and
helped us with that conversation
00:26:27.18\00:26:30.37
and that conflict
we are friends today.
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Wow. - wow things
change. - yeah and when you are
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going through something
like that it seems like it is
00:26:35.75\00:26:38.72
absolutely impossible,
like I'm just going to give up.
00:26:38.75\00:26:42.69
To have that fortitude to
say I'm going to stick with this
00:26:42.72\00:26:46.62
and then what do you do?
You turn to God in prayer.
00:26:46.66\00:26:50.82
It can be hard but if you
are willing to humble yourself
00:26:50.86\00:26:53.04
it is so worth it. - absolutely.
00:26:53.07\00:26:55.34
- sometimes it is all
you can do is to turn to God.
00:26:55.38\00:26:58.08
- yeah, yeah! And He can
pull you out of that situation
00:26:58.12\00:27:01.52
and praying out loud
like that, what an encouraging
00:27:01.56\00:27:04.72
response and what an
uplifting response to know God
00:27:04.76\00:27:07.88
is doing that in your life.
00:27:07.92\00:27:09.49
So turning to God, I mean
He is the source of overcoming
00:27:09.52\00:27:14.87
self and helping us to deal
with conflict and to go from
00:27:14.90\00:27:20.21
a situation of
frustration to total peace.
00:27:20.25\00:27:23.17
That is what God
wants to lead us to.
00:27:23.20\00:27:25.72
None of us likes to do
with conflict, I mean we don't
00:27:25.76\00:27:28.61
like that conflict
situation, but we want peace.
00:27:28.65\00:27:31.48
So let's close today's discus-
sion with a word of prayer.
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Can you lead as
Victoria?. - sure.
00:27:36.02\00:27:37.51
Let's bow our heads. Dear
Lord, I just thank You so much
00:27:37.54\00:27:41.24
that when we are in conflict,
none of us like conflict,
00:27:41.27\00:27:44.79
I just thank You that we
can call on You and You can give
00:27:44.82\00:27:48.30
us Your strength Lord,
and Your peace throughout the
00:27:48.34\00:27:51.42
conflict and You can help
us solve it. Thank you Lord
00:27:51.46\00:27:54.51
in Your name, Amen. - Amen
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