Hello and welcome to
Help In Daily Living.
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Today we are going
to talking about how to
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get along with others.
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The truth is that
getting along with others
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is sometimes very difficult.
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We can always find someone
who we don't get along with.
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The way we see life, the
way we judge, is not in all
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respects the same.
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If we are judging others,
we should really leave that
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work to God because the
work of judging belongs to God.
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Sometimes though we complain,
we criticize, we compare
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and we compete with one another.
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So how do we get
along with one another?
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Before we get into this
topic I am going to ask Zack to
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lead us in a word of prayer.
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Dearly Father, Lord,
thank you so much for this day.
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Thank you that we
can be here to discuss
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these topics together.
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Lord I just pray as we
talk about Your judgments,
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not our own, that our
hearts be opened and willing
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to accept that
sometimes Lord we are
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too harsh to each other.
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Help us to realize and to
know that we can get along
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with others and that
it is Your will for us.
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Come into our
heart, in Your name. Amen!
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In the beginning, God created
the heavens and the earth.
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When God built our world,
He did not create it using any
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method that an
artist would use now.
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Instead He spoke
it into existence.
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His words instantaneously
produced His will.
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During Jesus' ministry on
this earth, He brought Lazarus
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back from the dead
with a simple command.
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"Lazarus, come forth."
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Throughout the entire Bible
we find Christ creating just
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by speaking and He has
given us this power as well.
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In Proverbs 18:21 it
says, "death and life are in the
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"power of the tongue". With
our words we can create life
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by pointing to Jesus, or we
can have a negative influence
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by speaking discouragingly.
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Why not use your words to
encourage and uplift others
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as Jesus did?
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If any little word of mine
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may make a dark light brighter
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if any little song mine
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may make a sad heart lighter
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God help me
speak the helping word
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and sweeten it with singing
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and drop it in some lonely vale
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to set the echoes ringing
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if any little love of mine
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may make a hard life sweeter
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if any little care of mine
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may make a friends love sweeter
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God help me speak a helping word
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and sweeten it with singing
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and drop it in some lonely vale
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To set the echoes ringing
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if any little lift of mine
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May ease a toiler bending;
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God give me love
and care and strength
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we live for Him by lending
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God help me
speak the helping word
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and sweeten it with singing
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and drop it in some lonely vale
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to set the echoes ringing
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Sometimes the
greatest thing that hinders our
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relationships is the desire
to compete with one another,
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or compare with one another.
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We look at ourselves and
say I can't take it when someone
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else is better than I am,
or when someone else is kind of
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they just don't do
things the same way I do them.
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How do you
relate to that Brooke?
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I've been a person that
always has struggled with
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competition, I grew up playing
competitive sports and I spent
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countless hours jogging
and pushing myself so hard to
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the point I was
almost throwing up.
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I'd be in the gym shooting
baskets, and my head would be
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spinning because I
wanted to be the best.
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I wanted to be the best
because I wanted to win.
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It is all that I strived
for, so every time it come to
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a game or something like
that, if I ever saw someone that
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was better than me it
drove me even further and pushed
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me harder and I would
practice more and more.
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I can think of this particular
girl, every time I saw her
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I would stand up
straighter and try harder.
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If she made a good shot I'd
say whatever I could probably
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do that, and it
would drive me crazy.
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Eventually it came to the
point that God was speaking to
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my heart, Brooke you
can't handle this competition,
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these long practice hours,
these tournaments and games
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is getting to you.
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I would do lots and
lots of prayer and study and
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God showed me
that I can't handle it.
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I decided I was going
to quit playing sports.
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So I did, I quit. It was
crazy because even after I quit
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there were still opportunities
for me to be competitive.
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Even coming here to Fountain
View, I will go jogging every
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day and would catch
myself running and running until
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I couldn't even feel my legs.
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I thought I was really
working out and it came to the
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point eventually that
God had to like, make it so
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I couldn't do
anything basically.
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I tore my meniscus in my right
knee and I couldn't go jogging
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at all. I was like, oh
man, I love to jog but through
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that experience God showed
me there is a balance to be
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found and that He does
want me to do my best in all
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things, but He doesn't
want me to push myself so hard
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that I hurt myself.
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That as a Christian, the
attitude of self-control, it has
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taken me a long time to
recognize, I need to learn that.
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I praise God, because
He has been helping me so
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much, I haven't been able
to go jogging, but God has
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given me many other ways to
exercise and do things where
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I can still keep myself in
tone. I praise God for that.
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You know you said an important
thing, you said that God
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wants us to do our very
best, and that's important.
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So sometimes people
have a hard time with that.
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They say, but sometimes we
can have friendly competition,
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or healthy competition
and that kind of motivates me
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to do better, is there a
way in which we can do that?
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That kind of motivates us
to do better, where we don't
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have to be
competing with one another?
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Right, well I think when
you see somebody like, for
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example someone who really
knows their Bible very well,
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they can encourage you to
want to study my Bible more.
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I need to know it more, I
think there is a balance to be
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found, you know like the
competition that I had was
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coming straight from pride.
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I would look at it like,
I would be better than her.
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There is a balance that
can be found, you don't have to
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have pride as
reigning power in your heart.
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I mean look at Satan, he wanted
to be the best in heaven and
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because of that he went
from being in heaven to now
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the king of this world.
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We need to make sure that
pride isn't the reigning power
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behind our competition
that we have. - right.
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I mean the whole Bible is
about people not being able to
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get along with one another,
right from the sons of Adam
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and Eve, our
perfect parents in paradise.
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You are thinking, how did
they not get along with each
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other? Ended one brother killed
another brother, so there was
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competition there
right from the beginning.
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It doesn't look like
friendly competition at all.
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But yet you see
Jesus, He did His very best.
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What was it that motivated
Him to His very best for us?
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Love! - it was love, absolutely.
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It wasn't pride, He
wasn't competing against
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someone else,
it was out of love.
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If we have love in our
hearts, we can do our very best
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and we can treat each
other with dignity and kindness.
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Yeah! - And that's really
I think the heart of getting
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along with one another, is
having the love of Christ in
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our hearts and being
accepting of one another for our
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differences and for our
individual strengths as well.
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My mother is someone
who sacrifices everything
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for her children's success.
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Growing up she sacrificed
so much in order to put me
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and my sister through
school and music lessons.
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To be honest I
hated those music lessons.
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Yet she still had me take them.
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I remember at one point she
decided to become registered
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as an American medical Doctor.
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This was very lengthy
and time-consuming process.
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However, as time
went on, she realized that
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she was not spending
quality time with her family.
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So she decided to quit.
She sacrificed her career,
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money and
comfort for her family.
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She would often tell me,
Moses God created you for
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a purpose, and He has a
great plan for your life.
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Everything I do
is for you, Moses.
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Her dedication and
sacrifices changed my life.
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She looked beyond the present
and had hope for the future
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for me and my sister.
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Christ gave up heaven
and life itself for us.
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He has promised to come
again to bring us to a better
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place, now I, just like
my mother can look beyond
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the present to the blessed hope.
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It is because of
Christ's sacrifice that
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we have this blessed hope.
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¤ (musical Introduction
of: I Saw One Weary)
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I saw one weary, sad, and torn,
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With eager steps
press on the way,
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Who long the
hallowed cross had borne,
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Still looking
for the promised day;
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While many a line
of grief and care,
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Upon His brow,
was furrowed there;
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I asked what
buoyed His spirits up,
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'O this! Said He
"the Blessed hope.".
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(Music playing)
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And one I saw,
with sword and shield,
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Who boldly braved
the world's cold frown,
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And fought,
unyielding, on the field,
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To win an everlasting crown.
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Though worn with
toil, oppressed by foes,
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No murmur from His heart arose;
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I asked what
buoyed His spirits up,
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'O this! Said He
"the Blessed hope.".
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(Music Playing)
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While pilgrims
here we journey on
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In this dark
vale of sin and gloom,
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Through
tribulation, hate, and scorn,
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Or through the
portals of the tomb.
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Till our
returning King shall come
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to take His exile captives home,
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O! what can buoy the spirits up?
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'Tis this! the
Lord "the Blessed hope."
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¤ (Music Playing)
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You know sometimes we can
have really good relationships
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with people and good friendships
but what prevents that
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is that we prejudge one another.
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Sometimes we stereotype
another person, we say, oh that
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is that kind of person.
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I could never get along with
that kind of person and then
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we stay away from them.
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I think sometimes it is
the devil that is behind it,
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you know, it kind prevents
us from getting close to
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a person who could
be a really good friend.
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So by prejudging we prevent
ourselves from having good
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friendships with one another.
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Allie, how do
you relate to that?
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Well I guess I'll just
explain, is best explained by
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having good friends
with these two girls here.
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Last year my junior
year, there were a lot of new
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girls in my class, two of
them where Valerie and Victoria.
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At the beginning of the
year I didn't think I could be
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friends with them, to me
they just seemed both so smart
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and they spoke so
intelligently, and I don't.
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Just felt kind of inferior,
like I couldn't really be
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friends with them.
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But one night, somehow I
ended up studying with Victoria
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and I remember walking
to her room and was really
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worried that would
say something stupid.
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I was worried I would
embarrass myself, I was walking
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to her room and
remember thinking this is dumb.
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Smart people need
friends too. (group laughing)
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We ended up actually
having a lot of fun together.
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We connected really
well, and it was really great.
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So I found even though, that
is what I thought originally,
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but we were able to actually
be friends, even though that
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was not what I had expected.
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You see Allie didn't have
that view of us for no reason.
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Back home I was used to
being the smartest kid in the
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class, so I guess that
kind of came across to Allie.
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I think Victoria was
the same way at home.
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When I came to Fountain
View, I knew there would be
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talent, but I guess I
wasn't really prepared for all
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the talent that I would face.
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So I got here and all of
a sudden my antenna went up.
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I soon discovered who
was on my level, so to speak.
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And Victoria, -
that was in violin right?
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That was one of them,
yes. - playing violin.
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Yeah, playing the violin,
and we were both really good
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violinist and so I think
some sort of mutual competition
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sort of
developed really early on.
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It kind of prevented us from
becoming close friends that year
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Umhumm. Yeah you see
when I came to Fountain View,
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my senior year, I was
thinking I'm a great violinist
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I'll do fine placing in
the orchestra and everything.
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I did, Val became concert
mistress and I sat right beside
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her for most of the pieces.
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I went on an Oregon Tour with
everyone in the chorus too and
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which was really cool since
only a few musicians got to go.
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But I guess it was
really then, during that time,
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I began to get
really jealous of Val.
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I guess I thought to myself,
I'm a really good violinist
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I'm sitting up here with her,
and then I started to think,
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I'm a better violinist then
her, why am I not sitting in the
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concert mistress seat?
So I became really jealous.
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Pride had definitely
taken root in my heart.
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Then she would tell me
little things, like change the
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bowing here, or play softer
in this section, or do this
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kind of stroke or something
and I would just hate that.
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I would resent it when
she would tell me to correct
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something, because I
didn't like being corrected.
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I just thought I
knew better, yeah,
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I thought I knew better.
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So I guess I really
got upset with her, and it
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creeped into a lot of
areas of life, this jealousy.
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Val is really smart
like Allie was saying earlier
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and so we had kind of competi-
tion there with schoolwork.
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She would sometimes help
me with my physics homework.
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She is really good at that.
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And musically, like we
talked about, then Val was also
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a very spiritual student and
she is a leader at Fountain View
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so I became
jealous of her for that.
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She also has lots of friends,
and the list just seem to get
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bigger of things that I
could be jealous of her for.
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So I just got so fed up,
it was mostly an internal
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struggle that I was having,
but still I just felt like
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I really needed to
talk to her about this.
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I thought to myself, it was
kind of a battle between myself,
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should I talk to her,
should I not talk to her because
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it really wasn't her
fault and I knew that.
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I knew it was my own
struggle, but I still felt like
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I needed to talk her.
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So she came to my room
one evening and I just started
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telling her how I felt
she was coming across to me,
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and how I thought she was
looking down her nose at me
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because she thought
she was so much better.
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I guess I will let her
tell you what she said.
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Well when she asked to
talk to me and I went and talked
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to her, she told me about
this struggle she'd be having.
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I had no idea that she
was struggling with this.
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I realized that I
hadn't been careful with what
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I was doing with my
acts and influence upon her.
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Because I was ignorant
of how she was feeling.
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I thought it was
leftover feelings from the year
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before perhaps, I knew
there was something wrong.
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But I was really glad
she told me, because I have
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a struggle with pride
as well. I told her that.
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It kind of made a connection
between the two of us.
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Yeah, and I guess it
helped to talk about it.
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But I really, what I
had to do was I had to take
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my feelings to God and
let my pride and jealousy and
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competition, all these
feelings I had to take them
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to God, and just
give them to Him.
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Basically let Him
take over I guess.
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It wasn't an instant thing,
you know just right as soon
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as I told God all these
problems that it went away.
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That wasn't how it
was, it was a gradual thing
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and over time God had
to just change my heart and
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melt those feelings away.
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But eventually He's given
me peace in place of all those
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strife, feelings of strife I had
and Valerie and I are able to
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be friends today because
of that. - Well I got to be
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friends with Victoria last
year, but with Val I didn't
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really get to be friends
with her and tell halfway
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through the
school year at least.
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We had gone to school events
together and stuff but we never
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really talked deeply.
00:19:38.70\00:19:40.20
To me she seem like one
of those people that sits in
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the room and
memorizes pie for fun.
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One time we were on
school campus together and ended
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up sharing a room.
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One night during the weekend
she came in and I was sitting
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on my bed, and she said,
don't you have any problems?
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the time there were some
things I was struggling with?
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So I was thinking in my
head, Honey let me tell you.
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But I didn't, so we
start talking and I found out
00:20:06.07\00:20:10.51
she was struggling
with the same things I was.
00:20:10.54\00:20:11.92
It was really amazing and we
connected and started sharing
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with each other, I shared
with her what a struggling with
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and we were able to
encourage each other actually,
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help each other, and
that really was the start
00:20:21.13\00:20:24.28
of a friendship deeply.
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Throughout the rest of the
year we started hanging out
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more and praying with each
other when one of us was feeling
00:20:28.73\00:20:31.12
down and we also started
helping each other with our
00:20:31.15\00:20:33.83
schoolwork, our English
assignments and found out
00:20:33.86\00:20:35.50
we think a lot
alike in that way.
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Our friendship just grew a lot
and I think back like I never
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would have expected to be
friends with either one of
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these girls, but if I hadn't
withheld my judgment with Val
00:20:45.14\00:20:51.14
and Victoria, if I had
just continued to think like
00:20:51.17\00:20:53.52
stereotyping them in my mind,
I would never have been blessed
00:20:53.55\00:20:56.47
like I have been.
00:20:56.51\00:20:58.00
I wouldn't have been
able to gain the blessing
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spiritually that I have,
and the encouragement that
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they have been to me.
00:21:03.37\00:21:04.74
I just think that we need
that in our relationships,
00:21:04.77\00:21:07.76
to withhold judgment,
and to try to see people
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as God sees them.
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Praise the Lord, so the
three of you are friends now?
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Yeah. - it is a wonderful
to see that, and you really
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had to take time and trust
that the other person wasn't
00:21:19.74\00:21:23.97
going to hurt you, and
they weren't going to judge you
00:21:24.00\00:21:26.59
as you were judging them.
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Things turned out completely
opposite from what all
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three of you had
expected from the beginning.
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Isn't that wonderful how God
sees things completely different
00:21:34.83\00:21:38.53
and He can open our eyes,
when we are prepared to be open
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to one another, and He can
enlarge our friendships so that
00:21:41.49\00:21:46.06
we can get along
with one another.
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Whenever I fail God, whenever
I fall into a temptation
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over and over, it usually
happens just before I've told
00:21:52.77\00:21:56.00
Him I would
never ever do it again.
00:21:56.03\00:21:57.83
I suddenly start to feel
like a Jonah, like I'm fleeing
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His still small voice
and I am ashamed to talk
00:22:01.49\00:22:03.37
to Him that next day.
00:22:03.40\00:22:04.61
I run from His calling and
totally ignored the promptings
00:22:04.64\00:22:07.76
of His Holy Spirit.
00:22:07.79\00:22:08.78
Have you ever felt this
way? That you couldn't talk to
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God because of your
weaknesses? That there is no way
00:22:12.68\00:22:15.86
that He could forgive
you for what you have done?
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The book 'Help In Daily Living'
says, "when we have sinned
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"and we feel we cannot
pray it is then the time
00:22:21.44\00:22:24.68
"time to pray. No matter
how shameful, disgraced or
00:22:24.71\00:22:27.88
"humiliating we may
feel in front of God,
00:22:27.91\00:22:29.59
"He still accepts us
lovingly and tenderly."
00:22:29.62\00:22:32.01
"This gift of salvation
is not something that can be
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"obtained by mere wealth
or wisdom or even achievement,
00:22:36.25\00:22:39.21
"rather when I take this
step of faith, I experience
00:22:39.24\00:22:42.99
"His cleansing grace." In
your life you will meet with
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adversity, no doubt you
will fail, but when you submit
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yourself to Him with a contrary
heart, a willing spirit, and a
00:22:50.08\00:22:53.51
patient forgiving character,
God can and will make you
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whiter than snow, if
you will only ask Him.
00:22:56.71\00:22:59.14
¤ (Music playing)
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Lord Jesus, I long
to be perfectly whole;
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I want Thee
forever to live in my soul;
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Break down every
idol, cast out every foe
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Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow.
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Whiter than snow,
yes, whiter than snow,
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Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow.
00:24:02.31\00:24:12.15
¤ (Music Playing)
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Lord Jesus, look down
from Thy throne in the sky
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And help me to make
a complete sacrifice;
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I give up myself,
and whatever I know
00:24:42.74\00:24:50.66
Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow.
00:24:50.69\00:24:59.09
¤ (Music Playing)
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My Lord Jesus, for
this I most humbly entreat,
00:25:08.19\00:25:15.45
I wait, blessed Lord,
at Thy crucified feet,
00:25:15.48\00:25:23.61
By faith for my
cleansing, I see thy blood flow
00:25:23.64\00:25:31.17
Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow.
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Whiter than snow,
yes, whiter than snow,
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Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow.
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Now wash me, and I
shall be whiter than snow!
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One of the lessons that I
can take from my favorite Bible
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character David, is
the way he treated Saul.
00:26:28.29\00:26:31.18
Saul was actively trying
to kill and take his life.
00:26:31.21\00:26:33.70
But David always
treated him with kindness and
00:26:33.73\00:26:36.29
forbearance. That
always blows my mind.
00:26:36.32\00:26:38.43
David's men would be saying,
he's killing me fight back,
00:26:38.46\00:26:42.03
but he said, whom am I
to raise my hand against the
00:26:42.06\00:26:44.07
Lord's anointed king? Right?
00:26:44.10\00:26:45.73
That hits me because, as
everybody in our lives we just
00:26:45.76\00:26:50.62
meet people that we just clash,
you just rub personalities.
00:26:50.65\00:26:53.80
I mean that happens quite
frequently in the human walk.
00:26:53.83\00:26:56.27
For me, like you think about
who are we to raise our hand
00:26:56.30\00:27:00.87
against the anointed of
the Lord, against His people?
00:27:00.90\00:27:03.65
Who are we to
speak bad about them?
00:27:03.68\00:27:05.27
Who are we to judge, and
not give them the benefit of the
00:27:05.30\00:27:07.53
doubt. And that
is freeing, right?
00:27:07.56\00:27:09.29
There is a strategy is to
every time you think bad about
00:27:09.32\00:27:13.39
somebody, speak
well of their character.
00:27:13.42\00:27:15.39
To point something good
out, and for me that is the
00:27:15.42\00:27:18.18
last thing I want to do,
that frustrates me so much.
00:27:18.21\00:27:20.23
Because you are in a
mood where you are angry and
00:27:20.26\00:27:21.85
you don't even want to
try to do that, but the Lord
00:27:21.88\00:27:24.47
has been really teaching me
this year, this is important
00:27:24.50\00:27:26.24
and you can do it with Him.
00:27:26.27\00:27:27.50
It is hard though. It is real
good strategy for how to get
00:27:27.53\00:27:31.06
along with others. Allie
can you close with a word
00:27:31.09\00:27:34.39
of prayer for us?
00:27:34.42\00:27:35.72
Father God, You know how
easy it is to just think the
00:27:35.75\00:27:39.68
worst of everyone, and I
know I do that all the time.
00:27:39.71\00:27:41.85
I would like to ask that
You would create in us a heart
00:27:41.88\00:27:44.78
full of sympathy and love
for the ones we want to judge
00:27:44.81\00:27:47.45
and cut down.
00:27:47.48\00:27:48.83
Please help us to think
well of them and speak well
00:27:48.86\00:27:51.57
of them and to remember
that they are Your children
00:27:51.60\00:27:53.69
just as much as we are.
00:27:53.72\00:27:55.11
I just thank You that
You don't judge us for what
00:27:55.14\00:27:59.17
we appear to be on the
outside. In your name, Amen!
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