With each new day families
are failing, homes are broken.
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Marriages are
threatened, fathers are absent.
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Children are
rebellious but all is not lost.
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Homes can be healed
and hearts can be mended.
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Let's reclaim our
Families 4 Heaven.
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Thank you for
watching Families 4 Heaven.
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I'm Alanzo Smith and
my co-host is June Smith.
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We are talking today
about When Tragedy Strikes,
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The Morning after.
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Crises occurs on
an everyday basis.
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Talk to us about crises.
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A crises is an event that
an individual or family will
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face, that leaves
you, sometimes numb.
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The skills that you normally
use to solve your problems
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just don't work.
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You find yourself in a
situation that you need help.
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Sometimes, medical help,
sometimes economic support,
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whatever the situation demands.
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Your resources, your
skills, your strength, your
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knowledge just
isn't enough to help you.
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When talk about crises,
there are two kind of crises,
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situational and maturational.
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What's the difference
between a situational crises and
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the maturational crises?
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Situational crises are
events that occur that are
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unexpected, unanticipated.
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You know these are
events that are likely to happen
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in life, but you don't
know when, or if ever it will
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happen to you.
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For example, if a child
falls down the stairs, or if
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somebody in the family has
an accident, or if the stove
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caught fire, just events
that could throw you or the
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family into a
situation that you just wasn't
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prepared for.
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Now maturational crises is
an event that occurs during
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the stage of development,
during the stage of living
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as it were so that as
you mature there are certain
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transitions that occur in
your life, that are likely to
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create a crises.
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In those situations, for
example, as the birth of a
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child in the home, your
family may be thrown into a
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crises that you
are anticipating.
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You understand this is going
to happen and you make plans
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for it, but it still creates
difficulty and could create
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situations that the
family is not prepared for.
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You might lose
your job for example.
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One person is at a stage
in their development where it
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might be very difficult
for them to find another job,
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because they are just that
close to retirement and etc.
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You are maturing as you
develop in your lifecycle and
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you are thrust into a
crises that the family has
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to suffer for.
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There are times when
situational crises could evolve
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into a maturational crises.
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For example, the
diagnosis of a terminal disease.
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When that hits you, it is
situational, but if the disease
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lingers and the condition
continues over a period of time,
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it devolves into maturational.
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So it is no longer a sudden
shock, but it's an every day
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reality that you
have to deal with.
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We want to talk about
situational crises today.
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That is our focus, when
the blow hits you and it
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hits you real hard.
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Now, can one
prepare for a crises?
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There are some events in
life that you don't know when,
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but you should as a
family make preparations for.
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For example, if there are
older people in your family
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and you know at some point
they will pass on, then you
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shouldn't wait until the
event occurs to decide how you
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are going to financially
or emotionally handle this.
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So yes you can prepare for
some events that are likely
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to create certain crises
but you just don't know when.
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For example if you know
that you live in a flood zone,
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for example, then you don't
wait until there is a storm
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to make preparation that
in the event you should have a
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flood, your
family would be safe.
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So there are some things
we can prepare for, yet others
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just hit just like that.
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We have two guests with
us in our program and we are
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very happy for them.
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We have Carter Francis
and his beautiful wife,
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Ruby Francis, please
help me to welcome Carter
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and Ruby Francis.
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Alanzo: welcome, we
are happy to have you both.
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Ruby as I look at you I
see you are sitting beside,
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what is that beside you?
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Ruby: a walker Alanzo: a
walker, I was about to say
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a stroller, okay a walker.
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Alanzo: Now Ruby you have
been married for how long?
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Ruby: 34 years.
Alanzo: For 34 years.
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Alanzo: you have been
happy and going through life,
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graduating from college
and going on to university,
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graduating and your
life was doing well.
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You live in a lovely
place and one Sunday morning you
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were coming back,
you went to buy plants.
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Alanzo: what kind of
plants? Ruby: flowers.
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Alanzo: what month of
year was it? Ruby: May.
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Alanzo: So you are coming
with these flowers you have
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purchased, to come and decorate
your home with planting.
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Tell us what happened?
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About 1 mile from home my sister
and I got into a car accident.
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Alanzo: wow, both
of you were in the car?
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Ruby: yes, and I was driving.
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Alanzo: so what you had
a bumper, fender bumper?
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Ruby: no, I crashed, yes.
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Alanzo: what happened?
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I think Carter will tell
you exactly what happened,
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I don't remember.
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Alanzo: you do not
still remember it? Ruby: no.
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Alanzo: how long ago did
this happen? Ruby: 10 years.
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Alanzo: you still are
not remembering. Ruby: no.
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Well we are going to take a
break, but when we come back
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we would like to listen
to Carter's story and what
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happened, they have some
powerful things to share with
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us, and we
really want to hear it.
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So don't go
away, stay right there.
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