Welcome, you have been
watching Families 4 Heaven.
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We are talking with
Pamella Simpson about the topic
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The Vicious Rage of Suicide.
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Pam your story is a delightful
story even though it is
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such a sad and painful story.
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The reason why I use the
word delightful, is that in the
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midst of your pain, you
anchored your faith somewhere.
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Tell us where.
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In God, I think everybody
can understand pain, but when
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you are able to see God respond
to you in a personal way it
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shows you that He does care.
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Trials will come, but
God is still in charge.
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Okay, thank you very much.
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Have you moved on?
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Pam: oh yes! Alonzo:
you have moved on, okay.
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Dr. June, we have already
established and the statistics
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suggest that suicide is
prevalent in our society.
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However there are
so many myths that are
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bound about suicide.
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So I'm going to share
with you some of these myths.
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I want you to
react, or respond to them.
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The first one I want to
talk about is, this myth says,
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people who talk about
suicide, do not commit suicide.
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As we saw in Pam's story,
that people who say I'm going
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to kill myself,
are likely to do it.
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And the first thing that a
person who hears that needs to
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do, is to indicate that
obviously you are angry,
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or obviously you are
depressed, or obviously there
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is a problem,
let's talk about it.
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But never under estimate
a threat that a person makes
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on taking their life.
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Here's another one.
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Suicide is related to
social economic status.
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That is as far
from the truth as it is.
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It is not about how wealthy
you are or how poor you are.
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Anyone who gets overwhelmed,
or who thinks they are
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unable to handle their
problems and are trapped,
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could commit suicide.
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People who commit suicide
are either mentally crazy,
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insane, mentally ill, or
something is wrong with them.
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It is a myth that it has
to be a psychotic person that
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would take their life.
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Now one could argue that
clearly there has to be some
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illness for a
person to get so helpless.
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On the other hand, even
healthy people, or people who
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appear to be
healthy, could be at risk
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to take their own lives.
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People who threatened
to commit suicide are only
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seeking attention.
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That is one of
the biggest myths.
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People don't go around
saying I'm going to kill myself,
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except they have had thoughts
about killing themselves.
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Now people who threatened,
may not carry out the threat,
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but there is some ideas going
on and it is a sign that there
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is a problem, so that
person needs to get help.
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Another myth that you hear
people often say is, suicide
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is painless if done correctly.
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Unfortunately research shows
that many people who attempt
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suicide don't
actually accomplish suicide.
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In the process they are in
agony, because sometimes the
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methods they use don't work.
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They are left either to
be a quadriplegic, or to live
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with this aftermath of
whatever physical deficits they
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now experience.
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So it is not true that it
is painless, it is clearly
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taking your life is a
painful and horrible thing.
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Suicide is genetic.
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That also is a myth,
there is no gene that a person
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possesses that will predispose
you to take your life.
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However, people who commit
suicide socialize the people
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around them to think
that this is an option.
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And it is said, or research
shows that in families where
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people commit suicide, other
family members learned that
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oh, this seems
like an easy way out.
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And they are at high risk
to follow through on a suicide.
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It is said that people who
commit suicide, other family
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members are high risks, why?
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As I said before, they
observe, they see and sometimes
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get overwhelmed, they get
depressed from having had this
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experience in their families.
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They just do not know what
to do, much like the person
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before them
didn't know what to do.
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Sometimes they keep it
secret, when a suicide occurs
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not often reported as a
suicide, so the family itself,
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as we said in our
last presentation,
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the family is a system.
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A crisis in the family
does not just affect the person
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who is the victim, but the
entire family is in crisis.
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So the people who are left
to mourn or to clean up the
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pain of this horrific
experience, are now prone to
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depression and prone to just
poor mental and emotional pain
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and they could then do something
as painful as a suicide.
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There are some
suicide preventions we should
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share with our listeners.
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Have an open
discussion about suicide.
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Talk to your
children, talk to young people.
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We should never take their
threats of suicide lightly.
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As a matter of fact, when
someone threatens to commit
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suicide, you should
seek professional help.
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It is not something
that you should take lightly.
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We trust, as you have
been listening to this program,
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that you understand that
suicide is not an easy thing.
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There is no easy way out.
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There are some young people
who think that I can do it
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and that will be okay.
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It is not going to be okay.
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You must be strong no matter
the challenge, no matter the
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problem, you must be strong
and you must understand that
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suicide is never an option.
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Have hope, have
faith and keep living.
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