Hello, friends, welcome
to the 3ABN Worship Center.
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My name is John
Lomacang, and I'll be your host
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for this evening's
program, Dare To Dream,
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Foundation Of Faith.
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Which means there is no other
foundation that can be laid
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other than Christ Jesus.
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So sit down with your
family and your friends
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for the next hour as
God speaks to us through
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the servant He has chosen
tonight, Dr. Timothy Nixon.
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Now I've known him for a
number of years since childhood.
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We know each
other by our first name.
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He calls me John,
I call him Timothy.
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But I know that God has
really worked in his life
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through the years.
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Last night's
message was, Boys To Men.
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And we knew each
other when we were boys,
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and God has given us
the privilege of ministering
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now that we are men.
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And this message is a
very significant message.
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I'm waiting to hear
what it's about, because
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the title of this
message is, Junk In The Trunk.
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And that alone would
make me want to sit down and
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find out what it's all about.
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Dr. Timothy Nixon is a
native of Brooklyn, New York.
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He also has a BA Degree
from Oakwood University,
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and masters and also a doctorate
degree from Andrews University.
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He is the associate
chaplain, as a matter of fact
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the administrative
chaplain for Andrews University.
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That's the present
position in which he serves.
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And he does a
wonderful job there.
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What I couldn't tell you
last night was about his spouse.
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And she is here tonight.
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Sandria Lalasingh. A
very interesting name.
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You'll get the chance to
meet her at least on camera.
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And they have been
married since 1985.
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She's not only a
registered nurse, but they both
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believe in education very well.
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He has his
doctorate, and so does she.
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They have two adult children.
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And God, I know, besides
giving them education and
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giving them a solid
foundation upon which to build
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their family, God has given them
a desire to share the message,
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and truly a love for the Lord.
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So tonight you are
definitely going to be blessed
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by the message.
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Before we introduce
our music for tonight,
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I'd like to invite
you to bow your heads
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as we invite the
Lord's presence to be with us.
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Let us pray.
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Our gracious Father in
heaven, what a blessing it is
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to know that when we
put our lives in Your hand,
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You never plant a seed
that does not produce harvest
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for Your kingdom.
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Lord, we pray tonight
You'll send Your Holy Spirit
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to fill your
manservant, Dr. Timothy Nixon.
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Give him unction from on high.
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Give him power to
proclaim the Word.
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And Lord, may those who
are watching and listening
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to this program find
in these divine seeds
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the power and the
strength to live for Christ.
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And so, Lord, come and fill this
place with Your presence we ask.
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In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
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Now last night I was
blessed by Brian Ezra Bates.
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Met him a few years
ago at Oakwood University
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during one of the
ministerial association meetings
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in December, and I
was impressed by his
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ability to
communicate the message.
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Tonight I know
we're going to be blessed.
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The message in song
tonight is, I love The Lord.
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And so sit back as you
hear God speak and sing
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through His
servant, Brian Ezra Bates.
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I love the Lord.
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He heard my cry
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and pitied every groan.
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Long as I live
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and troubles rise,
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I'll hasten to
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His throne.
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Oh, I love the Lord.
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I love the Lord.
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He heard my cry
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and pitied every groan.
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Long as I live
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and troubles rise,
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I'll hasten to,
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I'll hasten to His throne.
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Oh, I'll hasten to His throne.
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Yes, I'll hasten to His throne.
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Yes, I'll hasten to His throne.
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In the morning when I
rise I'll hasten to His throne.
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In the midnight hour
I'll hasten to His throne.
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Eternally every day
I'll hasten to His throne.
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When I need sweet relief,
I'll hasten to His throne.
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When I need
somewhere to lay my weary soul,
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I'll hasten to His throne.
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When I need some direction,
I'll hasten to His throne.
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When I need, Lord, protection,
I'll hasten to His throne.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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I'll hasten,
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I'll hasten to His throne.
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I love the Lord;
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come heard my cry,
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and He pitied every groan.
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So I'll hasten to His throne.
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Yeah, yeah, I'll
hasten to His throne.
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I'll hasten to His throne.
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Amen.
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Thank God for Brian and
his message in song tonight.
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If you have your Bibles, turn
with me to 2 Samuel chapter 6.
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And I want to begin by
reading a passage of Scripture
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in verse 16 to
set the foundation
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for our message tonight.
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2 Samuel chapter 6
beginning in verse 16,
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and I'll read down
through to verse 23.
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I'll be picking
some verses there.
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"And as the ark of the Lord
came into the city of David,
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Michal Saul's daughter
looked through a window
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and saw King David leaping
and dancing before the Lord.
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And she despised
him in her heart."
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Verse 20, "Then David
returned to bless his household.
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And Michal the daughter of
Saul came out to meet David,
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and said, 'How glorious
was the king of Israel today,
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who uncovered himself today
in the eyes of the handmaids
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of his servants, as
one of the vain fellows
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shamelessly uncovereth himself.'
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And David said unto
Michal, 'It was before the Lord,
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which chose me before thy
father and before all his house,
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to appoint me ruler over the
people of the Lord, over Israel.
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Therefore will I
play before the Lord.'"
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Verse 22, "And I will
yet be more vile than thus,
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and will be base
in mine own sight.
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And of the maidservants
which thou hast spoken of,
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of them shall I
be made in honour."
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And then verse 23, "Therefore
Michal the daughter of Saul
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had no child unto
the day of her death."
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I've titled the message
tonight, Junk In The Trunk.
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Let's bow and pray together.
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Father, tonight
as we open Your Word,
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we pray tonight that
You will speak to us.
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We pray that we will open our
hearts to receive Your message.
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Let Christ be lifted up.
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And may we allow Him
to speak and direct us.
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For we ask it in
Jesus' name, amen.
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Our series has
been on relationships,
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and tonight we
want to focus on women
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and relationships.
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One of the perils of
traveling to preach sometimes is
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not knowing who will
pick you up at the airport.
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I remember one
appointment I was going to,
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I did not know who
was coming to get me.
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And so when I came through
the gate, I was greeted by a
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gentleman who recognized me.
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He introduced himself
and said, "Pastor Nixon,
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I've been sent to pick you up."
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And after walking to the car
and exchanging some pleasantries
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from my host, he grabbed my
bags and he opened up his trunk
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to put them in, but as hard as
he would try in this challenging
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task, it appeared
that his trunk was full.
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And he tried to rearrange his
trunk to accommodate my luggage.
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He began to move old clothes
and a golf club and boxes,
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and just a myriad of
lost items, old food wrappers.
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All kinds of things
that ended up in the trunk.
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And as he
struggled to make it fit
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and try to get in
what could not fit in,
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he turned to me and
said, "Pastor, it looks like
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I've got a lot of
junk in my trunk."
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And when he said that, I looked
at him and he looked at me,
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and we both started laughing.
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My luggage ended
up in the back seat.
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And we drove and I
assured him I know how it is
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when your car
becomes the family taxi.
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And the reality
is, the sad reality is,
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that incident is
a metaphor for life.
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Because with all of
the non-essentials he had
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placed in his trunk, when there
was something that he really
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needed to carry,
he had no room for it.
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And here's the
amazing part of it all.
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The car itself was a Lexus 400.
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Beautiful, shiny,
washed, and waxed.
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Attractive on the outside.
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However the outside was
and however the outside looked,
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the reality is that the
inside could not carry what
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he needed it to carry.
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And in relationships,
that's how people are.
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They make sure that
the outside looks good,
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but you never really know what
junk they have in the trunk.
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Are you listening to me tonight?
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And that junk represents
not only physical junk,
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but literally even deeper
mental and emotional junk.
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Things that clutter
our minds and emotions
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so that when
something new comes along,
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we have no room for it.
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There's too much
junk that has accumulated
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over so long a period of
time that it becomes impossible
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for us to move on in our lives.
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And tonight, I want to look
at a person who had not cleared
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the junk out of her
trunk before she got married.
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It was David's
first wife, Michal.
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In 1 Samuel 18:20 we
are introduced to her.
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She is a daughter of
Saul, the first king of Israel.
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And she has great expectations.
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In verse 28 of 1
Samuel 18, the Bible says...
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There is so much that can
be said, but what I want to
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focus on is this one phrase;
how much Michal loved David.
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Because it's the polar opposite
of the text that we began with
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in 2 Samuel 6 which says
she despised him in her heart.
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How could this have
happened to a relationship
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that began with such promise?
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Their wedding was the
social event of the year,
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and yet it has gone sour
and has turned into this.
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How did this happen?
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Let's see what the
Scriptures tell us.
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1 Samuel 18 introduces us
to their impending nuptials.
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David has just slain Goliath
and has become instantly famous.
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He catches Michal's eye.
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Well what do we know about her?
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She's the king's daughter.
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So she's a princess.
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Which may mean she's
probably a little spoiled.
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Over-indulged perhaps.
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She likes
getting things her way.
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She's the king's
second daughter, which may
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suggest some sibling rivalry.
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She's lived a privilege life, so
she has some high expectations
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about whom she will marry.
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She wants to be on the
arm of someone important,
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someone famous,
someone with status.
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Someone who can give
her the things in life
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that she has
become accustomed to.
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She is more impressed with
the outer than the inner person.
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And you can imagine
that she has fantasized
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about some knight in shining
armor who will come along
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one day and sweep her
off her feet and ride her off
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into the sunset to
live happily ever after.
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And David seems to
fit the bill perfectly.
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He has everything
that she's looking for
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from outward appearances.
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Young and
talented, gifted musically,
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passionate, heroic, handsome.
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The women of Israel singing
songs about him in the streets.
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He's the talk of the town.
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A legend already.
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What women would not want David?
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What woman wouldn't
fall in love with him?
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And the Bible
says she loved him.
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Without knowing about the
real David, she loved him.
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And so the
question tonight is, what...
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Or perhaps I should
say, who did she really love?
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She loved that image
which David filled so perfectly.
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Listen to what
I'm saying tonight.
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Because there are a lot of women
who want to marry an image.
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You know, women spend
much more time than men
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contemplating
whom they will marry.
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And the reality is
that women are socialized
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to get married in
their early years.
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Huh?
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From their childhood years they
are given dolls to play with.
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And they play
dress-up in their house.
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Isn't that right?
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You get Suzy Homemaker and Easy
Bake ovens as toys to play with,
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as little girls learning
how to be wives and mothers.
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Isn't that right?
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You buy Barbie dolls and
get wedding dresses and outfits
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to dress up Barbie.
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And from your early
years, you develop in your minds
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who you want to marry.
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I met a young woman who told me
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when I was working
at Andrews University,
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one of the young students,
young ladies, told me that
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she had been
planning her wedding
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since she was 11 years old.
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She told me she had
been planning what colors
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she was going to
have at her wedding,
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what dresses her
bridesmaids would wear.
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Since 11 years old.
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Little boys don't plan
their weddings at 11 years old.
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Huh?
00:20:58.74\00:20:59.90
Woman attend
weddings just to watch them.
00:21:02.13\00:21:05.52
Like spectators at
baseball and football.
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Men don't do that; go
to weddings to watch them,
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see what people are wearing.
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They're building this image of
their knight in shining armor.
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Some years ago I
pastored a young woman.
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Professional young women.
Fine, professional, attractive.
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And she had in her mind
an image of the qualities
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that a man should
have that she would marry.
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And her image of
what this man should have
00:21:39.99\00:21:43.94
was what she called, 666.
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Lord has mercy.
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When she told me that, I
said, "Wait a minute now."
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I said, "What does that mean?"
00:21:55.49\00:21:57.00
She said, "The first six means
that he has to be 6 feet tall."
00:21:57.38\00:22:01.99
She said, "The second
six means he has to have
00:22:03.81\00:22:06.53
six years of
education beyond high school."
00:22:06.56\00:22:10.00
And then she said, "The
third six mean he has to have
00:22:11.24\00:22:14.90
at least a six figure salary."
00:22:14.93\00:22:19.09
Huh?
00:22:19.19\00:22:20.30
Help me, Holy Ghost.
00:22:20.58\00:22:22.30
Ain't nothing
going on but the rent.
00:22:22.72\00:22:24.21
Isn't that right?
00:22:24.24\00:22:25.43
And if he didn't
have those three 6's,
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you weren't for her.
00:22:32.65\00:22:34.60
She didn't say
anything about whether or not
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he was a spiritual brother.
00:22:38.08\00:22:39.84
Huh?
00:22:40.19\00:22:41.33
That was Michal.
00:22:43.79\00:22:45.35
She had this image
that David happened to fill.
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And she determined
that he was the one for her.
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And nowhere do you find her
consulting God on her decision.
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And so David and
Michal get married.
00:23:01.33\00:23:03.28
And Saul tries to use
his daughter to help him
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kill David.
00:23:07.10\00:23:08.68
And the King James Version says
that he hoped that his daughter
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would be a snare for David.
00:23:13.57\00:23:16.37
And though she knows of
her father's intentions,
00:23:16.40\00:23:19.83
her intentions were to
develop this unrealistic
00:23:19.86\00:23:23.21
relationship with
David that she has imagined.
00:23:23.24\00:23:27.04
She hoped that her love
for him would somehow mold him
00:23:27.07\00:23:32.43
into this man that she imagined.
00:23:32.46\00:23:36.02
And so she betrays her
father and saves David,
00:23:36.12\00:23:39.90
and helps him
escape from the palace.
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And they have one of
these romantic partings,
00:23:42.38\00:23:46.05
"I'll wait for you."
00:23:46.08\00:23:48.10
"And I'll wait for you."
00:23:48.13\00:23:50.64
But David was David.
00:23:53.91\00:23:55.75
He wasn't coming back.
00:23:56.51\00:23:58.02
Not David.
00:23:58.96\00:24:00.28
He didn't want to
be stuck in any castle.
00:24:01.11\00:24:03.36
And I don't want to
be too harsh on David.
00:24:04.85\00:24:06.66
After all, he was
running for his life.
00:24:06.69\00:24:08.43
Saul was trying to kill him.
00:24:08.56\00:24:10.10
But that did not give
him license to be unfaithful
00:24:11.86\00:24:14.34
to his wife, Michal.
00:24:14.37\00:24:15.80
David was not
faithful to any wife.
00:24:17.43\00:24:19.84
David was not
faithful to any woman.
00:24:19.87\00:24:22.20
David's idea of love was
just as twisted as Michal's.
00:24:23.77\00:24:27.72
The reality is that
David did not love any woman
00:24:27.75\00:24:31.06
more than he loved himself.
00:24:31.09\00:24:33.63
We talked about this
a little bit last night.
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One example is in 1 Samuel 25.
00:24:37.88\00:24:40.59
The Bible says one day
David and his men rescued
00:24:40.62\00:24:42.96
the sheep of a rich
business man named, Nabal.
00:24:42.99\00:24:45.87
And the custom was that when
you save someone's property,
00:24:45.90\00:24:50.25
they were suppose to reward
you as a sign of appreciation.
00:24:50.35\00:24:54.31
But Nabal rebuked
David and his men.
00:24:54.34\00:24:57.28
And when David got
the word of what happened,
00:24:57.31\00:24:59.61
he went to settle
the score with Nabal.
00:24:59.64\00:25:02.38
But Nabal's wife,
Abigail, intervened and pleaded
00:25:03.10\00:25:06.93
with David to spare
her foolish husband's life.
00:25:06.96\00:25:12.30
And when David
decided to spare Nabal,
00:25:12.33\00:25:16.11
Abigail told her husband what
she had done in sparing him.
00:25:16.14\00:25:20.27
And the Bible
says he had a stroke.
00:25:20.47\00:25:23.37
And ten days later, Nabal died.
00:25:23.69\00:25:26.91
And so what do
you think David did?
00:25:27.48\00:25:29.53
To commemorate this
act of God's intervention,
00:25:30.49\00:25:33.77
David marries Abigail.
00:25:33.87\00:25:36.74
And why did he do it?
00:25:37.57\00:25:39.31
Not because he loved her.
00:25:39.41\00:25:40.72
The Bible says
in 1 Samuel 25:39,
00:25:40.75\00:25:43.28
"When David
heard Nabal was dead,
00:25:43.31\00:25:45.29
he said, 'Praise the
Lord who has paid me back
00:25:45.32\00:25:49.73
and paid back Nabal, and
kept me from doing it myself.
00:25:49.76\00:25:54.12
Nabal has received the
punishment for his sins.'
00:25:54.15\00:25:56.81
Then David wasted no time in
sending messengers to Abigail
00:25:56.84\00:26:01.52
to ask her to become his wife."
00:26:01.55\00:26:04.45
A trophy to commemorate
God's goodness to him.
00:26:04.78\00:26:09.06
And then the
Bible says in verse 43,
00:26:11.29\00:26:13.41
"David also took
Ahinoam of Jezreel;
00:26:13.44\00:26:16.69
and they were also
both of them his wives."
00:26:16.72\00:26:21.09
David was a big time player.
00:26:22.09\00:26:24.87
Motivated by his insecurities.
00:26:25.92\00:26:28.58
And we've still got some players
around here in the church.
00:26:29.34\00:26:32.26
They come to check out to
see who they can conquer next.
00:26:33.33\00:26:36.62
Another notch on their bedpost.
00:26:36.65\00:26:38.80
And I don't want to be
too harsh on the brothers.
00:26:39.53\00:26:41.24
I understand in this
age of enlightenment,
00:26:41.27\00:26:43.41
in this post-modern era,
we've got some female David's...
00:26:43.44\00:26:46.81
Huh?
00:26:47.16\00:26:48.29
...who just want a man for sex.
00:26:49.04\00:26:51.20
Oh y'all getting
kind of quiet tonight.
00:26:52.43\00:26:54.25
They're just being
Mary Jane, as they say.
00:26:55.56\00:26:59.30
You know, they've got a show out
today called, Being Mary Jane.
00:26:59.81\00:27:04.19
About a modern woman
who's living and having
00:27:04.65\00:27:08.89
an affair with a married man.
00:27:08.92\00:27:10.67
That's the new modern woman.
00:27:10.70\00:27:12.42
A professional woman
who just has men for sex.
00:27:12.45\00:27:17.27
It's not for love or
it's not for relation.
00:27:17.30\00:27:20.04
Just sex now.
00:27:20.07\00:27:22.01
You see, this is why God tells
us to wait until we're married.
00:27:23.49\00:27:27.91
This is why Solomon asked
the question in Proverbs 6:27,
00:27:28.33\00:27:32.59
"Can a man take
fire in his bosom,
00:27:32.62\00:27:35.09
and his clothes not be burned?"
00:27:35.12\00:27:37.95
This is why Paul says
in 1 Corinthians 6:18...
00:27:39.17\00:27:42.86
So David has two more wives.
00:27:51.07\00:27:53.66
And in verse 44 the Bible
says, "But Saul had given Michal
00:27:54.39\00:27:58.60
his daughter, David's wife,
to Phalti the son of Laish,
00:27:58.63\00:28:03.20
which was of Gallim."
00:28:03.23\00:28:04.90
So David moves on.
00:28:05.85\00:28:07.73
And Michal moves on too.
00:28:08.00\00:28:09.87
What's good for the
goose is good for the gander.
00:28:10.81\00:28:13.32
She marries somebody else, and
both of their lives are ruined.
00:28:14.82\00:28:18.23
Because they both had images
of what marriage should be,
00:28:18.98\00:28:23.37
and would not
give these images up.
00:28:23.40\00:28:27.01
And there is some
indication that Michal was happy
00:28:29.59\00:28:32.94
with her new husband.
00:28:32.97\00:28:34.40
But one day
David would come back.
00:28:35.48\00:28:39.78
And in 2 Samuel 3,
the chapter begins by
00:28:41.02\00:28:44.73
naming David's six wives.
00:28:44.76\00:28:47.83
He's added four more by now.
00:28:47.86\00:28:50.66
Saul was now dead.
00:28:52.59\00:28:54.46
But his relatives were still
resisting David's leadership,
00:28:55.09\00:28:58.29
still claiming the
right to the throne of Israel.
00:28:58.32\00:29:01.47
But one of the relatives,
a member of Saul's household
00:29:01.58\00:29:05.34
named Abner,
decides to support David
00:29:05.37\00:29:08.63
and said to him, "I
will put you on the throne.
00:29:08.66\00:29:12.44
I will support your leadership."
00:29:12.47\00:29:14.78
But David was not convinced.
00:29:15.43\00:29:17.17
And so to test Abner's
loyalty, David said to him,
00:29:17.27\00:29:21.17
"If your support is genuine,
then I want you to return
00:29:21.20\00:29:25.02
my first wife Michal to me
as a symbol of your allegiance
00:29:25.05\00:29:31.30
of the house of
Saul to my kingship."
00:29:31.33\00:29:34.76
You get the picture?
00:29:35.23\00:29:36.31
A deal to prove his
loyalty to David as king.
00:29:36.91\00:29:43.08
And look at how he
puts it in verse 14.
00:29:43.41\00:29:47.25
That's how he remembers her;
00:30:03.35\00:30:05.69
by the dowry that Saul
made him pay to marry her.
00:30:05.72\00:30:10.26
"She's the wife I won by
killing a hundred Philistines."
00:30:10.29\00:30:14.88
Then verse 15 says, "And
Ishbosheth sent and took her
00:30:17.07\00:30:20.43
from her husband, even
from Phaltiel the son of Laish.
00:30:20.46\00:30:24.53
And her husband went
with her along weeping
00:30:25.44\00:30:28.21
behind her to Bahurim.
00:30:28.24\00:30:30.77
Then said Abner
unto him, 'Go, return.'
00:30:31.43\00:30:34.17
And he returned."
00:30:34.20\00:30:35.67
So you get the
picture of this sad story.
00:30:36.67\00:30:39.26
Phalti obviously loved her.
00:30:39.99\00:30:43.25
He followed behind her crying.
00:30:43.28\00:30:46.02
But when Abner told him
to go home, he went home.
00:30:47.39\00:30:50.32
He wasn't one of the roughnecks.
00:30:50.72\00:30:52.76
He knew he'd be
killed if he fought for her.
00:30:55.46\00:30:57.98
He didn't fight for
her like David would have.
00:31:00.12\00:31:02.02
And you know, Michal probably
wasn't too impressed with that.
00:31:02.05\00:31:06.39
"Why didn't he fight for me?
00:31:06.97\00:31:08.46
Talking about he
loved me so much."
00:31:08.49\00:31:10.46
As nice as he was and
as faithful as he was,
00:31:11.67\00:31:15.49
he still wasn't the
kind of man she imagined.
00:31:15.52\00:31:21.09
And you know, some of
you ladies are like that.
00:31:23.80\00:31:26.44
You don't want a nice brother.
00:31:28.74\00:31:32.03
Oh, I know what
I'm talking about.
00:31:33.62\00:31:35.20
He's okay, but he's too nice.
00:31:36.46\00:31:41.61
Huh?
00:31:43.08\00:31:44.12
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I
know what I'm talking about.
00:31:44.15\00:31:46.64
You see, you point out a
real nice Christian brother to
00:31:47.75\00:31:51.02
some of these ladies,
they say, "Yeah he's nice,
00:31:51.05\00:31:53.16
but he's a little
too nice for me, Pastor.
00:31:53.19\00:31:55.27
I like a man with a
little thug in him."
00:31:55.30\00:31:58.04
Yeah, I know what
I'm talking about.
00:31:59.80\00:32:01.40
And that's the
problem with some of y'all.
00:32:01.43\00:32:03.16
Y'all want too many men
with a little thug in them.
00:32:03.19\00:32:05.86
And then when
that thug comes out,
00:32:06.18\00:32:07.82
it becomes a problem for you.
00:32:07.85\00:32:09.75
Huh?
00:32:09.90\00:32:10.96
So Michal came back
to this arrangement.
00:32:15.43\00:32:18.49
A trophy wife.
00:32:19.32\00:32:21.46
And some men look for
and marry these trophy wives.
00:32:22.44\00:32:26.82
Somebody who will
look good on their arm.
00:32:27.45\00:32:29.99
But I've got news
for you, my brothers.
00:32:30.02\00:32:32.71
She's not going
to look good forever.
00:32:32.74\00:32:34.71
Trophies get
tarnished over time.
00:32:34.74\00:32:37.71
So you see, when Michal attacked
David's worship as a spectacle,
00:32:39.96\00:32:45.04
she was angry because he
did not live up to this image
00:32:45.07\00:32:51.04
of the knight in shining armor.
00:32:51.07\00:32:52.67
She was angry because he was not
the man she imagined him to be.
00:32:52.70\00:32:58.06
She was angry because
after all of these years,
00:32:58.09\00:33:01.52
he still had not changed
into the image that she believed
00:33:01.55\00:33:06.12
he was suppose to be.
00:33:06.15\00:33:07.71
You see, she has
some junk in her trunk.
00:33:07.74\00:33:11.45
And the junk did not allow her
room to develop an appreciation
00:33:12.41\00:33:17.72
for the godly qualities
that a real Christian man
00:33:17.75\00:33:22.10
is suppose to have.
00:33:22.13\00:33:24.12
She only had enough
room left in her trunk
00:33:27.04\00:33:30.18
to make a selection
based on his outside.
00:33:31.18\00:33:34.94
She never looked under the hood.
00:33:34.97\00:33:38.30
And because she never
did, she suffered great pain
00:33:38.33\00:33:42.50
and disappointment in
her marriage to David.
00:33:42.53\00:33:46.23
And so the question tonight
is, how do I get the junk
00:33:49.45\00:33:54.02
out of my trunk?
00:33:55.45\00:33:57.07
I want to talk about that.
00:33:57.84\00:33:59.28
I want to deal
with seven suggestions
00:34:00.15\00:34:02.94
how to get the junk
out of your trunk tonight,
00:34:03.34\00:34:05.53
if you're suffering from this.
00:34:05.56\00:34:06.68
Seven suggestions.
00:34:06.71\00:34:07.86
Number one...
00:34:07.89\00:34:08.92
Write these down if you've got a
pen or pencil, write these down.
00:34:09.02\00:34:11.55
Number one, first we
must know God for ourselves.
00:34:11.58\00:34:17.24
What did I say?
00:34:17.27\00:34:18.30
We must know God for ourselves.
00:34:18.33\00:34:21.56
The Bible says
that Michal loved David,
00:34:21.87\00:34:26.37
but we never read
that she loved God.
00:34:26.40\00:34:30.11
Before you can truly
love anyone to marry,
00:34:31.89\00:34:35.44
you must first love God.
00:34:35.83\00:34:39.41
We don't even know
what love is without God.
00:34:40.29\00:34:43.56
1 John 4:8 says, "He that
loveth not knoweth not God;
00:34:44.38\00:34:48.21
for God is love."
00:34:48.24\00:34:50.54
God is love.
00:34:50.57\00:34:51.67
And all true love
emanates from God.
00:34:51.70\00:34:55.23
And when we love God,
His love completes us.
00:34:56.18\00:35:00.24
A relationship with
God heals us and builds us,
00:35:00.44\00:35:04.68
and makes us
ready for someone else.
00:35:04.71\00:35:07.36
The reason why so
many people are incomplete
00:35:07.39\00:35:10.79
and dysfunctional is
because they don't know God.
00:35:10.82\00:35:14.73
And they have never experienced
His love for themselves
00:35:16.23\00:35:19.79
and have never known
that love in their lives.
00:35:19.82\00:35:22.16
And if they knew
how much God loved...
00:35:22.19\00:35:24.92
Listen to what
I'm saying tonight.
00:35:24.95\00:35:26.54
If they knew how
much God loved them
00:35:26.57\00:35:29.87
and how valuable
they were to God,
00:35:29.90\00:35:32.51
they would not settle
for the men they settle for.
00:35:32.54\00:35:37.01
You know how many women
are sharing men tonight?
00:35:37.04\00:35:40.47
Settling for that.
00:35:41.80\00:35:43.79
Because they don't know
how valuable they are to God.
00:35:44.15\00:35:47.70
When you don't
know God for yourself,
00:35:49.72\00:35:52.53
and have not found completeness
and wholeness in Jesus Christ,
00:35:53.43\00:35:57.98
you will make the mistake of
trying to find your completeness
00:35:58.01\00:36:01.32
in a relationship
with another person.
00:36:01.35\00:36:04.05
And you will end up going
from one bad choice to another,
00:36:04.08\00:36:07.97
one bad relationship to another,
00:36:08.00\00:36:10.09
trying to escape the pain
and hurt and disappointment
00:36:10.12\00:36:14.00
from the past in a relationship
with another broken person
00:36:14.03\00:36:18.63
who is incomplete
and broken just like you.
00:36:19.24\00:36:22.67
Are you hearing me tonight?
00:36:22.70\00:36:24.42
Colossians 2:10 says...
00:36:26.22\00:36:27.94
Find your completeness
first in Jesus Christ.
00:36:36.12\00:36:42.34
And when Christ makes you
complete and whole and healed,
00:36:42.93\00:36:47.66
then you are ready
to make wise decisions
00:36:47.76\00:36:51.43
and enter into a
good relationship.
00:36:51.46\00:36:54.17
You've got to start
with God and experience
00:36:54.20\00:36:57.42
His love for yourself.
00:36:57.45\00:36:59.91
That's number one.
00:36:59.94\00:37:00.97
Then second, you
need to know yourself.
00:37:01.00\00:37:05.79
You need to know you.
00:37:06.91\00:37:08.73
You need to know
what makes you tick.
00:37:09.76\00:37:12.40
You need to take a
personal inventory of your life
00:37:13.35\00:37:17.34
and identify the things that
keep coming up over and over
00:37:17.37\00:37:22.77
and over again in your life.
00:37:22.80\00:37:25.53
If you keep attracting
the same kind of person...
00:37:25.56\00:37:30.64
Listen to what
I'm saying tonight.
00:37:31.20\00:37:33.22
If you keep
attracting players...
00:37:33.25\00:37:36.56
Huh?
00:37:37.61\00:37:38.64
...after the
second and third time...
00:37:39.74\00:37:42.85
Y'all not
listening to me tonight.
00:37:44.44\00:37:45.81
Huh?
00:37:45.84\00:37:46.96
...you need to
stop blaming the players
00:37:47.07\00:37:49.80
and start examining why
you keep ending up with the
00:37:50.43\00:37:54.45
same kind of people.
00:37:54.48\00:37:57.73
There's a saying that goes,
"Jerk me once, shame on you.
00:37:58.63\00:38:02.37
Jerk me twice, shame on me."
00:38:02.40\00:38:04.64
Huh?
00:38:04.67\00:38:05.75
Somebody else is
not your problem,
00:38:06.97\00:38:09.03
you are your own problem.
00:38:09.06\00:38:10.95
1 Thessalonians chapter
4 verses 4 and 5 says...
00:38:11.74\00:38:15.31
You see, knowing God helps
you to know yourself better.
00:38:27.84\00:38:31.09
You see, God will expose
the rough edges and reveal the
00:38:31.80\00:38:34.90
defects in your own
life which you hide so well
00:38:34.93\00:38:38.25
from other people.
00:38:38.28\00:38:39.57
Understand the patterns that
lead you to the bad decisions
00:38:39.80\00:38:44.43
you make in your own
life and start avoiding them.
00:38:44.46\00:38:48.26
Amen?
00:38:48.29\00:38:49.58
Then number three, learn
the power of forgiveness.
00:38:49.94\00:38:54.99
1 John 1:9 says...
00:38:55.61\00:38:57.20
Isn't that good news tonight?
00:39:04.32\00:39:06.03
The first person you
need to forgive is yourself.
00:39:06.87\00:39:10.48
Some people feel
like they deserve to be in
00:39:11.32\00:39:14.20
bad relationships
because of the bad decisions
00:39:14.23\00:39:17.64
or things that they
have done in their past.
00:39:17.67\00:39:20.76
But I've got good
news for you tonight.
00:39:21.11\00:39:22.98
God says when you confess your
sins, He's faithful and just
00:39:23.01\00:39:28.01
to forgive you of
your sins and cleanse you
00:39:28.04\00:39:30.85
from all unrighteousness.
00:39:30.88\00:39:32.66
He says, "I'll cast your
sins in the depths of the sea."
00:39:32.69\00:39:36.99
Stop allowing the mistakes of
your past to define your present
00:39:37.92\00:39:43.25
and destroy your future.
00:39:43.28\00:39:45.84
Forgiveness cleans
the slate and gives you a
00:39:46.13\00:39:49.70
new page to write on.
00:39:49.73\00:39:51.48
That's why Jesus told
the thief on the cross,
00:39:51.51\00:39:53.96
"Today you will be
with Me in paradise.
00:39:53.99\00:39:57.84
You may have been
a thief yesterday,
00:39:57.87\00:40:00.18
but today..."
00:40:00.21\00:40:01.73
"You may have been a
whoremonger yesterday,
00:40:01.76\00:40:04.33
but today..."
00:40:04.36\00:40:06.37
Then second, forgive those
who have hurt you in your past.
00:40:08.73\00:40:12.30
The Lord's prayer
says, "Forgive us our debts
00:40:12.51\00:40:14.88
as we forgive our debtors."
00:40:14.91\00:40:18.15
Some of us cannot
move on with our lives
00:40:19.34\00:40:22.59
and build healthy
relationships in the present
00:40:22.62\00:40:25.25
because we have never
resolved some past break-up,
00:40:25.28\00:40:30.51
some past
divorce, some past abuse.
00:40:30.91\00:40:35.65
some difficult
experience in your past.
00:40:35.68\00:40:39.65
And because we have not
forgiven the person who hurt us,
00:40:39.85\00:40:43.75
we live our lives
stuck in the past.
00:40:43.78\00:40:48.18
Huh?
00:40:48.52\00:40:49.68
When there are
unresolved issues in your past,
00:40:51.78\00:40:54.52
every person you become involved
with gives you an opportunity
00:40:54.55\00:40:58.65
to rehearse it and
relive it over and over again.
00:40:58.68\00:41:03.00
And in every new relationship,
the bad experiences
00:41:03.03\00:41:06.22
that happened in your past,
00:41:06.25\00:41:08.34
that person does
something in the present
00:41:09.79\00:41:12.67
that reminds you of someone
else, and you go off on them.
00:41:12.70\00:41:16.56
And they
wonder, "What did I do?"
00:41:18.56\00:41:20.60
Huh?
00:41:21.50\00:41:22.64
You explode on them and they...
00:41:22.95\00:41:24.75
And they don't
realize it's not them.
00:41:26.35\00:41:28.99
You're attacking
through them somebody else.
00:41:29.02\00:41:32.67
Not because of what they
did, but because you're ex
00:41:35.31\00:41:38.77
five, ten, or twenty years
ago that you still have not
00:41:38.80\00:41:43.36
put through your
rearview mirror...
00:41:43.39\00:41:45.86
Huh?
00:41:46.16\00:41:47.35
Oh yes, they hurt you.
00:41:48.26\00:41:50.00
Oh yes, they wronged you.
00:41:50.03\00:41:51.88
But because you
have never forgiven them
00:41:52.46\00:41:55.56
and moved on with your life,
you're the one who's stuck.
00:41:55.59\00:42:00.30
And when you forgive
someone, don't hold it over them
00:42:02.66\00:42:06.57
like a bludgeon.
00:42:06.60\00:42:07.74
Some people say they
forgive you, but whenever it's
00:42:07.77\00:42:11.32
convenient for them to
use it as a manipulative tool,
00:42:11.35\00:42:16.06
they'll bring it
up to shame you...
00:42:16.34\00:42:19.01
Oh, come one
talk to me somebody.
00:42:19.37\00:42:21.15
...so they can get their way.
00:42:21.77\00:42:25.55
Beloved, Christianity
and charity begins at home.
00:42:26.09\00:42:30.07
Come on say amen.
00:42:30.10\00:42:31.44
There are some people who are
great Christians everywhere else
00:42:31.60\00:42:35.58
except at home.
00:42:35.61\00:42:37.70
Learn the power of forgiveness.
00:42:38.64\00:42:40.77
Then number
four, learn to move on.
00:42:41.64\00:42:44.82
Learn to move forward.
00:42:44.85\00:42:46.64
Paul said in Philippians 4:13...
00:42:46.67\00:42:48.70
Move forward.
00:43:00.95\00:43:02.74
The reason why the
front windshield is large
00:43:03.35\00:43:06.90
and the rearview mirror is
small is because in order to
00:43:06.93\00:43:10.81
reach your destination you've
got to focus in front of you
00:43:10.84\00:43:14.72
and not behind you.
00:43:14.75\00:43:17.01
You've got to learn
to move forward, move on.
00:43:18.22\00:43:22.97
Stop lamenting about the past.
00:43:23.95\00:43:26.91
Stop thinking about what was.
00:43:27.16\00:43:29.94
The best days for you are
ahead of you, not behind you.
00:43:30.48\00:43:34.92
If he left you, that's
his problem, not yours.
00:43:37.52\00:43:41.40
He missed out. Come
on say amen somebody.
00:43:42.39\00:43:45.37
Then number five,
clean out the trash
00:43:46.62\00:43:49.95
that has
accumulated in your life.
00:43:50.31\00:43:52.07
Now I know this
is a real problem.
00:43:52.10\00:43:53.23
Some people, they just can't
get things out of their minds.
00:43:53.26\00:43:56.98
It just haunts them.
00:43:57.01\00:43:58.52
It troubles them.
00:43:58.55\00:43:59.91
It just keeps coming back up.
00:44:00.88\00:44:02.92
Here's a wonderful promise.
00:44:03.93\00:44:05.33
Hebrews 9:14, the Bible says...
00:44:05.36\00:44:07.71
Purge; it means cleanse.
00:44:19.61\00:44:21.08
Sometimes these
things trouble you.
00:44:26.68\00:44:29.08
They keep coming up.
00:44:29.11\00:44:30.40
But the Bible says
that God's blood can purge,
00:44:30.43\00:44:34.19
it can wash these
things out of your mind.
00:44:34.22\00:44:38.23
Sometimes you need
God's blood, His detergent,
00:44:39.81\00:44:43.39
to wash it away...
00:44:43.42\00:44:45.33
...so that you can move forward.
00:44:47.25\00:44:48.62
Come on say amen somebody.
00:44:48.65\00:44:50.19
So we need some time to
plead with God to purge this.
00:44:52.00\00:44:55.22
"Get this out of my mind.
00:44:55.25\00:44:56.36
It's haunting me, Lord.
00:44:56.39\00:44:57.59
It's troubling me, Lord.
00:44:57.62\00:44:59.05
I need You, Lord, to
purge it from my conscience."
00:44:59.08\00:45:03.89
And God will work a
miracle of grace in your life.
00:45:05.14\00:45:07.20
Come on say amen somebody.
00:45:07.23\00:45:08.70
Then number six, don't allow
other people to define you.
00:45:09.80\00:45:14.83
Did you know the
Jews tried to define Jesus
00:45:16.36\00:45:18.99
by His supposed illegitimacy?
00:45:19.02\00:45:21.39
You know, everybody
didn't believe that Christ was
00:45:23.07\00:45:25.06
born of the virgin Mary?
00:45:25.09\00:45:26.70
They didn't
believe Mary was a virgin.
00:45:27.22\00:45:29.19
Some of us
wouldn't have believe that.
00:45:30.27\00:45:32.00
If some teenage girl told
you that she was made pregnant
00:45:32.85\00:45:37.52
by the Holy Ghost, and she came
to church this coming Sabbath
00:45:37.55\00:45:42.17
from the Hood...
00:45:42.59\00:45:44.05
...you know you
wouldn't believe it.
00:45:45.74\00:45:47.60
So don't act
like you would have.
00:45:48.16\00:45:50.10
Huh?
00:45:50.80\00:45:52.00
So they didn't believe that.
00:45:53.23\00:45:54.59
And one day they
came to Him, in John 8:39,
00:45:54.62\00:45:57.50
the Jews said, "Our
father, Abraham is our father."
00:45:57.53\00:46:01.23
And then in verse 41
in John 8, they said,
00:46:02.29\00:46:04.73
"We were not
born of fornication;
00:46:04.83\00:46:07.24
we have one Father, God."
00:46:08.75\00:46:11.04
They said that to Jesus.
00:46:11.07\00:46:12.58
They were implying,
they were saying to Him,
00:46:13.82\00:46:17.49
"We know who our father is.
00:46:17.52\00:46:19.22
Who's Your father?"
00:46:19.28\00:46:20.88
Trying to define Him.
00:46:22.05\00:46:24.55
Trying to belittle Him
saying, "Abraham is our father.
00:46:24.65\00:46:28.45
Who's Your father?"
00:46:28.55\00:46:29.73
But Jesus said to
them in John 8:14,
00:46:29.76\00:46:31.89
"Even if I bear witness of
Myself, My witness is true.
00:46:31.92\00:46:35.26
For I know where I came
from, and where I'm going.
00:46:35.29\00:46:38.69
I'm not alone, but I am
with the Father who sent Me.
00:46:39.64\00:46:43.26
For it is written in
your law that the testimony
00:46:43.29\00:46:45.45
of two men is true."
00:46:45.48\00:46:46.51
Verse 18, "I am One who
bears witness of Myself,
00:46:46.54\00:46:50.35
and the Father who sent
Me bears witness with Me."
00:46:50.38\00:46:53.26
He said to
them, "I'm one witness
00:46:53.29\00:46:55.53
and My Father is the other.
00:46:55.79\00:46:57.51
I don't need you to validate Me.
00:46:57.54\00:46:59.88
My Father validates
Me, and that's enough."
00:46:59.98\00:47:03.70
Huh?
00:47:04.09\00:47:05.13
If God be for you,
who can be against you?
00:47:05.30\00:47:09.34
Don't let people define you.
00:47:09.37\00:47:11.43
Don't let people
tell you who you are.
00:47:11.46\00:47:13.81
If God is with
you, God is a majority.
00:47:13.84\00:47:17.27
Come on say amen somebody.
00:47:17.30\00:47:19.11
If God defines you,
that's all you need.
00:47:22.30\00:47:25.21
So don't let people
determine who you are.
00:47:26.11\00:47:29.24
God is the one who
determines who we are.
00:47:29.27\00:47:31.62
And God says we're His children.
00:47:31.65\00:47:33.84
And then number
seven, don't let other people
00:47:34.57\00:47:38.11
put their junk in your trunk.
00:47:38.14\00:47:41.32
Come on talk to me somebody.
00:47:41.35\00:47:42.81
There are some people who always
want to dump their mess on you.
00:47:45.08\00:47:49.68
Huh?
00:47:49.88\00:47:50.93
And draw you into
their mess and make you a
00:47:50.96\00:47:54.59
party in their issues.
00:47:54.62\00:47:56.16
They want you to carry all their
mess while they do nothing.
00:47:56.19\00:48:00.44
Pay their bills,
handle their debt.
00:48:00.47\00:48:04.34
Huh?
00:48:04.37\00:48:05.40
You know what the Bible says?
00:48:05.43\00:48:06.74
These are good text.
Write these text down.
00:48:07.17\00:48:09.45
Proverbs 17:18,
the Bible says...
00:48:09.48\00:48:11.91
Huh?
00:48:20.21\00:48:21.24
Then Proverbs 22:26...
00:48:21.86\00:48:23.59
And then the Bible tells
us why in verse 27, it says...
00:48:30.23\00:48:32.94
Huh?
00:48:41.35\00:48:42.45
Somebody putting their
debt junk in your trunk.
00:48:43.34\00:48:47.82
And they'll come and
take your house away.
00:48:48.72\00:48:50.54
Come on talk to me somebody.
00:48:50.57\00:48:51.94
Don't let some slick dude
come to you with some sob story
00:48:53.09\00:48:57.53
and unload on you
more than you can bear.
00:48:57.56\00:49:00.74
Every tub has got to
stand on its own bottom.
00:49:01.38\00:49:04.50
Come on say amen somebody.
00:49:04.53\00:49:05.82
You're not the Lord.
00:49:06.33\00:49:07.61
God did not ask
you to save the world.
00:49:07.82\00:49:09.66
He sent Jesus to save the world.
00:49:09.69\00:49:12.19
Proverbs 22:3 says...
00:49:13.69\00:49:16.43
Help me, Holy Ghost.
00:49:23.95\00:49:25.32
So the next time
somebody is in trouble...
00:49:26.60\00:49:28.94
Now I'm not saying
you ought not help folk.
00:49:28.97\00:49:31.03
Do all you can to help,
and do as much as you can.
00:49:32.50\00:49:36.94
And when you have
done the best that you can,
00:49:37.37\00:49:39.81
take them to the
Lord and leave them there.
00:49:40.22\00:49:44.00
Come on say amen somebody.
00:49:44.03\00:49:45.56
So, beloved, we've got
to learn how to clean house,
00:49:48.99\00:49:54.34
and clean the junk
that's in our trunks.
00:49:55.01\00:49:59.23
I was watching a show.
00:50:00.50\00:50:02.08
I don't know if it's
still on, but it use to be a
00:50:03.18\00:50:04.96
cable show on
called, Clean House.
00:50:04.99\00:50:07.90
You ever seen that show?
00:50:07.93\00:50:09.11
Niecy Nash use to be
the host of the show,
00:50:09.70\00:50:12.02
and she goes around and
she tries to clean these homes.
00:50:12.23\00:50:16.08
She's relentless in her pursuit
to change people's homes around.
00:50:16.11\00:50:21.32
And invariably she gets to
some homes where some people
00:50:21.35\00:50:25.44
just don't want to let
some of their things go.
00:50:25.47\00:50:28.42
And there was one
episode that I was watching
00:50:29.33\00:50:31.10
that there was one
place where she was trying to
00:50:31.13\00:50:32.96
get this house in order,
and there were just some things
00:50:32.99\00:50:35.80
that this woman
who owned the house,
00:50:35.83\00:50:38.29
there were just some things that
she just didn't want to let go.
00:50:38.32\00:50:40.99
And she had to sit
down with the woman.
00:50:41.02\00:50:42.60
She wanted to get
things in order and she has to,
00:50:42.63\00:50:45.69
"Why is it you
won't let this go?"
00:50:45.79\00:50:47.47
And they finally
got to the reason.
00:50:47.50\00:50:49.65
The reason why she
just wouldn't get rid of
00:50:49.68\00:50:52.17
all of this junk in her
house, because many of the
00:50:52.20\00:50:55.21
things that she was holding
onto brought back memories
00:50:55.24\00:50:59.01
of her first marriage
that ended in divorce.
00:50:59.04\00:51:03.87
The relationship
had been over years ago.
00:51:07.70\00:51:10.92
Her ex-husband had moved on.
00:51:10.95\00:51:13.11
But this woman
would not let it go.
00:51:13.14\00:51:16.90
She couldn't
move on with her life.
00:51:18.45\00:51:20.69
And all of the junk in
her house was symptomatic
00:51:20.72\00:51:24.79
of a deeper psychological
problem that she had.
00:51:24.82\00:51:28.34
She could not come to terms
with this failed relationship.
00:51:28.37\00:51:33.50
She could not move on.
00:51:33.53\00:51:35.46
She was stuck in her past.
00:51:35.49\00:51:38.17
And there are
people like that today.
00:51:41.90\00:51:43.77
Stuck. Can't move on.
00:51:44.94\00:51:49.01
But tonight, Jesus
wants to set you free.
00:51:50.87\00:51:56.15
Clean out the junk.
00:51:57.24\00:51:59.04
Get rid of the clutter.
00:52:00.01\00:52:01.75
But you've got to
be willing to surrender
00:52:04.17\00:52:07.26
and let Him have
His way in your life.
00:52:08.66\00:52:10.79
Turn over a new leaf.
00:52:11.85\00:52:13.44
And He can clean the slate.
00:52:14.02\00:52:15.99
And He can change whatever
the situation is in your life
00:52:16.62\00:52:20.70
if you are willing
to give Him a chance.
00:52:21.17\00:52:24.74
But you've got to be
willing to surrender.
00:52:25.37\00:52:27.63
Who's willing
to do that tonight?
00:52:27.66\00:52:29.53
If you are, God can
make a change for you.
00:52:29.56\00:52:34.83
Jesus, You're
the center of my joy,
00:53:05.83\00:53:15.14
and all that's good
and perfect comes from You.
00:53:15.17\00:53:24.64
You're the heart
of my contentment
00:53:26.02\00:53:31.73
and hope for all I do.
00:53:31.76\00:53:36.08
Yes, Jesus, You're
the center of my joy.
00:53:36.11\00:53:46.02
When I've lost my direction,
00:53:47.52\00:53:50.91
Lord, You're the
compass for my way.
00:53:51.76\00:53:56.40
You're the fire at night
00:53:56.61\00:53:59.52
when my nights
are long and cold.
00:54:00.04\00:54:06.03
In sadness, You are the laughter
00:54:06.34\00:54:13.12
that shatters all of my fears.
00:54:13.33\00:54:17.47
When I'm all alone,
Your hand is there to hold.
00:54:17.50\00:54:26.10
Oh Jesus, You're
the center of my joy,
00:54:26.13\00:54:36.05
and all that's good and
that's perfect comes from You.
00:54:38.80\00:54:47.84
You're the heart
of my contentment
00:54:49.23\00:54:55.33
and hope for all I do.
00:54:55.36\00:54:59.45
Yes, Jesus, You're
the center of my joy.
00:54:59.50\00:55:09.48
You are why I find pleasures
00:55:10.80\00:55:14.76
in the simple things in life.
00:55:15.25\00:55:19.88
You're the music in the
meadows and the streams;
00:55:19.91\00:55:29.29
the voices of the children,
00:55:29.32\00:55:35.77
my family, and my home.
00:55:36.64\00:55:40.70
You're the source and the
finish of my highest dreams.
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Oh Jesus, You're
the center of my joy,
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my joy,
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and all that's good and
that's perfect comes from You.
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I believe and I testify, Lord,
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You're the heart
of my contentment
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and hope for all I do.
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Yes Jesus,
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You are the center of my joy.
00:56:25.95\00:56:33.40
Yes Jesus,
00:56:33.44\00:56:36.50
You are the center of my joy.
00:56:36.53\00:56:43.77
Yes Jesus,
00:56:43.80\00:56:46.54
You are the center of my joy.
00:56:46.79\00:56:54.40
Lord, You're
everything, yes You are.
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Everything, yes You are.
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Everything, everything.
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You're my joy in my sorrow.
00:57:04.96\00:57:10.33
You're my hope for tomorrow.
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And when I'm lonely
and I'm feeling sad,
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You are the lifter of my head.
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You're my music, You're my song;
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You're my hope all the day long.
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Oh Jesus,
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You're the center of my joy.
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My joy.
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