Hi, I'm Pastor Floyd Bresee
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and I've been
thinking, it seems to me
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there would be a
lot more Christians,
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if Christians were a
lot more Christ like.
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Let's pray about it.
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Loving Father, please teach us
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something today
that will help us become
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more Christ like Christians,
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in Jesus name, Amen.
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Our emphasis, our focus today
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will be on prayer,
what really is prayer,
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and what is praying all about.
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Let's leave our Bibles
open to Psalm 103 and I
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will be using the new
international version.
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I must confess
that I don't totally
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understand prayer,
it's been a somewhat
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puzzling subject to
me and I'm not alone.
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On a website poll of
678 responded and only
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23 replied that
they were satisfied with
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the time that
they spend in prayer.
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In a gallop poll 3
out of 4 say that they
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pray everyday and
yet they see prayer
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quite often as more a
burden than a blessing
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and a pleasure, they feel it's
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important but they
feel guilty because
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they neglect
prayer. Why do we neglect
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prayer? Let me
suggest three reasons,
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first of all I think
one reason is because
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of advances in
science and technology.
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In drought, the
farmer used to lift his face
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toward heaven and pray for rain,
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now he programs
this computer so that the
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irrigation system
will automatically come on.
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I think another
reason that we neglect
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prayer is because of prosperity,
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it's pretty hard
to pray in sincerity,
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give us this day
our daily bread when we
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already have a month
supply in the pantry.
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The third reason
why I think we neglect
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prayer is because
we've become disillusioned
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with prayer and
the fact that so many
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of our prayers
seem to go unanswered.
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My wife's first
husband was diagnosed with a
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brain tumor and
my first wife was
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diagnosed with breast cancer.
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And when the
doctor came out of surgery
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and told me that the cancer had
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metastasized. I
confess, I went into
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the back area in the hospital
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where they were
doing some remodeling
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and there was nobody there and I
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slipped in behind
the, the plastic sheet
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covering the
door and I paced back
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and forth and I
cried. Why? It wasn't fair,
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she was such a good person.
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Both of our
friends, my present wife
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and my friends, they prayed.
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People around the
world prayed and yet both
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of our spouses
died, it's easy to become
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skeptical when
prayers don't seem
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to be answered.
Well, why do we pray?
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One of the
strongest arguments for prayer
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is simply the
fact that Jesus prayed,
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it must be worthwhile
even if we don't totally
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understand all about prayer.
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If Jesus prayed
then as Christians
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we want to pray
too, in fact we're not
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Christ like until we
learn to enjoy prayer
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as Jesus did. Maybe we just
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don't understand
what prayer really is,
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I want to suggest
a definition today
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and there are lots
of them but try this.
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Prayer is
friendship, ownership and
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partnership.
Friendship, ownership and
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partnership.
There is a well known
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definition of
prayer. Prayer is the opening
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of the heart to
God as to a friend.
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Prayer is friendship, but it's,
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friendship with a
friend who is vastly
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different from
us. We have a God who
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wants to be our
friend and yet we have a God
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who is a God of,
of such majesty and
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prayer must balance
intimacy and majesty.
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At sometimes throughout history,
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emphasis been on
the majesty of God,
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emphasis in our
society today is on intimacy,
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but in proper
prayer we must balance
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majesty and intimacy.
Psalm 103 and verse 1.
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Praise the Lord, O my soul;
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all my inmost being,
praise his holy name.
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Holy, he is Holy
and when I pray I
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come into
presence of a Holy God.
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Now, I know is
verse 19 and Psalm 103:
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The Lord has established
his throne in heaven,
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and his kingdom rules over all.
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Our verse says
that we have a God
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who is a holy God,
his throne is in heaven,
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he rules over
all. He's the creator
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and the
sustainer of the universe,
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we have a majestic God.
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But we have
also an intimate God.
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Notice Psalm 103 and verse 11:
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For as high as the heavens are
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above the earth,
so great is his love
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for those who fear
him. His love is just as
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deep as the heaven is high,
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in fact the whole
reason why our great
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God bothered to
create and sustain
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mankind is
intimacy, he longs to be close
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to his children.
He created us because
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he needed someone
to love and someone
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to love him. Jesus taught the
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intimacy of prayer,
he called God, Abba,
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which his intimate father it,
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it's kind of
daddy. Nobody in the Old
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Testament called God father,
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but Jesus did a
hundred and seventy times.
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And so
unfortunately our selfishness
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turns the
relational, the intimacy that
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God longs for,
turns the relational
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into transactional.
You go to the clerk and,
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and give the
clerk some money and the
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clerk gives you groceries.
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We go to God and
we give our lives
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to him and we
expect him then to give us
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whatever we ask
for. Please understand,
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we need God himself
a whole lot more than
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we need anything that he could
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possibly give
us. Our God rejoices
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over every intimacy
that we express to Him,
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it's like a, a loving parent,
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here's the
little baby in the crib.
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Oh how it thrills
the parents heart when
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the baby reaches out his arms to
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mamma or daddy.
And the baby lies
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there and just cueing
or what are absolutely
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nonsensical
words, oh how it thrills
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the parent,
that's the way God is.
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Prayer is reaching
out to God and although
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what we say in
our prayers may seem
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really to be nonsensical cueing,
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our reaching out
and out approaching
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God with a longing for intimacy
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is pleasing to
our heavenly Father.
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Now friendship requires dialogue
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not monologue, Mother Teresa was
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well known for her
prayers and she said,
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here's the way it
works, she was asked,
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what the secret
of your prayer power?
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She said it's simple,
he speaks and we listen,
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we speak and he listens.
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When I go on a
trip with my wife,
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I normally call her
at least once everyday
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and I tell her
about my day and she tells
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me about her
day. Intimacy requires
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dialogue and if we
don't listen there isn't
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going to be any
intimacy, you may have notice
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that people who are
not very good listeners
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don't get very
close to other people.
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Because intimacy
requires dialogue
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and the friendship
with God includes intimacy.
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Morning
prayer's an excellent tim
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to commit our day to
God, evening prayers,
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a wonderful time to
review the day with God,
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how did we do there,
thank you for that one,
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forgive me for what I did under
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this circumstance. How can I do
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better tomorrow. So,
prayer is friendship,
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it's a balancing of
majesty and intimacy
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and prayer is
dialogue. So, that's our first
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word, prayer is friendship,
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now our second
word, prayer is ownership.
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Prayer is admitting
ownership of our need,
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Psalm 103 and verse
4, verse 4 of Psalm 103:
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Who redeems your life
from the pit and crowns
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you with love and compassion,
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who redeems your
life from the pit.
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Now, if you
wanna get out of a pit,
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the first
requirement is that you know
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you're in one and
the second requirement
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is that you wanna
get out off it. We,
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all of us are in a
pit of sin and of death,
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unfortunately our
short sightedness just
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wants to be
entertained in the pit,
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to live luxuriously in the pit.
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God is the only way
out, we have no future
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outside him and we
must admit our need
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that we're helpless with that,
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we're living in sin
and looking forward to
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nothing but death
except he helps us
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out of the pit. Now we all of us
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have a second
self. My granddaughter
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Katy is the student
of the Japanese language
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and the Japanese
have two words for self.
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There's the self
that we let people see
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and then there's
the self that we hide
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hoping they cannot
see. And we do that too,
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there's a self that
people see and there's
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a self that we
hope even God won't see.
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We hide that
second self for fear that
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God will be
displeased if he finds out what
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we really are like,
so in fact the hiding
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maybe the very
thing that displeases
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God the most. Prayer
maybe hardest for men,
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it breaks the male
code of traditional
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masculinity, macho, in control,
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not asking for help.
That's what prayer is,
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it's asking for help,
in prayer we seek God's
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help in routing out
hidden offenses like
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selfishness and
pride and pretense and lack
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of compassion. Now,
a denial of our need
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can be disastrous,
in the presence of the
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great physician,
our most appropriate
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contribution maybe our wounds.
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I have or did
have a friend who was
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an alcoholic.
One night we rushed
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her to the hospital
and I stood by her bedside
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as the doctor
stood over her and he
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asked her if she
had been drinking,
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she denied no, I don't drink.
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She denied the secret
of which the physician
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was already aware
and my friend died
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of psoriasis of the liver.
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The doctor might
have saved her if she had
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just confronted her
problem and admitted
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her need and the
great physician can
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heal us and save us
and gave us eternal life,
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but only if we admit our need,
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so prayer is
claiming ownership also
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of God's grace.
First of all of our
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need but it doesn't end there,
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it's also claiming ownership
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of God's grace.
We pray gratefully
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Psalm 103 and let's pick it up
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with verse 10, verses 10 to 14:
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He does not treat
us as our sins deserve
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or repay us
according to our iniquities.
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For as high as the heavens are
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above the earth,
high as the heavens
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are above the
earth, so great is his love
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for those who fear
him; as far as the east
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is from the west,
so far as he removed
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our transgressions from us.
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As a father has compassion
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on his children, so the Lord has
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compassion on
those who fear him;
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for he knows how we are formed,
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he remembers that we are dust.
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Possibly the most
important purpose of
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prayer is to
simply let our true sinful
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selves be loved by
God. When we admit what
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we are then God's grace accepts
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us just as we are,
but that same grace
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that covers our
sins also strengthens us,
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it shows us what we can become.
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Twice I've had
the privilege of going
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to Rome, to see
the Sistine Chapel.
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And the first
time I went and looked
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at that beautiful ceiling,
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the paintings
didn't come through very
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well because they
were all covered with grime
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and then if you
remember your history,
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you will know that
they closed the chapel
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down and they
got up there and they
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worked and they
worked and they worked
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and they worked,
it took a whole lot of
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time to finally
get rid of that grime
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and the second
time that I had the
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privilege of going
to the Sistine Chapel,
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it was absolutely beautiful,
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but it took
someone to restore it
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and it took
time. We need somebody
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to restore us and
we should be patient
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if it takes God
himself sometime to get
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the job done. Those paintings
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became what
they were meant to be
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and though God and
his grace we can become
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what we were meant to be.
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Angry honesty I
believe is better than
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pious pretense.
God's grace is not afraid,
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God is not
frightened by your anger,
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I've never preached very much
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from the Psalms,
I'll have to confess
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that they frustrate
me. When David wrote
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the 23rd Psalm,
the Shepherd Psalm,
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or the 103rd Psalm
that we're looking at today,
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the song of
praise, beautiful but other
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Psalms are angry
and whiny and sometimes
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downright vengeful.
David was not afraid
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to confront
God, but maybe that's
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how he became a man
after God's own heart.
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God is not turned
off by our doubts,
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Jesus prayed his
doubt, "My God, My God,
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why hast Thou forsaken Me?"
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We should pray grateful prayers,
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they're
important, repentant prayers,
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they're most
important. But maybe sometimes
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it's proper to
pray doubting and angry
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and
confrontational prayers because
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they're
important too. Remember our
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relationship with
God requires intimacy
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and intimacy requires the pain
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of confrontation.
I know of a husband
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who said we never
fight, my wife and I,
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I just put on my
hat and walk out.
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It's called avoidance fighting.
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And if we don't
confront one and other
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when we have differences,
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when we feel
pain we never get very
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close together,
that marriage hasn't
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much chance of intimacy.
So, prayer is ownership
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of our need and
ownership of God's
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grace to answer that need.
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And then our third word,
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prayer is
partnership, prayer is not just
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giving assignments to God.
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This really is an
awful picture of God,
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a God who cares
about other people
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only if we beg
him to. Jesus said,
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the Father knows
what you need before
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you ask, he already cares,
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he already
loves, he's just waiting
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for you to care
enough to work with him.
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As matter of fact
I think that prayer
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is many times
spiritual laziness.
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We pray, bless my
family and bless that
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hurting lady down
the street and then
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our conscious
relaxes because we put
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God to work and we can spend our
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time on ourselves. Oh no,
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prayer is
partnering, prayer is partnering
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with God in the assignments that
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he gives us.
Psalm 103 and verse 21:
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Praise the Lord,
all his heavenly hosts,
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you his
servants, you his servants,
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who do his will.
We are his servants,
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we are not his
bosses, we are committed
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not to having him do our will,
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but our doing his will.
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Prayer is partnering with God,
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we trust him to
do the right thing,
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prayer is reporting for duty.
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And we ask God how can you and I
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work together to help my family,
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to help that hurting
lady down the street.
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Prayer is partnering with God,
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and partnering with
God we can trust him
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to give right
answers at the right time.
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Now, I hope I
don't offend anyone,
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but it sometimes concerns me,
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I think we train our children to
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disbelieve in prayer.
The typical children's
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story in Bible school goes
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something like
this, little Johnny is,
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is walking and running
through the tall grass,
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tossing the key
that his folks have
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entrusted him with,
tossing it in the air
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and all of a sudden
it comes down he doesn't
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catch it and he
looks around and he can't
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find it and then he,
he kneels and he prays.
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And he opens one
eye sure enough there
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it is, it's found.
Well, it does happen,
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it can happen, but
as that boy grows older,
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he finds that
sure doesn't happen
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very often, there's either
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something wrong
with prayer or something
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wrong with God
or something wrong
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with me. Now, God
works miracles but
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not often to
upset human carelessness
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and never to
override the human will.
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The God who created
natural law is always
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able but sometimes
reluctant to suspend
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it in what we
call miracles at least
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not unless we have
a very good reason.
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So, to put it all together,
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I think we must
confess that to totally
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understand prayer we'd have to
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understand God and
out brains are just
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simply not big
enough to manage that.
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We've learned that
prayer is friendship,
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intimacy, requiring dialogue
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we speak to
him, he speaks to us.
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Prayer is ownership of our sins;
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ownership of God's grace,
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prayer is
partnership, working with God
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to answer our prayers.
We have learned to pray,
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when we have
learned to trust God
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for the right
answers at the right time.
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And I've learned
through life that my
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skepticism about
unanswered prayer
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has often been
the result of simply
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a short memory.
Remembering God's
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no's and forgetting God's yes',
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my wife Ellen
prayed four basic prayers
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after she was
afflicted with cancer.
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Her first prayer
was that she might be
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able to finish
her ministry with her
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husband we were working together
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at the General Conference of
00:23:09.66\00:23:11.11
the Seventh-day
Adventist Church,
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the World Headquarters.
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And we were
traveling together and
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I was teaching
ministers and she was
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teaching minister's
wives and she wanted
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to continue our
ministry together
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until our
retirement. That was her
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first prayer, God said yes,
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she lived five
years beyond retirement,
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second prayer
was that she not have
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to die with some unbearable pain
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and she been told
that death from cancer
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can be terribly
painful it can go to the brain
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or, or to the,
the lungs or to the
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bones which can be
a very painful death.
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She asked the Lord
if it were necessary
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for her to die
could she die without
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unbearable pain. And the cancer
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went to her liver,
it was a painless death,
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she was doing her housework just
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eight days before she died.
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God said yes,
her third prayer was
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that she be able to
die at home with her
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husband by her
side. Hospice brought in a
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hospital bed and
we set a cot up along
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side her bed. And
I slept beside her,
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rubbing her fuzzy
head that was just
00:24:46.94\00:24:49.28
recovering from
chemotherapy until
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we hours of the
morning she quietly
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went to sleep. God said yes,
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and she had a forth
prayer and the forth
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prayer was for
healing. And God said
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later Ellen, later,
how forgetful and how
00:25:13.45\00:25:19.95
ungrateful of me to say that God
00:25:20.52\00:25:22.89
didn't answer
prayer. Beside all of that
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by the way, he
eventually sent me
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a wonderful
dilemma, who loves me
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and whom I love
with all my heart.
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You see we learn
to pray when we have
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learned to remember the yes',
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when we have
learned to trust God for
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the right answers
at the right time.
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And may I suggest if you have
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questions about answered prayer,
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if you think that
God is all the time
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turning you
down. Won't you create
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a book of remembrance;
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write it down if you must,
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put it into your computer.
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Write down the
times that God says yes
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and God says
yes and God says yes
00:26:10.67\00:26:13.43
and then when it
seems like God says no,
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you can open that
book and you can look
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at all of the
yes'. And having received
00:26:18.81\00:26:22.13
so many yes',
you be able to trust
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God with the
no's. To give you the
00:26:25.64\00:26:30.54
right answer at the
right time, let's pray.
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Father, we pray
today as your disciples
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did that you will
truly teach us to pray,
00:26:44.06\00:26:49.56
help us to form our
own book of remembrance.
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So, that we can
remember the yes'
00:26:57.28\00:26:59.88
that will help
us trust the no's.
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And may we trust
you for the right answer
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at the right time is our prayer,
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in Jesus name, amen.
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Thank you for your time with
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Faith Chapel
today, try that book of
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remembrance if
you're having serious
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doubts about answered prayer.
00:27:25.75\00:27:29.53
Remember, prayer is
friendship with God,
00:27:30.63\00:27:34.67
prayer is
ownership both of our needs
00:27:36.00\00:27:40.40
and of God's grace
answering those needs
00:27:41.09\00:27:45.17
and prayer is partnership,
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partnership, let as
be partners with God.
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