Hello, my name is
Pastor Rowland C. Nwosu
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and this is Faith
Chapel. I'm the Pastor of
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the Seventh-day
Adventist Church,
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All Nations African
Church in San Bernardino,
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California, and the
president of the Adventist
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hour international
ministries. In a world
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where 50% or even
more of our marriages
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are ending up in
divorce, in a society where
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homicide, crime have
infested our society.
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In a society when,
and where the prisons are
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filled with young
people. I want to share
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with you today
something that I've caught,
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that I've entitled
how to keep the one you
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love in love with
you, how to keep the one
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you love in love
with you. Let us pray.
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Dear heavenly
Father, we thank you
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because you are
love, we thank you for the
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love you have given
us to share, help us
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O Father to be able
to pass on that love to
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those around us. In
Jesus name we pray, amen.
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How to keep the one
you love in love with you.
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God is love and God
created us in his image
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and that means
that he who is love,
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who created us in
his image created love.
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So we are love, it
is natural to love,
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it is natural to be
loved. Therefore to be in
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love, to keep the one
you love to be in love
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with you. First thing
I want to suggest to us
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is that we need to
be loveable ourselves.
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You see everyone
wants to be loved and I have
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not seen anybody
who does not want to be
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loved and if there is
any one who says to you
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I don't want to be
loved is because they
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have been loved,
they have been hurt by
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somebody who was
suppose to love them but
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did not love them. I
guarantee you that there
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is in everyone a
desire to be loved.
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If you want to be
loved, love, be loveable
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yourself, be
nice to other people.
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If you want
people to smile at you,
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smile at people. If
you want people to be
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nice and cordial to
you be nice and cordial
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to them. The Bible
tells us in Proverbs
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chapter 18:24, that
a man or a person who
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has friends must
himself be friendly,
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but there is a friend
who sticks closer than a
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brother, and in Luke
also chapter 6:30 and
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31, Jesus tells us
that we must give to
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everyone who asks
of us, and from him
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who takes away
from your goods do not
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ask them back and
just as you want man to
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do you, you also
do to them likewise.
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That is to say, that
is to say, if you want
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someone to love you, love them.
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What is your
attitude toward people?
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How do you feel
when you see somebody?
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How you react
when you see somebody,
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do you think there
is something that we are
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emitting, something
that in a way that we're
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coming closer that
also make somebody react
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to us the way
they do react to us.
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A story is told by
actually it was Allen
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Peterson who wrote
this, he wrote about
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a newspaper
columnist and also who was
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a minister, George
Crane tells of a wife
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who came to his
office one day full of anger
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and, fury and
rage. And she said to him
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you know what I hate my husband,
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I do not want to
marry him anymore.
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I want to get rid of
him. Tell me how I should
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do this? But before
I divorce him I want to
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hurt him, I want to
hurt him. I want to make him
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feel the pain that he
has been giving to me.
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Dr. Crane, Dr. Crane
suggested an ingenious
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plan and that plan
I called 'As if plan'
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Dr. Crane suggested
to this woman you know,
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go home and act as
if you love this man.
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Just act as if for
two or three months and
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then you come back and
lets revisit this plan.
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You know love him
as much as possible,
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go and tell him
how much you love him,
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praise him in every
decent, for every decent
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trait that he has
and just share with him,
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make sure you're
kind to him, lovish,
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all kinds of kindness
to him. Make sure that
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you yourself enjoy
him also and spend all
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effort to please
him and to enjoy him.
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Make him believe.
The secret is making him
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believe that you
love him and then after
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you have convinced
him that you love him
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very undyingly and
that you cannot live your
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love without him Dr.
Crane suggested to him,
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to her, then at
that time when you have
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gained his trust
that you love him,
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drop him, and then
tell him you're getting a
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divorce that
will really hurt him.
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Wow! With some
smiles on her face she left
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satisfied, she
thought she had received the
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advice, that the
counseling that she
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needed then she went to work.
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She returned home
to tell her husband the
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way somebody who
loves someone should
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treat them. Two months passed,
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three months
passed, four months passed,
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five months, six
months Dr. Crane calls the
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lady and asks, madam,
how about the divorce?
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When are you
coming to sign the papers?
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The woman's
response was, divorce!
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She exclaimed
divorce! Never; never,
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I do not want to
divorce. I have found out
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that I love this man.
What is the lesson here?
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The lesson is that
when we love somebody we
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express that love.
When we love somebody
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we tell them, we
show them, when we expect
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to be loved, let's
love as well. Point number 2
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that I want to share
with you, to keep the
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one you love in
love with you make the
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commitment to love.
You see when you make
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a commitment to love
someone, it is hard to go
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back on that
commitment if you were serious
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in the first place.
Let me explain to you,
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you see true love
is a gift from God.
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God is love and he
gave us the love to share,
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so true love does
not have anything to do
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with sex and
beauty. True love comes from
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the heart, it's a
principle, it's a self
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sacrificing
principle. Now when, because
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God is loved, God
created us in his image,
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so we also are in
the image of God who is
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love. So when we
love, when we commit to
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love, we do not
love because of something
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we want to gain, we
love because we want
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to give and if there
is something negative that
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we're getting in our
love relationship there is
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that need for us to
give, to continue to give,
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just as God gives
us, just as God gives us
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even when we do
not have what it takes
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for him to love
us. Commitment to love,
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if you commit to love,
especially this is within
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the context now of
marriage. Love, love
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unconditionally,
love not hoping to break,
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not to divorce.
Love not making plans to
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divorce and end
relationships. So if you
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have sinned Jesus, you
have sinned the Father,
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you have sinned
love. A commitment
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reinforces our choice
to forgive when we are
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offended. If you
are committed to a
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relationship you will
forgive the one you love.
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There is story
about two friends.
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Two friends, who
went traveling and they
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somehow they
went through a desert,
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and during some
point in that journey one
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of the friends
slapped his best friend.
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So, he was so much
hurt that he stoop down
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and wrote on the
sand today my best friend
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slapped me in the
face. And they continued
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going on their
journey, but somehow they
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found an oasis in
the desert and they went
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to cool off and
wash and clean and drink
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some water,
somehow something happened
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that the friend who
was slapped got stuck
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in the mud and was
about to sink and his
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friend came out to
rescue him, pulled him out.
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So as they went
he saw a stone and he
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carved on that
stone. Today my best friend
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saved my life. Now
his friend said to him,
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why the first time
you wrote on the sand?
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But now that I saved
your life you wrote on
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the stone, his friend
turned around and said
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to him. The lesson
here is that we must learn
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to write our hurts in
the sand of our lives,
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but to carve our
benefits and our blessings on
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the stones of our
lives. A story is told of
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a woman and there
are many women who are
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hurting in
relationships of marriage.
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This woman is
being beaten up and has
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been abused and
needed to get out of that
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situation, but she
was not just wanting to
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get out but she
wanted to get even.
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She wanted to pay
back; she ended up
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having a stroke in a
very difficult situation.
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So there is no doubt
that in a relationship
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where
commitment, where a marriage,
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a saying in marriage
situation, we don't have
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to continue to remain
in a situation where our
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lives are in
danger. When I talk about
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commitment, it is the
commitment to God as a
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principle, the love
that God has given us.
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I hate to see a
woman die, I hate to see a
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child die, I hate to
see a man die living in
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a difficult situation.
It is said, it takes a
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minute to find a
special person, an hour to
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appreciate them,
a day to love them,
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and a life time to
forget them. That is why
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we must make
commitments that our God
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centered. For
those of you who might be
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contemplating
marriage before you make any
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life time
commitment, be careful,
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pray hard and make sure you are.
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That the relationship
you're getting to is
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something that the
Lord supports and that the
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Lord will welcome
and the Lord will honor.
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Let us make out
time for those we love.
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Let's not value the
things that we have in our
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life, but value
who we have in life.
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In our lives, if
you want your friend to
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be committed to you,
you commit to your friend
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also. In Luke chapter
6:30 and 31 that we read
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already, he says
just as you want men to
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do to you, do
them also likewise.
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The third, the third
thing I want to suggest
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to you, if you
want to keep those you
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love in love with you,
cultivate inner values.
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You see before you
can even give love,
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before you can show
love, there is a need
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for you to know, to
have a base, to cultivate
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inner core values.
What are these values I'm
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talking about?
These are things that make
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you who you are, the
values, call it family
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values, call it Bible
values, call it Christian
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values, but family
values are derived from God.
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These are gifts
that God have given us.
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These are standards
of judgment and standards
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of value that we
have, that are based on the
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scripture, on the
word of God. God said in
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Isaiah chapter 55:8,
9, that's our thoughts it
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says, "For my
thoughts are not your thoughts,
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nor are your ways my
ways, saith the Lord.
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For as the heavens
are higher than the earth,
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so are my ways
higher than your ways,
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and my thoughts
higher than your thoughts."
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So your goals, God
gave us these values and
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the heart of man is
evil and desperately wicked,
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so when, so as God's
children values must be
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God centered, it must
be biblical, it must be
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based on the word
of God. The standard by
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which our values are
judged, are the standards
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of God as the
scripture has described it.
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So as Christians
our values must be Bible
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centered, God
centered and it is our values,
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our inner values
that determines for us how
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we speak to people,
inner values and those
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core values that
determine what we wear
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to church, where
we, how we, whether we
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should return our
tithe or not, what movies,
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if any we should
watch at all. It is those
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inner values, those
inner values determine
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who we live with,
how we live in our lives
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and in our bed
rooms, those inner values
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determine whether we
are to shekel or shake
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with somebody or to
who our roommates are
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to be. Those values
also determine whether
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we divorce are not
divorce or whether we
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pick a roommate
and why and how and all
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those things, those
are inner values that
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must be based on
scripture and that is why
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it is important
that when we begin to
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formulate
relationship that we match those
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values with those
who match our own values
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that the Bible says,
poses in a very unique
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way it says don't
be unequally yoke with
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unbelievers, those
who do not believe what
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you believe in the
Lord. Let me turn to the next,
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the next reason, the
next point where if you
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really want to
keep the one you love in
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love with you,
express your love to them.
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Express that
love. In Proverbs 25:11,
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the Bible tells us
that a word fitly spoken
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is like apples of
gold in settings of silver.
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Can you imagine
this and someone has said
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that truth without
love is cruel, truth without
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love is cruel,
love without truth is
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deceptive. How do your
express your love to the
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one you love. You
know I come from a culture
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where a people felt
that, oh don't tell the child
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how good he's doing,
otherwise it will enter
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into his head and
he's gonna mess up.
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No, I don't believe
this, share, tell people
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when they are doing
good, they don't just
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need to hear the
criticism, when you have
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relationship, what do you share?
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Do you express your
love for that person in
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words, in actions,
in your random acts of
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kindness, how
about your neighbors,
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how about those who
live across the street,
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how do you express
your love to your spouse.
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Solomon, in Song
of Solomon chapter 1,
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chapter 4:1-8, we
hear Solomon talking about
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his, describing his wife
as fair. It says, behold,
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you are fair my
love! Behold, you are fair!
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You have dove's
eyes behind your veil.
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Your hair is like a
flock of goats, going down
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from Mount Gilead.
Your teeth are like a flock
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of shorn sheep which
have come up from the
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washing, every one
of which bears twins,
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and none is barren
among them. Your lips are
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like a strand of
scarlet, and your mouth is
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lovely. Your temples
behind your veil are like
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a piece of pomegranate.
Your neck is like the
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tower of David,
built for an armory,
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on which hang a
thousand bucklers,
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all shields of
mighty men. Your two breasts
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are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle, which
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feed among the
lilies. Until the day breaks
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and the shadows flee
away, I will go my way
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to the mountain of
myrrh and to the hill of
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frankincense.
You are fair my love,
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and there is no
spot in you. Come with me
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from Lebanon my
spouse, with me from Lebanon.
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Look from the top
of Amana, from the top
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of Senir and Hermon
from the lions dens,
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from the
mountains of the leopards.
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You see even the
Bible expresses the fact
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that we need to
express our love to our
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spouses, husbands.
Do you share, do you
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express your
love to your spouse.
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Wives, do you
express your love to your
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spouse in this way.
In words not just deeds,
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in acts of course.
Number five, if we must
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keep those who
love us in love with us,
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we need to keep our
love pure and maintain
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the appropriate
boundaries. You see for
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every love
relationship God has placed a
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boundary which must be observed.
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The Bible describes
the dynamics and the
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boundaries of such
love. There are blessings
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as well as consequences
for maintaining that
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boundary as well as
going outside of those
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boundaries. There
are blessings for keeping
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within the boundaries
and curses or consequences
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for saying and going
beyond the boundaries,
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which God has
already placed in those
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relationships. Let me
explain here. There is a
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boundary between the
love between a pet and
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the pet owner. There
is a boundary between the
00:22:08.76\00:22:12.83
love between a father and a son,
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or between a
father and a daughter,
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there is a
boundary between the love
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between a husband and his wife.
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There is a boundary
between the love between
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the Pastor and
his church members;
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there is a boundary
between the love between
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church members.
Yes, there are also
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boundaries between, the
love between classmates,
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between roommates,
between people who work
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in offices together.
We called as Christians
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to maintain those
boundaries. So the
00:22:47.83\00:22:50.56
question is if we must
keep the one we love in
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love with us, we must
keep, we must maintain
00:22:55.18\00:22:58.22
the boundaries
within those relationships,
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that means married
people keep your marriage
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pure. Guard jealously
those boundaries which
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God has given, other
sources contaminate the
00:23:13.13\00:23:18.92
original source and
whatever you do at work
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or in your computer
or in your relationship
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outside of the home,
keep it pure and maintain
00:23:28.82\00:23:32.17
those boundaries.
Youth and young adults stay,
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who are single,
stay single until you're
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married and don't act
like you're married either.
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Children and
younger youth stay away from
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that stuff, study
and concentrate and pay
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attention to the
study and wait and your time
00:23:52.67\00:23:55.55
will come. You'll
have enough time and then
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also watch out my
space that company,
00:24:00.42\00:24:05.15
for God is watching.
First Corinthians 7:8, 9,
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Apostle Paul cautions
us to be careful, he says,
00:24:10.74\00:24:15.45
now to the unmarried
and to the widows I say,
00:24:15.64\00:24:18.85
it is good for them to
stay unmarried as I am,
00:24:19.01\00:24:21.78
but if they cannot
control themselves,
00:24:21.96\00:24:24.46
they should marry for
it is better to marry than
00:24:24.68\00:24:28.02
to burn with passions.
There are divine blessings
00:24:28.08\00:24:34.39
for maintaining those
boundaries, Jesus talked
00:24:34.40\00:24:37.03
about it in Matthew
chapter 5:8, he says,
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Blessed are the pure in
heart, for they shall see
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God. Now having said
that I want to offer some
00:24:43.65\00:24:48.49
hope to anyone
who has crossed that
00:24:48.52\00:24:50.94
boundary either by
mistake or by negligence
00:24:51.02\00:24:56.33
or whatever, but
there is promise in First
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John chapter 1:9, 10,
Jesus says, Apostle John
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says about Jesus,
if we confess our sins,
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if we confess our sins,
he is faithful and just to
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forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from
00:25:14.86\00:25:17.69
all unrighteousness,
and if we say we do not
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have, if we say
that we have not sinned,
00:25:20.80\00:25:25.63
we make him a liar
and his word is not in us.
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My dear friends,
if you want to stay,
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if you want to keep
the one you love in love
00:25:38.26\00:25:41.80
with you,
maintain those boundaries,
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keep them pure. If
you have failed and
00:25:46.01\00:25:49.28
neglected ask the
Lord, he will forgive.
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The sixth point I
like to share with you.
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If want you to do it, if
you need to maintain that
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relationship.
Study the best book,
00:25:59.11\00:26:01.94
the best text book
on love and that is the
00:26:02.04\00:26:05.24
word of God. God is
love and he gave us this
00:26:05.27\00:26:08.96
book. If you want
to know how to love,
00:26:09.09\00:26:11.73
read the book. Some
people think the Bible is
00:26:12.15\00:26:17.42
not cool to have it, to
carry it, it is not cool
00:26:17.67\00:26:21.14
to memorize it, it
is not cool to study it,
00:26:21.28\00:26:23.92
but this is the
greatest book and it deals with
00:26:24.22\00:26:27.83
love and tells
us how we must love.
00:26:27.84\00:26:30.54
If God is love then his
book is the ultimate text
00:26:31.66\00:26:36.11
book on love. Make
Christ the center and Lord
00:26:36.17\00:26:41.73
of your life, of
your love is the seventh.
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You see God is love and
love is like a triangle.
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God gave us love and
love is not complete until
00:26:49.81\00:26:53.57
we share it and it
is returned to God,
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also love from God,
love to others and then
00:26:56.73\00:27:01.09
love back to God.
You see, we must, if we
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plan to keep those who
we love in love with us,
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we must make Christ
the center of our love.
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God is love, seek ye
first the kingdom of God
00:27:16.44\00:27:21.19
and His righteousness;
and all these things
00:27:21.57\00:27:24.00
will be added unto
you. If you must keep the
00:27:24.04\00:27:27.26
one you love in love
with you be loveable,
00:27:27.27\00:27:30.95
make a commitment to
love, cultivate inner
00:27:31.17\00:27:34.66
values, express your
love in the right way,
00:27:34.73\00:27:38.27
keep your love
pure and maintain the
00:27:38.75\00:27:41.10
appropriate
boundaries, study the best text
00:27:41.11\00:27:43.81
book on love, that is
the Bible. Make Christ the
00:27:43.84\00:27:47.17
center and the Lord of
your love, in doing so he
00:27:47.27\00:27:51.06
will bless you
and you will reap the
00:27:51.07\00:27:52.99
benefits of
love. For God is love.
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