Thanks for joining us today!
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We're going to have a good
time together in God's word.
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I am Pastor Dale Lemon
from Battle creek Michigan
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and so happy to be
sharing here through 3ABN
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Before we begin our study,
let's have a word of prayer.
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Father in heaven it is
always a joy to open Your word
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And we need Your
Spirit to be our guide
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through it, our
interpreter, to fill our hearts
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with the power of Your word.
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that it may
change us as we study
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Bless me Lord, that I
may be a tool in Your hand.
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in Jesus name, AMEN!
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The central
characteristic of God is love.
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So much so that the
Bible tells us in 1 John 4:8
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God is love
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that is such a
defining aspect of his character
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that we can say
that God is love.
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Then also in the
very same chapter
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we have a similar verse.
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Verse 16
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So again we see God is love
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and if we abide in
love we are abiding in God
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If we are experiencing
love we are experiencing God.
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If we are loving others,
it is God loving through us.
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Because God is love!
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Unfortunately, in
our present world,
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We have a
terrible misunderstanding
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about what love is.
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You see God's love
is total unselfishness.
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By that we mean He puts
the needs, comforts, interests,
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of all others above Himself.
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He says whoever must
be first, must be last.
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And since God is
first, He is also last.
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He doesn't
consider His own happiness
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or His own well-being
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until He has considered
the happiness and well-being
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of every other
creature in the Universe.
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That is clearly seen in
the sacrifice that Jesus Christ
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made on the cross.
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So this is the definition of
love that the Bible gives us.
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A totally unselfish love.
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Sometimes we use
the word altruistic.
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It's not about me.
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It's about you!
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We say, "I love pizza. "
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What do we mean by that?
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I'm going to act in behalf
of the well-being of pizza?
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I don't think so, I
think we mean I like eating it.
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I like having it.
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I like chewing it
I like swallowing it
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I like smelling it
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It's about me, see.
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Totally backwards.
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But we say, "I love"
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I think Satan wants
to confuse us as to what
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love really is.
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Because love is the
central characteristic of God.
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Satan doesn't want us to
understand God's character.
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He wants us to think,
in fact, God is selfish.
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He wants to put his
characteristics on God.
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He wants us to believe
that God acts in His own behalf
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instead of in ours.
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We say, "Oh I love that women. "
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I adore that women, I
love her so much I can't stand
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a moment without
her, I must have her.
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Huh! Once again
that's not God's love.
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That's about me!
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That's about
having my own needs meet.
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So the love that God give us
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is the kind of love that
cares more for the other person.
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Than for myself.
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That is an
astonishing kind of love
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That is the very kind of
love that God intended we
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would be the bond of our
entire human relationship.
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He intended, as He made
Adam and Eve, the first couple,
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model perfect love relationship.
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We have some verses in
Genesis, which gives us an idea
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of this Divine plan.
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For instance, Genesis 1:27
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It was God's intention
that Adam and Eve would be a
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united couple,
made in His image,
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but remember God is
plural, Father and the Son
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Holy Spirit, the
love between them
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is perfect, even each one
caring more about the other.
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Than about Himself
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Jesus again modeled that
when He came and gave His life.
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He intended that Adam
and Eve, made in His image
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They also would
be united each one
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caring more about the other
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then about themselves.
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He says in chapter
2 of Genesis verse 24
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One flesh!
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They should be so
completely wrapped up in
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each other's well-being
it is like one organism.
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It's like our human body.
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Where every organ
serves every other organ.
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Lives not for itself, but
for the well-being of the whole.
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So Adam and Eve's
relationship before sin
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was magnificent!
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Oh Boy, we'd like to see
some marriages like that now.
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You see they trusted
each other completely.
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Totally about
every single thing.
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They never even
thought about not trusting.
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They laughed at the same things.
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They were soul mates.
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Being together was
their greatest delight.
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They shared everything.
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They had no
secrets from each other.
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They loved to
probe each others' minds.
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To see God's creation
through each others prospective.
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They were always delighted
to hear what the other saw,
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and to comprehend
what the other thought.
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Before sin Adam
and Eve never argued.
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They never spoke a
harsh word to each other.
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They never were quarrelsome.
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They were never sarcastic or
ironic in the way they spoke.
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They never even
frowned at each other.
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They always had a smile.
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They never raised an
eyebrow there was never
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any scolding, or nagging.
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Their unity was perfect.
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Their partnership
was a perfect model and
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a perfect reflection
of the partnership between
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the Father and the Son.
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That was the
way God intended it.
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God made them for each
other, He made them perfectly
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suited to each other.
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All of their needs were
meet because each of them
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were more concerned about
the happiness of the other.
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Then about their own happiness.
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Neither felt
complete without the other.
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Then came sin and
everything changed.
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They lost a lot more
than innocence that day.
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They immediately lost the bond
of love, trust for each other.
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We can read about
it in Genesis 3 were
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so clear that
something has changed.
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It's in verse 12
when God confronts them
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after they eaten the fruit.
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Obviously now he's blaming
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He would never have thought
of that, in fact, the whole
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reason that he for
joining her and eating the fruit
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to begin with is
because he didn't want to be
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separated from her,
he love her so much,
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now all of a
sudden he's blaming her
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everything has changed.
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And so their unity is shattered.
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He no longer
wants to share her fate.
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He's willing to
pin the blame on her.
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Hoping he can escape and
continue his blissful life.
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But, of course, it
is too late for him too.
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Here we see the
seed of adultery.
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because as soon as we
begin to resent our partner
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and the sense of complete
fidelity and trust is broken
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self centeredness comes in.
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And we begin to think, well
I need to look out for myself.
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Maybe this
relationship isn't ideal.
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Perhaps I can
find more satisfaction
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with another person.
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Well, thank God for
the ten commandments.
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As we have been
noticing they are promises.
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They are promises more
even than they are commandments.
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Because God knew
He couldn't save us by
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commanding us to be good.
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Because we don't have the power.
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And so the
commandments were very weak
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All they could do is
point out our weakness
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But when we look at
them a promises then we see
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God's true purpose
in the commandments.
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His purpose to reveal
to us what He would give us
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as He saved us from sin.
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And each of the commandments
can be seen that way.
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Including the
seventh commandment.
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Here is a glorious
promise of eternal faithfulness.
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Let's look at it in Exodus 20:14
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People don't like that
one, they tend to hear it
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YOU SHALL NOT!
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Well, of course it is good
advice, committing adultery
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is a very
destructive thing to do.
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It's a good command.
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But it is one of the least
favorites in our modern world.
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Boy, we live in a world
where this sin is one of the
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most common one
that is practiced.
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You shall not commit adultery.
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It thunders over
people's heads and
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makes them feel so guilty.
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But that isn't
God's main purpose in it.
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His main purpose is to show
us what He is going to give us.
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He is going to give us a heart
that is not an adulterous heart.
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I will not even
want to commit adultery.
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He is going to give
us a faithful heart.
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That's what He
wants us to see here.
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that through Jesus
fulfillment of every one
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of these promises we
can claim faithfulness
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I tell you, we need a
faithfulness pill don't we?
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It would be good if we
had that instead of some
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of the other pills we give out.
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We desperately need that.
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God is able to give that to
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us through Christ Jesus.
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So that we can have profound,
deep, altruistic love again
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and care more about
the well-being of others
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than about meeting
our own temporary needs.
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Well you know how common this
problem is in our world today
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and we face it in
nearly every extended family.
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We see examples of it.
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Very few marriages
start out, anymore, without
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premarital sex
having taken place.
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That's adultery too, by the way.
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Because the Bible defines
the proper sexual relationship
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as taking place only in the
committed bonds of marriage.
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This word adultery, actually
covers quite a bit of ground
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because it refers to
all kinds of illegitimate
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sexual practices.
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Prostitution, sex between
same sex partners, etc. etc.
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But it also covers any
kind of wrong add mixture
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Of things that God never
intended to be put together.
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That's why, the book
of Revelation even says,
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says the church
has become adulterous,
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mixing politics with
the worship of the true God.
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Things that do
not belong together.
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That is adultery.
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Well we certainly
see it in families.
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I remember when Bob called me.
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and he said that he and
Jane weren't getting along.
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And he thought there
marriage was about to end.
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He asked if he
could come and visit with
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me at my office.
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In fact, he said,
the two of them would
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like to come together.
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They did come and I
was so glad they did.
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He didn't tell me
over the phone what
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the central problem was.
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But it didn't take long, in
our conversation in the office,
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to realize that Jane
had discovered that Bob had
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been having an affair.
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She didn't feel she was
obligated to put up with it.
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Of course, according to
the Scripture, she isn't.
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But on the other
hand, she had some of this
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ultraistic love, she
cared about Bob's well-being.
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and she also cared
about their marriage.
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She cared about their children.
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She hoped that maybe
something could be done.
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Bob to seemed genuinely
contrite, and interested
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in saving the marriage.
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I was so glad, as
we talked together,
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that he felt really,
really bad about what
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he had been doing
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and realized he needed help.
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Well Jane agreed to help.
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Not that it was
her fault at all.
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She agreed to help
him to recognize his needs
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and to be a little more
careful to be sure that their
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communication at home,
everything was as strong
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as it should be, to do her part.
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But he was the one
who needed the majority
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of the help and he
knew it and he admitted it.
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He wondered if there
was any way that he could
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overcome his terrible problem
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of needing, he
thought, the excitement of
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going beyond the
relationship of marriage.
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Well, I'm so happy to
say, that I was able to
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share with him,
Jesus victor in the
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seventh commandment,
and therefore the promise
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that He has to offer in keeping
us from being adulterers.
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It is fantastic
folks, this is a promise.
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When we see it as a
command we just get discouraged
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because we think, Oh I
just can't seem to keep it.
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I can't seem to live up to
it, I'm so weak, I'm so weak.
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But when we see it as a
promise, we realize that Jesus
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has fulfilled it and
that we can claim His victory.
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And so I pointed him to
Jesus, now he really hadn't
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hadn't been a Christian before
that time, he really didn't
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know anything about
the power of the gospel,
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so it was a delight
and we began studying
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the Bible together and
he began to see that there
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was power, could
be power in every part
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of his life through Christ.
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And as he gave
his heart to Jesus,
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He gained the victory.
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It was a joy to his wife
as their unity was restored,
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as he became honest
with her, they began to
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discuss everything
together, as their oneness
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was made real again.
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It was all because of prayer,
they prayed together at night.
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They prayed
together in the morning.
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He became very
comfortable with having
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her know where he
was, and who he was with,
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and when he would be home.
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She really gained a
complete new trust for him
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and their marriage was saved.
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She forgave him.
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That's beautiful,
that's the gospel.
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That is how God works in
situations that seem hopeless.
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But it is all because Jesus
kept the commandment for us,
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and therefore turned a
what was thou shalt not
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thundering down form
Sinai, into a glorious promise.
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You will no longer
behave in this way because
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I am delivering
you from that behavior.
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Well people don't think
about how Jesus gain the victory
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in the area of sexual
relations, it's well known that
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Jesus Himself, who is
not married, but yet He did.
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In fact He gained the
victory in every aspect
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of human life in the flesh.
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There's a beautiful Scripture,
2 Corinthians chapter 1 verse 20
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which covers a lot
of ground let's read it.
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God is glorified in us
because Jesus has already
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kept all of God's promises,
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All the promises of God
are yes and amen, they're
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already finished in Christ.
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Every promise that God
has made, all ten of those
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promise that He made are
written on tables of stone
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have already been kept
in Christ Jesus as well.
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Well let's look at
the victories Jesus had
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in the area of adultery.
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First of all, as we said earlier
adultery is a much broader term
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than we often consider it.
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We can
adulterate our own bodies.
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That's right, now certainly
we can do that sexually,
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The apostle Paul
talks about that.
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But we can even do that in
terms of how we eat and drink.
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We can put things in
that do not belong in.
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That the Maker
didn't intend for us to use,
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that can destroy us
and ruin our happiness.
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Jesus was accused of
living loosely, he was
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accused of eating and drinking
with the sinners and publicans.
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Well He did go to
their dinners and banquets.
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But He never ever committed
adultery or sin, He never
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took into Himself that
which would destroy Him.
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He says, which of
you convinces me of sin?
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Jesus was very very
careful to be an example
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to us in every way.
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He was, of course, questioned
by the Pharisee who had the
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feast at his house.
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You will remember when
the women of ill repute
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came in to the feast and
knelt down by Jesus feet?
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She began to cry and
wipe His feet with her hair.
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Then she poured that
precious ointment on His feet
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and the Pharisee who had invited
Jesus there was so embarrassed
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that women had come in.
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Then he was embarrassed
for his guests, he was thinking
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in his heart, "He ought to know
what kind of women this is. "
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"He shouldn't let His
reputation suffer like that. "
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Now that particular Pharisee
himself had been an adulterer,
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in fact, he was the one,
the relative of the women
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who had introduced
her to a life of sin,
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and in his hypocrisy
he was criticizing Jesus.
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But Jesus turned that
all around when He said,
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"Who do you think
would love God the most?"
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"The one that's
forgiven of a big sin,
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or the one whose
forgiven of a little sin?"
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So Jesus showed His
completeness and His
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relationship with that
women was a spiritual one,
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and the reason that she
was so thrilled to be with Him
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that she would even anoint
His feet with expensive perfume
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was because she
had been forgiven.
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She had experienced real love.
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You see that is the whole
thing that heals adultery,
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Adultery is a cheap imitation,
you know why people fall for it?
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There is a sense of loneliness,
a feeling that no one
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really understands
me, no one really cares,
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a desire for intimacy
which God created in us.
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A yearning to be close and
to experience that complete
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but it is not there, that
complete oneness is not there.
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Adultery isn't there.
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It's a cheap counterfeit.
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She, the women who had
anointed Jesus feet, had finally
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found love, Oh yes!
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Jesus was her
lover, but not physically.
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He was a lover of her soul.
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At last she knew what it
was like to be understood.
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To be cared for, to be
respected, to be trusted,
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To be totally accepted.
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She found in
Jesus a perfect love,
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what she had
always been looking for.
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He turned out to be
the man of her dreams.
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Her heart was so
overflowing with satisfaction,
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she did not even need to
go on with her life of sin.
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No wonder that Jesus
could say to the women,
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who was brought
to Him in the temple,
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"I don't condemn you, but
go your way, and sin no more. "
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Because Jesus had
overcome in our behalf,
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every temptation to that
cheapness of counterfeit love,
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and had experienced the true,
the real thing, His relationship
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with His Father and in
His relationship with everyone
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of the people for
whom He came and died
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Jesus said, "I did not
come to to destroy the law,
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but to full fill the law. "
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He has done that
in His personal life.
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Some people, in this
recent time, have even accused
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Jesus of having some kind
of homosexual relationship
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with the beloved disciple John.
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But that is absolute rubbish,
people who lived with Jesus
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gave the testimony
that He was absolutely pure
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in every matter of
the law of the Jews.
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And such behavior was
prohibited by that law.
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Jesus could not have died
for our sins if He Himself
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was not entirely victorious.
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Well we have to
understand the spirituality of
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this adultery law in order
to make sure that we don't just
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look at others, we need
to look into our own hearts.
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Matthew 5 verse 27
is very clear, 27 and 28
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And so we find friends
that, probably most of us,
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have been guilty,
perhaps, more than once
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of violating the
seventh commandment.
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Thank God though that
there is hope for all of us.
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He can take away that
longing, that lustful longing
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for something that
can't satisfy anyway,
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because He can
give us His fulfillment
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of that commandment.
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He can put into our
hearts a taste of the love
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that comes from God.
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God is love and
Jesus has experienced that
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love in the flesh.
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So He knows that it is
available to us and He's
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able to make it available
to us in our flesh as well.
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Some people are saying,
"I can't have this victory
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until I lose this
body, not so, Jesus had this
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victory in His body.
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He even made it harder
than He's made it on us,
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far harder
because He never married.
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He didn't have the
divinely provided outlet
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for His physical needs.
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He had to find satisfaction,
complete satisfaction,
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for all parts of His
being through His relationship
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with His Father alone.
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That is the
power of His victory.
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Because I have heard
single people, at times, say
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"Well you can't
expect me to live without an
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occasional relationship
after all I'm single.
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Oh yes, Jesus has
the victory for that.
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Jesus wasn't longing, He wasn't
craving, He wasn't coveting,
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He wasn't looking at women,
having to look away with a
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embarrassed
expression on His face, no!
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He was satisfied because
the love of God satisfies.
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And so that is the power
of the victory He has for us.
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Jesus, however, was married.
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That's right! Or soon will be.
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You don't remember that?
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Well, not to a
women as we see it.
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But He is
marrying the entire family
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of human beings who will
be be saved. Revelation 19:9
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That's you and me.
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This is, these are true
sayings of God, don't you see!
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We are all to be part
of the bride of Christ.
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That is why we count
on His absolute victory
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in the seventh commandment.
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Because Jesus is
saying, "I promise you I will be
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faithful to you
for all eternity. "
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I am united to you,
not only am I one with
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My Heavenly Father, but
I am going to become one
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with everyone of you.
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And we together will
live a life of absolute joy
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and oneness, we will never
argue, we will never quarrel,
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we will be soul mates together,
we will never frown at each
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other, I am going to be so
faithful to you for so long
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that you will never
even question Me again.
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Not like Satan did so
long ago, you will trust Me
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perfectly for all eternity,
You will look to Me as the lover
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of your soul, and you
will always be satisfied
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with what I can provide.
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Jesus has kept the
seventh commandment for us.
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He will keep it
for all eternity.
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He will write it on your heart.
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If this is an area
in which you struggle,
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Take Jesus' victory.
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