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>>I WANT TO WELCOME ANY
VISITORS THAT MAY BE HERE TODAY.
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WE'RE DELIGHTED YOU'VE CHOSEN TO
COME AND FELLOWSHIP AND WORSHIP
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WITH THE GRANITE BAY CHURCH.
IF YOU ARE HERE FOR THE FIRST
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TIME, THIS WEEK WE'RE ENTERING
INTO THE SECOND PART OF WHAT I
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THINK IS A TWO-PART PRESENTATION
ON MARRIAGE. WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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BEING TOGETHER FOR LIFE.
NOW THAT MEANS TOGETHER FOR LIFE
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AS IN DURATION AND TOGETHER
FOR LIFE AS IN ABUNDANT LIFE AND
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THESE ARE BIBLE
KEYS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE.
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MARRIAGE, TODAY, IS UNDER
ATTACK AND IT IS THE FOUNDATION
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COVENANT - IT'S THE FOUNDATION
RELATIONSHIP IN FAMILIES, IN A
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SOCIETY, IN A NATION, IN
THE WORLD AND IT'S JUST VERY
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IMPORTANT FOR US TO REMEMBER
WHAT THE BIBLE FUNDAMENTALS ARE
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FOR HAVING HEALTHY AND WHOLESOME
AND HAPPY MARRIAGES - AND THIS
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IS GOD'S PLAN.
MARRIAGE IS GOD'S IDEA.
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LITTLE REVIEW - GENESIS 2, VERSE
24, "THEREFORE A MAN SHALL LEAVE
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HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER,
AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE,
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AND THEY SHALL
BECOME ONE FLESH."
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THEY NOT ONLY BECOME ONE FLESH
IN THAT THEY'RE UNITED THROUGH A
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COVENANT, THEY'RE UNITED IN THE
LORD AND, SINCE THE LORD PRAYED
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THAT THE DISCIPLES AND HE MIGHT
BE ONE, CERTAINLY A HUSBAND AND
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WIFE AND THE LORD ARE ONE,
BUT THEY BECOME ONE FLESH ALSO
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THROUGH THE ACT OF LOVE
AND REPRODUCTION IN THE CHILD.
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YOU'VE GOT THE CO-MINGLING OF
THE DNA AND THE ESSENCE OF TWO
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INDIVIDUALS BECOME ONE.
AND GOD THE FATHER, SON, AND
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SPIRIT, IN AN ACT OF LOVE,
MADE MAN IN THEIR OWN IMAGE.
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AND YOU AND I ARE MADE IN THE
IMAGE OF GOD AND WHAT A WONDER
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THAT HE GIVES US THE ABILITY
- THE PRIVILEGE TO PROCREATE IN
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OUR OWN IMAGE. IT'S A
SCARY THOUGHT TOO, ISN'T IT?
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GENESIS 1:27, "SO GOD CREATED
MAN IN HIS OWN IMAGE; IN THE
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IMAGE OF GOD HE CREATED
HIM; MALE AND FEMALE HE CREATED
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THEM." SO YOU NOTICE, IN GENESIS
2, IT SAYS A MAN LEAVES HIS
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FATHER AND HIS MOTHER
AND IS JOINED TO HIS WIFE.
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SO YOU'VE GOT FATHER AND MOTHER
- THAT'S THE ARRANGEMENT -
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MALE/FEMALE - THAT'S THE
ARRANGEMENT - THAT'S THE GENESIS
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ARRANGEMENT, REGARDLESS OF
WHAT MIGHT BE HAPPENING IN SOME
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COUNTRIES - OR EVEN OUR OWN
COUNTRY - AND I THINK THAT THIS
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IS A VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH
THAT NEEDS TO BE REITERATED.
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RECENT CNN REPORT:
MORE MILLENNIALS ARE SAYING
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'I DON'T'. TODAY'S
YOUNG ADULTS ARE ON
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TRACK TO HAVE THE LOWEST RATES
OF MARRIAGE BY AGE 40 COMPARED
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TO ANY PREVIOUS GENERATION
- ALMOST TWICE AS LOW AS THE
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GEN-XERS - THE PREVIOUS
GENERATION. IF THE CURRENT PACE
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CONTINUES, MORE THAN 30 PERCENT
OF MILLENNIAL WOMEN WILL REMAIN
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UNMARRIED BY AGE 40 -
LOWEST PERCENT OF MARRIAGE.
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NOW SOME OF THE REASONS FOR THIS
ARE MANY ARE LIVING TOGETHER
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WITHOUT GETTING MARRIED -
SORT OF JUST TRYING IT OUT.
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THEY'RE DOING IT - SORT OF DOING
THE FAMILY THING WITHOUT THE
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COVENANT. THIS IS
ALSO TRUE IN ENGLAND,
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EUROPE, MOST OF THE
WESTERN WORLD - RATES OF
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MARRIAGE ARE GOING DOWN.
ONE REASON IS THE SACREDNESS AND
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF
MARRIAGE IS UNDER ATTACK.
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IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, IF
ANYBODY AND ANYTHING CAN GET
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MARRIED - IF ONE MAN CAN MARRY
FOUR SISTERS - IF TWO MEN CAN
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GET MARRIED OR TWO WOMEN CAN GET
MARRIED OR ONE WOMAN AND TWO MEN
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- THE RELEVANCE OF MARRIAGE JUST
STARTS TO BE DILUTED SO IT JUST
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DOESN'T SEEM AS
IMPORTANT AS IT USED TO BE.
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IT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT
COVENANT - BIG OCCASION -
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WEDDINGS - THE BIBLE BEGINS AND
IT ENDS IN A WEDDING - AND IT'S
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SOMETHING SACRED AND IT'S - THIS
BOOK IS CALLED - YEP, SAYS IT
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RIGHT THERE - HOLY BIBLE.
HOLY MEANS 'SET ASIDE, SACRED,
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UNIQUE, TO BE TREATED
AS SPECIAL.' MARRIAGE IS
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CALLED HOLY
MATRIMONY. IT IS A HOLY COVENANT
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RELATIONSHIP, BUT THAT CONCEPT
IS BEING LOST BY OUR CULTURE.
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IT'S INTERESTING ALSO TO
NOTE THAT MARRIAGE RATIOS ARE
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DECLINING AT THE SAME RATE
AS CHRISTIANITY IS DECLINING.
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YOU'VE PROBABLY SEEN SOME OF THE
SURVEYS IN THE LAST DECADE THAT
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HAVE BEEN MADE THAT SHOW THAT
PEOPLE BELIEVING IN GOD IN NORTH
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AMERICA - IT'S BECOMING
MORE SECULAR - MORE ATHEISTIC.
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AT THE SAME RATE, THE IMPORTANCE
OF MARRIAGE IS GOING DOWN
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BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS
A BIBLICAL INSTITUTION.
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IT'S GOD'S IDEA, AMEN?
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NOW HAVING SAID THAT, IT STANDS
TO REASON THAT IF FEWER PEOPLE
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ARE BELIEVING IN THE COVENANT
OF MARRIAGE, THERE'S GOING TO BE
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MORE SINGLES AND
THAT'S ACTUALLY TRUE.
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WHAT ABOUT SINGLES?
I TOLD YOU I'D SAY A
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LITTLE BIT ABOUT THIS.
TODAY, ACCORDING TO A PEW
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RESEARCH STUDY, THERE ARE MORE
SINGLES IN THE UNITED STATES
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THAN AT ANY
OTHER TIME IN HISTORY.
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43.6 PERCENT OF U.S.
ADULT POPULATION IS UNMARRIED.
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OF COURSE, THOSE RATIOS ALSO
HAVE SOME IMPACT ON THE CHURCH,
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THOUGH IT MAY NOT BE GENERALLY
THE SAME PERCENTAGE IN THE
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CHURCH, THERE'S A LOT OF
PEOPLE IN THE CHURCH WHO ARE NOT
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MARRIED, BUT YOU'RE STILL PART
OF A FAMILY WHEN YOU'RE IN THE
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CHURCH. AND REALLY, IF YOU'RE A
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BELIEVER, YOU'RE NEVER SINGLE.
THE BIBLE SAYS - ISAIAH 54,
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VERSE 5, "FOR YOUR MAKER
IS YOUR HUSBAND," - AMEN?
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- "THE LORD OF HOSTS IS HIS
NAME;" - JEREMIAH 3:14 - BACK IN
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THE DAYS OF JEREMIAH - WE'RE
STUDYING THIS IN SABBATH SCHOOL
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- THE PEOPLE WERE INTERMARRYING
WITH UNBELIEVERS AND JEREMIAH
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SAID, "'RETURN, O BACKSLIDING
CHILDREN,' SAYS THE LORD; 'FOR I
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AM MARRIED TO YOU.'" THEY WERE
SAYING, 'WELL, YOU KNOW, IF WE
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CAN'T FIND SOMEBODY AMONG OUR
PEOPLE TO MARRY, LET'S MARRY ONE
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OF THE LOCAL HEATHENS.
DON'T WANT TO JUST REMAIN
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UNMARRIED - WHY, THAT WOULD
BE AWFUL.' GOD SAID, 'LOOK, I'M
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MARRIED TO YOU.' AND IF YOU'RE
NOT SURE ABOUT THE PERSON YOU'RE
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MARRYING, IT'S A LOT BETTER
BEING UNMARRIED THAN BEING
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MARRIED TO THE
WRONG PERSON. >>AMEN.
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>>I HOPE THE PERSON WHO
JUST SAID 'AMEN' IS NOT MARRIED.
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(LAUGHTER) BUT IT IS TRUE.
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PASTORS DO A LITTLE BIT
OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING - IT'S
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PROBABLY ONE OF MY LEAST
FAVORITE THINGS TO DO BECAUSE
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IT'S JUST - SOMETIMES
IT'S JUST SO HEART-RENDING.
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AND, YOU KNOW, IF PEOPLE COME TO
MARRIAGE COUNSELING AND THEY'RE
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COMMUNICATING AND
THEY'RE ARGUING, THERE'S HOPE.
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IT'S WHEN THEY SIT AND THEY
STONEWALL OR THEY DON'T WANT
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COUNSELING - THERE'S NO
COMMUNICATION - THEN YOU'VE GOT
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SERIOUS PROBLEMS. BUT
BACK TO SINGLES - YOU KNOW,
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SOME PEOPLE WAIT NOW, THEY'RE
NOT GETTING MARRIED UNTIL 40 AND
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50 FOR THE FIRST
TIME - WHICH IS UNUSUAL.
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BECAUSE THE BIBLE SAYS THAT
A MAN'LL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND
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MOTHER AND BE CLEAVED TO HIS
WIFE - THIS IS THE IDEAL, BUT IT
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DOESN'T MEAN IT'S REQUIRED.
JESUS WAS NOT MARRIED - HE WAS
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TO THE CHURCH - AND SO HE'S OUR
EXAMPLE. PAUL WAS NOT MARRIED.
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I'VE BEEN A
BATCHELOR MY WHOLE LIFE.
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YOU KNOW I COULDN'T
MISS THAT CHEAP OPPORTUNITY.
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(LAUGHTER) AND THE POPE'S
NOT MARRIED - THERE YOU GO!
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SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE MARRIED
TO HAVE A FULFILLED LIFE.
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PAUL SAYS - 1 CORINTHIANS 7,
VERSES 8 AND 9 - "BUT I SAY TO
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THE UNMARRIED AND TO THE WIDOWS:
IT IS GOOD FOR THEM IF THEY
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REMAIN EVEN AS I AM;" - NOW PAUL
MAY HAVE BEEN MARRIED AND HIS
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WIFE COULD HAVE DIED OR
SHE COULD HAVE LEFT HIM WHEN HE
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CONVERTED - THE BIBLE'S
SILENT ON THIS - WE DON'T KNOW.
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SOME HAVE SAID, YOU KNOW, HE MAY
HAVE BEEN MARRIED BECAUSE HE WAS
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PART OF THE SANHEDRIN AND
THEY BELIEVED THAT WAS REQUIRED,
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BUT WE'RE NOT SURE ABOUT THAT.
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BUT PAUL SAID - HE WASN'T
MARRIED AT THE TIME HE WROTE
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THESE THINGS - HE SAID, BETTER
IF THEY REMAIN AS I AM - "IF
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THEY CANNOT EXERCISE
SELF-CONTROL, LET THEM MARRY.
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FOR IT IS BETTER TO MARRY
THAN TO BURN WITH PASSION."
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NOW, BACK IN PAUL'S DAY, THE
ROMAN GOVERNMENT HAD DECLARED
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THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION TO BE
RELIGIO ILLICITA - THAT MEANS A
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FORBIDDEN RELIGION - AND THERE
WAS GREAT PERSECUTION - AND
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CHRISTIANS AND JEWS
WERE DRIVEN OUT OF ROME.
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CHRISTIANS WERE CONSIDERED TO
BE A SUB-SECT OF JUDAISM, SO AS
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JUDAISM BECAME VERY
UNPOPULAR, SO DID CHRISTIANITY.
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AND SO THEY WERE DRIVEN OUT OF
ROME AND THERE WAS PERSECUTION
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AND THEY WERE BEING
ARRESTED. PAUL WAS ARRESTED.
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PETER WAS ARRESTED. AND
YOU KNOW ABOUT THESE THINGS.
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AND SO PAUL SAID, 'LOOK, IF A
MAN HAS A WIFE AND CHILDREN IT'S
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HARD FOR HIM TO GO
AROUND AND TO PREACH.
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OR IF HE NEEDS TO FLEE FOR HIS
LIFE - AND SO, IN TIMES WHERE
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THERE'S GOING TO BE GREAT
PERSECUTION BECAUSE OF YOUR
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FAITH, IT MIGHT BE
BETTER TO HOLD OFF ON MARRIAGE.
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NOW, DIDN'T JESUS SAY, ON HIS
WAY TO THE CROSS, TO THE WOMEN
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OF JERUSALEM WHO WERE WEEPING,
'WEEP FOR YOURSELVES BECAUSE THE
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DAY IS COMING WHEN THEY'RE GOING
TO SAY 'WOE UNTO THOSE WHO HAVE
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CHILDREN' 'BLESSED ARE THE
WOMBS THAT DID NOT BEAR AND THE
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BREASTS THAT DID NOT NURSE,
BECAUSE IF THEY'VE DONE THESE
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THINGS IN A GREEN TREE,
WHAT WILL BE DONE IN THE DRY?'
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HE WAS THINKING ABOUT THE
DESTRUCTION AND THE TRIAL THAT
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WAS GOING TO COME ON JERUSALEM.
HE SAYS IT'D BE BETTER FOR
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YOU NOT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
AND, YOU KNOW, IN THE LAST DAYS
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'WOE UNTO THEM THAT ARE WITH
CHILD AND NURSING IF THEY HAVE
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TO FLEE FOR THEIR LIVES.' WHEN
IS THAT TIME WHEN IT'S GOING
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TO BE BETTER TO
HOLD OFF? I DON'T KNOW.
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I THINK PASTORS NEED TO BE VERY
CAREFUL ABOUT ADVISING COUPLES -
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OR SINGLES - WHEN THEY SHOULD
MARRY OR WHEN THEY SHOULD HOLD
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OFF BECAUSE GREAT
PERSECUTION COULD COME.
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YOU BETTER JUST MAKE SURE
THE LORD GUIDES YOU IN THAT, BUT
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IT'S JUST
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT.
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AND I KNOW COUPLES TODAY I'VE
TALKED TO AND THEY SAY, 'YOU
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KNOW, THE WAY THE WORLD IS
TODAY, WE'RE THINKING IT MAY NOT
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BE A GOOD IDEA TO HAVE
CHILDREN.' AND THERE ARE SINGLES
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WHO HAVE SAID, 'BECAUSE I THINK
THE LORD'S CALLED ME TO DO MORE
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ITINERANT MISSIONARY WORK,
I THINK I CAN DO MORE WITHOUT
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BEING MARRIED. AND
SO - BUT YOU'RE STILL
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PART OF GOD'S
FAMILY. AND WE JUST NEED TO
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BE SENSITIVE TO THAT. AND
IF YOU ARE ON THE MARKET AND
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THINKING ABOUT GETTING MARRIED,
PRAY - MAKE SURE THAT THE LORD
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IS LEADING - MARRY
SOMEONE IN THE FAITH.
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IF YOU'RE LOOKING AT A MAN, SEE
HOW THAT MAN TREATS HIS MOTHER.
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IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING A WOMAN,
SEE HOW SHE TREATS HER FATHER
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BECAUSE THAT'S HOW YOU'LL BE
TREATED. AND SO, JUST GO INTO
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THOSE THINGS
CAREFULLY AND PRAYERFULLY.
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IT IS ONE - YOU KNOW, THERE'S
REALLY ONLY FOUR OR FIVE VERY
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IMPORTANT THINGS THAT ARE GOING
TO HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE: ONE IS A
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BIRTH AND YOU HAD
VERY LITTLE CHOICE IN THAT.
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ANOTHER IS A MARRIAGE - BAPTISM
- AND THEN, YOU KNOW, MAYBE
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BUYING A HOUSE, GETTING A JOB
AND DYING, BUT MARRIAGE IS RIGHT
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UP THERE IN THE MOST IMPORTANT
DECISION THAT YOU CAN MAKE.
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ENTER THAT VERY, VERY CAREFULLY
AND PRAYERFULLY AND FOLLOW THE
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BIBLICAL CRITERIA.
THERE'S A LOT OF GUIDANCE
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IN THE WORD OF GOD FOR THAT.
NOW LET ME REVIEW SOME OF THE
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POINTS WE COVERED LAST WEEK AND
THEN I'M GOING TO PICK UP - WE
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DID POINTS 1 THROUGH 4 -
AND THIS IS JUST A QUICK REVIEW.
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WE TALKED ABOUT REMEMBERING
MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE COVENANT
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AND THIS IS A PROMISE THAT'S
- THERE'S NO MORE IMPORTANT
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PROMISE THAN A PROMISE MADE IN
THE PRESENCE OF GOD AND SOCIETY.
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THOSE MARRIAGE VOWS
ARE VERY IMPORTANT VOWS.
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A MARRIAGE LICENSE
IS A LEGAL DOCUMENT.
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IT IS A BINDING DOCUMENT
THAT HAS LEGAL RAMIFICATIONS.
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IF IT DOES ON EARTH, YOU
CAN BE SURE IT DOES IN HEAVEN.
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AND SO, IF YOU'RE GOING TO SAY,
'AM I GOING TO MAKE A PROMISE TO
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MAN OR A PROMISE TO GOD,
WHICH IS THE MOST IMPORTANT?
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LET ME ASK YOU.
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SOME PEOPLE DON'T CARE THAT MUCH
ABOUT THE EARTHLY COVENANT AND
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THEY KNOW THEY CAN GET A
DIVORCE, BUT THEY REMEMBER THEY
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MADE A PROMISE TO GOD
AND SO IT'S VERY IMPORTANT.
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IT'S A COVENANT.
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME.
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YOU LEAVE AND YOU CLEAVE -
YOU LEAVE YOUR FATHER AND YOUR
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MOTHER AND
CLEAVE UNTO YOUR SPOUSE.
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CONTINUE - POINT #3 -
CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP.
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YOU KNOW IT'S - YOU CAN'T SAY,
'WELL, ONCE I'VE LANDED THIS
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FISH I'M GOING TO GO ON WITH MY
OTHER INTERESTS.' IF YOU WANT TO
00:12:15.63\00:12:18.40
HAVE A HEALTHY MARRIAGE,
YOU NEED TO CONTINUE DOING THE
00:12:18.40\00:12:20.87
THINGS TO MAINTAIN THAT
FIRST LOVE THAT YOU DID IN THE
00:12:20.87\00:12:24.21
BEGINNING -
LITTLE SPECIAL SURPRISES.
00:12:24.21\00:12:27.21
NOW, KAREN WAS HERE LAST WEEK,
BUT THIS WEEK SHE'S ACTUALLY IN
00:12:27.21\00:12:30.18
MASSACHUSETTS
HELPING HER SISTER-IN-LAW.
00:12:30.18\00:12:33.75
AND SO, SINCE KAREN IS NOT HERE,
I AM AN EXPERT ON MARRIAGE THIS
00:12:33.75\00:12:36.79
WEEK. (LAUGHTER) BUT SINCE
KAREN IS GONE, I - YOU KNOW, I -
00:12:36.79\00:12:41.99
WE CALL AND TALK EVERY DAY. IT'S
SO EASY NOW BECAUSE IT'S FREE IF
00:12:41.99\00:12:45.46
YOU'VE GOT UNLIMITED MINUTES.
AND THIS WEEKEND I WAS DOING
00:12:45.46\00:12:48.53
SOME YARD WORK AND I SAW ONE OF
OUR ROSES WAS A LATE BLOOMER BUT
00:12:48.53\00:12:51.27
IT WAS PERFECT SO I TOOK
THE ROSE, I PUT IT IN A VASE,
00:12:51.27\00:12:53.57
AND I'VE ACTUALLY GOT A DOUG
BATCHELOR STATUE - I BET NOBODY
00:12:53.57\00:12:57.24
HAS THEIR OWN DOUG
BATCHELOR BOBBLE HEAD, BUT I DO.
00:12:57.24\00:13:00.38
I'VE GOT - ONE OF OUR
SUPPORTERS THOUGHT IT WAS NEAT.
00:13:00.38\00:13:02.68
HE TOOK A PICTURE OF ME, HE SENT
IT TO SOMEBODY, AND THEY MADE A
00:13:02.68\00:13:04.68
DOUG BATCHELOR BOBBLE HEAD.
NOW I'M NOT ENDORSING IDOLATRY,
00:13:04.68\00:13:08.08
BUT IT'S REALLY FUNNY. AND
SO I TOOK MY DOUG BATCHELOR
00:13:08.08\00:13:12.22
- ANY OF YOU BEEN TO OUR OFFICE
AND SEEN - BONNIE'S GOT ONE ON
00:13:12.22\00:13:14.39
HER DESK, YEAH,
THEY GAVE US TWO OF THEM.
00:13:14.39\00:13:16.16
SO I TOOK MY DOUG BATCHELOR
BOBBLE HEAD AND I PUT IT NEXT TO
00:13:16.16\00:13:18.39
THE FLOWER AND I TOOK A PICTURE
OF IT AND I SENT IT TO KAREN AND
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I SAID - A LITTLE ROSEBUD -
I SAID, 'THIS BUD'S FOR YOU.'
00:13:20.83\00:13:22.96
(LAUGHTER) AND SO, YOU KNOW,
JUST - I COULDN'T GIVE IT TO HER
00:13:22.96\00:13:27.07
AND SHE SAID, 'AW, I WISH I
COULD HAVE SMELLED IT.' AND SO
00:13:27.07\00:13:28.90
FORTH, BUT THOSE LITTLE THINGS
- IT DIDN'T COST ANYTHING - YOU
00:13:28.90\00:13:33.51
KNOW, THOSE LITTLE THINGS
- LITTLE ROMANTIC INTERESTS -
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YOU SAY YOU'RE
THINKING ABOUT THEM.
00:13:36.34\00:13:38.88
AND, YOU KNOW, GUYS, WHEN YOUR
MOTHER'S DAY COMES ALONG OR YOUR
00:13:38.88\00:13:45.32
WIFE'S BIRTHDAY AND YOU GO AND
YOU BUY HER A WASHING MACHINE
00:13:45.32\00:13:48.46
AND - (LAUGHTER) AND SHE
PROBABLY APPRECIATES THAT, BUT
00:13:48.46\00:13:53.70
SHE'S GOING TO WASH YOUR DIRTY
CLOTHES. OR YOU BUY HER A WAFFLE
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IRON TO MAKE YOU BIGGER WAFFLES.
YOU MIGHT GET FARTHER BY JUST
00:13:56.90\00:14:01.90
GIVING THEM A FLOWER BECAUSE
THEY KNOW THAT'S JUST FOR THEM,
00:14:01.90\00:14:05.14
HOPEFULLY. ALRIGHT,
AND SO - AND THEN GUARD
00:14:05.14\00:14:09.24
YOUR THOUGHTS WAS POINT NUMBER
4 IN OUR LAST PRESENTATION.
00:14:09.24\00:14:12.81
A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE TROUBLE IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE OF
00:14:12.81\00:14:16.92
WHAT'S HAPPENING
WITH THEIR THINKING.
00:14:16.92\00:14:18.15
MAYBE THEY'RE ALWAYS
SUSPICIOUS - THERE'S NO TRUST.
00:14:18.15\00:14:20.72
THEY'RE THINKING
THINGS THAT AREN'T EVEN REAL.
00:14:20.72\00:14:22.86
AND I REMEMBER ONE FRIEND I HAD
- I DIDN'T MEAN TO ELABORATE ON
00:14:22.86\00:14:27.30
THAT PAST POINT, BUT
THIS JUST CAME TO MY MIND.
00:14:27.30\00:14:29.86
I WAS DOING A BIBLE
STUDY WITH A FRIEND - THIS WAS
00:14:29.86\00:14:32.83
YEARS AGO - AND - GOOD GUY -
BUT HIS WIFE SPENT A LOT OF TIME
00:14:32.83\00:14:38.11
WATCHING SOAP OPERAS
AND EVERYBODY'S CHEATING ON
00:14:38.11\00:14:41.54
EVERYBODY IN THE SOAP OPERAS.
00:14:41.54\00:14:43.68
AND SHE JUST HAD IT IN HER MIND
THAT MAYBE HE'S HAVING AN AFFAIR
00:14:43.68\00:14:46.61
BECAUSE ON TV THEY WERE HIDING
IT SO SUCCESSFULLY SHE THOUGHT,
00:14:46.61\00:14:50.19
'WELL, IT COULD BE HIM.' AND I
CAME BACK TO HIS HOUSE WITH HIM
00:14:50.19\00:14:54.32
FROM THE BIBLE
STUDY AND SHE WAS MAD.
00:14:54.32\00:14:56.69
AND SHE'S LOOKING AT HIS COLLAR
FOR LIPSTICK AND SNIFFING HIM
00:14:56.69\00:14:59.59
FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S PERFUME
AND - IT WAS ALL IN HER HEAD.
00:14:59.59\00:15:03.16
THIS THINKING - AND THE DEVIL
WILL TRY TO - THERE ARE REAL
00:15:03.16\00:15:06.77
PROBLEMS - THE DEVIL WILL TRY
AND SOMETIMES MANUFACTURE UNREAL
00:15:06.77\00:15:11.61
PROBLEMS WHEN THERE'S A LACK OF
TRUST OR WHEN YOU THINK YOU'VE
00:15:11.61\00:15:15.78
BEEN SLIGHTED OR YOU'RE
UNDER-APPRECIATED AND YOU JUST
00:15:15.78\00:15:18.71
KEEP DWELLING ON THESE THINGS.
AND SO, DON'T LET THE DEVIL
00:15:18.71\00:15:21.22
CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS, GIVE
YOURSELF TO THE SPIRIT OF GOD.
00:15:21.22\00:15:24.35
ALRIGHT, NOW WE'RE ENTERING
ON TO THE REMAINING POINTS.
00:15:24.35\00:15:27.06
POINT NUMBER 5) - AND WE HAVE
12 TOTAL - I'VE TRUNCATED WHAT
00:15:27.06\00:15:30.26
COULD BE A VERY
LONG SERIES ON MARRIAGE.
00:15:30.26\00:15:34.13
FORGIVE QUICKLY. YOU
NOTICE I DIDN'T SAY FORGIVE
00:15:34.13\00:15:38.60
IN CASE THERE'S A
REASON TO FORGIVE?
00:15:38.60\00:15:40.47
THERE ARE GOING
TO BE DISAGREEMENTS.
00:15:40.47\00:15:44.47
I HEARD SOMEONE SAY ONE TIME,
'JUST SUPPOSE - IMAGINE THAT YOU
00:15:44.47\00:15:47.28
COULD MARRY AN IDENTICAL CLONE
OF YOU - OF COURSE THE OPPOSITE
00:15:47.28\00:15:52.98
SEX, BUT IDENTICAL IN EVERY
OTHER WAY - SAME THOUGHTS, SAME
00:15:52.98\00:15:57.95
LIKES, GOT YOUR PERSONALITY -
IF YOU COULD CLONE YOUR OPPOSITE
00:15:57.95\00:16:01.56
AND MARRY THEM,
WOULD YOU BE HAPPY?
00:16:01.56\00:16:07.00
WHEN YOU GOT TO THAT LAST EAR OF
CORN, WOULD YOU ALWAYS SAY, 'NO,
00:16:07.00\00:16:10.73
YOU.' 'NO, YOU TAKE IT.' 'NO,
YOU.' OR WOULD THERE EVER BE
00:16:10.73\00:16:15.20
MOMENTS OF
SELFISHNESS? WOULD YOU HAVE AN
00:16:15.20\00:16:16.57
ARGUMENT WITH YOURSELF?
SOME OF YOU MIGHT EVEN WANT TO
00:16:16.57\00:16:19.91
FILE DIVORCE IF YOU
WERE MARRIED TO YOU.
00:16:19.91\00:16:21.71
(LAUGHTER) AND SO, YOU KNOW,
THIS IDEA THAT THAT PERSON ISN'T
00:16:21.71\00:16:26.08
AS PERFECT AS THEY COULD BE AND
THERE'S GOING TO BE NO PROBLEMS.
00:16:26.08\00:16:29.02
IF YOU WERE MARRIED TO A PERFECT
CLONE OF YOU, YOU MIGHT HAVE
00:16:29.02\00:16:31.09
MORE PROBLEMS. SO
THERE'S GOING TO BE PROBLEMS
00:16:31.09\00:16:35.36
AND YOU'VE GOT TO LEARN TO
FORGIVE AND FORGIVE QUICKLY.
00:16:35.36\00:16:40.13
THE BIBLE SAYS TO CONFESS YOUR
FAULTS TO ONE ANOTHER AND PRAY
00:16:40.13\00:16:44.20
FOR ONE ANOTHER - AND THAT'S
ESPECIALLY TRUE IN A MARRIAGE
00:16:44.20\00:16:47.87
RELATIONSHIP. WHEN THERE ARE
THESE PROBLEMS, DEAL WITH THEM
00:16:47.87\00:16:54.01
AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.
NOW I'VE TOLD KAREN, I SAID,
00:16:54.01\00:16:59.71
'YOU KNOW, WHEN I GET MAD, JUST
- SOMETIMES I NEED TO BE MAD AND
00:16:59.71\00:17:03.15
JUST LET IT COOL
OFF AND WE'LL BE OKAY.
00:17:03.15\00:17:05.45
DON'T TRY AND FIX IT RIGHT AWAY
- I WON'T BE MAD FOR DAYS, BUT
00:17:05.45\00:17:08.09
JUST, YOU KNOW, LET ME GO STOMP
AROUND AND BE MAD AND THEN I'LL
00:17:08.09\00:17:10.59
BE ALRIGHT AND I JUST NEED
MY TIME FOR THAT.' BUT THE BIBLE
00:17:10.59\00:17:14.66
SAYS, 'DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN
ON YOUR WRATH.' AND SOME COUPLES
00:17:14.66\00:17:17.30
STAY MAD FOR A LONG TIME AND
I CAN TELL YOU THAT, WHILE WE'VE
00:17:17.30\00:17:21.70
HAD OUR DISAGREEMENTS, WE'VE
ALWAYS SLEPT IN THE SAME BED.
00:17:21.70\00:17:25.37
WE HAVE AN EXTRA DOUBLE MAGNUM
SPECTACULAR KING-SIZED BED SO
00:17:25.37\00:17:34.72
WE'VE GOT A LOT OF REAL ESTATE
AT TIMES BETWEEN THE TWO SIDES
00:17:34.72\00:17:37.32
OF THE BED (LAUGHTER) BUT ALWAYS
- I THINK ONCE OR TWICE WE'VE
00:17:37.32\00:17:41.69
GONE TO LEONI MEADOWS AND,
YOU KNOW, THOSE BEDS ARE PRETTY
00:17:41.69\00:17:44.23
SMALL THERE AND I WOKE UP AND
SHE WAS IN THE OTHER BED, BUT IT
00:17:44.23\00:17:47.50
WAS NOTHING PER - NO ARGUMENT
THERE, THERE JUST WASN'T ROOM TO
00:17:47.50\00:17:50.43
THRASH AROUND. AND
SO, YOU DON'T WANT TO LET
00:17:50.43\00:17:54.84
THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.
THAT MEANS DEAL WITH THINGS
00:17:54.84\00:17:57.94
AT THE END OF THE
DAY. HIS MERCIES ARE NEW
00:17:57.94\00:18:00.98
EVERY MORNING, RIGHT? THE
BIBLE SAYS - FOR US - THEY
00:18:00.98\00:18:03.85
SHOULD BE NEW FOR EACH OTHER.
AND SO, IT'S A GOOD IDEA TO
00:18:03.85\00:18:08.08
JUST SETTLE THOSE THINGS.
SOMEONE ASKED A COUPLE THAT HAD
00:18:08.08\00:18:10.42
BEEN MARRIED FOR 60
YEARS TO WHAT THEY OWED THEIR
00:18:10.42\00:18:14.32
LONG AND HAPPY MARRIAGE.
AND THE OLD RANCHER SAID, 'WE
00:18:14.32\00:18:17.26
MADE UP OUR MINDS EARLY ON THAT
WE WOULD NEVER LET THE SUN GO
00:18:17.26\00:18:20.13
DOWN - WE'D NEVER SLEEP IF
WE STILL HAD AN ARGUMENT.' AND
00:18:20.13\00:18:25.57
HE SAID, 'THERE WERE WEEKS
WE DIDN'T SLEEP.' (LAUGHTER) BUT
00:18:25.57\00:18:29.17
- DON'T LET THE SUN
GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.
00:18:29.17\00:18:33.44
PHILIPPIANS 3:13, "...FORGETTING
THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE BEHIND."
00:18:33.44\00:18:38.11
YOU KNOW, ONCE YOU HAVE
FORGIVEN, YOU MAY STILL REMEMBER
00:18:38.11\00:18:41.18
THERE WAS AN OFFENSE AND SOME
OF THESE MAY BE VERY SERIOUS AND
00:18:41.18\00:18:43.72
SOMETIMES IN AN ARGUMENT PEOPLE
HAVE UTTERED THINGS THAT ARE
00:18:43.72\00:18:46.89
VERY CRUEL AND THEY LEAVE SCARS
AND IT'S HARD TO FORGET, BUT
00:18:46.89\00:18:50.23
YOU'VE GOT TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE
NOT TO REMEMBER AND DON'T KEEP
00:18:50.23\00:18:54.30
BRINGING IT UP. IF
SOMEONE SAYS, 'I AM SORRY'
00:18:54.30\00:18:56.56
AND YOU'VE FORGIVEN THEM, THEN
THE NEXT TIME AN ARGUMENT COMES
00:18:56.56\00:18:59.07
AROUND, DON'T DIG AROUND IN
THAT OLD FORGIVEN BAG AND PULL
00:18:59.07\00:19:02.37
THOSE THINGS BACK
OUT AGAIN. THAT'S UNFAIR.
00:19:02.37\00:19:05.27
THAT'S AGAINST THE
RULES, AMEN? >>AMEN.
00:19:05.27\00:19:07.38
>>DO YOU WANT THE
LORD TO DO THAT WITH YOU?
00:19:07.38\00:19:09.34
HE CASTS YOUR SINS IN THE DEPTHS
OF THE SEA - AND YOU NEED TO BE
00:19:09.34\00:19:12.55
WILLING - IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU'VE
FORGOTTEN, IT MEANS YOU CHOOSE
00:19:12.55\00:19:15.22
NOT TO REMEMBER THOSE THINGS.
EPHESIANS 4:32, "AND BE KIND TO
00:19:15.22\00:19:20.86
ONE ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED,
FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER," - HOW?
00:19:20.86\00:19:24.53
- "EVEN AS GOD IN
CHRIST FORGAVE YOU."
00:19:24.53\00:19:29.46
I'VE SEEN COUPLES COME TO CHURCH
- I WAS INVOLVED IN COUNSELING
00:19:29.46\00:19:32.77
THEM AT THE TIME AND I KNEW THAT
THERE WAS A CHALLENGE AND THEY
00:19:32.77\00:19:37.64
ACTUALLY WOULD STILL COME TO
CHURCH - THEY HAD TWO CHILDREN -
00:19:37.64\00:19:40.44
AND ONE SAT ON ONE SIDE OF THE
CHURCH WITH ONE CHILD AND ONE
00:19:40.44\00:19:43.04
SAT ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE
CHURCH AND, NOT ONLY WAS THEIR
00:19:43.04\00:19:45.81
ANGER HURTING THEM, IT
WAS HURTING THE KIDS - IT WAS
00:19:45.81\00:19:51.59
HURTING THE WHOLE
CHURCH AND THAT OUGHT NOT BE.
00:19:51.59\00:19:56.99
YOU NEED TO DEAL WITH THESE
THINGS TOGETHER AND FORGIVE EACH
00:19:56.99\00:19:59.49
OTHER. WHY? IT'S
KIND OF A CONTRADICTION TO
00:19:59.49\00:20:04.07
COME TO CHURCH AND NOT SIT
WITH THE PERSON - THE BIBLE SAYS
00:20:04.07\00:20:07.40
'LOVE YOUR ENEMIES' - IT
SAYS 'LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS'.
00:20:07.40\00:20:12.91
I WOULD THINK THAT YOUR SPOUSE
COULD QUALIFY AS AT LEAST ONE
00:20:12.91\00:20:16.68
LEVEL HIGHER THAN YOUR
NEIGHBOR AND YOUR ENEMY.
00:20:16.68\00:20:20.05
SO SIT TOGETHER
- WORK THINGS OUT.
00:20:20.05\00:20:22.48
IF YOU FORGIVE MEN THEIR
TRESPASSES, JESUS SAID IN
00:20:22.48\00:20:25.42
MATTHEW 6:14, YOUR HEAVENLY
FATHER WILL FORGIVE YOU.
00:20:25.42\00:20:29.26
IF YOU DO NOT FORGIVE MEN
THEIR TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL
00:20:29.26\00:20:32.53
YOUR FATHER IN
HEAVEN FORGIVE YOU.
00:20:32.53\00:20:34.46
IF YOU CANNOT FORGIVE YOUR
SPOUSE, YOU ARE BURNING THE
00:20:34.46\00:20:37.57
BRIDGE OVER WHICH
YOU MUST PASS TO HEAVEN.
00:20:37.57\00:20:41.17
AND SO, IT IS VERY IMPORTANT
THAT YOU LEARN TO FORGIVE.
00:20:41.17\00:20:44.04
NOW DON'T TURN TO YOUR SPOUSE
AND MAKE A FIST AND POINT A
00:20:44.04\00:20:46.81
FINGER AND SAY, 'SEE, YOU'VE GOT
TO FORGIVE ME.' FORGIVENESS MUST
00:20:46.81\00:20:49.74
COME FROM THE HEART.
BUT IT IS VERY IMPORTANT IF
00:20:49.74\00:20:52.95
YOU'RE GOING TO BE A CHRISTIAN.
IT'S A FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH, AMEN?
00:20:52.95\00:20:56.35
AND THE OTHER THING IS THAT WHEN
YOU DO FINALLY APOLOGIZE AND
00:20:56.35\00:21:01.06
MAKE UP, MAKING UP CAN BE
FUN. SO JUST GET IT OVER WITH.
00:21:01.06\00:21:05.56
IT FEELS GOOD WHEN YOU MAKE
PEACE. 6) REGULAR DEVOTIONS.
00:21:05.56\00:21:12.87
THIS MAYBE SHOULD HAVE BEEN
NUMBER 1, BUT YOU WANT THE LORD
00:21:12.87\00:21:16.91
AND HIS WORD TO BE THE
FOUNDATION IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
00:21:16.91\00:21:21.71
PSALM 127, VERSE 1, "EXCEPT THE
LORD BUILD THE HOUSE, THEY LABOR
00:21:21.71\00:21:25.78
IN VAIN WHO BUILD IT."
AND SO, I REALIZE SOME OF YOU
00:21:25.78\00:21:30.35
MAY BE MARRIED TO A PERSON WHO'S
OUTSIDE THE FAITH OR THEY'VE
00:21:30.35\00:21:33.29
DRIFTED FROM THE FAITH AND THOSE
ARE DEFINITELY MORE CHALLENGING,
00:21:33.29\00:21:38.13
YOU NEED TO MAINTAIN
YOUR PERSONAL DEVOTIONS.
00:21:38.13\00:21:41.00
BUT IF YOU HAVE TWO PEOPLE THAT
ARE UNITED IN THEIR FAITH, HAVE
00:21:41.00\00:21:45.23
REGULAR DEVOTIONS AS A
FAMILY. CONTINUE TO HAVE
00:21:45.23\00:21:48.30
PERSONAL DEVOTIONS. IN
OUR FAMILY, I HAVE MY OWN
00:21:48.30\00:21:51.54
PRIVATE DEVOTIONS EVERY DAY
AND KAREN - SHE STAYS UPSTAIRS,
00:21:51.54\00:21:55.61
I GO DOWNSTAIRS - SHE'S GOT A
BIBLE-READING THING SHE'S DOING
00:21:55.61\00:21:57.78
- BUT THEN WE PRAY
TOGETHER AND WE READ TOGETHER.
00:21:57.78\00:22:00.95
WHEN THE KIDS WERE HOME - OF
COURSE, NATHAN JUST TOOK OFF AND
00:22:00.95\00:22:04.22
SO WE'VE GOT EMPTY
NEST - WE'RE STILL DOING IT.
00:22:04.22\00:22:06.15
WE HAVE DEVOTION TOGETHER. I
DON'T EACH MUCH BREAKFAST, BUT
00:22:06.15\00:22:09.49
WHEN KAREN'S EATING BREAKFAST
I'LL READ TO HER WHILE SHE EATS.
00:22:09.49\00:22:12.23
AND SO YOU - AND YOU HAVE
A QUICK PRAYER - YOU'RE JUST
00:22:12.23\00:22:13.86
SAYING, 'GOD IS THE - HE
IS THE - THE NORTH POLE IN OUR
00:22:13.86\00:22:18.07
RELATIONSHIP.' AND
YOU ESTABLISH THAT.
00:22:18.07\00:22:20.57
YOU'VE HEARD IT SAID BEFORE,
'THE FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER'
00:22:20.57\00:22:23.71
- WHAT'S THE REST OF
THAT? >>STAYS TOGETHER.
00:22:23.71\00:22:25.67
>>A LOT OF TRUTH TO THAT.
YOU KNOW, IN NEW YORK THEY JUST
00:22:25.67\00:22:29.24
COMPLETED, A COUPLE OF
YEARS AGO, THE REPLACEMENT FOR
00:22:29.24\00:22:31.61
WHAT WAS THE TWIN TOWERS.
IT'S STILL 1 WORLD TRADE CENTER.
00:22:31.61\00:22:34.95
IT'S ALSO KNOWN AS THE FREEDOM
TOWER. IT'S THE LARGEST BUILDING
00:22:34.95\00:22:38.65
IN THE WESTERN
HEMISPHERE - 1776 FEET TALL.
00:22:38.65\00:22:42.56
WHEN - I WATCHED AS
THEY WERE BUILDING THAT.
00:22:42.56\00:22:45.73
THERE NEAR GROUND ZERO THEY
ACTUALLY BLASTED INTO THE ROCK -
00:22:45.73\00:22:50.03
BECAUSE MANHATTAN'S A ROCK
- THEY WENT DOWN 70 FEET INTO
00:22:50.03\00:22:53.80
BEDROCK AND THEY LAID A
CORNERSTONE OF GRANITE THAT IS
00:22:53.80\00:22:56.34
20 TONS AND IT IS PROBABLY
THE MOST SECURE BUILDING IN THE
00:22:56.34\00:23:00.68
WORLD TODAY. IT IS
BUILT IN A WAY - I DON'T
00:23:00.68\00:23:04.01
KNOW IF YOU LOOKED INTO HOW THEY
BUILT THAT THING, BUT IT'S GOT A
00:23:04.01\00:23:06.01
CONCRETE CORE THAT GOES RIGHT UP
THROUGH THE MIDDLE OF IT - YOU
00:23:06.01\00:23:08.48
CAN HIT IT WITH ANOTHER
PLANE - IT WON'T COME DOWN.
00:23:08.48\00:23:10.69
I'M HOPING NOBODY TESTS THAT,
BUT THAT'S WHAT THEY'RE SAYING.
00:23:10.69\00:23:13.99
IT'S GOT A CONCRETE CORE THAT'S
THICKER THAN ANY BANK VOLT, THAT
00:23:13.99\00:23:17.03
GOES ALL THE WAY - BANK VAULT -
THAT GOES ALL THE WAY UP THROUGH
00:23:17.03\00:23:20.76
THE BUILDING AND IT'S GOT A VERY
MASSIVE FOUNDATION TO SUPPORT
00:23:20.76\00:23:24.73
ALL OF THAT CONCRETE AND STEEL.
WELL, YOU NEED TO HAVE A GOOD
00:23:24.73\00:23:30.01
FOUNDATION IN YOUR
FAMILY AND IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
00:23:30.01\00:23:34.01
LUKE 6:48 - MAN WHO'S GOING TO
SURVIVE THE STORM BUILDS A HOUSE
00:23:34.01\00:23:39.65
AND HE DIGS DEEP AND LAYS
THE FOUNDATION ON THE ROCK.
00:23:39.65\00:23:42.65
WHO'S THE ROCK? >>JESUS.
00:23:42.65\00:23:45.12
>>1 CORINTHIANS 3:11, "FOR NO
OTHER FOUNDATION CAN ANYONE LAY
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THAN THAT WHICH IS
LAID, WHICH IS JESUS CHRIST."
00:23:48.52\00:23:51.06
SO OUR FAMILIES, OUR CHILDREN,
AND IN OUR COMMUNICATION WITH
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OUR SPOUSE, WE NEED TO JUST
ALWAYS BE RECOGNIZING THAT WE
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ARE EVER ON A
JOURNEY TOWARDS GOD.
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AND, AS I MENTIONED LAST WEEK,
IT'S JUST SORT OF A GEOMETRIC
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TRUTH THAT AS YOU'VE GOT TWO
OBJECTS THAT ARE MOVING TOWARDS
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A COMMON OBJECT, THEY INVARIABLY
MUST MOVE TOWARDS EACH OTHER.
00:24:08.44\00:24:13.45
AND IF JESUS IS THE AXLE IN THE
MIDDLE OF YOUR UNIVERSE AND YOU
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ARE MOVING TOWARDS HIM AND YOUR
SPOUSE IS MOVING TOWARDS HIM,
00:24:18.22\00:24:21.32
YOU CANNOT HELP BUT
MOVE CLOSER TO EACH OTHER.
00:24:21.32\00:24:24.49
AND SO, IF YOU KEEP CHRIST THE
FOUNDATION AND IF YOU KEEP HIM
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THE CENTER, THAT IS GOING TO
SOLVE SO MANY PROBLEMS, BECAUSE
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IF YOU'VE GOT THE MIND OF GOD,
YOU ARE MOVING TOWARDS THE UNITY
00:24:31.23\00:24:36.00
THAT JESUS HAS WITH THE FATHER.
YOU KNOW, JESUS PRAYED FOR THE
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CHURCH, THAT WE MIGHT BE ONE
AS HE AND THE FATHER ARE ONE?
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AND CERTAINLY, IF IT'S TRUE IN
A CHURCH FAMILY, IT IS TRUE IN A
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MARRIED FAMILY, THAT WE
MOVE TOWARDS CHRIST, AMEN?
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KEEP HIM AS THE FOUNDATION.
KEEP HIM AS THE CENTER.
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HAVE FAMILY WORSHIP.
WE'RE STILL UNDER THAT POINT
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UNDER REGULAR DEVOTIONS.
DEUTERONOMY 11 - IF THERE'S
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CHILDREN, IN PARTICULAR - VERSE
19, "YOU SHALL TEACH THEM TO
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YOUR CHILDREN, SPEAKING OF THEM
WHEN YOU SIT IN YOUR HOUSE, WHEN
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YOU WALK BY THE WAY, WHEN YOU
LIE DOWN, AND WHEN YOU RISE UP."
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IN OUR FAMILY, WE'VE GOT
SCRIPTURES ON THE WALL, WE'VE
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GOT BIBLE
PROMISES IN THE KITCHEN.
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YOU PROBABLY ALL HAVE THINGS
STUCK TO YOUR REFRIGERATOR THAT
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TALK ABOUT - AND IT'S
GOOD TO HAVE THE KIDS SEE THAT.
00:25:22.58\00:25:26.86
MATTER OF FACT, WE IMPRESSED
THEM WITH THAT TRUTH SO MUCH
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THAT ONE DAY NATHAN WANTED TO
REMEMBER VERSES WHEN HE WAS LIKE
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8 OR 9 YEARS OLD AND HE
TOOK A BLACK MAGIC MARKER IN HIS
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BEDROOM AND ON HIS VERY NICE OAK
BEDROOM FURNITURE HE WROTE ALL
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THESE MEMORY VERSES.
AND WHEN I WALKED IN AND SAW
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WHAT HE HAD DONE I WENT, 'OH!
WHAT'D YOU DO?' AND KAREN CAME
00:25:48.84\00:25:53.42
IN - SHE'S TUGGING ON ME GOING,
'DOUG, HE WROTE SCRIPTURE.
00:25:53.42\00:25:56.38
DOUG, JUST DON'T - HE MEANT
WELL.' HE WAS SO UPSET I SAID,
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'OKAY.' - TO THIS VERY DAY HIS
BED, YOU KNOW, HE'S 19 YEARS OLD
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NOW - HE WROTE THESE
SCRIPTURE VERSES ON HIS BED.
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I THOUGHT, 'WELL, AT LEAST WE
IMPRESSED HIM THAT YOU SURROUND
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YOURSELF WITH THE WORD OF GOD.
YOU NEED TO HAVE FAMILY WORSHIP
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AND, OF COURSE,
PRAY FOR YOUR FOOD.
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THANK GOD FOR YOUR MEALS, BUT
FAMILY WORSHIP SHOULD BE MORE
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THAN JUST THAT.
ATTEND CHURCH TOGETHER.
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CORPORATE WORSHIP - NOT ONLY
ON THE SABBATH, BUT OTHER CHURCH
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MEETINGS - YOU'LL BE SENDING
A SIGNAL TO YOUR SPOUSE AND TO
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YOUR CHILDREN THAT GOD IS A
PRIORITY AND HIS MISSION - YOU
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GO ONCE A WEEK ALL THE TIME
AND IF THAT'S ALL YOU DO, IT'S
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ALMOST LIKE I'M
PUTTING IN MY TIME.
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I'M FULFILLING MY OBLIGATION.
BUT IF YOU WANT TO GO BEYOND AND
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SAY, 'WHAT IS THE
MISSION OF GOD AND THE WORLD?'
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THAT'S WHEN YOU START GOING
TO THE OTHER MEETINGS - THE
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EVANGELISM MEETINGS AND
THE OUTREACH AND THE PRAYER
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MEETINGS. BUT MAKE
CHURCH A BIG PART OF YOUR LIFE.
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HEBREWS 10:24, "AND LET US
CONSIDER ONE ANOTHER IN ORDER TO
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STIR UP LOVE AND GOOD WORKS,
NOT FORSAKING THE ASSEMBLING OF
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OURSELVES TOGETHER, AS IS THE
MANNER OF SOME, BUT EXHORTING
00:27:03.05\00:27:06.49
ONE ANOTHER," - THAT MEANS
ENCOURAGING - REMINDING ONE
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ANOTHER - "AND SO MUCH MORE
AS YOU SEE THE DAY APPROACHING."
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DO WE SEE THE DAY OF
THE LORD APPROACHING?
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>>AMEN. >>THAT'S
ALL THE MORE WE SHOULD
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ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER AND STIR
EACH OTHER UP TO COME TOGETHER
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AND TO WORSHIP TOGETHER. >>AMEN.
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>>PHILIPPIANS 4:7 - AND IF YOU
DO THIS "...THE PEACE OF GOD,
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WHICH SURPASSES ALL
UNDERSTANDING, WILL GUARD YOUR
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HEARTS AND MINDS
THROUGH CHRIST JESUS."
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DON'T BE AFRAID, WHEN YOU
PRAY TOGETHER, TO PRAY ALOUD.
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AND IT'S APPROPRIATE, IF YOUR
HEALTH AND YOUR BODY STILL CAN
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DO IT, KNEEL BEFORE GOD.
YOU'LL BE TEACHING A LESSON OF
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REVERENCE TO YOUR
CHILDREN WHEN YOU TAKE SOME TIME
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TOGETHER AND YOU KNEEL. AT
LEAST ONCE A DAY - I THINK A
00:27:44.23\00:27:46.63
FAMILY, IF THEY CAN DO IT,
GET ON THEIR KNEES BEFORE GOD.
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IT'S AN ACT OF WORSHIP.
IT'S AN ACT OF SUBMISSION AND
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I THINK THAT'S VERY IMPORTANT.
OKAY, COMMUNICATE - POINT
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NUMBER 7 - COMMUNICATION.
WE TALKED ABOUT FORGIVENESS -
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FORGIVENESS IS THE
REPAIR KIT FOR MARRIAGE.
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YOU WILL NOT NEED NEARLY
AS MANY REPAIRS IF YOU DO THE
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COMMUNICATING -
YOU'LL AVOID THE BREAKDOWNS.
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AND SO, COMMUNICATING IS ONE
OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS.
00:28:09.85\00:28:13.15
WE ARE LIVING IN A VERY BUSY
WORLD TODAY - BUSIER THAN ANY
00:28:13.15\00:28:16.83
OTHER TIME - AND PEOPLE
TRAVEL MORE THAN ANY OTHER TIME.
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IT USED TO BE MARRIED COUPLES
KIND OF LIVED - YOU KNOW, THE
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FAMILY - THEY WERE IN THE SHOE
FIXING BUSINESS AND EVERYONE
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WORKED IN THE SHOE SHOP - OR THE
HAT SHOP OR THE FARM AND YOU'D,
00:28:26.30\00:28:29.54
YOU KNOW, SIT NEXT TO YOUR WIFE
AND YOU'D MILK THE COW AND SHE'D
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MILK THE GOAT AND YOU WERE
WITH EACH OTHER OUT IN THE FIELD
00:28:32.41\00:28:34.91
PLANTING AND SOWING - HARVESTING
- AND THERE WAS SO MUCH
00:28:34.91\00:28:38.51
OPPORTUNITY TO COMMUNICATE.
AND BACK AROUND THE TURN OF THE
00:28:38.51\00:28:41.55
CENTURY THERE WAS ONE DIVORCE IN
AMERICA FOR EVERY 32 MARRIAGES.
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NOW IT'S CLOSE TO 50 PERCENT.
00:28:46.82\00:28:49.32
BUT THAT'S BACK WHEN EVERYBODY
- THE FAMILIES WERE - YOU HAD TO
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COMMUNICATE - AND MAYBE THEY
EVEN FOUGHT MORE, BUT YOU KNOW,
00:28:52.46\00:28:58.33
THEY DID A STUDY
THAT CAME OUT IN 2012.
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THEY FOUND THAT COUPLES
THAT FIGHT ONCE A WEEK ARE MORE
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INCLINED TO STAY TOGETHER
THAN COUPLES THAT DON'T.
00:29:06.94\00:29:10.58
AND THEY FIGURED THE REASON
WAS THEY WERE COMMUNICATING.
00:29:10.58\00:29:14.08
NOW I'M NOT RECOMMENDING
WE ALL JUST START PLANNING AND
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SCHEDULING FIGHTS, (LAUGHTER)
I'M JUST SAYING - AND, YOU KNOW,
00:29:16.25\00:29:19.92
IT IS IMPORTANT TO SHARE.
00:29:19.92\00:29:22.29
ONE - I'VE SEEN IT MANY TIMES,
WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN A COUPLE -
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I'LL GET A CALL FROM A
HUSBAND OR WIFE, 'I DON'T KNOW.
00:29:26.66\00:29:30.03
I NEVER SAW IT
COMING. I JUST GOT A NOTE.
00:29:30.03\00:29:32.87
SHE'S FILED FOR DIVORCE. I
DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON.
00:29:32.87\00:29:35.27
I NEVER SAW IT COMING.' I
SAID, 'WERE YOU GUYS ARGUING?'
00:29:35.27\00:29:38.81
'NO.' WELL, ONE PARTNER
WAS BOTTLING IT ALL UP AND THEY
00:29:38.81\00:29:44.85
FINALLY GOT WHERE THEY
COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.
00:29:44.85\00:29:47.28
AND THAT'S WHEN
THESE THINGS HAPPEN.
00:29:47.28\00:29:49.48
SHARE HOW YOU FEEL. DO IT NOW.
00:29:49.48\00:29:51.89
AS CHRISTIANS - YOU KNOW, THE
WORLD SAYS, 'YEAH, HAVE A GOOD
00:29:51.89\00:29:53.99
ARGUMENT ONCE A WEEK.' BUT WE
OUGHT TO BE DOING IT IN A LOVING
00:29:53.99\00:29:57.93
WAY, YOU KNOW? A SOFT
ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH.
00:29:57.93\00:30:01.63
BUT YOU OUGHT TO BE EXPRESSING
AND SAY, 'YOU KNOW, I JUST NEED
00:30:01.63\00:30:04.03
TO LET...I DON'T WANT...WHEN YOU
DO THAT, THAT BOTHERS ME.' AND
00:30:04.03\00:30:08.87
'OH, I'M SORRY. I
DIDN'T KNOW.' AND SO YOU CAN
00:30:08.87\00:30:11.24
TALK AND COMMUNICATE
- SHARE HOW YOU FEEL.
00:30:11.24\00:30:13.27
TALK ABOUT YOUR DAY AND WHAT YOU
DID AND - YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE
00:30:13.27\00:30:16.85
CALLS IT QUALITY - NO, THE BIBLE
DOESN'T CALL IT QUALITY TIME -
00:30:16.85\00:30:19.71
THE WORLD CALLS IT QUALITY TIME,
THE BIBLE CALLS IT SABBATH.
00:30:19.71\00:30:24.12
SABBATH'S QUALITY TIME BUT, YOU
KNOW, WE SAY, 'I PRAY ALL WEEK
00:30:24.12\00:30:28.76
LONG, BUT ON SABBATH WE HAVE
QUALITY TIME WITH GOD.' IT'S
00:30:28.76\00:30:31.86
UNIQUE. YOU SET
EVERYTHING ELSE ASIDE.
00:30:31.86\00:30:34.30
SOMETIMES KAREN'LL SAY, 'DOUG,
WE DON'T DO ANYTHING TOGETHER.'
00:30:34.30\00:30:39.23
NOW, I BET I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE
THAT'S HEARD THAT IN THE FAMILY.
00:30:39.23\00:30:42.90
JUST COME ON, A SHOW OF HANDS.
HAS ANYONE ELSE HEARD THAT?
00:30:42.90\00:30:44.84
'WE'RE NOT SPENDING ENOUGH TIME
TOGETHER.' COME ON NOW, DON'T
00:30:44.84\00:30:46.88
LEAVE ME HANGING
OUT THERE LIKE THAT.
00:30:46.88\00:30:48.44
(LAUGHTER) 'WE NEED TO SPEND...'
YOU OUGHT TO HAVE A DATE NIGHT.
00:30:48.44\00:30:53.15
TRY AND SCHEDULE IT WHERE YOU
TAKE, SAY, WE'RE JUST GOING TO
00:30:53.15\00:30:57.52
GO WHEREVER IT IS - IT
MIGHT BE A RESTAURANT FOR YOU.
00:30:57.52\00:30:59.75
IT MIGHT BE GOING FOR A WALK.
00:30:59.75\00:31:01.52
KAREN AND I, TYPICALLY, IT'S
A WALK IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD AND -
00:31:01.52\00:31:06.49
BUT YOU NEED TO SPEND TIME
COMMUNICATING TOGETHER AND YOU
00:31:06.49\00:31:10.10
NEED TO HAVE THAT - THAT
REGULAR TIME - QUALITY TIME.
00:31:10.10\00:31:13.54
SHE'LL SAY, 'WE DON'T SPEND TIME
TOGETHER.' I SAY, 'I WAS HOME
00:31:13.54\00:31:15.30
ALL DAY!' SHE SAYS, 'YOU WERE IN
THE OFFICE. THAT'S DIFFERENT.'
00:31:15.30\00:31:19.81
SO QUALITY TIME MEANS YOU'RE
- YOU'RE EXCHANGING IDEAS.
00:31:19.81\00:31:23.95
SAY, 'WELL, WHAT
HAPPENED IN YOUR DAY?'
00:31:23.95\00:31:25.41
AND - A MAN WAS READING THE
NEWSPAPER ONE DAY AND HE SAID,
00:31:25.41\00:31:31.72
'HONEY, I JUST READ HERE
THAT WOMEN SPEAK 30,000 WORDS,
00:31:31.72\00:31:36.09
AVERAGE, A DAY AND MEN ONLY
SPEAK 15,000 WORDS A DAY.' AND
00:31:36.09\00:31:41.73
SHE QUIPPED, 'THAT'S BECAUSE WE
HAVE TO SAY EVERYTHING TWICE.'
00:31:41.73\00:31:44.60
(LAUGHTER) AND HE SAID, 'WHAT?'
(LAUGHTER) WE LAUGH BECAUSE
00:31:44.60\00:31:52.11
THERE'S SOME TRUTH TO THAT.
JAMES 1:5, "IF ANY OF YOU LACKS
00:31:52.11\00:31:57.81
WISDOM, LET HIM ASK OF GOD,
WHO GIVES TO ALL LIBERALLY..."
00:31:57.81\00:32:01.08
SO WE NEED TO PRAY FOR WISDOM
SO THAT WE CAN KNOW HOW TO
00:32:01.08\00:32:04.25
COMMUNICATE BETTER WITH
EACH OTHER AND THEN PRAY FOR ONE
00:32:04.25\00:32:06.65
ANOTHER. JAMES 5:16.
00:32:06.65\00:32:09.46
NOW, UNDER POINT NUMBER 8,
BEYOND THE QUALITY TIME, IS KEEP
00:32:09.46\00:32:15.26
YOUR HEARTS AND YOUR
BODIES FOR EACH OTHER.
00:32:15.26\00:32:21.27
THIS IS SOMETHING THAT IS -
TOUCHES ON THE COVENANT THAT WE
00:32:21.27\00:32:24.71
MENTIONED LAST WEEK,
BUT ADULTERY IS A SIN.
00:32:24.71\00:32:28.78
IT IS BECOMING
MORE AND MORE COMMON.
00:32:28.78\00:32:31.01
IT IS ONE OF THE TEN
COMMANDMENTS IN EXODUS 20, VERSE
00:32:31.01\00:32:33.95
14 - THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT
- "THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT
00:32:33.95\00:32:36.95
ADULTERY." AND YOU
PRAY FOR ME AS I TALK
00:32:36.95\00:32:40.32
ABOUT THIS BECAUSE SOME OF
THE THINGS I NEED TO SAY ARE
00:32:40.32\00:32:42.52
DELICATE AND I WANT TO MAKE SURE
I'M UNDERSTOOD. PROVERBS 31,
00:32:42.52\00:32:45.66
VERSES 11 AND 12, "THE HEART
OF HER HUSBAND SAFELY TRUSTS
00:32:45.66\00:32:50.17
HER...SHE DOES HIM GOOD AND NOT
EVIL ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE."
00:32:50.17\00:32:55.67
YOU NEED TO HAVE A TRUSTING
RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU WILL NOT
00:32:55.67\00:33:00.61
EVEN OPEN THE DOOR TO ANY
FLIRTATIOUS OPPORTUNITIES,
00:33:00.61\00:33:05.15
BECAUSE AS SOON AS YOU BEGIN TO
SHOW YOURSELF BEING INTIMATE AND
00:33:05.15\00:33:08.78
OVERLY FRIENDLY TO SOMEBODY
THAT'S IN THAT AGE BALLPARK OF
00:33:08.78\00:33:12.59
THE OPPOSITE SEX, THEN YOU'RE
OPENING THE DOOR TO TEMPTATION.
00:33:12.59\00:33:17.99
AND WHEN YOU START BECOMING
INTIMATE AND SAY, 'OH, YOU KNOW,
00:33:17.99\00:33:20.96
WE'VE BEEN HAVING THESE
PROBLEMS.' YOU START SHARING
00:33:20.96\00:33:22.60
PROBLEMS AND THOSE THINGS SHOULD
JUST STAY IN THE FAMILY AND IT'S
00:33:22.60\00:33:28.14
SACRED. IT'S AN
EPIDEMIC IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY.
00:33:28.14\00:33:32.47
ACCORDING TO A NEW STUDY BY
THE NATIONAL OPINION RESEARCH
00:33:32.47\00:33:35.88
CENTER, ROUGHLY 15 PERCENT OF
MARRIED AMERICANS AND THOSE WHO
00:33:35.88\00:33:40.22
WERE MARRIED, HAVE
COMMITTED ADULTERY.
00:33:40.22\00:33:43.22
THEY'VE VIOLATED THE VOWS, AT
THE TIME, WHEN THEY WERE MARRIED
00:33:43.22\00:33:45.85
- 15 PERCENT. YOU
KNOW, YOU WATCH TELEVISION
00:33:45.85\00:33:50.39
- YOU'D THINK THAT
IT'S A LOT HIGHER THAN THAT.
00:33:50.39\00:33:52.76
I WAS ACTUALLY RELIEVED TO HEAR
IT'S ONLY 15 PERCENT BECAUSE WE
00:33:52.76\00:33:56.77
SURROUND OURSELVES WITH A
CULTURE WHERE THE PROGRAMMING
00:33:56.77\00:33:59.60
AND THE MOVIES IS ALL ABOUT
- SEX IS LIKE SHAKING HANDS -
00:33:59.60\00:34:03.17
ISN'T THAT RIGHT? AND
THE IDEA OF THE COVENANT AND
00:34:03.17\00:34:06.68
HOW SACRED IT IS IS BEING LOST.
NOW - THE COVER OF TIME MAGAZINE
00:34:06.68\00:34:17.65
SHOWED THIS WEEK - THIS WEEK
COVER TITLE - IS MONOGAMY OVER?
00:34:17.65\00:34:26.86
MONOGAMY IS NOT A WOOD
THAT'S USED IN CABINETS.
00:34:26.86\00:34:31.60
THAT'S MAHOGANY. (LAUGHTER)
MONOGAMY MEANS THAT YOU ARE JUST
00:34:31.60\00:34:37.77
MARRIED TO ONE PERSON AND YOU
ARE COMMITTED TO THAT PERSON.
00:34:37.77\00:34:41.91
AND WHAT DID I SAY TO YOU A
LITTLE BIT AGO ABOUT THE - THE
00:34:41.91\00:34:44.81
DEVIL IS WORKING OVERTIME TO
TRY AND MAKE THE INSTITUTION OF
00:34:44.81\00:34:49.42
MARRIAGE SEEM IRRELEVANT.
00:34:49.42\00:34:53.69
WE'RE SURROUNDED BY A
MEDIA CULTURE IN OUR WORLD WHERE
00:34:53.69\00:34:58.39
PEOPLE ARE COMMITTING
ADULTERY ALL THE TIME.
00:34:58.39\00:35:02.16
AND JESUS SAID, VERY CLEARLY,
THAT IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A PERSON
00:35:02.16\00:35:07.04
TO COMMIT
ADULTERY IN THEIR HEADS.
00:35:07.04\00:35:09.57
HE SAID IF A MAN LOOKS UPON A
WOMAN AND LUSTS AFTER HER IN HIS
00:35:09.57\00:35:13.88
HEART, HE IS COMMITTING
ADULTERY IN HIS HEART.
00:35:13.88\00:35:16.75
THAT DOES NOT MEAN
THAT IS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.
00:35:16.75\00:35:21.85
IF THINKING IT WAS GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE, THERE WOULD BE A WHOLE
00:35:21.85\00:35:25.52
LOT MORE DIVORCE
TODAY THAN THERE IS.
00:35:25.52\00:35:28.49
THINKING IT IS A SIN.
JESUS WASN'T SAYING, 'YOU'RE
00:35:28.49\00:35:31.29
THINKING IT, YOU
MAY AS WELL DO IT.
00:35:31.29\00:35:32.49
THERE'S NO DIFFERENCE.'
YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?
00:35:32.49\00:35:35.26
NOW THE REASON I SAY THAT IS
BECAUSE THERE ARE COUPLES THAT
00:35:35.26\00:35:40.30
COME TO ME AND THE HUSBAND WILL
SAY, 'I BELIEVE I HAVE BIBLICAL
00:35:40.30\00:35:44.24
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE. MY
WIFE IS ADDICTED TO SOAP OPERAS.
00:35:44.24\00:35:47.68
SHE'S WATCHING ALL THESE PEOPLE
COMMIT ADULTERY AND SHE IS
00:35:47.68\00:35:50.18
VICARIOUSLY COMMITTING
ADULTERY BY WATCHING IT.
00:35:50.18\00:35:54.08
AND SO, SINCE JESUS SAID
THINKING IT IS THE SAME AS DOING
00:35:54.08\00:35:57.09
IT, I HAVE GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE.' DO YOU BELIEVE THAT?
00:35:57.09\00:35:59.72
>>NO. >>NO.
00:35:59.72\00:36:01.72
I DON'T BELIEVE THAT. I
THINK IT'S A SIN, BUT I DON'T
00:36:01.72\00:36:04.89
THINK THAT'S WHAT
JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT.
00:36:04.89\00:36:06.53
JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT THE ACT
OF ADULTERY - FORNICATION - WAS
00:36:06.53\00:36:10.77
THE ONLY BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE - ASIDE FROM THAT OTHER
00:36:10.77\00:36:14.10
EXAMPLE I GAVE YOU LAST WEEK -
1 CORINTHIANS 7 - OF TWO PAGANS
00:36:14.10\00:36:18.27
THAT GET MARRIED AND THEY
CONVERT THEN TO CHRISTIANITY.
00:36:18.27\00:36:21.21
ANYWAY, WITH THAT IN MIND,
THERE IS AN ABSOLUTE EPIDEMIC OF
00:36:21.21\00:36:26.35
PORNOGRAPHY. BASED
ON HOW MANY PORNOGRAPHIC
00:36:26.35\00:36:30.05
SITES THERE ARE, IT'S A
MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.
00:36:30.05\00:36:32.49
THERE ARE A LOT MORE PEOPLE THAT
ARE STRUGGLING WITH THAT THAN
00:36:32.49\00:36:35.69
YOU MIGHT IMAGINE - MEN AND
WOMEN - ALL KINDS OF DIFFERENT
00:36:35.69\00:36:38.86
SITES. IT'S A SIN. IT
NEEDS TO BE REPENTED OF, BUT
00:36:38.86\00:36:46.53
THINKING IS NOT
THE SAME AS DOING.
00:36:46.53\00:36:50.44
IF A PERSON GETS ANGRY AND
THEY THINK MURDEROUS THOUGHTS IN
00:36:50.44\00:36:53.54
THEIR HEART AND THEY DO NOT ACT
OR CONSPIRE ON THOSE THOUGHTS,
00:36:53.54\00:36:57.78
THERE'S NO COURT IN THE COUNTRY
THAT WILL CONVICT THEM OF
00:36:57.78\00:37:00.45
MURDER. BECAUSE
YOU SAY, 'I WISH A
00:37:00.45\00:37:03.32
PERSON WAS DEAD.' AND YOU WALK
AWAY AND DON'T DO ANYTHING, YOU
00:37:03.32\00:37:05.59
WILL NOT BE ARRESTED AND PUT IN
JAIL FOR MURDER BECAUSE THINKING
00:37:05.59\00:37:09.46
SOMETHING IS NOT THE SAME
AS DOING IT. DO YOU UNDERSTAND?
00:37:09.46\00:37:12.26
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE USING
THAT NOW AS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.
00:37:12.26\00:37:15.20
NOW, IF A WOMAN IS MARRIED TO A
MAN AND HE'S GOT AN ADDICTION TO
00:37:15.20\00:37:19.93
PORNOGRAPHY, ESPECIALLY IF THERE
ARE CHILDREN IN THE HOUSEHOLD,
00:37:19.93\00:37:23.20
THERE MIGHT BE GROUNDS
FOR SEPARATION UNTIL THERE'S
00:37:23.20\00:37:26.64
COUNSELING. DO YOU
UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING?
00:37:26.64\00:37:30.91
THE DIFFERENCE -
THERE'S A DIFFERENCE THERE.
00:37:30.91\00:37:33.05
AND A PERSON MIGHT NEED TO TAKE
SOME PROACTIVE MEASURES TO URGE
00:37:33.05\00:37:38.29
AND ENCOURAGE THEIR
SPOUSE TO GET SOME HELP.
00:37:38.29\00:37:41.12
BUT THINKING IT IS NOT THE SAME
AS DOING IT AND, BIBLICALLY,
00:37:41.12\00:37:45.49
WHAT DOES JESUS SAY ARE
THE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE AND
00:37:45.49\00:37:48.46
REMARRIAGE? HE SAID, IN MATTHEW
CHAPTER 5, AND IN MATTHEW
00:37:48.46\00:37:54.54
CHAPTER 19 - AND THIS BRINGS ME
OUT TO POINT NUMBER 9) RULE OUT
00:37:54.54\00:38:01.41
THE DIVORCE OPTION. MATTHEW
19:6, "WHAT THEREFORE GOD HAS
00:38:01.41\00:38:06.75
JOINED TOGETHER, LET
NOT MAN PUT ASUNDER."
00:38:06.75\00:38:10.22
"WHOSOEVER SHALL PUT AWAY
HIS WIFE, EXCEPT IT BE FOR
00:38:10.22\00:38:13.49
FORNICATION, AND SHALL MARRY
ANOTHER, COMMITTETH ADULTERY:
00:38:13.49\00:38:17.26
AND WHOSO MARRIETH HER WHICH IS
PUT AWAY DOTH COMMIT ADULTERY."
00:38:17.26\00:38:22.40
PAUL SAYS, IN ROMANS 7, VERSE 2,
"FOR THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND
00:38:22.40\00:38:26.63
IS BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER
HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES."
00:38:26.63\00:38:30.37
WITH THAT CAVEAT, EXCEPT
FOR THAT EXCEPTION JESUS MAKES,
00:38:30.37\00:38:34.88
THERE'S A LOT OF PEOPLE IN THE
CHURCH THAT THEY DIVORCE WITHOUT
00:38:34.88\00:38:38.75
BIBLICAL GROUNDS AND, YOU KNOW,
I DON'T - YOU'VE GOT TO BE VERY
00:38:38.75\00:38:42.68
DELICATE BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT
TO MAKE IT SOUND LIKE IT IS THE
00:38:42.68\00:38:45.02
UNPARDONABLE SIN, BECAUSE IT
IS SO COMMON THAT TWO PEOPLE GET
00:38:45.02\00:38:52.76
DIVORCED BECAUSE THEY'VE
GOT IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES.
00:38:52.76\00:38:55.76
NOW, THEY CAN DIVORCE AND THEY
CAN SEPARATE, BUT THEY DON'T
00:38:55.76\00:38:59.03
HAVE GROUNDS FOR REMARRIAGE
AND OFTEN WHAT HAPPENS IS TWO
00:38:59.03\00:39:03.07
CHRISTIANS THAT JUST CAN'T GET
ALONG - THEY DON'T HAVE BIBLICAL
00:39:03.07\00:39:05.54
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE -
THEY DIVORCE - SOMETIMES IT'S
00:39:05.54\00:39:09.98
FRIENDLY, SOMETIMES IT'S UGLY.
THEY GO TO ANOTHER CHURCH, MAYBE
00:39:09.98\00:39:13.75
ONE'LL GET RE-BAPTIZED AND
THEN THEY PLAY A WAITING GAME.
00:39:13.75\00:39:17.12
TO WAIT AND SEE WHO'S
GOING TO COMMIT ADULTERY FIRST.
00:39:17.12\00:39:20.29
AND THEN ONCE THE OTHER ONE IS
SEEN DATING ANOTHER PERSON, THEN
00:39:20.29\00:39:25.33
THEY GO AND THEY SAY, 'NOW
I'VE GOT BIBLICAL GROUNDS TO
00:39:25.33\00:39:27.30
REMARRY.' AND
THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH
00:39:27.30\00:39:29.90
THE SPIRIT OF
ALL THAT, IN MY MIND.
00:39:29.90\00:39:33.57
IT'S ALMOST LIKE YOU'RE HOPING
THE OTHER PERSON'LL FALL SO
00:39:33.57\00:39:35.14
YOU'LL BE FREE - LET
YOU OUT OF THE COVENANT.
00:39:35.14\00:39:38.61
THAT'S KIND OF LIKE SAYING,
'WELL, SINCE I'M NOT FREE TO
00:39:38.61\00:39:40.48
MARRY UNTIL MY SPOUSE IS DEAD, I
WISH THEY WERE DEAD.' IT'S KIND
00:39:40.48\00:39:44.38
OF LIKE THAT PRODIGAL SON, 'DAD,
IF YOU WON'T HURRY UP AND DIE,
00:39:44.38\00:39:46.61
CAN YOU AT LEAST GIVE ME
THE INHERITANCE SO I CAN LEAVE?
00:39:46.61\00:39:50.82
THAT'S NOT THE
RIGHT SPIRIT, IS IT?
00:39:50.82\00:39:53.82
AND, YOU KNOW, OFTEN IN THOSE
RELATIONSHIPS, IT COULD HAVE
00:39:53.82\00:39:58.46
BEEN WORKED OUT. A
LOT OF DIVORCES HAPPEN -
00:39:58.46\00:40:01.96
WELL, MOST OF THEM,
BECAUSE OF SELFISHNESS.
00:40:01.96\00:40:05.50
AND WHEN WE'VE GOT THE MIND AND
THE SPIRIT OF CHRIST, SO MANY
00:40:05.50\00:40:08.34
MARRIAGES COULD
HAVE BEEN REDEEMED.
00:40:08.34\00:40:11.11
THE SAME THING THAT BROUGHT
THEM TOGETHER - THAT KEPT THEM
00:40:11.11\00:40:12.74
TOGETHER FOR YEARS -
COULD HAVE RESTORED IT.
00:40:12.74\00:40:16.18
YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU'RE - WHEN
YOU'RE CONVERTED AND YOU BECOME
00:40:16.18\00:40:20.48
A NEW CREATURE AND YOU HAVE A
NEW HEART, HOW MANY OF YOU KNOW
00:40:20.48\00:40:23.85
PEOPLE THAT THEIR MARRIAGES
WERE ON THE ROCKS AND THEY WENT
00:40:23.85\00:40:26.42
THROUGH A CONVERSION AND THEY
WORKED IT OUT AND THEY'RE DOING
00:40:26.42\00:40:28.52
FINE TODAY? DON'T ANY OF
YOU KNOW ANY OF THOSE STORIES?
00:40:28.52\00:40:31.79
I KNOW LOTS OF
STORIES LIKE THAT.
00:40:31.79\00:40:33.50
AND IT LOOKED
LIKE IT WAS HOPELESS.
00:40:33.50\00:40:35.30
I EVEN KNOW PEOPLE THAT WERE
SEPARATED AND THEN THEY WENT
00:40:35.30\00:40:37.10
THROUGH A CONVERSION AND THEY
GOT GOOD COUNSELING AND THEY
00:40:37.10\00:40:39.30
CAME TOGETHER - IT'S
BETTER THAN IT EVER WAS.
00:40:39.30\00:40:41.37
THEY'LL TELL YOU SO. AND SO
THESE MARRIAGES CAN BE RESTORED.
00:40:41.37\00:40:44.47
I'M NOT GOING TO STAND HERE, AS
A PASTOR, AND TELL YOU ALL THE
00:40:44.47\00:40:46.34
GOOD REASONS TO GET DIVORCED.
YOU'LL FIND THOSE ON YOUR OWN.
00:40:46.34\00:40:49.48
I'M HERE TO TELL YOU THERE
ARE GOOD REASONS TO KEEP IT
00:40:49.48\00:40:51.88
TOGETHER. >>YES.
00:40:51.88\00:40:53.55
>>AND THAT, YOU KNOW, WE'RE TO
BE WITNESSES IN OUR SOCIETY, FOR
00:40:53.55\00:40:57.05
RECONCILIATION,
FOR REDEMPTION, AMEN?
00:40:57.05\00:41:01.29
SO RULE OUT THE DIVORCE OPTION.
DO ALL YOU CAN TO - THESE TIES
00:41:01.29\00:41:06.03
OF MARRIAGE ARE
MEANT TO BE INDISSOLUBLE.
00:41:06.03\00:41:09.03
DIVORCE IS PERMITTED ONLY IN
THOSE CASES THAT I MENTIONED.
00:41:09.03\00:41:12.80
10) DO NOT NAG OR CRITICIZE.
YOU'LL HAVE A LOT HAPPIER HOME.
00:41:12.80\00:41:18.97
WE ALL HAVE GOOD DAYS AND
BAD DAYS AND DON'T BE CONSTANTLY
00:41:18.97\00:41:22.24
FOCUSING ON YOUR SPOUSE'S FAULTS
AND RIDING THEM, TRYING TO
00:41:22.24\00:41:26.55
CHANGE THAT PERSON. IF YOU'RE
GOING TO CHANGE SOMEONE, CHANGE
00:41:26.55\00:41:29.95
YOURSELF. YOU CAN'T
CHANGE THE OTHER PERSON.
00:41:29.95\00:41:32.52
A LOT OF PEOPLE GET MARRIED
THINKING THEY'RE GOING TO CHANGE
00:41:32.52\00:41:35.66
THE OTHER PERSON AND
THAT DOESN'T END WELL.
00:41:35.66\00:41:37.86
BEN FRANKLIN SAID, "KEEP YOUR
EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE"
00:41:37.86\00:41:40.80
- THIS IS A MESSAGE TO THE
SINGLES - "KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE
00:41:40.80\00:41:43.40
OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE AND KEEP
THEM HALF SHUT AFTER MARRIAGE."
00:41:43.40\00:41:46.80
BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TO
FIND THERE ARE PROBLEMS.
00:41:46.80\00:41:49.57
COLOSSIANS 3, VERSE 19,
"HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES
00:41:49.57\00:41:53.17
AND DO NOT BE
BITTER TOWARD THEM."
00:41:53.17\00:41:54.94
HE'S TALKING ABOUT WIVES -
HUSBANDS THAT ARE BADGERING OR
00:41:54.94\00:41:58.15
BEING BITTER
AGAINST THEIR WIVES.
00:41:58.15\00:41:59.71
AND THEN YOU CAN READ IN
PROVERBS 21:19, "BETTER TO DWELL
00:41:59.71\00:42:03.18
IN THE WILDERNESS, THAN WITH
A CONTENTIOUS AND ANGRY WOMAN."
00:42:03.18\00:42:06.65
WHO WROTE THAT? SOLOMON.
00:42:06.65\00:42:09.82
HOW MANY WIVES
DID HE HAVE? >>700.
00:42:09.82\00:42:12.23
>>700 AND HE HAD
300 STAND-BY CONCUBINES.
00:42:12.23\00:42:17.20
HE ALSO SAID, PROVERBS 27, VERSE
15, "A CONTINUAL DRIPPING ON A
00:42:17.20\00:42:23.10
VERY RAINY DAY AND A CONTENTIOUS
WOMAN ARE ALIKE;" THERE'S ONE
00:42:23.10\00:42:29.38
MORE BUT I'M NOT GOING TO
READ IT BECAUSE TWO IS ENOUGH.
00:42:29.38\00:42:33.08
YOU KNOW WHAT - DO YOU
REMEMBER THE STORY OF SAMSON?
00:42:33.08\00:42:36.58
HE GAVE UP HIS SECRET TWICE
- ONCE TO HIS PHILISTINE FIANCÉ
00:42:36.58\00:42:41.56
BECAUSE SHE BADGERED HIM DAY
AFTER DAY AFTER DAY AND FINALLY
00:42:41.56\00:42:44.56
HE SAID, 'OKAY, I'LL TELL
YOU THE RIDDLE.' AND BECAUSE SHE
00:42:44.56\00:42:48.30
BETRAYED HIS CONFIDENCE,
IT ENDED UP BREAKING UP THE
00:42:48.30\00:42:49.83
MARRIAGE. GOD WORKED
THAT TOGETHER FOR GOOD.
00:42:49.83\00:42:52.33
AND THEN, WITH DELILAH
- 'WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?
00:42:52.33\00:42:54.50
WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?
WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?'
00:42:54.50\00:42:56.04
AND FINALLY SHE JUST KEPT
AFTER HIM UNTIL, IT SAYS, 'HE
00:42:56.04\00:42:58.24
DESPAIRED OF LIFE.' NOW
I'M SAYING THIS FROM A MAN'S
00:42:58.24\00:43:01.58
PERSPECTIVE RIGHT
NOW BECAUSE I AM A MAN.
00:43:01.58\00:43:03.58
BUT IT HAPPENS BOTH WAYS WHERE
YOU CAN JUST MAKE YOUR SPOUSE
00:43:03.58\00:43:07.42
DESPAIR OF LIFE. HE
WAS WILLING TO GIVE UP HIS
00:43:07.42\00:43:10.39
SECRET THAT WAS GOING TO COST
HIM HIS LIFE BECAUSE OF THE DAY
00:43:10.39\00:43:12.85
AFTER DAY AFTER DAY -
SO DON'T NAG. DON'T BADGER.
00:43:12.85\00:43:16.09
DON'T CRITICIZE.
ENCOURAGE - IT GOES A LONG WAY
00:43:16.09\00:43:19.46
TO ENCOURAGE AND APPRECIATE EACH
OTHER. AND, YOU KNOW, MEN LIKE
00:43:19.46\00:43:23.70
TO BE APPRECIATED FOR -
WHEN WE ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING.
00:43:23.70\00:43:25.93
WE'RE VERY TASK-ORIENTED AND
SOMETIMES WE FIX SOMETHING AND
00:43:25.93\00:43:29.57
WE THINK THAT WE
OUGHT TO GET A MEDAL.
00:43:29.57\00:43:31.57
THE WIFE IS GOING TO,
YOU KNOW, JUST APPLAUD.
00:43:31.57\00:43:33.94
AND SHE GOES, 'OH THAT'S YOUR
JOB.' 'BUT...' OUR ICE MAKER
00:43:33.94\00:43:38.68
WENT OUT ON OUR REFRIGERATOR,
WHICH, YOU KNOW, WOULDN'T HAVE
00:43:38.68\00:43:42.55
BEEN SO BAD EXCEPT IT WAS JUST
GONE OUT OF WARRANTY - IT WAS A
00:43:42.55\00:43:44.89
BRAND - IT'S A
FAIRLY NEW REFRIGERATOR.
00:43:44.89\00:43:47.69
AND IT'S ONE OF THESE NEW
ONES THAT'S GOT ALL THE COMPUTER
00:43:47.69\00:43:49.09
THINGS IN IT AND I
KEPT TRYING TO FIX IT.
00:43:49.09\00:43:53.19
YOU KNOW, I'M ONE OF THESE
GUYS THAT I JUST WANT TO FIX
00:43:53.19\00:43:55.03
EVERYTHING MYSELF. I'M
PRETTY HANDY AROUND THE
00:43:55.03\00:43:57.67
HOUSE BUT I
COULDN'T FIGURE THIS OUT.
00:43:57.67\00:43:59.33
IT HAD ALL THESE COMPUTER THINGS
IN IT AND SO WE DEFROSTED IT AND
00:43:59.33\00:44:02.40
I TRIED ALL THESE
THINGS. I COULDN'T GET - BRAND
00:44:02.40\00:44:04.11
NEW - NOTHING'S BROKEN.
WHY DID IT STOP WORKING?
00:44:04.11\00:44:06.57
I GOT ONLINE - YOU CAN
FIND ALMOST ANYTHING ONLINE.
00:44:06.57\00:44:09.88
>>AMEN. >>I
FOUND OUT HOW TO FIX A
00:44:09.88\00:44:11.81
REFRIGERATOR CIRCUIT BOARD AND
SO I FIGURED OUT WHAT IT WAS.
00:44:11.81\00:44:16.28
I WASN'T GOING TO CALL - A
FRIEND I PLAY RACQUETBALL WITH
00:44:16.28\00:44:19.09
SAID HE CALLED IN A REFRIGERATOR
REPAIRMAN WHO JUST MOVED A
00:44:19.09\00:44:22.66
LITTLE ICE TRAY BAR
- CHARGED HIM $300.00.
00:44:22.66\00:44:24.99
I'M NOT CALLING
ANYBODY. I SAID I'M GOING
00:44:24.99\00:44:26.29
TO FIX THE THING.
NOTHING PERSONAL IF YOU HAPPEN
00:44:26.29\00:44:31.10
TO BE AN APPLIANCE
REPAIRMAN OUT THERE.
00:44:31.10\00:44:34.57
I GOT ONLINE, I FIGURED OUT
WHAT IT WAS, I DID THE TEST, I
00:44:34.57\00:44:36.74
WATCHED THE VIDEO, I ORDERED
THE COMPUTERIZED PARTS AND I
00:44:36.74\00:44:39.41
INSTALLED THESE TWO CIRCUIT
BOARDS AND CLOSED THE DOOR AND I
00:44:39.41\00:44:44.38
STOOD THERE AND
KAREN'S AT HER DESK.
00:44:44.38\00:44:45.78
ALL OF A SUDDEN I HEARD IT
GO KA-CHHHHH - IT WAS WORKING!
00:44:45.78\00:44:48.65
THE WATER WAS RUNNING INTO THE
ICE MAKER AND I DID A DANCE - I
00:44:48.65\00:44:51.42
SAID, 'IT'S WORKING, DEAR!'
'OH, GOOD.' (LAUGHTER) I SAID,
00:44:51.42\00:44:56.36
'I JUST THROUGH A COMPUTER
CIRCUIT I PLUGGED IT - TOOK IT
00:44:56.36\00:45:00.83
APART - PUT IT
TOGETHER - IT'S WORKING!'
00:45:00.83\00:45:03.37
'THAT'S GOOD, DEAR.' (LAUGHTER)
AND THEN A LITTLE WHILE LATER,
00:45:03.37\00:45:07.80
WHEN WE HEARD THE ICE GO
KA-CLUNK AND IT MADE ITS FIRST
00:45:07.80\00:45:10.87
BATCH OF ICE I
SAID, 'DID YOU HEAR THAT?
00:45:10.87\00:45:12.71
THAT'S MUSIC TO MY
EARS.' 'HEAR WHAT?'
00:45:12.71\00:45:14.78
I SAID, 'THE ICE
MAKER IS WORKING!'
00:45:14.78\00:45:18.35
I JUST WANTED SOME
AFFIRMATION. SHE JUST NEEDS TO -
00:45:18.35\00:45:21.18
'DOUG, YOU'RE BRILLIANT!'
- SOMETHING LIKE THAT!
00:45:21.18\00:45:23.15
(LAUGHTER) I MEAN, IT'S NOT
HARD, YOU KNOW, DOESN'T COST
00:45:23.15\00:45:29.26
ANYTHING. I WAS JUST
FISHING FOR 'YOU'RE A GENIUS!
00:45:29.26\00:45:34.30
I'M SO GLAD TO HAVE A - WE
SAVED $300.00 - BLESS YOU!'
00:45:34.30\00:45:39.57
DON'T
CRITICIZE, ENCOURAGE, AMEN?
00:45:39.57\00:45:42.97
1 CORINTHIANS 13:4 - LOVE LOOKS
FOR A WAY OF BEING CONSTRUCTIVE
00:45:42.97\00:45:47.74
- THAT'S THE
PHILIPS TRANSLATION.
00:45:47.74\00:45:49.91
A HUSBAND AND WIFE MAY HAVE
THEIR PROBLEMS BUT YOU NEED TO
00:45:49.91\00:45:54.38
ENCOURAGE THEM WHEN YOU CAN AND
WHEN THERE ARE MISTAKES, YOU'VE
00:45:54.38\00:45:56.82
GOT TO LEARN TO LAUGH WITH EACH
OTHER - THAT'S DIFFERENT FROM
00:45:56.82\00:45:59.79
LAUGHING AT THE
OTHER PERSON'S EXPENSE.
00:45:59.79\00:46:01.99
I HAVE SEEN VERY EMBARRASSING
SITUATIONS WHERE A HUSBAND AND
00:46:01.99\00:46:06.46
WIFE ARE TOGETHER AND, FOR
WHATEVER REASON, THIS POOR WOMAN
00:46:06.46\00:46:10.20
OR MAN, THE SPOUSE IS ALWAYS
MAKING JOKES AT THEIR EXPENSE
00:46:10.20\00:46:15.07
AND THEY KIND OF DROP THEIR HEAD
AND THEY LAUGH A LITTLE BIT, BUT
00:46:15.07\00:46:17.84
YOU CAN TELL IT HURTS THEM.
THEY'RE CONSTANTLY BEING PUT
00:46:17.84\00:46:20.64
DOWN AND THEY'RE LAUGHING
AT THEIR EXPENSE AND THAT'S NOT
00:46:20.64\00:46:24.51
THE KIND OF
LAUGHING WITH EACH OTHER.
00:46:24.51\00:46:27.25
AND - I KNOW KAREN AND I WERE
OUT DOING YARD WORK AND I GO AND
00:46:27.25\00:46:30.32
I TURN ON THE HOSE AND DIDN'T
REALIZE THAT THE HOSE HAD SPLIT
00:46:30.32\00:46:34.22
AND IT STARTS TO SPRAY AND
GET ME ALL WET AND SHE STARTS
00:46:34.22\00:46:38.93
LAUGHING. I SAID,
'WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING?'
00:46:38.93\00:46:40.20
SHE SAID, 'THAT HAPPENED
TO ME. I FORGOT TO TELL YOU.'
00:46:40.20\00:46:41.86
(LAUGHTER) 'THE HOSE
NEEDS FIXING.' 'THANKS A LOT!'
00:46:41.86\00:46:46.84
BUT, YOU KNOW, AT TIMES WE'LL
HAVE A LAUGH TOGETHER - YOU'RE
00:46:46.84\00:46:48.97
LAUGHING - BUT YOU NEED
TO HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
00:46:48.97\00:46:51.21
YOU CAN DEFUSE A LOT OF TENSION
IN RELATIONSHIPS BY BEING ABLE
00:46:51.21\00:46:56.34
TO VENT AND LAUGH AT YOURSELVES
- AND EVEN LAUGH AT YOUR HUMAN
00:46:56.34\00:47:01.12
WEAKNESSES AND SAY - DON'T LAUGH
AT THE OTHER, BUT LAUGH AT YOUR
00:47:01.12\00:47:04.19
OWN. IT MAKES IT EASIER FOR
00:47:04.19\00:47:06.12
THE OTHER TO FORGIVE
YOU. SO HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
00:47:06.12\00:47:09.62
11) BE CLEAN, ORDERLY,
ON TIME, AND INDUSTRIOUS.
00:47:09.62\00:47:16.43
YOU NOTICE HOW I'M
LUMPING ALL THESE TOGETHER?
00:47:16.43\00:47:19.50
JUST SOME PRACTICAL
THINGS. YOU'D BE SURPRISED.
00:47:19.50\00:47:23.34
A LOT OF FAMILIES - YOU GET ONE
THAT'S REAL CLEAN AND ONE THAT
00:47:23.34\00:47:25.64
IS NOT. ONE IS REAL
ORGANIZED AND ONE THAT IS NOT.
00:47:25.64\00:47:29.28
AND IT CAUSES NO SMALL AMOUNT OF
CONSTERNATION IN THE FAMILY AND
00:47:29.28\00:47:33.11
ONE - I WON'T ASK FOR A SHOW
OF HANDS RIGHT NOW, IT WOULD BE
00:47:33.11\00:47:35.12
VERY AWKWARD, WHICH IS WHICH,
THAT ONE ALWAYS FEELS LIKE 'I
00:47:35.12\00:47:41.19
GET IT ALL ORGANIZED.
I CAN'T THINK UNLESS IT'S
00:47:41.19\00:47:42.96
ORGANIZED.' AND THE
OTHER ONE IS A PACK RAT.
00:47:42.96\00:47:46.09
AND GOD, IN HIS DIVINE, COSMIC
HUMOR, SOMETIMES PAIRS THESE
00:47:46.09\00:47:51.37
PEOPLE TOGETHER TO MAKE ONE
NORMAL FAMILY OUT OF TWO EXTREME
00:47:51.37\00:47:53.80
PEOPLE.
(LAUGHTER) HOPEFULLY THE KIDS
00:47:53.80\00:47:56.94
HAVE A CHANCE IF THEY
GET A LITTLE OF BOTH SIDES.
00:47:56.94\00:47:59.27
BUT BEING CONSIDERATE OF YOUR
SPOUSE - KEEPING A HOUSE NEAT
00:47:59.27\00:48:05.78
AND CLEAN AND ORDERLY - HAVING
A SCHEDULE - BEING ON TIME WHEN
00:48:05.78\00:48:11.62
YOU COME AND YOU
GO DIFFERENT PLACES.
00:48:11.62\00:48:14.92
KAREN AND I HAVE DIFFERENT
CLOCKS AND I LIKE TO ALWAYS BE
00:48:14.92\00:48:23.53
EARLY. I WENT
TO MILITARY SCHOOL.
00:48:23.53\00:48:25.00
I FIGURE IF YOU'RE ON TIME,
YOU'RE LATE SO I ALWAYS LIKE TO
00:48:25.00\00:48:27.77
BE EARLY. SHE LIKES
TO JUST CUT IT RIGHT
00:48:27.77\00:48:30.71
AT THE WIRE AND I GET STRESSED.
SO WE HAVE TWO CARS TO COME TO
00:48:30.71\00:48:35.04
CHURCH AND WE HAVE MARITAL BLISS
NOW BECAUSE SHE COMES A LITTLE
00:48:35.04\00:48:38.88
LATER THAN I COME AND I LEAVE
A LITTLE SOONER THAT SHE DOES.
00:48:38.88\00:48:42.15
ONCE SHE'S WITH PEOPLE,
SHE'LL STAY ALL DAY LONG.
00:48:42.15\00:48:44.12
SHE'LL BE THERE - THE DEACON'S
WAITING TO LOCK THE DOOR AND
00:48:44.12\00:48:46.29
KAREN'S VISITING
WITH THE LAST PERSON.
00:48:46.29\00:48:48.02
GREAT PASTOR'S WIFE BECAUSE
SHE KNOWS EVERYBODY AND IT'S A
00:48:48.02\00:48:50.53
BLESSING. BUT
YOU'VE GOT TO BE ABLE TO
00:48:50.53\00:48:53.13
UNDERSTAND THAT - HOW YOUR
SPOUSE TREATS THE TIME AND TO
00:48:53.13\00:48:59.00
BE CONSIDERATE OF THOSE THINGS.
DON'T BE LAZY. IF ONE IS DOING
00:48:59.00\00:49:05.67
ALL THE OTHER - ALL THE WORK
- AND ONE IS LAYING AROUND, THE
00:49:05.67\00:49:09.14
BIBLE SAYS - 1 TIMOTHY 5:8 -
'BE NOT SLOTHFUL.' 1 CORINTHIANS
00:49:09.14\00:49:14.85
14:40, "LET ALL THINGS BE
DONE DECENTLY AND IN ORDER."
00:49:14.85\00:49:18.89
"IF ANY PROVIDE NOT FOR THOSE OF
HIS OWN HOUSE, HE IS DENYING THE
00:49:18.89\00:49:22.66
FAITH AND IS
WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL."
00:49:22.66\00:49:25.29
HAVING A HUSBAND THAT IS
LAZY AND SLOTHFUL IS BAD FOR THE
00:49:25.29\00:49:30.63
FAMILY AND A
DENIAL OF THE FAITH.
00:49:30.63\00:49:33.07
SO BEING CLEAN, ORDERLY, ON
TIME AND INDUSTRIOUS, THESE ARE
00:49:33.07\00:49:35.70
BASICS THAT WILL HELP BRING
HARMONY INTO YOUR MARRIAGE.
00:49:35.70\00:49:39.07
AND ALL OF US HAVE WEAKNESSES IN
THESE AREAS AND ALL OF US CAN DO
00:49:39.07\00:49:41.94
BETTER, AMEN? IN THESE THINGS.
TIME IS THE STUFF THAT LIFE IS
00:49:41.94\00:49:46.75
MADE OF, SO BE CONSCIOUS
OF YOUR TIME AND HAVE A GOOD
00:49:46.75\00:49:48.92
SCHEDULE IN YOUR FAMILY.
12) LOVE AND SERVE ONE ANOTHER.
00:49:48.92\00:49:57.29
IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT
'WHAT WILL I GET OUT OF IT?'
00:49:57.29\00:49:59.79
I WANT TO MARRY THIS PERSON
BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY'RE GOING TO
00:49:59.79\00:50:01.46
DO FOR ME.' BUT JESUS
DOESN'T THINK THAT WAY.
00:50:01.46\00:50:04.77
JESUS CAME TO THIS WORLD BECAUSE
OF WHAT HE COULD DO FOR US.
00:50:04.77\00:50:08.64
HE SAID, "THE SON OF MAN" -
MATTHEW 20, VERSE 28 - "DID NOT
00:50:08.64\00:50:13.07
COME TO BE SERVED BUT TO SERVE
AND TO GIVE HIS LIFE A RANSOM
00:50:13.07\00:50:17.55
FOR MANY." SEE
YOUR SPOUSE AS SOMEBODY,
00:50:17.55\00:50:20.52
BEFORE WHOM, YOU CAN
MODEL CHRIST BY BEING A SERVANT.
00:50:20.52\00:50:24.12
AND EVEN IF - THOSE WHO
ARE SINGLES - LOOK FOR LIVES OF
00:50:24.12\00:50:26.22
SERVICE -
OPPORTUNITY TO SERVE OTHERS.
00:50:26.22\00:50:28.59
HEARD ABOUT THIS YOUNG COUPLE,
THEY HAD GOTTEN MARRIED, CAME
00:50:28.59\00:50:34.00
BACK FROM THE HONEYMOON AND
MOVED INTO THE NEW HOME THAT
00:50:34.00\00:50:36.13
THEY HAD PURCHASED AND AFTER THE
FIRST DAY IN THE NEW HOME THE
00:50:36.13\00:50:39.63
WIFE WAS UPSTAIRS AND WHEN SHE
WOKE UP, THE HUSBAND IS COMING
00:50:39.63\00:50:42.77
UPSTAIRS AND HE'S GOT BREAKFAST
ON A TRAY WITH A FLOWER AND HE
00:50:42.77\00:50:49.24
BRINGS IT AND HE SETS IT DOWN
ON THE BED AND SHE SITS UP AND
00:50:49.24\00:50:52.15
SHE'S RUBBING HER
EYES AND SHE'S SMILING.
00:50:52.15\00:50:54.18
HE SAYS, 'SEE WHAT I
DID FOR YOU, SWEETIE?'
00:50:54.18\00:50:56.69
'OH, THIS IS SO KIND.' 'SEE,
SEE THE TOAST - HOW I DID IT?'
00:50:56.69\00:51:01.66
HE SAYS, 'IT'S NOT BURNT,
IT'S NOT WHITE, IT'S JUST GOLDEN
00:51:01.66\00:51:05.23
BROWN. AND THE
EGGS, THEY'RE NOT RUNNY.
00:51:05.23\00:51:08.13
THEY'RE SCRAMBLED JUST RIGHT.
00:51:08.13\00:51:10.17
SEE, I'VE GOT YOUR TEA IN
THE BACK - IT'S STILL HOT.
00:51:10.17\00:51:12.77
SEE WHAT I DID.' 'OH,
YOU'RE SUCH A DARLING!'
00:51:12.77\00:51:16.40
HER EYES ARE TEARING UP AND SHE
SAID, 'I MARRIED THE BEST MAN IN
00:51:16.40\00:51:18.81
THE WORLD AND...' AND THEN
HE SAID, 'THIS IS HOW I'LL BE
00:51:18.81\00:51:22.21
EXPECTING MY BREAKFAST EVERY
DAY FROM HERE ON.' (LAUGHTER)
00:51:22.21\00:51:29.85
SERVE OTHERS NOT BECAUSE
YOU HAVE AN ULTERIOR MOTIVE.
00:51:29.85\00:51:35.29
SERVE OTHERS BECAUSE YOU JUST
LOVE THEM, EXPECTING NOTHING IN
00:51:35.29\00:51:39.73
RETURN. DIDN'T JESUS SAY GIVE
00:51:39.73\00:51:41.56
EXPECTING NOTHING
IN RETURN? LOVE SERVES.
00:51:41.56\00:51:45.23
1 CORINTHIANS 7:33, "BUT HE
WHO IS MARRIED CARES ABOUT THE
00:51:45.23\00:51:49.27
THINGS OF THE WORLD -
HOW HE MAY PLEASE HIS WIFE."
00:51:49.27\00:51:52.54
NOTICE, PAUL SAYS HE THAT IS
MARRIED CARES HOW HE MAY PLEASE
00:51:52.54\00:51:55.41
HIS WIFE. THEN HE GOES ON AND
HE SAYS, "BUT SHE WHO IS MARRIED
00:51:55.41\00:51:59.31
CARES...HOW SHE MAY
PLEASE HER HUSBAND."
00:51:59.31\00:52:01.98
WE OUGHT TO BE LIVING LIVES
WHERE WE'RE LOOKING FOR WAYS TO
00:52:01.98\00:52:05.49
PLEASE THE OTHER PERSON.
YOU'VE HEARD IT SAID BEFORE: YOU
00:52:05.49\00:52:08.16
TREAT YOUR WIFE LIKE A QUEEN AND
SHE WILL TREAT YOU LIKE A KING.
00:52:08.16\00:52:12.53
AND SO GIVE AND IT
WILL BE GIVEN UNTO YOU.
00:52:12.53\00:52:17.23
THIS IS JUST A RULE OF LIFE.
00:52:17.23\00:52:18.27
YOU'RE GOING TO
GET WHAT YOU GIVE.
00:52:18.27\00:52:20.24
AND I HEARD ONE PASTOR SAY ONE
TIME THAT MEN, TYPICALLY, ARE
00:52:20.24\00:52:29.24
PRODUCERS AND
WOMEN ARE PROCESSORS.
00:52:29.24\00:52:34.52
AND A MAN, THROUGH AN ACT OF
LOVE GIVES A WOMAN A SEED AND
00:52:34.52\00:52:39.59
SHE WILL THEN PROCESS IT FOR
NINE MONTHS AND GIVE HIM A BABY.
00:52:39.59\00:52:43.93
AND YOU MIGHT BRING HOME
SOME MONEY - YOU GIVE HER SOME
00:52:43.93\00:52:46.83
GROCERIES AND SHE WILL PROCESS
THEM AND MAKE A BEAUTIFUL MEAL.
00:52:46.83\00:52:49.86
I KNOW THIS IS VERY TRADITIONAL
- I'M SPEAKING - YOU CAN DEAL
00:52:49.86\00:52:51.90
WITH ME LATER. (LAUGHTER) BUT IF
YOU GIVE YOUR WIFE A HARD TIME
00:52:51.90\00:52:59.21
SHE WILL PROCESS THAT
TOO AND GIVE IT BACK TO YOU.
00:52:59.21\00:53:02.38
(LAUGHTER) AND SO, YOU'RE
GOING TO GET WHAT YOU GIVE.
00:53:02.38\00:53:07.75
IF YOU GIVE AFFECTION, THAT'LL
BE PROCESSED AND RETURNED.
00:53:07.75\00:53:13.19
IF YOU GIVE A HARD TIME, THAT'LL
BE PROCESSED AND RETURNED.
00:53:13.19\00:53:17.39
AND SO, LOVE - TRY
AND OUT LOVE EACH OTHER.
00:53:17.39\00:53:20.80
READ 1 CORINTHIANS 13 -
I'LL START WITH VERSE 4, "LOVE
00:53:20.80\00:53:24.73
SUFFERS LONG AND IS KIND; LOVE
DOES NOT ENVY; LOVE DOES NOT
00:53:24.73\00:53:28.97
PARADE ITSELF, IS NOT
PUFFED UP;" - IT'S NOT PROUD.
00:53:28.97\00:53:32.67
SOMETIMES - SO MANY TIMES - IN
MARRIAGES THERE'S STRIFE BECAUSE
00:53:32.67\00:53:35.88
SOMEONE'S PRIDE WAS OFFENDED
- LOVE "DOES NOT BEHAVE RUDELY,
00:53:35.88\00:53:40.15
DOES NOT SEEK ITS OWN, IT'S
NOT PROVOKED, THINKS NO EVIL;" -
00:53:40.15\00:53:44.39
PURITY OF THOUGHT - "DOES
NOT REJOICE IN INIQUITY, BUT
00:53:44.39\00:53:47.46
REJOICES IN THE TRUTH; BEARS
ALL THINGS," - PATIENCE IN OUR
00:53:47.46\00:53:51.03
RELATIONSHIPS - "BELIEVES
ALL THINGS, HOPES IN ALL THINGS,
00:53:51.03\00:53:54.83
ENDURES ALL
THINGS. LOVE NEVER FAILS."
00:53:54.83\00:53:59.17
THAT'S THE KIND OF
LOVE - A LOVE THAT ENDURES.
00:53:59.17\00:54:03.41
JESUS SAID HE THAT ENDURES
TO THE END WILL BE SAVED.
00:54:03.41\00:54:06.17
GOD WANTS US TO HAVE MARRIAGES
THAT WAY, WHERE WE FINISH WELL.
00:54:06.17\00:54:09.31
AMEN, FRIENDS? DON'T
YOU WANT TO HAVE THAT KIND
00:54:09.31\00:54:12.01
OF LOVE IN OUR HOME AND THIS IS
HOW WE WILL HAVE A STRONG CHURCH
00:54:12.01\00:54:17.72
- STRONG FAMILIES - AND IT'LL
AFFECT OUR WHOLE COMMUNITY AND
00:54:17.72\00:54:20.42
OUR COUNTRY, IF WE COULD JUST
HAVE A REVIVAL OF THE BIBLICAL
00:54:20.42\00:54:23.69
CONCEPT OF LOVE
IN OUR MARRIAGES.
00:54:23.69\00:54:26.56
GOD WANTS YOU TO HAVE
THAT KIND OF A HOME. (MUSIC)
00:54:26.56\00:54:38.77
>>TODAY'S SMART PHONES
ARE A VIRTUAL UNIVERSE OF
00:54:38.77\00:54:40.94
INFORMATION THAT FITS
IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND.
00:54:40.94\00:54:43.65
IT'S A GOOD THING WE
HAVE OPPOSABLE THUMBS.
00:54:43.65\00:54:45.81
WITH IT, YOU CAN BUY YOUR
GROCERIES, TAKE CARE OF YOUR
00:54:45.81\00:54:49.25
EXERCISE REGIME, WATCH A VIDEO,
LISTEN TO MUSIC, YOU CAN SURF
00:54:49.25\00:54:53.62
THE INTERNATIONAL WORLD WIDE
WEB, WHICH MAY NOT ALWAYS BE A
00:54:53.62\00:54:57.16
GOOD THING. AND,
YOU KNOW, THERE IS MORE
00:54:57.16\00:54:59.49
COMPUTER PROCESSING TECHNOLOGY
AND POWER IN A LITTLE SMART
00:54:59.49\00:55:03.23
PHONE TODAY THAN WAS USED BY
NASA TO PUT A MAN ON THE MOON.
00:55:03.23\00:55:07.44
AND I ALMOST FORGOT, YOU CAN
ALSO USE THESE TO MAKE A PHONE
00:55:07.44\00:55:10.17
CALL - BUT WHO
DOES THAT ANYMORE?
00:55:10.17\00:55:12.81
TODAY COMMUNICATION IS
NOT IN COMPLETE SENTENCES.
00:55:12.81\00:55:15.28
IT'S ALL ABOUT SHORT MESSAGE
SERVICING OR SMS TEXTING.
00:55:15.28\00:55:19.65
THAT'S RIGHT, THERE ARE ABOUT
2.5 BILLION PEOPLE IN THE WORLD
00:55:19.65\00:55:24.35
TODAY THAT ARE COMMUNICATING
WITH THEIR FELLOW HUMANS IN
00:55:24.35\00:55:27.12
SHORT BYTES CALLED TEXTING.
THAT'S MORE DATA THAT IS BEING
00:55:27.12\00:55:31.06
USED THAN THOSE WHO
ARE SURFING THE WEB OR EVEN
00:55:31.06\00:55:33.43
PLAYING VIDEO GAMES.
AND FRIENDS, NOWHERE IS THIS
00:55:33.43\00:55:35.80
MORE TRUE THAN RIGHT
HERE IN THE PHILIPPINES.
00:55:35.80\00:55:38.43
EVEN THOUGH THE PHILIPPINES HAS
ABOUT A HUNDRED MILLION PEOPLE,
00:55:38.43\00:55:41.24
THEY ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE
LARGEST NUMBER OF TEXT MESSAGES
00:55:41.24\00:55:44.44
OF ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD.
THEY'RE THE TWELFTH LARGEST
00:55:44.44\00:55:47.34
COUNTRY, BUT THEY SEND 400
MILLION TEXT MESSAGES EVERY DAY.
00:55:47.34\00:55:52.75
WOW, THAT'S A LOT
OF FINGER FATIGUE.
00:55:52.75\00:55:56.15
EVEN THOUGH THE GREATEST
NUMBER OF TEXTERS IS HERE IN THE
00:55:56.15\00:55:58.65
PHILIPPINES, THE RECORD FOR THE
FASTEST TEXTER IN THE WORLD IS
00:55:58.65\00:56:02.16
FROM BRAZIL. A YOUNG
MAN BY THE NAME OF MARCEL
00:56:02.16\00:56:04.69
FERNANDEZ FILHO, HE WAS ABLE TO
TEXT 25 VERY COMPLICATED WORDS
00:56:04.69\00:56:09.10
IN A LITTLE
MORE THAN 18 SECONDS.
00:56:09.10\00:56:11.17
WOW, IT TAKES ME LONGER THAN
THAT TO JUST SAY 'I LOVE YOU' TO
00:56:11.17\00:56:14.54
MY WIFE AND PRESS
SEND - ALL THUMBS.
00:56:14.54\00:56:18.24
ONE OF THE NEAT THINGS ABOUT
TEXTING IS YOU CAN TEXT JUST
00:56:18.24\00:56:20.84
ABOUT ANYWHERE. IF
YOU'RE SURROUNDED WITH PEOPLE
00:56:20.84\00:56:23.01
AND YOU WANT TO SEND A
PERSONAL MESSAGE, YOU TEXT.
00:56:23.01\00:56:25.35
IF YOU'RE IN A CROWDED SUBWAY
OR AN AIRPORT, YOU CAN TEXT.
00:56:25.35\00:56:28.48
IF YOU'RE SURROUNDED BY NOISE
OR NOSY PEOPLE, YOU CAN TEXT.
00:56:28.48\00:56:32.72
JUST DON'T TEXT
WHILE YOU'RE DRIVING.
00:56:32.72\00:56:34.46
THAT'S WHAT'S SO WONDERFUL,
FRIENDS, YOU CAN ALWAYS TEXT GOD
00:56:34.46\00:56:37.73
A MESSAGE OF
PRAYER FROM YOUR HEART.
00:56:37.73\00:56:40.20
WHEN YOU'RE WONDERING,
'WHAT SCHOOL DO I GO TO?'
00:56:40.20\00:56:42.23
'WHAT JOB DO I TAKE?'
'WHO AM I SUPPOSED TO DATE THAT
00:56:42.23\00:56:45.00
MAY BE A FUTURE LIFE
PARTNER?' YOUR PRAYERS DON'T
00:56:45.00\00:56:47.24
HAVE TO BE LONG. THE
SHORTEST PRAYER IN THE BIBLE
00:56:47.24\00:56:49.54
IS THREE WORDS, WHEN PETER
PRAYED, 'LORD, SAVE ME.' AND
00:56:49.54\00:56:53.64
JESUS ANSWERED HIS PRAYER.
AND IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW FAST
00:56:53.64\00:56:55.91
YOU CAN TEXT WHEN
YOU'RE TALKING TO GOD.
00:56:55.91\00:56:58.18
HE'LL KNOW WHAT YOU'RE ASKING
FOR AND HEAR YOUR PRAYER BEFORE
00:56:58.18\00:57:01.08
YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO SAY 'AMEN'
AND PRESS THE SEND BUTTON.
00:57:01.08\00:57:04.25
IN FACT, FRIENDS, YOU'LL BRING
JOY TO GOD WHEN YOU SEND HIM
00:57:04.25\00:57:07.06
REGULAR MESSAGES
FROM YOUR HEART TO HIS.
00:57:07.06\00:57:10.19
SO WHY DON'T YOU
TALK TO HIM RIGHT NOW?
00:57:10.19\00:57:12.66
(MUSIC)
00:57:12.66\00:57:24.34
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FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS MAN HAS
WORSHIPED GOD ON THE SEVENTH DAY
00:57:37.72\00:57:41.59
OF THE WEEK. NOW,
EACH WEEK, MILLIONS OF
00:57:41.59\00:57:44.59
PEOPLE WORSHIP ON THE
FIRST DAY. WHAT HAPPENED?
00:57:44.59\00:57:48.23
WHY DID GOD
CREATE A DAY OF REST?
00:57:48.23\00:57:50.63
DOES IT REALLY
MATTER WHAT DAY WE WORSHIP?
00:57:50.63\00:57:53.44
WHO WAS BEHIND THIS GREAT SHIFT?
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00:57:53.44\00:57:56.71
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00:58:03.95\00:58:18.96