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>>FRIENDS, WE'RE OUT
HERE IN THE PACIFIC OCEAN NOT
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TOO FAR FROM THE ISLAND OF FIJI
AND WE'RE GETTING READY TO LOOK
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AT SOME WONDERS IN THE DEEP.
THE BIBLE SAYS GOD MADE THE
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HEAVEN, THE EARTH, AND THE SEA.
AND THERE ARE THINGS UNDER THE
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SEA THAT ARE BEAUTIFUL THAT
MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEVER SEEN.
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SOME FOLKS MIGHT JUST SKIM ALONG
- SNORKEL - ON THE SURFACE, BUT
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IF YOU WANT TO SEE THE REAL
MAJESTY OF THE OCEAN, YOU'VE GOT
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TO GO DEEPER. (MUSIC)
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>>BECAUSE PEOPLE DON'T
HAVE GILLS LIKE FISH, WE HAVE TO
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DO SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY
TO BE ABLE TO BREATHE BELOW THE
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SURFACE. AND
BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO BREATHE
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ALL THE TIME, WE NEED
THIS SPECIAL EQUIPMENT.
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IN THE SAME WAY, THE BIBLE
SAYS A CHRISTIAN NEEDS TO PRAY
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WITHOUT CEASING. WE
NEED TO ALWAYS BE BREATHING
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THE ATMOSPHERE OF HEAVEN IF
WE'RE GOING TO LIVE A CHRISTIAN
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LIFE IN THIS WORLD BELOW.
WOW, WHAT A WONDERFUL WORLD.
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>>DEEP WITHIN THE PAGES OF THE
BIBLE, STORIES OF GREAT HEROES,
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HEROES OF GREAT DEEDS,
GREAT LOVE AND GREAT SACRIFICE.
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BUT BEHIND THEM IS ANOTHER HERO
HIDDEN IN PLAIN SIGHT AMID THE
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SHADOWS. HE WAS
THERE FROM THE BEGINNING
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AND HE'LL BE
THERE UNTIL THE END.
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ENTIRE BIBLE TAPESTRY.
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>>OUR MESSAGE FOR TODAY,
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AND IT'S GOING TO BE MAYBE A
TWO- OR THREE-PART MESSAGE, IS
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GOING TO BE CALLED TOGETHER FOR
LIFE - TOGETHER FOR LIFE: BIBLE
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KEYS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE .
AND MARRIAGE IS THE FOUNDATIONAL
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INSTITUTION FOR THE NATION AND
FOR SOCIETY. IT'S TYPICALLY HOW
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PEOPLE COME INTO THE WORLD.
IT'S HOW NATIONS ARE BORN.
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IT'S WHERE THE
FIRST TEACHING TRANSPIRES.
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IT FORMS YOU AS A PERSON.
MARRIAGE IS VERY IMPORTANT.
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PEOPLE PUT A LOT OF EMPHASIS
ON, YOU KNOW, HAVING EXTRAVAGANT
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WEDDINGS AND DOING UNIQUE, OR
SOMETIMES EVEN ZANY THINGS, IN
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THEIR WEDDING, BUT IN ALL
OF THAT, MAYBE IT LOSES ITS
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SACREDNESS. MUCH OF
THE WORLD TUNED IN 2011
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FOR THE GLOBALLY BROADCAST
WEDDING OF PRINCE WILLIAM AND
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KATE MIDDLETON. IT
WAS A PRINCE'S WEDDING AND
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THEY SAY THAT IT COST 34
MILLION DOLLARS. WEDDING CAKE -
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$80,000.00. $800,000.00
IN FLOWERS FOR THE WEDDING.
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BUT THOSE OF YOU WHO REMEMBER,
BACK IN 1981, IT WAS ACTUALLY
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THE MARRIAGE OF WILLIAM'S MOTHER
AND PRINCE CHARLES THAT WAS
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CALLED THE
WEDDING OF THE CENTURY.
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YOU KNOW, DI'S DRESS WAS
ONLY $13,000.00 BUT THAT WAS -
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BACK THEN, THAT
WAS A LOT MORE MONEY.
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MATTER OF FACT, IF YOU ADJUST
FOR INFLATION, THEIR WEDDING,
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TODAY, WOULD HAVE
COST $70 MILLION DOLLARS.
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THAT WAS MOSTLY FOR
CROWD CONTROL AND SECURITY.
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REALLY, THAT'S
WHERE MOST OF IT WENT.
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YOU KNOW, IT WAS SORT OF
THAT FAIRY TALE STORY ABOUT THE
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PRINCE MARRYING THE DAUGHTER OF
A COMMONER, AND IT'S INTERESTING
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THAT PRINCESS DI, HERSELF,
HER PARENTS HAD DIVORCED.
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WHEN SHE WAS VERY YOUNG, ONE DAY
HER MOTHER TOLD HER, SHE SAID,
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'I'LL BE HOME SOON.'
AND SHE NEVER CAME HOME.
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AND IT REALLY TROUBLED
HER FOR MANY YEARS AFTER THAT.
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WHEN PRINCE CHARLES BEGAN TO
DATE DI'S SISTER, SHE TOLD HER
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FRIENDS, SHE SAID, 'I'M
GOING TO MARRY THAT MAN.'
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AND THEY SAID,
'WHAT MAKES YOU SO SURE?'
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SHE SAYS, 'I'VE GOT TO MARRY HIM
BECAUSE HE'S THE ONLY MAN IN THE
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WORLD THAT IS NOT ALLOWED TO
DIVORCE ME.' AND THEN, THOSE OF
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YOU WHO REMEMBER THE STORY, IT
UNRAVELED FOR ALL THE WORLD TO
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WATCH WITH, EVIDENTLY,
UNFAITHFULNESS ON BOTH SIDES -
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ENDED IN DIVORCE AND,
ULTIMATELY, A TRAGIC DEATH.
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IN OUR WORLD TODAY,
DIVORCE IS EPIDEMIC.
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YOU'VE PROBABLY HEARD
THAT STATISTICS THAT SOMEWHERE
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BETWEEN 40 AND 50 PERCENT
OF MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE.
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THE REASON THAT THOSE STATISTICS
ARE SO SLOPPY IS BECAUSE SO MANY
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PEOPLE LIVE TODAY WITHOUT
EVEN THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE,
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IT'S HARD TO REALLY MEASURE IT.
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I BELIEVE IT WAS - SOMEONE
THINKS, MAYBE, 'WELL, MAYBE THE
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SECOND MARRIAGE'LL BE BETTER.'
60 PERCENT OF SECOND MARRIAGES
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END IN DIVORCE AND IT'S
EVEN WORSE FOR THIRD MARRIAGES.
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PAIGE PATTERSON, WHO WAS
THE PRESIDENT OF THE BAPTIST
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THEOLOGICAL SEMINARY IN FORT
WORTH, CITING THE DEMISE OF 21
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OF THE WORLD'S GREAT
CIVILIZATIONS - ACTUALLY, THE
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HISTORIAN WHO WROTE ABOUT THIS
WAS AN ATHEIST, BUT HE SAID THAT
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HE DISCOVERED THAT AMONG
THE 21 OF THE WORLD'S GREATEST
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CIVILIZATIONS, PART OF THEIR
BREAKDOWN WAS THE BREAKDOWN OF
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THE HOME. ADDING TO THAT, HE
SAID, 'AMERICA COULD BE LIVING
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OUT ITS FINAL CHAPTERS IN
THE ANNALS OF HISTORY UNLESS THE
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BIBLICAL MODEL FOR
THE FAMILY IS RESTORED.
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JAMES DOBSON SAID, IN MAY OF
THIS YEAR, 'I DO NOT RECALL A
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TIME WHEN THE INSTITUTIONS
OF MARRIAGE AND THE FAMILY HAVE
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FACED SUCH PERIL, OR WHEN
THE FORCES ARRAYED AGAINST THEM
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WERE MORE
FORMIDABLE OR DETERMINED.
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BARRING A MIRACLE, THE FAMILY
THAT HAS EXISTED SINCE ANTIQUITY
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WILL LIKELY CRUMBLE
FORESHADOWING THE FALL OF
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WESTERN CIVILIZATION ITSELF.'
AND MANY ARE WONDERING IF WHAT
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HAPPENED WITH THE SUPREME
COURT AT THAT RECENT RULING ON
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MARRIAGE WAS DRIVING A SILVER
SPIKE IN THE HEART OF AMERICAN
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MARRIAGE
ALTOGETHER. WELL, WHAT DO WE DO?
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DO WE THROW OUR
HANDS IN THE AIR AND SAY,
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'WELL, I GUESS
THAT'S THE END OF MARRIAGE'?
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THERE WAS A PEW SURVEY THAT WENT
OUT - I BELIEVE LAST YEAR - AND
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AN INCREASING NUMBER - WAS
IT 40 PERCENT OF AMERICANS FELT
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MARRIAGE MAY BECOME - MAY
BE BECOMING IRRELEVANT - THIS
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INSTITUTION THAT IS THE BEDROCK
FOUNDATION OF OUR CULTURE.
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WELL, YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE SAYS
THAT MARRIAGE IS GOD'S PLAN.
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YOU READ THE BIBLE, IT
BEGINS WITH A WEDDING AND GOD
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OFFICIATES AT THE FIRST
WEDDING BETWEEN ADAM AND EVE.
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THE BIBLE ENDS WITH THE
WEDDING SUPPER OF THE LAMB.
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THE FIRST MIRACLE OF
JESUS IS PERFORMED AT A WEDDING.
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A MARRIAGE WAS VERY
IMPORTANT TO THE LORD.
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READ THE SONG OF SOLOMON AND
SO MANY OF THE OTHER STORIES -
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WHETHER IT'S HOSEA OR A NUMBER
OF OTHERS - THEY'RE DONE - THE
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PARABLES OF JESUS ARE OFTEN
IN THE CONTEXT OF A WEDDING.
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MARRIAGE IS A VERY IMPORTANT
TRUTH TO GOD AND IT IS, AS I
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SAID, IT'S A FOUNDATIONAL -
IT IS THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT
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BASIC UNIT IN OUR
LIVES AND CULTURE.
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YOU KNOW, MARRIAGE, REPRODUCTION
IS ONE OF THE GREATEST MYSTERIES
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THAT EVOLUTIONISTS
CANNOT EXPLAIN. IT'S A MIRACLE.
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BECAUSE, IF ALL LIFE ON EARTH
BEGAN BY SINGLE-CELLED ORGANISMS
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SOMEHOW TEACHING THEMSELVES TO
DIVIDE AND RETAIN ALL OF THE DNA
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AND THEIR TWO SEPARATE
PARTS, WHAT WOULD EVER IN THE
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EVOLUTIONARY SCHEME OF THINGS,
EXPLAIN WHY ORGANISMS COULD NOT
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PROCREATE AND REPRODUCE WITHOUT
THE COOPERATION OF THE OPPOSITE
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SEX. IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.
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THERE'S NOTHING IN EVOLUTION
THAT WOULD EVER SAY, 'LET'S DO
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IT THIS WAY.'
BECAUSE IT SEEMS INEFFICIENT.
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I MEAN, WHEN YOU WANT TO START A
FAMILY, IF YOU'RE A SINGLE CELL,
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JUST SPLIT AND
THERE YOU GO. RIGHT?
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BUT TO HAVE TO GET ALONG WITH
AND COURT AND MAKE FRIENDS WITH
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ANOTHER CELL OF AN OPPOSITE
GENDER SO THAT YOU COULD
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COOPERATE AND REPRODUCE, NOTHING
IN EVOLUTION CAN EXPLAIN THAT.
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BUT GOD HAS DESIGNED THAT
HE MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE -
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>>AMEN! >>AND
THROUGH THE TWO OF THEM,
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THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
MEN AND WOMEN, WE COLLECTIVELY
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EXPRESS THE
IMAGE OF GOD. >>AMEN.
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>>THERE ARE ASPECTS OF THE IMAGE
OF GOD THAT ARE SEEN IN THE
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WOMAN AND THE MOTHER AND THERE
ARE ASPECTS OF THE IMAGE OF GOD
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THAT ARE SEEN IN THE MAN AND
THE FATHER AND IT IS NOT REALLY
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COMPLETE UNTIL YOU
SEE THEM BOTH TOGETHER.
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THEY BECOME ONE
THROUGH MARRIAGE.
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THE LORD SAID -
GENESIS CHAPTER 2, VERSE 18 -
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"IT IS NOT GOOD THAT
MAN SHOULD BE ALONE."
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NOW, I KNOW, WHENEVER I
TALK ABOUT A MESSAGE LIKE THIS,
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THERE'S ALWAYS A LOT OF SINGLES
THAT ARE HERE, SOME WHO HAVE
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NEVER BEEN MARRIED, SOME
WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED AND MAYBE
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DIVORCED - OR MAYBE
WIDOWED - AND YOU'RE THINKING,
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'HOW DO I FIT INTO ALL OF THIS?'
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WELL, BEAR WITH ME AND -
IN FOLLOWING PRESENTATIONS
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WE'RE GOING TO BE TALKING ABOUT
THAT IN RELATION TO FAMILY.
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BUT GOD SAID IT'S NOT
GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE.
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THAT'S NOT JUST TALKING ABOUT
MARRIAGE, BUT MAN IS DESIGNED TO
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BE A SOCIAL CREATURE.
AND YOU CAN TAKE IT FROM ME,
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I LIVED AS A
HERMIT FOR A LONG TIME.
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AND I ALWAYS LIKED TO SAY THAT
THERE'S PROBABLY NOT TOO MANY
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PEOPLE THAT ARE HERE TODAY
OR LISTENING THAT CAN SAY THAT
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YOU'VE GONE DAYS OR WEEKS
WITHOUT SEEING ANOTHER HUMAN
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FACE, HEARING ANOTHER HUMAN
VOICE - NO RADIO - NO TV - NO
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COMPUTER - NO HUMAN CONTACT - NO
GUARDS COMING BY TO BRING YOU A
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MEAL. YOU'RE JUST ALL BY
YOURSELF. AND I CAN TELL YOU,
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IT'S NOT GOOD FOR MAN TO BE
ALONE. I JUST DID IT BECAUSE I
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HAD TROUBLE GETTING
ALONG, BUT BEING ALONE IS WORSE.
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AND THE LORD FINALLY TAUGHT ME
YOU CAN'T RUN AWAY FROM PEOPLE
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ALL THE TIME, YOU'VE
GOT TO LEARN TO GET ALONG.
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AND, YOU KNOW, THAT'S PART OF
THE REASON OF MARRIAGE IS THAT
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THE LORD PUTS YOU TOGETHER WITH
A PERSON AND THE VERY THINGS YOU
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FIND SO ATTRACTIVE ABOUT
THEM ARE THINGS THAT YOU USUALLY
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DON'T POSSESS AND IT'S ALMOST
OPPOSITE SOMETIMES AND GOD HAS A
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SENSE OF HUMOR - OPPOSITES
ATTRACT - AND THOSE VERY THINGS
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THAT YOU LIKED SO MUCH BECAUSE
THEY'RE DIFFERENT, END UP
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BECOMING ANNOYING LATER AND
THEY BECOME THE CATALYST FOR
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SANCTIFYING YOU. THAT'S RIGHT.
AND THE LORD SMILES FROM THE
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HEAVENS AND SAYS, 'IF YOU
LOVE ME, LOVE THEM.' IT'S NOT
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GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE.
SOME OF YOU REMEMBER READING -
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OR YOU HEARD ABOUT - THE
STORY OF ROBINSON CRUSOE.
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ROBINSON CRUSOE, BELIEVE IT
OR NOT, IS ACTUALLY BASED ON THE
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TRUE STORY OF A SAILOR BY THE
NAME OF ALEXANDER SELKIRK, WHO
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GOT INTO A VERY SEVERE ARGUMENT
- HE HAD TROUBLE GETTING ALONG -
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AND HE GOT INTO A SEVERE
ARGUMENT WITH THE CAPTAIN,
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DAMPIERRE, WHO PUT HIM OFF
ON AN ISLAND WHEN THEY STOPPED.
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HE SAID, 'I'D RATHER LIVE BY
MYSELF AND THE NEXT SHIP'LL PICK
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ME UP.' THEY PUT
HIM OFF ON AN ISLAND
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OFF OF CHILE CALLED SAN
FERNANDO - HUNDREDS OF MILES
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OUT IN THE OCEAN -
AND LEFT HIM THERE.
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WELL, IT WAS YEARS
BEFORE ANOTHER SHIP CAME BY.
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AND THERE WAS NOTHING ON
THE ISLAND BUT SOME CATS THAT
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ESCAPED AND MULTIPLIED
AND SOME GOATS AND RATS.
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AND HE WAS EXTREMELY LONELY.
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WELL, HE EVENTUALLY SORT OF
LEARNED TO GET ALONG AND MADE
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FRIENDS WITH THE GOATS AND
LEARNED HOW TO SURVIVE AND WHEN
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THEY FINALLY FOUND HIM AND
RESCUED HIM - ANOTHER SHIP CAME
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BY - THEY SAID THEY HAD A HARD
TIME TALKING TO HIM BECAUSE HE
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HAD NOT COMMUNICATED WITH PEOPLE
IN SO LONG THAT HIS SENTENCES
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WERE SORT OF SHORT
AND MUTTERING AND GARBLED.
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MATTER OF FACT, I THINK IT
WAS ROBERT LOUIS STEVENSON - HIS
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BOOK TREASURE ISLAND - HE TALKS
ABOUT A HERMIT THAT WAS FOUND -
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HE BASED SOME OF THAT ON
THE WAY THAT ALEXANDER SELKIRK
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COMMUNICATED.
THROUGH THE LACK OF SOCIAL
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CONTEXT HE BECAME ECCENTRIC.
AND WHEN WE LIVE UNTO OURSELVES,
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WE BECOME EMOTIONALLY
AND SOCIALLY UNHEALTHY.
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IT IS NOT GOOD THAT
A MAN SHOULD BE ALONE.
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MARRIAGE IS PART OF
GOD'S PLAN FOR MEN AND WOMEN.
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NOW, SOMETIMES IT'S, I
THINK, HARDER FOR MEN AND A
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NINE-YEAR-OLD GIRL SAID THAT'S
BECAUSE MEN NEED SOMEONE TO
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CLEAN UP AFTER THEM. (LAUGHTER)
BUT IT'S PART OF GOD'S PLAN.
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NOW THERE'S A NUMBER OF BOOKS
THAT'LL TELL YOU ABOUT THIS AND
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SO, PROBABLY WHAT I'M
GOING TO SAY IS NOTHING NEW.
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SOME PEOPLE TALK ABOUT MEN BEING
FROM MARS AND WOMEN BEING FROM
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VENUS AND THERE'S ANOTHER - A
NUMBER OF OTHER SCENARIOS ABOUT
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HOW MEN AND WOMEN ARE
SO UNIQUELY DIFFERENT.
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CHUCK SWINDOLL, IN A BOOK CALLED
THE GREAT AWAKENING , HE REVEALS
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A SURVEY THAT WAS DONE AMONG
THOUSANDS OF MEN AND WOMEN,
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ABOUT WHAT THEY EXPRESSED
AS THEIR FIVE MAJOR NEEDS.
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NOW LISTEN TO WHAT THE
FIVE MAJOR NEEDS OF A WOMAN -
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WHAT SHE IS LOOKING FOR IN
A RELATIONSHIP: 1) AFFECTION.
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2) CONVERSATION. 3)
HONESTY AND OPENNESS.
00:15:08.80\00:15:13.01
4) FINANCIAL
SUPPORT. 5) FAMILY COMMITMENT.
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THE FIVE MAJOR NEEDS EXPRESSED
BY MEN: 1) SEXUAL FULFILLMENT.
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2) RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP.
3) AN ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE.
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4) DOMESTIC SUPPORT
- WHATEVER THAT MEANS.
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(LAUGHTER) 5)
ADMIRATION AND RESPECT.
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NOW WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE NEEDS
AND EXPECTATIONS COMING INTO A
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MARRIAGE, CAN YOU SEE, JUST FROM
THE SURVEYS OF THE GENERALITIES
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OF WHAT MEN ARE LOOKING FOR
AND WHAT WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR,
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THAT THERE'S
POTENTIAL FOR PROBLEMS?
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(LAUGHTER) BECAUSE THERE ARE
EXTREMELY DIFFERENT NEEDS AND
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EXPECTATIONS COMING
INTO THESE RELATIONSHIPS.
00:15:52.65\00:15:57.62
NOW, I DON'T WANT TO DWELL
TOO MUCH ABOUT THIS, BUT IT'S
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SOMETHING THAT WE PROBABLY
ARE GOING TO HAVE TO TALK ABOUT.
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WHAT ARE THE MAIN
REASONS THAT DIVORCE HAPPENS?
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I'M JUST GOING TO GIVE YOU 24 OF
THE TOP REASONS THAT ARE LISTED
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WHEN PEOPLE CITE
THE REASONS FOR DIVORCE.
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FINANCIAL PROBLEMS - YOU KNOW, A
LOT OF PEOPLE THEY THINK, 'WELL,
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BEFORE WE GET MARRIED WE SHOULD
LIVE TOGETHER SO WE GET TO KNOW
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EACH OTHER TO FIND OUT IF WE'RE
COMPATIBLE.' HAVE YOU HEARD THAT
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ONE BEFORE? 'WELL,
YOU GUYS AREN'T MARRIED.
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WHY ARE YOU LIVING TOGETHER?'
'WELL, WE'RE JUST - WE WANT
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TO MAKE SURE WE'RE COMPATIBLE
BEFORE WE, YOU KNOW, MAKE IT
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OFFICIAL AND...' AND I HEARD
A PASTOR SAY IF YOU WANT TO FIND
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OUT IF YOU'RE COMPATIBLE,
YOU DON'T NEED TO SHARE A BED.
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SHARE A CHECKBOOK, BECAUSE THE
NUMBER ONE REASON THAT PEOPLE
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GET DIVORCED IS NOT BECAUSE THEY
ARE SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE, IT'S
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THEY'RE
FINANCIALLY INCOMPATIBLE.
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FINANCIAL PROBLEMS -
NUMBER ONE. INABILITY TO MANAGE
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OR RESOLVE CONFLICT. INFIDELITY.
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CULTURAL AND
LIFESTYLE DIFFERENCES.
00:16:55.68\00:16:59.35
NOW THAT'S - SOMETIMES
IT'S BIGGER THAN YOU THINK.
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PEOPLE AND THEY GROW UP IN
A WHOLE DIFFERENT CULTURE WITH
00:17:01.45\00:17:03.72
DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
AND DIFFERENT PATTERNS AND
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TRADITIONS THAT CAN SEEM
SO BIZARRE TO PEOPLE FROM A
00:17:06.79\00:17:10.26
DIFFERENT CULTURE. A LACK
OF COMMITMENT IS PUT DOWN.
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LACK OF
COMMUNICATION BETWEEN SPOUSES.
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ABANDONMENT.
ALCOHOL OR DRUG ADDICTION.
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PHYSICAL ABUSE. EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES OR
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IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES
- HAVE YOU HEARD THAT BEFORE?
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DIFFERENCES IN
PERSONAL OR CAREER GOALS.
00:17:31.41\00:17:35.08
DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
ABOUT HOUSEHOLD TASKS.
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THEY GET DIVORCED BECAUSE SHE
THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO DO IT
00:17:38.32\00:17:41.39
AND HE THOUGHT SHE
WAS GOING TO DO IT.
00:17:41.39\00:17:44.29
DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS ABOUT
HAVING OR REARING CHILDREN -
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THAT'S A BIG
ONE. INTERFERENCE FROM
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PARENTS OR
IN-LAWS. LACK OF MATURITY IS
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LISTED AS A DIFFERENCE.
INTELLECTUAL INCOMPATIBILITY -
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SOMETIMES JUST THE EDUCATIONAL
LEVEL CAN BECOME A PROBLEM.
00:17:57.97\00:18:03.65
SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY IS
LISTED, BUT IT'S PRETTY FAR DOWN
00:18:03.65\00:18:06.35
THE LIST. NOT
ALLOWING ROOM FOR PERSONAL
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GROWTH. FALLING
OUT OF LOVE - ALMOST
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SOUNDS LIKE SOMEBODY LEFT
THE LID OFF THE SEPTIC TANK AND
00:18:12.12\00:18:15.12
SOMEBODY FELL IN LOVE AND
THEN THEY SOMEHOW FELL OUT ALSO.
00:18:15.12\00:18:17.56
(LAUGHTER) YOU'LL FALL OUT
OF LOVE - IT'S LIKE FALLING UP.
00:18:17.56\00:18:22.60
RELIGIOUS CONVERSION OR
RELIGIOUS BELIEFS - I'VE SEEN
00:18:22.60\00:18:25.70
THAT BECOME A SERIOUS ISSUE.
MENTAL INSTABILITY OR MENTAL
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ILLNESS. CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR AND
00:18:29.00\00:18:32.27
INCARCERATION FOR CRIME - IT'S
VERY HARD ON MARRIAGES WHEN ONE
00:18:32.27\00:18:36.14
SPOUSE IS INCARCERATED
FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME.
00:18:36.14\00:18:40.38
INABILITY TO DEAL WITH EACH
OTHER'S PETTY IDIOSYNCRASIES.
00:18:40.38\00:18:45.42
NOW, YOU MIGHT FIND THAT
SOME OF THESE ARE ISSUES IN YOUR
00:18:45.42\00:18:49.42
MARRIAGES - THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE
MARRIED HERE - BUT NONE OF THEM
00:18:49.42\00:18:52.56
NEEDS TO BE THE
REASON FOR DIVORCE.
00:18:52.56\00:18:56.36
AND I'M GOING TO GO THROUGH
A LIST OF MAYBE 18 DIFFERENT
00:18:56.36\00:19:02.97
SUBJECTS THAT ARE BIBLE SECRETS
AND, IF WE UNDERSTAND THESE
00:19:02.97\00:19:06.88
THINGS, THEY CAN REALLY
CONTRIBUTE TO HEALING A MARRIAGE
00:19:06.88\00:19:10.55
AND MAKING A GOOD MARRIAGE
BETTER IF WE FOLLOW THESE
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PRINCIPLES. FIRST OF
ALL, 1) REMEMBER THAT
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MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE COVENANT.
00:19:17.12\00:19:20.06
IT IS SOMETHING
THAT IS VERY SERIOUS.
00:19:20.06\00:19:23.36
WE ARE SAVED - YOU'RE IN CHURCH
TODAY BECAUSE, OSTENSIBLY, YOU
00:19:23.36\00:19:26.86
WANT TO BE OR ARE A CHRISTIAN
AND WE ARE SAVED BASED ON A
00:19:26.86\00:19:30.70
COVENANT - A PROMISE -
THAT GOD HAS MADE TO US.
00:19:30.70\00:19:33.94
HE GAVE HIS SON TO SAVE US AND
WE, BY FAITH, ACCEPT HIS WORD
00:19:33.94\00:19:37.87
AND WE MAKE A PLEDGE THAT WE'RE
GOING TO COMMIT OUR LIVES TO
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HIM. THAT'S WHAT HAPPENED
00:19:40.44\00:19:41.81
TODAY WITH THESE BAPTISMS. A
COVENANT IS MADE - COVENANTS,
00:19:41.81\00:19:45.45
AGREEMENTS,
PROMISES - VERY IMPORTANT.
00:19:45.45\00:19:50.12
MARRIAGE IS AMONG THE MOST
IMPORTANT COVENANTS OR PROMISES
00:19:50.12\00:19:55.62
THAT ARE MADE.
YOU'RE MAKING VOWS IN THE
00:19:55.62\00:19:58.03
PRESENCE OF GOD
AND OTHER WITNESSES.
00:19:58.03\00:20:00.06
IT'S A COVENANT THAT'S NOT ONLY
SOMETHING THAT IS DONE BEFORE
00:20:00.06\00:20:01.93
YOU AND GOD, IT'S SOMETHING THAT
IS DONE SOCIALLY - AND I SHOULD
00:20:01.93\00:20:05.60
PROBABLY PAUSE HERE AND SAY
- AND, I KNOW, I'M GOING TO GET
00:20:05.60\00:20:08.00
LETTERS ON THIS.
PEOPLE SAY, 'WELL, YOU KNOW,
00:20:08.00\00:20:11.71
WE'RE MARRIED
IN THE EYES OF GOD.
00:20:11.71\00:20:14.74
BUT WE'RE NOT INTERESTED IN
THE GOVERNMENT'S PART IN OUR
00:20:14.74\00:20:18.11
MARRIAGE AND SO, NO, WE HAVEN'T
BEEN MARRIED WITH A LICENSE, BUT
00:20:18.11\00:20:21.18
WE BELIEVE WE'RE MARRIED AND
WE DO IT BEFORE GOD AND IS IT
00:20:21.18\00:20:24.22
NECESSARY TO GO THROUGH THE
CEREMONY AND GET REGISTERED WITH
00:20:24.22\00:20:27.02
THE STATE?' AND WHEN
I WAS A YOUNG HIPPIE, I
00:20:27.02\00:20:29.59
WOULD HAVE ARGUED THAT ONE
WAY, BUT AS I'VE GOTTEN A LITTLE
00:20:29.59\00:20:33.43
OLDER AND MORE PRACTICAL AND
I READ THE BIBLE, I DON'T AGREE
00:20:33.43\00:20:36.77
WITH THAT. I THINK
IT DOES MATTER THAT YOU
00:20:36.77\00:20:39.07
ARE LEGALLY MARRIED. BY
THE WAY, I'VE ASKED COUPLES
00:20:39.07\00:20:41.14
BEFORE AND THEY SAY, 'WELL,
WE'RE MARRIED IN THE EYES OF
00:20:41.14\00:20:43.54
GOD.' I SAY, 'WELL,
WHERE ARE YOU LEGALLY MARRIED?'
00:20:43.54\00:20:45.81
AND THEY SAY, 'NO, BUT WE'RE
MARRIED.' I SAY, 'WELL THEN, IF
00:20:45.81\00:20:48.34
YOU'RE NOT LEGALLY MARRIED, ALL
THAT'S LEFT IS YOU'RE ILLEGALLY
00:20:48.34\00:20:50.71
MARRIED.' (LAUGHTER) AND I SAID,
'MARRIAGE IS NOT JUST BETWEEN
00:20:50.71\00:20:56.38
THE TWO OF YOU AND GOD.
MARRIAGE IS ALSO SOMETHING THAT
00:20:56.38\00:20:59.82
IS A STATEMENT YOU MAKE PUBLICLY
- SOCIALLY. IT'S A COMMITMENT -
00:20:59.82\00:21:04.59
A COVENANT - THAT MAKES, FOR ONE
THING, IT IS SAYING PUBLICLY,
00:21:04.59\00:21:08.23
'WE ARE OFFICIALLY COMMITTING
OURSELVES TO EACH OTHER.
00:21:08.23\00:21:10.50
SHE IS OFF THE MARKET FOR ANYONE
ELSE THAT MIGHT BE INTERESTED.'
00:21:10.50\00:21:13.44
SHE'S SAYING, 'HE
IS OFF THE MARKET.
00:21:13.44\00:21:15.04
WE ARE A NEW FAMILY UNIT THAT IS
TO BE GUARDED AND RESPECTED BY
00:21:15.04\00:21:20.04
THE CULTURE AND SOCIETY.'
IT IS A PUBLIC COMMITMENT.
00:21:20.04\00:21:24.68
AND IT USED TO BE THAT
THE REASON THE GOVERNMENT WAS
00:21:24.68\00:21:26.85
INVOLVED IS BECAUSE THERE WAS
OFFSPRING THAT WAS THE PRODUCT
00:21:26.85\00:21:30.32
OF THOSE UNIONS AND IF ONE OF
THE SPOUSES DIED OR BOTH SPOUSES
00:21:30.32\00:21:36.93
DIED, THEY NEEDED TO DETERMINE
HOW TO DEAL WITH THE CHILDREN
00:21:36.93\00:21:40.20
AND THEN, SOMETIMES, THE
GOVERNMENT WOULD HAVE TO STEP IN
00:21:40.20\00:21:42.43
TO CARE FOR THOSE THINGS
AND THERE WERE LAWS INVOLVED.
00:21:42.43\00:21:45.17
BUT IT DOES MATTER THAT
YOU ARE LEGALLY MARRIED.
00:21:45.17\00:21:48.57
IS IT REQUIRED THAT YOU
ARE MARRIED IN A CHURCH?
00:21:48.57\00:21:50.87
NO, IT DOESN'T SAY SO IN THE
BIBLE, BUT I THINK IF YOU'RE A
00:21:50.87\00:21:54.84
CHRISTIAN YOU WOULD WANT IT TO
BE A RELIGIOUS SERVICE BECAUSE
00:21:54.84\00:21:57.85
IT'S A COVENANT IN THE PRESENCE
OF GOD AND YOU WANT TO COMMIT
00:21:57.85\00:22:01.08
YOUR LIVES TO GOD. >>AMEN.
00:22:01.08\00:22:04.52
>>JESUS SAID - MATTHEW 19, VERSE
5, "FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN WILL
00:22:04.52\00:22:08.79
LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS
MOTHER AND CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE,
00:22:08.79\00:22:13.06
WHEREFORE THEY ARE NO MORE TWO
BUT ONE FLESH. WHEREFORE, WHAT
00:22:13.06\00:22:17.23
GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER
LET NOT MAN PUT ASUNDER."
00:22:17.23\00:22:21.27
THE DISCIPLES CAME TO JESUS AND
THEY SAID, 'WELL MOSES, HE GAVE
00:22:21.27\00:22:25.67
US A LAW ABOUT DIVORCE AND
HOW WE ACCOMPLISH A DIVORCE AND
00:22:25.67\00:22:31.51
YOU'RE TEACHING SOMETHING
DIFFERENT.' JESUS SAID, 'YES,
00:22:31.51\00:22:33.52
BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF YOUR
HEARTS MOSES MADE THOSE LAWS.'
00:22:33.52\00:22:39.15
THEY ACTUALLY HAD A LAW THAT, BY
THE TIME OF CHRIST, A MAN COULD
00:22:39.15\00:22:43.89
DIVORCE HIS WIFE IF
SHE BURNED HIS FOOD.
00:22:43.89\00:22:46.70
I MEAN, THEY KEPT EXPANDING WHAT
THE EXCUSES FOR DIVORCE WERE
00:22:46.70\00:22:50.53
BECAUSE OF THE
HARDNESS OF HEARTS.
00:22:50.53\00:22:52.60
AND GOD SAYS, 'I HATE
DIVORCE.' AND THAT TRANSLATES
00:22:52.60\00:22:56.81
ABOUT THE SAME IN ANY VERSION
OF THE BIBLE THAT YOU HAVE.
00:22:56.81\00:23:00.31
NOW, I KNOW THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE
HERE ARE AFFECTED BY THIS AND I
00:23:00.31\00:23:04.78
NEED TO LET YOU KNOW, THERE ARE
TIMES WHEN, BIBLICALLY, IT IS
00:23:04.78\00:23:07.78
APPROPRIATE TO DIVORCE.
AS MUCH AS GOD HATES DIVORCE,
00:23:07.78\00:23:10.55
IT WAS GOD WHO TOLD ABRAHAM
TO DIVORCE - PUT AWAY - HAGAR.
00:23:10.55\00:23:16.49
OF COURSE, HE HAD ONE
WIFE TOO MANY AT THE TIME.
00:23:16.49\00:23:18.29
HE HAD TO DEAL WITH
THAT. BUT LOOK AT ALL THE
00:23:18.29\00:23:20.96
HEARTACHE THAT IT
BROUGHT. IT'S NEVER GOD'S PLAN.
00:23:20.96\00:23:25.27
NOW THERE'S SOME PEOPLE THAT IT
SEEMS LIKE THEY LIKE MOSES' LAW
00:23:25.27\00:23:27.87
BETTER THAN JESUS.
BUT JESUS SAID THAT WE
00:23:27.87\00:23:32.14
SHOULD LOVE EACH
OTHER. THE DEVIL IS A
00:23:32.14\00:23:34.08
NOTORIOUS HOME BREAKER.
YOU MIGHT BE THINKING, 'OH BOY,
00:23:34.08\00:23:38.15
THIS - THIS GAL - THIS
MAN - THEY ARE SO IMPOSSIBLE.
00:23:38.15\00:23:42.12
THE THINGS THAT I HAVE TO
LIVE WITH - THEIR HABITS - THEIR
00:23:42.12\00:23:44.72
IDIOSYNCRASIES - DRIVING ME
CRAZY.' THINK OF YOURSELF AS A
00:23:44.72\00:23:47.89
MISSIONARY, IF
YOU'RE A CHRISTIAN.
00:23:47.89\00:23:51.93
I'VE HEARD STORIES OF
MISSIONARIES THAT GO INTO SOME
00:23:51.93\00:23:55.23
FOREIGN LAND AND THEY LEARN TO
CARE FOR, LOVE, CLEAN, PAGANS -
00:23:55.23\00:24:03.41
AND YOU THINK, IF THEY CAN DO
00:24:03.41\00:24:05.54
THAT, THEN CAN
YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE?
00:24:05.54\00:24:10.75
WE OFTEN ARE BEING INFLUENCED BY
THE MEDIA AND THE IDEAS OF WHAT
00:24:10.75\00:24:15.62
LOVE AND MARRIAGE
IS SUPPOSED TO BE.
00:24:15.62\00:24:17.02
A LOT OF IT IS, SORT OF,
FANTASTIC AND IT MAKES EVERYONE
00:24:17.02\00:24:21.06
THINK, 'WELL, I DON'T HAVE IT
PERFECT SO WE'RE UNHAPPY.' WELL,
00:24:21.06\00:24:25.19
DON'T FALL FOR THAT -
THAT LINE OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS.
00:24:25.19\00:24:28.33
IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE A COVENANT.
00:24:28.33\00:24:30.07
SOME OF YOU REMEMBER THE
EXPRESSION, 'CUTTING THE GORDIAN
00:24:30.07\00:24:33.70
KNOT' - YOU EVER HEARD
THAT EXPRESSION BEFORE?
00:24:33.70\00:24:35.84
CUTTING THE GORDIAN
KNOT - MAYBE YOU HAVEN'T.
00:24:35.84\00:24:37.97
WELL, IT GOES BACK TO HISTORY
THAT IS SUPPOSED TO BE BASED IN
00:24:37.97\00:24:41.61
SOME TRUTH - THAT THERE WAS
THIS KING OF GORDIAN, AND HE WAS
00:24:41.61\00:24:45.35
MIRACULOUSLY - A PROPHET SAID,
'WHOEVER COMES INTO TOWN, HE'S
00:24:45.35\00:24:48.22
GOING TO BE THE KING.' AND THE
FIRST GUY CAME INTO TOWN WITH
00:24:48.22\00:24:50.69
HIS WAGON AND ALL THE PEOPLE
HAILED HIM AS KING AND CARRIED
00:24:50.69\00:24:54.29
HIM ON THEIR SHOULDERS AND
HE THOUGHT THAT IT WAS, SOMEHOW,
00:24:54.29\00:24:57.63
THE WAGON WAS
GOOD LUCK THAT DAY.
00:24:57.63\00:24:59.43
SO HE BROUGHT THE WAGON INTO THE
TEMPLE AND HE HAD THEM SECURE
00:24:59.43\00:25:02.36
THE HITCH OF THE WAGON THROUGH
THE EYE HOLE TO THIS ALTAR WITH
00:25:02.36\00:25:07.07
THIS GREAT BIG INTRICATE KNOT
OF A BIG THICK ROPE AND HE SAID,
00:25:07.07\00:25:11.37
'WHEN I DIE, WHOEVER CAN UNTIE
THIS KNOT, HE IS THE NEXT KING.'
00:25:11.37\00:25:15.78
WELL, HE DIED AND A HUNDRED
YEARS WENT BY AND NOBODY COULD
00:25:15.78\00:25:17.31
UNTIE THE KNOT, UNTIL A YOUNG
MACEDONIAN KING CAME INTO TOWN.
00:25:17.31\00:25:23.75
HIS NAME WAS
ALEXANDER THE GREAT.
00:25:23.75\00:25:25.22
HE HAD HEARD THE LEGEND.
HE SAW THE WAGON AND THE KNOT.
00:25:25.22\00:25:27.36
HE TRIED TO UNTIE IT FOR A FEW
MINUTES AND HE REALIZED THAT IT
00:25:27.36\00:25:30.36
WAS TOO BIG AND TOO HARD AND TOO
STIFF AND HE COULDN'T DO IT, SO
00:25:30.36\00:25:33.23
HE TOOK OUT HIS SHARP SWORD AND
WITH ONE WHACK THAT THING FRAYED
00:25:33.23\00:25:36.43
APART AND HE CUT IT.' HE SAID,
'I HAVE UNTIED THE KNOT.' AND
00:25:36.43\00:25:41.10
WHEN YOU QUICKLY RESOLVE A
DIFFICULT PROBLEM, IT'S CALLED
00:25:41.10\00:25:43.61
CUTTING THE GORDIAN
KNOT. NOW ANY OF YOU
00:25:43.61\00:25:45.07
REMEMBER THAT
STORY? A FEW OF YOU.
00:25:45.07\00:25:47.58
DID ANY OF YOU
TAKE WORLD HISTORY?
00:25:47.58\00:25:50.65
(LAUGHTER) MARRIAGE
KNOT SHOULD NEVER BE UNTIED.
00:25:50.65\00:26:00.66
WHEN YOU MAKE THAT COVENANT -
WHEN YOU MAKE THAT COMMITMENT,
00:26:00.66\00:26:03.19
YOU WANT IT TO
BE FIRM AND SEALED.
00:26:03.19\00:26:05.66
IT IS DANGEROUS TO GO INTO
MARRIAGE THINKING THAT DIVORCE
00:26:05.66\00:26:09.53
IS AN OPTION BECAUSE IF YOU,
IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND, EVEN
00:26:09.53\00:26:11.90
THINK IT, THEN YOU CAN
END UP HAVING PROBLEMS.
00:26:11.90\00:26:17.71
SOME PEOPLE LOOK AT DIVORCE
AS AN ESCAPE HATCH. I'D LIKE TO
00:26:17.71\00:26:20.24
RECOMMEND, IF YOU'RE A
CHRISTIAN, SHUT THE HATCH, WELD
00:26:20.24\00:26:23.45
IT, LOCK IT, THROW
AWAY THE KEY. >>AMEN.
00:26:23.45\00:26:26.65
>>AS SOON AS YOU KNOW IT'S NOT
AN OPTION, AND YOU REALIZE THAT
00:26:26.65\00:26:29.78
YOU'RE ON A DESERTED ISLAND WITH
THIS PERSON CALLED YOUR HUSBAND
00:26:29.78\00:26:32.25
OR YOUR WIFE,
YOU'VE GOT TO GET ALONG.
00:26:32.25\00:26:36.59
THEN YOU START DOING YOUR
BEST TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT.
00:26:36.59\00:26:38.86
NOW AGAIN, I RECOGNIZE THERE
ARE SOME EVEN BIBLICAL GROUNDS
00:26:38.86\00:26:42.96
FOR DIVORCE. DO
YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE?
00:26:42.96\00:26:46.47
THERE ARE TWO REASONS THAT ARE
REALLY GIVEN IN THE BIBLE WHEN
00:26:46.47\00:26:50.34
IT'S APPROPRIATE TO DIVORCE
- AND NOT JUST DIVORCE, BECAUSE
00:26:50.34\00:26:54.91
YOU CAN SEPARATE, YOU KNOW,
IF THERE'S ABUSE IN THE MARRIAGE
00:26:54.91\00:26:56.98
YOU SHOULD SEPARATE.
00:26:56.98\00:26:58.45
BUT TO DIVORCE, OFTEN PEOPLE ARE
THINKING DIVORCE IS DESIGNED TO
00:26:58.45\00:27:03.12
PUT THEM BACK ON THE
MARKET SO THEY CAN REMARRY.
00:27:03.12\00:27:06.65
ONE IS FOR THE CAUSE OF
FORNICATION, JESUS SAID.
00:27:06.65\00:27:10.36
IF ONE SPOUSE OR THE OTHER
VIOLATES THOSE SACRED VOWS AND
00:27:10.36\00:27:17.33
COMMITS THAT INTIMATE ACT WITH
ANOTHER PERSON, THEY BIBLICALLY
00:27:17.33\00:27:22.57
HAVE GROUNDS - THEY HAVE BROKEN
THE COVENANT - THEY HAVE GROUNDS
00:27:22.57\00:27:26.37
TO DIVORCE AND THEN TO REMARRY.
IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY HAVE TO.
00:27:26.37\00:27:32.38
NOWHERE IS JESUS
SAYING YOU HAVE TO DIVORCE.
00:27:32.38\00:27:34.78
RECONCILIATION IS
ALWAYS MUCH BETTER.
00:27:34.78\00:27:37.65
AND LET ME ASK YOU, DOES
THE BIBLE SOMETIMES USE THE
00:27:37.65\00:27:40.79
EXPRESSION THAT THE LORD IS OUR
HUSBAND THE CHURCH IS THE BRIDE?
00:27:40.79\00:27:45.39
DOES GOD SAY THAT SOMETIMES HIS
PEOPLE, WHETHER IT WAS ISRAEL OR
00:27:45.39\00:27:49.10
THE CHURCH, HAS PLAYED THE
HARLOT AND COMMITTED ADULTERY?
00:27:49.10\00:27:53.80
DOES THE LORD FORGIVE - READ
THE BOOK OF HOSEA - AND TAKE HER
00:27:53.80\00:27:56.34
BACK? IF THERE
HAS BEEN INFIDELITY,
00:27:56.34\00:27:58.61
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO GET
DIVORCED. AND I TOLD YOU, THERE
00:27:58.61\00:28:02.01
ARE TWO REASONS. IN
1 CORINTHIANS CHAPTER 7
00:28:02.01\00:28:04.45
ANOTHER EXAMPLE IS GIVEN.
AND PAUL IS TALKING TO PAGANS.
00:28:04.45\00:28:09.48
THERE WERE PEOPLE OUT THERE THEY
WORSHIPED THE GRECO-ROMAN ARRAY
00:28:09.48\00:28:13.25
OF GODS AND ONE OF THEM ACCEPTS
JESUS. LET'S SUPPOSE THE WIFE
00:28:13.25\00:28:17.69
THEN ACCEPTS JESUS. AND THE
HUSBAND SAYS, 'I DIDN'T SIGN UP
00:28:17.69\00:28:21.90
FOR THIS. I DON'T
WANT TO BE A CHRISTIAN.
00:28:21.90\00:28:23.87
I DON'T WANT TO
FOLLOW YOUR LAWS.
00:28:23.87\00:28:25.10
I'M LEAVING.' IF THAT HUSBAND
ABANDONS THE WIFE BECAUSE SHE
00:28:25.10\00:28:29.10
HAS ACCEPTED JESUS - THEY BOTH
GOT MARRIED AS PAGANS - THEN,
00:28:29.10\00:28:33.14
PAUL SAYS, SHE IS FREE IN
THAT REGARD - LET HIM DEPART.
00:28:33.14\00:28:38.38
BUT HE SAYS IF YOUR HUSBAND
IS WILLING TO STAY MARRIED, STAY
00:28:38.38\00:28:41.28
MARRIED THAT THE HUSBAND MIGHT
BE CONVERTED BY THE BEHAVIOR AND
00:28:41.28\00:28:44.95
CONVERSATION OF
THE WIFE OR VICE VERSA.
00:28:44.95\00:28:48.72
BUT THAT WAS SORT OF A SECOND
CLAUSE WHERE PAUL SAID, 'IN THE
00:28:48.72\00:28:51.49
EVENT THAT YOU'VE GOT TWO PAGANS
THAT ONE OF THEM CONVERTS AND
00:28:51.49\00:28:54.30
THE PAGAN SPOUSE
SAYS, 'WELL, I'M LEAVING.'
00:28:54.30\00:28:57.00
DOES THAT MEAN, NOW,
THAT THE PERSON WHO IS
00:28:57.00\00:28:58.63
NEWLY CONVERTED
CAN NEVER REMARRY? NO.
00:28:58.63\00:29:02.87
PAUL SAYS THEY ARE NOT
UNDER BONDAGE IN SUCH CASES.
00:29:02.87\00:29:05.34
SO I JUST WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT
PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT WAS A
00:29:05.34\00:29:07.71
SPECIFIC SCENARIO THAT
PAUL WAS TALKING ABOUT THERE.
00:29:07.71\00:29:12.68
IF PEOPLE MARRY AND DIVORCE,
IS THAT THE UNPARDONABLE SIN?
00:29:12.68\00:29:18.45
YOU REMEMBER THE STORY
ABOUT DAVID AND BATHSHEBA?
00:29:18.45\00:29:22.06
NOW THAT WASN'T JUST
ADULTERY THAT WAS MURDER.
00:29:22.06\00:29:27.36
WHICH, BY THE WAY, IS WORSE
THAN DIVORCE, IN CASE YOU'RE
00:29:27.36\00:29:29.70
WONDERING. THE
REASON I SAY THAT - YOU KNOW
00:29:29.70\00:29:33.30
HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE MURDERED
BECAUSE SOMEBODY IS WANTING
00:29:33.30\00:29:37.47
TO GET OUT OF A MARRIAGE?
AND I'VE OFTEN THOUGHT, 'WELL,
00:29:37.47\00:29:40.64
JUST DIVORCE THEM, DON'T...'
THERE ARE WOMEN WHO HAVE
00:29:40.64\00:29:44.18
MURDERED THEIR HUSBANDS BECAUSE
THEY WANTED OUT OF THE MARRIAGE
00:29:44.18\00:29:46.11
AND THEY SIGNED THEM UP
FOR LIFE INSURANCE IN ADVANCE.
00:29:46.11\00:29:49.25
AND WE'VE ALL HEARD STORIES
ABOUT HUSBANDS THAT MURDER THEIR
00:29:49.25\00:29:51.29
WIVES AND TRY TO COVER IT UP
BECAUSE THEY WANTED OUT OF THE
00:29:51.29\00:29:53.99
MARRIAGE OR THEY HAD SOMEONE
ELSE THEY WERE INTERESTED IN.
00:29:53.99\00:29:56.32
THAT'S CRAZY.
MURDER'S MUCH WORSE.
00:29:56.32\00:30:00.26
SO - WHAT WAS I
SAYING? OH, DAVID!
00:30:00.26\00:30:05.00
I WAS TALKING ABOUT DAVID BEFORE
I (LAUGHTER) AND IF YOUR SPOUSE
00:30:05.00\00:30:09.34
GETS SENILE, STAY
WITH THEM. THEY NEED YOU.
00:30:09.34\00:30:11.94
(LAUGHTER) DAVID - HE COMMITTED
MURDER - COMMITTED ADULTERY AND
00:30:11.94\00:30:19.48
THEY SUFFERED TERRIBLY FOR THAT
SIN AND HE REPENTED THOROUGHLY
00:30:19.48\00:30:25.05
FROM THAT SIN. YOU
READ PSALM 32 - READ PSALM
00:30:25.05\00:30:27.76
51 - HE SPENT DAYS ON HIS
FACE - LOST A CHILD TO DEATH.
00:30:27.76\00:30:32.36
PART OF THE JUDGMENT - LOST,
ACTUALLY, FOUR CHILDREN IN TOTAL
00:30:32.36\00:30:34.60
BECAUSE OF THAT SIN - IT WAS
A TERRIBLE SIN - BROUGHT GREAT
00:30:34.60\00:30:38.27
SHAME ON THE CAUSE OF
GOD. DAVID WAS FORGIVEN.
00:30:38.27\00:30:42.87
WHAT DO YOU DO NOW? URIAH'S
DEAD. DAVID'S WITH BATHSHEBA.
00:30:42.87\00:30:47.04
FIRST DAVID IS JUDGED AND GOD
SAID, 'BECAUSE YOU HAVE TAKEN
00:30:47.04\00:30:51.55
URIAH'S WIFE' - BATHSHEBA,
THE WIFE OF URIAH - AFTER DAVID
00:30:51.55\00:30:56.42
REPENTED IT SAYS, 'DAVID
COMFORTED HIS WIFE, BATHSHEBA.'
00:30:56.42\00:31:01.72
SHE REMAINED HIS WIFE.
00:31:01.72\00:31:04.06
YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES YOU CANNOT
UNSCRAMBLE SCRAMBLED EGGS.
00:31:04.06\00:31:08.53
PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES - THEY
DIVORCE AND REMARRY AND THEY GET
00:31:08.53\00:31:10.87
OUT IN THE WORLD AND THEN THEY
GO THROUGH A GENUINE CONVERSION
00:31:10.87\00:31:13.34
EXPERIENCE AND THEY - CAN THEY
COME BACK TO THE LORD AND BE
00:31:13.34\00:31:16.30
FORGIVEN? YES, IT
DOESN'T MEAN THINGS ARE
00:31:16.30\00:31:19.21
ALWAYS GOING TO BE THE SAME,
BUT YES, THERE IS - IT'S NOT
00:31:19.21\00:31:22.54
THE UNPARDONABLE SIN. WHAT
ABOUT THAT SAMARITAN WOMAN?
00:31:22.54\00:31:25.85
YOU REMEMBER WHAT JESUS SAID?
'GO CALL YOUR HUSBAND.' SHE
00:31:25.85\00:31:28.68
SAID, 'I DON'T HAVE A HUSBAND.'
HE SAID, 'AHA, YOU'RE RIGHT.
00:31:28.68\00:31:30.89
YOU DON'T HAVE A HUSBAND,
YOU'VE HAD FIVE HUSBANDS.
00:31:30.89\00:31:33.29
AND THE ONE THAT YOU HAVE NOW,
YOU'RE NOT EVEN MARRIED TO.'
00:31:33.29\00:31:36.89
DID JESUS FORGIVE HER? >>YES.
00:31:36.89\00:31:39.96
>>DID HE REVEAL TO HER
THAT HE WAS THE MESSIAH?
00:31:39.96\00:31:42.70
>>YES. >>DID HE USE HER TO BRING
00:31:42.70\00:31:44.73
THE MESSAGE TO OTHERS?
AND SO GOD IS MERCIFUL.
00:31:44.73\00:31:49.40
SO I ALWAYS, AS A PASTOR, WE
TRY TO STRIKE A BALANCE BETWEEN
00:31:49.40\00:31:52.21
EXPLAINING THAT MARRIAGE IS
SACRED, IT'S A COVENANT, YOU
00:31:52.21\00:31:55.88
NEED TO STICK WITH IT AND, AT
THE SAME TIME, LET PEOPLE KNOW,
00:31:55.88\00:31:59.15
BECAUSE IT IS EPIDEMIC, IT'S NOT
THE UNPARDONABLE SIN AND THERE
00:31:59.15\00:32:02.42
IS REDEMPTION. AND SO
I HOPE - I HOPE I'M ABLE
00:32:02.42\00:32:05.72
TO CONVEY THOSE TWO THEMES.
SHAKESPEARE SAID, 'KNIT YOUR
00:32:05.72\00:32:10.23
HEARTS WITH AN UNSLIPPING
KNOT' - SPEAKING ABOUT MARRIAGE.
00:32:10.23\00:32:14.00
I'D LIKE TO ENCOURAGE YOU.
IN SPITE OF ALL THE DIVORCES IN
00:32:14.00\00:32:17.17
OUR CULTURE, SOME
PEOPLE DO VERY WELL.
00:32:17.17\00:32:19.50
SOME PEOPLE HAVE
LONG AND HAPPY MARRIAGES.
00:32:19.50\00:32:22.27
MY GRANDPARENTS GOT MARRIED WHEN
MY GRANDMA WAS 16 YEARS OLD AND
00:32:22.27\00:32:27.18
SHE USED TO - YOU ASK HER,
SHE'D SAY, 'WE DIDN'T LOVE EACH
00:32:27.18\00:32:31.21
OTHER.' SHE SAID, 'I JUST
MARRIED HIM BECAUSE I WANTED TO
00:32:31.21\00:32:34.02
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND
HE COULD SING.' (LAUGHTER) MY
00:32:34.02\00:32:36.69
GRANDFATHER, HE HAD A - HE WAS
A JEWISH CANTOR - HE HAD A GREAT
00:32:36.69\00:32:38.99
SINGING VOICE. AND - YOU
EVER HEARD OF THE GONG SHOW ?
00:32:38.99\00:32:42.92
ANY OF YOU REMEMBER THE TV
PROGRAM CALLED THE GONG SHOW ?
00:32:42.92\00:32:45.19
MY GRANDFATHER SANG ON
THE GONG SHOW AND HE WON.
00:32:45.19\00:32:48.96
AND IF YOU EVER CAME TO VISIT
HIM, FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE,
00:32:48.96\00:32:51.10
HE WOULD SHOW YOU THE
VIDEOTAPE OF HIM WINNING.
00:32:51.10\00:32:54.80
I HOPE I GET A COPY OF THAT.
BUT SHE SAID, 'OH, WE DIDN'T
00:32:54.80\00:32:58.81
LOVE EACH OTHER.' AND I
SAW MY GRANDPARENTS FIGHT.
00:32:58.81\00:33:02.24
I SAW MY GRANDMA
CHASING MY GRANDFATHER.
00:33:02.24\00:33:04.48
I USED TO ALWAYS HEAR THEM YELL
- SHE'D SAY, 'YOU PUT KETCHUP ON
00:33:04.48\00:33:06.51
EVERYTHING I
COOK! WHY DO I BOTHER?'
00:33:06.51\00:33:08.98
AND JUST YOU HEARD ALL THESE
ARGUMENTS - THEY REALLY DID
00:33:08.98\00:33:12.05
ARGUE QUITE A
BIT. SHE'D YELL AT HIM,
00:33:12.05\00:33:14.79
'BUTTON YOUR
PANTS! PUT YOUR TEETH IN!'
00:33:14.79\00:33:16.73
(LAUGHTER) THEY
WERE MARRIED 72 YEARS.
00:33:16.73\00:33:25.70
I NEEDED THAT BECAUSE MY MOTHER
WAS MARRIED FIVE TIMES AND MY
00:33:25.70\00:33:30.14
FATHER WAS MARRIED FIVE TIMES
AND MY MOTHER MARRIED - LIVED
00:33:30.14\00:33:32.81
WITH A MARRIED MAN FOR 20
YEARS WHILE I WAS GROWING UP.
00:33:32.81\00:33:36.34
AND I USED TO HAVE TO
PRETEND I DIDN'T KNOW HIS WIFE.
00:33:36.34\00:33:40.78
AND SO, WITH THAT KIND OF
BACKGROUND - MOM AND DAD -
00:33:40.78\00:33:43.32
I NEEDED GRANDMA AND GRANDPA.
00:33:43.32\00:33:45.22
IN SPITE OF ALL THEIR
PROBLEMS THEY STUCK IT OUT.
00:33:45.22\00:33:49.22
I KNOW KAREN'S GRANDPARENTS
- ED'S FOLKS - VERY TOUCHING -
00:33:49.22\00:33:53.23
MARRIED - HOW
LONG WERE THEY MARRIED?
00:33:53.23\00:33:55.73
>>I THOUGHT 65 - 75.
>>HOW MANY YEARS - 75 YEARS?
00:33:55.73\00:34:02.20
OH, IT WAS MORE THAN 65 YEARS
- HE WAS A HUNDRED YEARS OLD.
00:34:02.20\00:34:05.97
YEAH, LIKE 75 YEARS. BUT
THEY WERE ALWAYS AFRAID THAT
00:34:05.97\00:34:09.71
ONE WOULD GO BEFORE THE OTHER.
THEY BOTH DIED WITHIN TWO HOURS
00:34:09.71\00:34:12.51
OF EACH OTHER IN
THE SAME ROOM. >>AWWW.
00:34:12.51\00:34:15.52
>>AND I WAS READING - WANTING
TO KNOW WHO'S BEEN MARRIED THE
00:34:15.52\00:34:19.69
LONGEST. THERE'S
THIS COUPLE - I THINK
00:34:19.69\00:34:22.32
THEY'RE STILL
ALIVE - IN ENGLAND.
00:34:22.32\00:34:24.86
YOU KNOW, ONCE YOU GET OVER
A HUNDRED YOU'VE GOT TO KEEP
00:34:24.86\00:34:26.96
CHECKING YOUR FACTS.
THEY MARRIED IN BRADFORD,
00:34:26.96\00:34:31.73
ENGLAND - TIED THE KNOT IN 1925.
THEY'RE DEFINITELY THE LONGEST
00:34:31.73\00:34:37.34
MARRIED COUPLE IN
ENGLAND, PROBABLY THE WORLD.
00:34:37.34\00:34:40.51
HIS NAME IS KARAM CHAND, BORN
IN A RURAL VILLAGE IN PUNJAB IN
00:34:40.51\00:34:44.95
NORTHERN INDIA IN 1905 AND THEY
HAD A VERY SIMPLE SIKH WEDDING
00:34:44.95\00:34:50.89
AND THEY MARRIED
YOUNG. SHE, I THINK, WAS 12
00:34:50.89\00:34:53.72
WHEN THEY MARRIED. NOW
HE'S 108 AND SHE'S 101 AND
00:34:53.72\00:34:57.29
THEY'VE BEEN MARRIED 89 YEARS
AND, EVIDENTLY, THEY'RE HAPPY.
00:34:57.29\00:35:03.53
BY THE WAY, THEY ALSO TALK ABOUT
HEALTH AND SAY THEY EAT SIMPLY
00:35:03.53\00:35:06.70
NATURAL FOODS. SO,
MARRIAGE HAS TO BE A COVENANT
00:35:06.70\00:35:12.74
WHERE YOU STICK WITH THE PERSON
IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH.
00:35:12.74\00:35:17.68
I REMEMBER HEARING ABOUT THIS
LADY THAT WAS AT HER HUSBAND'S
00:35:17.68\00:35:20.05
BEDSIDE IN THE HOSPITAL AS HE
WAS KIND OF SLIPPING IN AND OUT
00:35:20.05\00:35:22.82
OF A COMA DURING WHAT
WAS TO BE HIS FINAL ILLNESS.
00:35:22.82\00:35:27.59
AND DURING ONE OF HIS LUCID
MOMENTS SHE WAS AT HIS SIDE AND
00:35:27.59\00:35:33.03
HE SAID, 'HONEY,' - SHE DREW
CLOSE WHILE HE WAS TALKING - HE
00:35:33.03\00:35:36.13
SAID, 'I REMEMBER, YOU'VE ALWAYS
BEEN AT MY SIDE.' AND HE SAID,
00:35:36.13\00:35:41.90
'WHEN I LOST MY
JOB, YOU WERE THERE.
00:35:41.90\00:35:45.54
WHEN THE BUSINESS FAILED, THERE
YOU WERE.' HE SAID, 'WHEN I
00:35:45.54\00:35:49.78
BROKE MY LEG, YOU WERE THERE.'
HE SAID, 'WHEN I GOT SICK, YOU
00:35:49.78\00:35:54.35
WERE THERE.' HE SAID, 'YOU KNOW,
DEAR, I JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU
00:35:54.35\00:35:59.09
I'VE REALIZED SOMETHING.' SHE
DREW CLOSE AND HER EYES WERE ALL
00:35:59.09\00:36:01.26
MISTY. HE SAID, 'I THINK
YOU'RE BAD LUCK.' (LAUGHTER)
00:36:01.26\00:36:06.63
>>OH, SO BAD! THAT'S SO BAD.
>>OH COME ON. THE GUYS THINK
00:36:06.63\00:36:14.00
IT'S FUNNY. (LAUGHTER) THIS
IS AN EQUAL OPPORTUNITY SERMON.
00:36:14.00\00:36:20.54
(LAUGHTER) NOW THAT WAS JUST THE
FIRST POINT. IT'S A COVENANT.
00:36:20.54\00:36:24.91
POINT 2) ESTABLISH
YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME.
00:36:24.91\00:36:28.82
I'LL READ IT TO YOU AGAIN -
GENESIS 2:24, "THEREFORE A MAN
00:36:28.82\00:36:32.12
SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND
MOTHER AND CLEAVE" - IT'S CALLED
00:36:32.12\00:36:35.82
'LEAVE AND CLEAVE' - AND THAT
WORD 'CLEAVE' IT, ACTUALLY, DOES
00:36:35.82\00:36:39.03
COME FROM THAT - AN ANCIENT
JEWISH WORD WHERE THEY MADE GLUE
00:36:39.03\00:36:42.13
OUT OF HORSE HOOVES OR
SHEEP HOOVES AND IT WAS GLUE.
00:36:42.13\00:36:45.43
IT MEANS BE ATTACHED.
IT SAYS YOU'RE TO LEAVE.
00:36:45.43\00:36:49.20
IT'S IMPORTANT TO
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN HOME.
00:36:49.20\00:36:52.97
IF YOU HAVE TOO MUCH OF
THE IN-LAWS AND THE OUTLAWS ALL
00:36:52.97\00:36:57.65
THERE WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO
ESTABLISH YOUR FAMILY - FIRST
00:36:57.65\00:37:00.78
COUPLE YEARS ARE TOUGH AND
YOU NEED TO HAVE SOME PRIVACY
00:37:00.78\00:37:05.32
BECAUSE YOU'RE TAKING YOUR WHOLE
SCENARIO OF WHAT LIFE'S ABOUT
00:37:05.32\00:37:09.56
AND ALL YOUR EXPERIENCES
AND YOUR EXPECTATIONS AND YOU'RE
00:37:09.56\00:37:12.79
BRINGING THEM TO THE MARRIAGE
AND THEN YOUR WIFE IS TAKING HER
00:37:12.79\00:37:15.40
EXPERIENCE AND
BRINGING IT TO THE MARRIAGE.
00:37:15.40\00:37:17.20
AND KAREN AND I KNEW WE WERE
GOING TO HAVE SOME CHALLENGES
00:37:17.20\00:37:19.53
BECAUSE KAREN WENT TO THE SAME
SCHOOL 12 YEARS AND THEN WENT TO
00:37:19.53\00:37:23.04
CHRISTIAN COLLEGE. I WENT TO 14
DIFFERENT SCHOOLS. SHE GREW UP
00:37:23.04\00:37:27.44
IN A CHRISTIAN FAMILY. I
GREW UP IN A PAGAN FAMILY.
00:37:27.44\00:37:31.65
AND JUST THE WAY YOU THINK
AND YOU COMMUNICATE AND YOUR
00:37:31.65\00:37:34.45
EXPECTATIONS - WE KNEW THERE
WERE GOING TO BE DIFFERENCES.
00:37:34.45\00:37:38.45
AND IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU'RE
ABLE TO BRING THOSE THINGS
00:37:38.45\00:37:40.56
TOGETHER SO THAT YOU CAN
COALESCE YOUR LIVES WITHOUT
00:37:40.56\00:37:44.69
OUTSIDE INTERFERENCE.
00:37:44.69\00:37:46.93
AND IF THERE ARE THIRD AND
FOURTH PARTIES IN THE HOME - AND
00:37:46.93\00:37:49.33
I REALIZE SOMETIMES, IN SOME
CULTURES, IT BECOMES - IT CAN
00:37:49.33\00:37:53.10
BECOME DIFFICULT, BUT GOD SAID,
'A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER
00:37:53.10\00:37:56.84
AND MOTHER AND CLEAVE UNTO HIS
WIFE.' THE OTHER THING IS, IF A
00:37:56.84\00:38:00.04
MAN HAS HIS FATHER AND MOTHER
LIVING IN THE HOUSE, HE'S ALWAYS
00:38:00.04\00:38:02.31
COMPARING HIS MOTHER'S COOKING
TO HIS WIFE'S COOKING AND THAT
00:38:02.31\00:38:05.78
MAY NOT BE GOOD FOR HIS
RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE OR THE
00:38:05.78\00:38:08.62
OTHER. ESTABLISH YOUR OWN HOME.
00:38:08.62\00:38:11.59
DON'T LET THIRD
PARTIES COME BETWEEN.
00:38:11.59\00:38:15.26
SPOUSE SHOULD
BE THE BEST FRIEND.
00:38:15.26\00:38:18.16
SOMEONE ONCE SAID THAT MARRIAGE
RESEMBLES A PAIR OF SCISSORS.
00:38:18.16\00:38:22.83
THEY'RE JOINED SO THEY CAN'T
BE SEPARATED - OFTEN MOVING IN
00:38:22.83\00:38:25.30
OPPOSITE DIRECTIONS, BUT
PUNISHING ANYONE THAT COMES
00:38:25.30\00:38:28.67
BETWEEN THEM.
(LAUGHTER) WHEN I WAS PASTORING
00:38:28.67\00:38:33.04
ONE TIME, I HAD THIS
COUPLE LIVING NEXT DOOR.
00:38:33.04\00:38:36.41
WE WERE GIVING
THEM BIBLE STUDIES.
00:38:36.41\00:38:37.48
THEY STRUGGLED WITH DRINKING.
00:38:37.48\00:38:39.35
ONE DAY, A YOUNG GIRL CAME
POUNDING ON OUR DOOR AND SAID,
00:38:39.35\00:38:42.62
'MY FATHER IS
KILLING MY MOTHER!'
00:38:42.62\00:38:45.35
AND SO I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
BUT I WENT OVER AND I STOOD AT
00:38:45.35\00:38:49.32
THE DOOR AND I'M KIND OF
KNOCKING AT THE DOOR AND I'M
00:38:49.32\00:38:54.36
HEARING THINGS BANGING AND LAMPS
FALLING OVER AND CRASHING AND
00:38:54.36\00:38:57.00
YELLING AND SCREAMING INSIDE
AND I THOUGHT, 'WELL, THIS ISN'T
00:38:57.00\00:38:59.07
GOING TO WORK.' AND SO
WITHOUT THEM OPENING THE
00:38:59.07\00:39:01.00
DOOR, I JUST
WENT INTO THEIR HOUSE.
00:39:01.00\00:39:02.24
IT FEELS REALLY
STRANGE DOING THAT, YOU KNOW?
00:39:02.24\00:39:04.47
I THOUGHT, 'I'M
STUDYING WITH PEOPLE.
00:39:04.47\00:39:05.57
I DON'T WANT TO
CALL THE POLICE ON THEM.'
00:39:05.57\00:39:08.18
SO I JUST WENT IN. AND SO IT
WASN'T LONG BEFORE I COULD TRACK
00:39:08.18\00:39:11.45
WHERE ALL THE
COMMOTION WAS COMING FROM.
00:39:11.45\00:39:13.25
WENT OFF AND THEY'RE BACK IN
THE BEDROOM AND THEY'RE - SHE'S
00:39:13.25\00:39:15.32
COWERING IN THE CORNER AND HE'S
RANTING - HE'S BEEN DRINKING -
00:39:15.32\00:39:18.32
AND HE'S RANTING AT HER
AND SHE'S SCREAMING AT HIM AND,
00:39:18.32\00:39:25.23
'OH, YOU BROUGHT THE
PREACHER IN HERE TO HELP YOU' -
00:39:25.23\00:39:27.86
AND JUST STUFF LIKE THAT AND
THEN HE STARTED TRYING TO THROW
00:39:27.86\00:39:32.37
SOMETHING AND I GOT BETWEEN
THEM AND THE NEXT THING I KNEW,
00:39:32.37\00:39:34.47
SHE SAW THAT SHE HAD SOME
PROTECTION FROM ME AND SHE
00:39:34.47\00:39:36.40
GOT UP AND SHE STARTED GOING
AFTER HIM AND PRETTY SOON I
00:39:36.40\00:39:39.24
WAS BETWEEN THE
TWO OF THEM. >>UH OH.
00:39:39.24\00:39:41.64
>>AND I STARTED WRESTLING WITH
HIM AND - I KNOW I'M SMALL, BUT
00:39:41.64\00:39:46.08
I HAD A GOLD MEDAL IN
WRESTLING IN MILITARY SCHOOL.
00:39:46.08\00:39:48.55
I WAS PRETTY GOOD. AND
SO I GOT THE GUY IN A LOCK
00:39:48.55\00:39:52.49
AND HE COULDN'T DO ANYTHING
- SHE STARTED FEELING SORRY FOR
00:39:52.49\00:39:54.89
HER HUSBAND AND
STARTED WAILING ON ME.
00:39:54.89\00:39:56.49
(LAUGHTER) THEY WERE KILLING
EACH OTHER, BUT WHEN ANYONE CAME
00:39:56.49\00:40:05.43
BETWEEN THEM, YOU
BETTER GET OUT OF THE WAY.
00:40:05.43\00:40:09.60
AND SO I'VE SEEN THAT.
NO, I'M NOT RECOMMENDING
00:40:09.60\00:40:11.57
WHAT I JUST SAID THERE.
I'M JUST TELLING YOU I'VE SEEN
00:40:11.57\00:40:14.44
IT BEFORE THAT THERE'S A BOND IN
MARRIAGE THAT EVEN WHEN SOMEONE
00:40:14.44\00:40:17.81
COMES BETWEEN THEM AND
THEY'RE HURTING EACH OTHER, THAT
00:40:17.81\00:40:20.58
SUDDENLY SHE BECAME VERY
DEFENSIVE ABOUT HER HUSBAND.
00:40:20.58\00:40:24.99
SO YOU NEED TO ESTABLISH YOUR
OWN FAMILY. POINT NUMBER 3 IN A
00:40:24.99\00:40:28.92
MARRIAGE: IT SAYS ABOVE ALL
THINGS, CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP.
00:40:28.92\00:40:35.03
WHAT BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER IN
THE FIRST PLACE NEEDS TO GO ON.
00:40:35.03\00:40:39.53
1 PETER 4:8, "ABOVE ALL THINGS
HAVE - BE UNFAILING IN YOUR LOVE
00:40:39.53\00:40:44.74
FOR ONE ANOTHER, FOR 'LOVE WILL
COVER A MULTITUDE OF SINS.'"
00:40:44.74\00:40:48.81
YOU KNOW WHERE JESUS SAYS
IN REVELATION, 'NEVERTHELESS, I
00:40:48.81\00:40:51.41
HAVE THIS AGAINST
YOU BECAUSE' - WHAT?
00:40:51.41\00:40:53.82
'YOU'VE LOST YOUR FIRST LOVE.'
AND HOW MANY TIMES HAVE PEOPLE
00:40:53.82\00:40:57.99
THOUGHT, 'WHAT IN THE WORLD WAS
I THINKING? I LOVED THIS PERSON.
00:40:57.99\00:41:01.86
WHERE'D THAT LOVE
GO? WE FELL OUT OF LOVE.
00:41:01.86\00:41:04.59
WE DRIFTED APART.' WELL, THE
THINGS THAT BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER
00:41:04.59\00:41:07.66
IN THE FIRST PLACE, MUST BE
CONTINUALLY NURTURED AND FED AND
00:41:07.66\00:41:13.00
ENCOURAGED AND REVIVED.
SOMEONE SAID MARRIAGE IS LIKE
00:41:13.00\00:41:17.51
RUNNING A FARM. YOU'VE
GOT TO START OVER EVERY DAY.
00:41:17.51\00:41:19.74
(LAUGHTER) AND, YOU
DON'T REALLY GET A DAY OFF.
00:41:19.74\00:41:23.81
EVERY DAY YOU
NEED TO NURTURE IT.
00:41:23.81\00:41:25.35
EVERY DAY THE COWS NEED MILKING.
EVERY DAY - I MEAN, IF YOU HAVE
00:41:25.35\00:41:28.68
A FARM YOU DON'T EVEN
STOP THAT ON SABBATH, DO YOU?
00:41:28.68\00:41:31.82
AND SO EVERY DAY THERE NEEDS
TO BE THINGS THAT NURTURE THAT
00:41:31.82\00:41:36.96
FIRST LOVE. PROVERBS
31:28, "...HER HUSBAND
00:41:36.96\00:41:40.60
ALSO, AND HE PRAISES HER:" YOU
NOTICE THAT'S AN ONGOING VERB?
00:41:40.60\00:41:45.07
YOU CONTINUE TO
ENCOURAGE AND TO PRAISE.
00:41:45.07\00:41:47.97
WE NEED THOSE
THINGS. WE APPRECIATE IT.
00:41:47.97\00:41:50.94
1 CORINTHIANS 7:34, "...SHE
WHO IS MARRIED CARES ABOUT...
00:41:50.94\00:41:54.78
HOW SHE MAY PLEASE HER HUSBAND."
00:41:54.78\00:41:57.08
AND SO, IT'S AN ONGOING CONCERN
- PRAISE, CARING ABOUT PLEASING
00:41:57.08\00:42:02.28
THIS PERSON - WHEN YOU START
TAKING THE PERSON FOR GRANTED
00:42:02.28\00:42:05.05
THEN YOU HAVE A LOT OF PROBLEMS.
00:42:05.05\00:42:07.72
YOU NEED TO SHOW AFFECTION
AND IT NEEDS TO BE CONSCIOUS.
00:42:07.72\00:42:12.76
YOU MIGHT SAY, 'WELL, I DON'T
FEEL LOVE.' DO IT ANYWAY AND
00:42:12.76\00:42:14.66
YOU'LL BE SURPRISED, YOU MIGHT
START FEELING THE LOVE AGAIN.
00:42:14.66\00:42:17.50
'DO THE FIRST WORKS' JESUS SAID,
'REMEMBER FROM WHERE YOU HAVE
00:42:17.50\00:42:21.17
FALLEN. REPENT AND
DO THE FIRST WORKS.'
00:42:21.17\00:42:23.41
ROMANS 12, VERSE 10, "BE KINDLY
AFFECTIONATE TO ONE ANOTHER
00:42:23.41\00:42:27.64
WITH BROTHERLY LOVE, IN
HONOR PREFERRING ONE ANOTHER."
00:42:27.64\00:42:31.05
BILLY SUNDAY SAID, 'TRY PRAISING
YOUR WIFE, EVEN IF IT DOES
00:42:31.05\00:42:33.58
FRIGHTEN HER AT FIRST.'
(LAUGHTER) AND YOU'VE HEARD THE
00:42:33.58\00:42:38.02
EXPRESSION BEFORE, 'TREAT HER
LIKE A QUEEN AND SHE WILL TREAT
00:42:38.02\00:42:40.69
YOU LIKE A KING.' AND SOMETIMES
YOU WILL GET, FROM THE OTHER
00:42:40.69\00:42:44.79
PERSON, WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN
WANTING TO GET, WHEN YOU TREAT
00:42:44.79\00:42:47.96
THEM THE WAY THAT
THEY'RE LONGING TO BE TREATED.
00:42:47.96\00:42:51.07
AND SO, IT'S THROUGH THE
COOPERATIVE NURTURING OF EACH
00:42:51.07\00:42:55.20
OTHER IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
DON'T OVERLOOK THE LITTLE
00:42:55.20\00:42:58.71
COURTESIES, ENCOURAGEMENTS,
AND AFFECTIONATE ACTS.
00:42:58.71\00:43:03.24
SURPRISE EACH OTHER WITH LITTLE
THINGS - GIFTS AND FAVORS.
00:43:03.24\00:43:05.98
I'VE GOT TO THINK ABOUT
THAT BECAUSE I'M ALWAYS SO WORK
00:43:05.98\00:43:07.85
ORIENTED. YOU KNOW,
NATHAN JUST RECENTLY
00:43:07.85\00:43:09.82
WENT TO - HE WENT TO
COLLEGE, YEAH - AND WE WERE
00:43:09.82\00:43:14.79
EXPERIENCING EMPTY NEST.
KAREN DROVE HIM BACK AND I KNEW
00:43:14.79\00:43:17.99
IT WAS GOING TO BE TOUGH FOR
HER TO, YOU KNOW, WAVE GOOD BYE.
00:43:17.99\00:43:21.16
I WAS ACTUALLY WITH SOME OF YOU
ON THE MISSION TRIP WHEN KAREN
00:43:21.16\00:43:23.47
WAS DROPPING NATHAN OFF AND SHE
HAD TO COME BACK AND I THOUGHT,
00:43:23.47\00:43:28.04
YOU KNOW, IT COULD BE TOUGH
FOR HER. STEPHEN'S AT COLLEGE,
00:43:28.04\00:43:32.07
NATHAN'S AT COLLEGE - SHE'S
GOING TO HAVE TO COME HOME AND
00:43:32.07\00:43:34.11
LIVE WITH ME. (LAUGHTER)
00:43:34.11\00:43:36.44
SO I WENT OUT AND I
GOT A CARD AND I GOT SOME
00:43:36.44\00:43:38.25
FLOWERS AND I WROTE HER A LITTLE
NOTE AND I SAID, YOU KNOW, 'IF
00:43:38.25\00:43:41.25
YOU'RE LOOKING FOR ANYONE
TO BABY, I'LL LET YOU BABY ME.'
00:43:41.25\00:43:44.49
(LAUGHTER) WASN'T THAT
CONSIDERATE OF ME TO DO THAT?
00:43:44.49\00:43:48.76
(LAUGHTER) SHE MUST HAVE CARED
BECAUSE SHE'S STILL GOT THAT
00:43:48.76\00:43:51.86
CARD ON THE DESK. SHE
STARES AT IT FOR AWHILE
00:43:51.86\00:43:55.86
BUT - WHEN A GUY DOES A LITTLE
THOUGHTFUL THING LIKE THAT, YOU
00:43:55.86\00:43:59.57
NEED TO MILK IT FOR ALL
THE CREDIT YOU CAN GET BECAUSE
00:43:59.57\00:44:02.30
THEY DON'T HAPPEN THAT
OFTEN. SO THERE NEEDS TO BE THE
00:44:02.30\00:44:09.58
CONTINUED
COURTSHIP THAT GOES ON.
00:44:09.58\00:44:13.21
DON'T TAKE EACH
OTHER FOR GRANTED.
00:44:13.21\00:44:15.25
WHAT YOU DID WHEN YOU COURTED
EACH OTHER, THE EXCITEMENT, THE
00:44:15.25\00:44:17.89
LOVE - YOU NEED TO HAVE DATE
NIGHTS WHERE YOU GO OUT AND YOU
00:44:17.89\00:44:20.46
DO THINGS TOGETHER. AND
THEN, MAYBE I'LL PAUSE WITH
00:44:20.46\00:44:24.23
THIS THOUGHT - AFTER I'LL DO
POINT NUMBER 4 AND WE'LL TAKE
00:44:24.23\00:44:27.30
IT UP WHEN WE BEGIN NEXT
TIME - GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS.
00:44:27.30\00:44:32.47
DON'T LET YOUR SENSES TRAP YOU.
NOW YOU'D BE SURPRISED HOW MANY
00:44:32.47\00:44:35.27
MARRIAGES ARE DESTROYED
BECAUSE OF BAD THINKING.
00:44:35.27\00:44:39.64
PROVERBS 23, VERSE 7, "FOR AS HE
THINKS IN HIS HEART, SO IS HE."
00:44:39.64\00:44:46.35
A LOT OF ADULTERIES BEGIN WITH
THOUGHTS. YOU KNOW ONE OF THE
00:44:46.35\00:44:50.99
NUMBER ONE THINGS THAT
CONTRIBUTES TO DIVORCE?
00:44:50.99\00:44:54.19
IT MAY NOT BE THE ACT OF
ADULTERY, BUT IT'S MENTAL
00:44:54.19\00:44:57.56
ADULTERY THAT'S HAPPENING EITHER
THROUGH PORNOGRAPHY ON THE
00:44:57.56\00:45:01.86
INTERNET OR SOAP
OPERAS ON TELEVISION.
00:45:01.86\00:45:06.20
AND I'M NOT SAYING THEY'RE
EXACTLY THE SAME THING BUT, YOU
00:45:06.20\00:45:10.64
KNOW, WHEN EVERY DAY A WIFE - OR
A HUSBAND - IT'S NOT TYPICALLY
00:45:10.64\00:45:16.98
THE HUSBAND - IS WATCHING
OTHER PEOPLE VICARIOUSLY HAVING
00:45:16.98\00:45:21.82
AFFAIRS, THEN YOU'RE
REJOICING IN THOSE THAT DO IT.
00:45:21.82\00:45:27.46
IT'S SOMETHING THAT'S HAPPENING
IN THE THINKING AND WHAT'S
00:45:27.46\00:45:29.49
HAPPENING IS PEOPLE LOOKING
AT THESE UNREAL IMAGES ON THE
00:45:29.49\00:45:34.13
INTERNET, ON TV, ON THEIR
COMPUTER OR TELEVISION PROGRAMS
00:45:34.13\00:45:40.40
THAT ARE GIVING A COUNTERFEIT
HOLLYWOOD VERSION OF WHAT
00:45:40.40\00:45:43.14
MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO BE AND
TOTALLY UNREALISTIC, SAPPY LOVE
00:45:43.14\00:45:47.61
STORIES THAT ARE SO FAR-FETCHED
FROM ANY REAL LIFE, THAT PEOPLE
00:45:47.61\00:45:53.75
CAN START TO BE DISSATISFIED
AND THINK - YEAH, THEY GOT SOME
00:45:53.75\00:45:57.05
DEBONAIR ACTOR THAT'S JUST -
OH, HE'S THE MOST THOUGHTFUL GUY
00:45:57.05\00:45:59.65
IN THE WORLD AND HE'S DOING ALL
THESE THINGS. HE'S SO ROMANTIC
00:45:59.65\00:46:01.96
AND HE'S GOT LOTS OF MONEY AND
FANCY CARS AND HE ALWAYS LOOKS
00:46:01.96\00:46:04.89
BUFF AND WORKING OUT AND HE'S
JUST - EVERY HAIR'S IN PLACE AND
00:46:04.89\00:46:10.37
- HOW CAN YOU COMPETE WITH THAT?
AND THEN SHE - AND YOU COME HOME
00:46:10.37\00:46:15.97
FROM WORK AND SHE LOOKS
AT YOU AND GOES, 'OH BROTHER.
00:46:15.97\00:46:20.01
HE DOESN'T LOOK ANYTHING
LIKE THAT GUY!' (LAUGHTER)
00:46:20.01\00:46:24.28
AND SO, IN THE MIND THE LADY
OR THE GUY - GUYS ARE LOOKING AT
00:46:24.28\00:46:29.68
THESE GIRLS THAT HAVE GOT THESE
PERFECT BODIES - AIRBRUSHED -
00:46:29.68\00:46:32.82
PHOTOSHOPPED - AND THEN
THEY SEE, YOU KNOW, A COUPLE OF
00:46:32.82\00:46:36.93
WRINKLES AND A LITTLE CELLULITE
AND THEY START THINKING - AND
00:46:36.93\00:46:42.16
THINGS START
HAPPENING IN THE MIND.
00:46:42.16\00:46:44.03
NOW WE'RE KIND OF LAUGHING
BECAUSE WE KNOW IT'S TRUE, BUT
00:46:44.03\00:46:48.64
TELEVISION HAS CONTRIBUTED
A GREAT DEAL TO DESTROYING
00:46:48.64\00:46:56.85
MARRIAGES. TURN OFF THE TV.
00:46:56.85\00:47:01.45
IN AN ARTICLE BY DR. ARMAND
NICHOLI, WHO IS A PSYCHIATRIST
00:47:01.45\00:47:05.15
AND A MEDICAL DOCTOR ON
THE FACILITY OF HARVARD MEDICAL
00:47:05.15\00:47:08.16
SCHOOL, HE SAID, "ANOTHER TREND
THAT IS GOING TO DESTROY THE
00:47:08.16\00:47:12.06
FAMILY AS WE KNOW IT AND
CAUSE EMOTIONAL CRIPPLES IS THE
00:47:12.06\00:47:17.60
INVASION OF THE
TELEVISION INTO THE HOME."
00:47:17.60\00:47:19.90
ONE FIFTH OF THE LIFETIME IN THE
NEXT GENERATION WILL BE SPENT
00:47:19.90\00:47:23.57
WATCHING TELEVISION. IF
YOU LIVE TO BE 80 YEARS OF
00:47:23.57\00:47:26.34
AGE, WHICH IS YOUR AVERAGE,
YOU'LL HAVE WATCHED TELEVISION A
00:47:26.34\00:47:30.05
TOTAL OF 4,000 DAYS,
CREATING A TREMENDOUS IMPACT.
00:47:30.05\00:47:34.85
AND SINCE WE KNOW THAT
TELEVISION IS PART OF A SYSTEM
00:47:34.85\00:47:37.29
THAT TEARS DOWN THE FAMILY,
YOU'LL HAVE A TOTAL OF 4,000
00:47:37.29\00:47:40.39
DAYS OF ANTI-FAMILY PROGRAMMING
ON ONE LEVEL OR ANOTHER.
00:47:40.39\00:47:45.36
AND SO, EVERYTHING FROM WHAT WE
READ TO WHAT WE WATCH AND WHAT'S
00:47:45.36\00:47:48.76
ON THE INTERNET, IT IS
AFFECTING THE THINKING.
00:47:48.76\00:47:51.70
AND PEOPLE BRING THESE
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS INTO
00:47:51.70\00:47:55.07
REAL MARRIAGES. THEY
BRING THESE UNREALISTIC
00:47:55.07\00:47:58.21
IMAGES INTO REAL MARRIAGES
AND THEY ARE DISSATISFIED.
00:47:58.21\00:48:03.11
AND THEN THOUGHTS COME
INTO THE MIND AND THEY START
00:48:03.11\00:48:05.55
HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS AND THEY
START HAVING DOUBTS AND THEY
00:48:05.55\00:48:08.58
HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
AND THE IMPURITY IN THE MIND.
00:48:08.58\00:48:12.52
KEEP YOUR MIND - KEEP YOUR HEART
- LET THE BIBLE AND THE WORD OF
00:48:12.52\00:48:17.03
GOD AND THE THINGS OF GOD BE
THE CATALYST FOR YOUR FAMILY AND
00:48:17.03\00:48:22.00
YOU'LL FIND THAT THAT LOVE
AND APPRECIATION FOR THAT PERSON
00:48:22.00\00:48:25.67
THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU - THAT
YOU'VE BECOME ONE WITH THROUGH
00:48:25.67\00:48:29.67
MARRIAGE - WILL BE
RESTORED AND REVIVED.
00:48:29.67\00:48:32.67
>>AMEN. >>A
COUPLE WAS - THEY WERE
00:48:32.67\00:48:35.94
HAVING DAILY
BICKERING - ARGUMENTS - OFTEN
00:48:35.94\00:48:38.58
OVER LITTLE THINGS.
THEY REALIZED THAT EVERY DAY
00:48:38.58\00:48:41.02
THEY WERE AT EACH
OTHER. AND THE WIFE CAME
00:48:41.02\00:48:44.35
UP WITH AN IDEA.
SHE SAID, 'LOOK, YOU
00:48:44.35\00:48:45.99
KNOW, THIS IS
SILLY. IT'S IMMATURE.
00:48:45.99\00:48:48.32
IF WE HAVE DIFFERENCES -
IF THERE'S THINGS WE WANT TO
00:48:48.32\00:48:52.06
COMMUNICATE, LET'S
GIVE EACH OTHER A BREAK.
00:48:52.06\00:48:54.23
IF THERE'S SOMETHING I'M DOING
THAT'S BOTHERING YOU, WRITE IT
00:48:54.23\00:48:56.93
OUT ON A SLIP OF PAPER, PUT IT
IN THIS BOX HERE ON THE KITCHEN
00:48:56.93\00:49:00.57
COUNTER. IF I'VE GOT
SOMETHING, I'LL WRITE IT DOWN.
00:49:00.57\00:49:03.51
I'LL PUT IT ON
THE KITCHEN COUNTER.
00:49:03.51\00:49:04.91
AT THE END OF A MONTH,
THEN WE'LL TALK THROUGH IT.
00:49:04.91\00:49:07.38
WE'LL HAVE ONE BIG ARGUMENT AND
GET IT OVER WITH.' SO HE SAID,
00:49:07.38\00:49:11.21
'OKAY DEAR.' SO
EACH DAY SHE'D MAKE AN
00:49:11.21\00:49:14.95
OBSERVATION, SHE'D WRITE
IT DOWN, SHE'D PUT IT IN THE
00:49:14.95\00:49:17.42
BOX, AND SHE
WOULDN'T SAY ANYTHING.
00:49:17.42\00:49:19.25
HE'D WRITE SOMETHING DOWN, HE'D
PUT IT IN THE BOX AND WOULDN'T
00:49:19.25\00:49:21.36
SAY ANYTHING. THIS
WENT ON FOR 30 DAYS.
00:49:21.36\00:49:24.53
AT THE END OF 30 DAYS SHE
SAID, 'OKAY, LET'S SIT DOWN.
00:49:24.53\00:49:27.50
LET'S OPEN THE BOX.'
SHE TOOK OUT THE BOX AND
00:49:27.50\00:49:30.97
SHE PULLED OUT HER PINK PAPERS.
00:49:30.97\00:49:33.70
IT SAID, 'LEAVING THE LID
OFF THE JELLY JAR AGAIN.' 'DIRTY
00:49:33.70\00:49:39.57
SOCKS ON THE FLOOR' AND SHE JUST
WAS GOING THROUGH HER LITANY OF
00:49:39.57\00:49:43.51
JUST ALL THESE THINGS AND
FINALLY SHE SAID, 'OKAY, YOU CAN
00:49:43.51\00:49:46.88
READ YOUR BLUE ONES NOW.'
HIS SAID, 'I LOVE YOU.' 'I LOVE
00:49:46.88\00:49:52.69
YOU.' 'I LOVE YOU.' AND
SHE BEGAN TO FEEL A LITTLE BAD.
00:49:52.69\00:50:00.53
THE THINGS - BY THE WAY, THAT
STORY CAN BE TOLD EITHER WAY.
00:50:00.53\00:50:03.06
(LAUGHTER) LOVE
COVERS A MULTITUDE OF SIN.
00:50:03.06\00:50:11.91
YOU KNOW, WE
NATURALLY ARE NOT LOVABLE?
00:50:11.91\00:50:14.91
GOD DIDN'T DIE FOR US
BECAUSE WE'RE LOVABLE.
00:50:14.91\00:50:17.28
IT'S EASY TO LOVE THE LOVABLE.
WHILE WE WERE YET SINNERS,
00:50:17.28\00:50:20.52
CHRIST LOVED US AND
DIED FOR US. >>AMEN.
00:50:20.52\00:50:23.59
>>AND IF THE LORD CAN LOVE
US AND THE LOVE OF CHRIST CAN BE
00:50:23.59\00:50:28.06
SHED ABROAD IN OUR HEARTS -
YOU KNOW WHAT - WHAT'S THE GREAT
00:50:28.06\00:50:31.23
COMMANDMENT IN THE LAW?
'LOVE THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR
00:50:31.23\00:50:34.83
HEART AND LOVE' -
WHAT? >>YOUR NEIGHBOR.
00:50:34.83\00:50:36.73
>>LOVE WHO? YOUR NEIGHBOR.
00:50:36.73\00:50:39.43
WHO'S A CLOSER
NEIGHBOR THAN YOUR SPOUSE?
00:50:39.43\00:50:43.27
IT'S INTERESTING, THE BIBLE SAYS
YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR.
00:50:43.27\00:50:45.17
IT SAYS YOU NEED
TO LOVE YOUR ENEMY.
00:50:45.17\00:50:47.08
SOMEONE BROUGHT OUT IT'S OFTEN
BECAUSE YOUR NEIGHBOR BECOMES
00:50:47.08\00:50:49.91
YOUR ENEMY. AND
IF WE CAN'T LOVE OUR
00:50:49.91\00:50:54.28
SPOUSES, HOW ARE WE
GOING TO LOVE OUR ENEMIES?
00:50:54.28\00:50:57.72
HOW ARE WE GOING
TO LOVE OUR NEIGHBORS?
00:50:57.72\00:50:59.55
THAT'S WHERE IT
STARTS. AND IT'S A CHOICE
00:50:59.55\00:51:02.72
THAT NEEDS TO BE MADE. NOW
THERE'S - THERE'S A RULE IN
00:51:02.72\00:51:05.33
LIFE - IT SAYS IT'S A SIMPLE
RULE OF PHYSICS THAT THE CLOSER
00:51:05.33\00:51:09.63
THAT TWO OBJECTS COME TO A
COMMON DESTINATION THEY WILL
00:51:09.63\00:51:13.17
INVARIABLY COME
CLOSER TO ONE ANOTHER.
00:51:13.17\00:51:17.14
AND IF CHRIST IS AT THE
MIDDLE OF YOUR LIFE - IF YOU,
00:51:17.14\00:51:20.51
PERSONALLY, HAVE SURRENDERED
YOUR LIFE TO JESUS, THE CLOSER
00:51:20.51\00:51:23.78
YOU ARE COMING TO JESUS - AND IF
YOUR SPOUSE IS COMING CLOSER TO
00:51:23.78\00:51:26.72
JESUS - YOU WILL INVARIABLY
BE COMING CLOSER TOGETHER.
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>>AMEN. >>GOD IS LOVE.
00:51:30.02\00:51:32.79
AND IF HE IS THE CENTER OF OUR
LIVES HE WILL DRAW OUR HEARTS
00:51:32.79\00:51:36.76
TOGETHER AND OUR
FAMILIES AND OUR MARRIAGES.
00:51:36.76\00:51:39.26
>>AMEN. >>DO NOT
LET THE WORLD DEFINE
00:51:39.26\00:51:41.06
WHAT MARRIAGE IS FOR YOU.
GOD HAS GIVEN US THE DEFINITION,
00:51:41.06\00:51:43.37
AMEN? AND OUR MARRIAGES
ARE TO BE BASED ON THAT LOVE
00:51:43.37\00:51:47.44
RELATIONSHIP WITH
GOD AND WITH EACH OTHER.
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>>WELL, MY CONVERSION STORY IS
WHEN I WAS IN THE PHILIPPINES I
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JUST GRADUATED AS A NURSE AND
AFTERWARDS I DID NOT HAVE ANY
00:52:26.68\00:52:31.88
RELIGION AND ONE TIME I FOUND
MYSELF INSIDE A SMALL CHURCH -
00:52:31.88\00:52:37.45
CATHOLIC CHURCH IN
MANILLA AND BEFORE A BIG CROSS.
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AND I WAS KNEELING BEFORE AND
I COULD HEAR JESUS TELLING ME TO
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ENTER THE CONVENT - SAVE
MYSELF AND ALSO MY FAMILY.
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AND I SAID, 'LORD, I WOULD LIKE
TO FOLLOW YOU ALL THE WAY.' AT
00:52:54.20\00:52:57.17
THAT POINT, I SEEMED TO BE HAPPY
EXTERNALLY BUT, BECAUSE INSIDE
00:52:57.17\00:53:02.18
THE CONVENT WE DON'T READ OUR
BIBLE - WE DON'T STUDY ABOUT THE
00:53:02.18\00:53:06.28
WORD OF GOD. WE
PRAY THE ROSARIES.
00:53:06.28\00:53:09.78
WE ALSO, AT THE SAME TIME, STUDY
THE LIVES OF THE SAINTS AND ALSO
00:53:09.78\00:53:14.09
OUR FOUNDERS AND THE ENCYCLICALS
OF THE POPE AND THE VIRGIN MARY.
00:53:14.09\00:53:20.13
AND SO I DO NOT KNOW THE
TRUTH AND I HAD THIS TORTURE OF
00:53:20.13\00:53:23.47
CONSCIENCE - THE GUILTY FEELINGS
THAT CANNOT BE RESOLVED.
00:53:23.47\00:53:28.30
SO I WOULD CONFESS TO THE PRIEST
IN THE CONFESSIONAL BOX SAYING,
00:53:28.30\00:53:32.11
'FATHER FORGIVE ME.
SINCE - MY LAST CONFESSION WAS
00:53:32.11\00:53:35.94
LAST WEEK - SINCE THEN I HAVE
COMMITTED THE FOLLOWING SIN,
00:53:35.94\00:53:40.12
INCLUDING THE ROOT CAUSE - WHY
AM I FALLING AND FALLING IN THAT
00:53:40.12\00:53:44.35
SAME SIN OVER AND OVER AGAIN?'
AND STILL, FOR 21 LONG YEARS,
00:53:44.35\00:53:49.99
I STRUGGLE AND I
STRUGGLE AND I STRUGGLE.
00:53:49.99\00:53:54.23
I REALIZED THAT I
WAS TOTALLY EMPTY.
00:53:54.23\00:53:57.93
I WAS TOTALLY HELPLESS AND
HOPELESS AND SO DEPRESSED AND SO
00:53:57.93\00:54:02.70
DESPERATE THAT I WOULD
LIKE ALREADY TO END MY LIFE.
00:54:02.70\00:54:07.18
I WAS WORKING FOR FIVE YEARS AS
DEAN OF THE UNIVERSITY OF SAINT
00:54:07.18\00:54:11.88
AUGUSTINE COLLEGE OF NURSING
IN ILOILO CITY ON ONE OF THE
00:54:11.88\00:54:15.78
ISLANDS IN THE PHILIPPINES.
AFTER FIVE YEARS I RECEIVE MY
00:54:15.78\00:54:21.66
COMMISSION FROM MY
PARENTS TO HELP MY SISTER WHO IS
00:54:21.66\00:54:25.99
BEING A BATTERED WOMAN.
THIS IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I
00:54:25.99\00:54:30.07
CAME OVER TO UNITED
STATES, IT IS BECAUSE MY SISTER
00:54:30.07\00:54:35.80
NEEDS MY HELP. AS I
WAS WORKING IN THE HOSPITAL
00:54:35.80\00:54:38.84
IN NEW YORK, MY BOSS SERAPHIN,
HE WAS SO GRACIOUS ENOUGH TO
00:54:38.84\00:54:43.08
GIVE ME AN INVITATION
TO THE MILLENNIUM PROPHECY.
00:54:43.08\00:54:47.02
AS I WAS LISTENING TO PASTOR
DOUG BATCHELOR'S PRESENTATION,
00:54:47.02\00:54:51.35
MY HEART REALLY WAS BEATING SO
FAST AND MY MIND - I'M ABLE TO
00:54:51.35\00:54:56.79
GRASP THE TRUTH THAT THIS IS THE
TRUTH THAT I'VE BEEN LONGING TO
00:54:56.79\00:55:02.46
HEAR ALL MY LIFE - THAT
I'VE BEEN SEEKING FOR SO LONG.
00:55:02.46\00:55:08.17
MY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH
JESUS - I CAN SEE JESUS AS MY
00:55:08.17\00:55:12.84
PERSONAL SAVIOR. HE
IS NOT ONLY THE SAVIOR OF
00:55:12.84\00:55:16.48
THE WHOLE WORLD, BUT
HE IS MY PERSONAL SAVIOR.
00:55:16.48\00:55:20.75
HE WAS THE ONE WHO DELIVERED ME
MIGHTILY FROM THE DEPTHS OF SIN
00:55:20.75\00:55:26.65
- FROM THE MIREY CLAY.
PASTOR DOUG BATCHELOR HAS
00:55:26.65\00:55:30.46
BEEN USED BY THE
LORD IN MY CONVERSION.
00:55:30.46\00:55:33.76
THE AMAZING FACTS I OWE TO THEM.
00:55:33.76\00:55:36.80
THE LORD REALLY BLESSED THIS
MINISTRY AND I'M SO PROUD I WAS
00:55:36.80\00:55:42.24
ABLE TO ATTEND THIS
MILLENNIUM PROPHECY.
00:55:42.24\00:55:45.74
MY LIFE HAS NEVER BEEN THE SAME.
IT HAS GIVEN ME THAT PEACE -
00:55:45.74\00:55:50.55
THAT JOY THAT NEVER - I HAVE
NEVER TASTED IN MY LIFE AND NOW
00:55:50.55\00:55:57.75
I'M SET FREE TO BE ABLE TO
WORK FOR HIM AND TO FOLLOW HIM.
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>>AMAZING FACTS BEGAN
IN 1965 WITH A GOD-INSPIRED
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CONCEPT. >>HELLO,
THIS IS JOE CREWS AND
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THE AMAZING FACTS BROADCAST
FACTS WHICH AFFECT YOU .
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>>EACH RADIO BROADCAST WOULD
BEGIN WITH AN AMAZING FACT FROM
00:56:26.95\00:56:30.72
SCIENCE, NATURE, OR HISTORY,
FOLLOWED BY A BIBLE MESSAGE THAT
00:56:30.72\00:56:34.66
TOUCHED THE HEARTS OF LISTENERS
FROM EVERY WALK OF LIFE.
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THE PROGRAM WAS AN INSTANT
SUCCESS AND THE MINISTRY SOON
00:56:38.49\00:56:42.43
BEGAN EXPANDING TO
INCLUDE BIBLE LESSONS.
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IN 1986 AMAZING FACTS ADDED
THE MEDIUM OF TELEVISION TO ITS
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GROWING OUTREACH
EFFORTS, OFFERING SOUL-WINNING
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EVANGELISTIC MESSAGES
FOR VIEWERS AROUND THE WORLD.
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IN 1994, PASTOR DOUG BATCHELOR
ASSUMED LEADERSHIP OF THE
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MINISTRY, ADDING THE
BIBLE ANSWERS LIVE CALL-IN RADIO
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PROGRAM AND NEW MINISTRY
TV PROGRAMS BEGAN AIRING ON
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NETWORKS AROUND THE WORLD.
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FOR 50 YEARS, THE DRIVING VISION
OF AMAZING FACTS HAS BEEN THE
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BOLD PROCLAMATION OF THE
EVERLASTING GOSPEL AND, WITH A
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TEAM OF EVANGELISTS CIRCLING THE
GLOBE, AND THOUSANDS OF MEN AND
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WOMEN BEING TRAINED THROUGH
THE AMAZING FACTS CENTER OF
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EVANGELISM PROGRAM - AFCOE - THE
MINISTRY IS HELPING GOD'S CHURCH
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SEE A RICH HARVEST OF SOULS.
00:57:31.15\00:57:33.62
AMAZING FACTS: GOD'S
MESSAGE, OUR MISSION.
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>>IN SIX DAYS GOD CREATED
THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH.
00:57:43.22\00:57:47.00
FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS MAN HAS
WORSHIPED GOD ON THE SEVENTH DAY
00:57:47.00\00:57:51.00
OF THE WEEK. NOW, EACH WEEK,
MILLIONS OF PEOPLE WORSHIP ON
00:57:51.00\00:57:54.94
THE FIRST DAY. WHAT HAPPENED?
WHY DID GOD CREATE A DAY OF
00:57:54.94\00:57:58.94
REST? DOES IT REALLY MATTER WHAT
DAY WE WORSHIP? WHO WAS BEHIND
00:57:58.94\00:58:03.58
THIS GREAT SHIFT? DISCOVER THE
TRUTH BEHIND GOD'S LAW AND HOW
00:58:03.58\00:58:07.42
IT WAS CHANGED.
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