>> IT'S BEEN 2,000 YEARS SINCE
THE GLORIOUS LIGHT OF THE CROSS
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ILLUMINATED A WORLD
VEILED IN DARKNESS AND CONFUSION
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ABOUT THE CHARACTER OF GOD.
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AND STILL TODAY THE GREATEST
NEED OF MANKIND IS A REVELATION
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OF GOD'S LOVE AS
REVEALED IN THE LIFE OF CHRIST.
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AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS,
"THE EVERLASTING GOSPEL"
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WITH PASTOR DOUG BATCHELOR
COMING TO YOU EACH WEEK FROM
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SACRAMENTO CENTRAL
CHURCH IN SUNNY CALIFORNIA.
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DISCOVER HIDDEN
TREASURES IN GOD'S WORD TODAY.
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>> I THINK IT'S INTERESTING AS
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I WATCH ALL THE ATTENTION
THAT PEOPLE PUT INTO WEDDINGS.
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WEDDINGS AREN'T THE SAME
THING AS MARRIAGE, YOU REALIZE.
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A LOT OF MARRIAGES WOULD
BE DOING GREAT RIGHT NOW IF
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THE WIVES PUT AS MUCH ENERGY
INTO THE MARRIAGE AS THEY DID
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INTO THE WEDDING.
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AND A LOT OF MARRIAGES WOULD
BE DOING A LOT BETTER NOW IF MEN
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PUT AS MUCH ENERGY INTO THE
MARRIAGE AS THEY DO THEIR WORK.
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BUT PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS LOOKING
FOR UNIQUE WAYS TO GET MARRIED.
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AND I REMEMBER YEARS
AGO, I USED TO SNORKEL AT THE
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JOHN PENNEKAMP CORAL REEF
OFF OF THE FLORIDA KEYS AND IT
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SHOWED PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED
UNDERWATER IN THEIR SCUBA GEAR
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IN FRONT OF THE STATUE
OF CHRIST THAT THEY'VE GOT
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UNDER WATER.
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AND I SAW ANOTHER ONE,
SOME PEOPLE TOOK WHAT THEY
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CALL THE VOMIT COMET.
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NOW THEY CALL IT THAT BECAUSE
IT'S AN AIRPLANE THAT PRODUCES
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THE SENSE OF
WEIGHTLESSNESS AND IT FLIES UP.
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I DON'T KNOW, IT MUST GO ABOUT
40,000 FEET AND THEN IT GOES
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INTO A DIVE.
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IT DIVES ABOUT THE SAME SPEED
THAT YOU WOULD FALL SO YOU HAVE
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WEIGHTLESSNESS FOR ABOUT
60 SECONDS AND IT GOES BACK UP
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AGAIN AND YOU CAN TELL WHERE
IT GETS ITS NAME BECAUSE SOME
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PEOPLE GET
SEASICK IN THE PROCESS.
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BUT A LOT OF MOVIES ARE
SHOT WHEN THEY WANT TO CREATE
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WEIGHTLESSNESS IN ONE
OF THESE 747s OR THEY EVEN
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HAVE 727s THAT DO IT.
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THEY GO UP AND THEN THEY DROP.
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PEOPLE PAY THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS
TO JUST EXPERIENCE THIS FOR
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A FEW SECONDS TO GET A
FEW BOUTS OF WEIGHTLESSNESS.
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SOMEONE SAID, "I WANT TO
GET MARRIED IN ZERO GRAVITY,"
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BECAUSE THEY KNEW HOW
HEAVY MARRIAGE ACTUALLY IS.
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THEY WANTED AT LEAST THE
WEDDING TO BE ZERO GRAVITY.
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AND THEN OTHER PEOPLE HAVE
DONE IT PARACHUTING, SKY DIVING.
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SOME PEOPLE TOOK THEIR VOWS AND
THEN THEY BUNGEED OFF A BRIDGE.
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AND PEOPLE, YOU
KNOW, THINK ABOUT FUN WAYS,
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SOMETHING UNIQUE THAT NO
ONE HAS EVER DONE BEFORE.
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SOMEONE EVENTUALLY GETTING
MARRIED AT THE INTERNATIONAL
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SPACE STATION.
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MARK MY WORDS,
IT'LL HAPPEN SOMEDAY.
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PEOPLE THINK IT'S, YOU KNOW,
WANT TO DO SOMETHING CREATIVE
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WITH THE WEDDING.
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BUT WE REALLY DON'T HAVE AS
MUCH PROBLEM WITH THE WEDDINGS
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AS WE DO WITH MARRIAGES.
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SOME PEOPLE SPEND A
LOT OF MONEY ON A WEDDING.
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THEY THINK THAT WILL SOMEHOW
GUARANTEE A GOOD MARRIAGE.
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SOME WEDDINGS
ARE REAL EXPENSIVE.
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HOW MANY OF YOU REMEMBER WHEN
PRINCE CHARLES AND PRINCESS DI
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GOT MARRIED?
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IT WAS WHAT YOU
CALL A ROYAL WEDDING.
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I NEVER EVEN HEARD WHAT
THE PRICE TAG ON THAT WAS,
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BUT I'M A SURE IT WAS MILLIONS
AND MILLIONS OF DOLLARS.
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BUT EVEN PRIVATE WEDDINGS,
A FEW YEARS AGO, I READ THAT
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DAVID GEST AND LIZA MANNELLI,
THEIR WEDDING COST $3.5 MILLION.
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THEY'RE DIVORCED
TODAY, UGLY DIVORCE.
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PAUL MCCARTNEY AND
HEATHER MILLS, THEIR WEDDING,
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$3 MILLION--THE RETIRED BEATLE.
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YOU PROBABLY HEARD IN THE NEWS
THAT DIDN'T END WELL EITHER.
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BUT SHE GOT A LOT MORE THAN
WHAT THE WEDDING COST, I THINK.
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BRAD PITT, JENNIFER
ANISTON, THEIR WEDDING ONLY COST
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A MILLION DOLLARS.
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IF THEY'D SPENT MORE
THEY'D STILL BE MARRIED, RIGHT?
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WAS THAT THE PROBLEM?
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I UNDERSTAND EDDIE MURPHY,
NICOLE MITCHELL, A FEW YEARS
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AGO, $1.5 ON THE WEDDING.
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BUT THAT'S NOT THE
MOST EXPENSIVE. IN HISTORY,
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THE MOST EXPENSIVE
WEDDING WAS IN 1981,
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SHEIKH MOHAMMED BIN RASHID
GOT MARRIED AND HE SPENT IN '81,
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$44.5 MILLION ON HIS WEDDING.
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BY TODAY'S
STANDARDS, THAT WOULD BE
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100 MILLION DOLLARS.
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THAT'S MORE THAN PRINCESS
DI AND PRINCE CHARLES SPENT
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ON THEIRS, YOU CAN BE SURE.
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THEY'RE STILL MARRIED.
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SO THERE YOU GOT IT,
FRIENDS, YOU JUST GOTTA SPEND
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100 MILLION DOLLARS ON
YOUR WEDDING AND YOU WON'T
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HAVE ANY PROBLEMS.
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IS THAT WHERE THE PROBLEM IS?
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NO, AND THEN YOU AND I KNOW THE
STORIES OF GRANDMA AND GRANDPA
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THAT GOD MARRIED AND SPENT
$25 FOR THE JUSTICE OF THE PEACE
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AND THEY'RE STILL MARRIED.
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MY GRANDMOTHER AND
GRANDFATHER GOT MARRIED.
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SHE WAS 16, HE WAS 19.
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DID THEY MAKE IT
TO 70 YEARS, DEAR?
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SEVENTY-TWO YEARS, THEN
THEY DIVORCED AND HAD AFFAIRS.
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NO, THEY STUCK IT
OUT THEIR WHOLE LIFE.
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AND YOU KNOW I NEVER FORGOT
WHAT MY GRANDMA USED TO SAY.
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SHE SAYS, "I JUST MARRIED HIM--"
SHE'D SAY THIS RIGHT IN FRONT
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OF HIM.
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SHE'D SAY, "I JUST MARRIED
HIM 'CAUSE I WANTED TO GET
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OUT OF THE HOUSE."
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SHE'D SAY, "NO, WE
DIDN'T LOVE EACH OTHER.
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WE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT LOVE WAS."
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BUT SHE SAYS, "WE
LEARNED TO LOVE EACH OTHER."
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AND I NEVER FORGOT THAT
SHE IMPRESSED UPON ME THAT
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IT DOESN'T MATTER
WHETHER OR NOT YOU FEEL LIKE IT,
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YOU'RE COMMITTED TO LOVE.
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AND BOY, THEY USED TO
HAVE SOME DOOZIES OF FIGHTS.
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SHE'D CHASE HIM THROUGH
THE HOUSE THROWING THINGS.
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THAT WAS MY JEWISH GRANDMA.
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MAY THEY REST IN PEACE.
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I CAN SAY THAT NOW.
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BUT THEY WERE COMMITTED,
THEY LOVED EACH OTHER AND THEY
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WOULD WORK THINGS OUT.
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THERE'S AN EPIDEMIC OF DIVORCE.
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DO I NEED TO TELL ANYBODY THAT?
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MATTER OF FACT, IT'S HARD
TO GATHER STATISTICS FOR THIS
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BECAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE LIVE
TOGETHER WITHOUT EVEN GETTING
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MARRIED NOW THAT IT
MUDDIES THE STATISTICS.
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BUT RIGHT NOW IN NORTH AMERICA
ABOUT 48% OF FIRST MARRIAGES
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END IN DIVORCE.
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YOU MIGHT BE THINKING
"WELL, MAYBE WHAT I NEED IS
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A SECOND MARRIAGE."
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SIXTY-FIVE PERCENT OF
SECOND MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE.
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THIRD TIME MUST
BE THE CHARM, RIGHT?
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SEVENTY-THREE PERCENT OF
THIRD MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE.
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WOULD YOU LIKE TO
HEAR SOME OF THE REASONS?
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FINANCIAL PROBLEMS.
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I WONDER IF THE CRISIS
TODAY HAS EXACERBATED THAT?
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PRIMARY REASONS FOR DIVORCE,
INABILITY MANAGE AND RESOLVE
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CONFLICT, INFIDELITY,
SOMEBODY'S BEEN UNFAITHFUL,
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CULTURAL AND
LIFESTYLE DIFFERENCES.
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THERE'S ADDED CHALLENGES
WHEN PEOPLE MARRY PEOPLE FROM
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A WHOLE DIFFERENT CULTURE
WHERE THEY OPERATE DIFFERENTLY
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AND DIFFERENT CUSTOMS,
THAT CAN BE A CHALLENGE.
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LACK OF COMMUNICATION
BETWEEN SPOUSES, ABANDONMENT,
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ALCOHOL OR DRUG ADDICTION,
PHYSICAL ABUSE, EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
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THESE ARE THE REASONS THAT ARE
CITED BY THE AGENCIES THAT DID
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THE RESEARCH.
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PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES,
IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES,
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DIFFERENCES IN PERSONAL
AND CAREER GOALS, DIFFERENT
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EXPECTATIONS ABOUT HOUSEHOLD
TASKS, DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
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ABOUT REARING CHILDREN,
INTERFERENCE FROM PARENTS
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OR IN-LAWS, LACK OF MATURITY,
INTELLECTUAL INCOMPATIBILITY.
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SOME HAVE LISTED
SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY.
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INSTANCES OF STICKING
TO TRADITIONAL ROLES NOT
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ALLOWING FOR PERSONAL
GROWTH, FALLING OUT OF LOVE.
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HAVE YOU HEARD THAT ONE BEFORE?
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IT'S LIKE YOU TRIPPED AND
FELL IN LOVE, YOU CLIMBED OUT.
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RELIGIOUS CONVERSION
OR RELIGIOUS BELIEFS.
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SOME PEOPLE GET CONVERTED
BECAUSE OF THE RELIGIOUS,
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THEY SAY LOOK, "I
DIDN'T BUY INTO THIS."
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AND I KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE
BEEN DIVORCED BECAUSE THEY GOT
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BAPTIZED, THEIR SPOUSE LEFT 'EM.
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MENTAL
INSTABILITY OR MENTAL ILLNESS.
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CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR AND
INCARCERATION FOR A CRIME.
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THAT CAN, YOU KNOW, YOUR SPOUSE
GETS PUT AWAY FOR A NUMBER OF
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YEARS, THAT COULD BE DIFFICULT.
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INABILITY TO DEAL WITH EACH
OTHERS' PETTY IDIOSYNCRASIES.
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COUNSELORS COMPILE THE LISTS,
SOME OF THE REASONS THAT PEOPLE
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GET DIVORCED.
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BUT GOD HATES DIVORCE.
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HE WANTS US TO MAKE
A COMMITMENT FOR LIFE.
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"FOR THE LORD GOD OF
ISRAEL SAYS HE HATES DIVORCE.
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FOR IT COVERS ONE'S GARMENT
WITH VIOLENCE, SAYS THE LORD
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OF HOSTS, THEREFORE TAKE HEED
TO YOUR SPIRIT THAT YOU DO NOT
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DEAL TREACHEROUSLY."
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NOW I DON'T WANT TO DIVERGE
INTO THE PROBLEM OF DIVORCE.
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THAT MIGHT BE THE
TOPIC OF ANOTHER SERMON,
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BUT I'LL SAY JUST A WORD MORE.
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YOU KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE,
EVEN IN THE TIME OF CHRIST,
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THE JEWS HAD MADE
SOME CONCESSIONS IN THE LAW
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FOR DIVORCE.
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IT HAD GOTTEN SO BAD THAT
THEY HAD A LAW THAT SAID THAT IF
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A WOMAN BURNED HER
HUSBAND'S FOOD, HE HAD GROUNDS
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FOR DIVORCE.
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AND SO THEY JUST KEPT WIDENING
AND WIDENING THOSE EXCUSES LIKE
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WE'RE DOING TODAY.
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SO JESUS SAID, "THERE'S
ONLY ONE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE
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AND THAT'S FOR FORNICATION."
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THAT MEANS MARITAL INFIDELITY,
OTHERWISE IT WAS A COMMITMENT
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FOR LIFE WAS TO BE
TAKEN VERY SERIOUSLY.
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IT'S THE
FOUNDATION OF A CULTURE.
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YOU KNOW THEY'RE BUILDING
A NEW BUILDING, NEW YORK CITY
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ON THE SPOT WHERE
THE TWIN TOWERS WERE.
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THEY'RE CALLING
IT THE FREEDOM TOWER.
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IT'S GONNA BE THE TALLEST
BUILDING IN NORTH AMERICA,
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1,776 FEET, 1776 THAT'S
INTERESTING, FREEDOM TOWER.
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FOUNDATION GOES DOWN
ABOUT SEVEN STORIES IN ABSOLUTE
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BEDROCK.
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THEY'RE GONNA HAVE A
PRINCIPLE AREA IN THE MIDDLE FOR
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MEMORIALS, SO THAT'S ONE OF THE
THINGS IS YOU NEED A FOUNDATION
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AND YOU NEED TO HAVE MEMORIALS
FROM THE GROUND UP ABOUT WHAT
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YOU'RE COMMITTING TO
WHEN YOU GET MARRIED.
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MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT, AND
I DARE SAY THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE
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DON'T WANT GOD TO KEEP THEIR
SALVATION COVENANT WITH THEM
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THE WAY THEY'RE KEEPING THEIR
COVENANTS WITH THEIR SPOUSE.
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GOD MAKES A COVENANT TO SAVE US.
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DO YOU WANT HIM
TO KEEP HIS COVENANT?
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ARE WE GONNA KEEP OUR COVENANTS?
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HOW IMPORTANT IS A PROMISE?
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WHEN YOU MAKE A VOW IN
THE PRESENCE OF GOD, CAN YOU
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EXPLAIN TO ME SOME VOW THAT
IS OF MORE WEIGHTY SUBSTANCE
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THAN A VOW MADE IN
THE PRESENCE OF GOD.
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NOW HAVING SAID ALL THIS ABOUT
DIVORCE AND THE EPIDEMIC OF
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DIVORCE, THERE ARE EVEN TIMES,
HAPPENED TO ME THIS MORNING,
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WHERE I WAS APPROACHED BY
A MEMBER, REMAIN ANONYMOUS,
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SPOUSE IS LIVING
WITH SOMEBODY ELSE.
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THEY'VE BEEN ABANDON.
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THERE'S ADULTERY AND THEY
SAID, "YOU KNOW, IS IT TIME
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TO DIVORCE?"
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SAID IT MAY BE.
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EVEN PASTORS RECOGNIZE
BIBLICALLY THERE ARE TIMES.
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WE'RE ALSO NOT SAYING THAT
THE BIBLE SAYS THAT DIVORCE
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IS THE
UNPARDONABLE SIN, BUT IT CAN BE.
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DID YOU HEAR ME?
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NOT SAYING THAT IT
AUTOMATICALLY TELLS US THAT
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DIVORCE, THAT IS
THE UNPARDONABLE SIN.
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BY THE WAY, GOD TOLD
ABRAHAM TO DIVORCE HAGAR.
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PART OF THE REASON IS HE
HAD TOO MANY WIVES, YOU'RE ONLY
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SUPPOSED TO HAVE ONE, RIGHT?
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AT LEAST ONE AT A TIME.
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HE HAD TWO AT THE SAME TIME.
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SO I KNOW THERE'S A LOT OF
PEOPLE, STATISTICALLY YOU'VE
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READ THE STATISTICS.
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THERE'S PEOPLE IN
THIS CONGREGATION.
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UNFORTUNATELY THE STATISTICS
AMONG CHRISTIANS AREN'T MUCH
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BETTER THAN THE WORLD AT LARGE.
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IT'S NOT THE UNPARDONABLE SIN
BUT YOU BETTER RECOGNIZE THAT
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UNLESS YOU'VE GOT SOLID
BIBLICAL GROUNDS IT IS SIN,
00:12:16.73\00:12:20.56
AND YOU ARE NOT FREE TO
RUN OFF AND GET REMARRIED,
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ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE.
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TELLS US THAT WE ARE ONE
FLESH WHEN WE GET MARRIED.
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MATTHEW 19:6, "SO THEN
JESUS SAID THEY ARE NO LONGER
00:12:32.96\00:12:35.66
TWO BUT ONE FLESH.
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THEREFORE WHAT GOD HAS
JOINED TOGETHER, LET NOT MAN
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SEPARATE."
00:12:40.73\00:12:41.93
IT'S A UNION FORMED AND
RECOGNIZED AND REGISTERED BY
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GOD IN HEAVEN.
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SHOULD NOT BE SEPARATED HERE
ON EARTH, ESPECIALLY FOR THE
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GROUNDS THAT ARE OFTEN CITED.
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FIRST MIRACLE OF
JESUS, FIRST MIRACLE OF JESUS
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WAS AT A WEDDING.
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THAT TELLS US SOMETHING
ABOUT HOW HE PRIORITIZES THAT.
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EVEN THOUGH CHRIST HIMSELF
WAS NOT MARRIED TO A PERSON,
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DESPITE OTHER STORIES YOU
HEAR FROM "THE DA VINCI CODE,"
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NO, HE DID NOT HAVE AN
AFFAIR WITH MARY MAGDALENE.
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CHRIST WAS
MARRIED TO THE CHURCH.
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SHE IS THE BRIDE OF CHRIST.
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MANY PEOPLE
DISMISS MARRIAGE TODAY.
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IT'S OUTDATED.
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I MEAN AFTER ALL WE'VE EVOLVED.
00:13:18.76\00:13:20.63
AND SINCE CHIMPANZEES ARE
NOT ALL MONOGAMOUS THAN IT'S
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UNDERSTANDABLE THAT WE SHOULD
BOUNCE FROM ONE RELATIONSHIP
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TO ANOTHER.
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THAT'S ONE OF THE DANGERS OF
EVOLUTION, IT'S GIVING PEOPLE
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EXCUSES.
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IT SAYS, "YOU KNOW, WHY
WOULD WE BE CONSTRAINED?
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PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO SHAKE
OFF THE SHACKLES OF MARRIAGE.
00:13:32.66\00:13:35.13
AND SINCE THERE IS SUCH LOOSE
AND RECKLESS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
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IN YOUR SOCIETY RIGHT NOW,
EVERYONE USED TO BELIEVE THAT
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INTIMACY AND SEX WAS TO BE
RESERVED ONLY FOR THAT MARRIAGE
00:13:47.26\00:13:51.63
RELATIONSHIP.
00:13:51.63\00:13:52.90
AND SINCE IT'S LIKE SHAKING
HANDS IN OUR CULTURE NOW,
00:13:52.90\00:13:55.53
THAT'S THE WAY THAT TELEVISION
PORTRAYS IT, THAT IF YOU TALK
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ABOUT LIVING A CHASTE LIFE
UNTIL MARRIAGE, THAT YOU KNOW,
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THAT'S SO ANTIQUATED.
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HOW CAN ANYONE
REALLY LIVE LIKE THAT?
00:14:04.40\00:14:07.73
BUT IF WE REALLY UNDERSTOOD
THAT IT IS A SACRED COVENANT
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AND THAT INTIMACY IS RESERVED
FOR MARRIAGE, WE'D TREAT
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MARRIAGE WITH MORE REVERENCE.
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THEY BECOME ONE FLESH.
00:14:16.56\00:14:18.40
IT'S IN THE MARRIAGE
RELATIONSHIP THAT HAPPENS,
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THEY'RE JOINED TOGETHER.
00:14:20.40\00:14:21.56
CHILDREN ARE EXHIBIT
"A" OF THE ONE FLESH.
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A MAN AND WOMAN BECOME
ONE FLESH, THEIR GENES UNITE
00:14:24.90\00:14:28.60
IN THAT CHILD.
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THEY PROCREATE.
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IT'S A WAY IN WHICH WE
ARE MADE IN THE IMAGE OF GOD.
00:14:32.03\00:14:35.46
GOD THE FATHER AND GOD THE SON
AND GOD THE SPIRIT SAID, "LET
00:14:35.46\00:14:38.53
US MAKE MAN IN OUR IMAGE."
00:14:38.53\00:14:40.53
AND BECAUSE OF THE
LOVE OF GOD, MAN WAS MADE.
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BECAUSE OF THE LOVE
BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND WIFE, THEY
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PROCREATE IN THEIR OWN IMAGE.
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IT'S A MIRACLE
WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
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GOD'S PLAN,
MARRIAGE IS GOD'S PLAN.
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IT MAY NOT WORK OUT THAT WAY
FOR SOME PEOPLE, BUT GOD SAYS,
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"IT'S NOT GOOD FOR MAN
THAT HE SHOULD BE ALONE.
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I'LL MAKE A HELPER FOR HIM."
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KING JAMES SAYS
A HELPMEET FOR HIM.
00:15:02.60\00:15:05.53
THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU GET
MARRIED TO HELP MEET EXPENSES.
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IT MEANS THAT WE ARE
COMPLETE IN SOME WAYS.
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YOU EVER NOTICE
HOW OPPOSITES ATTRACT?
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THAT HAPPENS IN SO
MANY RELATIONSHIPS AND IT'S
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ALMOST--I USED TO WONDER IF IT
WAS A COSMIC JOKE THAT GOD WAS
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PLAYING ON COUPLES THAT
THE VERY THINGS THAT THEY SEEM
00:15:21.73\00:15:25.00
ATTRACTED TO IN THEIR
SPOUSE, THEY'RE OPPOSITE.
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THOSE SAME AREAS THAT ATTRACTED
THEM END UP BECOMING THE
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PROBLEMS IN THE MARRIAGE.
00:15:32.80\00:15:35.90
AND IT'S USUALLY BECAUSE GOD
MADE MEN AND WOMEN DIFFERENTLY
00:15:35.90\00:15:39.76
AND THEY ARE TO COMPLIMENT
ONE ANOTHER AND WE ARE
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TO STRENGTHEN EACH
OTHER IN THE WEAK PARTS.
00:15:43.13\00:15:45.86
SO TOGETHER IF WE'RE REUNITED
WE BECOME STRONG, BUT IF WE
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CONTINUE TO LIVE IN OUR
OWN WORLDS THEN YOU HAVE THOSE
00:15:51.06\00:15:53.40
A LOT OF THE
CHALLENGES ARISE FROM THAT.
00:15:53.40\00:15:56.23
SOME OF YOU MAYBE HEARD THE
STORY OF ROBINSON CRUSOE BASED
00:15:56.23\00:15:59.33
ON A TRUE STORY ABOUT
SOMEONE BY THE NAME OF
00:15:59.33\00:16:01.63
ALEXANDER SELKIRK WHO
WAS PUT OFF AN ENGLISH SHIP
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ON AN ISLAND THERE
CALLED JUAN FERNANDEZ, WHERE HE
00:16:07.23\00:16:09.33
LIVED BY HIMSELF--WELL,
ACTUALLY WITH A BUNCH OF CATS
00:16:09.33\00:16:11.90
AND RATS AND GOATS ON
THIS ISLAND FOR 4 1/2 YEARS.
00:16:11.90\00:16:18.13
AND WHEN THEY FINALLY RESCUED
HIM, ANOTHER SHIP STOPPED
00:16:18.13\00:16:21.70
THERE AND THEY FOUND HIM THERE.
00:16:21.70\00:16:24.40
HE WAS KIND OF BABBLING.
00:16:24.40\00:16:25.00
THEY COULD HARDLY UNDERSTAND
HIM AND HE'D BECOME A LITTLE
00:16:25.00\00:16:28.13
BIT GOOFY LIVING BY HIMSELF.
00:16:28.13\00:16:30.93
HE'D BECOME ECCENTRIC.
00:16:30.93\00:16:32.10
HE WAS TALKING TO THE
GOATS WHEN THEY FINALLY PICKED
00:16:32.10\00:16:34.70
HIM UP.
00:16:34.70\00:16:37.56
SOME OF YOU ARE THINKING
MY MARRIAGE ISN'T A LOT BETTER
00:16:37.56\00:16:39.53
THAN THAT.
00:16:39.53\00:16:42.50
GOD INTENDS FOR US TO
BE BALANCED BY MARRIAGE.
00:16:42.50\00:16:44.40
IT TEACHES YOU TO LOVE.
00:16:44.40\00:16:45.60
YOU KNOW, OUR
PRINCIPLE CHALLENGE IN A PLAN OF
00:16:45.60\00:16:48.06
SALVATION GOD IS
TRYING TO TEACH US TO LOVE.
00:16:48.06\00:16:51.13
AND LOVE RELATIONSHIPS
ARE WHERE WE HAVE A CHALLENGE.
00:16:51.13\00:16:55.73
WE LEARN TO LOVE AND BE
SELFLESS IN, BEGINS WITH
00:16:55.73\00:17:01.03
THE HOME WITH THE HUSBAND
AND THE WIFE AND THEN THROUGH
00:17:01.03\00:17:03.03
THE CHILDREN.
00:17:03.03\00:17:04.03
WE LEARN TO DENY
OURSELVES AND TO PREFER OTHERS.
00:17:04.03\00:17:08.13
MOST DIVORCES, IF NOT
100%, SOMEBODY IS BEING SELFISH.
00:17:08.13\00:17:15.90
IT'S ALMOST BECAUSE SOMEONE
IS MAKING SELFISH DECISIONS.
00:17:15.90\00:17:20.00
IF THERE WAS MORE CHOICE OF
LOVE, YOU'D SEE MORE HARMONY
00:17:20.00\00:17:23.06
IN THE RELATIONSHIPS.
00:17:23.06\00:17:24.36
I'M GOING TO INTERPRET
YOUR SILENCE, NOT THAT YOU'RE
00:17:24.36\00:17:27.70
SLEEPING BUT
THAT YOU'RE LISTENING.
00:17:27.70\00:17:32.93
THEY BECOME ONE FLESH.
00:17:32.93\00:17:34.60
THE BIBLE SAYS IN AMOS
3:3 "CAN TWO WALK TOGETHER
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UNLESS THEY'RE AGREED?"
00:17:38.60\00:17:39.63
IT'S SO IMPORTANT THAT WE CAN
BE ONE IN OUR GOAL OF CHRIST.
00:17:39.63\00:17:42.36
IF WE'VE GOT THAT AT THE
CENTER, THERE'S GREAT HOPE.
00:17:42.36\00:17:45.96
NOW CHUCK SWINDOLL WROTE IN
HIS BOOK "THE GREAT AWAKENING"
00:17:45.96\00:17:49.40
HE DID YEARS AS A PASTOR
COUNSELING, THAT KAREN AND I
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READ A BOOK TOGETHER BEFORE
WE GOT MARRIED BY I JUST HIS
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LAST NAME WAS
HARLEY, LIKE HARLEY-DAVIDSON.
00:17:56.50\00:17:58.80
AND I THINK YOU CAN
STILL GET THIS, IT'S CALLED
00:17:58.80\00:18:00.73
"HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS."
00:18:00.73\00:18:02.46
VERY GOOD BOOK,
VERY EYE-OPENING.
00:18:02.46\00:18:04.63
ALMOST THE SAME DATA.
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THE NEEDS OF THE WIFE
ARE UNIQUE TO THE NEEDS
00:18:06.10\00:18:09.56
OF THE HUSBAND.
00:18:09.56\00:18:11.63
NUMBER ONE NEED THAT
WOMEN EXPRESS, AFFECTION.
00:18:11.63\00:18:15.80
SECONDLY,
CONVERSATION, COMMUNICATION.
00:18:15.80\00:18:19.00
THIRD, HONESTY, OPENNESS.
00:18:19.00\00:18:21.43
FOURTH, FINANCIAL SUPPORT.
00:18:21.43\00:18:23.13
FIFTH, FAMILY COMMITMENT.
00:18:23.13\00:18:26.53
FIVE MAJOR NEEDS THAT
MEN EXPRESSED, NUMBER ONE:
00:18:26.53\00:18:30.33
SEXUAL FULFILLMENT.
00:18:30.33\00:18:33.73
NUMBER TWO:
RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP.
00:18:33.73\00:18:36.56
NUMBER THREE: AN
ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE.
00:18:36.56\00:18:39.23
NUMBER FOUR: DOMESTIC SUPPORT.
00:18:39.23\00:18:41.40
NUMBER FIVE:
ADMIRATION, RESPECT.
00:18:41.40\00:18:44.76
LOOK HOW DIFFERENT THEY ARE.
00:18:44.76\00:18:46.36
IS THERE ANY WONDER
WE'RE HAVING PROBLEMS?
00:18:46.36\00:18:49.86
YOU'VE HEARD THE
STORY, MEN ARE FROM MARS,
00:18:49.86\00:18:53.33
WOMAN ARE FROM VENUS.
00:18:53.33\00:18:54.30
IT IS LIKE SOMETIMES PEOPLE
GET MARRIED AND A COUPLE WEEKS
00:18:54.30\00:18:56.30
AFTER THE HONEYMOON THEY
THINK, "WHO'S THIS ALIEN?"
00:18:56.30\00:19:00.43
BECAUSE THE NEEDS AND THE
EXPECTATIONS ARE SO DIFFERENT
00:19:00.43\00:19:02.96
AND THAT'S WHAT
LEADS TO THE CONFLICT.
00:19:02.96\00:19:05.16
AND YOU KNOW IT'S PART OF THE
SALVATION PROCESS, PART OF OUR
00:19:05.16\00:19:08.66
CONVERSION PROCESS IS
LEARNING TO LOVE IN A MARRIAGE.
00:19:08.66\00:19:14.36
WE THOUGHT ALL
THE LOVE CAME BEFORE.
00:19:14.36\00:19:16.43
MOST OF THE TIME IT'S
ATTRACTION AND LUST BEFORE.
00:19:16.43\00:19:18.66
THE REAL LOVE BEGINS
TO DEMONSTRATE ITSELF
00:19:18.66\00:19:22.10
AFTER THE WEDDING.
00:19:22.10\00:19:23.96
THAT'S WHEN THE
REAL WORK BEGINS.
00:19:23.96\00:19:26.76
NOW I'M GONNA GO THROUGH SOME
POINTS AND I'VE COMPILED THIS.
00:19:26.76\00:19:31.86
I WAS GONNA NAME THIS
SERMON "PASTOR BATCHELOR TALKS
00:19:31.86\00:19:33.83
ABOUT MARRIAGE."
00:19:33.83\00:19:36.83
IT'D SORT OF BE A PUN BUT I'M
GONNA SHARE WITH YOU WHAT I'VE
00:19:36.83\00:19:40.06
LEARNED AND OTHER
RESOURCES I'VE READ THAT SORT OF
00:19:40.06\00:19:44.26
SUMMARIZED WHAT SOME OF THE
TIPS ARE TO HAVING A HEALTHY
00:19:44.26\00:19:46.86
MARRIAGE, AND I NEED
TO ISSUE A DISCLAIMER.
00:19:46.86\00:19:50.36
WIFE'S SITTING IN THE AUDIENCE.
00:19:50.36\00:19:51.70
I'M NOT SAYING THIS 'CAUSE
I'M AN EXPERT IN ANY OF THESE
00:19:51.70\00:19:53.90
AREAS.
00:19:53.90\00:19:55.63
I'M SAYING IT BECAUSE YOU
NEED TO HEAR IT WHETHER I'M
00:19:55.63\00:19:58.26
A GOOD EXAMPLE OR NOT.
00:19:58.26\00:19:59.86
AMEN?
00:19:59.86\00:20:01.16
OKAY, SO WE'RE ALL IN
THIS TOGETHER, ALL RIGHT?
00:20:01.16\00:20:04.96
COMMITMENT, NUMBER ONE,
THERE NEEDS TO BE A COMMITMENT.
00:20:04.96\00:20:09.26
FROM THE BEGINNING YOU
SAY, "I'M GETTING MARRIED
00:20:09.26\00:20:11.43
AND WE'RE GONNA MAKE
THIS WORK NO MATTER WHAT."
00:20:11.43\00:20:14.56
AND AS SOON AS YOU GET MARRIED
AND THERE'S SO MUCH EVIDENCE
00:20:14.56\00:20:18.20
FOR DIVORCE IN OUR CULTURE
WE'RE ALWAYS THINKING WELL,
00:20:18.20\00:20:20.83
THERE'S THAT
WINDOW, THAT ESCAPE HATCH.
00:20:20.83\00:20:22.96
LOCK THE HATCH, DON'T
LEAVE IT AS AN OPTION.
00:20:22.96\00:20:27.30
SOON AS YOU START THINKING
ABOUT THAT, YOU WILL START
00:20:27.30\00:20:29.36
LOOKING BEYOND THAT THINKING
"OH, THE GRASS MIGHT BE GREENER
00:20:29.36\00:20:31.73
SOMEWHERE ELSE."
00:20:31.73\00:20:32.66
THEN YOU'RE IN TROUBLE.
00:20:32.66\00:20:34.70
YOU MADE A PROMISE,
YOU'RE MARRIED TO THIS PERSON.
00:20:34.70\00:20:36.76
MARRIAGE IS A
COMMITMENT FOR LIFE.
00:20:36.76\00:20:39.26
IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE
'TIL DEATH DO YOU PART.
00:20:39.26\00:20:45.00
COUPLE WAS GETTING MARRIED, A
LITTLE BOY WAS AT THE WEDDING.
00:20:45.00\00:20:46.70
HE'S LOOKING.
00:20:46.70\00:20:48.06
HE ASKS HIS MOTHER "WHY IS
THE GIRL WEARING ALL WHITE?"
00:20:48.06\00:20:52.50
MOM SAID, "THAT'S BECAUSE IT'S
THE HAPPIEST DAY OF HER LIFE."
00:20:52.50\00:20:56.66
HE SAID, "WHY'S
HE WEARING BLACK?"
00:20:56.66\00:21:03.66
IT'S NOT BECAUSE A
MARRIAGE IS A FUNERAL.
00:21:03.66\00:21:05.16
IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY,
BUT IT WILL BE A LOT HAPPIER
00:21:05.16\00:21:08.80
WHEN YOU'RE COMMITTED.
00:21:08.80\00:21:10.00
YOU KNOW WHAT?
00:21:10.00\00:21:10.90
I THINK THERE'S A LOT OF
RESTLESSNESS AND UNHAPPINESS
00:21:10.90\00:21:14.03
IN MARRIAGES.
00:21:14.03\00:21:15.60
THERE SHOULDN'T BE BECAUSE
PEOPLE, IN THE BACK OF THEIR
00:21:15.60\00:21:18.76
MINDS, HAVE NOT REALLY PUT ALL
OF THEIR WEIGHT DOWN AND SAID,
00:21:18.76\00:21:23.03
"THIS IS THE PERSON.
00:21:23.03\00:21:24.13
I AM IN A LIFEBOAT.
00:21:24.13\00:21:25.56
THERE IS NO OTHER
LIFEBOAT JUST WITH THIS PERSON.
00:21:25.56\00:21:28.23
WE'VE GOTTA GET ALONG.
00:21:28.23\00:21:29.66
WE'VE GOTTA MAKE IT WORK."
00:21:29.66\00:21:30.96
BECAUSE YOU JUMP
OVER THERE'S SHARKS.
00:21:30.96\00:21:33.46
YOU REALIZE THAT THERE'S NO
OTHER OPTION AND AS SOON AS YOU
00:21:33.46\00:21:36.43
REMOVE ALL OTHER OPTIONS IT'S
AMAZING HOW MUCH BETTER YOU CAN
00:21:36.43\00:21:40.53
LEARN TO GET ALONG IF YOU STOP
LEAVING THOSE ESCAPE HATCHES
00:21:40.53\00:21:42.83
OPEN IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND.
00:21:42.83\00:21:44.90
IT'S A COMMITMENT FOR LIFE.
00:21:44.90\00:21:46.86
AMEN?
00:21:46.86\00:21:49.20
"FOR THIS CAUSE, A MAN SHALL
LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER
00:21:49.20\00:21:53.00
AND SHALL CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE."
00:21:53.00\00:21:55.93
CLEAVING MEANS THEY'RE GLUED.
00:21:55.93\00:21:58.40
IT'S TALKING ABOUT JUST
MUCH MORE THAN INTIMACY.
00:21:58.40\00:22:01.46
IT'S A PICTURE OF CLOSENESS,
OPENNESS, NO HIDDEN AGENDAS,
00:22:01.46\00:22:05.50
HONEST.
00:22:05.50\00:22:06.86
SOMEONE SAID MARRIAGE IS
MORE LIKE RUNNING A FARM THAN
00:22:06.86\00:22:10.53
RUNNING A SPRINT.
00:22:10.53\00:22:11.90
YOU GOTTA START OVER
EVERY DAY, 7 DAYS A WEEK.
00:22:11.90\00:22:15.70
YOU DON'T GET A
SABBATH FROM MARRIAGE.
00:22:15.70\00:22:18.46
YOU DON'T GET A
SABBATH FROM A FARM.
00:22:18.46\00:22:20.53
YOU GOTTA STILL MILK THE GOATS,
THE COWS OR WHATEVER, RIGHT?
00:22:20.53\00:22:24.06
WELL, YOU STILL DO, YOU GET
SOME KIND OF SABBATH ON A FARM
00:22:24.06\00:22:26.33
OR SOME THINGS YOU
GOTTA DO EVERY DAY.
00:22:26.33\00:22:29.33
AND SO IT'S THIS COMMITMENT.
00:22:29.33\00:22:30.66
REVELATION 2:10 SAYS, "BE
FAITHFUL UNTO DEATH AND I WILL
00:22:30.66\00:22:35.23
GIVE YOU A CROWN OF LIFE."
00:22:35.23\00:22:36.86
YOU KNOW, I LIKE THAT VERSE
YOU FIND IN RUTH AND I'VE OFTEN
00:22:36.86\00:22:41.36
USED IT WHEN I DO WEDDINGS.
00:22:41.36\00:22:42.33
WHEN RUTH SAID, "I'M
GONNA FOLLOW WITH YOU, NAOMI,
00:22:42.33\00:22:45.16
WHEREVER YOU GO."
00:22:45.16\00:22:46.40
JUST THIS COMMITMENT.
00:22:46.40\00:22:47.46
SHE SAID, "ENTREAT ME NOT TO
LEAVE THEE NOR TO RETURN FROM
00:22:47.46\00:22:50.86
FOLLOWING AFTER THEE.
00:22:50.86\00:22:52.50
FOR WHETHER YOU GO, I
WILL GO, AND WHERE YOU LODGE,
00:22:52.50\00:22:55.90
I WILL LODGE.
00:22:55.90\00:22:57.03
YOUR PEOPLE SHALL BE MY
PEOPLE, YOUR GOD, MY GOD.
00:22:57.03\00:23:00.83
WHERE THOU DWELLEST I WILL--
WHERE THOU DIEST I WILL DIE,
00:23:00.83\00:23:04.33
AND THERE WILL I BE BURIED.
00:23:04.33\00:23:05.96
AND THE LORD DO SO TO ME
AND MORE OUGHT--AND MORE ALSO
00:23:05.96\00:23:11.50
IF OUGHT BUT
DEATH PART YOU AND ME."
00:23:11.50\00:23:13.90
NOTHING SHOULD SEPARATE US.
00:23:13.90\00:23:15.16
THERE'S A COMMITMENT THERE.
00:23:15.16\00:23:17.26
NOTICE IT SAYS,
"WHERE YOU GO I WILL GO."
00:23:17.26\00:23:21.06
SOMETIMES PEOPLE SAY,
"WELL DEAR, I GOTTA TRAVEL MORE
00:23:21.06\00:23:22.70
'CAUSE AFTER ALL, ABSENCE
MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER."
00:23:22.70\00:23:25.70
THERE'S ANOTHER ADAGE,
IT'S CALLED OUT OF SIGHT
00:23:25.70\00:23:27.60
OUT OF MIND.
00:23:27.60\00:23:28.96
THAT ALSO HAPPENS TOO.
00:23:28.96\00:23:30.03
I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT
YOU GOTTA STAY TOGETHER AS OFTEN
00:23:30.03\00:23:33.83
AS POSSIBLE.
00:23:33.83\00:23:35.13
NOW IN OUR FAMILY, I
HAVE TO TRAVEL A LOT.
00:23:35.13\00:23:39.33
AS FREQUENTLY AS I CAN,
WE TAKE TRIPS AS A FAMILY.
00:23:39.33\00:23:41.83
SOMETIMES JUST KAREN CAN GO.
00:23:41.83\00:23:43.23
FREQUENTLY TAKE THE BOYS
BECAUSE IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU
00:23:43.23\00:23:47.03
DON'T SPEND TOO MUCH TIME APART.
00:23:47.03\00:23:50.00
THAT'S OFTEN WHAT THINS THE
RELATIONSHIP OUT, COMMITMENT.
00:23:50.00\00:23:55.46
NEXT, FORGIVENESS.
00:23:55.46\00:24:00.50
MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN.
00:24:00.50\00:24:01.83
SO IS THUNDER AND LIGHTNING.
00:24:01.83\00:24:03.96
THERE CAN BE CHALLENGES.
00:24:03.96\00:24:05.36
YOU'VE GOT TO LEARN
TO FORGIVE EACH OTHER.
00:24:05.36\00:24:08.36
SOMEONE SAID ONE TIME, A GIRL
WAS TALKING TO HER FRIEND AND
00:24:08.36\00:24:11.36
SHE SAID, "I KNEW WHEN I
GOT MARRIED HE WAS MR. RIGHT.
00:24:11.36\00:24:15.23
I JUST DIDN'T KNOW
HIS FIRST NAME WAS ALWAYS.
00:24:15.23\00:24:19.96
HE ALWAYS THINKS HE'S RIGHT."
00:24:19.96\00:24:21.43
YOU GOTTA LEARN HOW
TO ADMIT YOU'RE WRONG.
00:24:21.43\00:24:24.03
YOU NEED, IN MARRIAGE IF YOU
WANT TO GET ALONG, YOU'VE GOTTA
00:24:24.03\00:24:27.03
LEARN HOW TO APOLOGIZE EVEN
WHEN YOU THINK YOU'RE RIGHT.
00:24:27.03\00:24:29.70
IS THERE
ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT?
00:24:29.70\00:24:31.73
I MEAN, THERE'S NO
INCONSISTENCY THERE.
00:24:31.73\00:24:33.70
YOU CAN APOLOGIZE AND NOT
CONCEDE THE POINT THAT YOU
00:24:33.70\00:24:37.26
WERE MAKING.
00:24:37.26\00:24:38.30
AND IT'S AMAZING HOW MANY
TRIVIAL THINGS THAT COUPLES
00:24:38.30\00:24:41.03
ARGUE ABOUT.
00:24:41.03\00:24:43.03
YOU KNOW THERE ARE SOME THINGS
THAT ARE REALLY WEIGHTY MATTERS
00:24:43.03\00:24:47.83
BUT WELL, I GOTTA ANOTHER
POINT THAT WILL DEAL WITH THAT.
00:24:47.83\00:24:50.63
EPHESIANS 4:26, "DO NOT LET
THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH."
00:24:50.63\00:24:57.66
YOU KNOW, THIS IS ONE REASON
A LOT OF COUPLES STRUGGLE.
00:24:57.66\00:24:59.73
SOMETHING HAPPENED AND
THEY NEVER REALLY SETTLED IT AND
00:24:59.73\00:25:02.30
FORGAVE EACH OTHER AND MOVED
ON OR ONE SPOUSE KEEPS REMINDING
00:25:02.30\00:25:06.83
THE OTHER SPOUSE ABOUT
SOMETHING THEY DID YEARS AGO.
00:25:06.83\00:25:10.33
AND YOU GOTTA KNOW HOW TO
PARK THOSE THINGS, DIG A HOLE,
00:25:10.33\00:25:12.73
PUT IT IN BURY IT, AND
DON'T DIG IT UP ANYMORE.
00:25:12.73\00:25:16.20
HAVE A FUNERAL.
00:25:16.20\00:25:17.10
SAY "THAT'S FORGIVEN.
00:25:17.10\00:25:18.16
THAT'S OVER.
00:25:18.16\00:25:19.13
YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED TO
BRING THAT UP ANYMORE."
00:25:19.13\00:25:22.66
AND A LOT OF COUPLES YOU KNOW
THEY JUST FEEL LIKE THEY'VE RUN
00:25:22.66\00:25:27.56
OUT OF AMMUNITION.
00:25:27.56\00:25:28.60
INSTEAD OF COMMUNICATING THEY
SAY, "OH, THEY SAID SOMETHING
00:25:28.60\00:25:30.90
TO HURT ME.
00:25:30.90\00:25:33.16
I'M GONNA HAVE TO DIG MY OLD
RESOURCES HERE AND THROW THAT
00:25:33.16\00:25:34.90
BACK AND THAT'LL--" YOU
KNOW, AND IT'S LIKE INSTEAD OF
00:25:34.90\00:25:37.33
COMMUNICATING IT BECOMES WHO
CAN THROW THE BIGGEST MISSILES
00:25:37.33\00:25:41.23
SO THAT THEY GET EVEN.
00:25:41.23\00:25:43.20
FORGIVE.
00:25:43.20\00:25:44.96
DON'T LET THE SUN
GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.
00:25:44.96\00:25:47.00
AT THE END OF EVERY
DAY, KEEP SHORT ACCOUNTS.
00:25:47.00\00:25:51.26
HOW QUICKLY DOES GOD
FORGIVE YOU WHEN YOU ASK HIM?
00:25:51.26\00:25:53.53
AS CHRIST HAS FORGIVEN
YOU SO YOU OUGHT TO FORGIVE
00:25:53.53\00:25:55.80
ONE ANOTHER.
00:25:55.80\00:25:56.73
"OH, BUT IT HURTS SO MUCH."
00:25:56.73\00:25:58.06
YOU THINK THAT YOUR SPOUSE HURT
YOU MORE THAN YOU HURT JESUS?
00:25:58.06\00:26:03.46
IT KILLED HIM WHAT YOU DID.
00:26:03.46\00:26:05.60
SO WE NEED TO LEARN
TO FORGIVE EACH OTHER.
00:26:05.60\00:26:08.73
THERE'S NOTHING WORSE
THAN PEOPLE GOING THROUGH
00:26:08.73\00:26:10.70
A RELATIONSHIP WHERE THERE'S
THIS CONSTANT BITTERNESS.
00:26:10.70\00:26:13.70
IT'S ALMOST LIKE RUST AND
FUNGUS ON THE RELATIONSHIP
00:26:13.70\00:26:16.33
BECAUSE THEY CAN'T JUST ASK
FOR THE GRACE OF GOD TO FORGIVE
00:26:16.33\00:26:21.10
AND REALLY LET IT GO.
00:26:21.10\00:26:22.00
YOU CAN CHOOSE TO FORGIVE EVEN
THOUGH YOU MAY STILL HAVE IT IN
00:26:22.00\00:26:24.36
YOUR MIND, YOU MAY NOT
CONTROL WHAT YOU REMEMBER.
00:26:24.36\00:26:26.50
YOU CAN CHOOSE TO FORGIVE
AND SAY, "WE'RE GONNA MOVE ON
00:26:26.50\00:26:29.13
FROM HERE."
00:26:29.13\00:26:30.93
I HEARD ABOUT ONE OLD-TIMER
WHO'S MARRIED 60 YEARS IN TEXAS
00:26:30.93\00:26:34.93
AND SOMEONE ASKED HIM, "TO
WHAT DO YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR LONG
00:26:34.93\00:26:40.03
AND HAPPY MARRIAGE?"
00:26:40.03\00:26:40.96
HE SAID, "WELL, MY WIFE AND
I RESOLVED NEVER TO GO TO SLEEP
00:26:40.96\00:26:44.00
UNTIL WE SETTLED
ANY DIFFERENCES."
00:26:44.00\00:26:46.86
HE SAID, "OF COURSE, THERE
WERE WEEKS WHEN WE DIDN'T SLEEP"
00:26:46.86\00:26:51.46
'CAUSE YOU GOTTA LET IT GO.
00:26:51.46\00:26:53.56
BEN FRANKLIN SAID, "KEEP YOUR
EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE
00:26:53.56\00:26:58.66
AND HALF SHUT AFTERWARD.
00:26:58.66\00:27:00.63
WE NEED TO APOLOGIZE
WHEN WE'VE DONE WRONG.
00:27:00.63\00:27:04.20
"BE FORGIVING WITH YOUR PARTNER.
00:27:04.20\00:27:06.20
YOU'LL BE FACED WITH TOUGH
TIMES AND YOU'LL HAVE TO CHOOSE
00:27:06.20\00:27:08.40
BETWEEN FORGIVING HIM AND
HER WHEN A MISTAKE HAPPENS OR
00:27:08.40\00:27:12.46
CARRYING IT ON
FOREVER IN THE MARRIAGE."
00:27:12.46\00:27:17.40
PATIENCE, NOW THESE ARE RELATED.
00:27:17.40\00:27:19.06
BE PATIENT WITH EACH OTHER.
00:27:19.06\00:27:21.20
AND GALATIANS 5:22, "BUT
THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS,"
00:27:21.20\00:27:26.30
YOU KNOW THESE,
"LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE."
00:27:26.30\00:27:32.70
HERE IS THE
PATIENCE OF THE SAINTS.
00:27:32.70\00:27:35.50
IGNORE THE SMALL STUFF.
00:27:35.50\00:27:37.50
AND YOU KNOW?
00:27:37.50\00:27:38.50
I'M DOING BETTER.
00:27:38.50\00:27:39.83
I USED SOMETIMES THE DELAY.
00:27:39.83\00:27:42.43
I'M JUST TALKING ABOUT PLAIN
OLD DELAY, WAITING, USED TO
00:27:42.43\00:27:45.70
IRRITATE ME AND I'M GETTING NOW
WHERE I'M THINKING, JUST ENJOY
00:27:45.70\00:27:49.46
YOURSELF WHILE YOU
WAIT AND JUST BE PATIENT.
00:27:49.46\00:27:54.73
BUT THAT'S NOT THE PATIENCE.
00:27:54.73\00:27:55.70
WE NEED PATIENCE WITH EACH
OTHER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP AS WE
00:27:55.70\00:27:59.93
GROW TO BECOME LIKE CHRIST.
00:27:59.93\00:28:02.03
THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN IN ONE DAY.
00:28:02.03\00:28:04.00
SO YOU NEED TO HAVE
PATIENCE THAT MAY TAKE YEARS.
00:28:04.00\00:28:08.16
BE PATIENT AND THE SAME
WAY, ARE YOU GLAD GOD'S PATIENT
00:28:08.16\00:28:12.50
WITH YOU?
00:28:12.50\00:28:13.23
ARE YOU EVERYTHING
CHRIST WANTS YOU TO BE?
00:28:13.23\00:28:16.06
YOU WANT HIM TO
CONTINUE BEING PATIENT WITH YOU?
00:28:16.06\00:28:18.96
DO YOU WANT HIM TO GIVE UP
ON YOU THE WAY SOMETIMES SPOUSES
00:28:18.96\00:28:21.40
GIVE UP ON EACH OTHER?
00:28:21.40\00:28:24.93
WE NEED TO PRAY THAT GOD WILL
GIVE US THAT GRACE AND PATIENCE
00:28:24.93\00:28:27.03
IN OUR
RELATIONSHIPS WITH ONE ANOTHER.
00:28:27.03\00:28:31.16
LUKE 21:19, "BY YOUR
PATIENCE POSSESS YOUR SOULS."
00:28:31.16\00:28:37.16
NOW YOU'VE HEARD IT SAID
BEFORE, "NEVER SEEK TO CHANGE
00:28:37.16\00:28:39.36
THE OTHER PERSON FOR
THEIR FLAWS, CHANGE YOURSELF."
00:28:39.36\00:28:44.20
WELL, I DON'T BUY INTO
THAT CLICHE COMPLETELY.
00:28:44.20\00:28:50.53
THERE ARE THINGS IN ME THAT
I'M HOPING KAREN CAN HELP ME
00:28:50.53\00:28:52.36
CHANGE.
00:28:52.36\00:28:53.43
I MEAN WE--LET'S BE HONEST.
00:28:53.43\00:28:55.10
YOU SHOULD NEVER GET
MARRIED THINKING WELL,
00:28:55.10\00:28:57.30
I'LL CHANGE THAT LATER.
00:28:57.30\00:28:58.46
IF YOU'RE PLANNING ON CHANGING
PEOPLE, NO, DON'T GO INTO IT
00:28:58.46\00:29:01.86
THAT WAY BUT WE NEED TO
BE WILLING TO HELP EACH OTHER
00:29:01.86\00:29:04.53
GROW.
00:29:04.53\00:29:06.06
PART OF THAT IS COMMUNICATING
ABOUT THE AREAS OF WEAKNESS.
00:29:06.06\00:29:09.96
BUT THE MAIN THING YOU CAN
DO IS YOU CAN CHANGE YOURSELF.
00:29:09.96\00:29:13.83
SOMETIMES THERE'S A LOT
OF FRICTION IN RELATIONSHIPS
00:29:13.83\00:29:16.06
'CAUSE ONE IS TRYING TO CONTROL
THE OTHER AND THAT'S JUST--YOU
00:29:16.06\00:29:19.63
KNOW WHAT HAPPENS TYPICALLY?
00:29:19.63\00:29:21.66
IS IF THERE'S SOMETHING WHERE
I'M SORT OF PUSHING INDIRECTLY
00:29:21.66\00:29:24.76
AGAINST KAREN BECAUSE THERE'S
SOMETHING I WANT HER TO CHANGE,
00:29:24.76\00:29:28.40
SHE SENSES THAT AND SHE
PUSHES BACK THE OTHER WAY.
00:29:28.40\00:29:31.70
THERE'S LIKE A RESENTMENT
THAT YOU'RE BEING MANIPULATED.
00:29:31.70\00:29:35.16
PRAY FOR EACH OTHER.
00:29:35.16\00:29:36.43
BE A GOOD EXAMPLE.
00:29:36.43\00:29:37.53
CHANGE YOURSELF IS
WHAT THAT'S SAYING.
00:29:37.53\00:29:41.20
MY FAVORITE PHILOSOPHER,
ANONYMOUS, ONCE SAID, "MANY
00:29:41.20\00:29:45.66
GIRLS MARRY MEN JUST LIKE THEIR
FATHERS WHICH EXPLAINS WHY MANY
00:29:45.66\00:29:47.63
MOTHERS CRY AT WEDDINGS."
00:29:47.63\00:29:51.26
I WANTED TO SHARE THAT WHICH
BRINGS ME TO MY NEXT POINT,
00:29:51.26\00:29:56.63
HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
00:29:56.63\00:29:58.60
YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO LAUGH
TOGETHER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
00:29:58.60\00:30:01.40
YOU SHOULD ENJOY
EACH OTHER'S COMPANY.
00:30:01.40\00:30:05.03
YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE NUMBER-ONE
THINGS THAT WOMEN LOOK FOR
00:30:05.03\00:30:06.86
IN A MAN?
00:30:06.86\00:30:07.83
SENSE OF HUMOR.
00:30:07.83\00:30:09.70
THEY'RE LOOKING FOR SOMEBODY.
00:30:09.70\00:30:11.10
THAT WAS THE ONLY THING I
HAD GOING FOR ME WHEN KAREN
00:30:11.10\00:30:14.10
MARRIED ME.
00:30:14.10\00:30:16.80
YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO LAUGH
TOGETHER, AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
00:30:16.80\00:30:19.20
SOMETIMES WHEN THERE IS
TENSION, IF YOU CAN STILL LAUGH
00:30:19.20\00:30:22.96
TOGETHER OVER THESE CRISES THAT
COME AND THE PROBLEMS, IT JUST
00:30:22.96\00:30:25.10
RELIEVE, IT CREATES A VENT
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF YOU KNOW
00:30:25.10\00:30:28.06
HOW TO LAUGH.
00:30:28.06\00:30:29.63
IN SPITE THAT THINGS MAY NOT BE
PERFECT IF YOU CAN STILL LAUGH
00:30:29.63\00:30:32.36
TOGETHER.
00:30:32.36\00:30:33.93
I KNOW THIS WEEK KAREN, I
HADN'T HEARD LAUGH SO HARD,
00:30:33.93\00:30:38.73
OF COURSE IT WAS AT MY EXPENSE.
00:30:38.73\00:30:41.70
BUT WE HAVE A HOSE BY OUR FRONT
DOOR THAT WE USE FOR, YOU KNOW,
00:30:41.70\00:30:47.00
WATERING THE
FLOWERS AND STUFF OUT FRONT.
00:30:47.00\00:30:49.00
WELL, THIS HOSE IS ABOUT
30 YEARS OLD, I DON'T KNOW
00:30:49.00\00:30:51.00
FINALLY IT GOT OLD.
00:30:51.00\00:30:52.93
AND IT HAD A BIG ANEURYSM ON
IT BUT YOU KNOW I WANTED TO SAVE
00:30:52.93\00:30:56.56
MONEY SO I'VE BEEN JUST LEAVING
IT LIKE THAT AND HADN'T REALLY
00:30:56.56\00:31:00.13
THOUGHT ABOUT IT.
00:31:00.13\00:31:01.60
I KNEW I SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN
A NEW HOSE BUT I THOUGHT OH,
00:31:01.60\00:31:04.20
YOU KNOW, LET'S
SEE HOW LONG IT GOES.
00:31:04.20\00:31:06.26
IT KIND OF LOOKED LIKE
A BOA CONSTRICTOR THAT HAD
00:31:06.26\00:31:08.20
SWALLOWED A LITTLE
RACCOON OR SOMETHING.
00:31:08.20\00:31:12.30
AND I WENT OUT TO WATER ONE
DAY AND SPRAYING THE WATER BY
00:31:12.30\00:31:17.60
THE FRONT DOOR WHERE IT'S
ALL COILED UP AND I WENT AND
00:31:17.60\00:31:19.30
PRESSED THE TWIGGER AND INSTEAD
OF THE WATER COMING OUT OF
00:31:19.30\00:31:21.80
THE TRIGGER, ALL OF A SUDDEN,
I JUST GOT SPRAYED, MY WHOLE
00:31:21.80\00:31:24.30
BODY JUST GOT SPRAYED WITH WATER
AND IT SPRAYED THE FRONT DOOR
00:31:24.30\00:31:27.13
AND EVERYTHING.
00:31:27.13\00:31:28.40
AND I JUST TOTALLY DOUSED WHERE
I TALKED OVER TO WHERE KAREN
00:31:28.40\00:31:30.96
WAS AND I TOLD HER, I
SAID, "YOU KNOW I WENT TO WATER
00:31:30.96\00:31:35.26
THE PLANTS AND I
JUST GOT SPATTERED."
00:31:35.26\00:31:36.76
WELL, SHE
STARTED LAUGHING SO HARD.
00:31:36.76\00:31:38.90
SHE THOUGHT THAT ONE OF
THOSE DEEP, LOUD, BELLY LAUGHS.
00:31:38.90\00:31:42.16
I SAID, "WHAT'S SO FUNNY?"
00:31:42.16\00:31:43.26
SHE SAID, "THAT HAPPENED
TO ME" AND SHE DIDN'T TELL ME.
00:31:43.26\00:31:45.93
SHE WANTED IT TO
HAPPEN TO ME ALSO.
00:31:45.93\00:31:50.40
WE NOW HAVE A NEW HOSE BY
OUR FRONT DOOR, BUT SEE YOU NEED
00:31:50.40\00:31:54.53
TO BE ABLE TO LAUGH AND
YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO LAUGH AT
00:31:54.53\00:31:57.26
YOURSELF.
00:31:57.26\00:31:58.30
SOMETIMES IF YOU DO SOMETHING
FUNNY OR SOMETHING HAPPENS LIKE
00:31:58.30\00:32:00.70
THAT AND YOUR SPOUSE
LAUGHS, DON'T GET MAD.
00:32:00.70\00:32:03.20
YOU LEARN TO LAUGH AT
YOURSELF, LAUGH WITH EACH OTHER.
00:32:03.20\00:32:06.66
SOMETIMES IT'S ALMOST LIKE
WE'RE LAUGHING AT EACH OTHER
00:32:06.66\00:32:10.70
AND SOMEONE ELSE RESENTS
IT AND JUST--YOU KNOW WHAT?
00:32:10.70\00:32:12.36
HUMBLE YOURSELF.
00:32:12.36\00:32:13.63
OFTEN THESE PROBLEMS COME
IN AND THERE'S ARGUMENTS AND
00:32:13.63\00:32:16.60
THERE'S ANGER
BECAUSE A PRIDE IS OFFENDED.
00:32:16.60\00:32:19.50
JUST HUMBLE YOURSELF AND LAUGH
TOGETHER AND LAUGH WITH EACH
00:32:19.50\00:32:22.83
OTHER.
00:32:22.83\00:32:24.00
WE NEED TO HAVE
HUMOR IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
00:32:24.00\00:32:28.70
THERE NEEDS TO BE HONESTY.
00:32:28.70\00:32:29.66
THIS IS VERY SIMPLE
AND STRAIGHTFORWARD.
00:32:29.66\00:32:32.10
THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU NEED TO
SAY EVERYTHING YOU'RE THINKING
00:32:32.10\00:32:35.13
TO YOUR SPOUSE.
00:32:35.13\00:32:37.06
SOMETIMES PEOPLE SAY,
"WELL, I TELL MY SPOUSE WHATEVER
00:32:37.06\00:32:39.06
I'M THINKING AND YOU
KNOW I DON'T HIDE ANYTHING."
00:32:39.06\00:32:43.36
WELL, YOU NEED TO
HAVE GOOD JUDGMENT.
00:32:43.36\00:32:47.30
DON'T SAY
EVERYTHING YOU'RE THINKING.
00:32:47.30\00:32:48.80
BUT WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT
HONESTY, AS SOON AS HUSBANDS
00:32:48.80\00:32:51.16
AND WIVES START KEEPING SECRETS
FROM EACH OTHER, START HIDING
00:32:51.16\00:32:54.46
THINGS, START
HIDING CONVERSATIONS AND
00:32:54.46\00:32:59.43
RELATIONSHIPS, THAT'S
WHEN PROBLEMS COME IN.
00:32:59.43\00:33:05.50
START THEIR OWN BANK ACCOUNT,
TAKE TRIPS AND DON'T SAY WHERE
00:33:05.50\00:33:07.50
THEY'RE GOING LIKE ARGENTINA.
00:33:07.50\00:33:13.20
THAT CAN'T BE RIGHT, NOT
EVEN THE SAME HEMISPHERE.
00:33:13.20\00:33:20.83
YOU NEED TO BE OPEN AND
HONEST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
00:33:20.83\00:33:23.96
AND YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO BE
FRIENDS, YOU DON'T HIDE THINGS
00:33:23.96\00:33:25.86
FROM YOUR FRIENDS.
00:33:25.86\00:33:28.50
YOUR SPOUSE OUGHT
TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND.
00:33:28.50\00:33:30.43
IF YOU START OUT, YOU KNOW MEN
TYPICALLY WHEN THEY'RE LOOKING
00:33:30.43\00:33:33.50
FOR A WIFE, THEY'RE
OFTEN LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO'S
00:33:33.50\00:33:36.66
ATTRACTIVE.
00:33:36.66\00:33:37.63
THAT'S USUALLY TOP ON THE LIST.
00:33:37.63\00:33:38.60
THERE'S OTHER THINGS.
00:33:38.60\00:33:40.86
WOMEN ARE OFTEN LOOKING FOR
SECURITY, BUT IF THE MAIN THING
00:33:40.86\00:33:43.73
YOU'RE LOOKING FOR IS SOMEONE
THAT YOU JUST THEY'RE YOUR BEST
00:33:43.73\00:33:46.63
FRIEND, YOU CAN BE FRIENDS
WITH THEM, THEN EVERYTHING ELSE
00:33:46.63\00:33:49.70
BECOMES A LOT EASIER SO
THERE NEEDS TO BE THAT HONESTY.
00:33:49.70\00:33:53.66
WORK TOGETHER, SHARE CHORES
AROUND THE HOUSE AND STUFF
00:33:53.66\00:33:59.06
AND WE DO THAT.
00:33:59.06\00:34:00.10
YOU KNOW THERE'S SOME THINGS
THAT IN OUR FAMILY, I ALMOST
00:34:00.10\00:34:02.86
UNIFORMLY DO OR ALWAYS DO AND
THERE'S SOME THINGS THAT KAREN
00:34:02.86\00:34:07.43
ALMOST ALWAYS DOES.
00:34:07.43\00:34:08.50
SHE ALMOST ALWAYS DOES
THE LAUNDRY PROBABLY ALMOST
00:34:08.50\00:34:11.60
100% OF THE TIME.
00:34:11.60\00:34:13.86
AND THERE'S YOU KNOW THERE'S
HARD WORK AROUND THE--GUYS,
00:34:13.86\00:34:17.00
I'LL TELL YOU A TIP.
00:34:17.00\00:34:18.06
IF YOU WANT TO WORK THAT
OUT, YOU DO THE LAUNDRY ONCE AND
00:34:18.06\00:34:20.63
POUR BLEACH INSTEAD OF SOAP,
THEY'LL NEVER ASK YA AGAIN.
00:34:20.63\00:34:26.76
JUST A LITTLE TIP FOR YA.
00:34:26.76\00:34:29.73
BREAK A FEW DISHES, THEY WON'T
ASK YOU TO WASH THEM ANYMORE.
00:34:29.73\00:34:32.50
IT'S GOTTA BE THE
WEDDING CHINA THOUGH.
00:34:32.50\00:34:35.40
NO, I HELP WITH DISHES.
00:34:35.40\00:34:38.03
BUT YOU NEED TO FIND
THINGS YOU CAN DO TOGETHER.
00:34:38.03\00:34:42.90
AND KAREN AND I WE MIGHT
WEED TOGETHER AND DO DISHES
00:34:42.90\00:34:44.60
TOGETHER, BUT THERE'S
SOMETHING WHERE YOU NEED TO WORK
00:34:44.60\00:34:46.43
SIDE BY SIDE.
00:34:46.43\00:34:47.36
WE'LL CUT WOOD TOGETHER.
00:34:47.36\00:34:48.50
AND IT'S FUN WHEN YOU
CAN SPEND TIME DOING THINGS,
00:34:48.50\00:34:50.90
SHARING THE CHORES.
00:34:50.90\00:34:51.90
THERE'S A LOT OF
RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOU KNOW
00:34:51.90\00:34:54.53
ONE OF THE PRINCIPLE THINGS.
00:34:54.53\00:34:55.63
YOU'D BE SURPRISED, A LOT
OF MARRIAGES FALL APART BECAUSE
00:34:55.63\00:34:57.63
A LOT OF THE BURDEN
AROUND THE HOUSE IS ALL LEFT ON
00:34:57.63\00:35:01.56
ONE SPOUSE.
00:35:01.56\00:35:02.36
THE OTHER ONE JUST KIND
OF ROAMS IN AND OUT AND JUST
00:35:02.36\00:35:04.93
THROWS EVERYTHING AROUND
AND SOMEONE ELSE IS LEFT WITH
00:35:04.93\00:35:07.33
A JOB OF DOING ALL
OF THE CHORES OF LIFE.
00:35:07.33\00:35:09.43
AND TEACH THE KIDS TO WORK,
THAT HELPS TOO WHICH LEADS INTO
00:35:09.43\00:35:14.83
ANOTHER IMPORTANT POINT
IN A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP.
00:35:14.83\00:35:20.50
EXPRESS APPRECIATION WHEN YOU
ARE DOING WORK FOR THE THINGS
00:35:20.50\00:35:22.46
THAT ARE DONE.
00:35:22.46\00:35:24.13
YOU KNOW SOMETIMES I WOULD
KIBITZ A LITTLE BIT BECAUSE
00:35:24.13\00:35:26.50
THEY'D SAY, "OH, THE DISHES
HAVE BEEN HERE FOR 24 HOURS."
00:35:26.50\00:35:29.93
AND THEN KAREN WILL
WORK REAL HARD ONE DAY.
00:35:29.93\00:35:33.33
I'D COME BACK FROM WORK AND
EVERYTHING'S IMMACULATE IN THE
00:35:33.33\00:35:35.76
KITCHEN, I DON'T SAY ANYTHING.
00:35:35.76\00:35:38.96
AND SHE SAID, "LOOK, DID ALL
THAT THOSE DISHES FROM DINNER
00:35:38.96\00:35:40.43
LAST NIGHT.
00:35:40.43\00:35:41.26
EVERYTHING'S CLEAN,
YOU NEVER SAY ANYTHING."
00:35:41.26\00:35:43.23
SO I'M TRYING TO LOOK.
00:35:43.23\00:35:44.10
YOU GO AROUND AND SAY,
"OH YOU KNOW, THANK YOU, DEAR.
00:35:44.10\00:35:45.96
I REALLY DO APPRECIATE IT."
00:35:45.96\00:35:47.13
EXPRESS APPRECIATION.
00:35:47.13\00:35:49.16
AND YOU KNOW WIVES, MEN NEED
TO HEAR YOU THINK IT'S YOUR JOB
00:35:49.16\00:35:52.60
TO GO TO WORK.
00:35:52.60\00:35:54.93
YOU'VE BEEN DOING IT EVERY DAY.
00:35:54.93\00:35:57.80
IT HELPS TO HEAR THEM SAY,
MEN LIKE TO HEAR "YOU KNOW,
00:35:57.80\00:36:00.73
I APPRECIATE THAT YOU DO WORK
EVEN IF IT'S BEEN THE SAME JOB
00:36:00.73\00:36:03.53
FOR 20 YEARS, I APPRECIATE THAT
YOU WORK SO HARD, THAT YOU DO
00:36:03.53\00:36:06.76
PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY, THAT
YOU DO SOMETIMES--" INSTEAD OF
00:36:06.76\00:36:10.23
COMPLAINING THAT THE HUSBAND
IS GONE TOO MUCH AND THAT'S
00:36:10.23\00:36:13.40
ANOTHER AREA THAT NEEDS TO
BE WORKED ON, SOMETIMES THEY'RE
00:36:13.40\00:36:16.66
GONE BECAUSE THEY'RE PROVIDING
AND THEY ALWAYS FEEL LIKE "ALL
00:36:16.66\00:36:19.06
I'M HEARING IS THAT WE DON'T
HAVE TIME TOGETHER, BUT ARE YOU
00:36:19.06\00:36:22.63
WELL PROVIDED FOR?
00:36:22.63\00:36:24.50
YOU KNOW ARE WE FED?
00:36:24.50\00:36:26.33
AND EVEN WE MIGHT BE IN DEBT
BUT THE BASICS ARE COVERED."
00:36:26.33\00:36:30.33
EXPRESS APPRECIATION.
00:36:30.33\00:36:32.13
BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE NEED TO
HEAR THAT, SHOW THAT YOU CARE.
00:36:32.13\00:36:37.33
WHO WAS IT?
00:36:37.33\00:36:38.36
AGATHA CHRISTIE, THAT FAMOUS
MYSTERY AUTHOR, SOMEONE ASKED
00:36:38.36\00:36:42.73
HER, "WHY DID YOU
MARRY AN ARCHITECT?"
00:36:42.73\00:36:45.03
SHE SAID, "I DON'T
KNOW, I SHOULD HAVE MARRIED
00:36:45.03\00:36:46.83
AN ARCHAEOLOGIST.
00:36:46.83\00:36:47.70
ARCHAEOLOGISTS ARE GREAT
BECAUSE THE OLDER YOU GET,
00:36:47.70\00:36:49.60
THE MORE
INTERESTED THEY ARE IN YOU."
00:36:49.60\00:36:55.03
JOE MURRAY SAID IT WELL,
"MARRIAGES SHOULD BE A DUET,
00:36:55.03\00:36:59.53
ONE SINGS, THE OTHER CLAPS."
00:36:59.53\00:37:01.03
AND HOW MANY OF YOU HUSBANDS
AND WIVES HAVE HEARD YOUR
00:37:01.03\00:37:04.80
SPOUSE TELL THE SAME STORY
A HUNDRED TIMES AND YOU STILL
00:37:04.80\00:37:08.23
GOTTA LOOK ADORING AND
INTERESTED EVERY TIME, RIGHT?
00:37:08.23\00:37:13.30
SO SHOW LOVE.
00:37:13.30\00:37:17.86
WHERE AM I?
00:37:17.86\00:37:18.50
I GOT ANOTHER
POINT HERE, OR TWO.
00:37:18.50\00:37:22.60
QUALITY TIME.
00:37:22.60\00:37:25.73
YOU KNOW THE BIBLE SAYS IN
DEUTERONOMY 24:5, "WHEN A MAN
00:37:25.73\00:37:31.66
HAS TAKEN A NEW WIFE, HE SHALL
NOT GO OUT TO WAR OR BE CHARGED
00:37:31.66\00:37:37.13
WITH ANY BUSINESS.
00:37:37.13\00:37:37.90
HE WILL BE FREE AT HOME ONE
YEAR AND WILL BRING HAPPINESS
00:37:37.90\00:37:41.00
TO HIS WIFE WHO HE HAS CHOSEN."
00:37:41.00\00:37:43.46
GOD KNEW ESPECIALLY DURING
THE FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE HOW
00:37:43.46\00:37:45.90
IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THERE'S
QUALITY TIME TOGETHER AND, YOU
00:37:45.90\00:37:49.36
KNOW, WE CALL IT THE HONEYMOON
AND AFTER THAT WEEK OR WEEKEND
00:37:49.36\00:37:52.06
TOGETHER, WHATEVER YOU CAN
AFFORD, YOU COME HOME AND SAY,
00:37:52.06\00:37:56.10
"NOW WE'RE GONNA GET INTO
THE BUSINESS OF LIFE OR FINISH
00:37:56.10\00:37:57.83
SCHOOL," WHATEVER'S GOING ON
AND COUPLES START GROWING APART
00:37:57.83\00:38:00.46
JUST 'CAUSE OF
THE PRESSURES OF LIFE.
00:38:00.46\00:38:03.20
SOMETIMES CHILDREN COME EARLIER
THAN EXPECTED AND THE HUSBAND
00:38:03.20\00:38:06.90
HAS TO WORK HARDER AND THE WIFE
IS BUSY AND THERE'S A LOT OF
00:38:06.90\00:38:10.40
PRESSURES THAT COME IN.
00:38:10.40\00:38:12.06
YOU'VE GOTTA RESERVE THAT TIME.
00:38:12.06\00:38:15.80
YOU KNOW ONE OF THE BIGGEST,
I BELIEVE ONE OF THE BIGGEST
00:38:15.80\00:38:18.93
ENEMIES OF THE FAMILY
IN MARRIAGES IS TELEVISION.
00:38:18.93\00:38:22.53
SOME OF YOU ARE THINKING
WELL, IF IT WASN'T FOR TV,
00:38:22.53\00:38:24.53
WE'D NEVER SPEND TIME TOGETHER.
00:38:24.53\00:38:25.86
ARE YOU REALLY
SPENDING TIME TOGETHER?
00:38:25.86\00:38:28.30
I REMEMBER WHEN KAREN AND I
STARTED DATING SHE USED TO SAY,
00:38:28.30\00:38:30.76
"I DON'T KNOW WHY SOME COUPLES
GO TO MOVIES FOR THEIR DATE.
00:38:30.76\00:38:35.33
YOU DON'T REALLY COMMUNICATE.
00:38:35.33\00:38:36.16
YOU SIT THERE IN THE
DARK SURROUNDED BY STRANGERS.
00:38:36.16\00:38:38.26
YOU DON'T TALK AND THEN
YOU WALK OUT AND YOU MIGHT TALK
00:38:38.26\00:38:40.30
ABOUT THE CONTENT OF THE MOVIE,
BUT YOU KNOW IT SEEMS LIKE
00:38:40.30\00:38:43.76
A STRANGE WAY TO SPEND A DATE."
00:38:43.76\00:38:45.93
I STILL REMEMBER ONE OF THE
BEST DATES WE HAD, WE WENT TO
00:38:45.93\00:38:47.90
A PARK, IT DIDN'T COST ANYTHING.
00:38:47.90\00:38:49.40
WE LAID ON THE GRASS IN A PARK.
00:38:49.40\00:38:53.00
I DON'T KNOW, MAYBE WE HAD A
BLANKET, AND WE LAID WITH OUR
00:38:53.00\00:38:54.96
FEET OUT AWAY FROM EACH
OTHER AND OUR HEADS TOGETHER.
00:38:54.96\00:38:59.20
BY THE WAY THAT
AVOIDS TEMPTATION.
00:38:59.20\00:39:01.26
SO I HAD MY
HEAD ON HER SHOULDER.
00:39:01.26\00:39:04.03
SHE HAD HER HEAD ON MY SHOULDER.
00:39:04.03\00:39:05.80
IT'S LIKE OUR EARS ARE TOUCHING.
00:39:05.80\00:39:07.56
SHE JUST CRACKED UP.
00:39:07.56\00:39:08.46
SHE THOUGHT THAT WAS HILARIOUS
THEN WE TALKED USING EACH
00:39:08.46\00:39:11.73
OTHER'S SHOULDERS FOR
PILLOWS AND YOU COMMUNICATE.
00:39:11.73\00:39:16.83
YOU SPEND TIME TOGETHER.
00:39:16.83\00:39:17.90
I REMEMBER WE ASSEMBLED DURING
THAT LIST, DURING THAT DATE WE
00:39:17.90\00:39:22.43
ASSEMBLED AND PRO AND CON
LIST TO OUR GETTING MARRIED.
00:39:22.43\00:39:26.90
THAT'S PRETTY SCARY.
00:39:26.90\00:39:29.46
I DON'T KNOW, DID YOU SAVE THAT?
00:39:29.46\00:39:33.90
QUALITY TIME.
00:39:33.90\00:39:35.50
LISTEN TO THIS, IN AN ARTICLE
BY DR. ARMAND NICOLI, HE IS
00:39:35.50\00:39:40.23
THE PSYCHIATRIST FOR A
MEDICAL DOCTOR ON THE FACULTY OF
00:39:40.23\00:39:43.30
HARVARD MEDICAL SCHOOL.
00:39:43.30\00:39:46.16
ANOTHER TREND THAT IS GOING
TO DESTROY THE FAMILY AS WE KNOW
00:39:46.16\00:39:47.90
IT AND CAUSE EMOTIONAL CRIPPLES
IS THE INVASION OF TELEVISION
00:39:47.90\00:39:50.86
INTO THE HOME.
00:39:50.86\00:39:52.03
"ONE FIFTH OF THE LIFETIME
OF THE NEXT GENERATION WILL BE
00:39:52.03\00:39:55.26
SPENT WATCHING TELEVISION.
00:39:55.26\00:39:56.93
IF YOU LIVE TO BE 80 YEARS
OF AGE, IF THAT'S YOUR AVERAGE,
00:39:56.93\00:40:00.43
YOU WILL HAVE WATCHED TELEVISION
A TOTAL OF 4,000 DAYS."
00:40:00.43\00:40:07.96
FOUR THOUSAND DAYS,
AND WE WONDER WHY PEOPLE
00:40:07.96\00:40:10.03
DON'T HAVE ANY QUALITY TIME.
00:40:10.03\00:40:12.03
BEFORE ELECTRICITY AND
ARTIFICIAL ENTERTAINMENT,
00:40:12.03\00:40:14.10
PEOPLE HAD TO TALK THAT'S WHY
MARRIAGES, I THINK IT WAS ONLY
00:40:14.10\00:40:17.83
LIKE 1 OUT OF 32 GOT
DIVORCED 100 YEARS AGO.
00:40:17.83\00:40:21.43
NOW 46% OR, WHAT DID I SAY?
00:40:21.43\00:40:25.56
FORTY-TWO PERCENT.
00:40:25.56\00:40:26.36
IT VARIES BY STATE TO STATE.
00:40:26.36\00:40:27.36
BY THE WAY IT'S WORSE IN
CALIFORNIA THAN MINNESOTA.
00:40:27.36\00:40:32.03
THIS CREATES A TREMENDOUS
IMPACT, AND SINCE WE KNOW
00:40:32.03\00:40:35.53
TELEVISION IS PART OF THE
SYSTEM AND SYSTEM IS TO TEAR
00:40:35.53\00:40:38.76
DOWN THE FAMILY, YOU'LL
HAVE A TOTAL OF 4,000 DAYS OF
00:40:38.76\00:40:43.33
ANTI-FAMILY PROPAGANDA.
00:40:43.33\00:40:44.66
THIS IDEA OF MARRIAGE BEING
BETWEEN TWO MEN OR TWO WOMEN
00:40:44.66\00:40:47.90
AND YOU DON'T GET MARRIED.
00:40:47.90\00:40:48.83
YOU JUST LIVE TOGETHER.
00:40:48.83\00:40:49.66
WHERE DID THAT GET
INTRODUCED INTO OUR CULTURE?
00:40:49.66\00:40:52.53
WHERE DO YOU THINK THE
PRINCIPLE CHANNEL WAS THAT
00:40:52.53\00:40:54.93
POURED THAT IDEA
INTO OUR CULTURE?
00:40:54.93\00:40:56.90
IT'S IN MOVIES AND TELEVISION,
BREAKING DOWN OUR VALUES AND IT
00:40:56.90\00:41:02.60
DOES HAVE AN
IMPACT ON THE FAMILY.
00:41:02.60\00:41:05.03
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN HOME.
00:41:05.03\00:41:08.20
BIBLE SAYS, AND
I'VE READ THIS BEFORE.
00:41:08.20\00:41:10.36
"THEREFORE MAN WILL LEAVE
HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND CLEAVE
00:41:10.36\00:41:13.26
UNTO HIS WIFE."
00:41:13.26\00:41:15.03
NOW ONE OF THE PRINCIPLE
REASONS THAT PEOPLE GET INTO
00:41:15.03\00:41:17.76
TROUBLE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS
IS THEY'RE LIVING WITH THE
00:41:17.76\00:41:21.90
COUPLE GETS MARRIED BUT THE
SISTER'S STILL IN THE HOUSE OR
00:41:21.90\00:41:25.53
MOM AND DAD ARE IN THE HOUSE.
00:41:25.53\00:41:26.86
AND I KNOW THAT THERE
ARE CULTURES AND THERE ARE
00:41:26.86\00:41:28.96
SITUATIONS WHERE THAT
MIGHT SEEM UNAVOIDABLE BUT THAT
00:41:28.96\00:41:32.10
COMPOUNDS THE PRESSURES
OF THESE TWO PEOPLE FROM
00:41:32.10\00:41:35.36
COMPLETELY
DIFFERENT BACKGROUNDS.
00:41:35.36\00:41:38.53
THEY THINK THEY GOT A LOT IN
COMMON, BUT YOU JUST WAIT 'TIL
00:41:38.53\00:41:40.10
THEY START LIKE SHARING
A KITCHEN OR BATHROOM SINK.
00:41:40.10\00:41:43.03
THAT'S WHERE THE CHALLENGE IS.
00:41:43.03\00:41:45.23
I MEAN COUPLES HAVE ARGUED
ABOUT WHICH PLACE YOU SQUEEZE
00:41:45.23\00:41:48.06
THE TOOTHPASTE AND WHEN
YOU UNROLL THE TOILET PAPER.
00:41:48.06\00:41:51.63
WELL, IN OUR FAMILY GROWING UP,
WE ALWAYS HAD IT WHERE THE ROLL
00:41:51.63\00:41:54.20
HUNG ON THE OUTSIDE OF THE ROLL.
00:41:54.20\00:41:57.33
YOU GOT IT
COMING DOWN BY THE WALL.
00:41:57.33\00:41:59.26
THEY KEEP FLIPPING IT AROUND, IT
CAUSES A CIVIL WAR, AND YOU HAD
00:41:59.26\00:42:01.43
NO IDEA THAT THAT
WOULD BE A POINT OF CONTEST.
00:42:01.43\00:42:04.86
YOU HAD NO IDEA DATING THAT
ANYTHING LIKE THAT WOULD EVER
00:42:04.86\00:42:07.53
COME UP.
00:42:07.53\00:42:08.76
BUT YOU'VE GOT ALL THESE THINGS
YOU'VE GROWN UP WITH THAT ARE
00:42:08.76\00:42:11.06
SO DIFFERENT.
00:42:11.06\00:42:12.10
YOUR UNDERSTANDING AND YOUR
VIEW OF LIFE AND YOU'VE GOTTA
00:42:12.10\00:42:15.06
MELD THOSE TOGETHER.
00:42:15.06\00:42:16.06
IF YOU'VE GOT THE COMPOUNDED
CHALLENGE OF HAVING ADDITIONAL
00:42:16.06\00:42:19.50
FAMILY IN THE ROOF, UNDER
THE ROOF, THAT CAN REALLY BE
00:42:19.50\00:42:25.66
DIFFICULT.
00:42:25.66\00:42:27.33
WHO WAS IT?
00:42:27.33\00:42:28.30
LARRY CUNNINGHAM WAS VISITING
SOME FRIENDS ONE TIME AND GOT A
00:42:28.30\00:42:35.53
PHONE CALL FROM
THEIR DAUGHTER, NEWLYWED.
00:42:35.53\00:42:37.20
SHE CALLED AND SHE'S
HAVING HER FIRST MARITAL SPAT.
00:42:37.20\00:42:41.80
AND SHE COMPLAINED AND CRIED
TO HER FATHER, AND HE CAME BACK
00:42:41.80\00:42:46.00
TO THE DINNER TABLE AND
SAID, "WHAT WAS THAT ALL ABOUT?"
00:42:46.00\00:42:48.20
AND HE SAID, "WELL,
OUR DAUGHTER GOT MARRIED.
00:42:48.20\00:42:49.93
SHE'S HAVING HER FIRST PROBLEM."
00:42:49.93\00:42:51.60
"WHAT'D SHE SAY?"
00:42:51.60\00:42:52.73
"OH, SHE WANTS TO COME HOME."
00:42:52.73\00:42:53.90
"WHAT'D YOU SAY?"
00:42:53.90\00:42:55.03
"I SAID I TOLD HER YOU ARE HOME.
00:42:55.03\00:42:58.93
YOU'RE WITH YOUR HUSBAND.
00:42:58.93\00:43:00.06
YOU'RE NOT COMING
HOME, THAT IS YOUR HOME."
00:43:00.06\00:43:03.03
AND SO YOU FORM A NEW UNIT.
00:43:03.03\00:43:04.70
YOU FORM A NEW HOME, AND
YOU'VE GOTTA REALIZE THAT IS IT.
00:43:04.70\00:43:07.53
THERE'S NO GOING
HOME, YOU BECOME A NEW HOME
00:43:07.53\00:43:09.86
WHEN YOU GET MARRIED.
00:43:09.86\00:43:14.40
AND THEN THERE NEEDS TO
BE LOVE IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
00:43:14.40\00:43:20.96
THAT'S A CHOICE.
00:43:20.96\00:43:22.86
LIKE MY GRANDMA, MY GRANDPA
THEY SAID, "WE HAD TO LEARN
00:43:22.86\00:43:25.60
TO LOVE EACH OTHER."
00:43:25.60\00:43:27.16
IT'S SOMETHING YOU CHOOSE TO DO.
00:43:27.16\00:43:29.20
DO YOU THINK THAT WHEN
JESUS DIED FOR US THAT WE WERE
00:43:29.20\00:43:31.10
LOVABLE OR DID HE JUST LOVE
US BECAUSE WE'RE HIS CREATION?
00:43:31.10\00:43:38.13
WHEN YOU GET MARRIED, YOU MAKE
A CHOICE TO CREATE A NEW FAMILY
00:43:38.13\00:43:43.03
TO LOVE.
00:43:43.03\00:43:43.90
DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOUR SPOUSE
IS ALWAYS GONNA BEHAVE LOVABLE
00:43:43.90\00:43:48.46
BUT YOU'VE DECIDED TO LOVE AND
YOU REALLY CAN CHOOSE TO LOVE.
00:43:48.46\00:43:53.03
WHENEVER YOU'RE TEMPTED TO
BE IMPATIENT AND YOU CHOOSE TO
00:43:53.03\00:43:56.00
WAIT, YOU'RE CHOOSING TO LOVE.
00:43:56.00\00:43:58.76
WHEN THEY'VE DONE SOMETHING
THAT HURTS YOU BUT THEY'VE
00:43:58.76\00:44:02.60
ASKED FOR FORGIVENESS,
YOU MAY NOT FEEL LIKE IT.
00:44:02.60\00:44:04.53
IT STILL BOTHERS YOU
BUT YOU CHOOSE TO FORGIVE,
00:44:04.53\00:44:06.30
YOU'VE CHOSEN TO LOVE.
00:44:06.30\00:44:07.96
WHEN YOU'RE TAPPING YOUR FOOT
BECAUSE THEY'RE LATE AND YOU
00:44:07.96\00:44:11.53
WAIT A LITTLE
LONGER, THAT'S LOVE.
00:44:11.53\00:44:14.56
WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE COMPLAINING
AS SOON AS HE COMES HOME
00:44:14.56\00:44:21.43
BECAUSE SOMETHING WENT WRONG
OR BROKE DURING THE DAY BUT YOU
00:44:21.43\00:44:23.70
SAY, "I'M GONNA WAIT
UNTIL HE GETS ACCLIMATED.
00:44:23.70\00:44:25.70
HE NEEDS SOME QUIET TIME."
00:44:25.70\00:44:27.10
YOU'RE CHOOSING TO LOVE.
00:44:27.10\00:44:28.70
WHENEVER YOU CONSIDER THE OTHER
PERSON'S NEED FIRST INSTEAD OF
00:44:28.70\00:44:33.36
YOURS, LOVE IS THE
OPPOSITE OF SELFISHNESS.
00:44:33.36\00:44:36.36
WHY ARE THERE SO MANY DIVORCES?
00:44:36.36\00:44:39.36
TOO MUCH SELFISHNESS.
00:44:39.36\00:44:41.63
WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?
00:44:41.63\00:44:42.63
MORE LOVE.
00:44:42.63\00:44:44.10
INSTEAD OF THINKING ABOUT
OURSELVES, THINK ABOUT THE
00:44:44.10\00:44:46.06
OTHERS AND THAT'S WHAT
IT MEANS TO BE A CHRISTIAN.
00:44:46.06\00:44:49.43
IT SAYS, "HUSBANDS,
LOVE YOUR WIVES AS CHRIST
00:44:49.43\00:44:51.36
LOVED THE CHURCH."
00:44:51.36\00:44:52.33
HOW DID JESUS LOVE THE CHURCH?
00:44:52.33\00:44:53.60
HE DENIED HIMSELF AND DID WHAT
WE NEEDED INSTEAD OF WHAT HE
00:44:53.60\00:44:58.83
NEEDED.
00:44:58.83\00:45:00.30
AND THAT'S THE KEY REALLY TO
HAPPINESS IN OUR FAMILIES, NOT
00:45:00.30\00:45:03.36
JUST BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE,
THAT'S THE KEY TO HAPPINESS
00:45:03.36\00:45:05.70
IN OUR CHURCHES.
00:45:05.70\00:45:07.56
IT'S THAT LOVE.
00:45:07.56\00:45:09.93
THEN, OF
COURSE-- OH, I READ THIS.
00:45:09.93\00:45:16.23
I WANT TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU.
00:45:16.23\00:45:17.06
E.J. GRAFF SAID, "MARRIAGE
IS WHEN YOU AGREE TO SPEND THE
00:45:17.06\00:45:19.56
REST OF YOUR LIFE SLEEPING IN
A ROOM THAT'S TOO WARM BESIDES
00:45:19.56\00:45:23.16
SOMEBODY WHO'S SLEEPING
IN A ROOM THAT'S TOO COLD.
00:45:23.16\00:45:25.83
WE GOT THAT IN OUR FAMILY.
00:45:25.83\00:45:28.56
DEVOTIONS, IT'S AN OLD
CLICHE BUT IT STILL IS TRUE.
00:45:28.56\00:45:34.06
THE FAMILY THAT PRAYS
TOGETHER, STAYS TOGETHER.
00:45:34.06\00:45:37.23
YOU NEED TO HAVE REGULAR TIME
FOR PERSONAL AND FAMILY PRAYER.
00:45:37.23\00:45:43.03
YOU SHOW ME A FAMILY THAT IS
NEGLECTING PRAYER, INDIVIDUAL
00:45:43.03\00:45:45.36
DEVOTIONS AND THEN COLLECTIVE
DEVOTIONS WITH THE CHILDREN,
00:45:45.36\00:45:50.00
REGULAR TIME WHERE YOU READ
SOMETHING TOGETHER FROM GOD'S
00:45:50.00\00:45:52.90
WORD OR A CHRISTIAN DEVOTIONAL
AND YOU PRAY TOGETHER.
00:45:52.90\00:45:56.40
EVERYBODY'S SO BUSY TODAY
IN THIS CULTURE THAT WE FORGET
00:45:56.40\00:46:01.96
SOME OF THE BASICS.
00:46:01.96\00:46:03.20
AND IT'S GOOD.
00:46:03.20\00:46:04.56
I BELIEVE THAT MEN SHOULD LEAD
OUT AND SOMETIMES THE WIFE IS
00:46:04.56\00:46:09.60
A LITTLE MORE GREGARIOUS
AND OUTSPOKEN AND A LITTLE MORE
00:46:09.60\00:46:13.00
NATURAL IN THAT RESPECT
WHICH SHE SHOULD ENCOURAGE THE
00:46:13.00\00:46:16.30
HUSBAND TO BE THE
PRIEST OF THE FAMILY.
00:46:16.30\00:46:20.53
I HEARD ABOUT A WOMAN THAT WAS
TALKING TO A ROOM FULL OF WOMEN
00:46:20.53\00:46:24.70
ABOUT MARRIAGE AND SHE SAID,
"HOW MANY OF YOU WANT TO MOTHER
00:46:24.70\00:46:28.73
YOUR HUSBANDS?"
00:46:28.73\00:46:30.73
AND IN THE BACK ONE LADY RAISED
HER HAND AND SHE WAS SURPRISED
00:46:30.73\00:46:33.93
BY THAT BECAUSE IT WAS A
RHETORICAL QUESTION AND SHE
00:46:33.93\00:46:36.23
SAID, "YOU WANT TO
MOTHER YOUR HUSBAND?
00:46:36.23\00:46:39.30
SHE SAID, "OH, MOTHER, I
THOUGHT YOU SAID SMOTHER."
00:46:39.30\00:46:46.20
WE NEED TO HAVE
FAMILY DEVOTIONS.
00:46:46.20\00:46:48.03
IF DAD IS TRAVELING THEN
MOM, OF COURSE, SHOULD LEAD OUT
00:46:48.03\00:46:50.00
IN THOSE SITUATIONS.
00:46:50.00\00:46:56.46
1 CORINTHIANS 3:14, "ACCORDING
TO THE GRACE OF GOD WHICH IS
00:46:56.46\00:47:00.90
GIVEN UNTO ME AS A WISE
MASTER BUILDER, I'VE LAID THE
00:47:00.90\00:47:04.40
FOUNDATION AND
ANOTHER BUILDS THEREON.
00:47:04.40\00:47:08.26
BUT LET EVERY MAN TAKE HEED HOW
HE BUILDS THEREON, FOR NO OTHER
00:47:08.26\00:47:12.20
FOUNDATION CAN MAN LAY
THAN THAT WHICH IS LAID WHICH IS
00:47:12.20\00:47:16.03
JESUS CHRIST."
00:47:16.03\00:47:17.30
WHAT IS THE FOUNDATION FOR
OUR MARRIAGES, FOR OUR HOMES?
00:47:17.30\00:47:20.80
IT'S GOTTA BE
CHRIST AND HIS WORD.
00:47:20.80\00:47:22.90
THIS IS THE ROCK, CHRIST SAID,
"HE THAT HEARS THESE WORDS OF
00:47:22.90\00:47:25.60
MINE AND DOES THEM, IS
LIKE A WISE MAN THAT BUILDS
00:47:25.60\00:47:28.33
HIS HOUSE ON A ROCK."
00:47:28.33\00:47:29.90
IF THE WORD OF GOD IS THE
FOUNDATION, AND BY THE WAY,
00:47:29.90\00:47:34.70
GOD IS LOVE.
00:47:34.70\00:47:36.10
THE TEN
COMMANDMENTS ARE ON A ROCK.
00:47:36.10\00:47:38.46
IT'S ALL ABOUT LOVE
GOD AND LOVING ONE ANOTHER.
00:47:38.46\00:47:40.76
IF LOVE IS THE FOUNDATION FOR
YOUR HOME, FOR YOUR MARRIAGES,
00:47:40.76\00:47:45.13
THEN YOU'LL BE
ABLE TO WORK THINGS OUT.
00:47:45.13\00:47:48.10
NOW I HOPE THAT YOU'LL
FIND THAT THIS IS RELEVANT FOR
00:47:48.10\00:47:52.43
EVERYBODY HERE.
00:47:52.43\00:47:53.60
THERE'S A LOT MORE I COULD SAY.
00:47:53.60\00:47:55.60
MAYBE I NEED TO DO A PART TWO
FOR THIS BECAUSE THERE REALLY
00:47:55.60\00:48:01.56
IS A NEED FOR US TO
LEARN TO LOVE EACH OTHER.
00:48:01.56\00:48:04.23
HOW ARE WE GONNA
WITNESS TO THE WORLD?
00:48:04.23\00:48:06.80
CHRIST SAID, "ALL MEN WILL
KNOW THAT YOU'RE MY DISCIPLES BY
00:48:06.80\00:48:10.30
YOUR LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER.
00:48:10.30\00:48:11.00
THE BIBLE SAYS
LOVE YOUR ENEMIES.
00:48:11.00\00:48:12.96
IF WE'RE STRUGGLING LOVING
OUR SPOUSES, HOW ARE WE GONNA
00:48:12.96\00:48:15.06
WITNESS TO THE WORLD?
00:48:15.06\00:48:16.36
HOW ARE WE GONNA
FULFILL THE GREAT COMMISSION?
00:48:16.36\00:48:18.43
WHERE IS THE BEST PLACE
FOR US TO BEGIN TO FULFILL
00:48:18.43\00:48:20.93
THE GREAT COMMISSION?
00:48:20.93\00:48:23.80
LOVING FAMILY.
00:48:23.80\00:48:25.03
YOU KNOW THE FIRST CHRISTIAN
COUPLE THAT I REALLY, THAT
00:48:25.03\00:48:30.13
STUDIED WITH ME, MAN THAT
BAPTIZED ME, I SPENT TIME IN
00:48:30.13\00:48:32.63
THEIR HOME.
00:48:32.63\00:48:33.86
THEY'D BEEN MARRIED 50 YEARS BY
THE TIME I KNEW THEM AND I SAW
00:48:33.86\00:48:36.83
HOW THEY LOVED EACH OTHER
AND THAT MADE SUCH A BIG IMPACT
00:48:36.83\00:48:39.76
ON ME.
00:48:39.76\00:48:41.66
THEIR COMMITMENT,
THEIR PATIENCE, THEIR LOVE,
00:48:41.66\00:48:43.86
THEIR HUMOR.
00:48:43.86\00:48:48.20
THIS LIST OF TIPS THAT
I'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT,
00:48:48.20\00:48:52.06
THAT IMPRESSED ME.
00:48:52.06\00:48:53.36
MY GRANDPARENTS,
THAT IMPRESSED ME.
00:48:53.36\00:48:56.53
YOU KNOW AND THIS IS AN
IMPORTANT SUBJECT TO ME, MY
00:48:56.53\00:49:00.70
MOTHER WAS MARRIED 4 TIMES,
20 YEARS LIVED WITH SOMEBODY SHE
00:49:00.70\00:49:05.83
WASN'T MARRIED TO.
00:49:05.83\00:49:06.56
MY FATHER WAS MARRIED 5 TIMES
AND WITH THAT KIND OF BAGGAGE
00:49:06.56\00:49:09.80
IN MY BACKGROUND, IT WAS VERY
IMPORTANT TO ME THAT MARRIAGE
00:49:09.80\00:49:13.30
WORK.
00:49:13.30\00:49:14.70
I WANTED TO BE MORE LIKE MY
GRANDPARENTS, AND I SEE THAT IT
00:49:14.70\00:49:18.46
CAN HAPPEN, FRIENDS.
00:49:18.46\00:49:19.73
AND IF IT SHOULD
HAPPEN ANYWHERE, IT SHOULD BE
00:49:19.73\00:49:21.93
HAPPENING IN
CHRISTIAN CHURCHES, RIGHT?
00:49:21.93\00:49:25.00
WE'VE GOTTA MAKE THAT DECISION
THAT WE WANT TO REPRESENT
00:49:25.00\00:49:26.80
JESUS.
00:49:26.80\00:49:27.70
IF WE DECIDE THAT THE GLORY OF
GOD IS FIRST, THAT WE'RE GONNA
00:49:27.70\00:49:30.10
HONOR GOD, WE'RE NOT GONNA
LIVE FOR OURSELF, WE'RE GONNA DO
00:49:30.10\00:49:32.70
WHAT CHRIST WANTS US TO DO.
00:49:32.70\00:49:34.10
EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES MARRIAGE
MAY SEEM LIKE A CROSS THAT YOU
00:49:34.10\00:49:38.13
BEAR, IF YOU'RE GLORIFYING GOD
AND YOU'RE WITNESSING FOR HIM,
00:49:38.13\00:49:42.90
THEN YOU CHOOSE TO
LOVE AND YOU BEAR IT.
00:49:42.90\00:49:45.00
YOU'VE MADE A PROMISE.
00:49:45.00\00:49:46.60
NOW I'M NOT SUGGESTING THAT
MARRIAGES SHOULD BE SOMETHING
00:49:46.60\00:49:48.90
TO ENDURE TO THE END.
00:49:48.90\00:49:51.50
IT SHOULD BE SOMETHING
THAT SHOULD BE ENJOYED, RIGHT?
00:49:51.50\00:49:54.93
BUT EVEN IF IT DOES
MEAN ENDURE, WE NEED TO STICK
00:49:54.93\00:50:00.96
TOGETHER.
00:50:00.96\00:50:01.83
THERE'LL BE DAYS
WHERE YOU WILL ENJOY IT.
00:50:01.83\00:50:04.63
AND SO THERE NEEDS TO BE THAT
KIND OF COMMITMENT RIGHT FROM
00:50:04.63\00:50:07.50
THE BEGINNING AND IT ALL
GOES BACK TO LOVE, LOVE IN OUR
00:50:07.50\00:50:10.76
HOMES, LOVE IN OUR HEARTS.
00:50:10.76\00:50:13.30
YOU KNOW, I CHANGE THE RULES.
00:50:13.30\00:50:16.50
I KNOW IT SAYS IN BULLETIN THAT
WE WERE GONNA BE SINGING HYMN
00:50:16.50\00:50:19.96
NUMBER 579, DISREGARD THAT.
00:50:19.96\00:50:22.43
DURING SABBATH
SCHOOL, THEY WERE SINGING 652,
00:50:22.43\00:50:26.33
"LOVE AT HOME."
00:50:26.33\00:50:27.36
AND I THOUGHT BOY, THAT REALLY
GOES BETTER WITH THE SERMON
00:50:27.36\00:50:29.46
THAN WHAT I PICKED.
00:50:29.46\00:50:30.50
SO WHY DON'T YOU
TURN TO THAT WITH ME?
00:50:30.50\00:50:32.50
LET'S SING THIS TOGETHER.
00:50:32.50\00:50:33.46
"LOVE AT HOME," ISN'T
THAT WHAT WE'RE PRAYING FOR?
00:50:33.46\00:50:37.26
NUMBER 652 AND LET'S
STAND TOGETHER AS WE SING.
00:50:37.26\00:50:42.50
[MUSIC]
00:50:42.83\00:50:42.86
? THERE IS BEAUTY ALL AROUND ?
00:50:53.40\00:50:53.43
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
? THERE IS JOY IN EVERY SOUND ?
00:50:56.80\00:51:06.83
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
? PEACE AND PLENTY HERE ABIDE ?
00:51:06.83\00:51:16.90
? SMILING THERE ON EVERY
SIDE ? ? TIME DOTH SOFTLY ?
00:51:16.90\00:51:23.93
? SWEETLY GLIDE ? ?
WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:51:23.93\00:51:31.96
? LOVE AT HOME
? ? LOVE AT HOME ?
00:51:31.96\00:51:41.93
? TIME DOTH SOFTLY
? ? SWEETLY GLIDE ?
00:51:41.93\00:51:47.03
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:51:47.03\00:51:52.20
>> YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE REASONS
00:51:54.20\00:51:54.23
I PICKED THIS SONG IS THAT LAST
LINE THERE, "TIME DOTH SOFTLY,
00:51:56.96\00:52:00.80
SWEETLY GLIDE, WHEN
THERE'S LOVE AT HOME."
00:52:00.80\00:52:04.03
YOU KNOW THAT CONJURED UP AN
IMAGE IN MY MIND OF TRYING TO
00:52:04.03\00:52:08.23
MOVE SOMETHING ALONG, JUST
GRINDING, PUSHING, RESISTANCE.
00:52:08.23\00:52:16.66
I REMEMBER ONE TIME TRYING TO
PUSH A HEAVY LOAD AND A FRIEND
00:52:16.66\00:52:19.20
SAID, "DOUG, TAKE A PIPE.
00:52:19.20\00:52:22.10
PUT A PIPE UNDER IT."
00:52:22.10\00:52:23.26
IT WAS AND CONCRETE FLOOR.
00:52:23.26\00:52:25.16
WE LIFTED UP ONE END AND WE
PUT A PIPE UNDER IT AND I COULD
00:52:25.16\00:52:27.86
PUSH IT WITH ONE FINGER.
00:52:27.86\00:52:29.50
IT JUST GLIDED ACROSS THE FLOOR.
00:52:29.50\00:52:34.90
LOVE IS THE GREASE
IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
00:52:34.90\00:52:38.40
WHEN THERE'S LOVE,
WHEN WE CHOOSE TO LOVE,
00:52:38.40\00:52:42.23
IT'S SOMETHING
THAT YOU'LL ENJOY.
00:52:42.23\00:52:44.26
WITHOUT THAT, IT'S GONNA BE
SOMETHING THAT YOU ENDURE AND
00:52:44.26\00:52:47.60
SO WE NEED TO ASK GOD
TO JUST GIVE US THAT LOVE.
00:52:47.60\00:52:49.93
HOW MANY OF YOU WANT TO
HAVE LOVE IN YOUR HOMES, IN YOUR
00:52:49.93\00:52:53.20
MARRIAGES?
00:52:53.20\00:52:54.16
LET'S SING VERSE 2.
00:52:54.16\00:52:57.73
? KINDLY HEAVEN SMILES ABOVE ?
00:53:04.96\00:53:05.00
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT
HOME ? ? ALL THE EARTH ?
00:53:11.50\00:53:18.26
? IS FILLED WITH LOVE ? ?
WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:53:18.26\00:53:25.76
? SWEETER SINGS ?
? THE BROOKLET BY ?
00:53:25.76\00:53:30.93
? BRIGHTER BEAMS
? ? THE AZURE SKY ?
00:53:30.93\00:53:36.06
? OH, THERE'S ONE ?
? WHO SMILES ON HIGH ?
00:53:36.06\00:53:41.16
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT
HOME ? ? LOVE AT HOME ?
00:53:41.16\00:53:51.46
? LOVE AT HOME ?
? TIME DOTH SOFTLY ?
00:53:51.46\00:54:00.23
? SWEETLY GLIDE ? ?
WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:54:00.23\00:54:08.90
>> I'VE BEEN JUST PRAYING AS
WE SANG THAT LAST VERSE THINKING
00:54:08.90\00:54:12.30
LORD, I WANT TO MAKE AND APPEAL
BUT I'M NOT EVEN SURE WHAT TO
00:54:12.30\00:54:14.66
SAY, BUT I'D LIKE TO GIVE
PEOPLE HERE AN OPPORTUNITY
00:54:14.66\00:54:19.70
TO RESPOND.
00:54:19.70\00:54:20.53
NOW THIS COULD
APPLY TO EVERYBODY.
00:54:20.53\00:54:22.43
YOU MIGHT BE SINGLE,
BE PAYING ABOUT MARRIAGE.
00:54:22.43\00:54:25.63
YOU MIGHT ASK FOR
SPECIAL PRAYER RIGHT NOW.
00:54:25.63\00:54:29.13
SOME OF YOU HAVE GREAT
MARRIAGES AND YOU WANT THEM
00:54:29.13\00:54:32.00
TO BE EVEN BETTER.
00:54:32.00\00:54:33.50
YOU MIGHT HAVE
SOME SPECIAL NEED.
00:54:33.50\00:54:35.90
OTHERS ARE STRUGGLING AND YOU
KNOW IT'S SELFISHNESS AND YOU
00:54:35.90\00:54:39.23
WANT TO HAVE MORE LOVE.
00:54:39.23\00:54:40.10
YOU MIGHT WANT TO COME FORWARD.
00:54:40.10\00:54:41.73
YOU MAY WANT TO JUST STAY WHERE
YOU ARE AND PRAY GOD'LL BLESS
00:54:41.73\00:54:45.36
YOU IN YOUR HOME.
00:54:45.36\00:54:46.70
BUT I JUST WANT TO OPEN UP THE
FRONT OF THE CHURCH RIGHT NOW.
00:54:46.70\00:54:50.96
THIS CAN BE AN ALTAR.
00:54:50.96\00:54:53.63
AND YOU KNOW THAT YOUR FAMILY'S
NOT HAD CHRIST AS THE CENTER OR
00:54:53.63\00:54:57.96
MAYBE YOU'VE BEEN NEGLECTING
DEVOTIONS OR LOVE HAS NOT BEEN
00:54:57.96\00:55:03.50
AT THE CORE, WHATEVER THE NEEDS
IS, I DON'T WANT TO PUT ANYBODY
00:55:03.50\00:55:06.63
ON THE SPOT.
00:55:06.63\00:55:07.56
BUT AS WE SING THE LAST VERSE
AND YOU RECOGNIZE THAT YOU JUST
00:55:07.56\00:55:11.20
REALLY WANT TO BRING YOUR
MARRIAGE BEFORE GOD AND PRAY
00:55:11.20\00:55:14.96
THAT YOU CAN BE A WITNESS
THROUGH YOUR FAMILY THEN YOU
00:55:14.96\00:55:16.86
COME AS WE SING.
00:55:16.86\00:55:17.96
WE'LL PRAY TOGETHER.
00:55:17.96\00:55:20.86
? JESUS, MAKE ME WHOLLY THINE
? ? THEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:55:24.56\00:55:34.83
? MAY THY SACRIFICE BE MINE
? ? THEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:55:34.83\00:55:46.80
? SAFELY FROM ALL
HARM ? ? I'LL REST ?
00:55:46.80\00:55:51.06
? WITH NO SINFUL
CARE ? ? DISTRESS'D ?
00:55:51.06\00:55:56.36
? THRO' THY TENDER
? ? MERCY BLESSED ?
00:55:56.36\00:56:01.53
? WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT
HOME ? ? LOVE AT HOME ?
00:56:01.53\00:56:12.06
? LOVE AT HOME ?
? TIME DOTH SOFTLY ?
00:56:12.06\00:56:19.73
? SWEETLY GLIDE ? ?
WHEN THERE'S LOVE AT HOME ?
00:56:19.73\00:56:31.43
>> HOW MANY WOULD LIKE TO SAY
00:56:32.36\00:56:32.40
BEFORE WE PRAY RIGHT NOW,
"LORD, I WANT MY HOME," WHETHER
00:56:33.46\00:56:36.83
YOU'RE SINGLE IN YOUR HOME,
YOU MAY BE WIDOWED IN YOUR HOME,
00:56:36.83\00:56:40.50
MARRIED, "I WANT MY HOME TO BE
A PLACE THAT WILL BE A WITNESS
00:56:40.50\00:56:44.26
FOR THE WORLD BECAUSE
THERE'S LOVE THERE, AMEN?"
00:56:44.26\00:56:47.60
THAT'S WHERE WE'VE GOTTA BEGIN.
00:56:47.60\00:56:50.03
THIS IS CHRISTIANITY 101.
00:56:50.03\00:56:52.56
FATHER IN HEAVEN, LORD, I
BELIEVE YOU'VE BEEN PRESENT
00:56:52.56\00:56:56.40
TODAY AS WE TALKED ABOUT SUCH
A SIMPLE FOUNDATIONAL TRUTH,
00:56:56.40\00:56:59.66
SOME PRACTICAL THINGS.
00:56:59.66\00:57:01.76
NOW LORD, IF I'VE SAID ANYTHING
THAT IS OFF CENTER, I PRAY
00:57:01.76\00:57:04.86
YOU'LL FORGIVE ME AND
HELP US TO CATCH THOSE THINGS
00:57:04.86\00:57:08.40
THAT ARE ON CENTER.
00:57:08.40\00:57:09.20
THE WAYS THAT WE CAN STRENGTHEN
OUR RELATIONSHIPS, LORD,
00:57:09.20\00:57:15.70
I PRAY THAT YOU
WILL BLESS EVERY FAMILY.
00:57:15.70\00:57:18.80
SOME ARE DOING WELL, SOME
VERY HAPPY, WONDERFUL MARRIAGES,
00:57:18.80\00:57:22.93
SOME ARE STRUGGLING.
00:57:22.93\00:57:24.53
WHATEVER THE CASE MIGHT BE,
LORD, I JUST PRAY THAT YOU'LL
00:57:24.53\00:57:27.83
BLESS AND STRENGTHEN
THE HOMES OF OUR FAMILIES.
00:57:27.83\00:57:30.70
HELP US TO IMPLEMENT SOME OF
THE PRACTICAL THINGS THAT WE'VE
00:57:30.70\00:57:33.06
TALKED ABOUT.
00:57:33.06\00:57:34.23
PUT THEM INTO PRACTICE.
00:57:34.23\00:57:36.43
I PRAY THAT THEY'LL BE
LOVE IN OUR HEARTS, FORGIVE OUR
00:57:36.43\00:57:38.86
SELFISHNESS, MIGHT THERE
BE PATIENCE AND COMMITMENT AND
00:57:38.86\00:57:43.10
FORGIVENESS IN OUR FAMILIES
THAT WE CAN DEMONSTRATE TO THE
00:57:43.10\00:57:45.56
WORLD OUR LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER.
00:57:45.56\00:57:48.60
BLESS THIS CHURCH,
LORD, BLESS THE RELATIONSHIPS
00:57:48.60\00:57:50.83
REPRESENTED HERE.
00:57:50.83\00:57:52.20
BE WITH THOSE WHO'VE COME
FORWARD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS
00:57:52.20\00:57:54.63
TODAY.
00:57:54.63\00:57:55.76
FILL THEM WITH YOUR
SPIRIT AND YOUR PEACE.
00:57:55.76\00:57:58.40
AND AGAIN, WE THANK YOU FOR
YOUR PRESENCE HERE AND ASK THAT
00:57:58.40\00:58:01.66
YOU GO WITH US FROM THIS PLACE,
IN JESUS' NAME WE ASK, AMEN.
00:58:01.66\00:58:07.20
[MUSIC]
00:58:07.90\00:58:07.93