What is money for? 00:00:01.33\00:00:02.86 Is it a helpful resource to use for good 00:00:02.90\00:00:05.70 or is the love of it the root of all evil? 00:00:05.73\00:00:08.54 Actually, it's both. 00:00:08.57\00:00:10.27 But God may have a different definition of success. 00:00:10.31\00:00:13.54 Real success doesn't come overnight. 00:00:13.58\00:00:16.18 It takes hard work and faithful planning. 00:00:16.21\00:00:20.42 To use your dollars well, 00:00:20.48\00:00:22.22 it takes more than a little sense. 00:00:22.25\00:00:25.02 Hello, and welcome to Dollars and Sense. 00:00:27.12\00:00:28.96 My name is Yvonne Lewis and I'm the co-host 00:00:28.99\00:00:31.03 for this program along with Ryan Mack, 00:00:31.06\00:00:34.00 who is our financial literacy expert. 00:00:34.03\00:00:36.60 And Ryan has been bringing it. This has been powerful. 00:00:36.63\00:00:41.07 These programs are powerful. 00:00:41.10\00:00:42.47 And today, we're going to talk about a subject 00:00:42.50\00:00:44.97 that's near and dear to me. 00:00:45.01\00:00:46.81 Absolutely. Family. 00:00:46.84\00:00:48.18 It's all about the family. I think that... 00:00:48.21\00:00:50.48 Well, the Family Empowerment Program, 00:00:50.51\00:00:53.55 we had designed it when I was living in Brooklyn. 00:00:53.58\00:00:56.82 And we will work with a lot of those 00:00:56.85\00:00:58.42 who are formally incarcerated, 00:00:58.45\00:00:59.89 and they were coming home from prison. 00:00:59.92\00:01:02.22 And we just said, you know what a lot of individuals 00:01:02.26\00:01:04.53 just don't have jobs, 00:01:04.56\00:01:06.26 they're trying to get employment, 00:01:06.29\00:01:08.03 how do we set up a network that assists them 00:01:08.06\00:01:11.03 to get integrated back into society more effectively? 00:01:11.07\00:01:14.64 And a group of us at a financial planning company 00:01:14.67\00:01:17.64 that I had at the time, we said, "You know what, 00:01:17.67\00:01:20.94 why don't we start putting their family together." 00:01:20.98\00:01:23.31 They're unemployed and, you know, 00:01:23.35\00:01:25.25 we should just figure out, 00:01:25.28\00:01:26.61 maybe they can have some resources 00:01:26.68\00:01:28.02 that they can share with them, so we started do it. 00:01:28.05\00:01:30.29 And next thing you know, the family 00:01:30.35\00:01:32.75 and the extended family, we put them together, 00:01:32.79\00:01:35.76 we gave some good conversations, 00:01:35.79\00:01:37.69 and people start to get employment. 00:01:37.73\00:01:39.06 I mean, not every single thing was successful, 00:01:39.09\00:01:41.26 but it was really a good time 00:01:41.30\00:01:43.30 because what we found out was that many people 00:01:43.33\00:01:45.33 within the family could really lean on 00:01:45.37\00:01:48.14 what another more than just that individual 00:01:48.17\00:01:49.94 who was formally incarcerated, 00:01:49.97\00:01:51.47 other people started getting assistance. 00:01:51.51\00:01:53.51 Businesses starting to get supported, 00:01:53.54\00:01:55.14 businesses starting to get created, 00:01:55.18\00:01:57.01 so it became a Family Empowerment Program. 00:01:57.08\00:01:59.11 So I said, "You know what, let's... 00:01:59.15\00:02:01.48 I want to dedicate this show 00:02:01.52\00:02:02.85 to the Family Empowerment Program 00:02:02.88\00:02:04.22 and if we have some time really get them some tips 00:02:04.29\00:02:06.32 for those are who are unemployed." 00:02:06.35\00:02:07.69 Good. 00:02:07.72\00:02:09.06 So really just talk about how it is. 00:02:09.09\00:02:10.43 So in the scripture, it talks about 00:02:10.46\00:02:12.56 family empowerment as well. 00:02:12.59\00:02:14.96 So we have 1 Timothy 5:8, that says, 00:02:15.00\00:02:19.00 "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, 00:02:19.03\00:02:22.67 and especially for members of his household, 00:02:22.70\00:02:25.41 he has denied the faith 00:02:25.44\00:02:28.04 and is worse than an unbeliever." 00:02:28.08\00:02:29.94 Wow. 00:02:30.01\00:02:31.35 So literally the scripture is saying that 00:02:31.38\00:02:32.98 it's our obligation to help out our family. 00:02:33.01\00:02:36.25 And I think that far too many times, 00:02:36.28\00:02:38.99 we as a society, 00:02:39.02\00:02:42.02 don't really look right next to us. 00:02:42.06\00:02:44.09 You know, how many times have, 00:02:44.13\00:02:45.69 you know, you have an amazing career, 00:02:45.73\00:02:48.00 but maybe some of your family members 00:02:48.03\00:02:49.73 just hadn't really recognized 00:02:49.76\00:02:51.10 that brain said, you've had because I mean, 00:02:51.13\00:02:54.10 I know it's true for me, I'm just little Ryan, 00:02:54.17\00:02:56.94 "Take out the trash." 00:02:56.97\00:02:58.31 You know, "Go get the trash boy." 00:02:58.34\00:03:01.88 And I'm like, "Well, wait a minute, 00:03:01.91\00:03:03.24 you know, I've done all this stuff. 00:03:03.28\00:03:04.61 Well, I can..." 00:03:04.65\00:03:05.98 And I'll just take out the trash, 00:03:06.01\00:03:07.35 you know, I don't mind. 00:03:07.42\00:03:08.75 But that's how family looks at us. 00:03:08.78\00:03:10.19 Yeah. You know... 00:03:10.22\00:03:11.55 So we have to learn that 00:03:11.59\00:03:12.92 there are valuable resources in each one of us. 00:03:12.95\00:03:17.03 How many family members do we have that 00:03:17.06\00:03:18.56 are going to prison or coming home? 00:03:18.59\00:03:20.96 How many youth do we have that are going to college 00:03:21.00\00:03:23.33 that we can get scholarships for? 00:03:23.37\00:03:24.70 How many businesses do we have 00:03:24.73\00:03:26.07 that we should be supporting or starting? 00:03:26.10\00:03:28.50 I mean, all of these things can be really brought out 00:03:28.54\00:03:32.24 and I have a Family Empowerment Program 00:03:32.27\00:03:34.14 is seven easy steps. 00:03:34.18\00:03:36.44 And I just wanted to go over it for the viewers out there. 00:03:36.48\00:03:38.61 I love it. Let's do it. 00:03:38.65\00:03:40.32 So the first step really is just a family call out. 00:03:40.38\00:03:43.08 You need to bring the family together. 00:03:43.12\00:03:46.15 The family... 00:03:46.19\00:03:47.52 What we do is you select a date 00:03:47.56\00:03:49.69 at least six months out that you would like to meet. 00:03:49.72\00:03:53.46 And again, you try... 00:03:53.50\00:03:55.00 Not everybody's going to be there, 00:03:55.03\00:03:57.00 you know, there's the beautiful part about technology 00:03:57.03\00:03:58.93 is that not everyone even needs to be there, 00:03:58.97\00:04:01.10 but if we can get together for family reunions, 00:04:01.14\00:04:04.11 if we can get together for funerals, 00:04:04.14\00:04:06.51 and birthdays and Christmas, 00:04:06.54\00:04:08.01 and all these days that are good days. 00:04:08.04\00:04:10.85 But, you know, we should be able to get together 00:04:10.88\00:04:12.61 to talk about shop. 00:04:12.65\00:04:15.32 You know, let's talk about empowerment of one another, 00:04:15.35\00:04:17.82 maybe you do it during Christmas time 00:04:17.85\00:04:19.29 because all your family is going to be in town anyway. 00:04:19.32\00:04:22.09 You know, you also could go to FreeConferenceCall.com. 00:04:22.12\00:04:25.99 Exactly. And get... 00:04:26.03\00:04:27.40 If you have family members all over the country, 00:04:27.40\00:04:30.33 you can call one number, it's all free. 00:04:30.37\00:04:33.84 With an access code and everybody's on the line 00:04:33.90\00:04:36.71 and you can get clear reception. 00:04:36.77\00:04:39.04 So you don't have to come together, 00:04:39.07\00:04:40.98 it's good if you can, 00:04:41.01\00:04:42.34 but it can't, that can be an excuse. 00:04:42.38\00:04:44.15 That's great, I mean, so you call people out 00:04:44.21\00:04:47.52 and the second step is select a date. 00:04:47.58\00:04:51.42 I think this is a hard time, I think you should have 00:04:51.45\00:04:53.22 maybe one or two people that plan it 00:04:53.25\00:04:54.79 because we know how families can get sometimes, 00:04:54.82\00:04:56.79 so many cooks in the kitchen, too many decisions, 00:04:56.83\00:04:58.59 everyone wants to have this decision. 00:04:58.63\00:05:01.60 You know, let me just back up to 00:05:01.63\00:05:02.96 and provide a step zero. 00:05:03.00\00:05:05.60 A step zero is we need to have prayer in this, 00:05:05.63\00:05:09.90 we need to really meditate on the Word of God 00:05:09.94\00:05:14.28 that is going to be successful because what happens is that 00:05:14.31\00:05:18.05 we've gotten so ingrained into not supporting one another, 00:05:18.08\00:05:22.02 we've gotten so accustomed to a certain way that 00:05:22.05\00:05:24.92 which we interact with one another 00:05:24.95\00:05:27.26 in order to interact in a different way 00:05:27.29\00:05:29.06 that's outside the scope of what we normally, 00:05:29.09\00:05:31.49 you know, "Ryan, take out the trash," 00:05:31.53\00:05:33.09 now all of a sudden becomes, "Ryan, help me form a business 00:05:33.13\00:05:37.13 or Ryan, can we work together to empower the community." 00:05:37.17\00:05:40.90 That's a different lane. Right. 00:05:40.94\00:05:42.77 And that's in many of our communities is rejected, 00:05:42.80\00:05:47.18 we reject something different, 00:05:47.24\00:05:48.58 we're only used to seeing people 00:05:48.61\00:05:49.94 for Thanksgiving to have a meal, 00:05:50.01\00:05:51.78 and then we go our separate ways. 00:05:51.81\00:05:54.68 And then God forbid something happens, 00:05:54.72\00:05:56.22 it's a funeral, we come together again. 00:05:56.25\00:05:58.39 So we have to just pray that we become all of us 00:05:58.42\00:06:01.79 become open to doing something more, 00:06:01.82\00:06:03.86 something greater, something different, 00:06:03.89\00:06:06.39 something outside of our lane of comfort 00:06:06.43\00:06:08.16 in which we're interacting with one another. 00:06:08.20\00:06:10.60 And once we are able to do that, 00:06:10.67\00:06:12.30 it's so many blessings that I believe 00:06:12.33\00:06:14.24 that we're leaving on the table by just simply not engaging 00:06:14.27\00:06:18.61 with one another in the most effective way. 00:06:18.64\00:06:20.48 And in this economy right now 00:06:20.51\00:06:22.34 with so many individuals who are unemployed... 00:06:22.38\00:06:24.78 I mean, employment rate is under 5%, 00:06:24.81\00:06:26.75 but we have a lot of individuals 00:06:26.82\00:06:28.15 who have one, two jobs. 00:06:28.18\00:06:30.19 And our jobs that are making way under that 00:06:30.22\00:06:31.79 what they would like to 00:06:31.82\00:06:33.15 or not even looking of work anymore, 00:06:33.19\00:06:34.52 they've dropped up the payroll. 00:06:34.56\00:06:35.89 So this economy, we need to start thinking differently. 00:06:35.92\00:06:38.99 And we're leaving things on the table 00:06:39.03\00:06:40.60 if we're not utilizing our families. 00:06:40.63\00:06:42.43 So call out your family, select a date as step two. 00:06:42.46\00:06:46.80 Step three is select an objective 00:06:46.84\00:06:49.67 and an unbiased moderator. 00:06:49.70\00:06:51.91 Someone who's probably not even in your family 00:06:51.94\00:06:54.74 so I was that moderator for many 00:06:54.78\00:06:56.95 and it really cut through a lot of the familiarity 00:06:57.01\00:07:00.15 because by me being there when I was like 00:07:00.18\00:07:02.88 I couldn't be the moderator for my family. 00:07:02.92\00:07:05.45 And I was able to get my family to do this 00:07:05.49\00:07:07.72 and it was tough. 00:07:07.76\00:07:09.42 We had a lot of individuals who were saying, 00:07:09.46\00:07:10.89 "I don't know, I don't wanna do it? 00:07:10.96\00:07:12.29 Why are we doing this?" 00:07:12.33\00:07:14.10 So I had to step out 00:07:14.13\00:07:15.60 and we had to get someone to come in 00:07:15.63\00:07:17.17 and say, "You know what, this person's job 00:07:17.20\00:07:20.24 is to help moderate the discussion." 00:07:20.27\00:07:22.94 And it's going to be a real discussion 00:07:22.97\00:07:24.47 this is not going to be a time for us to play games, 00:07:24.51\00:07:27.61 or talk, or be distracted. 00:07:27.64\00:07:29.51 The purpose of this is to have a very tangible meeting 00:07:29.54\00:07:33.25 with family to talk about real life issues 00:07:33.28\00:07:37.12 that our family is going through. 00:07:37.19\00:07:38.65 And when I lead the discussions for the other family members 00:07:38.69\00:07:41.12 because I was not familiar with them, 00:07:41.16\00:07:43.36 I mean, they didn't know me from Adam, 00:07:43.43\00:07:44.76 but other individual say, 00:07:44.79\00:07:46.80 "You know, we know this guy, we trust him." 00:07:46.83\00:07:49.23 And so I would help moderate the discussion, 00:07:49.26\00:07:50.97 we would ask various questions, 00:07:51.00\00:07:52.33 what we'll talk about in a second, 00:07:52.37\00:07:53.90 in a flow with just that much smoother. 00:07:53.94\00:07:57.07 So the fourth step is give the meeting 00:07:57.11\00:08:00.11 a professional structure, right? 00:08:00.14\00:08:02.51 I mean, there should be someone taking minutes of the meeting, 00:08:02.54\00:08:05.88 there should be a moderator giving rules of engagement 00:08:05.91\00:08:08.78 at the meeting, 00:08:08.82\00:08:10.15 they should be thinking about... 00:08:10.22\00:08:12.32 Like think about a board meeting 00:08:12.35\00:08:13.79 that you've attended previously, 00:08:13.82\00:08:15.26 and how that meeting was to actually run. 00:08:15.29\00:08:17.26 You know, you've been in board meetings 00:08:17.29\00:08:18.86 where, you know, if you're talking, 00:08:18.89\00:08:20.93 we have points of order, and we have discussions, 00:08:20.96\00:08:23.77 and we really bring up things in a very professional way. 00:08:23.80\00:08:26.47 And there's not too many people, 00:08:26.50\00:08:27.84 there's not more than one person talking 00:08:27.87\00:08:29.57 at any one time. 00:08:29.60\00:08:31.97 When that person has the floor, you know, a point, 00:08:32.01\00:08:34.71 you know, cousin John to be the sergeant-at-arms 00:08:34.74\00:08:37.65 because he's a big guy and if anybody starts talking, 00:08:37.68\00:08:40.62 you know, he keeps things in order. 00:08:40.65\00:08:43.69 So the fifth thing is we've got to start out... 00:08:43.72\00:08:46.12 Now this is important 00:08:46.15\00:08:47.56 we have to ask the right questions. 00:08:47.59\00:08:51.39 When we start asking questions, the questions are, right, 00:08:51.43\00:08:54.73 who in here needs a job? 00:08:54.73\00:08:58.67 And you look at the hands raised 00:08:58.70\00:09:00.97 and then you give each an opportunity to respond. 00:09:01.00\00:09:04.64 "Okay, you need a job, 00:09:04.67\00:09:06.71 what sort of job are you looking for? 00:09:06.74\00:09:09.44 What sort of job, you know..." 00:09:09.48\00:09:11.01 And that's each person response to that 00:09:11.05\00:09:13.21 so you ask the questions. 00:09:13.25\00:09:14.58 Step six is you let them respond to the questions. 00:09:14.62\00:09:17.52 "Okay, I need a job 00:09:17.55\00:09:19.52 and I'm looking for a job as a janitor." 00:09:19.55\00:09:22.42 Or, "I'm looking for a job as a teacher. 00:09:22.46\00:09:24.56 I'm looking for a job as..." 00:09:24.59\00:09:27.23 Whatever it is. 00:09:27.30\00:09:28.63 And then the second question is, 00:09:28.66\00:09:30.77 "Who in here has a connection 00:09:30.80\00:09:33.77 that can help this person find a job 00:09:33.84\00:09:36.10 in that location, in that area?" 00:09:36.14\00:09:38.94 And it becomes tangible. 00:09:38.97\00:09:41.21 Again, I know see, I can fill in the spirit right now 00:09:41.24\00:09:44.25 that there are people out there saying, 00:09:44.28\00:09:45.61 "That's never gonna work in my family," right? 00:09:45.65\00:09:47.92 "That's never gonna work in my family, 00:09:47.95\00:09:49.28 it can never work." 00:09:49.32\00:09:50.69 Well, guess what, you're right, okay? 00:09:50.72\00:09:52.05 Because you've already thought it's not going to work. 00:09:52.09\00:09:53.79 We've got to change our spirit, we've got to change 00:09:53.86\00:09:55.62 how we think and feel about family. 00:09:55.66\00:09:57.33 That I can promise you, there are families doing 00:09:57.36\00:09:59.09 something similar to this. 00:09:59.13\00:10:00.60 And it is successful, 00:10:00.63\00:10:01.93 it just didn't work in your family 00:10:01.96\00:10:03.33 because you haven't believed it's going to happen yet. 00:10:03.37\00:10:04.87 But through Christ, all things are possible. 00:10:04.90\00:10:06.47 So we have to just get that 00:10:06.50\00:10:07.84 negative spirit out of ourselves 00:10:07.87\00:10:11.07 and just to think it will happen, it can work. 00:10:11.11\00:10:14.31 And so as we're answering these questions who... 00:10:14.34\00:10:18.25 Another question which I ask is, 00:10:18.28\00:10:20.38 "What's... 00:10:20.42\00:10:21.75 Youth in here are under the age of 18 00:10:21.78\00:10:25.02 that want to go to school 00:10:25.05\00:10:26.42 that need to have a scholarship." 00:10:26.45\00:10:28.02 That we can assist to pay for school. 00:10:28.06\00:10:30.29 You know, we have a student that's 15, 16 years old, 00:10:30.33\00:10:34.23 but they don't know how to going go to school 00:10:34.30\00:10:35.86 so maybe we can start pulling funds 00:10:35.90\00:10:37.80 and putting money into five to nine college savings plans. 00:10:37.83\00:10:41.54 They might not have a scholarship. 00:10:41.57\00:10:43.00 We had started learning how to create 00:10:43.04\00:10:44.37 our own scholarships. 00:10:44.41\00:10:45.74 And we can do that with family funds, 00:10:45.77\00:10:47.41 I mean, maybe one individual who isn't... 00:10:47.44\00:10:50.28 they might not know that this elderly individual 00:10:50.31\00:10:52.75 who wants to bequeath some of her possessions 00:10:52.78\00:10:55.75 on to the next generation. 00:10:55.78\00:10:57.69 "You know what, I can donate 00:10:57.72\00:10:59.72 in some of my estate for educational expenses." 00:10:59.75\00:11:03.09 And they can do that according to a state rules 00:11:03.12\00:11:05.66 and it doesn't have to go account towards their gifts. 00:11:05.69\00:11:08.80 For education and medical expenses, 00:11:08.83\00:11:11.53 they can give to the next generation. 00:11:11.57\00:11:13.03 So we definitely have to start doing that. 00:11:13.07\00:11:15.34 Next question is, "Who has a business?" 00:11:15.37\00:11:18.24 And hands are raised 00:11:18.27\00:11:21.04 and then we have to follow up with it. 00:11:21.08\00:11:22.41 There is a step six follow up. 00:11:22.44\00:11:24.25 How can we support your business? 00:11:24.28\00:11:26.88 You know, there was a family that we were working with, 00:11:26.92\00:11:31.05 and in this family there was one woman 00:11:31.09\00:11:32.99 who was going through foreclosure, 00:11:33.02\00:11:36.29 and she had sold products in her spare time 00:11:36.32\00:11:40.16 and she was going through foreclosure, 00:11:40.20\00:11:42.76 she had lost her job, didn't have any income, 00:11:42.80\00:11:45.63 but when pulled the family together, 00:11:45.67\00:11:48.20 we were able to ask the various questions, 00:11:48.24\00:11:50.67 and I was moderating the discussion. 00:11:50.74\00:11:52.94 You know, we asked all the questions, 00:11:52.97\00:11:54.38 who had any children going that want scholarship, 00:11:54.41\00:11:56.51 actually there was one child that we helped them out. 00:11:56.54\00:11:59.71 And we got to the question of who's going to foreclose. 00:11:59.75\00:12:03.05 She said, "Well, I am." 00:12:03.08\00:12:05.05 I said, "Well, you have your own business." 00:12:05.09\00:12:08.19 And we are taking her products, and I knew that 00:12:08.22\00:12:11.49 there were other members of family 00:12:11.53\00:12:12.93 who were teachers. 00:12:12.96\00:12:14.46 So one particular member of the family, 00:12:14.46\00:12:15.90 she connected with the teacher 00:12:15.93\00:12:18.10 and sold her products in the teacher's lounge. 00:12:18.13\00:12:21.14 And that gave her... 00:12:21.17\00:12:23.24 In not only that teacher's lounge, 00:12:23.27\00:12:25.14 but other teachers and they started to get excited 00:12:25.17\00:12:29.08 because she was selling her wears. 00:12:29.11\00:12:30.81 And she said, "Wow, you know, this is really good." 00:12:30.85\00:12:33.88 And she was able to go to other schools. 00:12:33.92\00:12:36.85 And, I mean, it did a good job. Yeah. 00:12:36.89\00:12:39.85 I mean, I'm not saying it made her millionaire or anything, 00:12:39.89\00:12:42.49 but it made enough 00:12:42.52\00:12:43.89 where she was able to pay her bills. 00:12:43.93\00:12:45.49 She paid a mortgage and got up to date. 00:12:45.53\00:12:46.96 And that family support, that's what it took. 00:12:47.00\00:12:50.50 Yeah, exactly. That's what it took... 00:12:50.53\00:12:51.87 Family support and coming together. 00:12:51.90\00:12:53.47 And, you know, one of the things I love about 00:12:53.50\00:12:55.70 what you do, Ryan, is that you look at the big picture. 00:12:55.74\00:12:59.27 God has given you the ability to look at the big picture. 00:12:59.31\00:13:02.11 How can we... 00:13:02.14\00:13:03.48 What can we do to support ourselves, 00:13:03.55\00:13:07.52 our families, the unemployed all that? 00:13:07.55\00:13:10.52 How can we support them? 00:13:10.59\00:13:12.25 And that's one that I love that. 00:13:12.29\00:13:13.96 I love that. Right. 00:13:13.99\00:13:15.32 Well, we all have skills and talents 00:13:15.36\00:13:17.26 and in the process of using our skills and talents, 00:13:17.33\00:13:19.79 these skills and talents were not meant to be internal. 00:13:19.83\00:13:24.23 They're meant to be shared 00:13:24.27\00:13:25.83 and they're meant to be used to empower others. 00:13:25.87\00:13:29.30 So, you know, the step six is a follow-up 00:13:29.34\00:13:31.11 and then step seven is to select a nonprofit 00:13:31.14\00:13:37.65 in your community as a family that you want to support. 00:13:37.68\00:13:41.68 And you're talking about big picture, this is huge 00:13:41.72\00:13:44.39 because there's so much need 00:13:44.42\00:13:46.96 and there are many nonprofits in our communities 00:13:47.02\00:13:48.52 that are doing good work, 00:13:48.56\00:13:49.99 but they don't have the manpower to continue 00:13:50.03\00:13:52.19 or they don't have the money to continue. 00:13:52.23\00:13:54.63 You know, Dare to Dream, great ministry, 00:13:54.66\00:13:57.20 they can always use additional support. 00:13:57.23\00:13:59.67 People like the programs, 00:13:59.70\00:14:01.10 but can you go on your checkbook 00:14:01.14\00:14:02.87 and make a donation, right? 00:14:02.90\00:14:05.74 This is what, I mean, the work continues 00:14:05.77\00:14:08.34 because of Christ, 00:14:08.38\00:14:09.71 and Christ allows it to continue. 00:14:09.74\00:14:12.18 But Christ is also blessed others that I feel 00:14:12.21\00:14:14.85 that we're not really using Christ blessings 00:14:14.88\00:14:17.22 in the most effective way, 00:14:17.29\00:14:20.09 utilizing the gifts that we have in each other 00:14:20.16\00:14:23.43 so they turn around and bless other people. 00:14:23.46\00:14:25.93 And that's what the Family Empowerment Program 00:14:25.96\00:14:28.23 can do, it really brings people together, 00:14:28.26\00:14:31.40 and, you know, I mean, 00:14:31.43\00:14:32.87 how awesome would it be to have a family come together, 00:14:32.90\00:14:37.51 and, you know... 00:14:37.57\00:14:38.91 Let's just say, when I say family, 00:14:38.94\00:14:40.28 I'm not talking about just your husband and wife, 00:14:40.31\00:14:42.78 I'm talking about extended family too, 00:14:42.81\00:14:44.35 I am talking about your cousins, 00:14:44.38\00:14:45.71 and your cousins', cousins, cousins, 00:14:45.75\00:14:47.08 and the older, 00:14:47.12\00:14:48.45 and then maybe a couple of close friends 00:14:48.48\00:14:50.45 that are a really close family 00:14:50.49\00:14:51.82 that are always over your house all the time. 00:14:51.85\00:14:53.32 So really try to amass a lot of people, 00:14:53.36\00:14:55.86 how awesome would it be to have once a year, 00:14:55.89\00:14:58.09 and this family meeting 00:14:58.13\00:14:59.46 should happen at least once a year. 00:14:59.49\00:15:01.86 How awesome would it be for all that family 00:15:01.90\00:15:04.00 to go down to the local Salvation Army or something 00:15:04.07\00:15:08.27 and being the food pantry 00:15:08.30\00:15:10.81 and serving food and giving together? 00:15:10.84\00:15:13.61 And doing it as a family, 00:15:13.68\00:15:15.01 you are not just doing it individually, 00:15:15.04\00:15:16.38 you know, there's many individuals 00:15:16.41\00:15:17.75 within the family and some people say, 00:15:17.78\00:15:19.11 "Why do it? Well, does your family do it?" 00:15:19.15\00:15:20.92 The point is do it as a family. 00:15:20.95\00:15:23.89 And if you start bridging the bonds, 00:15:23.92\00:15:26.09 maybe that's the reason why many individuals believe that 00:15:26.12\00:15:28.36 this family can't work 'cause I have run into it, 00:15:28.39\00:15:30.93 what I found out is that people feel that 00:15:30.96\00:15:32.96 this cannot work because the connection 00:15:32.99\00:15:36.33 and the bond amongst the family has been weakened. 00:15:36.36\00:15:40.00 And our families and our communities 00:15:40.04\00:15:42.27 just don't interact with each other anymore. 00:15:42.30\00:15:45.14 And there's that this lack of interaction 00:15:45.17\00:15:47.14 is really stealing away the blessings 00:15:47.18\00:15:49.31 that God has within us as a family. 00:15:49.34\00:15:52.15 He created us as families for a reason 00:15:52.18\00:15:54.98 that we can have the support network. 00:15:55.02\00:15:57.35 Without their support network 00:15:57.39\00:15:59.15 and you people coming home from prison, 00:15:59.19\00:16:00.69 "I have nowhere to go." 00:16:00.72\00:16:02.26 I mean, I can't tell you how many guys 00:16:02.29\00:16:03.89 I've seen come home from prison, 00:16:03.96\00:16:05.59 and they just absolutely have no where to go. 00:16:05.63\00:16:08.60 If they had that support network around them, 00:16:08.63\00:16:11.17 maybe they might not have went to prison 00:16:11.20\00:16:13.10 in the first place. Right. 00:16:13.13\00:16:14.57 You know, so the family, I mean, 00:16:14.60\00:16:17.91 we talk about family values, 00:16:17.94\00:16:19.67 we have to start to return 00:16:19.71\00:16:21.81 to how can we strengthen this family 00:16:21.84\00:16:24.08 to use it for the greater good of what God wants us all to do 00:16:24.15\00:16:27.42 'cause and it really is, it's one of the few instances 00:16:27.45\00:16:30.39 where two plus two can equal five in the family 00:16:30.42\00:16:33.56 because of synergy. Right. 00:16:33.59\00:16:35.09 And then we get greater, we get supernatural power from family 00:16:35.12\00:16:39.56 where things that we could never have done before, 00:16:39.59\00:16:41.56 but we look at it as... 00:16:41.60\00:16:43.16 I think we take it for granted 00:16:43.20\00:16:44.53 because, "Oh, it's not really effective," 00:16:44.57\00:16:45.97 because your bond is just not strong. 00:16:46.00\00:16:48.60 So now I also have some tips for unemployed individuals. 00:16:48.64\00:16:51.67 Okay. 00:16:51.71\00:16:53.04 And these tips, very basic tips, 00:16:53.07\00:16:56.11 a 11 simple tips. 00:16:56.14\00:16:57.78 And now there's a lot of folks out there 00:16:57.81\00:16:59.18 who could be unemployed, and these are financial tips 00:16:59.21\00:17:02.18 that kind of just help you get through, 00:17:02.22\00:17:04.15 you know, I've always believed that, 00:17:04.22\00:17:07.19 you know, we have to believe, we have to have faith, 00:17:07.22\00:17:10.46 we have to have a positive mindset 00:17:10.49\00:17:13.36 and so that will be step zero before we even... 00:17:13.43\00:17:16.13 As we're unemployed, we have to make sure that 00:17:16.16\00:17:19.40 we're praying up. 00:17:19.43\00:17:21.90 That we're receiving the message from God 00:17:21.94\00:17:25.51 because maybe God wants you in that particular position 00:17:25.54\00:17:27.84 but you have to hear Him at that time. 00:17:27.88\00:17:31.38 And then we have a lot of folks out here, 00:17:31.41\00:17:32.98 long term unemployed who... 00:17:33.01\00:17:35.92 Quick story of my brother, 00:17:35.95\00:17:37.59 he was just unemployed recently. 00:17:37.62\00:17:39.62 And, you know, you looking at a family man, 00:17:39.65\00:17:42.29 he had a wife, a child, you know. 00:17:42.32\00:17:44.79 And he was unemployed and he was going unemployed 00:17:44.83\00:17:47.03 for maybe seven, eight months. 00:17:47.10\00:17:49.06 Wow, seven or eight months 00:17:49.10\00:17:50.63 that had to be so hard on everybody. 00:17:50.67\00:17:52.73 Absolutely, so we stay prayed up, 00:17:52.77\00:17:55.10 and he stayed prayed up, but you know 00:17:55.14\00:17:57.97 what got him through it was the Bible. 00:17:58.01\00:18:01.48 Why? 00:18:01.51\00:18:02.84 Because he stayed on the biblical principles of saving. 00:18:02.88\00:18:05.78 He never missed a bill. He never missed a single bill. 00:18:05.81\00:18:09.25 He had enough savings. 00:18:09.28\00:18:10.62 And even said, he said, "Ryan..." 00:18:10.65\00:18:11.99 Because, I mean, I helped him with his is savings. 00:18:12.02\00:18:13.59 So we... 00:18:13.62\00:18:14.96 I helped all my family out but I didn't spend any money 00:18:14.99\00:18:18.79 but we put together budgets 00:18:18.83\00:18:20.23 and we talked about certain things 00:18:20.26\00:18:21.63 and they go by a budget every single week. 00:18:21.66\00:18:25.33 So they never missed a bill. 00:18:25.37\00:18:27.70 Right now, he just got a job two weeks ago. 00:18:27.74\00:18:30.71 Praise God. Praise God. 00:18:30.74\00:18:32.34 And we were concerned, I was concerned, 00:18:32.37\00:18:35.01 and he said he wasn't. 00:18:35.04\00:18:37.05 He wasn't concerned at all, he said, 00:18:37.08\00:18:38.41 "I had about six months more savings." 00:18:38.45\00:18:39.85 Wow. So, you know, and he said... 00:18:39.88\00:18:43.05 This is amazing thing when you look at 00:18:43.08\00:18:44.92 all these principles come into real life. 00:18:44.95\00:18:47.79 So, I mean, you know, God works. 00:18:47.82\00:18:50.23 He works. 00:18:50.26\00:18:51.59 In instance, in all instances, God works. 00:18:51.63\00:18:54.63 He used these principles 00:18:54.66\00:18:57.13 and again, he got six months more of savings. 00:18:57.17\00:18:59.03 So I have 11 tips that 00:18:59.07\00:19:02.27 I think my brother actually used. 00:19:02.30\00:19:06.27 But he didn't per se used these tips, 00:19:06.31\00:19:08.64 but he did have... 00:19:08.68\00:19:11.65 A lot of these things he did and he went out there. 00:19:11.68\00:19:14.08 So the first thing is after he stayed prayed up, 00:19:14.15\00:19:16.92 I mean, he was on that altar every week. 00:19:16.95\00:19:19.55 Yeah, yeah. You know... 00:19:19.59\00:19:20.92 So the first one is get rid of foolish pride. 00:19:20.99\00:19:24.16 You know, one thing he did, he asked his friends. 00:19:24.19\00:19:27.03 You know, a lot of individuals when they get unemployed, 00:19:27.03\00:19:29.53 they don't want to talk to their friends, 00:19:29.56\00:19:30.90 they don't want to talk, 00:19:30.97\00:19:32.30 they're too embarrassed, they're too ashamed. 00:19:32.33\00:19:34.67 So he was asking, he said, 00:19:34.70\00:19:36.64 "Look, I'm out of work, if you have any connections, 00:19:36.71\00:19:38.81 if you have any leads, let me know. 00:19:38.84\00:19:40.51 If you know of anything, let me know." 00:19:40.58\00:19:42.28 So a lot of individuals... 00:19:42.31\00:19:45.51 Because of that, his network, your network is more prone 00:19:45.55\00:19:48.35 to give you a lead, a job lead than anybody else 00:19:48.38\00:19:51.29 because they know you, they trust you, 00:19:51.32\00:19:52.72 they love you, they want to support you. 00:19:52.75\00:19:55.22 So by you being unemployed... 00:19:55.26\00:19:57.69 And, again, he asked his family, you know, 00:19:57.73\00:20:00.10 and I was out there trying to get leads for him 00:20:00.13\00:20:02.83 and see what I could do to connect with them 00:20:02.86\00:20:04.87 and connect them to different people that I know. 00:20:04.90\00:20:06.80 So the second thing we have to do 00:20:06.84\00:20:09.44 is file for benefits, you know, if we're eligible, 00:20:09.47\00:20:12.97 you know, we should be filing for these benefits. 00:20:13.01\00:20:15.58 Especially, you have a child, you want to make sure 00:20:15.61\00:20:18.15 you can use all you can to continue to be active, 00:20:18.18\00:20:21.35 file for those benefits. 00:20:21.38\00:20:23.18 The second one is, if you need to join the ranks 00:20:23.22\00:20:26.65 of the under-employed. 00:20:26.72\00:20:28.66 Now in my brother's case, 00:20:28.69\00:20:30.39 he actually had enough savings where he could... 00:20:30.43\00:20:34.03 Again, what another tip would be 00:20:34.10\00:20:36.26 made his job searching a full-time job, 00:20:36.30\00:20:39.03 but he had signed up to be a substitute teacher. 00:20:39.07\00:20:43.14 So he has his master's. 00:20:43.17\00:20:45.71 And so literally, he had already started, 00:20:45.74\00:20:47.78 he was in maybe about three or four weeks 00:20:47.81\00:20:49.44 into going to school as a substitute teacher. 00:20:49.48\00:20:53.01 And, you know, making maybe $100, $200 a day, 00:20:53.05\00:20:56.38 you know, something in that nature 00:20:56.42\00:20:57.75 but that's a little bit more better than nothing. 00:20:57.79\00:21:00.86 Absolutely. 00:21:00.89\00:21:02.22 So that went to make sure within household. 00:21:02.26\00:21:05.19 The second one was get cheap. 00:21:05.23\00:21:06.93 You know, every single dollar counts, 00:21:07.00\00:21:09.56 we have to budget, we have to be mindful 00:21:09.60\00:21:11.43 of how much we're spending. 00:21:11.47\00:21:13.00 He did that. 00:21:13.03\00:21:14.57 They really made sure they buckle down 00:21:14.60\00:21:16.87 on the expenditures, on the going out, 00:21:16.91\00:21:19.77 as opposed to going out for dinner, 00:21:19.81\00:21:22.38 they stayed home for dinner, and they cooked a lot at home, 00:21:22.41\00:21:26.11 and they had a lot more family times at home. 00:21:26.15\00:21:28.58 When they would host individuals, 00:21:28.62\00:21:29.95 they would do potlucks. 00:21:29.98\00:21:31.39 So other individuals would cook and bring the foods 00:21:31.42\00:21:33.42 so they wouldn't have to just do it. 00:21:33.46\00:21:34.79 So but they still were able to have fun 00:21:34.82\00:21:36.73 and their friends and everybody, they came over. 00:21:36.79\00:21:39.06 So it's almost like they found very inexpensive way 00:21:39.09\00:21:43.70 or next of freeway to continue to have fun. 00:21:43.73\00:21:47.47 They made job, searching a job, he got up every single day. 00:21:47.50\00:21:50.84 And that's tip number five. 00:21:50.87\00:21:53.41 Every single day, he will get on the computer 00:21:53.44\00:21:55.08 and just search, send out resumes, 00:21:55.11\00:21:56.88 and this is the type of thing you have to do 00:21:56.91\00:21:58.38 especially now the internet is a blessing 00:21:58.41\00:22:01.42 and a curse because at the same time, 00:22:01.45\00:22:05.02 it's easy for you to be to get out there, 00:22:05.05\00:22:07.29 but at the same time, everybody else 00:22:07.36\00:22:08.69 gets out there as well. 00:22:08.72\00:22:10.06 Right. 00:22:10.09\00:22:11.43 So you just have to be diligent and just stay 00:22:11.46\00:22:14.00 and use every single avenue, every single connection, 00:22:14.00\00:22:16.33 every single resource. 00:22:16.36\00:22:17.70 Six, stay healthy. 00:22:17.73\00:22:19.17 Being healthy keeps your mind say, 00:22:19.20\00:22:21.44 as you know keep your mind fresh, 00:22:21.47\00:22:23.37 keeps you going, keeps you excited, 00:22:23.41\00:22:25.17 that's tip number six. 00:22:25.21\00:22:26.54 I mean, he still worked out every day, 00:22:26.57\00:22:28.61 he still continued to try to just be... 00:22:28.64\00:22:30.61 And it keeps his mind fresh, 00:22:30.65\00:22:32.58 and whenever you're interviewing, 00:22:32.61\00:22:34.35 you don't to be all groggy and down. 00:22:34.38\00:22:36.52 Right. Get out of it. 00:22:36.55\00:22:38.79 So he was going in a lot of interviews 00:22:38.82\00:22:40.76 after a while of searching so that kept him fresh. 00:22:40.82\00:22:44.53 Number seven, don't touch a 401(k) plan 00:22:44.56\00:22:46.56 if you can't help it. 00:22:46.59\00:22:47.93 If you touch a 401(k) plan, 00:22:47.96\00:22:49.26 what happens is that you get penalized. 00:22:49.30\00:22:50.90 Right. 00:22:50.93\00:22:52.27 And after that penalty, 00:22:52.30\00:22:54.20 you know, when you take your money out, 00:22:54.24\00:22:55.57 again, this is all if you can help it 00:22:55.60\00:22:56.94 because I can definitely understand 00:22:56.97\00:22:58.31 if you are unemployed 00:22:58.34\00:23:00.51 and you've been out for a long time, 00:23:00.58\00:23:02.71 you might have to start tapping into it. 00:23:02.74\00:23:04.41 I mean, but use that as a last-ditch effort like 00:23:04.45\00:23:07.85 that's not, don't that be the first thing. 00:23:07.88\00:23:11.32 Number eight, investing is not a priority, 00:23:11.35\00:23:14.89 you know, because again, you're unemployed, 00:23:14.92\00:23:16.52 you don't have any capital right now. 00:23:16.56\00:23:17.89 Right. 00:23:17.93\00:23:19.26 Any additional money that you even have 00:23:19.29\00:23:20.83 should not be going into stocks at this moment. 00:23:20.90\00:23:22.93 So just be real cautious and don't liquidate your stocks 00:23:22.96\00:23:28.64 right now if you can help it. 00:23:28.67\00:23:30.27 Again, I definitely understand, 00:23:30.31\00:23:31.87 I mean, when I started my business 00:23:31.91\00:23:34.94 and I own stock at the time and I had to liquidate, 00:23:34.98\00:23:37.98 and that stock essentially had to be 00:23:38.01\00:23:40.68 a huge part of starting my business. 00:23:40.72\00:23:42.98 So, you know, but it was a last-ditch effort, 00:23:43.02\00:23:45.79 it was when everything else was out. 00:23:45.82\00:23:47.36 "Hey, you know what, I need this money, 00:23:47.42\00:23:49.99 I need to put in my business 00:23:50.03\00:23:51.36 otherwise I'm not gonna be able to pay my rent, 00:23:51.39\00:23:52.83 so we did that." 00:23:52.86\00:23:55.53 Number nine, decide which bills to pay. 00:23:55.56\00:23:58.67 I can definitely understand you're unemployed, 00:23:58.70\00:24:00.94 prioritize your bills. 00:24:00.97\00:24:02.77 Well, again, when I started my business, 00:24:02.80\00:24:04.14 I was I knew that my rent was always going to get paid. 00:24:04.21\00:24:08.48 But sometimes the light bill, hey, I mean, I just, you know, 00:24:08.51\00:24:12.95 what am I supposed to do, so I had to skip it out. 00:24:12.98\00:24:15.25 I had to skip out on it. 00:24:15.28\00:24:17.02 Maybe a couple of months for the heat bill. 00:24:17.09\00:24:19.62 You know, "I ain't got it, you know, 00:24:19.65\00:24:22.89 what am I supposed to do?" 00:24:22.92\00:24:24.26 I mean, obviously caught back up 00:24:24.33\00:24:28.20 and things turned around, praise God, 00:24:28.23\00:24:30.13 but you had to decide, you had to prioritize. 00:24:30.17\00:24:33.30 I knew that I had to keep a roof over my head though. 00:24:33.34\00:24:35.10 Right. 00:24:35.14\00:24:36.47 So in those situations, you need to prioritize 00:24:36.50\00:24:38.61 and we all go through those tough times 00:24:38.64\00:24:40.54 and we have to make those tough decisions. 00:24:40.58\00:24:44.51 Number ten, you know, don't get suckered 00:24:44.55\00:24:46.98 by any financial offers that come in. 00:24:47.02\00:24:50.35 You know, a lot of times those fast money schemes 00:24:50.39\00:24:53.52 will become a whole lot more attractive to you now. 00:24:53.56\00:24:56.99 You know, nothing against... 00:24:57.03\00:24:58.69 Anybody out there that is doing multi-level marketing, 00:24:58.73\00:25:00.83 I know a lot of folks that do a multi-level marketing, 00:25:00.86\00:25:04.17 but if it's not in your passion, 00:25:04.20\00:25:06.13 if it's not what God ordained it for you to do, 00:25:06.17\00:25:08.17 it's not gonna be successful, period. 00:25:08.20\00:25:10.01 And that's with any business whether it be 00:25:10.04\00:25:11.37 a multi-level marketing or any other business venture. 00:25:11.41\00:25:14.54 So lot of times, if you're unemployed, 00:25:14.58\00:25:15.91 that multi-level marketing you could like, 00:25:15.94\00:25:17.28 "Oh, wow, you know, I can make a lot of money." 00:25:17.35\00:25:19.08 So they ask you to invest a lot of money, 00:25:19.11\00:25:21.08 you're not passionate about it therefore you just wasted it 00:25:21.12\00:25:23.22 and that's supposed to going to generate or something else. 00:25:23.25\00:25:25.62 That's critical. 00:25:25.65\00:25:26.99 And then 11, just like that step zero, have faith. 00:25:27.06\00:25:31.06 You got to stay prayed up, we have to stay delegate, 00:25:31.09\00:25:34.10 we have to stay working but again, faith, 00:25:34.10\00:25:37.17 if it's a mathematical equation, 00:25:37.23\00:25:39.10 half belief, half acting on that belief, 00:25:39.13\00:25:41.24 we put those two together, and we have a lot of faith. 00:25:41.27\00:25:44.07 And I think if we do these things 00:25:44.11\00:25:45.71 and we keep it consistent 00:25:45.74\00:25:47.08 and involve family in that job search, 00:25:47.14\00:25:49.41 things are going to come together. 00:25:49.44\00:25:51.35 And I believe that 00:25:51.38\00:25:52.71 because I believe in God, right? 00:25:52.75\00:25:54.42 So and that's what allows me to say, 00:25:54.45\00:25:56.35 it's going to happen for you and for everybody else 00:25:56.38\00:25:59.75 that believe in Christ 00:25:59.79\00:26:01.22 it's going to happen, you just can't quit. 00:26:01.26\00:26:04.29 If you quit, there's no other options for you. 00:26:04.36\00:26:05.89 And during that time, God can be working on you. 00:26:05.93\00:26:09.56 He can be helping to define your purpose 00:26:09.60\00:26:12.97 or to shed a light on your purpose, 00:26:13.00\00:26:16.04 so it's all part of the plan just hold on to the Lord. 00:26:16.07\00:26:19.64 Absolutely. 00:26:19.67\00:26:21.01 Well, speaking of holding on, 00:26:21.04\00:26:22.38 we got to hold on to your takeaway. 00:26:22.41\00:26:23.75 All right, absolutely. I look forward to it. 00:26:23.78\00:26:25.11 All right, good. 00:26:25.15\00:26:26.48 True empowerment doesn't come from government. 00:26:31.52\00:26:33.46 It comes from Jesus Christ. 00:26:33.49\00:26:34.92 And we must invite Him in each one of us, 00:26:34.96\00:26:37.23 not to say government doesn't have a role, 00:26:37.26\00:26:38.89 it certainly does. 00:26:38.93\00:26:40.60 However, the strongest role for economic recovery 00:26:40.63\00:26:43.53 comes within the household across the country 00:26:43.57\00:26:45.93 is that the each one of us to determine 00:26:45.97\00:26:47.70 how to use our skills, maximize our talents, 00:26:47.74\00:26:50.41 and fully recognize and implement 00:26:50.47\00:26:51.84 the resources in our communities 00:26:51.87\00:26:53.54 to move ourselves forward economically. 00:26:53.58\00:26:55.68 One of the most precious 00:26:55.71\00:26:57.05 and unutilized resources is the family, 00:26:57.11\00:26:59.41 those people who'd together cry at funerals, 00:26:59.45\00:27:01.65 rejoice at weddings, celebrate birthdays, 00:27:01.68\00:27:04.22 step themselves at holidays, and reminisce at reunions. 00:27:04.25\00:27:07.62 The family for many is a place to find solace 00:27:07.69\00:27:09.92 from the tough economic challenges of society. 00:27:09.96\00:27:12.83 After going through stressful times, 00:27:12.86\00:27:14.50 there is nothing better for me 00:27:14.56\00:27:15.86 than it take a trip back to my hometown, 00:27:15.90\00:27:17.90 Detroit, Michigan where all are familiar. 00:27:17.93\00:27:20.34 However, if we only look at the family for shelter, 00:27:20.37\00:27:23.27 we're missing the mark. 00:27:23.30\00:27:24.67 This familiarity has with it enormous economic potential 00:27:24.71\00:27:27.78 in the world where love, trust, dedication towards one another, 00:27:27.81\00:27:31.61 and sensitivity can be void, 00:27:31.65\00:27:33.62 these traits are more likely to be found in your own family. 00:27:33.65\00:27:36.62 However, we must maximize its potential 00:27:36.69\00:27:39.25 and take full advantage of the Family Empowerment Program. 00:27:39.29\00:27:42.19 We at Dollars and Sense want to know 00:27:42.22\00:27:43.56 if you've tried this program, 00:27:43.63\00:27:44.96 we want to hear about your results. 00:27:44.99\00:27:46.43 If you have any questions email me 00:27:46.46\00:27:47.83 at dollarsandsense@3abn.org and chat with us 00:27:47.86\00:27:51.03 on our Dare to Dream Network Facebook page. 00:27:51.07\00:27:53.13 As always, be the change. 00:27:53.17\00:27:55.07 Remember the purpose of life is a life full of purpose. 00:27:55.10\00:27:58.31 Be blessed. 00:27:58.34\00:27:59.81