Welcome back, we are now
going to meet Haylee and I just
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want to say we are doing
this whole program on looking at
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her stuff, are there any
blind spots, are you really
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being tripped up by
things that may take your life?
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How does God
bring us out of that?
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When the worst case happens,
like what happened with Lynn
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is, does God care about that?
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What was incredible to me
Haylee that God with your mom
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was there at the
very last minute.
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So I would like to start
with you telling us who you are.
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Telling us what did you
feel when you watched your aunt
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talking about your mom on death?
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Well I'm Haylee, Lynn's
daughter, and I am almost 15.
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Actually my birthday is in July.
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When my aunt was just now
talking earlier about my mom,
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some of the stuff I really
didn't know because they never
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told me, so it was
more like a big shock.
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I was more like whoa. -
What stuff didn't you know?
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I didn't know that my
mom had threatened by Me-ma.
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I didn't know that.
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You told me one time
that you would even go and get
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your mom's drugs, talk
about that a little bit.
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You told me about
going to the neighbors.
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I would be playing outside
and my mom will come and get me
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and she would be like, would
you run over to the neighbors
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house and get this for
me? I'd have a note with it.
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I would just go up to the
house and get whatever was
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needed and bring it to her.
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So even though you didn't
know what happened with your
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grandma and your mom, but
you knew about your mom's taking
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pain meds? I knew right
off the bat. - Talk about that.
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What was it like,
what was your house like?
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It was like, I wouldn't
really know how to describe it.
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It was more like confused really
sad, and why is she doing this?
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Because your mom really gave
the care of raising your sister
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on you, kind of
because she was high?
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Yeah, I did some of the
work sometimes but not all the
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time. Did you love
your mom? - very, very much,
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I was a mama's
girl. - Where you? - yes!
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Was she always strung
out, was she always using?
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I mean when you were a real
little do you remember that?
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No, it just started happening
after she had her surgery,
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but before that
she was really cool.
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She would play with us
but after her surgery she just
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went loco, she lost it
all. It was really sad.
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What age when she had
her surgery? Do you remember?
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Was I? - yes. - like 11, or 10.
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So before that it was
like a normal house? - Um hmmm.
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Where was your
dad during this time?
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He was, most of the time he
went to work and he brought us
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to my Me-ma's House and my
aunt would take us to school.
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Sometimes if he was
going to go do something,
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he does it differently.
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Was that real dad or stepdad?
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- stepdad, I've
never met my real dad.
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To this day? - to this day.
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So with, talk about
during the last part, well talk
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about who you are
spiritually first.
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I know that you are
a Christian. - Um hmmm.
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So talk about that. -
Well I have been an Adventist
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for like four years, but
when my mom was alive I really
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didn't go to church.
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I went to church and went
out to eat and stuff I wasn't
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really a big Christian.
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After she died, I opened
up and started letting God in
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and went on Kids Time
and gave my heart to God.
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- Was you blessed then?
- yes and I am now going to
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a Christian school. - right.
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What part of your mom's
journey influenced you to come
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back and look at
who God is for real?
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When she gave her life to
God, I never thought she would
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do that again, it was
like I never thought that.
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What was that like for you?
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I was happy, I was like
hey she's getting back with God
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again, and I was happy.
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Did you see the hope in her eyes
when she started doing that?
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Not really because the
night she gave her life to God
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I wasn't there, thankfully
because I was with my dad in
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Kansas City celebrating
my grandpa's birthday.
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Because that was also
the night she died? - yes!
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It was very
unexpected. - for you it was?
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Or was it for everybody
really? - really everybody.
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She was getting into rehab
and doing the whole recovery
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thing. - I was young
and didn't really know much.
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I was just like, I was
just like normal daughter until
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afterwards and all this
stuff started happening and me
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and my sister got separated
and we went somewhere else.
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So you went
different places to live?
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So not only did you really
knew, this is where I think
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a lot of people do not
realize, is you really knew how
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to care for your sister
and take that leadership role
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in the household,
so you adapted to that.
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But when mom, when you
lost your mom, not only the
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sadness with that, but
then you guys get separated?
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We rarely saw each other,
we talked on the phone all the
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time but we live so far apart,
like we were an hour apart.
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So you don't see each other
too much? - no but as things
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changed and I was going to
a Christian school, now I see
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her more often. - is
she in the same school?
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No, she is in the
same city as me. - okay!
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So your life has changed
in a lot of different ways
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since your mom's death.
What was that like because
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I can't imagine losing
my mom, especially when
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you were so young.
Did you go to counseling?
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Yes I went to counseling
ever since after she died.
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I went to counseling and
quit, I went back to counseling
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and I am still in it now.
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Does it help to be
able to talk to somebody?
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- yes and it helps to know
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there is somebody who
will not tell nobody about any
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thing I tell them,
and she is really cool.
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I get to play games and
stuff until something comes up
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in my mind that I
want to talk about.
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So she doesn't rush you or
push you to talk about stuff?
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What is the hardest thing
for you with your mom gone?
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Going through life without
her, like without her there
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it's like I don't
have a family anymore.
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Because dad is not
here anymore? - right!
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Your stepfather, he left
about the same time? Did he?
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He was cheating on my mom
when mom was in the hospital.
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Him and this other
girl, it wasn't all his fault.
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Me, I pretty much took
control of my sister and then
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after my dad had moved out
and was gone everything just
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start falling apart. - wow!
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I can't even imagine the
things you've gone through.
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Yeah, I have lost a lot.
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Yeah and your grandma
died after that too right?
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Well both, one
before and one after. - wow!
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How did you survive all of this?
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I honestly don't know,
with out God I wouldn't be
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here, I don't
know where I would be.
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I would be lost in
the desert somewhere.
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Right, you really held on
to God in prayer and definitely
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been able to talk to
somebody like a counselor.
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I'm not the type of
girl that holds stuff in,
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I have to let it out.
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If I told a lie, five
seconds later I'd have to tell
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somebody, I cannot hold stuff
in, it is hard for me to do.
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I just really want to adopt you.
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I felt like that because
we have met the few times and
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I have felt like that every
single time I meet you I feel
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like I know the pain you
have to deal with, the struggles
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that you have to go through.
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I know that sometimes you
are at a school function and you
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have neither a mother or a
father there to come in and
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watch you and my heart breaks
for you, but I also have so
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much faith in God and His
ability to lift your head up.
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This is going to
be a huge question.
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So if you tell me I just
don't understand what you're
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asking just feel
free to say that.
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We talk about the fact
that sometimes people let their
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addictions really go on
to where they don't even face
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them, they don't
even acknowledge them.
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Everybody around them suffers,
does that make sense when
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we talk about that? Did
you feel that in your own life?
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That your mom never, go
ahead and talk about that.
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When she was addicted she
was like always falling asleep.
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Me and my aunt would have
to come to get us, or me and
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my sister would walk
home from school sometimes.
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Because she
forget to pick you up?
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Yeah she would fall asleep
and like I couldn't do anything
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with her, she would
either sleep or get so scared
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she was sending me to
Me-ma's House when there was
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tornado and such. She had
some paranoia then? - yeah!
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She had some fears.
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It really affected me much,
a lot because with all this
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and just couldn't
face losing my mom.
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I never pictured it.
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So to me I like what you
said because you said sometimes
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in our addictions we
forget to pick our kids up, the
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was you, pick our
children up, and there
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is no way that somebody
can come to a game, or sing in
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the choir there is no way
for that to happen because of
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the condition, and when
you got home who fixed meals?
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Sometimes my mom did
but other times I would go
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to my aunt's
house and eat her food,
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she cooked most of the time.
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You knew if your mom was too
high to just go to your aunt's
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house and you could get
something to eat. - ah hmmm!
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Who is the adult in
the house do you think?
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Hmmm. - because I'm
thinking it was you.
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Well I'm not sure, I
don't think it was my mom much
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but I don't think it was me
because I was in that growing
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stage and I did some
stuff that wasn't the best.
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But, I'm not sure exactly.
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- so there were no
adults in the house?
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Well me acting
like one sometimes.
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It is really interesting
because every time I meet you
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and think about the fact
that it's nice in recovery for
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people to wake up to
their own condition so that
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they can bring in healing
and everybody else can like
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have a mom, have
a normal household.
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Would you have ever considered
your house normal? - no.
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The house has
never been normal, never.
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Would you invite friends over?
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Yeah I was free to bring
them over, I'm not embarrassed
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with my family and if
they don't like it then
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that is their problem.
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Even in all the craziness
you protected your family?
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Ah hmmm. - I love them,
that is huge because you have
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such a good heart, you
have such a good heart.
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If you were talking to
somebody else that was in the
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situation you
were in growing up,
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what would you say to them?
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Just grab a hold of
the Bible and don't let go.
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Hang on to God, pray
every day, read your Bible even
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though it is hard to
translate from being a normal
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regular person to an Adventist
it's going to take some
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time and a lot of
effort but with God's help
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you can do it.
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You really got a lot of
comfort with your relationship
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with God, but now I'm
going to say some that I know
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about you is that there was
a time you are angry at God.
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What does that look like
and what did you say to Him
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and how did He heal that?
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Well I was like, after my
mom died, why God? Why take
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her away from me? She
was the only thing I had.
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I don't know how I healed
but I started going to church
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and got baptized
and was in Pathfinders.
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So you surrounded yourself
with people that believed
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in God? - Um hmmm.
- a lot of support.
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To me I, do you
remember, like when you said,
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you asked God why
did You take her from me?
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Can you remember those
prayers and did you get
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a sense of God's love for you?
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I got a sense of it, like
my heart was just touched,
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I felt so bad after I
said it, but I don't remember
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the prayers, it was so long ago.
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I love what you're saying
that you got a sense that your
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heart was touched,
that God did hear me.
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What I think for someone
who has to go through that kind
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of pain is that the
reality is that God is the only
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innocent party, I have a
feeling that God a lot of times
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tried to get your
mom to stop using.
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If you know what I mean?
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That the whole
situation was heartbreaking.
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In some parts I'm glad
that my mom did die because
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I wouldn't be this close
to God, I wouldn't be here
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right now, I
wouldn't be an Adventist.
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I don't know who I
would be but after my mom died
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I got so close to God.
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Most people it would be hard
for them to understand that,
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but it changed your whole life.
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It did, I stopped
eating pork and everything.
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I feel so much better now.
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- changed your diet and stuff.
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So you know what I want
to say is that I know that
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you are in a Christian school
right now and it has really
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been difficult for you to
stay in a Christian school
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because financially
there is no money anywhere.
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You asked me, tell me what
you asked me before we started
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the program. - if I can
mention something about to keep
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staying in a Christian
school because right now money
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I don't even like the sound
of that word because it has
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caused much trouble and I
don't really want to go back to
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public school. I
don't like it there at all.
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I have lots of friends
there but I don't like it there.
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Because the direction you
would go into public school is
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probably not as safe? - yeah.
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You know that everything in
me tells you to not even try
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drugs, don't drink, don't
use don't do anything because
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you have that addictive
gene in you, but what you are
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saying is I wish I could
stay in Christian schools,
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so what would be the
only way that you could stay?
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If I had some help, some
sponsors, some people who would
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like to help out a little bit.
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So I have to say we never
do this on this program, but I
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am asking for a sponsor,
I'm just asking if there is
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anybody that could sponsor
Haylee's education and you are
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out there and hearing this,
I beg you to get a hold of us.
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truestepministries.org
and we will put
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you guys together. You
know you are going to have a
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battle, we talk about
the blind spots in your mom.
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The addictions that she
had to deal with in her life
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and how you begin not even
to see the fact that I'm not
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picking my kids up, and am
not doing all that stuff but
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in your sadness sometimes
there's blind spots in your
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own life, do you see any blind
spots for things that maybe
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you have to make
sure you pay attention to?
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Some of them yes,
but not all the time.
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Some spots are like blind
but other spots I see clearly.
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What kind of things do you
deal with that you see clearly,
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that you know I have
to pay attention to this.
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I have to bring it up with
counseling, or with my friends.
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When ever I start missing
my mom, whenever I do some
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thing I'm not proud of it
and my faith in God and myself
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get really low,
it's like it's time.
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So you can feel that
slide? Right, you can feel that
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all of a sudden I'm feeling
depressed, I may be thinking
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or saying things
that are not good.
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Do you have negative
thoughts that you deal with?
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Yes, to be honest all the time.
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What's really if you
didn't that would be so unusual,
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because you have been through
a lot, but even with those
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negative thoughts,
being able to not ignore them,
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you really do want to talk to
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the counselor or your
Pastor or your aunt or somebody.
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Call me up, we're Face
Book friends, Face Book me.
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But those negative thoughts
if they stay, they literally
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create blind spots that get
you in a place where your life
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changes, do you
know what I mean?
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Your current life, so
being able to say I'm not
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going to let those things
just go without being brought
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out to someone.
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What does your
negative thinking look like?
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What kinds of
things you think about?
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Negative thoughts, like about
me being fat, why am I here?
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- being alone? - yeah.
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So all those
things and you know what?
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I used to think that,
because my parents were addicts,
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so one of the things I have
in common with you and it is
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hard to explain to somebody,
is that even at the best of
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best an addict is
very self focused.
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They don't give their
children a lot because they are
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asleep, if you know what I mean?
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They are doing something
else, it's not that they don't
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love us, they
just don't give a lot.
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So nobody probably has
told you, you are beautiful.
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Because I know when I tell
you that you look at me and
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smile and look away right away.
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But you need to surround
yourself with people who will
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say you are beautiful
and what you have to offer is
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going to be incredible.
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I know that at one point
you even talked about someday
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you would like
to be in ministry.
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What is that all about?
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Well I want to help people
who have been through what
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I have been through, I
want to help them step by step
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with God's help, I
don't want to sit back and
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see all the stuff happening.
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I want to actually know
and help the people that are
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going through some of the stuff.
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To be able to see them,
people who are having drugs in
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their family, people that
are going through death with
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somebody that they love?
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Anything else? -
Just about like drugs too,
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everything pretty much.
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To me what is the
e-mail that you have?
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Hayleeministries@yahoo.com
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I love that Haylee's
ministries, so already you're
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thinking in that direction,
you really are looking at
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how is God going to use
this and how am I going to stand
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up and how all my going to
reach out to the people around
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me that are going
through the same kind of things.
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I just have to say, there
is a part of me that my heart
00:19:43.86\00:19:47.78
breaks for the things
that you have to see, or had to
00:19:47.81\00:19:51.70
see this young because
you are so young still.
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But I also look at you
and think that you are an
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incredible young
Christian that is standing up in
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ministry and I
am so proud of you.
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Is there anything else
that you need to tell us about
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your journey that you
think would be important to say?
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Just keep your focus on
God and don't let go no matter
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how hard the devil
tries, just don't, don't even.
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He will try, he will
because he's tried on me a lot.
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Keep your focus on
God as much as you can.
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Thank you so much
for being on the program.
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Thank you for every
single thing you brought to this
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topic from your mom to what
you have dealt with and even
00:20:39.79\00:20:44.48
what you are going
to take in to ministry.
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I just enjoyed
hanging out with you.
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Thank you I
enjoyed it too. - cool!
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Now what I would like for
everyone to think about as
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we close is that we are
talking about our blind spots.
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We are talking about the
things they can actually take
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us down, and I didn't mean
to get so heavy with this at
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first, but what I believe
more than anything is that our
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addictions will destroy us.
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What I saw when I met
Haylee and Bobby and Tammy,
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when I met them the first
time, is that they are dealing
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with Lynn and what
happened with Lynn and they were
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powerless to do anything for her
because she was locked in this
00:21:22.98\00:21:27.41
addiction unto the very end.
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I am thrilled that she came
back around at the very end.
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I really believe that we
have a God that if I can say to
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God that I am done, I'm
going to turn this over to you.
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Please through the Holy Spirit
show me every single thing that
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I need to know to break out
of my denial, to break out of my
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addiction and if I have to
I'll ask people that I love,
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all as my husband or my
daughter or my best friend.
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Is there anything that you
see that I am needing to look
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at that I am not
paying attention to.
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Whether it is pride, whether
it is anger, or whether it
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is what a lot of us are just
too sensitive and we respond
00:22:06.27\00:22:09.65
to everything, to hang
out with us is like walking
00:22:09.68\00:22:12.30
on eggshells sometimes.
00:22:12.34\00:22:13.90
We have to look at all
that stuff, am I dying in my
00:22:13.93\00:22:17.98
addictions and doing
all that stuff and get that
00:22:18.02\00:22:20.29
information from someone
else and let the Holy Spirit
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direct you into recovery,
direct you back to a right
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relationship with God.
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And in the Lamentations I'd
love this in Lamentations it
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says, "let us examine
our ways." Lamentations 3:40
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"let's examine our ways and
let us turn back to the Lord."
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Let us look at all our
stuff and let us pay attention.
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I just want to say the
thousand times, pay attention
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because recovery is not
only stopping the addiction.
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Recovery is not only
turning away from that but it is
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what ever trips you up as
far as this character stuff.
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Surrender that, be done
with that and let God show you
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who you actually are and
how blessed you are in Him and
00:23:00.51\00:23:04.65
turn back to your
relationships and love on
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the people around you
and let them love on you.
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I had a great time, this
was a heavy topic but you met
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some incredible folks and I
am glad that you are with us.
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Remember to look at your
stuff no matter what it looks
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like, ask people were my
blind spots are and stay with
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us all season because we
are going to cover a lot of
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this so until then remember
that God is crazy about you
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and me too,
goodbye and God bless.
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