Welcome to
Celebrating Life In Recovery!
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I'm Cheri your host and
today we're going to talk about
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recovery, but from my
husband's point of view.
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I'm a little bit frightened
about this because I don't
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know what he is going to say.
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It's going to be fun, come
in and join us at the café.
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You know I love the fact
that my husband is here on
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this particular episode,
but it is a little scary because
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who knows what
he is going to say.
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You may find out stuff
about me that I'm not willing to
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share yet, but I want to
say for a lot of people that,
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first of all I want to
welcome you guys to the café.
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It is really nice to have
you and I know that people have
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come from all over the place.
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And Brad, I
love having you here.
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In my recovery what was
really interesting the is
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I have fought like crazy
to deal with drug addiction,
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and that was just a minor one.
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But to deal with relationship
things to deal with coming
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out of lifestyle, you
know homelessness for 10 years.
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I could manipulate the
best of them, and then I marry a
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Boy Scout, and he was so easy.
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God is telling me don't do
it, I want you to learn to be
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his wife, so not only in
my own recovery but now I am
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married and I have someone
else I now need to think about.
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I need to now, in an intimate
way, be real enough with
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someone, that we
grow as a couple.
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I didn't know how to be
real, I didn't know to trust,
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Brad is low
keyed, I want some drama.
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I want someone to fight
with me, and he would look at me
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at times, and say you know
what hon, I think that is your
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issue and I would
think, my issue get over here.
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We're fighting, so it was
really interesting the first
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few years of our relationship.
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Watching God working with
my recovery, watching God work
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with Brad and his new wife,
and watching God do all these
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things, but dynamics are
different once you're married.
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In saying that I jump into a
love relationship with Christ.
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I'm telling you that I love
God and I got into Ministry.
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When Brad and I got
together I wasn't in the church,
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I hadn't been doing any
of that, I had been hurt,
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I had left the church, I met
him so when I started to look
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at who I am in Christ, not only
who am I in my own recovery,
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but with God in my life,
I'm looking at Brad who said,
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I'm just not
interested in this stuff.
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Not that he didn't believe
in God on some level, but it
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wasn't a part of his life,
I would wanting to share that.
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For the first, I would have
to say, maybe 14 years of our
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relationship he
just wasn't interested.
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So we're going to talk
about some of that stuff.
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How difficult that was, and
had God kept telling me things
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like, Cheri he will be
okay, I love him and he will be
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okay, he's going to stand up.
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I was like when! When
is he standing up because
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I want him to
stand up right now.
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I would come back a major
event, I would watch God almost
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part the sea
emotionally for someone.
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I'd watch so many lives
change in ways that were
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unbelievable and I would come
back and want to share that.
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But if you're not into
that, you just don't know.
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It is like it is hard to
hang in with someone while they
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are talking so I
would basically say when.
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The funniest thing, I started
to say I don't think he is
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ever going to
change God, I don't think
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he's ever to change.
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You're going to hate me for
this but God really nailed me
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on this one, but one time
he is late and he was at work,
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working late, and I
thought what if he got
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in a car accident?
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If he got in a car
accident and something happened
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horribly, maybe I just
could marry a Christian.
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Do you know what I mean?
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God said, Cheri what
are you thinking? Stop!
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It got to the point where I
am growing in my recovery and
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we are married now and
dealing with each other.
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We are dealing with each
others stuff, each other's
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spiritual growth, and I
can't wait to share what God
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did with that.
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If you are living with a non-
Christian, if you are married
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to somebody that is not in
the same place as you in your
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recovery, in your growth.
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I want you to known to hang
in there, asked the Holy Spirit
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to give you some patience
and insight because what He does
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with us is absolutely amazing.
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What He does when we do
hang in there and stay with
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somebody through their journey.
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God stays with us in our journey
and we stay was someone in
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their journey and it is
absolutely the coolest thing.
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So I'm going to cut this
short, I want you to meet Brad
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and I want you to share
with us what happened and how
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God stood this man up
and eventually taught me
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how to love and trust.
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It was absolutely amazing so
we will be right back and I'll
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introduce you to my
husband, it's too fun.
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