Hi! I'm C. A. Murray, welcome
to season number three of
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Celebrating Life in Recovery.
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Now you have heard them
talk about reality television,
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well this is
real life television.
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This is television raw,
this is television as it is
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lived, this is life
changing television.
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Stay by, stay with us!
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Season three of
Celebrating Life in Recovery is
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ready to come to you!
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Welcome back! First of all
I have to say this, because I
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never get to
say this to anybody.
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Does it seem cheesy
when you do that open?
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Because it does to me
sometimes, because I do an open
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it does seem a little bit dry.
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Now talking about cheesy, I
need to say something to you
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before you get rolling
because it is hard to believe we
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are in our 3rd season.
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I know - that we've
gone this far this fast.
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It's amazing it's been
an amazing journey, the
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feedback
absolutely is incredible.
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Yeah but I want to thank
you for being transparent,
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you know and for
leading us through this.
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It's a whole new kind of
a thing for us and we tape
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bunches of shows together
- you know I only have 2
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brain cells so I can't be
anything but, do you know that?
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But what is incredible
about this whole experience is
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because I have written three
books, and they kind of deal
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with a lot of this subject
matter and I never go back to
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them because it's kind of
tough re-reading lives that have
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been torn apart
and put back together.
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And we relive this through
you each time, and after 2
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weeks of doing show
after show after show
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the crew is like whoa.
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It takes up so much oxygen
that you need to regroup and
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just thank you for having the
strength to re-visit your own
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past, and your own
road to recovery, and then
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taking us on that journey.
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Because it has been a fantastic
journey and we have had
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2 excellent seasons and
we haven't seen nothing yet
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really, we really haven't
seen anything yet because
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I have no idea.
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First of all I want to
talk about why chose the book I
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chose this season,
every season we've had a book.
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Steps to Christ, the
Coming of the Comforter, with
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the Holy Spirit and this
season I've got a book called
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Exalting His Word.
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The reason I got this with my
friend Shelly Quinn is because,
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I realize that sometimes in
recovery we step into recovery
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and we think we know what
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our issues are, we
know what our junk is, and
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I think that unless really
get into the Word of God and see
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God's take on who we are that
our heart is still deceiving us.
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We're still rationalizing
stuff, I can pretty much
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still do this, I can lie
a bit, I can do this a bit,
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and God is saying, you
know what, get into the Word.
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You literally will see
what I mean by recovery and when
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He shows us,
that I'm like, really!
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So not even
exaggerating, and God says,
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no exaggerating
is actually lying.
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I'm like, but God it is
more fun, and He is just saying
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you know what in this
part of your recovery, as you
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journey into that, is that
I'm getting into the Word of
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God, not because I am going
to give you more brownie points
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of what you do, not because
I'm somehow thinking this is
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what you do because I said so.
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He said it literally will
reflect your damage and you
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will come to Me more honestly.
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And so this season is
about coming to God in a more
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honest way - yeah,
yeah I really like that.
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You know the text
that comes to mind is
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Jeremiah 17:9, I'll
take a second to read it.
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"The heart is
deceitful above all things and
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desperately
wicked, who can know it?"
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You know when you get a
glimpse of that God just says
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let me to show you a little bit.
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And I'm just
thinking man, man is that me?
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And He is like absolutely
- yeah - and you are thinking
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absolutely are you kidding me?
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He kisses you on the face
because He doesn't want you to
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feel bad - right - but He
says don't get too carried
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away with yourself because
you can deceive yourself and
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not even know it.
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We had a professor in
college who used to say this all
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the time, and I didn't get
it then, I understand it now.
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He would say that as
bad as that is to breathe
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secondhand smoke, it is worse
to blow smoke up your own nose.
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And he would say that all
the time and I would think
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what is this guy talking about?
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I love that - but it is a
good statement as bad as it
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breathe other's smoke,
to play games with your own
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mind, to poison yourself,
you have got to be real.
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Because the Lord knows
you, and you have said this over
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and over, and God knows
your junk so why play games with
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your own head because God knows.
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Okay so saying that, and
you said in a cheesy tease,
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that you said how
raw this show was.
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So somebody called and
said you should interview so and
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so and I said okay.
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All of a sudden I realize,
so and so is a Strip Club Owner.
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Well with my background,
and a sister still locked in
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that lifestyle, she just
ended up in ICU after a 3rd
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DUI and all that kind of stuff.
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And she is in the business
and I am looking at this
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Strip Club owner, and I
do not want to interview him.
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All of a sudden I am realizing
I'm not feeling good about this.
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I literally could not get
beyond it and when I came in
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and I went to meet
him here at the studio.
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Hi my name is Cheri and
I'm going to shake his hand,
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literally in a spiritual
sense I felt my hands around
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his throat and wanted to
say to you realize the damage
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you have done, are you
truly in recovery because if
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you're not don't play me.
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I was just so, and people
around me, you guys have not
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seen me angry and I am
literally feeling that.
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So J. D. comes, and he's like
let's pray, so we are praying
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and I was able, through the
prayers of my friends in the
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studio and through my own
relationship with God is to
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allow God to process that with
me and this owner, but He did it
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on the show with the cameras
on, and both of us really
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stepped into our
healing in different way.
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So I am going, I'm
going to show you some of the
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shows for this season.
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So Michael Ehm is a
Strip Club owner, so we are
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going to talk about him.
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Lemuel Vega, who had been
in prison, was just basically
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a bad guy and really has
been through some stuff and now
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he is just doing
an amazing thing.
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The 3rd person I want to
show on this particular clip
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is Mark and Luke, and I
want to see these clips because
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the show is very raw
and what we did this season,
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through the power of God
was absolutely, it surprised me
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how much we covered in
how honestly it was covered.
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Alright!
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You know I felt like
hey I could make this work.
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So then one day my mother
was in the grocery store, and
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she always had a put
back the grocery she couldn't
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really afford, like
the extra things I mean.
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She would get the bread
and the things that she needed,
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the necessities and if
there was enough money left she
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would by these few things.
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One day I was able to give
my mother some money and said
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here mom buy it all.
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And she said where
did you get the money son?
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I said mom I worked for
it, and at that young age in my
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life I thought that if I
could have enough money, money
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would take care of the
problems for the car, the house.
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Money would fix life's problems
and you know what by the
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time I was 18 years old
I had thousands of dollars.
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And my dad was right, he
always said son if you don't
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straighten up he said your
going to be in prison by the
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time you are 18 years old.
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I had to cry at 18
years old, I had to cry and
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look through that little
window and my dad was sitting
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on the other side.
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I said daddy you are
right, and I said I'm sorry.
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So through all that, our lives
are so messed up, unmanageable
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It's pretty dark, very
dark and I survive in this thing
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because I'm going through
the money because I'm always
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told what you could
you do with your days off?
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I can fly here - and I literally
watched as a girl killed herself
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and the club owner says
who's going to fill her shift?
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Yeah - and I just wanted
to stop and say, does anybody
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care that she
just killed herself?
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I was just so hurt and it
was all about who is going to
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fill her shift because we
need to have this many girls
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on at this shift - Yeah!
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Yeah and you had to
stick to that amount girls
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and if you go lower you go
higher, you go too high the
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girls complain, and if
they don't have enough,
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and the owners complain.
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And I really appreciate
that too, I have had girls that
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have died in my club too.
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From overdoses, or people
that have stalked them and
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killed them, from boyfriends
that have assassinated them.
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It really grieved my
heart and I think that through
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death the Lord used that
because as I got involved with
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these clubs, and worked in them.
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Things got darker for me
and I started participating in
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very illicit type sex - right.
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And I remember opening the
door of the truck and I did
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want to look back because
I knew it was going to be bad
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because we had moved.
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And I turned by head and
the car had been pushed up
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beside us the roof was tore
off on the driver's side and was
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sticking up in the air.
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I walked back there, picked
up the liner, the headliner
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of the car and the
3 girls were in there.
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You can see them -
yes and nobody was moving.
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Then they asked is
anyone hurt and I stopped for a
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second and thought, you
know what I haven't even seen
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the car were my wife
and mom were riding in.
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I thought I don't know
so, and she said that was fine
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emergency crews
are on their way.
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So I hung up and to get to
the U-Haul's since there was
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a big pile up behind as I
had to crawl under the semi
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trailer that we been hit into.
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When I got on their side
I saw the car and it didn't
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really look like a car I
mean it was just so destroyed.
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Oh wow powerful! You
know I had an opportunity to
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interview Mike Ehm, he
was here some months ago and I
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caught that interview - I
bet you were nicer to him?
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Yeah I was - I was not
very nice at first - but what
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you approached it from
an entirely different place.
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We were just trying to
get his story out because
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it is a powerful story.
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But you, again Celebrating
Life in Recovery, you dealt more
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with the damage of being
in that lifestyle, the damage
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inflicted on yourself, and the
damage you inflicted on others.
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Where we talked more
specifically about the healing
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in the history, and you
dealt with the nuts and bolts of
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what that stuff does to people.
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It was huge - powerful
stuff - and what was so amazing
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to me, about presenting
those 3 stories, is that God
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literally, with Michael
and the Strip Club owner.
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That morning in my own
devotions, I'm doing this whole
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study on forgiveness, not
realizing that God is setting
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me up so I can forgive him
in the studio, on that program.
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I'm thinking God how cool
are you, I did even realize I
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had that much animosity
still in me for the damage that
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was put on me
while I was homeless.
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So it was just amazing.
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We did another show, and
it got us say another group
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that came in, some
friends of mine came in from LA.
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One is a stripper and she
found God and literally, she
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finds God and steps into
recovery and she is full of joy.
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We also had Shannon, that's were
John From Every Woman's Battle
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talking about sexual addictions
and coming out of that.
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She was so strung out sexually,
I mean she was so strung out.
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Not even realizing it she
gets married to a guy that is
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normal, I mean to say normal he
was like a virgin when they got
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married, I didn't think that
any one was still doing that.
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And I know that they are,
- or not doing that - but you
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know, are not
doing that whatever.
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She talks about her coming
from acting out horribly and
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her husband coming from
a place where he has saved
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himself for her, and had
God walked them into healing.
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She was amazing and
then we had a gay pastor that
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literally came out of the
lifestyle and was so blessed
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by God that he works with
other men that are coming out
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lifestyle which - that's
why this is so important.
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We've talked bout every
man's problem, and when you
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think about sexual addiction
and those kind of things
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you think Guy,
Guy, Guy, Guy, Guy.
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That has been sort of dealt
with but here we find out that
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this is not just a male
issue, we see that it's a female
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issue too, a human issue.
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After we did the last
season where we had Fred Stoeker
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on with Every Man's Battle,
women were e-mailing me and
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calling me up and
saying what about us?
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Not realizing that we are
in the sexualized society, we
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show on the media and how
we have programmed ourselves
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to respond visually.
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We are creating the same
kind of sexual addiction in
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women that we have in men
because of the visual thing.
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Women's sexual
addiction from the past,
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is literally being tweaked a
little bit and becoming similar
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to men's addiction and so
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to cover that was
absolutely huge, but to step out
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and cover that I am,
I'm a little bit afraid.
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God is saying please don't
be afraid because we need to
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heal, and so watch these
you are going to be blessed.
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After a few years the
fireworks don't pop anymore when
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he kisses me and it
just becomes normal.
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Well I didn't know what
normal felt like, to me normal
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felt like it's over you
must not really be my soul mate.
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Right - that I must
married the wrong person.
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I had no idea that we
weren't burning out, we were
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really just warming up here.
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One thing that did seem to
be predictable unfortunately,
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was set there was this thread of
sexual abuse throughout my life.
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I was exposed to
pornography at 3 years old, and
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molested by multiple
people, men and women,
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and raped as a teenager.
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It just really took its toll
on me because I internalized it.
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I thought I blamed myself
like a lot abused victims do
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and I just thought that
something must be wrong with me
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because how do I keep
ending up in the situations?
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How do I keep drawing these
sort of people into my life,
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so I really dealt with a
lot of blame and a lot of shame
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and didn't talk about it.
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She's like no, no, no
you can't take me home, I'm
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like I'm taking you home, there
is no way you're going to walk.
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So she gets in the car
with me and we drive to downtown
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and before I know
it we are on skid row.
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Which is the worst part in
LA, like you know the worst -
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I've been there -
yeah, so you know it's awful.
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So we are down there my
heart is breaking inside.
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She said that's mine that's
mine on the corner but can
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you drop me here,
which is like 3 blocks back.
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I said no, no, no all park
my car and a walk you in, and
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just with this look on her
face, she was just humiliated
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like please,
please just drop me off.
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I felt terribly guilty
- all the time - oh I just
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didn't know anyone like me.
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I felt like was the only
one in the world, I knew better.
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I had never met anyone
else that was struggling with
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what I was struggling with.
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I never knew who I could
talk to so I didn't, I just
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totally internalized and
that was my demise spiritually.
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Now had I at 4 years old
had been able to go to my
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parents and tell what happened,
they could have assured
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me that I was okay - and
that shame would have been
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laid on you - that's right.
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I could've been healed at
the age of 4 and could have
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had a normal life, I believe.
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That was a step, there
are many factors involved it's
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not any one thing,
but that was a step.
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Well Cheri will we think
of a possible afflictions and
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addictions that humanity
has, we never think that our
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pastor could be suffering
from this kind of thing,
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because we kind of put
them on a pedestal and we want
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them be pure, yet they are
humans and they come from a
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real world with real problems.
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Do you know what is really
amazing to me is that the more I
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get into Ministry the more
that if I allow, because you're
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like my boss, you know
what I love that, because you
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are so incredible with that.
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But if I allow you
to be human, you are not
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going to trip up as easy.
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You know I think if I put
you on a pedestal and I don't
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allow you to make mistakes,
and I don't allow you to say
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you know what I'm having a
bad day or whatever, is that
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you are going to trip up easier.
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So I am really learning
that even if it is a pastor,
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that is a pastoral gift
let them be accountable to you,
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let them have issues that
they struggle with, but the
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fact that they will walk through
them honestly is incredible.
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If they don't share
were somebody there are going
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to trip up and get
themselves in trouble.
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I think they would be
worthy of more respect when you
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realize that they are
also fighting their own demons,
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and fighting them successfully,
so that when he says you
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can beat this Cheri,
he's coming from a place of
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knowledge not theory.
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Because he has
beaten it in his own life.
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And there were some people
that have done that - yeah!
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they will say you can
beat this because it says
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in Scripture, and I'm thinking
what does it say in your life?
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Because right now I just
need skin on what it says.
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So if you share that, that
is why I'm so blessed by the
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folks that have been on
the show because they literally
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are sharing what they
have been through and how the
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Scriptures have helped.
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I'm going to go back to
the Exalting His Word because
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that is the book for the season.
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And I have shared this
book the least of any book we
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have had on because my
computer was stolen and you'll
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learn that through the season.
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My computer were stolen in
the airport on the way so I
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lost all my notes, but the
book is, I just want you to
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keep this in Shelly Quinn's
book on page 126, she goes
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over instructions on how
to kind of stay in Scripture,
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how to get into Scripture.
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One is in the morning to
devote some time, you know and
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she said 30 minutes a
day, I am thinking right now
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what ever you can put in.
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Get up to 30 minutes a
day, get up to an hour every
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day or what ever but I think
right now just opening the book.
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I would begin with
prayer seriously, some people
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say how do I pray.
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Just hey God, you know I'm here
again today just talk to Him.
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And 3, speak affirmations
and supporting Scriptures aloud.
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Like when I first got in
the Word of God and it says I'm
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a new creature in Christ
and that God knows my stuff.
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Psalm 51 talks about, the
Psalmist, whatever you decide
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about me is right because
I have all this junk - right!
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And God decides I'm innocent
and He wants to bring me
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back into His fold, and
not innocent in that I haven't
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acted out, but because
the blood of the Lamb has
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covered me I am now looked
at as if I had never sinned.
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So that I learned in Scripture
and began to speak that into
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your life - it takes a little
time to wrap your mind around
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that because that is a whole
new way thinking about yourself.
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I'm a woman of God, I am in
Ambassador for Christ, and so
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be careful when you
think you are my boss.
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You know God will contend
with those who contend with me
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and all that stuff.
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So you write that down.
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And repeat affirmations
throughout the day, when you are
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going throughout the day.
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I was really struggling with
who I am in my past you know.
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I am a liar, I
manipulate, I have this horrible
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background were are
was homeless for 10 years.
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So I learned a horrible
stuff on the streets, how to
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play people and all that.
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I believe the devil just
flooded me one day with the
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reality of who I am, I
couldn't argue anything.
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I couldn't say that's not
me and that stuff and all of a
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sudden a Scripture comes to
mind that I am dead to that.
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Yeah - that the old man
of sin is dead, and I started
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crying because I thought,
you know what if I dead to that
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do I still have to still listen.
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God said absolutely not,
don't even listen to those
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thoughts of this is who
you are because you are dead to
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who you are as a
incredible child of God grafted
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onto Christ
because He did that for us.
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So it is like being
able to get into the Word and
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literally start repeating
what it says because what you
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think is true,
none of it's true.
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You know none of it is
true, we are so far removed from
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what actually is true
that we don't even know.
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So the word of God
reflects that to us.
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And number 5 says
conclude with prayer and praise.
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If I can get the fact that
now coming from homelessness,
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illiterate and all that
kind of stuff, that I am a woman
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of God, stood up in Christ,
in the Holy of Holies, in the
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presence of my Father
because Christ invited me there.
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And He dresses me and
puts me a priestly garments and
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sends me out into the world.
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When demons see me they
see a woman of God, not just
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somebody in jeans and a T-shirt,
and they literally have to back
00:19:48.23\00:19:51.50
off, because of
the Holy Spirit in me.
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I'm thinking that is powerful
stuff, but if I don't know
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that, I can't step into
that place of authority and that
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boldness of who I am in Christ.
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So it literally says to repeat
that and then praise God for it.
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And if you don't
feel it, so what!
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So what and I don't mean
it in a disrespectful way, but
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it is almost like if somebody
was stolen at birth from a
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from a King's family, and
literally gets returned when
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they are in their 30's.
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It doesn't matter if they
don't feel like they are a
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member of the family, they
are they were stolen at birth.
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So it's like being able to
in your mind get that sense
00:20:27.29\00:20:30.08
that somebody robbed you
of your birthright, and Christ
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is trying to restore that and
bring you back to restoration.
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And the last one just
kills me because I wanted to say
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Shelly why did you
put that in this book?
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In the book it
says be consistent, DAH!
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I'm an addict in recovery do
you know what I mean, it's like
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I'm not consistent about
anything, but be consistent.
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Remember that this is
your life line, this is more
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important to you than the
food you putting your body.
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So if I know that the Word
of God, what the Word of God
00:20:56.44\00:20:59.72
says is more important for
me to get a grip on than the
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food that I put in my
body and to be consistent every
00:21:02.75\00:21:05.68
day, at least do
this basic stuff.
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Of course then repeat it
when you get up in the morning.
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And not wait for the
feeling drive yourself through,
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discipline yourself.
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You know Paul gives
that yucky list of sins in
00:21:15.39\00:21:19.65
parentheses, it says these
people are not going to hear
00:21:19.69\00:21:22.54
the kingdom and then he
says in some such were of you.
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You used to be, that I used
to be that, but you are washed.
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Liars, drug addicts,
homosexuals, porn addicts I mean
00:21:28.39\00:21:31.21
you can list all that
kind of stuff - and you used to
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be that, but you are
not anymore - exactly.
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And whether you feel it or
not, it's not important, go
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with God's Word, because
he says if you come he is
00:21:38.82\00:21:41.72
faithful and just,
you know 1 John 1:9,
00:21:41.75\00:21:43.67
to forgive and to cleanse.
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That is His job, your
job is to say Lord I can't do
00:21:45.02\00:21:48.54
anything, you know I can't
do anything, You have to do it.
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When you say that,
He's going to do that and
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that's what this show is.
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The Ron Woolsey's of
the world, Shannon Ethridge,
00:21:55.27\00:21:57.28
what a powerful testimony.
00:21:57.32\00:21:58.47
You know she's stripping -
she rocked us - and the spirit
00:21:58.50\00:22:00.66
of God is coming into her
life and all of a sudden she
00:22:00.69\00:22:02.77
feels her nakedness and she
says this is not right anymore.
00:22:02.81\00:22:07.01
And with Harmony - literally
Harmony literally turning
00:22:07.05\00:22:10.26
around to do a lap dance
for somebody, and I don't know
00:22:10.29\00:22:13.53
how raw you want to get,
you said this is a raw show but
00:22:13.57\00:22:16.86
literally as she turns
around all of a sudden God just
00:22:16.89\00:22:20.15
shows her who she is in Christ.
00:22:20.19\00:22:21.67
She says I was looking for
fig leaves, I was so shamed,
00:22:21.71\00:22:24.88
not because God shamed
me, and God showed me who I am
00:22:24.92\00:22:28.06
and I don't belong here - yeah.
00:22:28.10\00:22:29.68
I don't belong here, rocked
into the house of God from
00:22:29.71\00:22:31.95
that point on and never
went back to that life - and
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where does God meet you Cheri?
00:22:34.23\00:22:35.48
He meets you right where
you are, does He wait for
00:22:35.52\00:22:37.21
you have to get in the
dressing room and get dressed
00:22:37.25\00:22:38.87
no, because you are standing
there naked and God says hey,
00:22:38.91\00:22:40.79
not cool anymore.
00:22:40.82\00:22:42.42
And at that moment the
Holy Spirit is in your life yeah
00:22:42.46\00:22:44.54
because He loves you.
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It's the absolute it is
so huge and what is really
00:22:45.84\00:22:49.54
amazing to me about, and I
just got a say over and over
00:22:49.58\00:22:52.37
again, I am so grateful to
be able to do this program,
00:22:52.40\00:22:54.96
because I know that there
are people out there still in
00:22:54.99\00:22:57.69
the lifestyle, still acting
out, still in front of their
00:22:57.73\00:23:00.28
computer looking at porn
and stuff like that and I just
00:23:00.31\00:23:02.83
want to say to you
get into the Word of God.
00:23:02.86\00:23:06.65
Don't wait to get to where
you feel convicted and change,
00:23:06.68\00:23:09.91
because you may
never get that conviction.
00:23:09.94\00:23:12.01
You may never
within yourself be able to
00:23:12.04\00:23:14.07
even see the shame of it.
00:23:14.11\00:23:15.54
God says you know what,
let Me unfold it for you.
00:23:15.58\00:23:18.94
For one He says He doesn't
like in Romans 8:1, He says
00:23:18.98\00:23:22.31
I do it without condemnation.
00:23:22.34\00:23:23.31
He doesn't come in and
say I want you feel bad enough
00:23:23.32\00:23:25.70
about this that you quit,
He says know I want you to feel
00:23:25.73\00:23:28.39
loved enough to walk
away from who you are not.
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Do you know what I mean?
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That is absolutely, it
is absolutely huge, the
00:23:32.12\00:23:35.23
difference, so sometimes
we want to shame ourselves and
00:23:35.27\00:23:37.89
quit our behaviors, and we want
to white knuckle it, and I don't
00:23:37.93\00:23:40.10
want to do that again.
00:23:40.14\00:23:41.26
I don't want to smoke
again, I'm not going to go to a
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house of prostitution.
00:23:43.42\00:23:44.81
I'm not going to another
Strip Club, I'm not going to
00:23:44.85\00:23:47.03
have an affair or my husband
and all that kind of stuff.
00:23:47.06\00:23:49.32
I'm not going to do any
of that and God says you know
00:23:49.36\00:23:51.98
what, in your own power
you do not even understand the
00:23:52.02\00:23:54.60
wrongness of it yet.
00:23:54.64\00:23:55.71
So step into the Word of
God, step in, exalt His word and
00:23:55.74\00:23:59.86
in this whole season is
about exalting His word, not for
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any other reason then we have
to know who we are in Christ.
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Because once we know who
we are in Christ all this
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behavioral stuff
doesn't work anymore.
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We are going to take a
break and we will be right back!
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I want to say thanks for
watching, we'll be right back!
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