The following program
discusses sensitive issues
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related to addictive behavior.
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Parents are
cautioned that some material
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may be too candid
for younger children.
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Welcome back.
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I am so proud of
God all the time,
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I want to kiss him on the face.
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I wanted to
scream that when I said,
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I want to be well,
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I had no idea that you
were gonna give me my own self,
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my family and my
children in the process.
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And it sounds like in your life,
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the same thing
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and you said,
"You've still seen so much."
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Yeah, yeah.
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We've made a commitment,
we wanna keep growing.
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So we had a tough spot,
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not too long ago
and our counselor said
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something that was
really significant,
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when we had to
tell us why, I mean,
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we're in
marriage ministry, right?
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Right.
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So the devil comes and says,
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"What are you doing?
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You guys, don't
have..." What do you guys know?
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And she just simply rephrased,
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reframed the
whole issue and said,
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"You know, you guys
are in a really heavy
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growing phase, right now."
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Yeah, that's what we do,
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we hit growth phases, don't we?
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And I think that, for me,
that just changed everything.
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I was like, "Oh, this is hard.
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We're in a growth phase."
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And even visually,
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when you wanna say that is that,
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when you go out to prune a tree,
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a fruit tree that you
want to bear more fruit,
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that pruning is never easy.
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And so we think
we're gonna get it
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and we're gonna be
home free at that point,
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if we are not dealing
with this on a daily basis,
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we will start
believing lies again.
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So and so counseling has helped,
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anything else, Timmi?
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No, I think just what
Richie said, you know,
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if our goal is
'oneness,' Biblical 'oneness.'
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Then we have to be
committed to re-evaluating
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how are we doing now at
on a pretty constant basis
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because there's always
gonna be things that come in
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and the reason that's important,
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you know, Genesis 2,
at the end of the chapter,
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and Moses, you know,
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talks about being
naked and unashamed
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and that's what we're
going for and, you know,
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I don't think any of us
will arrive there completely,
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but that's still what
we're working towards.
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And so to keep working because,
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I want our
marriage to be characterized
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by naked and unashamed.
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And I love that
'cause it's saying that
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most of us really
have this illusion
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of what we see a
relationship being,
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we have a picture in our head
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and I think that there are times
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and I know you guys know that
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and I wanna say thank
you, for being on the program
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and sharing so
far but I wanna say,
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to anybody watching,
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we have a picture in
our mind of what is love.
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What is relationship?
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Who am I in relationship?
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And that picture, a lot of time,
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was taken in our pain,
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was taken at a time
that we had no idea.
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We were watching
a movie about love
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and God himself says,
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"Give me the picture."
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Because I can't heal
you with that picture,
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because that's not what love
is and so being able to say,
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"Am I brave enough,
my knees are shaken,
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my hands are trembling
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and I'm surrendering my
very picture of love to God
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and asking Him, 'What is it?
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What is it? Who am I?
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How are you going to
put me in relationship
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when I'm afraid
of my own shadows,
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sometimes depending
on where you come from?'
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And God said, 'I promise
you, I'm a great counselor,
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I'm a good
accountability partner,
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I know who you are
the day after resurrection
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and I will bring you
to a place of healing.'"
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It is absolutely
the coolest thing.
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Don't be afraid
to surrender to God.
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Don't be afraid
to check yourself
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and really work
through this stuff
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and don't be afraid to
love the person in front of you.
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Until next time,
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always remember that
God is crazy about you,
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me too,
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Don't be afraid. Turn it out.
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