The following program
discusses sensitive issues
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related to addictive behavior.
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Parents are
cautioned that some material
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may be too candid
for younger children.
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So welcome back.
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For anybody that
says I want more,
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go to the
website, we have links,
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write to Richie and Timmy.
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We have some stuff you
can get as for marriage,
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relationships, anger,
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all of that kind of
stuff, but for right now,
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I have to say I
really do relate to you,
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thinking that I
was always the problem.
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And so I love the fact
that you unfolded that for us.
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Is there anything
you want to kind of close
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with for those
that are listening,
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for women that are
just saying I don't know?
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Yeah, you know,
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I think one of
the things that's been
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so amazing to me
in our journey is that
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God has been so faithful
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bringing the right
person at the right time
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when I'm asking.
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And that create a safety net,
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that gave a lot of courage
to be able to stick with it
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and persevere when
things were really hard.
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And I couldn't
see the way through
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but the people who,
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we invited in were
able to caste a vision
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that was beautiful
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and they were
saying you can do it,
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hold on.
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Amen.
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And they loved each other,
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they worked through
what you're working through
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and you can see
the love with them.
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And they loved us.
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Amen.
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Did you feel the same?
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You know, for me
it was different,
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for me it was just
really a matter of recognizing,
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oh my, I remember
one night literally
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after we had a fight
walking down the driveway
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from where we were living,
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looking up at the
sky and saying God,
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is there any part of this
mess that's my responsibility.
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Which part of the ways of prayer
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he's quick to answer
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and that is the long
ways from there to go on,
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oh, my look at
what I'm contributing,
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look what I'm doing
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and to be able to
turn to this woman and say,
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I'm so sorry,
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I have behaved in
destructive ways towards you.
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I have not honored
you or loved you well.
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Would you forgive
me? Will you forgive me?
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Huge and that's a huge journey,
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but that process
began with all these friends
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wrapping their
arms around us in ICU
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and saying we love you
too much to let you go.
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That process began in my heart.
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So when you guys
broke through the surface
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and actually took a breath
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and realize that
you were gonna make it,
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that you felt
love for each other.
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What was that like
and talk to somebody
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that maybe doesn't
know that moment yet?
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Yeah, you know,
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I don't know if I
think of a specific moment,
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but I think for me
probably when they came,
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I say you know
what, we're gonna make it
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is when we descended into
that spiral of conflict again
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but we came out
closer to each other.
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And so I would just say to you,
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if you're in a place where you
don't feel any hope right now,
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or you're
desperate, you feel like,
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this is not gonna last,
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look for a
team, pray for a team,
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God has people
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because relational hurts
are best healed in relationship
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and so pray for a team
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and ask God to bring
loving people around you
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and then surrender
yourself to the process
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and be willing to get
honest about your part.
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There is hope,
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you don't have to
stay stuck where you are.
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I absolutely love that,
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and I want to just
say thank you so much.
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Thank you for joining us,
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thanking you for
being so vulnerable with us,
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and thank you for hanging there,
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in there with each other,
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because you know
there is so many people
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that need to know
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how to do that
in their own life.
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Thanks for having
us, this is been fun.
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You know, with
anybody watching, again,
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if you need any
additional help, support,
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whatever go to the
website, contact us,
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don't do this by yourself,
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and a lot of churches
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will have
groups that are running
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that you can
step in and join them
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and sometimes you think
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but I don't
want to say anything,
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then don't say anything,
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just sit down
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and start to
listen to one person
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after another, after another,
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after another talk
about their journey
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and you'll be surprised
that we're all the same.
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We all struggle
and we really look good
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week to week in Church,
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but there are some of
us that just say Anna,
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we got through those
years, we got through that time
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and I love her, I love him,
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and so I'm glad
you joined us today,
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I'm glad you heard all of this
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and if you're
there find someone,
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love some one meant to you.
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Until next week, always remember
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that God is crazy
about you, me too,
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God bless.
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