The following program
discusses sensitive issues
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related to addictive behavior.
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Parents are
cautioned that some material
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may be too candid
for younger children.
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Welcome to
"Celebrating Life in Recovery,"
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I'm Cheri your host.
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I'm gonna introduce you
to the friend of mine Fran
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who told me one time
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that may be the
blood of Christ in her life
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is a little bit of overkill.
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If you want to know
what she meant by that
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you got to join us on the
cafe today it's pretty cool.
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Welcome.
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You know this season the book
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that we're looking
at is Celebrations.
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The acronyms
stands for something,
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we started with choice
went through the whole thing,
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exercise, leisure,
liquids all that kind of stuff.
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And now we're on the "S"
and that's social support.
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And people forget
about social support a lot
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because we tend
to in our addictions
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regardless of what it is
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we tend to start
pulling away from people.
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And oh, man, I know that
you're gonna hate me on this
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but we even get into things
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that give us
the illusion of that
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we've done the social support,
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we're on Facebook,
we're making friends,
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we're online, we're
doing all that kind of stuff
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but we're really not
connecting with real people.
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And what I found in my recovery
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is Facebook will
never tell me I'm an idiot.
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You know, what I mean, I
always look good on Facebook.
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But my friends will
say, you know what Cheri,
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I don't know about that.
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I don't think that's right or--
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or this may not be good for you
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or you're still kind of thinking
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addictively or whatever.
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And so I get more
feedback from real folks.
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And I'm gonna tell
you a story about a girl
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that I think was so blessed
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with just kind of
coming out of her addiction
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literally letting
people into her life
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and her name is
Tina, she is amazing.
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But she is a meth addict,
she was trashed physically,
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you can look at her
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and she looked
like a meth addict.
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You know, she was--
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you know, she was a little
bit agitated in her movement,
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she didn't kind of--
she just kind of was a mess,
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fragmented a little bit
when she came into recovery,
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all her teeth were rotted.
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I mean they
just looked terrible.
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She was stuck with that
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when she came into recovery
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found God, love
God, jumped into a church
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and then she-- she came up
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when we met you
know and you know,
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I think we met
early on in recovery
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but we started to
work together again,
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she came to a couple event,
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she came to a women's
retreat we had a great time.
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And you know, we have a program
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the Celebrating
Life in Recovery program
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for the churches
and so she saw that
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and she said, I so want to run
that program for our churches.
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14 weeks, incredible and
she knew that she could do it,
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she went to AA and NA,
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she knew how to run
the twelve-step group.
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And so I said, yeah,
you know it would be fun.
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But the people
in her church said
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you know, wow, she--
she looks like a mess
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you know, I don't
know if she could run it.
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And they were talking
about a number of things
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and their
motives as they came over
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and they said to
her, you know, let's--
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we'd like to kind of
help you out with that.
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And so they actually
went through the program
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with her to help her out.
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So they could
teach her how to present.
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Tina didn't need to
help on how to present
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but she needed friends,
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she needed suport
and they needed Tina.
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So during the time
they went through the group
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this whole church just grows,
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it was so absolutely
amazing so they start to grow,
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they start becoming
friends which is the group is--
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is brilliant at doing.
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And during that
time they raised money
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and got her teeth fixed.
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I just-- it was the
most incredible thing.
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So social support
not only do you start
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to connect with real people
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and you start to share with them
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and you start to
grow and heal from that.
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You start to reflect on
your stuff more honestly,
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you pray for each other.
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The Bible says, "Confess
your sins one to another,
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pray for each other
so you could be healed."
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All of that good stuff happens.
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I get to have somebody actually
touched me in a safe way
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and if I'm longing for that
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the healing is
unbelievable off the chart.
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And this group so
fell in love with Tina
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and it's easy, she is amazing.
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So fell in love with Tina
that they literally raised money
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and she smiled
for the first time
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in a longtime without being
ashamed what she looks like.
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And I just loved it.
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So we're gonna
cover social support.
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If you're in recovery know
that it's a huge, huge deal.
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I'm gonna bring on today,
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one of my
favorite people lately.
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She is the creative
director of our ministry,
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True Step
Ministries, her name is Fran.
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We are totally different,
Farn Mckain totally different.
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She is a business
degree, she is a writer,
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not only a writer,
she loves the language,
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she loves to write,
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she can look at something
and see what it could be
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and the colors it could be
or how it could be presented
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where it would
actually just win your heart.
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And when she
does it you walk away
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and you're just amazed.
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But I want you to hear her story
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'cause her
journey and how she now
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connects with people
will just make you cry.
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God is so good and
He is so good to us.
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And I just pray you'll enjoy it.
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So stay tuned, come
back all that good stuff.
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