The following program
discusses sensitive issues
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related to addictive behavior.
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Parents are
cautioned that some material
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may be too candid
for younger children.
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Welcome back.
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I just want to say
before I turn it over to Ralph
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and ask him a few
things, few more things
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I want to say if
you are in a situation
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where you are
being hurt in anyway
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we would have some
number up on the credits,
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please look for them,
call someone, get some help.
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I remember when I
first met my husband
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we were-- we were first married,
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we were arguing about something
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and he picked up a paper
towel and he threw it at me.
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I packed my bags and
was calling the police
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and I said you have no
right to throw anything at me.
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And the reason that was is
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I was in domestic prior to that,
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I knew that slipper slop
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and I thought if
it's a paper towel today
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but it maybe
something more tomorrow.
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So have you those boundaries.
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And you know what I'm
talking about Ralph, for as that
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but I want you to talk to,
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if there somebody out
there that is stuck right now
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well, what would
you say to him, her.
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Well, the first
thing I would ask you is,
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you have a family,
do you care about them?
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And if you care about them,
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if you love them
as you say you do
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or at least you tell
yourself that how much.
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That's the early questions
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that's the
beginning of everything else
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that's gonna happen next.
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If you are a perpetrator
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of domestic
violence in any regard
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and that includes
just yelling and screaming
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I would say if
you value your family
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that you stop your whole life,
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you get leave from work
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and you go to your pastor
if you have that resource.
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You look up a
psychologist in the phonebook.
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You treat this
like life and death
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because you are
destroying your family.
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You have them and if you go
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one moment
longer from this moment
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that I'm speaking to you now
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you're perpetuating
major spiritual damage at least
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and you will
never recover from it.
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Its damage that
can be all be unbroken.
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And I love what you
are saying is get help now
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because you know that
what's really amazing to me
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is God wants to bring healing.
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Not only to somebody
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that is a victim
of domestic violence,
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a victim of abuse
but he wants to bring
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healing to the
person that is perpetrating
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because that person
was damaged somewhere to
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and God is
saying, you know, what,
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I want to bring
everybody in a room
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to a place of recovery.
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I want families to be restored,
I want people to be redeemed,
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I want someone
to walk out the door
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and actually feel joy
and not have to pretend.
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I want you to sit at the
table and laugh with each other
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and have it be real
and we can't do that
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if we let all this
stuff in our pockets.
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All this anger
and bitterness grow.
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And there is help out there.
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There's heavenly help from God
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but there is
help from each other,
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there's help in your churches
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and there's help
in your community
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so call someone.
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Until next week always remember
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that God is crazy
about you, me too.
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Don't do this alone,
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don't let it
continue another minute.
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Get help and
man, just praise God.
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