The following program discusses sensitive issues 00:00:01.06\00:00:03.29 related to addictive behavior. 00:00:03.32\00:00:05.02 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:00:05.05\00:00:06.86 may be too candid for younger children. 00:00:06.89\00:00:09.23 Welcome to Celebrating Life in Recovery. 00:00:11.41\00:00:13.57 This episode we're gonna talk about choices 00:00:13.60\00:00:16.05 and you made some pretty twisted choices. 00:00:16.08\00:00:19.93 But if you want to hear that you got to join us. 00:00:19.96\00:00:21.89 So come join us on the café, Choices. 00:00:21.92\00:00:25.31 We're going into our ninth season, 00:00:54.51\00:00:56.61 last season we celebrate out of 100th program 00:00:56.64\00:00:59.14 and we have covered a ton of things. 00:00:59.17\00:01:01.66 We have covered-- we've had convicted sex offenders, 00:01:01.69\00:01:04.42 we've addicts, we've had prostitutes, 00:01:04.45\00:01:06.43 we've had strippers, 00:01:06.46\00:01:07.67 we've had a religious addict which was real scary to me. 00:01:07.70\00:01:10.71 But I mean, we just have covered 00:01:10.74\00:01:12.06 so many different things and people 00:01:12.09\00:01:14.23 and ways of recovery, but this season 00:01:14.26\00:01:16.69 I think it's gonna be the most important, 00:01:16.72\00:01:19.18 but its gonna be the most honest for me 00:01:19.21\00:01:20.87 and I may not even have the job at the end of it. 00:01:20.90\00:01:23.22 So I want you to know that this season, 00:01:23.25\00:01:27.24 please don't write it off, 00:01:27.27\00:01:28.58 don't think you know what we are talking about. 00:01:28.61\00:01:30.51 We're gonna talk about maintenance. 00:01:30.54\00:01:31.60 We're gonna talk about how do you stay in recovery? 00:01:31.63\00:01:34.53 How do you grab hold of your life and not let go? 00:01:34.56\00:01:37.24 How do you say no matter what I don't care 00:01:37.27\00:01:39.53 what comes against me, 00:01:39.56\00:01:40.89 I'm actually gonna choose to live 00:01:40.92\00:01:42.68 and I'm gonna have a life that I was meant to have, 00:01:42.71\00:01:45.33 and I don't care if it's a good time 00:01:45.36\00:01:46.98 that I have to go through or bad time. 00:01:47.01\00:01:48.51 I don't care if I'm stressed 00:01:48.54\00:01:50.28 or I'm just like whistling dixie 00:01:50.31\00:01:52.62 I'm gonna get through this, and I wanted to say-- 00:01:52.65\00:01:56.50 last a couple of weeks ago, 00:01:56.53\00:01:58.13 I had to go in for surgery and I have cancer 00:01:58.16\00:02:01.94 people know that I have large granulocytic leukemia 00:02:01.97\00:02:04.48 and when I got diagnose, I warn like a baby. 00:02:04.51\00:02:06.50 It's like I don't want to have cancer 00:02:06.53\00:02:08.10 or this is not good, this is not okay with me. 00:02:08.13\00:02:10.97 And so I get used to it, 00:02:11.00\00:02:12.67 I start seeing the oncologist every three months, 00:02:12.70\00:02:14.82 they do bone marrow biopsies, 00:02:14.85\00:02:16.94 and they tell me I have to be healthy 00:02:16.97\00:02:18.69 even if I don't want to and I'm like wait, 00:02:18.72\00:02:20.99 I hate-- I have authority issues 00:02:21.02\00:02:23.00 I don't like people telling me what to do. 00:02:23.03\00:02:24.79 So you know I'm having a look at all that kind of stuff, 00:02:24.82\00:02:27.74 and then I have a major meltdown of crises. 00:02:27.77\00:02:31.89 And my whole intestines twist and when your intestines twist 00:02:31.92\00:02:37.59 you could die within hour's right. 00:02:37.62\00:02:40.11 So I go into hospital they untwist it, 00:02:40.14\00:02:42.67 you know and they literally don't do it surgically, 00:02:42.70\00:02:44.79 they put tubes down my throat, take pressures off and untwist. 00:02:44.82\00:02:47.29 They send me home four days later 00:02:47.32\00:02:49.08 I'm back in the hospital. 00:02:49.11\00:02:50.35 And I'm like stop, shut up, I don't even do this 00:02:50.38\00:02:53.67 well, I don't do pain well or anything. 00:02:53.70\00:02:56.18 My oncologists meet with my surgeon, 00:02:56.21\00:02:58.14 they think you know we did CT scans, 00:02:58.17\00:03:00.86 I think you have cancer in your intestines 00:03:00.89\00:03:04.61 and I'm like nope, I don't want that. 00:03:04.64\00:03:07.69 So you know they talked to me 00:03:07.72\00:03:09.79 and finally they say you know what, 00:03:09.82\00:03:11.21 we're gonna have to cut you open 00:03:11.24\00:03:13.96 take that part of your intestines out, 00:03:13.99\00:03:15.79 its like four inches or seven centimeters 00:03:15.82\00:03:18.19 and hopefully you'll end up-- with just those, 00:03:18.22\00:03:21.45 tie your intestines tied together 00:03:21.48\00:03:23.16 or you'll end up with a colostomy 00:03:23.19\00:03:25.03 and all that kind of stuff, and I'm like wait, 00:03:25.06\00:03:28.12 wait somebody stop. 00:03:28.15\00:03:29.94 I don't want that and I remember just struggling 00:03:29.97\00:03:32.77 and I have a gig in Australia, 00:03:32.80\00:03:34.25 and I'm gonna go there for a few weeks, 00:03:34.28\00:03:36.02 I'm gonna fly back, I only have three weeks 00:03:36.05\00:03:38.79 that I can have down time 00:03:38.82\00:03:40.02 so we got to get that surgery done 00:03:40.05\00:03:41.72 and I can be home and do some healing and-- 00:03:41.75\00:03:44.29 so, I get back from Australia on Friday 00:03:44.32\00:03:46.15 go in for surgery on Monday. 00:03:46.18\00:03:47.79 They cut me open, they take all of my guts out, 00:03:47.82\00:03:50.30 you just got to imagine this, 00:03:50.33\00:03:53.04 because you know when I imagine this 00:03:53.07\00:03:54.60 I think no wait, to call your guts out 00:03:54.63\00:03:56.76 went to 22 feet of intestines and it couldn't find anything. 00:03:56.79\00:04:01.95 I can't find anything, I can't find the cancer, 00:04:01.98\00:04:04.02 I can't find anything, they stuff everything back in. 00:04:04.05\00:04:06.42 I'm hoping they put it all in a right place 00:04:06.45\00:04:08.42 sewed me back up. 00:04:08.45\00:04:10.52 And so now I have to look out at this point of my recovery, 00:04:10.55\00:04:14.82 I have to know that everything matters, 00:04:14.85\00:04:17.53 even what I choose to eat, 00:04:17.56\00:04:19.16 how I choose to take care of my body, 00:04:19.19\00:04:21.31 what I choose to do. 00:04:21.34\00:04:22.39 What they diagnosed me with was celiac disease, 00:04:22.42\00:04:24.60 they said you have celiac disease. 00:04:24.63\00:04:26.43 You have to not eat grain and you have to watch 00:04:26.46\00:04:28.92 what you eat and you have to watch 00:04:28.95\00:04:30.44 and take care of yourself in that way. 00:04:30.47\00:04:32.08 If you don't the next time 00:04:32.11\00:04:33.74 we come in will take out some of your intestines. 00:04:33.77\00:04:36.29 So I'm like, shut up. 00:04:36.32\00:04:37.78 So what-- this time we're gonna look at 00:04:37.81\00:04:39.81 not so much just physically 00:04:39.84\00:04:41.69 the changes that we have to make. 00:04:41.72\00:04:42.97 Like right now I have to make major changes, 00:04:43.00\00:04:44.97 because you know what, I like my intestines. 00:04:45.00\00:04:47.75 I didn't even know they were there 00:04:47.78\00:04:49.19 until this guy pulled them all out. 00:04:49.22\00:04:50.93 Now that they're out, and back in 00:04:50.96\00:04:52.72 I so have some respect for them. 00:04:52.75\00:04:55.59 There's a guy at 3ABN I lost since I had the surgery, 00:04:55.62\00:04:59.72 I went from a size 12 to a size 8, 00:04:59.75\00:05:03.21 just by not eating grains, 00:05:03.24\00:05:05.28 right cakes and breads and all that kind of stuff. 00:05:05.31\00:05:07.89 So I'm thinking I'm celebrating 00:05:07.92\00:05:09.90 and he thinks they just didn't put my intestines back in 00:05:09.93\00:05:12.54 that was the way it changed, 00:05:12.57\00:05:14.00 but you know so now I'm realizing 00:05:14.03\00:05:15.67 that everything matters. 00:05:15.70\00:05:16.76 And so now I'm gonna tell you a in a emotional sense 00:05:16.79\00:05:19.63 what I mean by everything matters. 00:05:19.66\00:05:20.97 This story is not has-- 00:05:21.00\00:05:22.68 doesn't have a happy ending like mine, 00:05:22.71\00:05:25.06 because not only does my story have a happy ending 00:05:25.09\00:05:27.41 but for whatever reason as I do with this issue 00:05:27.44\00:05:31.38 that I have physically, 00:05:31.41\00:05:32.89 as I do with this issue with my intestines 00:05:32.92\00:05:34.94 and the celiac disease, 00:05:34.97\00:05:36.67 it takes the inflammation down in my body 00:05:36.70\00:05:38.94 and my oncologist says, 00:05:38.97\00:05:40.43 more than likely your cancers gonna go away. 00:05:40.46\00:05:43.93 And I'm like shut up, how fun is that. 00:05:43.96\00:05:46.40 So not only if I choose to take care of this, 00:05:46.43\00:05:49.81 not only am I not gonna have to do with losing intestines 00:05:49.84\00:05:52.48 well, I'm not gonna have to deal with cancer 00:05:52.51\00:05:53.97 and chemotherapies and all that kind of stuff. 00:05:54.00\00:05:56.31 So in an emotional sense 00:05:56.34\00:05:57.41 I want you to transfer that over, 00:05:57.44\00:05:59.32 I'm gonna give you some stuff this time, 00:05:59.35\00:06:01.81 that we're gonna look at physically, emotionally 00:06:01.84\00:06:04.05 and with your recovery issues 00:06:04.08\00:06:05.45 that if you get it you're gonna save yourself tons of stuff. 00:06:05.48\00:06:09.29 I have a recovery groups that I run, 00:06:09.32\00:06:12.01 if you're ever in our area 00:06:12.04\00:06:13.15 if you just come want to stay at our place, 00:06:13.18\00:06:15.55 people come and stay at our-- 00:06:15.58\00:06:17.26 at our ranch for like a week at a time 00:06:17.29\00:06:18.89 and deal with some issues. 00:06:18.92\00:06:20.19 But anyhow we have our recovery issues 00:06:20.22\00:06:21.75 this woman this girl gets is recovery 00:06:21.78\00:06:24.34 and she is amazing. 00:06:24.37\00:06:25.40 She has a meth addiction and she has anger issues, 00:06:25.43\00:06:28.75 and she was molested as a kid, and you know everybody thought 00:06:28.78\00:06:32.01 you know, she's got all of this junk 00:06:32.04\00:06:33.97 her whole life she dealt with people 00:06:34.00\00:06:35.48 calling her fat, until she did meth. 00:06:35.51\00:06:38.15 She did meth and all of the sudden 00:06:38.18\00:06:39.23 she was so cute 00:06:39.26\00:06:40.43 and then she got all kinds of good stuff, 00:06:40.46\00:06:43.19 she couldn't stop. 00:06:43.22\00:06:44.65 So she gets in recovery and she's just dying 00:06:44.68\00:06:47.06 because now she's dealing with gaining weight again 00:06:47.09\00:06:49.45 and all that crazy stuff is coming back up. 00:06:49.48\00:06:52.13 So she ends up going to a doctor, 00:06:52.16\00:06:55.52 and the doctor says that they're willing to cut out like 00:06:55.55\00:06:58.73 three forth of her stomach 00:06:58.76\00:07:00.22 and that she'll start to lose weight again. 00:07:00.25\00:07:02.55 And I'm--, she tells me about that. 00:07:02.58\00:07:04.64 She is so excited, 00:07:04.67\00:07:05.85 they're gonna cut out my stomach, 00:07:05.88\00:07:07.25 I'm gonna be thin, I don't have to do meth 00:07:07.28\00:07:09.32 and I'm like what? 00:07:09.35\00:07:11.23 So I'm gonna convince you to cut out your stomach, 00:07:11.26\00:07:14.17 because you know why you are not doing meth, 00:07:14.20\00:07:16.24 but you're eating your brains out. 00:07:16.27\00:07:18.27 You're using food as a way to cope, 00:07:18.30\00:07:21.05 you are using food like volume, 00:07:21.08\00:07:22.57 you are losing-- using food like sex 00:07:22.60\00:07:25.03 and if you cut out your stomach 00:07:25.06\00:07:26.49 and you cant use food, you're gonna kill someone. 00:07:26.52\00:07:29.10 Do you know what I mean? 00:07:29.13\00:07:30.17 And I said that to her and I said do you know what, 00:07:30.20\00:07:31.93 this is not minor stuff. 00:07:31.96\00:07:33.65 Our addictions are huge. 00:07:33.68\00:07:35.44 When we don't deal with them in an appropriate way 00:07:35.47\00:07:38.00 by making those tiny choices when we just say, 00:07:38.03\00:07:41.00 you know what just cut it out, we're in trouble. 00:07:41.03\00:07:43.59 And I remember thinking please don't do that. 00:07:43.62\00:07:46.56 You know I-- you know, I know your struggles 00:07:46.59\00:07:50.09 and don't do that and of course, 00:07:50.12\00:07:53.23 you know that doctors said it was okay, you know. 00:07:53.26\00:07:55.58 And please I don't care who says its okay, 00:07:55.61\00:07:57.59 recovery is a little steps at a time. 00:07:57.62\00:08:00.14 You can't just jump in and get it all done at once. 00:08:00.17\00:08:03.15 If I could take a pill and be normal, 00:08:03.18\00:08:05.55 I would take that, because I'm still not normal. 00:08:05.58\00:08:07.45 You know what I mean? 00:08:07.48\00:08:08.51 So, I would so do that, so anyhow she goes in 00:08:08.54\00:08:10.71 and she gets her stomach cut out, 00:08:10.74\00:08:12.35 and she comes out within a first three weeks, 00:08:12.38\00:08:14.51 she loses like 58 pounds she is stoked, 00:08:14.54\00:08:17.95 but she can eat three ounces at a time, eat or drink. 00:08:17.98\00:08:22.36 She can't drink a full glass of water. 00:08:22.39\00:08:24.02 So she is not hydrated, 00:08:24.05\00:08:25.56 she's not getting any nutrition, 00:08:25.59\00:08:27.37 she can't cope and so she wants to put 00:08:27.40\00:08:29.93 something in her face and she can't do it. 00:08:29.97\00:08:32.29 And she gets more and more agitated. 00:08:32.32\00:08:34.23 At one point she blows up, 00:08:34.26\00:08:37.94 beats up her child, breaks her collar bone 00:08:37.97\00:08:40.57 and she's hits herself in the head and she is gone. 00:08:40.60\00:08:44.03 And I'm thinking man, I loved her, 00:08:44.06\00:08:48.45 I miss her, that's so tragic and it's tragic 00:08:48.48\00:08:52.82 because in any kind of recovery, 00:08:52.85\00:08:55.04 in any kind of journey everything matters, 00:08:55.07\00:08:57.46 all the little stuff 00:08:57.49\00:08:58.79 and we can't jump over the little stuff. 00:08:58.82\00:09:00.82 We can't do-- we can't just go somewhere else 00:09:00.85\00:09:03.36 and say you know what, I'm just gonna do this 00:09:03.39\00:09:05.12 and this is gonna be good, we can't do that. 00:09:05.15\00:09:07.21 All of these things matter and so this season, 00:09:07.24\00:09:10.04 we're gonna talk about all of those things, 00:09:10.07\00:09:11.58 we're gonna talk about it hopefully with something's 00:09:11.61\00:09:14.54 that will make you laugh, 00:09:14.57\00:09:18.57 but man, some of the things are not funny. 00:09:18.60\00:09:20.80 Losing my friend, and this girl early in her recovery, 00:09:20.83\00:09:25.85 watching this three year old now try to survive 00:09:25.88\00:09:29.38 watching her mom shoot herself is not fun. 00:09:29.41\00:09:32.83 You know, she's gonna have to grow up 00:09:32.86\00:09:34.39 and try to deal with those images 00:09:34.42\00:09:35.92 and all that kind of stuff. 00:09:35.95\00:09:37.30 But if can say to you, if I can say to the next person 00:09:37.33\00:09:39.98 we work with and the next person in recovery 00:09:40.01\00:09:42.54 is please, please, please know that these little choices 00:09:42.57\00:09:46.99 that you're gonna do everyday may not seem to be a big deal 00:09:47.02\00:09:50.24 but there are big deal. 00:09:50.27\00:09:51.31 We're gonna look at just simple things right now 00:09:51.34\00:09:54.03 and I'm gonna look at like seven things 00:09:54.06\00:09:55.64 that I want you to think about on this program. 00:09:55.67\00:09:58.37 And one of the things is get some sleep, get some sleep. 00:09:58.40\00:10:02.89 I don't know about you 00:10:02.92\00:10:04.20 but I love-- I love to be on my-- 00:10:04.23\00:10:07.44 the phone to my friends or skyping them in Australia, 00:10:07.47\00:10:10.63 it's a middle of the afternoon to them. 00:10:10.66\00:10:12.93 To me it's a 2 o'clock in the morning 00:10:12.96\00:10:14.37 but man, I'll stay up and I'll hang out 00:10:14.40\00:10:16.14 and will talk or whatever. 00:10:16.17\00:10:17.27 I'll be on Facebook, I'll be researching something, 00:10:17.30\00:10:20.34 I'll be doing worship, 00:10:20.37\00:10:21.64 in the whole time God is saying, 00:10:21.67\00:10:23.08 get to bed, get to bed 00:10:23.11\00:10:25.42 because if you don't sleep you're gonna be crazy. 00:10:25.45\00:10:28.18 If you don't sleep you're gonna be tired tomorrow. 00:10:28.21\00:10:30.30 If you don't sleep you're gonna be agitated. 00:10:30.33\00:10:32.64 When your spouse or friend comes in your place, 00:10:32.67\00:10:35.12 you're not gonna be as kind as you need. 00:10:35.15\00:10:38.64 If you don't sleep and you have an out to do 00:10:38.67\00:10:41.50 one of your addictions more than likely 00:10:41.53\00:10:43.61 you're gonna lean towards those addictions. 00:10:43.64\00:10:45.38 So I'm just saying the first thing in your maintenance 00:10:45.41\00:10:49.04 is that you cannot not sleep, 00:10:49.07\00:10:51.77 you can't, it has to be part of it. 00:10:51.80\00:10:54.69 Man, if somebody that's truly a health nut 00:10:54.72\00:10:56.70 or my doctor that just have my just guts in her hand, 00:10:56.73\00:11:00.14 my husband says I spilled my guts to my surgeon. 00:11:00.17\00:11:03.24 But my doctor says don't eat between meals, 00:11:03.27\00:11:05.91 you know really start taking care of yourself 00:11:05.94\00:11:08.50 and what you put in your mouth. 00:11:08.53\00:11:09.71 If you have some food allergies, 00:11:09.74\00:11:11.13 if you're diabetic don't eat a donut. 00:11:11.16\00:11:13.42 My grandmother is diabetic, she died of her diabetes, 00:11:13.45\00:11:16.72 you know literally is just you know, 00:11:16.75\00:11:19.68 her breakfast was vodka, orange juice and a donut. 00:11:19.71\00:11:22.46 And If try to get her to eat anything else 00:11:22.49\00:11:24.59 I would hear say to people in the living room, 00:11:24.62\00:11:26.33 I never did like that, child. 00:11:26.36\00:11:28.38 You know what I mean, because that's-- 00:11:28.41\00:11:29.48 you know, that was her thing. 00:11:29.51\00:11:30.64 But if you're diabetic, don't do that. 00:11:30.67\00:11:32.29 If you have problems with being hyper, 00:11:32.32\00:11:35.60 you know check out what you eat. 00:11:35.63\00:11:37.85 And don't eat all day long, eat a good breakfast, 00:11:37.88\00:11:42.72 I mean this is stupid I sound like you're mom, 00:11:42.75\00:11:44.66 I'm sorry but I'm not your mom, 00:11:44.69\00:11:47.00 I'm just trying to say that it all matters 00:11:47.03\00:11:49.26 and I promise you, it all matters. 00:11:49.29\00:11:52.15 The maintenance of your weight, 00:11:52.18\00:11:55.69 like my friend she was 100 pound overweight, 00:11:55.72\00:11:59.27 so she felt bad and she felt depressed 00:11:59.30\00:12:02.52 and she felt like all of that kind of stuff, 00:12:02.55\00:12:04.51 she felt like she wanted to do meth 00:12:04.54\00:12:06.01 to get skinny all that kind of stuff. 00:12:06.04\00:12:07.73 So start looking at our weight issues. 00:12:07.76\00:12:09.84 Start looking at all that kind of stuff. 00:12:09.87\00:12:11.37 The next one I want to look at is, 00:12:11.40\00:12:13.93 you know regular physical exercise. 00:12:13.96\00:12:16.16 Don't you hate this? 00:12:16.19\00:12:17.24 I do sound like your mom, I'm so sorry, 00:12:17.27\00:12:20.14 but get out and let the sun hit your skin. 00:12:20.17\00:12:22.58 Because you know vitamin D helps our cell tone 00:12:22.61\00:12:25.45 and serotonin levels go up in our brain 00:12:25.48\00:12:26.90 which makes us feel good, and it's a big deal. 00:12:26.93\00:12:29.39 So get outside, take a walk put your feet in the sand. 00:12:29.42\00:12:33.75 Well, they're finding out with all the stuff 00:12:33.78\00:12:35.58 that we do in staying online, 00:12:35.61\00:12:37.07 all the junk that we're doing online, 00:12:37.10\00:12:39.23 we're losing grey matter. 00:12:39.26\00:12:40.45 Our brains are shrinking because we're not using them. 00:12:40.48\00:12:43.69 We're in virtual worlds more than 00:12:43.72\00:12:45.35 that we're in a physical world. 00:12:45.38\00:12:46.84 So a part of recovery is that you have to move. 00:12:46.87\00:12:50.00 Man, I love playing golf, I like tennis, 00:12:50.03\00:12:52.28 I like skiing, I like bowling, 00:12:52.31\00:12:55.26 you know get out and find something 00:12:55.29\00:12:56.89 that you like to do that will take you physically somewhere 00:12:56.92\00:13:01.20 and I don't care what it is. 00:13:01.23\00:13:02.63 If you are overweight, 00:13:02.66\00:13:04.42 and I have friends that are extremely overweight, 00:13:04.45\00:13:06.42 they can't do a lot of physical activity. 00:13:06.45\00:13:08.65 Just move your feet in a chair. 00:13:08.68\00:13:11.27 Do you know what I'm saying? 00:13:11.30\00:13:12.33 Don't even stress yourself about 00:13:12.36\00:13:14.08 you know what I'm not doing jumping jacks, 00:13:14.11\00:13:15.82 don't do jumping jacks but just move your feet. 00:13:15.85\00:13:18.64 This is gonna-- some of my friends 00:13:18.67\00:13:20.18 will want to kick me for this next one. 00:13:20.21\00:13:22.40 Stop smoking, you know if you don't have your lungs, 00:13:22.43\00:13:25.51 you don't have anything. 00:13:25.54\00:13:26.76 And I-- I want to-- you know I don't know 00:13:26.79\00:13:31.00 if you're gonna write in 00:13:31.03\00:13:32.12 and get mad at me for saying this, 00:13:32.15\00:13:33.35 but God's not gonna walk away from you 00:13:33.38\00:13:35.08 because you have a cigarette hanging out of your face. 00:13:35.11\00:13:37.75 But He does really want your lungs to work properly 00:13:37.78\00:13:39.79 and your circulation and all that kind of stuff, 00:13:39.82\00:13:41.72 so in your maintenance part of recovery, 00:13:41.75\00:13:44.31 it matters that you're circulation is okay 00:13:44.34\00:13:46.95 and it matter that you can actually 00:13:46.98\00:13:49.34 start to get health that way. 00:13:49.37\00:13:50.58 So if you're smoking, if you're-- you know 00:13:50.61\00:13:52.95 if you can drink a bottle of tequila in one sitting, 00:13:52.98\00:13:55.76 you know check out that kind of stuff. 00:13:55.79\00:13:57.83 And stop walking away from those really unhealthy things. 00:13:57.86\00:14:01.40 So the next one, so reduce the alcohol stuff. 00:14:01.43\00:14:04.81 You know some people say absent is all together, 00:14:04.84\00:14:07.93 for me the only reason I say absent is I'm not alcoholic, 00:14:07.96\00:14:10.73 alcohol was never my issue. 00:14:10.76\00:14:12.20 But if you give a couple of glasses of wine, 00:14:12.23\00:14:14.65 I want some heroin. 00:14:14.68\00:14:16.21 So you know so I got right to what my addictions are. 00:14:16.24\00:14:19.28 If you give a sex addict a couple of glasses of wine 00:14:19.31\00:14:22.53 or help him smoke some weed 00:14:22.56\00:14:23.69 they're online on the internet 00:14:23.72\00:14:25.68 looking up some porn stuff. 00:14:25.71\00:14:27.11 So those kind of things will really trip you up. 00:14:27.14\00:14:30.34 So please don't write me if there's other issues 00:14:30.37\00:14:33.27 and you just want to talk about health some, 00:14:33.30\00:14:35.06 I'm talking about to maintain, recovery, 00:14:35.09\00:14:37.80 you have to watch those kind of things. 00:14:37.83\00:14:39.68 So these objectives, these things 00:14:39.71\00:14:41.45 that I'm looking at it just ways to help you 00:14:41.48\00:14:44.74 that are really kind of simple things, 00:14:44.77\00:14:47.26 they sound simple 00:14:47.29\00:14:48.32 but they'll make your recovery possible. 00:14:48.35\00:14:50.74 Don't look for shortcuts. 00:14:50.77\00:14:52.64 If you look for shortcuts they will kill you 00:14:52.67\00:14:54.60 because they really don't work. 00:14:54.63\00:14:56.15 Somebody will say just take this pill 00:14:56.18\00:14:57.60 and you'll lose weight, 00:14:57.63\00:14:58.66 just do this and you'll feel better, 00:14:58.69\00:15:00.93 whatever but those shortcuts will kill you. 00:15:00.96\00:15:03.24 And-- so this season we're gonna talk about 00:15:03.27\00:15:06.51 some of that kind of stuff. 00:15:06.54\00:15:07.77 The first program that we're gonna look at this program, 00:15:07.80\00:15:10.21 I'm gonna introduce you to a friend of mine, 00:15:10.24\00:15:11.90 he is so twisted. 00:15:11.93\00:15:12.96 Well, I should say he was so twisted. 00:15:12.99\00:15:15.60 But I'm gonna introduce you to a friend of mine, 00:15:15.63\00:15:17.57 we're gonna talk about his journey 00:15:17.60\00:15:19.22 and where he came from, 00:15:19.25\00:15:20.44 but we're gonna look at on this program specifically 00:15:20.47\00:15:23.63 that choice that you make everyday. 00:15:23.66\00:15:25.87 Because the choices will either lead you 00:15:25.90\00:15:28.14 to a life of recovery and happiness, 00:15:28.17\00:15:31.08 you'll laugh out loud in your own skin, 00:15:31.11\00:15:33.22 you'll actually start to be able to got hold of your life 00:15:33.25\00:15:37.91 and enjoy your life or it will lead you to death. 00:15:37.94\00:15:41.57 You'll have, you know, most of the people 00:15:41.60\00:15:43.72 in my family died of liver disease 00:15:43.75\00:15:45.47 and alcoholism and drug addictions. 00:15:45.50\00:15:47.25 My dad died molesting kids in the crack house. 00:15:47.28\00:15:49.63 So I mean, you know, all of that kind of stuff 00:15:49.66\00:15:51.49 and so it's gonna lead you one way or the other 00:15:51.52\00:15:53.43 but every choice put you on a journey. 00:15:53.46\00:15:56.16 And so be careful of the choices that you make. 00:15:56.19\00:15:58.35 Don't stress about them 00:15:58.38\00:15:59.76 but just know that it does matter 00:15:59.79\00:16:02.06 and I wish for you life, okay. 00:16:02.09\00:16:05.42 So come back, I'm gonna introduce you to a friend, 00:16:05.45\00:16:07.79 you're not gonna want to miss his story, 00:16:07.82\00:16:09.11 this is wild. 00:16:09.14\00:16:10.17