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You know, it's
really interesting
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is when I first
heard Melody's story
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and thought, you know,
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I want to cover this
not 'cause, you know,
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we need another cooking program
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but because I wanted people
to look at we have to detox.
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We have to look at
doing the first step.
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And the first step for anything
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like what you
were talking about,
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Melody, in your own life is,
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you had to get off the
couch and walk around the block
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or not even all the way
around the block at first.
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You had to learn how to bring
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other things in
your diet and all that.
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But I think for a lot of us,
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we don't
realize that green drink
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that you put together detoxes
the liver, cleans us out,
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does all that kind of
stuff and we are such a mess.
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We are. We are.
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And so I want to say, thank
you for your demonstrations.
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I know we have questions
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and we were gonna
start out with Delina.
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You had a question first?
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Well, first I just want to
say, can I get those recipes?
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'Cause they're really good.
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When I think of
greens, I think, ill,
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but those are incredible
so I love to get the recipes.
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And I actually have a
question in reference to,
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you know, the addictions right.
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I had an eating
disorder when I was younger.
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It was bulimia, right.
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And it started off with all,
you know, the magazines and,
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you know, looking
myself in the mirror and,
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you know, just
comparing myself to others.
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Does the whole, like,
the recipes and the foods,
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could that also help you
get out of that kind of thing?
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Oh, I believe it can.
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You know, at
least, it's gonna give you
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the nutrition your body needs.
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And especially for somebody
who has bulimia, you know,
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they lost a lot of
nutrients in their body.
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So we need to put
them back in there.
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Absolutely, I
mean, it cannot hurt.
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That's the most important thing.
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And I think what's
really interesting to me
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when you talk about, you know,
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looking at the magazines
and trying to live out,
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you know, those,
everybody is so airbrushed
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and neck stretched and, I mean,
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the photography and the
models are fixed up a lot.
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And nobody looks like that
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and we're all trying to
compare ourselves to somebody
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that looks just fabulous
and we want to look like that.
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And I think, it's really
tough to figure out who you are,
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and I'm okay with who I am.
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I think my whole life I
tried to be someone else.
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And when I really,
when I stopped doing that
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and laughed out loud and
liked being on my own skin,
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I was real surprised
that I'm actually okay.
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And I think so the biggest
thing is to really get healthy
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and how you eat but then realize
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that you're gonna have
to at one point figure out,
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let God at least show you
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who you are and
like that person.
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Sure. And enjoy that person.
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Absolutely, and--
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Do you like
yourself now? You know, I do.
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I like myself a lot better
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because I've
learned more about me.
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You know, I stood back.
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It's almost like you're
standing outside your skin
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and you're
looking at who you are.
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And, you know,
looking at all these things
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that have come into my life
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and I didn't realize
how they bothered me.
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And I always thought, you know,
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when I looked in the
mirror 255 pounds or 230 or 200,
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"Oh, I am not that bad."
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You know, who is I kidding?
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I was that bad.
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But it's easier to see
yourself as something else
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but now I look in the mirror.
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You know, I still
haven't got that focusing yet
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because I still see
me as a large woman.
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You know, people
come out to me say,
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"Oh, you're getting so thin."
"I'm, like, really, really?"
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You know, and I look
and I figure, "You sure?"
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And I know because
of the size clothes
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I'm buying is amazing in
comparison to what I had.
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'Cause you wore at a size 24?
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24 is the largest size
that I have bought before.
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And right now, I'm
between a 12 petite and a 10.
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So, I mean, you think of
the size in between there.
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And a lot of women
don't give their dress size
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but I'm real proud of that.
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Yeah, I want it on
the outside, I'm A-size.
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And it's not all about that
at my age and I'm pushing 60.
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I am in my late 50s.
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For me, am I gonna
have that pencil figure?
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Am I gonna be able to do that?
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Probably not.
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But I want to feel
healthy and nothing,
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nothing tastes as
good as healthy fits.
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Nothing, nothing. Amen.
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And so it's really,
there's so many people
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that are trying to
live up to somebody else's
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image of what
we should look like
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and being able
to put that aside.
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And I'm talking
about men and women now.
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It's not only that
women are trying to live up?
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Is that now men-- Men too.
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So I know that,
Jill, you had a question.
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Okay, I struggle with my weight.
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And I was wondering, like,
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what are the best foods
to take out of your diet?
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Like, what really makes a
difference in your health?
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'Cause I'm starting to
have health problems, too,
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my cholesterol and everything.
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And what are like the best
foods to lower your cholesterol
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and everything else
that can cause a problem,
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like, later on in life?
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Oh, absolutely.
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You know, your
problem was my problem
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because I wanted to
get my cholesterol better
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and I wanted to lose weight.
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And for me it was
getting back to basic.
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Eating food the way
God intended for us to eat,
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not with all the
sugar, not with all the oil,
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the butter, the
cheese, the milk,
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the cream, the
things I lived for.
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I eat potatoes
and I love potatoes.
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I'm an Irish girl.
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So I love my potatoes
any way I can get them.
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But now instead of having French
fries, I put them in the oven.
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I have oven fries
with no oil whatsoever.
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They are so delicious.
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I use a bake
potato and I put lemon.
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I put broccoli, sauce on there.
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I don't use cheese and butter.
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It's not the food that
God gave us it's a problem
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and it's not really the amount
of food sometimes that you eat.
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It's the type of
food that you're eating.
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It's so over processed.
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And so you are saying to
stay away from the processed--
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Stay away from
the processed food.
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Stay way from the oil.
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Stay away from the dairies
and the things that, you know,
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your fruits, your vegetables,
whole grains, and, I mean,
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brown rice, your
quinoa, your oatmeal,
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your weed, you know,
you can tolerate that,
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your legumes
which are your beans
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and your potato
sweet, white potatoes.
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And then fat you
want to minimize that
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and make sure it is a fat
that's essential to your body
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and what I mean by essential is
it's the way God gave it to us,
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like, coconut
instead of, you know,
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raw coconut or
avocados or handful of nuts.
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And nuts, a
serving of nuts needs to be
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what you can fold in your hand.
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And if you limit
those fats and eat that,
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those kinds of food the way God
intended and you can cook them.
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I eat raw food but
I eat my food cooked.
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You can't eat greens
unless they are cooked
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the way it just pours off.
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I weigh or measure nothing.
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I eat what I want.
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You know, Jill, what's really
exciting to me is I decided
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that I was gonna
try to eat better
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and I found out that I went
out to eat with friends a lot.
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I went out to do
things and we always ate
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or when we went to movies we
always grab something to eat.
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So I started to do
things that didn't,
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like, food wasn't involved.
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And so like
this Valentine's Day,
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my husband says, "Well,
what do you want to do?"
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'Cause we always go to dinner.
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And then that's
our valentine's thing.
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And so instead I
took a glassblowing class
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and we learnt how
to blow some glass
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and make something
for each other a gift
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but food wasn't involved at all.
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And so sometimes
you start to take away
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how many times you just
go out and just kind of eat.
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I'm gonna grab some fries.
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I'm gonna grab
some Doritos chips.
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I'm gonna grab some whatever
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and start to do other things
that food's not involved in.
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One of the things that we're
gonna do is I'm gonna learn
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how to do paintball, you know.
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And I've never done that.
Some people have done that.
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They say, it's a blast.
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And, you know, you
can't be eating hamburger
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and shooting
somebody with paint.
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You know, so it's just like take
food out of your entertainment.
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And for somebody there
might be a food that you love.
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I don't know. You
might have a favorite food.
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It could be apple pie.
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You know, take
apples, put them in the oven
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with a little cinnamon on
top of them and just bake them
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and you'd be
shocked at how that.
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That way your brain will think,
"Oh, there is my apple pie."
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Instead of having, you know,
all the fats and that sugar
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and those are empty calories.
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So you want more,
you want more food
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with less calories and
less food with more calories.
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So whole foods?
Whole foods, yes.
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And once you
start getting healthy,
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you'll start
feeling the difference.
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I don't, I still
have battles, you know,
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potato chips are my demon.
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And but I--you
know, it's okay now.
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I eat potatoes
and every now and then
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I might still have potato chips.
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But my cravings for those types
of foods have almost diminished.
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It just doesn't seem to bother
me like it used to at all.
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That's cool. Any,
any other questions?
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Aaron, do you have a question?
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Yeah, I was just wondering
'cause I've been struggling
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to lose a couple of
extra pounds for a while.
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How fast did
you lose your weight
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and what do you do
besides exercising?
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Well, exercising is a
key part in it, you know.
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The weight when it
comes off especially at my age
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when you're younger, the
skin seems to do wonderful
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when the fat goes off
but you have to exercise.
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I think walking is
the perfect exercise.
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It's aerobic. It's
good for the bones.
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It's good for the muscles.
I would say start out walking.
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You know, if people can jog,
I think that's wonderful too.
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Swimming is also
a great exercise.
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For me I was so overweight,
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it was hard for me
to do much of anything.
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It has taken me probably
close to 5 years, you know,
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'cause I lost a
little bit of weight.
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I made changes
in my diet subtly.
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Then I made more
changes and more changes.
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And I think God
knew my personality
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and knew that I just
can't overwhelm over it too much
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because sometimes we set goals.
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If I thought back then it
was gonna take 125 pounds,
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I don't think I'd
be where I am at today.
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So that long of a
goal I couldn't do.
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And I realized
people who set goals
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usually
accomplish what they set.
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People who don't set goals,
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don't accomplish
whatever they want.
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So I thought I've got
to start setting goals.
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So I started
setting little goals.
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One of them was to change
my diet to get the salt out.
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For me, when I
eat salt in my diet,
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it makes me crave other foods.
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So I leave it out
so I don't crave it.
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And getting rid of
the oils, I love butter.
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You know, I grew up
with butter on everything.
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So I had to eliminate that.
That was empty calories for me.
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So as I got rid of
the junk and introduced
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all this wonderful
food that God gave me,
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I realized I can
eat so much food here.
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Sometimes I feel like,
"Oh, I'm eating too much
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but yet I'm still losing weight.
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Because your body
starts to adjust to that
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and then you'll start to eat
differently even beyond that.
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So for me it took a while
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and it might
not for other people
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but I set little goals now.
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And I don't look at myself as,
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"Oh, I have 100 pounds
to lose when I had to."
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I have 20 pounds left to
lose, I have 5 pound goals.
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Because for me
that's what's gonna help me
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to make those goals.
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You know,
exercise, eating properly,
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sleep, lots of water.
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When I get hungry and I
think I'm hungry when I really,
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I think, "Well, it's
been not that long ago I ate."
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I will grab water and
start drinking my water.
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I'm really thirsty. And
for most people they are.
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And I love when you say that
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'cause you start adding
water into your daily routine.
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Then you'll find
that you eat less, too.
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And I love the
fact that, you know,
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just pick one
thing, pick something
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like I'd love Good & Plenty.
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I don't know if anybody
else does, but you know,
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certain things that I
just love and so I said
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I'm just gonna leave that out.
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Mm-hmm. And I was surprised.
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I didn't think I
bought them that much.
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But I always had some
in my purse or somewhere.
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So it's just
those little candies.
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Or somebody else says,
"You know, I drink, you know,
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cappuccino every
day" or whatever,
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"I like snickers" or
"I like pizza" or whatever
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but just pick one thing
that kind of is in your,
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at least, every week that
you're doing 2 or 3 times,
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leave that out, and it's amazing
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how much you get that
1/8 pound a week or whatever.
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You know,
popcorn, I love popcorn.
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And I used to eat popcorn with,
you know, using oil to pop it
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and then putting butter
on it and then lots of salt.
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Well, now I air pop it.
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I put yeast flakes, a
little bit of lemon on there,
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and maybe some other kind
of seasonings and guess what,
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my popcorn is totally great.
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I can eat what I want of it.
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I will actually get full before
I've had too many calories.
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That's true.
And I can eat pizza.
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But I use a specific
grain because I'm Celiac
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which I'm
allergic to wheat products.
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And I will put--
make my own sauce
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and put all these veggies on it
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and put it in the
oven with no cheese.
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And guess what I
don't have fat in my pizza
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but I still get my pizza.
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So it satisfies that
for you. It satisfies it.
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Now beans that I cook
and what I know about food,
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it's a little bit easier for me.
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But use your
imagination with food.
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If you like a particular
vegetable and you like pizza,
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put those vegetables on
there and create a pizza
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that you'll enjoy but
it won't have the calories.
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It's really interesting to me
when you talk about exercising
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and, Aaron, you mentioned that.
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But you talk about--I try to run
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and I can't
'cause I have a new hip.
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And so running was
out of the question
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but I got a bike and started
to cycle and I'd love it.
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You know, I got on the
bike for the first time
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and it was, like, I remembered
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when I was a kid, I
rode a bike everywhere.
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I mean, I just
rode bikes everywhere.
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So it took me a while
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but I probably in
a week ride anywhere
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from 30 to 70 miles in a
week just 'cause we, you know,
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we train for what's called
a century ride every year.
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So we ride 100
miles around Lake Tahoe.
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It's called America's
most beautiful bike ride.
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But when I started that,
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I couldn't go
around the block, you know.
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And now I can do 100 miles
and not that I do 100 miles
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every week but, I mean,
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I do something every other day.
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And so it's like
being able to say is that
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if I don't pay attention in all
that, I'm gonna be in trouble.
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And it's not just diet
and it's not just exercise,
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it's that, you know,
you made a decision, Melody,
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to grab hold of your life.
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Do you know what I mean? Right.
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You wanted your life back--
Satan took my life away from me.
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You know, He took many precious
years and stole them away
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because and I gave them to
him because that's all the junk.
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Satan carries all this junk.
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And he wants us to, you know,
he gives us the junk to carry.
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And I let him do
that and I thought,
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"No, I'm not
gonna do this anymore.
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I didn't like that person.
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I was uncomfortable in her skin.
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And I say her because
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I've loved 100 pound
woman somewhere out there.
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She is floating around and
I hope nobody ever takes her
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because I don't want
anybody to gain that weight.
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But I have to say to anybody
that is battling the battle
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that you did is that there's
something that I want to say
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to that 100-pound
woman that you left behind
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is she really
helped you to survive--
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Sure, she did.
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And so, you
know, for a lot of us
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we have to learn to survive.
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We have those
survival skills, like,
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if things are not going well,
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if relationships
are not going well,
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if I'm disconnecting from people
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that all of that has to be
looked at, at the same time.
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And little things in
that area too for socially.
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One of the first
things that God had me do
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and I really believe it was God.
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I just heard
this small voice say,
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"You need to
connect with people."
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I didn't know how to do
that well until He says,
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"You know, take
a crochet class."
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And I laughed.
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I'm thinking,
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"You know, I am a
heroin addict from the streets.
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What do you mean
a crochet class?"
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You know, but it's in all of
those areas, not just eating,
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not just exercise but socialize
again and get back out there,
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grab hold of your life.
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I had become kind of reclusive
in some areas, you know,
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even though I am a social bug.
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If people would've
known me even 6, 7 years ago,
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I could not even get up
in church to read scripture.
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I had such stage fright
and to be up in front of people
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because my thought was,
"Okay, is my skirt long enough?
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Do I look okay? Do I look fat?
00:16:06.64\00:16:08.42
Is my make-up okay?
What's my hair look like?"
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I was so conscious of
myself. And they didn't care.
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They were just
listening to a scripture
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and that was some of my battle
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whenever I felt
God calling me to come
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and do this
health message, like,
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"God, I can't get
up in front of people."
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How did you conquer
some of that kind of stuff?
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'Cause all of us
have that stuff when we,
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as we head into recovery.
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Well, I didn't conquer it
at all but I just kept praying.
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When I took that
step in my living room
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and submitted to God
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and I have to tell
you real quick, you know,
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I've put out
fleeces all the time.
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And I said, "Okay,
God, if my husband,
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You've got to convince him.
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I'm convinced I need to do it.
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So it's up to
You to do that now.
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You convince him."
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And he comes in 'cause he
didn't want me to go get a job,
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a real job, you know.
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He says, "You are
crazy doing this, ministry."
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And he walked, and I
was in the kitchen that day
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that I put that
fleece out to the Lord.
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And I'm, like,
"Okay, You got do your job."
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You know, I'm testing
God, "You never do that."
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So I'm in the kitchen doing
my thing and I listen to these
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ministry tapes during
the day when I'm cooking.
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And he usually comes in
the house and, you know,
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puts whatever, he takes
his boots off and everything
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and goes to the
restroom and comes out
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and I get dinner on the table
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and then he
usually says something.
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And he walked in the
door that day and he said,
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"You know I've been
thinking about it all day.
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If you want to do this stuff,
then you just need to do it."
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And I looked up
thinking that was way too fast.
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You know,
'cause-- Now I got to move.
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For like any recovery program
really trust there is a God
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and He's involved
in the whole process.
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Every step of
the way. Every step.
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And then I went as
far as to, some people
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who had been to some seminars
that I helped with, Cheri, said,
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"Come and do one for ours.
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You've always
been such a great cook.
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You just got to come and do it."
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I called them and scheduled one.
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Scared to death, I
went into the bathroom
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just before I went up
there to speak, just shaking.
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You could see the
bottom of my skirt shaking
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and I knelt down in that stall,
in that bathroom and I said,
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"Lord, you've got to take
this from me. I can't do it."
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Yeah, I'm scared to
death. I was scared to death.
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I mean, I tear up just thinking
about it. I was terrified.
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And I went up there
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and I got out from the bathroom,
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went out there
and I just, you know,
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it was like the
Israelites, you know.
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"God, we can't walk across this.
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Where are we gonna go?
Behind this, on this side?
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We can't go anywhere.
They are surrounding us."
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And God just parted
the sea but what happened
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He tested their faith first.
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I had to get up there in front
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and as soon as I got out
in front, Cheri, it went away.
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You know, I have to say
that what's really amazing
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to me is how
faithful God can be.
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And, you know, bringing
this program to a close,
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I feel like, you
know, I wanted to just say
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congratulations and everything
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that you've gone through
and everything that you've done.
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And I know that
because God is faithful,
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this is just a beginning.
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You're gonna have to learn a
lot about yourself. Who you are?
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What happens if you had
not been robbed in this area,
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your growth would've happened,
00:19:03.50\00:19:04.87
now it's gonna happen
now instead of 20 years ago.
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I just praise the
Lord that He's using me.
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You know, I did not,
00:19:08.60\00:19:10.44
for most of my life I
did what Melody wanted
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and I hope I can continue to do
00:19:12.64\00:19:14.40
what God wants me to do
because He deserves that.
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He is so wonderful.
00:19:17.70\00:19:19.07
You know, I'd like to be careful
with that 'cause you didn't do
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what Melody
wanted, you were hijacked.
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I was hijacked.
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You know, we're talking on this
season about being hijacked,
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what hijacks our pleasure
centers, what hijacks us?
00:19:27.66\00:19:30.90
And I think that our
fear and our depression and,
00:19:30.93\00:19:34.28
you know, all of the
sudden you're in a marriage
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that wasn't working,
00:19:36.40\00:19:37.77
not that wasn't
working but you were so young
00:19:37.80\00:19:39.30
and all that kind of
stuff that you were hijacked.
00:19:39.33\00:19:41.69
And what you allowed to bring
pleasure into your life was food
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and usually the
wrong kinds of foods.
00:19:45.87\00:19:47.39
And so for somebody that's
alcoholic we do with alcohol,
00:19:47.42\00:19:50.48
somebody that's a drug
addict, we do with drug,
00:19:50.51\00:19:52.75
sex addict we get online
porn and we do the sexual stuff.
00:19:52.78\00:19:56.93
And I think that we get hijacked
00:19:56.96\00:19:58.33
and it takes years to
kind of get ourselves back.
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And finally God
says, you know what,
00:20:01.64\00:20:03.88
"You've been lost for so long,
I just want to find you again."
00:20:03.91\00:20:07.38
And so if I want to
bring this to a close,
00:20:07.41\00:20:10.41
if you find that you've
been hijacked in any area,
00:20:10.44\00:20:12.86
know that you got to
do one thing at a time,
00:20:12.89\00:20:15.42
set tiny goals and
get your life back.
00:20:15.45\00:20:18.74
See you next time, until then,
00:20:18.77\00:20:20.14
always remember that
God is crazy about you.
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Me too.
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