Shall we bow our heads
for prayer? Father in heaven
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as we study today about the
meaning of marriage in the book
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of Genesis, we ask for the
guidance of your Holy Spirit.
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We realize that in the world
today marriage doesn't mean
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very much. The devil is
angry and he's trying to destroy
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marriage because he knows that
as marriage goes so goes society
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and so goes the world. So help
us to understand your plan for
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marriage from the very beginning
and we thank you for hearing
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our prayer for we ask
it in Jesus' name, Amen.
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In order to understand the
meaning of marriage we need to
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begin at the very beginning of
creation week. So I'm going to
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review the days of creation
culminating with what God did
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on the sixth day of creation
week. The first day the Bible
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tells us that God spoke light
into existence. The second day
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he spoke the firmament into
existence. On the third day he
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spoke the dry land and the trees
and the flowers and the plants
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into existence. On the fourth
day God placed the sun and the
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moon and the stars in their
positions by the power of his
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word. On the fifth day God spoke
the birds and spoke the fish
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into existence. On the first
part of the sixth day God spoke
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the land animals into existence.
And then, of course, the Bible
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tells us that towards the end
of the sixth day most likely God
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created man and woman. Let's
notice that as it's found in
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Genesis chapter 1 and verse 27.
Genesis 1 and verse 27. This is
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towards the very end of
the sixth day. It says...
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And then of course a little bit
further down in verse 31 we find
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that is says,...
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Now remember that.
Indeed it was very good...
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So you have God creating in
six days. Towards the end of the
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sixth day God makes man and
woman and then at the end of the
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sixth day God looks upon his
work and he sees that it is very
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good. Now you notice that God
did not explain how he created
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man and woman. Genesis 1 verse
27 simply says that God made man
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and woman, male and female, but
it doesn't explain how. And so
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we're left with the question and
of course in Genesis chapter 2
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God is going to recapitulate,
in other words, he's going to
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repeat some of the things
that he left unsaid in Genesis
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chapter 1. And one of those
things which was not explained
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is how he created man and how
he created the woman. Now let's
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notice first of all how God
created Adam, the man. Genesis
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chapter 2 and
verse 7 explains it...
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...Now I want you to notice
here that with man God did
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something different than with
the rest of creation. The rest
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of creation he spoke into
existence. But if you read
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Isaiah 64 and verse 8. You're
going to discover that God made
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man, he formed man, like a
potter out of clay. In other
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words God gave Adam the personal
touch. He took clay, formed man
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and then breathed into his
nostrils the breath of life and
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Adam became a living being.
So we know how man was created.
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Now the question is how was the
woman created during creation
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week? Let's go to Genesis
chapter 2 and verse 18. Genesis
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chapter 2 and verse 18. By
the way this is happening on the
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sixth day of creation week. God
has already formed man of the
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dust of the ground. Now he's
going to proceed to create the
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woman but there are some things
that have to happen first.
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Notice chapter 2 and verse 18...
And the Lord God said, "It is
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not good that man should be
alone;... Now that's a strange
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statement because at the
end of creation week we found in
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Genesis 1:31 that it says that
God looked upon everything that
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he had made and it was very good
but here on the sixth day after
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God has created Adam God looked
and he says there's something
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here that is not good. Imagine
that. Something in creation week
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that was not good. Obviously
this is before the end of the
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sixth day of creation. Because
on the sixth day God looked and
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it was very good. Here he
says it is not good. So this is
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before the end of the sixth day.
Are you understanding what I'm
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saying? And so notice what
he continues saying. Once again
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verse 18...
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Now that's an interesting
expression. The King James says
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a help meet. Now what is a
help meet? A help meet is one
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corresponding to Adam. It is one
like Adam. It is a complement
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to Adam. It is one who is a
counterpart to Adam. In fact,
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woman is man's alter ego or
what we might call man's other
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self. In other words they were
supposed to be intertwined as
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one, counterpart one of the
other. Now I'd like to read a
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statement that we find in
Patriarchs and Prophets, page 46
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This book, Patriarchs and
Prophets is a marvelous book.
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It tells the story of the Old
Testament from the origin of sin
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and actually it happened before
the Old Testament, and it goes
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all the way through the story of
David, the king of Israel, about
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a thousand years before
the birth of Christ. It's a
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marvelous book. And here
Ellen White explains what the
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expression help meet
or counter part means.
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On page 46, she says this...
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Notice the terminology.
Close union and affectionate
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attachment that should exist in
this relation. Now even though
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the book of Genesis does not
explicitly address in the first
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two chapters whether a marriage
should be between a believer and
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an unbeliever, it is very clear
by this expression help meet
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that Adam and Eve were supposed
to be on the same page mentally
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physically and spiritually
as well as emotionally. What I'm
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saying is that they undoubtedly
according to the plan of God
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would practice a common faith.
We find from Genesis that they
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we're going to keep a common day
of worship and they were going
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to serve a common God between
them. It is inconceivable that
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in the mind of God if Adam
and Eve are one flesh, if Eve is
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Adam's other self so to speak
that one would go to church on
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one day and the other would go
to church on another day, that
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one would keep the Sabbath and
the other one would keep another
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day, that one would have
certain religious practices
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contrary to the religious
practices of the other. In other
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words because they were
actually one according to
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scripture is understood that the
original marriage was between
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individuals who spiritually were
in tune; they were on the same
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page. In fact, the question
that I ask when I'm doing
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marriage counseling to a
couple where they belong to
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different churches, they're both
Christians, but they belong to
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different churches, I ask them
questions such as this: When you
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get married and you have
children where are your kids
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going to be educated, in
an Adventist school or in a
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Catholic school? Is that an
important question. It doesn't
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look like it when you're
romancing, but I'll tell you
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it's going to come up later on.
I ask them this: Where and when
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are you going to go to church?
Is that an important question?
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Absolutely. What is your family
going to eat. If one believes
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that you can eat pork and loves
pork and the other one is a
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vegetarian you're going to have
somewhat of a crisis under the
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same roof. I also ask
the question: What type of
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entertainment will you
participate in. Will you dance?
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Will you drink? Will you go
to the movie theater? Are you
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understanding what I'm saying?
How can you be soul mates, how
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can woman be man's other self,
how can man and woman be one
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and still be at odds in their
spiritual habits and in their
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manner of practicing their
religion and worshipping God?
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It's impossible. And so when God
made Adam and Eve at the very
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beginning of human history, God
made them to worship the same
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God on the same day and in the
same manner and to have worship
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together. He did not make them
different spiritually. Now let's
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go back to Genesis and continue
examining the story. We find
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that God says it is not good
that man be alone. I will make
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another self for him. Now
notice Genesis chapter 2 and
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verses 19 and 20. Genesis
chapter 2 and verses 19 and 20.
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God now gives Adam, this is the
sixth day still, God gives Adam
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a little task to perform.
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It says there in verse
19: Out of the ground...
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You know God purposely had Adam
name the animals because he knew
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that as Adam was naming the
animals he was going to see that
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there was no help meet for
him. There was no one like him.
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He was going to notice that each
animal had its mate but he did
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not have someone to share his
experience physically, mentally,
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spiritually and emotional with.
And so God purposely told him to
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name the animals so that he
would feel lonely and of course
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loneliness is not good. It
is not good that man should be
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alone. And so we find in Genesis
chapter 2 and verse 21 that God
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performs the first general
anesthesia of human history
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and the first surgery of human
history. Notice Genesis chapter
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two once again and verse 21...
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do you notice that a deep sleep.
Would you call that anesthesia?
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Absolutely. And this was a
general anesthesia. You know
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Adam was not semiconscious,
semi awake. He was out of it.
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and it says...
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What did God take out? He took
out a rib. And what did he make
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out of the rib? It says that
out of the rib, verse 22,...
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Now there's a couple of things
that I want to underline here.
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It says here that God made the
woman. Now listen up. The word
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that is used for made here
in the Hebrew is not the common,
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ordinary word for making
something. It is a word that
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means, by the way, it's
the Hebrew banah which means
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to build. It is used many times
in the Old Testament to describe
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the building, for example of
Solomon's temple. In other words
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God did not speak Eve into
existence either. God built Eve.
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Now isn't it interesting
that God does not speak Eve into
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existence. God does not make Eve
out of the dust of the ground
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like he did the man, but God
takes a rib out of the man and
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out of the rib he builds a woman
he constructs a woman. In other
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words, with his own hands.
Why in the world would God do
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something like this? By the way,
a rib is very close to what?
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Very close to the heart. Did you
notice that the quotation from
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Patriarchs and Prophets says
that God did not take a bone
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from his foot because he was
not supposed to trample on Eve.
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Neither did God take a bone
from the head because Eve was
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not supposed to be the head
of man. But God actually took a
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bone very close to Adam's heart
which is the place that God
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wanted Eve to occupy in Adam's
attention. And of course, Eve
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was taken from Adam. She was
actually a part of Adam. Do you
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notice also in this verse that
it tells us that God brought Eve
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to Adam. Now this is a very
important point. You know these
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days people go out spouse
hunting. But originally God is
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saying that we don't go spouse
hunting. God shows us whom we
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should marry by circumstances
in our lives, by signs in our
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lives we are able to see who
God has for us. And sometimes
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we rush things and as a result
we make the wrong decision.
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But it says here that God made
the woman out of man and God
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brought the woman to man. And
there are some people in this
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church whose names I'm not going
to mention that I've had the
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privilege of marrying and
they have just wonderful, happy
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marriages. And I say wow! God
certainly intervened in the life
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of this man or in the life
of this woman to bring them
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together in this church at this
time in almost a miraculous way.
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And so we find that God makes
Eve out of a rib of Adam to show
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that she is of the same
substance of man. He takes a
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bone close to the heart because
that's the place that Eve should
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occupy in the attention of
Adam. Now there's something very
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important as we examine the
story of the creation of man and
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woman and the establishment of
the first marriage and that is
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that marriage in Genesis
according to God's original plan
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was supposed to be heterosexual.
That's very, very clear in the
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first two chapters of Genesis.
Let's notice once again Genesis
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one verse 27. Genesis chapter
1 and verse 27. You know there's
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this big discussion today in the
world whether gay marriage is
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acceptable or not on the sight
of God. Well the fact is Genesis
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makes it very, very clear that
God established marriage to be
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heterosexual, not homosexual.
Now notice Genesis chapter 1 and
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verse 27...
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What did God create? Male and
what? Male and female according
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to this. Notice Genesis chapter
two and verses 22 and 23.
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It says:...
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The first marriage was
between a him and a what? A her
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according to this. Verse 23: And
Adam said, this is now bone of
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my bones and flesh of my
flesh. She... What? She shall be
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called woman because she was
taken out of man. Are there any
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doubts in the book of Genesis
that marriage as God created it
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originally was to be
heterosexual marriage?
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There's absolutely no doubt. And
then of course we find the words
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Therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother and be
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joined to his wife. Man shall
be joined to his what? To his
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wife and they shall be one flesh
By the way when it speaks about
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being one flesh and joined to
his wife, it's talking about the
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intimacy of marriage. It's
talking about the privilege now
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of having marital relations,
or sexual relations, the man and
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the woman. Listen, you don't
have to be very intelligent to
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figure out that God created
marriage to be heterosexual.
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All you have to do is look at
simple, common biology. All you
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have to look at is at the
physical makeup of the man
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and the physical makeup of a
woman and you know that certain
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organs God made for man and
certain organs he made for woman
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to be employed in the sacred
union of marriage. It's simple
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biology, even if you didn't
have Holy Scripture to refer to.
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And so we find in the book of
Genesis that marriage is to be
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heterosexual. We also find
in the book of Genesis that
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marriage is supposed to be
between kindred hearts, between
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believers. And by the way, do
you know that the New Testament
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corroborates that point. Be
thee not unevenly yoked with
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unbelievers. And the Apostle
Paul, if you look in your Bibles
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with me 1 Corinthians chapter
7 and verse 39, God tells us
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that marriage must be between
believers. I Corinthians chapter
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7 and verse 39. It says here...
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Is there a condition for getting
married. Yes it must be in the
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Lord. Now there's another
important aspect of marriage
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that we find in the story of
Genesis. And what I'm going to
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share with you is probably very
politically incorrect but it's
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taught in the book of Genesis.
What are you talking about
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you're saying pastor.
Even thought Adam and Eve were
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created as equals the woman was
to be subject to her husband,
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even before sin. You'll hear
people say, no that was after
00:24:17.99\00:24:23.59
sin. No, even before sin the
wife was to be subject to her
00:24:23.63\00:24:28.13
husband even though she was
equal to her husband. By the way
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Adam and Eve were created equal.
Allow me to share this with you.
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Were both of them called
man? We just read it in Genesis,
00:24:36.97\00:24:40.48
both of them were called
man, male and female but man.
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Were both created in the image
and likeness of God? We just
00:24:43.98\00:24:48.95
read it. Were both of them given
dominion? Yes they were. Were
00:24:48.98\00:24:53.86
both of them commanded to be
fruitful and multiply? Yes. Were
00:24:53.89\00:24:58.79
both of them blessed? Yes. Were
both of them made from the same
00:24:58.83\00:25:03.70
substance? Yes they were. In
other words, God created Adam
00:25:03.73\00:25:09.07
and Eve equal and yet he created
the woman to be subject to man.
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Now you say how can you be equal
if one is subject to the other?
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The fact is that it is very
simple. You can be ontologically
00:25:19.31\00:25:24.32
equal. Ontologically means as
a being before God. You can be
00:25:24.35\00:25:28.92
equal while at the same time
functionally one can be subject
00:25:28.96\00:25:33.06
to another. And you say how's
that? Well let's take a look at
00:25:33.09\00:25:36.60
the relationship between Jesus
and his Father. We studied this
00:25:36.63\00:25:40.14
when we dealt with the
issue of discipline. Remember we
00:25:40.17\00:25:42.70
studied the issue of discipline,
how God disciplines his children
00:25:42.74\00:25:45.54
as a model as to how
we're supposed to discipline our
00:25:45.57\00:25:50.28
children. Well let me ask you,
are God the Father and his Son
00:25:50.31\00:25:54.98
Jesus equal? Are they? Well
let's notice a couple of texts.
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John chapter 10 and verse 30.
John chapter 10 and verse 30.
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What does Jesus say there? It's
a very short verse. He says...
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Are Jesus and his father equal.
They're one just like Adam and
00:26:15.14\00:26:21.41
Eve were one. The same
terminology. Let me as you
00:26:21.44\00:26:24.78
something. Is Jesus even though
he is equal with his Father, is
00:26:24.81\00:26:29.42
Jesus subject to his
Father. Have you ever read
00:26:29.45\00:26:34.06
I Corinthians chapter 11 and
verse 3 where it says that the
00:26:34.09\00:26:39.56
head of Christ is who? The head
of Christ is God and the head of
00:26:39.59\00:26:46.84
the woman is who? The man. Now
if you don't like the idea that
00:26:46.87\00:26:52.44
the head of the woman is the man
you obviously would not like the
00:26:52.47\00:26:57.11
idea that the head of Christ is
the Father. Now the Father and
00:26:57.15\00:27:02.22
the Son are equal. But the Son
is subject to the Father and in
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the same way Adam and Eve
are equal but the woman is to be
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what? The woman is to be subject
to her husband. You say now how
00:27:13.13\00:27:16.77
do we know that the woman is
to be subject to her husband and
00:27:16.80\00:27:21.04
that the husband is the head?
Well let me share some details
00:27:21.07\00:27:26.14
with you. Who was created first
Adam or Eve? Do you know the
00:27:26.17\00:27:31.01
Apostle Paul says that because
man was created first and then
00:27:31.05\00:27:35.75
woman man has the leadership or
the headship role? By the way,
00:27:35.78\00:27:40.42
who named who. Did Eve
name Adam or did Adam name Eve?
00:27:40.46\00:27:45.36
In scripture, naming someone is
an indication of the exercise of
00:27:45.39\00:27:50.00
authority on the part of that
person and so when Adam said she
00:27:50.03\00:27:54.67
shall be called woman,
Adam is exercising his what?
00:27:54.70\00:27:59.24
His authority in naming the
woman. Furthermore when Adam and
00:27:59.27\00:28:05.55
Eve sinned who did God hold
accountable? Who did he hold
00:28:05.58\00:28:12.05
accountable? He held Adam
accountable. And by the way, we
00:28:12.09\00:28:18.46
find Jesus not as the second Eve
he is the second what? He is the
00:28:18.49\00:28:23.87
second Adam because Adam was the
father and representative of the
00:28:23.90\00:28:29.30
human race. Are you
understanding what I'm
00:28:29.34\00:28:31.97
saying? And so for all of these
reasons Adam and Eve were equal
00:28:32.01\00:28:37.08
but the wife was to be subject
to the husband. Now I realize
00:28:37.11\00:28:42.15
that in a world where the
husband abuses his privilege
00:28:42.18\00:28:45.62
as the head and beats up
his wife and mistreats his wife,
00:28:45.65\00:28:49.06
this is a very hard word. But in
God's original plan it was to be
00:28:49.09\00:28:54.23
a loving headship. The woman
would lovingly subject herself
00:28:54.30\00:28:58.20
to her husband because she
realized that her husband wanted
00:28:58.23\00:29:02.24
the best for her. And the
husband, of course, would love
00:29:02.27\00:29:05.91
his wife, would give his
life for his wife. In fact, Adam
00:29:05.94\00:29:09.54
loved Eve more than he loved God
because he could not stand the
00:29:09.58\00:29:14.35
idea of living one day without
Eve and when Eve sinned Adam
00:29:14.38\00:29:19.09
said I guess I will sin also. He
loved Eve with all of his heart.
00:29:19.12\00:29:23.69
This was his help meet. It
was his other self. It was like
00:29:23.73\00:29:27.83
tearing him apart the idea that
Eve would die and Adam would
00:29:27.86\00:29:32.43
continue living so he decided to
sin as well and suffer the same
00:29:32.47\00:29:38.24
fate as Eve. Problems show up
in marriage when we disrespect
00:29:38.27\00:29:42.88
the order that God established
at the very beginning. When the
00:29:42.91\00:29:47.45
woman tries to exercise the
headship role instead of the
00:29:47.48\00:29:51.49
man. That's one of the big
problems of the world. And when
00:29:51.52\00:29:55.59
the man refuses to love his wife
and wants to actually beat up
00:29:55.62\00:30:00.30
on his wife. But if marriages
were like God intended it at the
00:30:00.33\00:30:04.10
beginning that the man would
exercise a loving headship role
00:30:04.13\00:30:07.94
and the woman would subject
herself in love to her husband
00:30:07.97\00:30:11.74
marriage would be everything
that God wanted it to be.
00:30:11.77\00:30:17.31
Allow me to read you a
statement that we find in the
00:30:17.35\00:30:22.82
book Patriarchs and Prophets
page 59 about Eve. See we live
00:30:22.85\00:30:28.09
in a time of women's liberation.
That's what it used to be called
00:30:28.12\00:30:32.49
women's rights and you know the
idea I'm not going to let any
00:30:32.53\00:30:36.83
man control me or dominate
me. I'm going to declare my
00:30:36.87\00:30:40.37
independence and as a
result women have occupied the
00:30:40.40\00:30:43.84
positions that men should occupy
and they've abandoned the home.
00:30:43.87\00:30:49.18
Do you think it's degrading
for a woman to take care of her
00:30:49.21\00:30:53.48
children and take care of the
home. That is the most beautiful
00:30:53.52\00:30:58.19
task that you could ever fulfill
to make sure your children are
00:30:58.22\00:31:02.49
saved in the kingdom because
you're fulfilling your role as
00:31:02.52\00:31:07.03
the mother. Now notice what
she says about Eve. Eve had been
00:31:07.10\00:31:12.57
perfectly happy by her husband's
side in her Eden home, but like
00:31:12.60\00:31:18.04
restless modern Eves she
was flattered with the hope of
00:31:18.07\00:31:23.71
entering a higher sphere than
that which God had assigned for
00:31:23.75\00:31:29.58
her. In attempting to rise above
her original position she fell
00:31:29.62\00:31:35.29
far below it. A similar result
will be reached by all who are
00:31:35.32\00:31:41.30
unwilling to take up cheerfully
their life duties in accordance
00:31:41.33\00:31:47.30
with God's plan. In their
efforts to reach positions
00:31:47.34\00:31:50.47
for which he has not fitted
them many are leaving vacant the
00:31:50.51\00:31:54.78
place where they might be a
blessing. In their desire for a
00:31:54.81\00:31:59.01
higher sphere many
have sacrificed true womanly
00:31:59.05\00:32:04.55
dignity and nobility
of character and have left
00:32:04.59\00:32:10.03
undone the very work that heaven
appointed them. Powerful words,
00:32:10.06\00:32:16.63
which if they were practiced the
world would be far different.
00:32:16.67\00:32:22.20
Far fewer marriages would end
up in divorce if we respected
00:32:22.24\00:32:27.34
the order that God established.
Turn with me to the book of
00:32:27.38\00:32:32.88
Ephesians chapter 5 and verses
22-25. The Apostle Paul is clear
00:32:32.91\00:32:37.12
on this point. Some people say
Ah what did Paul know? He was a
00:32:37.15\00:32:42.39
male chauvinist. Well I believe
that what he wrote was inspired
00:32:42.42\00:32:47.30
by the Holy Spirit. How about
it? Notice Ephesians chapter 5
00:32:47.30\00:32:52.10
and verse 22...
00:32:52.13\00:32:53.40
Of course that means in the Lord
He's just explained in the Lord.
00:33:17.83\00:33:20.26
If your husband wants you to
do something that is contrary to
00:33:20.30\00:33:23.87
the Lord, you can say No Way.
But in everything else they are
00:33:23.90\00:33:27.50
to submit to their husbands
according to this. And then
00:33:27.54\00:33:30.44
notice the Apostle Paul balances
it off by talking to the
00:33:30.47\00:33:33.34
husbands...
00:33:33.38\00:33:41.65
In other words, the Apostle
Paul is saying, Husbands love
00:33:41.68\00:33:45.15
your wives and give yourselves
for your wife and if they did
00:33:45.19\00:33:49.22
that it would be very easy
for the wife to submit to the
00:33:49.26\00:33:52.53
husband. Now notice one
other text. This is a critically
00:33:52.56\00:33:55.76
important text. Ephesians
chapter 5 and verse 33.
00:33:55.80\00:33:59.40
Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 33
This is a very interesting verse
00:33:59.43\00:34:05.51
and notice what the Apostle Paul
has to say here in chapter 5
00:34:05.54\00:34:10.98
and verse 33. A very interesting
word is used. He says:...
00:34:11.01\00:34:16.48
Now that doesn't catch the whole
nuance of what God is trying to
00:34:29.70\00:34:34.04
say. The translation respects.
The Greek word that is used here
00:34:34.07\00:34:41.38
is the word phobeo which means
to fear your husband. Now it's
00:34:41.41\00:34:47.08
not talking about fear in terms
of being afraid. It's the same
00:34:47.12\00:34:52.02
word that's used in Revelation
14 verse 7: Fear God and give
00:34:52.05\00:34:57.06
glory to him. It means to
have God in awe in the deepest
00:34:57.09\00:35:02.00
respect. That's what it means.
But the word fear; the wife is
00:35:02.03\00:35:06.60
to fear her husband and the
husband is to love his wife as
00:35:06.63\00:35:10.81
himself. By the way, when a
husband beats up his wife and
00:35:10.84\00:35:14.48
practices spousal abuse,
he's actually beating himself up
00:35:14.51\00:35:18.11
because the wife is one
with you you are one flesh.
00:35:18.15\00:35:24.19
And so the Apostle Paul says
that when a man mistreats his
00:35:24.22\00:35:28.86
wife he is really mistreating
who? He is really mistreating
00:35:28.89\00:35:33.36
himself. Now another important
point that we find in Genesis
00:35:33.40\00:35:38.93
is that marriage is a divine
institution. Marriage is not a
00:35:38.97\00:35:44.04
social contract. Marriage is not
something that merely happens
00:35:44.07\00:35:48.64
when we go to the office of the
justice of the peace. Marriage
00:35:48.68\00:35:53.18
is a divine institution. Go
with me to Genesis chapter 2 and
00:35:53.21\00:35:58.89
verse 24. Genesis chapter 2 and
verse 24. Very important verse.
00:35:58.92\00:36:04.03
After Adam says this is now
bone of my bones and flesh of my
00:36:04.06\00:36:09.10
flesh. She shall be called woman
because she was taken out of the
00:36:09.13\00:36:12.57
man, we find these words:
00:36:12.60\00:36:23.24
Is that word therefore
indicating that marriage is
00:36:23.28\00:36:28.28
normative for the future? Or is
this only something that God did
00:36:28.32\00:36:33.19
with Adam and Eve or is
this normative for the future?
00:36:33.22\00:36:36.56
On the basis of what Adam has
said, God is saying therefore
00:36:36.59\00:36:40.96
from now on a man shall
leave his father and his mother.
00:36:41.00\00:36:45.33
By the way how do we know that?
Because when God said this there
00:36:45.37\00:36:48.64
was no father or
mother. Correct? Were there any
00:36:48.67\00:36:54.91
fathers or mothers? No. So
when these words are pronounced,
00:36:54.94\00:36:58.41
therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother and be
00:36:58.45\00:37:01.92
joined to his wife, God is
saying that what he did at the
00:37:01.95\00:37:05.35
very beginning is going to be
normative for all those who will
00:37:05.39\00:37:09.79
have in the future what? Fathers
and mothers. In other words, God
00:37:09.82\00:37:14.20
is making a divine institution.
By the way, who spoke these
00:37:14.20\00:37:18.63
words? Therefore shall a man
leave his father and his mother
00:37:18.67\00:37:22.47
and shall be joined to his wife
and they shall be one flesh?
00:37:22.50\00:37:27.68
You know, you read Genesis and
you don't really know because
00:37:27.71\00:37:31.48
it's immediately after Adam says
this is flesh of my flesh, bone
00:37:31.51\00:37:35.18
of my bones, she will be
called woman. And then it says
00:37:35.22\00:37:38.15
therefore shall a man leave his
father and his mother. You know
00:37:38.19\00:37:41.69
you say well is Moses saying
this? Or you might say is Adam
00:37:41.72\00:37:44.73
still talking here, therefore
shall a man leave his father
00:37:44.76\00:37:48.30
and his mother and be joined
to his wife? Who's saying these
00:37:48.33\00:37:53.07
words. Genesis doesn't make
it very clear. But Matthew does.
00:37:53.10\00:37:57.54
Go with me to Matthew chapter 19
and you'll see that marriage is
00:37:57.57\00:38:01.94
a divine institution. Matthew
chapter 19 and I want to read
00:38:01.98\00:38:07.25
verse 4-6. It says here:
00:38:07.28\00:38:22.06
...who made them at the
beginning? God. Which person of
00:38:22.10\00:38:30.27
the Godhead? Jesus. Genesis
1 verse 1 says In the beginning
00:38:30.31\00:38:37.15
God created the heavens and the
earth. John 1:1-3 says In the
00:38:37.18\00:38:42.88
beginning the Word was God and
made all things. So the creator
00:38:42.92\00:38:48.12
of Genesis was Jesus. You
say well why does Jesus then say
00:38:48.16\00:38:53.33
he who made them at the
beginning? Why doesn't he say
00:38:53.36\00:38:56.23
when I made them at the
beginning. This is a figure of
00:38:56.26\00:38:59.10
speech. I don't have time to
go to the text that I'm going to
00:38:59.13\00:39:02.40
mention them. For example
in John 6 verse 33 and verse 46
00:39:02.44\00:39:05.61
Jesus uses the same expression
speaking about himself. He which
00:39:05.64\00:39:11.08
did this but he's
speaking not about someone else.
00:39:11.11\00:39:15.48
He's referring to himself.
And so he who made them in the
00:39:15.52\00:39:19.42
beginning who is Jesus according
to this made them male and
00:39:19.45\00:39:24.73
female and now notice verse 5:
And said. Who said? He who made
00:39:24.76\00:39:29.96
them in the beginning and said..
00:39:30.00\00:39:34.44
So who spoke those words in
Genesis and was the Creator?
00:39:41.24\00:39:45.41
And now notice verse 6:...
00:39:45.45\00:39:53.86
and then we have some words that
are in Matthew that were not in
00:39:53.89\00:39:57.83
Genesis. It says:...
00:39:57.86\00:40:09.20
Is Jesus implicitly here saying
that divorce was not in God's
00:40:09.24\00:40:16.64
plan originally. What God
has joined together. Marriage is
00:40:16.68\00:40:24.02
something that is performed by
whom? By God, according to this.
00:40:24.05\00:40:29.59
What God has joined together let
not man cast asunder. In other
00:40:29.62\00:40:35.06
words when we get divorced
according to the book of Genesis
00:40:35.10\00:40:39.97
we are going contrary to the
plan of God. Now I realize that
00:40:40.00\00:40:44.84
Jesus said that there's a
certain reason why we can get
00:40:44.87\00:40:49.28
divorced and remarried; in the
case of breaking the marriage
00:40:49.31\00:40:53.88
vow. In the case of adultery
according to Christ. But people
00:40:53.92\00:40:58.79
get divorced today for every
reason under the sun. They get
00:40:58.82\00:41:03.56
divorced because the husband or
the wife snores and for trivial
00:41:03.59\00:41:08.26
things such as that as if
marriages were disposable.
00:41:08.30\00:41:12.30
You know one of the problems is
that people enter marriage today
00:41:12.33\00:41:16.71
with a defeatist attitude. They
basically say well you know I'm
00:41:16.74\00:41:20.41
getting married. If it doesn't
work I'll get a divorce. I know
00:41:20.44\00:41:25.25
when I got married 33 years ago
I really believed that this is
00:41:25.28\00:41:30.42
till death do us part. This is
for life, for better, for worse.
00:41:30.45\00:41:35.76
If we have troubles, we'll work
on the troubles and we'll work
00:41:35.79\00:41:41.06
them and iron them out and
we'll make the marriage work.
00:41:41.10\00:41:46.40
But today people give up
for small reasons sometimes.
00:41:46.43\00:41:51.17
What God has joined together
let not man cast asunder.
00:41:51.21\00:41:56.91
Folks, marriage is a divine
institution. Marriage is not a
00:41:56.95\00:42:02.48
human institution, it is not a
social contract. It is holy and
00:42:02.52\00:42:07.29
indissoluble. Notice what
Patriarchs and Prophets, page 46
00:42:07.32\00:42:12.06
says:...
00:42:12.09\00:42:26.17
Isn't that amazing. I want
to ask you something. Is the
00:42:26.21\00:42:31.58
liberal left, as it is called
today, trying to change marriage
00:42:31.61\00:42:38.15
Is it? What is it trying to
do with marriage? It's trying to
00:42:38.19\00:42:44.89
change marriage from the union
of a man and a woman to perhaps
00:42:44.93\00:42:51.57
the union of a man with a
man and a woman with a woman.
00:42:51.60\00:42:55.24
The liberal left is trying to
change the meaning of marriage.
00:42:55.27\00:43:01.38
But the evangelical right is
trying to change something else
00:43:01.41\00:43:07.52
that originated at creation.
You see as it says in Genesis,
00:43:07.55\00:43:11.72
therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother, which
00:43:11.75\00:43:15.59
means that it is normative from
that point on. There's another
00:43:15.62\00:43:19.29
commandment that was established
at creation, there was another
00:43:19.33\00:43:22.93
institution established
at creation where the fourth
00:43:22.96\00:43:26.17
commandment says for in six days
the Lord made the heavens, the
00:43:26.20\00:43:30.97
earth, the see, and everything
that in them is therefore the
00:43:31.01\00:43:35.54
Lord what? Rested on the seventh
day, he blessed it and he made
00:43:35.58\00:43:40.18
it holy. The very word therefore
is used for the Sabbath as it
00:43:40.22\00:43:44.19
was for marriage. And so in the
world today we have the devil
00:43:44.22\00:43:48.19
trying to destroy the two
creation institutions. One on
00:43:48.22\00:43:52.96
the part of the liberal left who
says we're going to change the
00:43:52.99\00:43:56.40
meaning of marriage to a
man and a man and a woman and a
00:43:56.43\00:44:00.54
woman. And the radical right who
are saying we're going to change
00:44:00.57\00:44:04.41
the Sabbath institution and
we're going to say that we're
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supposed to keep Sunday.
Now you tell me, where is the
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difference. There is no
difference. The devil doesn't
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care if you change one or if you
change the other. They are both
00:44:15.78\00:44:20.79
creation institutions, are they
not? And the devil hates both of
00:44:20.82\00:44:25.83
them. Do you know why?
Because marriage guarantees the
00:44:25.86\00:44:30.43
stability of the horizontal
order whereas the Sabbath
00:44:30.47\00:44:34.97
preserves the orderliness of the
vertical order between man and
00:44:35.00\00:44:41.98
God. And so the devil wants
to destroy the relationship
00:44:42.01\00:44:46.72
man and God of which the
Sabbath is a reminder and he
00:44:46.75\00:44:50.05
wants to destroy the
relationship of a husband and a
00:44:50.09\00:44:53.32
husband and a wife by
redefining the meaning of
00:44:53.36\00:44:58.73
marriage. And some people will
go even so far as to say, Well
00:44:58.76\00:45:02.36
you know the Sabbath was
actually a symbol that God gave
00:45:02.40\00:45:08.64
of the rest that we were going
to enjoy when Jesus came to the
00:45:08.67\00:45:12.54
world. And once Jesus comes
to the world we get rid of the
00:45:12.57\00:45:16.18
symbol. Well the fact is
that marriage was also a symbol
00:45:16.21\00:45:20.25
of the relationship between
Christ and his people. And so if
00:45:20.28\00:45:23.75
marriage is a symbol of the
relationship between Christ and
00:45:23.79\00:45:27.36
his people when Christ actually
comes let's get rid of marriage
00:45:27.39\00:45:31.83
also. Are you understanding what
I'm saying? The fact that the
00:45:31.86\00:45:36.26
reality comes does not
necessarily get rid of the
00:45:36.30\00:45:39.03
Sabbath. It does not necessarily
mean that we get rid of marriage
00:45:39.07\00:45:43.97
Some people even say well the
Sabbath was so twisted out of
00:45:44.01\00:45:48.94
shape at the time of Christ that
Jesus saw that it could not be
00:45:48.98\00:45:54.48
fixed and so he decided that he
would discard it. Well the same
00:45:54.52\00:45:58.95
is true of marriage in the
days of Christ. You read Matthew
00:45:58.99\00:46:03.16
chapter 19. People were getting
divorced for every reason under
00:46:03.19\00:46:07.66
the sun. So marriage was also in
the same condition. So why not
00:46:07.73\00:46:12.20
throw out marriage and
throw out the Sabbath. But today
00:46:12.23\00:46:14.80
everybody says no, marriage
is between a man and a woman and
00:46:14.84\00:46:18.51
you ask why? They say well
because that's the way God made
00:46:18.54\00:46:22.34
it at the beginning. And then
you ask and what else did he
00:46:22.38\00:46:27.98
make at the beginning. Well he
made the trees and he made the
00:46:28.02\00:46:32.32
fish and he made the birds.
And you say, yes, thank you very
00:46:32.35\00:46:36.06
much but I'm thinking more in
the line of what he made at the
00:46:36.09\00:46:40.46
end of creation week. What else
did he make immediately after
00:46:40.50\00:46:45.37
making marriage. The very next
verses say that he made what?
00:46:45.40\00:46:50.97
He made the Sabbath. So if you
discard the Sabbath what's so
00:46:51.01\00:46:56.31
wrong about discarding marriage?
Are you understanding what I'm
00:46:56.34\00:47:01.62
saying? Now another important
point in Genesis is that
00:47:01.65\00:47:05.65
marriage is to be monogamous.
Is that clearly in Genesis that
00:47:05.69\00:47:12.29
marriage is supposed to
be monogamous. You know what
00:47:12.33\00:47:14.96
monogamous means? It means one
man to one woman. You say how
00:47:15.00\00:47:21.20
do we know that. Doesn't it
say therefore shall an man leave
00:47:21.24\00:47:27.91
his father and his mother and
shall be joined to his wives?
00:47:27.94\00:47:33.78
That's not what it says. It
says shall be joint to his what?
00:47:33.82\00:47:39.19
To his wife. Now what part
of wife do you not understand?
00:47:39.22\00:47:45.99
Wife is singular. God married
one man with one woman. Not one
00:47:46.03\00:47:52.77
man with many women or
many women with one man.
00:47:52.80\00:47:56.84
God established marriage as
monogamous. Notice Ephesians
00:47:56.87\00:48:02.74
chapter 5. This plan had not
changed. Ephesians chapter 5.
00:48:02.78\00:48:07.82
We just read it a few moments
ago; 5 and verse 33. It says
00:48:07.85\00:48:12.82
here, the Apostle Paul
is speaking. We read it in a
00:48:12.85\00:48:24.23
different context a few
moments ago. He says this:
00:48:24.27\00:48:32.57
Did God create marriage
as a monogamous relationship?
00:48:32.61\00:48:40.82
Absolutely yes. Marriage was
supposed to be between one man
00:48:40.85\00:48:45.39
and one woman. And some people
say, yeah pastor but look at all
00:48:45.42\00:48:50.76
the men in the Old Testament who
married several women. Why don't
00:48:50.79\00:48:56.10
you look at the men who only
married one woman? For example,
00:48:56.13\00:49:03.47
Isaac. Isaac married one woman,
Rebekah. Noah married how many
00:49:03.51\00:49:11.55
women? One. How about Noah's
sons? One each. By the way do
00:49:11.58\00:49:17.72
you know who the first
polygamist was? There was a man
00:49:17.75\00:49:23.79
called Lamech and he was in the
genealogy of who? Cain. It says
00:49:23.83\00:49:30.17
that he had two wives. You say
but look, Abraham married two
00:49:30.20\00:49:35.94
women and God never said it was
wrong. Yes and all you have to
00:49:35.97\00:49:42.08
do is look at what the marriage
was like. I mean Sarah and Hagar
00:49:42.11\00:49:48.18
were at each other's throats.
The household was miserable.
00:49:48.22\00:49:53.32
By their fruits ye shall know
them. And then of course you
00:49:53.36\00:49:57.89
have Jacob who had two wives
and two concubines. Have mercy!
00:49:57.93\00:50:02.26
And if you read this story
you're going to find that there
00:50:02.30\00:50:06.13
were fights in this household
among all of the brothers like
00:50:06.17\00:50:11.31
you wouldn't believe. Is that
what God intended? That's not
00:50:11.34\00:50:15.28
what God intended. Notice what
we find in the book Story of
00:50:15.31\00:50:22.42
Redemption page 76 about Noah
and his sons. Noah had but one
00:50:22.45\00:50:28.62
wife and their united family
discipline was blessed of God.
00:50:28.66\00:50:34.23
Because Noah's sons were
righteous they were preserved in
00:50:34.30\00:50:40.57
the ark with their righteous
father. God has not sanctioned
00:50:40.60\00:50:49.08
polygamy in a single instance.
How's that? See Jesus always
00:50:49.11\00:50:55.78
went back to the beginning
of the ideal. Why did Moses then
00:50:55.82\00:51:01.16
give a letter of divorce for
any reason. Jesus says Moses did
00:51:01.19\00:51:06.46
that because of the hardness
of your hearts. But at the
00:51:06.49\00:51:08.86
beginning it was not so. You see
the idea was to go back to the
00:51:08.90\00:51:15.14
beginning not to some secondary
half measure. In diet we should
00:51:15.17\00:51:21.34
go back to the beginning.
Sabbath observance we should
00:51:21.38\00:51:24.31
go back to the beginning.
Dress we should go back to the
00:51:24.35\00:51:27.75
beginning. Marriage we
should go back to the beginning.
00:51:27.78\00:51:31.12
The beginning is the model to
which we should aspire, not what
00:51:31.15\00:51:36.79
came in in consequence of sin.
She continues saying: God has
00:51:36.83\00:51:41.76
not sanctioned polygamy in a
single instance. It is contrary
00:51:41.80\00:51:46.77
to his will. He knew that
the happiness of man would be
00:51:46.80\00:51:53.38
destroyed by it. Abraham's
peace was greatly marred by his
00:51:53.41\00:52:00.05
unhappy marriage with Hagar.
And by the way, as we look at
00:52:00.08\00:52:05.72
marriage in the book of Genesis
we also discover that you have
00:52:05.75\00:52:10.76
the Sabbath related to marriage.
Have you ever noticed that
00:52:10.79\00:52:15.10
immediately after God performs
the first marriage of Adam and
00:52:15.13\00:52:20.60
Eve, then begin the holy hours
of the Sabbath. In other words,
00:52:20.64\00:52:24.94
at the end of the sixth day God
is saying to Adam and Eve, Adam
00:52:24.97\00:52:30.05
I made you for Eve and Eve I
made you for Adam. But then by
00:52:30.08\00:52:36.18
the Sabbath he says I made you
both for me. Are you following
00:52:36.22\00:52:41.29
me? And he says every Sabbath
your family is going to meet
00:52:41.32\00:52:46.53
with my family and we're going
to celebrate together and that
00:52:46.56\00:52:51.70
way your marriage will be
stronger and your relationship
00:52:51.73\00:52:54.77
with me will be stronger. So
what have we studied? Reviewing.
00:52:54.80\00:53:00.84
Marriage is a divine institution
Secondly marriage is normative
00:53:00.88\00:53:07.55
for all times and places. Number
three, marriage is indissoluble
00:53:07.58\00:53:14.19
It is for life. Number four:
Marriage is to be monogamous,
00:53:14.22\00:53:21.80
one man to one woman. Marriage
is to be heterosexual between a
00:53:21.83\00:53:29.54
man and a woman. Marriage is to
be within the faith. I mean if
00:53:29.57\00:53:35.91
you're one flesh and the woman
is your other self how can one
00:53:35.94\00:53:40.88
self be going to church on
Sunday and the other self be
00:53:40.92\00:53:45.79
going to church on Saturday?
How can one be eating one thing
00:53:45.82\00:53:50.49
and another thing? How
can some children go to school
00:53:50.53\00:53:54.36
in this religious school and the
others in the other religious
00:53:54.36\00:53:59.07
school? Are you understanding
me? Furthermore, marriage has
00:53:59.10\00:54:03.77
a particular order. The man
is the head, the woman is to be
00:54:03.81\00:54:08.44
subject to the man but
the man is to love the woman.
00:54:08.48\00:54:14.18
Folks Satan hates marriage
with a passion. That's why he's
00:54:14.22\00:54:19.82
trying to destroy it. And Satan
hates the Sabbath with a passion
00:54:19.85\00:54:24.83
and that's why he's trying to
destroy the Sabbath. And I find
00:54:24.86\00:54:29.53
it very ironic as I mentioned
before that the religious left
00:54:29.56\00:54:35.34
or the liberal left wants
to change marriage whereas the
00:54:35.37\00:54:41.71
radical evangelical right will
eventually move to change the
00:54:41.74\00:54:47.48
Sabbath institution that
God made at the very beginning.
00:54:47.52\00:54:53.15
Tragic and sad. Do you know that
the book of Genesis mentions
00:54:53.19\00:54:58.26
several distortions of marriage
that appeared after sin entered
00:54:58.29\00:55:03.93
the world. Allow me to just
mention them in closing. Incest.
00:55:03.97\00:55:09.90
Lot with his daughters. Genesis
19 at the end of the chapter.
00:55:09.94\00:55:15.08
His daughters made him drunk and
they had sexual relations with
00:55:15.11\00:55:18.15
their own father. Ruben had sex
with one of Jacob's concubines.
00:55:18.18\00:55:21.25
Incest came in contrary to God's
plan. Adultery. Remember Joseph?
00:55:26.72\00:55:33.73
Potiphar's wife wanted to commit
adultery with Joseph. Joseph
00:55:33.76\00:55:40.47
said how can I commit this great
sin against my God? He knew that
00:55:40.50\00:55:47.18
adultery was wrong. Fornication
which is sexual relations
00:55:47.21\00:55:51.91
between people who are unmarried
You remember the story of
00:55:51.95\00:55:56.95
Shechem and Dinah? It ended up
costing the lives of all of the
00:55:56.99\00:56:03.06
inhabitants of Shechem because
of that one act of fornication.
00:56:03.09\00:56:07.86
Polygamy came in. Notice these
distortions of marriage that the
00:56:07.93\00:56:12.47
devil brought in after sin. You
have Lamech the first polygamist
00:56:12.50\00:56:18.04
You have Jacob. You have Abraham
Then of course homosexuality.
00:56:18.07\00:56:23.58
Sodom and Gomorrah. Bring
out these men that we might know
00:56:23.61\00:56:28.38
them. Marriages of believers
and unbelievers. Genesis 6.
00:56:28.42\00:56:33.09
We've studied this. The sons
of God marrying the daughters of
00:56:33.12\00:56:37.76
men in unequal yolk. The result
was the flood. Prostitution.
00:56:37.79\00:56:41.80
Remember the story of Judah and
Tamar. Judah who goes to visit
00:56:41.83\00:56:45.83
a prostitute. Listen. Even in
Genesis the devil is trying to
00:56:45.87\00:56:49.84
destroy what? He's trying
to destroy marriage because he
00:56:49.87\00:56:53.74
knows that as marriage goes so
goes the world. So in conclusion
00:56:53.78\00:56:59.81
I have a challenge for everyone
here tonight. Number one: If you
00:56:59.85\00:57:06.69
are married work on it so that
you will stay married. If you
00:57:06.72\00:57:13.63
are divorced don't make the
same mistake all over again.
00:57:13.66\00:57:19.43
And number three, if you are
single go into this with fear
00:57:19.47\00:57:25.24
and trembling.
00:57:25.27\00:57:27.64