#S083 - “Married At
First Sight” (Part 1)
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How many of us want
Jesus in our relationships?
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How many of us
want Jesus in our house?
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Hey, man. Eddie. Mary, folks.
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Jesus. Come on. Say, man.
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It is a word for you.
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Any single folk in the
room, they need Jesus to be
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your shepherd. Amen.
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There are going
to be some things
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we'll be saying to you no
matter your marital status.
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And it be in my
prayers that we will see
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Jesus in a
greater and clear way.
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Genesis 24 and
verse number one again.
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When you get there,
see, pastor, I'm there.
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So we're going to skip
throughout the chapter.
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And again, just
stay with me as we study
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so you can have context
for our conversations today.
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Genesis 24 In verse
one, the Bible says Now
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Abraham was all
well advanced in age,
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and the Lord had
blessed Abraham in all these.
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So Abraham said to his
oldest servant of his house,
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who ruled over all that he had,
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Please put your
hand under my five,
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and I will make you swear
by the Lord, the God of Heaven
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and the God of Earth
that you will not take a wife.
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For my son, from the
daughters of the Canaanites,
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among whom I dwell.
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But you shall go to my
country and to my family
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and take a wife
for my son Isaac.
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And the servant said to him,
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Perhaps the woman
will not be willing
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to follow me to this land.
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Must I take your son back to
the land from which you came?
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But Abraham said to him, Beware
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that you do not
take my son back there.
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Skip down to verse ten.
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Then the servant took
ten of his master's camels
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and departed
for all his masters.
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Goods were in his hand
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and he arose and went to
Mesopotamia, the city of Lahore,
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and he made the camels
kneel down outside the city
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by the will of water at evening
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time, the time when the
women go out to draw water.
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Then he said, Oh Lord,
God of my master Abraham,
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please give me success this day.
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And so kindness
to my master Abraham.
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Behold, here I stand
by the will of water.
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And the
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daughters of the men of the city
are coming out to draw water.
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Now, let it be that the
young woman to whom I say,
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please let down your
pitcher that I may drink,
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and she says, Drink.
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I will also give
you a camels to drink.
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Let her be the one
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and you have appointed
for your servant Isaac.
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And by this
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I will know that you have
shown kindness to my master.
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And it happened
that before he finished
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speaking in our God,
a prayer answering God,
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that behold Rebecca, who was
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born to Bethel, the son
of milk, the wife of nature.
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The young woman
was very beautiful
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to behold, a virgin,
and no man had known her.
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And she went down to the
well and filled her pitcher
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and came up and the servant
ran to meet her and said, Please
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let me drink a little
water from your pitcher.
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So she said, Drink, my lord.
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Then she quickly let
her pitcher down to her, him
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down to her hand
and gave him a drink.
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And when she had finished
giving him a drink, she said,
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I will draw
water for your camels.
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Also until they
have finished drinking.
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Then she quickly
emptied her pitcher in the trunk
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and ran back to
the whale to draw water
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and she drew for all his camels
you all catch in his church.
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I know it seems strange,
but there is some method
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and formula in
what God is revealing.
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And the Bible says, and the man
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wondering at her
remains silent so as to know
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whether the Lord had made
His journey prosperous or not.
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And so it was when the camels
had finished drinking that
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the man took a golden nose
ring weighing half or shekel
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and two bracelets
for her wrists, weighing
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ten shekels of gold, and
said, Whose daughter are you?
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Tell me, please.
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Is there room in your
father's house for us to lodge?
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So she said to him, I
am the daughter of Bethel
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Milk, her son,
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whom she bore to name horse,
skipping down to verse 12.
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So the man goes to the
house to meet her people.
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Then the Bible says that
the man came to the house
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and he unloaded the camels
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and provided straw
and feed for the camels
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and water to wash his
feet and the feet of the men
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who were with him.
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Food was set before him to
eat, but he said I will not eat
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until I have told
you all about my errand.
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And he said, Speak on.
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So he said, I am
Abraham's servant.
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The Lord has blessed my master
greatly and he has become great.
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And He has given him flocks
and herds, silver and gold, male
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and female servants and
camels and donkeys and Sarah.
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My Master's wife,
bore a son to my master
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when she was old, and to him
he has given all that he has.
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Now, my master made me swear,
saying You shall not take a wife
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for the son.
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For my son from the
daughters of the Canaanites,
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in whose land I dwell.
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But you shall go to my
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father's house, into my family,
and take a wife for my son.
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And I said to my master, Perhaps
the woman will not follow me.
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But he said to me, the
Lord whom I with whom I walk,
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will send this angel
with you and prosper your way.
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And you shall
take a wife for my son,
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from my family and
from my father's house.
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Giving down the verse 43.
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Behold, I stand by
the will of the water,
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and it shall come to pass
that when the Virgin comes out
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to draw water.
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And I say to her,
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Please give me a little
water from your Peach Pit
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pitcher to drink.
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And she says to me, Drink,
I will draw for your camels.
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Also.
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Let her be the woman
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whom the Lord has
appointed for my master son.
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But before I had
finished speaking in my heart,
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there was Rebecca
coming out with her picture
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on her shoulder,
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and she went down to the
whale and drew water, verse 50.
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Then the Bible says, Then Laban
and Beth will answer in saying,
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The thing comes from the Lord.
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We cannot speak to
you either bad or good.
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Here is Rebecca.
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Before you take her
and go and let her be
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your master's son's
wife, as the Lord has spoken.
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And it came to pass
when Abraham's servant
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heard their words
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that he worship the Lord,
bowing himself to the Earth.
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Then the servant
brought out jewelry of silver,
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jewelry of gold and clothing,
and gave them to Rebecca.
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And he also gave
precious things to her brother
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and to her mother.
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And he and the
men who were with him
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ate and drank
and stayed all night.
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Then they rose in the morning
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and said, Send me
away to my master.
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But her brother and her
mother said, Let the young woman
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stay here with us a
few days, at least ten.
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And after that, she may go.
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And she said to
them, Do not hinder.
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And he said to
them, Do not hinder me,
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since the Lord has my way.
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Send me away so that
I may go to my master.
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So they said, we
will call the young woman
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and ask her personally.
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Then they called Rebecca
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and said to her,
Will you go with this man?
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And she said, I will go.
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So they went out, sit away.
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Rebecca, their sister
and her nurse and Abraham,
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servant and his men.
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And they blessed
Rebecca and said to her,
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Our sister, may you become
the mother of thousands of Tim.
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Thousands
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and may your descendants possess
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the gates of
those who hate them.
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Then Rebecca and her maids arose
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and they rode on the
camels and followed the main.
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So the servants took
Rebecca and departed.
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Now, Isaac came
from the way of Bear Lake
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Le High ROI, for
he dwelt in the south
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and Isaac went out to meditate
in the field in the evening
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and he lifted
his eyes and looked.
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And there the
camels were coming.
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Then Rebecca lifted her eyes
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and when she saw Isaac,
she dismounted from her camel.
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She saw her man a ways away.
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For she said to the servant,
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Who is this man walking
in the field to meet us?
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The servant
says It is my master.
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So she took the
veil and covered herself,
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and the servant told Isaac
all the things that he had done.
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Then Isaac brought her
into his mother's Sarah's tent,
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and he took Rebecca
and she became his wife.
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And the Bible
says, and he loved her.
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So Isaac was comforted
after his mother's death.
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I know that was a
lot to read, Saints,
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but for today
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I just wanted to talk for a
little while under the subject.
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Married at first sight.
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Married at first sight.
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Let us pray together.
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Holy Spirit.
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Lord, would you make your word
powerful for us in our time?
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Lord, I am praying that
you would give us instruction
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that lead us to habits
that allow us to experience
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holiness and joy and the plans
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that you had for
family and relationship.
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So, Lord, my prayer
today is that you would hide me
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in the shadows of the cross,
that Jesus alone might be seen,
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that Christ
alone might be heard.
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And at the end of our time
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together, let
Jesus alone be praised.
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Bless us to this.
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And we ask in the
mighty name of Jesus, our Lord.
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Let them that believe,
say together, amen and amen.
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Again, in talking to you
under the subject today, married
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at first sight,
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you know,
friends, our text details.
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One of the more powerful
love stories in scripture.
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And yet the love
is hard to detect
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because it is
formed in cultural norms
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that are so different
from ours that it seems less
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than romantic.
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But I need you to know
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that is strange, as
their practices seem to us.
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Do you realize that
our courtship practices
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would seem
equally strange to them?
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You see, the idea
of an arranged marriage
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and the payment of a
dowry seems risky to us.
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But the idea of
meeting somebody on a device
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while scrolling
left is kind of risky.
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That sliding into somebody
is deemed based upon a fake
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and filtered profile
picture is kind of risky.
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In fact, I would
suggest that an arranged
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marriage is less risky
than meeting somebody on Tinder.
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Y'all might be
quiet in this room today.
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And I want to
posit today, Church, that
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there is no right
way to meet someone.
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But I believe that
God works in the midst
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of all cultural context to
bring about positive results.
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And so today I was
we look to the word.
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I want to simply
highlight some principles
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that I believe apply
to any cultural context.
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If that's all right,
let me hear you say it, man.
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You see, the first thing
I want to say is I believe
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that a good marriage
ought to reveal Jesus.
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Let me say it again.
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I believe, church,
that a godly marriage
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ought to reveal
all reflect Jesus.
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Now, notice that
Rebecca, when she says yes,
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she becomes the
second in a trio of women
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that helped push the
Messianic Covenant forward
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so that Sarah Abraham's
wife, that Rebecca Isaac's wife
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and Rachel Jacob's wife,
they become links in a chain
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that helps reveal our
produce the presence of Jesus
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and because their
marriages were arranged by God.
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As a result, Jesus came
out of their relationships.
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And can I pause to
say that marriage is first
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and foremost spiritual?
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It is designed by God
to operate in such a way
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that when love flows
between a man and a woman,
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people are able to
see Jesus in the union
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and see marriage
is a powerful role.
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Play of salvation.
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You are with me today.
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Church In fact, any fees in
chapter five, the Bible says
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husbands love your wives
even as Christ loved the church.
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And it says to wives
that you are to respect
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and submit to your husband.
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But understand that there
is a method in the madness.
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Because when the world sees
a man loving unconditionally
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upon his flawed wife,
they are able to get a glimpse
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of the unconditional
love of God for his people.
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And a wife's rib
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submission or respect is a
demonstration sign of trust
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for when she assigns trust
to the leadership of her man.
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It is actually a
demonstration that we can trust
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and put our
faith in God and see.
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The thing you need to ask today
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is, is there a
witness in my marriage?
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Do people see Christ in
the Union and see this is why
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the spirituality of
marriage cannot be overlooked?
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Because if you don't understand
the intent of marriage,
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then you will reject some of
the processes that produce it.
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In other words,
how many of us know?
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Thank you, Gary
Chapman, that the purpose of a
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marriage is not
to make you happy.
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The purpose of a
marriage is to make you holy.
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Let me say it again
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that the purpose of marriage
is not to make you happy.
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The purpose is to make you holy.
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Because if I don't
understand the purpose,
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then I'll reject the process.
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You see, sometimes
men will be made passion
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by having to wait for your wife
to get dressed all day long.
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That women will
be made prayerful
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by dealing with the ego of
a man that can't admit that
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he's wrong.
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And both parties
will be sanctified
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by raising hard headed kids
that make you repeat yourself
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10,000 times a day.
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And this is why you can't just
ask how happy is the marriage?
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You need to be asking
how holy is the marriage?
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Because the things
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that make you holy
don't always make you happy.
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Almighty quiet today.
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In other words, could
it be that the only way
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God could address some of
the defects in your character
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is by putting you
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in a union where those
defects can't be hidden.
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They can't be overlooked.
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They can't be ignored.
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They can't be negotiated.
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And God set it up in
such a way that this union
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would not just make you happy,
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but you ought to be
more spiritual as a result.
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And if I'm telling
the truth that a church,
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then sometimes a good
marriage ought to make you cry,
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that sometimes a good marriage
is going to make you fall
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on your knees.
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A good in the marriage
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is going to put you
outside of your comfort zone.
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A good marriage
is going to stretch
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you further than
you're willing to go.
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And the thing I want to say
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is that before you go
to a judge for a divorce,
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you want to go back to the
manufacturer to help you fix it
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so that if your spouse is
the reason you pray so hard,
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you ought to turn to them
right now and say thank you.
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I know this feels like a crazy
phrase today, but if they are
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the reason you had to pray,
you ought to say thank you.
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If they have you going
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to the scriptures to get help,
you ought to say thank you.
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If they have the reason
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you had to come to church,
you ought to say thank you.
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If they had you calling on
God, you ought to say thank you.
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And if you know you.
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Cause them to pray, you ought
to smile and say you're welcome.
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Y'all mighty
quiet in here today.
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In other words,
friends, I need you to know that
00:17:02.35\00:17:05.09
when God
arranges a person for you,
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he doesn't just
choose traits that satisfy.
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He's going to choose
tensions that sanctify.
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Oh, y'all not here today
and see sometimes friends,
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the level of their
difficulty is just going
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to reflect the
level of your immaturity.
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And the truth is that
there difficulty won't go down
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until your maturity goes up.
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In fact, that's what the Bible
saying as iron sharpens iron.
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So one person sharpens another.
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And how does iron
sharpens iron with friction?
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In other words, that can't
grow be growth without friction.
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There can't be
sharpening without tension.
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And the problem with Psalm is
we've been praying for tissue,
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but God sent sandpaper
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up. In other words,
I need you to know that
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sandpaper is rough,
but it has a purpose.
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In other words, Elder
Wilson, we're doing construction
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on the other side.
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And I saw one day
the painter was preparing
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one of the brass
fittings for one of the doors.
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And understand that this
brass fitting had corrode.
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And it had oxidation.
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It had rust that began to grow.
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And I need you to know
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that he took the sandpaper
and began rubbing it down.
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And I asked, How
long are you going
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saying that piece of metal?
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And he says, I
have to keep sanding
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until I can see my reflection
in the metal and can I suggest
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that sometimes God
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has assigned some
sandpaper to your relationship
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and you want God
to in the process?
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But God says, I
have to keep sending
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until I can see my
reflection in your marriage.
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I have to keep sanding until
I can see my character in you.
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And can somebody
praise God for the affliction
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that caused His
character to be revealed in us?
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Are you? Are
hear me today, church.
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And so today, friends,
I want to kind of share
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a few things to those
who are looking to be married
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with someone today.
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You see the first thing I
need you to know about Rebecca
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is that Rebecca found her person
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well, serving, not searching.
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Okay. Okay.
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So, you see, I
need somebody to notice
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that there is a formula
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that is embedded in the
details that have been revealed.
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In other words, I need
you to see this in context.
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Did you notice that
Rebecca is not out here
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with a cleavage
all over Instagram?
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The Rebecca is not
running to every party.
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She's not chasing every man.
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In fact, Rebecca ain't
out here acting thirsty.
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Rebecca is at the
well satisfying thirst.
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Y'all hear what
I'm saying in church?
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And see, I need you
to see how God works.
00:20:05.97\00:20:08.94
Because in this moment,
Rebecca is not all dolled up.
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She is a woman
that is on a mission.
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You got to be clear that
Rebecca's brow is partly sweaty,
00:20:17.41\00:20:20.55
that her hair is
tied up in a bond.
00:20:21.38\00:20:23.42
Her fingernails are broken
from carrying heavy water pop.
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But because she is serving,
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she still stands
out because her steps
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have been ordered by God.
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Are you all with
me today, Church?
00:20:36.40\00:20:37.97
In other words, I
need you to be clear
00:20:38.00\00:20:40.10
that Rebecca is not
out here on 35 dating apps.
00:20:40.14\00:20:43.91
Rebecca is not
chasing everybody down.
00:20:44.81\00:20:47.14
Rebecca is just
operating in her God
00:20:48.01\00:20:50.28
given purpose and
living her best life.
00:20:50.31\00:20:53.42
And because she is
that girl and her love
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and she is that
girl in her character,
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she doesn't have
to do the chasing.
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Guess what? The
taste comes to her.
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Hmm. And see what I want to
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simply say to
those who are waiting is.
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I want you to remove some of
the stress out of the process.
00:21:10.40\00:21:14.27
I want you to get to a place
00:21:14.94\00:21:16.20
where you spend a
little less time searching
00:21:16.24\00:21:19.01
and a little more time serving,
and your God ordained purpose.
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Because how many of us
know that sometimes search
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energy can be off putting?
00:21:27.35\00:21:31.22
That sometimes search
energy can be too desperate.
00:21:32.32\00:21:35.12
And search energy
can be too aggressive.
00:21:36.06\00:21:38.99
And search energy
00:21:39.49\00:21:40.70
actually pushes you back from
those that God has ordained.
00:21:40.73\00:21:44.53
And I just need to remind
somebody today that your steps
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have been ordered
by the Almighty God.
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Are you hear me today?
00:21:52.44\00:21:53.44
Church And this
assurance ought to settle you.
00:21:53.48\00:21:57.15
And I'm not saying
00:21:57.65\00:21:58.81
that you should never go
out or have a whole lot of fun,
00:21:58.85\00:22:01.95
but what I'm saying today
is that you've got to recognize
00:22:03.15\00:22:05.35
that your steps have been
customarily ordained by God.
00:22:06.52\00:22:09.69
Is there anybody that realizes
that God has already or ordered
00:22:10.93\00:22:15.06
your steps in such a way
that He is going to ordain
00:22:15.10\00:22:18.90
a collision between
you and the right person
00:22:18.93\00:22:23.07
at the right time
and in the right way?
00:22:24.01\00:22:26.54
Is there anybody that knows that
you can't script the collision
00:22:27.78\00:22:30.45
because collisions
happen in the strangest ways?
00:22:31.51\00:22:34.15
Sometimes the
collision happens in class,
00:22:35.05\00:22:37.02
sometimes the collision
00:22:37.59\00:22:38.79
happens at the gym, hopefully
the collision happens at church.
00:22:38.82\00:22:42.79
But you've got to have
the spiritual sensitivity
00:22:43.86\00:22:45.99
to realize when God has
ordained a collision sign.
00:22:47.10\00:22:50.63
And see, this is
the hard part of faith
00:22:51.77\00:22:54.14
because see, I need you
to get your value to God
00:22:55.14\00:22:57.17
and that he orders your steps.
00:22:57.87\00:22:58.87
How many of us realize that
00:22:58.91\00:23:00.11
God is very
peculiar about our lives?
00:23:00.14\00:23:03.21
Right?
00:23:04.25\00:23:04.95
Do you realize
that the word says
00:23:05.78\00:23:07.08
that the hairs on your
head have been numbered by him?
00:23:07.12\00:23:10.69
That Psalms 56 says
that God keeps a record
00:23:11.65\00:23:14.49
of every tear that falls
from your face, that God says,
00:23:14.52\00:23:18.43
I'll satisfy the desire
of every living creature.
00:23:18.46\00:23:22.16
And the word for somebody
today is if God keeps count
00:23:23.33\00:23:26.07
of the hairs
that are on your head,
00:23:26.90\00:23:28.24
if God has a rage to
keep record of every peer
00:23:29.20\00:23:32.04
that calls from your face,
00:23:32.07\00:23:33.58
if God knows every need
you have before you ask,
00:23:33.61\00:23:37.35
do you think that God would
forget to assign somebody to
00:23:38.55\00:23:41.65
work with you toward eternity
00:23:41.68\00:23:44.45
and say, This is what I
need to say to somebody today,
00:23:46.09\00:23:47.99
because somebody is
dealing with frustration.
00:23:48.02\00:23:50.33
But you've turned your
frustration into a negative
00:23:50.36\00:23:53.03
because some are
sitting here saying, Pastor,
00:23:54.03\00:23:55.23
I got the right
job and guess what?
00:23:55.26\00:23:57.23
I got the right degree
00:23:57.27\00:23:58.80
and I got the right house
and I got the right income.
00:23:58.83\00:24:02.54
I got everything
right but the right person.
00:24:03.54\00:24:05.57
I see you're
frustrated because you said
00:24:06.44\00:24:07.81
I got the right car
00:24:07.84\00:24:08.91
and I got the right job
and I got the right house.
00:24:08.94\00:24:11.51
I just can't
find the right person.
00:24:12.38\00:24:13.68
And you're frustrated because
you don't have the right person
00:24:13.72\00:24:16.55
when you ought to be
thanking God for order.
00:24:17.55\00:24:20.79
You ought to be thanking him
00:24:20.82\00:24:22.02
that before he
sent the right person,
00:24:22.06\00:24:24.06
he sent you to the right
job and gave you the right house
00:24:25.26\00:24:28.13
and gave you the right income.
00:24:28.83\00:24:30.37
And then in the right
order, he sends the right person
00:24:30.40\00:24:33.67
because they assumed
that got the right person,
00:24:34.70\00:24:36.24
but they ain't
got the right job.
00:24:37.04\00:24:38.17
They got the right income
00:24:38.21\00:24:39.94
and I would rather be
single in the right house
00:24:39.97\00:24:42.41
than to have the right
person sleeping in my car.
00:24:43.51\00:24:44.81
You would not hear
what I'm saying today.
00:24:44.85\00:24:46.31
Church You need to thank God
00:24:46.35\00:24:48.62
that he has ordered
every one of your steps.
00:24:49.55\00:24:51.55
And let me just
pause while I'm here today.
00:24:52.55\00:24:54.19
Can I just say to
anybody who's single,
00:24:55.12\00:24:56.46
watch your entanglements.
00:24:56.49\00:25:02.76
Because when you're
entangled with the wrong person,
00:25:02.80\00:25:06.03
guess what?
00:25:06.80\00:25:07.97
You can't even notice the
right person when they show up
00:25:08.00\00:25:10.54
and see.
00:25:11.34\00:25:12.14
The problem is
there are some of us
00:25:12.17\00:25:13.44
that look, once we
mature to a certain age
00:25:13.48\00:25:16.08
and we say, Man, why couldn't
I marry someone like him or her
00:25:17.31\00:25:20.08
when the truth is that person
had already been in your orbit,
00:25:21.32\00:25:24.92
but you were so
entangled with the wrong person
00:25:25.99\00:25:28.69
that you put
00:25:29.42\00:25:30.53
them in the friend zone
and couldn't even identify them
00:25:30.56\00:25:33.26
and see.
00:25:34.36\00:25:35.33
One of the things I
love about Rebecca Church
00:25:35.36\00:25:36.40
is that she's been out
here looking for nobody.
00:25:36.43\00:25:38.53
She's just out here living
her life and operating in her
00:25:38.57\00:25:42.10
divine purpose.
00:25:42.14\00:25:43.30
See, the thing I
like about Rebecca
00:25:43.34\00:25:45.47
is she's looking for
nobody to complete her.
00:25:46.41\00:25:48.38
She ain't looking
for nobody to save her.
00:25:49.34\00:25:51.08
She ain't looking for
nobody to provide for her.
00:25:52.15\00:25:54.15
She ain't looking for nobody
to make her complete. Why?
00:25:55.32\00:25:57.62
Because she is
a daughter of God.
00:25:57.65\00:26:00.06
So that she has already
00:26:00.09\00:26:01.76
made complete because she has
an active relationship with him.
00:26:01.79\00:26:06.70
In fact, let me let me say it
as I share with you last year,
00:26:07.96\00:26:10.30
y'all remember old school
00:26:10.93\00:26:11.97
that when you went to
a very cheap house party?
00:26:12.00\00:26:15.04
Malcolm The invitation was,
say something like this BYOB.
00:26:15.07\00:26:20.44
Oh, y'all saved
in this room today.
00:26:20.48\00:26:22.44
And the BYOB, it
meant bring your own bag
00:26:22.48\00:26:25.85
or bring your own bottle.
00:26:26.48\00:26:28.02
In other words,
00:26:28.05\00:26:29.25
we ain't got enough to feed you,
so you better bring your way.
00:26:29.28\00:26:32.05
And what I'm saying
to anybody today is that
00:26:33.05\00:26:35.12
instead of waiting on
somebody to make you happy,
00:26:35.16\00:26:38.09
instead of waiting on
somebody to make you joyful,
00:26:39.19\00:26:41.30
I need you to be y all h
and bring your own happiness.
00:26:42.46\00:26:46.57
I need you to be wild
j and bring your own joy.
00:26:47.64\00:26:51.37
I need you to be y0p and
bring your own peace and by0c
00:26:52.54\00:26:57.98
and bring your own contentment
and by0h bring your own hope
00:26:59.21\00:27:03.95
and I need somebody to
be y0m bring your own money.
00:27:05.09\00:27:07.92
Can I get a
witness in this room today?
00:27:07.96\00:27:10.03
You don't need
nobody to make you.
00:27:10.86\00:27:13.50
You need to
bring it to the party.
00:27:14.30\00:27:15.83
All y'all hear me today
00:27:15.86\00:27:16.83
and see there are
some married folks
00:27:17.83\00:27:19.03
that's in their feelings
00:27:19.07\00:27:20.14
because you've been
waiting for your woman, a man,
00:27:20.17\00:27:22.17
to make you happy.
00:27:22.20\00:27:23.67
You're putting too
much pressure on a person.
00:27:23.71\00:27:27.61
How many of us
know there is no person
00:27:27.64\00:27:30.31
that can make you happy?
00:27:31.05\00:27:33.48
There is no person
that can make you joyful.
00:27:33.52\00:27:36.82
There is one source of joy.
00:27:37.49\00:27:39.75
And his name is Jesus.
00:27:40.32\00:27:43.36
Are y'all hearing
the Word today Church?
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Thank you for joining
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Television Ministries broadcast
with Pastor Debleaire Snell.
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We hope and pray
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that you have been blessed
by this powerful message.
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Join us next week for part
two of Married at First Sight.
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You don't want to miss it.
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