#S073 - No More Excuses For
Refusing To Forgive (Part 2)
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Welcome to the Breath of Life
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Television Ministries broadcast
with Pastor Debleaire Snell .
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In today's episode.
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Pastor Snell will continue
part two of the powerful message
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“No More Excuses For
Refusing To Forgive.”
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Now let's go deeper
into the word of God.
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You see, friends, all vengeance
does help me, Holy Spirit.
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All getting even does
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is nullify the power of God
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to fight the
battles on your behalf.
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See, I need you to know
that when you start fighting
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for yourself, you
essentially handcuff Jehovah,
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whose job it is to
fight battles on your behalf.
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See how many of us know
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that we operate in the covenant
of Abraham through faith
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so that all of the
blessings of Abraham
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are available to us
because we abide in faith.
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And did not God say to
Abraham that I'm going to bless
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those that bless you and don't
go curse those that curse you.
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It is why Paul says, do
not repay evil with evil,
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but repay evil with good.
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In fact, he says,
leave room for God's wrath
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because God says
vengeance is mine.
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I will repay you all here.
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What I'm saying
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and what I'm
saying to somebody today
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is that you don't
have to fight for yourself.
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Avenge yourself.
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Get even yourself.
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Because this
battle is not yours.
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This battle belongs to God.
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And see how many of us
understand friends of mine
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as the great
Michelle Obama said it.
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When they go low,
we've got to go high.
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Our weapons.
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Are y'all with me today?
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Church are not carnal,
but they are mighty and God
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to the pulling
down of stronghold is
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because we all need you
to know that a spiritual man
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will never win a
battle using carnal weapons.
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So you got to use a
different type of ammunition
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if you're going to overcome.
I hear what I'm saying.
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I see the reason
we often suffer defeat
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and we never see the hand of God
move is because we're fighting
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in the gutter when our
weapons are from the Spirit.
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It's kind of like this
I may have said before,
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I remember, you know,
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before I start going
over here to the car wash,
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I'll wash my car
out in the front yard.
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And sometimes when I
was watching the car out
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in the front yard,
the kids would come out
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and they would
want to just kind of
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have a mud and
water fight and see.
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Man One of the things I began
to learn quickly clean is that
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I could never really win a
fight in the mud with my kids.
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Because the truth is,
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when they came outside
with their school clothes on,
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with their plain clothes
on, they kind of came outside
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to get dirty.
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Now I can throw the mud.
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But the truth is, Malcolm,
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I don't really
want to get that dirty.
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I want to leave
this thing kind of clean,
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and it didn't matter how
much mud I threw on them.
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It doesn't matter how
much dirt I threw on them.
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Guess what?
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They would get
excited when they got dirty.
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They would get glad
when they got mud on them.
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In other words, they
came outside to get messy.
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And what
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I'm saying that somebody
is you can never win a mud
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fight with somebody
that came to get dirty.
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In other words,
there is a level of grime
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they are willing to
take just to bring you down.
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And you can
never win that battle
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because you've got boundaries,
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you've got conviction,
you've got character.
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There's only so far
you're willing to go in the mud.
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But there are some folk
that were born in the mud.
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They thrive in the mud.
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They are
strengthened in the mud.
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They prosper in the mud.
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And their whole goal is to
get you to come out of character
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and to come play in the mud
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with them.
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But no, the church,
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the word is that the
man was unable to pay.
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So the sentencing calculus
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actually reveals
that particular truth.
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You see, understand, if
he was just unwilling to pay,
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he would have been
dealt with much more harshly.
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But understand the one
thing that the King recognizes
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and he understands.
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It's foolish to jail somebody
if they don't have it, to give,
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to punish somebody, if
they don't have it, to give,
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to try to get even with somebody
who just does not have it
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to give. Are you all
catching me today, friends?
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In other words, it
is foolish for him.
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That's why he
didn't Bill for bear.
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It is why
there's no payment plan.
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He just cancels of that
because he realize they just
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don't have it to pay back
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and see
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the reason we
sometimes live offend it is
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because we are trying to
get something from people
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and we think
they're unwilling to give it
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when the truth is,
they're just unable to give it.
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For some people, it's
not a lack of willingness.
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It's a lack of capacity.
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In other words, you're
trying to get something
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from somebody that they
just don't have to give and see.
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Instead of you living offend it,
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you need to
change your expectation
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and go to somebody that
can give you what you need.
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Y'all hearing the pastor today,
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in other words, we
keep trying to get blood
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from a turn up when
that's not what turnips give.
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I hear what I'm saying.
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In other words, Sister, you
know he didn't like to dress up
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and go out fancy
before you married him.
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Let's go get quiet
in here for a minute.
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You know he ain't like that.
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Have no long conversations
before you said I do.
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And I need you to know friends.
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You think he's
withholding certain things
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when the truth is?
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That's just not
his nature to do.
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Y'all hear what I'm saying?
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Church
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The truth is
that we're messed up
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because we're trying to
get friendship from people
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that don't have
friendship inside of them.
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We're trying to get loyalty from
people that don't have loyalty
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inside of them.
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We're trying to
get dependability
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from people that don't have
dependability inside of them.
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We're actually trying
to get love from people
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that don't have
love inside of them.
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And I need you to know, friends,
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that that is a poor
exercise in futility,
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because for some people, it's
not that they're withholding it.
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The truth is they
just don't have it to give.
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And we need to stop
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walking around
offended and upset
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because there are
certain people that just
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don't have time to give.
They can't be your mentor.
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They got too
much on their plate,
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but you're sitting
up here in your feelings
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because they
didn't have time for you.
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The truth is, they just
didn't have time to give.
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They didn't have
the money to give.
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They didn't have
the energy to give.
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And so I need
somebody to understand that
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being offended because somebody
doesn't give you something
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is like going shopping
for something at a store
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that doesn't sell
what you're looking for.
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So that if I'm
looking for groceries, Malcolm
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is stupid for me
to go to Footlocker
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and demand
groceries from Footlocker
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and demand to see the
manager from Footlocker.
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Because in Footlocker
that's not what we did.
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We don't sell
groceries and Footlocker.
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It's this crazy say
I need my oil change,
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but I'm going to go up here
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to Publix and
throw a fit at Publix
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because that'll
change all at Publix.
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That's not what they do.
If I want collard greens,
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I should not
show up at Taco Bell.
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And that's that's
not what they sell.
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And the truth is that as long
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as I'm trying to get
something from people
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which they lack, the
capacity to be able to give
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the flow is not with the
person that doesn't give it.
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It's with me for
seeking and expectation
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and from somebody who
doesn't have that to give.
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I got to hear what I'm saying
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and see one of the things
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I want to say to
somebody real quickly,
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because I want to
say this as a caveat.
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You need human friendship,
you need companionship,
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you need love.
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But one of the
things I've learned
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is that whenever you
can't get something from people,
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it is a call to
redirect your focus to the God
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that can supply
whatever it is that you need.
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You are here what I'm saying.
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In other words,
I need you to know
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that sometimes it is
the flakiness of people
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that points you in the direction
of the faithfulness of God.
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Because how many of us know
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that He never runs
out of time for you?
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He never runs out of
attention towards you.
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He never runs
out of love for you.
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He never runs out of provision.
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He never runs out of protection.
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He never, ever lets you down.
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He's always away for he
that watches over Israel
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need a slumbers, no sleep.
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And instead of
trying to draw water
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from a rock, God is saying
you need to go to the well.
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Who is the Lord Jesus Christ?
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And He shall
supply all your needs
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according to
His riches and glory
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who ain't got no friends?
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There's a friend that
sticks closer than a brother.
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There's somebody who ain't,
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you know, this
person wasn't there for me.
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No, there's somebody who's
waiting for you to turn to him
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and he'll supply whatever
you stand in need of him.
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What I'm saying today, church
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thing, this teachers,
friends of mine watch this is
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that forgiving is simply giving
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what you have received.
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So help me, Holy Spirit,
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y'all met at
the pass of the day,
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so I'm going to take my time
to y'all get this is have to do
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forgiving
friends is simply giving
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what you have received.
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Now to be clear today sorry 15th
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today I'm not talking about
the psychology of forgiveness.
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I'm talking about the
theology of forgiveness.
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Because if you never understand
the theology of forgiving,
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then you'll never be able
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to digest or apply the
psychology of forgiving.
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Now, friends of
mine, I need you to know
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that Peter asked this question
and Jesus shares this parable
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using hyperbole or
extreme exaggeration.
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So Jesus says there
is a King who wants there
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to settle some accounts.
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And so the Bible says
that he finds a servant
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that owes him 10,000 talents.
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Now, we're not sure, Malcolm,
if his 10,000 talents of gold
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or silver,
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but scholars believe that
if it's 10,000 talents of gold,
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it is the equivalent
of 70 to billion dollars.
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In other words, what
the hearers in that time
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are hearing him say
is that he's got a debt
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that cannot be paid, and
his lifetime or the next.
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And notice, friends, that
what happens is that the king
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and compassion does not
put him on a payment plan.
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He then put it in forbearance.
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The Bible says he
simply cancels the debt.
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Now that this man
gets free, he goes out
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and find somebody that
owes him 100 down there.
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Right now, they say
100 denarii is essentially
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the equivalent
of one day of labor.
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And it's crazy because
this man that was forgiven,
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that which could not
be paid and a lifetime
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has this man that
owes him a day's labor
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prosecuted to the
full extent of the law.
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No, I need you to get
this, because essentially
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what people see Jesus
doing is using satire folk man.
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When they're listening to this,
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they're not saying a
man they are killing over.
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They are laughing like they're
watching Saturday night Live
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or in living color,
because in their mind,
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there is no way that
somebody can be forgiven
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that much
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and still act that petty.
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In order to get it, you
got to understand the roles
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for the King
represents God, the Father.
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The 10,000 talents represents
the sin debt that we cannot pay.
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The canceling of the debt
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is symbolizing Christ
work for us at the cross,
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and then that
other servant represents
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those that we refuse to forgive.
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After all that
has been forgiven us,
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I need you to understand that
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the theology of forgiveness,
it is very, very simple.
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I don't have to
do what Christ did.
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I simply have to
give what I have received.
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How many of us understand
that because of Adam saying
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that death reign from
Christ all the way over to
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Jesus Christ,
that there was nothing
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that could disrupt the curse
except the setting of blood.
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But how many of us know that?
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Because all have said
all of us stand condemned
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under the law and were
the end deserving of death.
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But how many of us know
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that not even my own
death can atone for my sins?
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Because my death for
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my sins is not propitious
and it is just justice.
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It is me getting what I deserve.
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So the only way
substitution can take place
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is if the sacrifice
comes from a perfect being.
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And because I am
flawed, I can never, ever
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stand in a place
where even my own death
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suffices for my
sins and see forgiveness.
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Friends of mine is not
about doing what Christ did.
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Forgiveness is
simply about sharing what
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I have received.
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You know what the
brother should've did
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when he found the brother
that owed him 100 denarii?
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All he simply had to do
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was nullify the
man's debt by borrowing
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against the abundance of grace
that had been shown to him.
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And so let me just
say to somebody today that
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when it comes down to forgiving
somebody that has harmed you,
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I need the believer to be clear
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that you don't have
to create forgiveness.
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You don't have to mend
your fact, your forgiveness.
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You ain't got to come up with
it out of your own goodness.
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All you've got to do is
borrow from the ocean of grace
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that God has extended to you.
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See, y'all still
acting brand new.
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I need all of you to know that
all your sins are like an ocean.
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All their sins are
like a bottle of water.
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So don't act like you
don't have it in you to forgive.
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Because if you've received it
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all, you've got
to do is transfer it
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and see friends.
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This is why
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Unforgiving is condemned
so harshly by Scripture
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because when I
refuse to forgive,
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it is an admission
that I have either forgotten
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or I am ungrateful of the merits
of Jesus Christ at the cross
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that guaranteed my
salvation and essentially what
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unforgiveness does is it waters
down the power of the cross,
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because what unforgiving
does is it places their offense
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on the same level
as yours against God.
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See what makes unforgiveness
literally blasphemy,
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because it says that the
suffering that you've incurred
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is on the same level
of the suffering that
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Christ endured on the cross.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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So. So what you're saying
is the inconvenience of them
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not repaying your $50
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is on the same level of
my Savior being hung high
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and stretched wide and
suffering the second death.
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And see friends of mine.
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I need you to know
that when you forgive,
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it is not just because
I'm trying to obey a command.
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See what forgiveness
see is friends of mine.
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Forgiveness is
an act of worship.
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Forgiveness is
an act of gratitude.
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Forgiveness is an
expression of Thanksgiving.
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Because friends of
mine, when I am grateful that
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Jesus died, a
substitution every death,
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when I'm truly grateful
that Jesus stood in my step,
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when I'm truly
grateful for what He has done,
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I don't just say
Hallelujah and thank you, Jesus,
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and clap my hands.
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But the tangible way
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of showing gratitude
for what I have received
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is to freely give it
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to those who stand in need
when they brought offense toward
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me. Are you all here?
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Midday church?
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And see, this is why
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Jesus considers somebody
who is listening to this
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and saying, Pastor, I
don't think I hear you.
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I agree with the
theory and the theology,
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but I don't think I'm
strong enough to forgive.
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I'm glad you said that.
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That's why Jesus made forgiving
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a commandment.
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Now see, the problem, Julian,
is that some of us still see
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a commandment as arbitrary
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obedience.
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Do you realize
what a commandment is?
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Commandments are
actually authority.
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Okay,
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notice when Jesus
was here on Earth,
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when he dealt with
sickness, he didn't recommend
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for sickness to leave.
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He didn't suggest
for sickness to leave.
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He commended sickness to leave
because when he commanded it,
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it was the
application of authority
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that made sickness come
out of a disease person.
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Do you notice when
he came upon a demon,
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he didn't say, demon,
will you please leave?
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He didn't say Devil,
when is convenient for you.
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He commanded the
demon to come out
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because with every
command there is an authority
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that makes the
command become a reality.
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And see, that's why
Jesus didn't leave forgiveness
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as a recommendation.
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He made it a command,
because when he made it
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a command, that command comes
with the authority to be able
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to make the
commandment a reality.
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So I need you to know that when
you approach your bitterness
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and your approach, your anger
and your approach that toxicity,
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you don't approach it as
one that is recommending it.
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You don't approach it
as one that is hoping it,
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but you're
coming under the command
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and the authority of Jesus.
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And when you forgive,
you command the bitterness
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to come out.
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You command the
frustration to leave,
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you command the
anger to be dismissed.
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You command the
wounds to be healed.
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And God is saying, when
you operate in obedience,
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you get divine authority
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to act in forgiveness in a way
that's going to bring healing
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and wholeness to your life.
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Are you hear me today? France
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and Spain.
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I just stopped by here
to say to somebody today
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that I know
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what they did to you, hurt.
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I know they said I do forever.
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And then walked out the
door when it was not convenient.
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I know fathers were supposed to
be there to protect and uncles.
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We're supposed to
be there to reinforce.
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But you had a daddy or an
uncle do some unseemly things.
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I know that you've had
those that you've depended on
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and you counted on,
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and they said that
they would be there
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and they let you down in
the most disappointing fashions.
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I know some of
us have been tight,
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I mean, with some
folks since you were been
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able to crawl and walk.
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But men in recent years,
they have done some things
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that men
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you could have never, ever
considered being done unto you.
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You've been hurt in ways that
it is literally changing you.
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And see, the problem is that
there is somebody who is stewing
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and ruminating and
reliving and rehearsing
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and being paralyzed by
a hurt that was inflicted
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by somebody else.
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And so the issue is
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you are spending your life
waiting on them to confess,
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waiting on them to
apologize, waiting on them
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to admit it, waiting on
them to show contrition.
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But how many of us know
00:22:01.28\00:22:02.52
that if you're going to allow
your healing to be contingent
00:22:02.55\00:22:06.65
on somebody else's
remorse, you might be waiting
00:22:07.72\00:22:09.62
past the second
coming of Jesus Christ.
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And there are some of us
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that can't even come
to church because you hate
00:22:19.13\00:22:20.97
seeing that other
person in the balcony.
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There are some of us that
have to avoid family functions
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just because when we see
them, our heart starts racing.
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There are some of us
that can't even sleep at night
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because man, you are up
00:22:35.55\00:22:36.52
and your mind is
constantly toiling
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about when they're going to
do right or how can you get even
00:22:39.89\00:22:41.66
or how can you repay the
harm that was done to you?
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And there are some of us
that are suffering physical
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disability and emotional
weight and emotional pain.
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Because you have I
outsource your healing
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and made it dependent
00:22:56.77\00:22:58.51
upon them seeing the light.
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But what this
message is saying, friends,
00:23:02.04\00:23:04.28
it doesn't matter if
they ever come to themselves.
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I cannot go through
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all the hell of this life
00:23:13.52\00:23:15.89
and miss out on eternal life
00:23:17.36\00:23:20.00
because of somebody else's toxic
00:23:20.96\00:23:23.67
and foolish and
immature behavior.
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And I will not sit as a judge
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trying to assess their
goodness of their worthiness
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or whether or not they deserve.
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No, what I simply
do is I look at my life
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in the light of the
cross and I realize that
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I was unworthy,
I was undeserving.
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I was undependable.
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God literally frames
our behavior as adultery
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is against the most high God.
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And yet every time
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I fell on my knees
00:23:57.97\00:24:00.50
and said, God have mercy,
00:24:00.54\00:24:02.90
there was never a time
where God said, You've come
00:24:04.01\00:24:06.17
too many times, you've
messed up too many times.
00:24:06.21\00:24:09.74
There is no room
for you at the end.
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And I don't know about you.
00:24:12.91\00:24:13.88
I'm just so thankful
for first John one time
00:24:13.92\00:24:16.89
that when you confess
so since he is faithful
00:24:17.85\00:24:20.06
and just to forgive you
of your sins and cleanse you
00:24:20.09\00:24:24.19
of all
00:24:25.39\00:24:25.93
unrighteousness, and I
00:24:25.96\00:24:30.97
have received an ocean of grace.
00:24:31.00\00:24:36.91
And when you've received
that much grace from God,
00:24:36.94\00:24:42.44
it can't help but overflow
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to those who brought offense
00:24:45.91\00:24:48.68
and disruption and
disappointment to your life.
00:24:48.72\00:24:52.39
I wanted to preach
this this Father's Day,
00:24:54.19\00:24:56.32
because there are a
lot of us in this room
00:24:57.39\00:24:58.73
that got what
you call daddy wounds
00:24:58.76\00:25:01.46
from a daddy who wasn't there
00:25:03.73\00:25:06.07
or daddy who didn't show up
00:25:06.10\00:25:08.30
or daddy who left the
forever covenant with mama.
00:25:08.34\00:25:11.44
And what I'm
saying to somebody today
00:25:11.47\00:25:13.38
is that
00:25:13.41\00:25:14.61
whether the wound is with dad
or mom, it doesn't really matter
00:25:14.64\00:25:16.71
who it is.
00:25:16.75\00:25:17.78
At some point you got
to stop making about there
00:25:17.81\00:25:21.25
worthiness and you got to say,
00:25:21.95\00:25:24.09
I deserve to be
home, I deserve to be free.
00:25:25.22\00:25:30.46
I deserve
00:25:31.96\00:25:33.53
to have my wounds bound up.
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And let me just say this.
00:25:36.33\00:25:37.40
You got to play some of
00:25:37.43\00:25:39.10
that forgiveness
because you're going to mess up.
00:25:39.13\00:25:41.60
If you say, man,
your pastors come in town,
00:25:42.60\00:25:44.14
it's going to come in time.
00:25:44.81\00:25:45.84
And, you know, and
I'm praying about it.
00:25:45.87\00:25:47.34
I know what
you're praying about.
00:25:47.38\00:25:49.38
No, the word has already spoken.
00:25:50.75\00:25:53.45
So? So you don't need to be
praying about whether or not
00:25:53.48\00:25:55.28
you should make the decision.
00:25:55.32\00:25:56.22
You should be saying, God,
00:25:56.25\00:25:57.09
give me strength to
act on the decision.
00:25:57.12\00:26:00.22
And let me just say to
somebody that forgiving
00:26:00.26\00:26:02.72
it is not a feeling
00:26:02.76\00:26:05.43
right?
00:26:06.63\00:26:10.77
How many of us know?
00:26:10.80\00:26:12.50
There's just
never going to be a day
00:26:12.53\00:26:15.44
where you wake up and the
birds are going to be singing
00:26:15.47\00:26:17.67
and the sun is just shining
00:26:19.11\00:26:22.01
and you can hear angels
in the corner of your bedroom
00:26:22.04\00:26:24.68
and you just got
forgiveness flowing
00:26:25.81\00:26:27.78
out of your spirits. No.
00:26:27.82\00:26:31.65
Forgiveness is a decision.
00:26:31.69\00:26:34.36
It is an intellectual choice
00:26:36.06\00:26:38.33
that is made
contrary to your feelings,
00:26:39.23\00:26:42.50
but it works out for your good,
00:26:43.37\00:26:45.50
Your Holiness, and your benefit
00:26:45.53\00:26:47.64
and the word to somebody today
00:26:49.80\00:26:51.84
is that hating them
00:26:53.91\00:26:56.14
won't make you whole.
00:26:56.81\00:27:01.28
Withholding grace from them
00:27:01.32\00:27:03.39
won't make you feel any better.
00:27:04.32\00:27:08.76
Withholding your love is
not going to build it up.
00:27:08.79\00:27:13.09
It's actually
going to please you more.
00:27:14.00\00:27:15.10
What are you going
to learn the hard way
00:27:15.13\00:27:16.50
is that being petty
and going tit for tat?
00:27:16.53\00:27:19.63
It's actually harder and
more difficult than actually
00:27:20.70\00:27:23.14
giving forgiveness and grace
to those who don't deserve it.
00:27:23.17\00:27:28.41
And it's funny because I
love how some of your man
00:27:28.44\00:27:31.11
y'all love to talk about
the standards of the church,
00:27:32.25\00:27:36.32
but do you realize
what I'm preaching?
00:27:36.35\00:27:38.59
This is the highest standard
in scripture right here.
00:27:38.62\00:27:41.22
No, no.
00:27:42.42\00:27:43.02
We all come out standard.
00:27:43.06\00:27:44.19
Y'all always talking about
skirt length, jewelry and music.
00:27:44.23\00:27:46.16
No, no Come right here.
00:27:46.73\00:27:49.60
And then talk to me
about Bible standard,
00:27:50.57\00:27:51.87
because you got to
have the Holy Ghost
00:27:52.70\00:27:55.30
to move in this.
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You just got to have decorum
to do some of that other stuff.
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