#S059 - “The Need
To Modify” (Part 2)
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Welcome to the Breath of
Life Television Ministries
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broadcast with
Pastor Debleaire Snell.
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In today's episode,
Pastor Snell will continue part
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two of the
powerful message titled
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The Need to Modify.
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Now let's hear
more from God's Word.
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And let me just say, man,
sometimes you've got someone
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saying you got to make sure
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that you don't
have low standards,
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but you got to make sure
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that your standards
are rooted in reality.
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I think that
some of y'all trippin.
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I saw you a little list
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about places you
can't go on first dates
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in the name of Jesus.
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You better take Cheesecake
Factory off that list.
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It is a great first date place.
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I took my wife there
this week. Come on in.
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Hey, man, I did.
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But what I'm saying is that
when you get thirsty enough,
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what will happen is you begin
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compromising
values and principles.
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In other words,
if he unemployed,
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he just a whale.
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No, there's a difference
between can't find a job
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and won't work.
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Do I have a
witness out there today?
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I right. Unemployed.
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He ain't a
spring. He is a whale.
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If you have to
tell him basic things,
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if you got to tell
him to open the door,
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come on, ladies, and say that
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if you have to tell
him, call and don't text.
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If you have to tell
him, knock on the door.
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Don't walk in the driveway.
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He ain't a spring. He's a whale.
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You are here.
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What I'm saying today, brothers,
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if all she got is look,
she ain't nothing but a whale.
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If she don't know how to
pray, she's just a whale.
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If she's only professional but
not spiritual, she's a whale.
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If she's more annoying
than anointed, she is a whale
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and all whales are
destined to run dry.
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You are hearing
me today, Prince.
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Second thing,
Jesus is teaching this.
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This, this, this woman.
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He's trying to show her
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that satisfaction
can't come from without
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real satisfaction
comes from within.
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So again, Jesus now using
truth that she doesn't know
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to communicate a truth
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that she is able to
ultimately understand.
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And he's going to give
her a relational truth.
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And if you receive the Saints,
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it is going to change
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your whole outlook on love
and dating and interaction.
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So Jesus now says to this
woman, If you keep coming here
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to this whale, you're going to
always have to keep coming back.
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He's saying, This whale won't
ever be able to make you happy.
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This whale won't ever
be able to satisfy you.
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But he says, What
I want to do for you.
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He says, I want to give you
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a different type of water, some
that you've never seen before.
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He says, I'm going to
give you a living water.
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And he literally says that this
whale is going to stop living.
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Water is going to be come in.
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You did your catch that
it's going to become in you
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a spring that whales up
in into everlasting life.
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In other words,
Jesus is trying to help
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her understand that if
this whale is your source,
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it's okay.
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You will always be
attached to the whale.
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If the whale is your source,
you will always be dependent
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on the whale.
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If the whale is your
source, you'll never be able
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to walk away from the whale.
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If this whale is your source,
you will never own the whale.
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But the whale
will always own you.
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You hear me today?
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And so what he's saying is,
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I want to not
just give you a spring.
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He says, I want to
put a spring in you.
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And what a spring was.
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In ancient times, you would have
water aquifers that would be
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stored, water that would
feed the entire community.
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Well, what happened is
when you had an infusion
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of water through rain or
river overflow or melted ice,
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what would happen is you would
have these involuntary springs
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that would begin bursting
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through rock and mountain
and it would create an overflow.
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And because there
was such abundance,
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it would create a spring
that would overflow and run
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into every body
that was close to it.
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And so
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I need somebody to understand
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that when you shift
your relational focus
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and stop worrying so
much about being with them
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and getting connected
with him, what God says is
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you won't need
satisfaction from the outside.
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But he says, I'll put a
spring on the inside of you
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so that your
soul is never thirsty.
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Your heart is
always well-watered.
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You never have to look
for love from the outside
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because you have such
abundance on the inside.
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He says that when
you've got living water,
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you have a spring in your spirit
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that allows you to
go past broken whales
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and cats that
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you see when you've
got it inside of you.
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You can bypass lesser
options outside of you.
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Oh, God.
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In other words, when
it's welling up inside of you
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friends, you pass by
wells that do not satisfy.
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And let me just say this.
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The reason that some of us are
dependent on whales is because
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we ain't got no spring.
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In other words, we need
somebody else to complete us.
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We need somebody
else to satisfy us.
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We need somebody
else to make us happy.
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We need somebody
else to make us whole.
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But I need somebody to
know that your wholeness
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is not in Peterson Hall.
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It's not in weight.
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It's not on tender,
it's not on eHarmony.
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You find your
satisfaction in Jesus Christ.
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Are you? Hear what
I'm saying today, friends?
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And let me pass this
to say this real quick,
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that when
you're a spring, spring
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should never mate with a desert.
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Ah, you'll hear what I'm saying.
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You would take a
spring in a desert,
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go well, but understand a
desert is desert by nature.
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So eventually
what he's going to do
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is go take all of the
surplus from the spring.
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So I need you to know you're
not in a good relational space
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until your spring and
you get with a spring.
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In other words, when
you're in the overflow
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and he's in the overflow,
when you're in the overflow
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and she's in the overflow
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and you both have it
welling up inside of you
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when the two of you connect,
there is such an abundance
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that the
relationship never runs dry.
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Are you all here in
this world today, Prince?
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You need somebody that's
not in the spiritual desert,
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but somebody that's in
the spiritual overflow.
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And see, this
is a very powerful,
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relational truth
for somebody today,
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because it shows us the
metric by which, you know,
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you're ready to
be in a relationship.
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See, when you're
a spring, who got
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you got too much to contain.
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When you're spring, you got more
than you can keep to yourself.
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When you've got a spring in
you, you got so much bubbling,
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that man, you got to have
somebody to share it with.
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In other words, you
know, you're ready when you're
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relationship seeking is
not about what you need to get.
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It's about what
you have to give.
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Oh, God.
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In other words, you
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don't want to get with somebody
because you need to be loved.
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You want to get
with somebody cause
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you got too much
love to keep to yourself.
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When you want to
get with somebody.
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It's not because you
need to be taken care of.
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It's cause you're ready to
take care of somebody else.
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It's not because
you want to be served,
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but because you want
to serve somebody else.
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In other words, you're not
operating out of a deficit.
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You're operating
out of a surplus.
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You realize I've got too
much goodness to be alone.
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I got too much
intelligence to be alone.
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Got too much to
offer to be alone.
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Because it's not
about what I need.
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It's about what I
bring to the table.
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Okay.
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Some of you are with me, so
let me say it in a secular way.
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You understand?
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So you know how,
like, back in the day,
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like when you back in the day.
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Let me say this disclaimer.
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When you went to the party
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back in the day.
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So if you went to a party
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of a very cheap host,
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the invitation, you
would say something like BYOB.
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Oh, you know, I'd like to
know what I'm talking about,
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which may bring
your act and brand
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new you at.
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I mean, I don't really know.
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I read this on the Internet.
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This is this what
I heard somebody say
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it would be b, y, o b, which
meant bring your own bottle.
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Or even as date, rape
culture began to emerge.
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Sometimes the ladies
would bring their own bottle
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because they didn't know
what was in the punch bowl.
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And so because they didn't
want to be subject to what
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somebody else was poisoning,
oh, you ought to hear this.
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They would make
sure to bring their own.
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So I want to shift
this today to them.
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Just bring your own bottle.
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But when it comes down to
relationships, I need you to be
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y0hi need you to
bring your own happiness.
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I need somebody to be
y0j bring your own joy.
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I need somebody to be
y0l bring your own love.
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I need somebody to be y0s.
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Bring your own satisfaction.
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I need somebody to be y0m.
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Because he base
prays for dinner.
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You ain't got to sleep with him.
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Cause you bought your own money.
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I need you to be y. Okay?
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You need to bring
your own anointing.
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Be y0v cause you
bring your own value.
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Be y o see you
brought your own contentment.
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Bring y0c you
bought your own confidence.
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You don't need
nobody to tell you.
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Yo, fine, because you saw.
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It in the mirror.
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You ain't need
nobody to tell you
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You got value, you
bought it yourself.
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You carried it yourself.
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You don't need
it from the outside
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because you got it
operating in the inside.
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Ya hear me today, friends?
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Third thing this is teaching
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is going to get a
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little
uncomfortable right up in here.
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13 Jesus teaching
her is you got to learn
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how to be a keeper
and not a placeholder.
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Her company said Holy Spirit.
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So you girl frater,
she's ready to receive that.
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She's like, Oh, now
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where can I get this living?
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One that I don't never, ever
have to come and draw again.
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And it's crazy because
Jesus now Ellen White talks
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about how she has to
repent of certain form.
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A former relationship practices
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in order to receive what
God has in store for her.
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So he says, okay,
you go call your husband
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now. See, you
know who he was in.
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So she tried to get, get,
get, create a semantic escape.
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He says, Man, well, you
know, I ain't got no husband.
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And she's like,
Yeah, you say that, right?
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Yeah.
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You ain't got no husband.
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You have five husbands
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and the one you are now with
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is just a live in boyfriend
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and see her relationship.
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History friends is
teaching us some things.
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And what I want to talk
about for just a moment,
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I want to put a strong emphasis
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on beauty, of
character, because it shows us
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that sometimes what causes
people to choose you initially
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is not what's going to
keep them choosing you daily.
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Ooh, God.
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What causes them to
ask you out on a first date
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won't keep you 20
years into a ah, y'all hear
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what I'm saying today, friends.
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And see, I need us to understand
that the issue is not how.
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See, look,
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your girl got it going on
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her problems.
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Not that she can't get a man.
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I mean, like holly berries.
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You can. You can get a man.
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Brother's like don't say
that about Holly I to worried
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if she can get one
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and then a lot of this is
where society mixes messes up
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and we allow ourselves
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to be shaped by culture
because for too many of us,
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the trophy is
just getting someone.
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But that's not really God's aim.
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And God's goal is not just
for you to be with somebody.
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The goal is for you
to have such a beauty
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of character and inward
traits that that person can't
00:13:43.35\00:13:46.39
wait to get home to
you 40 years from now.
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Are you all hearing what
I'm saying to make friends?
00:13:51.49\00:13:55.70
And it's crazy because like,
00:13:55.73\00:13:56.83
you know,
00:13:56.87\00:13:57.77
I need to know that
no matter how you look,
00:13:57.80\00:13:59.27
I need to know
that you are exactly
00:13:59.30\00:14:01.37
what somebody is looking for.
00:14:01.40\00:14:02.70
No, no, no.
00:14:04.44\00:14:05.41
You're exactly what
somebody is looking for.
00:14:05.44\00:14:06.64
But I need you to know that's
not really the end all, be all.
00:14:06.68\00:14:08.81
Because, again, she's got
enough looks to get her chosen
00:14:08.84\00:14:11.95
on the front end.
00:14:11.98\00:14:13.08
But, man, there's not
enough something on the inside
00:14:13.11\00:14:15.42
to kind of keep her connected
with somebody on the long term.
00:14:16.65\00:14:18.75
In other words, this
requires some introspection.
00:14:19.85\00:14:21.96
Friends,
00:14:21.99\00:14:23.12
what is it about you
that always causes people
00:14:24.16\00:14:26.90
to ghost you after three weeks?
00:14:26.93\00:14:32.17
What is it about you
that they'll ask you out
00:14:32.20\00:14:34.54
or they'll say yes on
the first couple of days?
00:14:34.57\00:14:36.91
But after two months, man,
things always disintegrate.
00:14:36.94\00:14:39.91
In other words,
00:14:39.94\00:14:40.98
you've got to kind of
ask yourself, in talking to
00:14:41.01\00:14:42.54
perhaps the older
ladies a little bit,
00:14:42.58\00:14:44.08
you've got to kind of
ask yourself the question,
00:14:44.11\00:14:45.91
why is it that he's
okay sleeping with you
00:14:45.95\00:14:48.45
and living with you?
But he won't marry you?
00:14:49.45\00:14:50.92
You've got to ask yourself,
00:14:52.29\00:14:53.46
why am I that woman that always
gets him ready for the wife?
00:14:53.49\00:14:57.23
But I'm never the wife
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are you hear what I'm
saying nonetheless, brother,
00:15:00.83\00:15:02.66
you got to
begin asking yourself,
00:15:02.70\00:15:04.27
man, why is it that
man she loses interest
00:15:04.30\00:15:07.94
after five or six
months every time?
00:15:07.97\00:15:10.04
Why is it that she
always loses respect every time?
00:15:11.11\00:15:14.11
Why is it that she always
00:15:14.14\00:15:15.98
begins to lose interest
and put you in the friendzone?
00:15:16.01\00:15:18.58
Why is it that the antennas
of her parents are awakened
00:15:18.61\00:15:22.95
and they begin to protest
her movements in your direction?
00:15:24.19\00:15:26.69
In other words, are
you just too overbearing?
00:15:27.99\00:15:30.13
And these you know,
brother, you're doing too much.
00:15:31.23\00:15:32.33
If you add Wade Hall
00:15:32.36\00:15:33.80
and she go to court hall
and you got to call her before
00:15:33.83\00:15:36.06
you get to Carter, if you had
the CAS and she going to Carter,
00:15:36.10\00:15:42.47
you got to keep her
guessing a little bit.
00:15:44.14\00:15:46.47
Are you hear
what I'm saying today?
00:15:46.51\00:15:48.74
And let me just say
this, friends of mine,
00:15:48.78\00:15:50.45
is that kind of get into this.
00:15:50.48\00:15:52.21
You got to ask
yourself, am I a keeper
00:15:52.25\00:15:56.85
or does they see
me as a placeholder
00:15:56.89\00:16:00.92
brother?
00:16:00.96\00:16:01.59
Do you have husband traits?
00:16:01.62\00:16:09.13
A man?
00:16:09.16\00:16:12.03
Are they different
than boyfriend traits?
00:16:12.07\00:16:16.37
Are you mature?
00:16:16.40\00:16:19.41
Do you know how to manage money?
00:16:19.44\00:16:23.21
Do you know what
and what not to say?
00:16:23.24\00:16:27.42
Do your words and
your actions align?
00:16:27.45\00:16:31.52
Is your best skill gaming
00:16:31.55\00:16:33.66
playing Fortnite?
00:16:33.69\00:16:37.73
Are you a place
holder or are you a keeper?
00:16:37.76\00:16:42.43
Sister, are you a
placeholder or you keeper?
00:16:42.46\00:16:45.27
Are you the good time girl
00:16:46.67\00:16:49.50
or the lifetime girl?
00:16:50.07\00:16:54.31
Are you industrious where
you have multiple layers to you?
00:16:54.34\00:16:58.38
Well, you know how
to make money and dinner
00:16:59.35\00:17:00.55
and a lack of all your
young girls all trippin.
00:17:05.59\00:17:07.59
And it may not
be a great formula.
00:17:07.62\00:17:09.26
I see.
00:17:09.29\00:17:09.79
I need to know that
00:17:09.82\00:17:10.79
being progressive
don't mean you can't cook.
00:17:10.83\00:17:16.03
It means you're
professional and you can.
00:17:16.06\00:17:18.53
I don't hear what
I'm saying. Today.
00:17:19.40\00:17:21.17
We'd be
bragging about the wrong.
00:17:21.20\00:17:22.27
So I know I don't cook.
00:17:22.30\00:17:24.17
I know all I know how
to do is make reservations.
00:17:24.21\00:17:28.74
Know you want to be well-rounded
in your human being.
00:17:28.78\00:17:31.31
Say, like, I don't
fix stuff like my dad,
00:17:31.35\00:17:33.65
but I wasn't
boasting about that too.
00:17:33.68\00:17:35.55
If I didn't know that
until it was too late.
00:17:35.58\00:17:38.55
We got married.
00:17:38.59\00:17:44.23
Are you hearing what I'm saying?
00:17:44.26\00:17:46.13
Are you a placeholder holder?
00:17:46.16\00:17:47.40
Are you a keeper?
00:17:47.40\00:17:49.06
Do you have traits
that make people literally
00:17:49.10\00:17:52.20
want to bind their
hearts to you forever?
00:17:53.07\00:17:54.44
And matter of fact, go
with me quickly in the Bible.
00:17:54.47\00:17:56.14
Proverbs Chapter 31,
Proverbs 31, in verse one,
00:17:56.17\00:17:58.67
I want you to see something
real quick in the word.
00:17:58.71\00:18:00.98
Proverbs 31, first 30.
00:18:01.01\00:18:03.08
When you go to
enemy, you say minimum
00:18:03.11\00:18:04.35
was then Proverbs 31 and let's
look together here adverse 30.
00:18:04.38\00:18:08.85
So I need you to realize
that we got to put a little bit
00:18:08.88\00:18:10.62
more focus on the inner beauty.
00:18:10.65\00:18:12.32
The Bible says in
Proverbs 31, verse
00:18:12.35\00:18:13.89
30, that charm is
deceitful and beauty is what.
00:18:13.92\00:18:18.23
But a woman who fears the
Lord, she says, I'll be praise.
00:18:18.26\00:18:22.53
See, I need you to
understand that a man or woman
00:18:22.56\00:18:25.10
that has inner beauty,
00:18:25.67\00:18:26.67
I need you to know that
they don't have a plateau.
00:18:26.70\00:18:29.17
They don't peak
when they're 25 or 35.
00:18:30.07\00:18:32.07
But because they've
got a spring on the inside,
00:18:33.07\00:18:35.31
they've got a beauty that
begins to well up on the inside
00:18:36.44\00:18:39.11
and the more they age and
mature, the more beautiful
00:18:40.25\00:18:42.92
they get with time,
00:18:42.95\00:18:44.29
the more
attractive he is in time.
00:18:44.32\00:18:46.82
But he can't
00:18:47.22\00:18:48.32
or she can't be a well,
there's got to be a spring.
00:18:48.36\00:18:52.93
Listen, last thing I
want to say real quick.
00:18:52.96\00:18:54.96
One of things Jesus teaching
us stay with me, friends,
00:18:56.06\00:18:57.80
is that at some point
you've got to modify your type.
00:18:58.90\00:19:04.41
Y'all stay with me. CHURCH
00:19:04.44\00:19:05.27
okay.
00:19:06.64\00:19:07.18
Let me say this again.
00:19:07.21\00:19:08.81
For those in the back
00:19:09.38\00:19:11.05
at some point you've
got to modify your type.
00:19:12.01\00:19:14.95
Okay?
00:19:15.82\00:19:17.42
So sometimes we look
00:19:17.45\00:19:18.35
at this woman
crazy because we're like,
00:19:18.39\00:19:19.99
oh, man, she
should have had five
00:19:20.02\00:19:21.99
husbands and, you
know, a live in boyfriend.
00:19:22.02\00:19:25.29
She didn't been
with six different men.
00:19:26.13\00:19:28.83
Can I suggest that
00:19:28.86\00:19:29.83
maybe she hadn't been
with six different men?
00:19:29.86\00:19:32.63
She's been with six
versions of the same man.
00:19:32.67\00:19:41.61
Y'all got to put a big
offering in the offering tray.
00:19:41.64\00:19:43.51
I'm preaching
some tea out today.
00:19:43.55\00:19:46.25
In other words, like the
reason maybe she gets messed up
00:19:46.28\00:19:49.65
is that she has a
type that determines
00:19:50.55\00:19:54.56
the end of the relationship
and the selection process.
00:19:54.59\00:19:59.76
In other words, maybe
she is one of those ladies.
00:19:59.79\00:20:02.16
This has got a thing for
the roughneck gangster guys,
00:20:02.20\00:20:05.83
and maybe she realizes
00:20:05.87\00:20:07.04
the hard way that thugs
don't make good husbands.
00:20:07.07\00:20:10.87
In other words,
what looks strong on
00:20:10.91\00:20:12.67
the music video
00:20:12.71\00:20:13.88
don't look good in the house
when he walk out of the door
00:20:13.91\00:20:16.64
and leave you in the apartment
00:20:16.68\00:20:17.88
with three hot babies
with no air conditioning, all
00:20:17.91\00:20:22.72
you want to
00:20:22.75\00:20:23.39
leave that thug drunk on TV?
00:20:23.42\00:20:26.22
Maybe she's the lady
that just kind of has a thing
00:20:26.25\00:20:28.59
for that play of that guy
00:20:28.62\00:20:30.33
that has that charm,
that knows what to say,
00:20:30.36\00:20:32.46
even when she knows he
ain't telling the truth.
00:20:32.49\00:20:34.56
But she realizes
00:20:34.56\00:20:35.73
that the player thing don't work
in a committed relationship.
00:20:35.76\00:20:38.50
Or maybe she's
one of those ladies
00:20:38.53\00:20:40.37
that just likes a project.
00:20:40.40\00:20:44.77
She likes to fix things up.
00:20:44.81\00:20:47.74
She likes shopping at Lowe's.
00:20:47.78\00:20:49.14
She wants to do it herself.
00:20:49.18\00:20:50.21
Come on. His aim,
00:20:50.25\00:20:52.58
she want to build something.
00:20:52.61\00:20:53.95
She want to make something.
00:20:53.98\00:20:55.55
Is it a problem
sometimes with this lady
00:20:55.58\00:20:57.69
is that they don't
know the difference
00:20:57.72\00:20:59.15
between potential and permanent.
00:20:59.19\00:21:06.49
If he 22 he got potential.
00:21:06.53\00:21:09.66
If he 47 that
joint is permanent.
00:21:09.70\00:21:11.90
Oh are here.
00:21:11.93\00:21:12.80
What I'm saying
this it is what it is.
00:21:12.83\00:21:14.84
He ain't. He's like this.
00:21:15.57\00:21:17.71
It's all the 47 year old man.
00:21:17.74\00:21:19.94
Look, I know that's a
00:21:19.97\00:21:22.44
Jesus can do anything.
00:21:22.48\00:21:23.85
Yeah, you can, right?
00:21:23.88\00:21:28.98
There's some of
us that consistently,
00:21:29.02\00:21:31.82
consistently kind of
choose the wrong thing.
00:21:31.85\00:21:34.99
And it's crazy,
because what happens is
00:21:35.02\00:21:36.52
when you choose the wrong thing
consistently, stay with me.
00:21:36.56\00:21:39.49
Church
00:21:39.53\00:21:40.36
What happens is you
begin to develop men
00:21:40.40\00:21:42.33
wrong conclusions
00:21:42.36\00:21:43.43
about all men or women
simply because you keep choosing
00:21:43.47\00:21:47.24
the same type.
00:21:47.27\00:21:48.17
So what will happen
is bitterness and jaded,
00:21:48.20\00:21:50.27
and this will set in
00:21:50.31\00:21:51.41
and you will start
saying stuff like, Oh, men cheat
00:21:51.44\00:21:54.28
and all men are dogs
and all men are selfish
00:21:55.21\00:21:58.98
and all women are scandalous
and all women are deceptive
00:22:00.25\00:22:03.35
and all women
treat you a certain way.
00:22:04.19\00:22:05.39
Are you hear what I'm saying?
00:22:05.42\00:22:06.96
And the problem is that's
not your relational destiny
00:22:06.99\00:22:09.96
is your relational rubric.
00:22:09.99\00:22:14.63
That's just what you choose.
00:22:14.66\00:22:16.53
And the end is very much
determined at the very start
00:22:16.56\00:22:20.07
of the relationship.
00:22:20.10\00:22:21.30
You'll hear what
the pastor saying today.
00:22:21.34\00:22:23.97
And he even there some
of us, we are too loyal
00:22:24.01\00:22:26.21
to our preference.
00:22:26.71\00:22:31.25
Oh, Louis, you even realize
what the word preference is.
00:22:31.28\00:22:38.52
It's just pre
00:22:39.95\00:22:42.49
reference.
00:22:42.52\00:22:45.69
In other words, your preference
is simply my lean toward
00:22:45.73\00:22:49.33
that which I've already had.
00:22:50.00\00:22:52.57
And it's not even
necessarily what you want, it's
00:22:52.60\00:22:55.14
just what you know.
00:22:55.17\00:22:57.24
It's not what you need.
00:22:57.27\00:22:58.61
It's just what
you're familiar with.
00:22:58.64\00:23:00.88
It's not what's best for you.
00:23:00.91\00:23:02.31
It's just what your
are comfortable with.
00:23:02.34\00:23:04.35
And see some of us because
in our previous reference,
00:23:04.38\00:23:07.78
we never had a spiritual man,
we never had a spiritual woman.
00:23:07.82\00:23:11.49
So we put those kind
of folk in the friendzone
00:23:11.52\00:23:15.22
because there are some
guys who are so deluded in their
00:23:15.26\00:23:17.73
thinking that you don't
even see spirituality as sexy.
00:23:17.76\00:23:23.40
You don't even
realize how attractive it is.
00:23:23.43\00:23:25.90
You don't even realize
what kind of value in peace
00:23:25.93\00:23:28.44
and joy a woman who
loves God brings to your life.
00:23:28.47\00:23:32.54
Are you tired of
just being tired?
00:23:32.57\00:23:35.78
Are you frustrated because
your results never change?
00:23:35.81\00:23:39.65
Do you feel like life
is just going in circles?
00:23:39.68\00:23:43.25
I'm excited to introduce
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00:23:43.28\00:23:47.42
Excuse List, and I'm going to
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00:23:48.62\00:23:51.09
the excuse this that
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00:23:51.13\00:23:54.83
I need you to know
that your issue is not
00:23:54.86\00:23:56.77
your circumstances.
00:23:56.80\00:23:58.17
It's not the challenges.
00:23:58.20\00:24:00.07
It is the lies that we
00:24:00.10\00:24:01.50
tell ourselves about
why we're not progressing.
00:24:01.54\00:24:04.57
When you tell yourself,
I don't have enough time,
00:24:04.61\00:24:06.94
I don't have enough resources,
I don't have enough money.
00:24:06.98\00:24:10.28
Those are the
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00:24:10.31\00:24:12.55
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00:24:12.58\00:24:15.55
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00:24:15.58\00:24:16.45
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00:24:16.48\00:24:17.49
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00:24:19.72\00:24:21.62
to walk through procrastination,
and to become the best version
00:24:21.66\00:24:25.63
of yourself.
00:24:25.66\00:24:26.73
So join me on Saturday,
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00:24:26.76\00:24:30.70
a teaching
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00:24:30.73\00:24:33.87
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00:24:33.90\00:24:35.67
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00:24:35.70\00:24:37.57
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00:24:37.61\00:24:39.44
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00:24:39.47\00:24:41.51
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00:24:41.54\00:24:43.95
April the 14th, for
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00:24:51.09\00:24:53.29
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You'll be able to get the book.
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There's about to
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00:25:17.08\00:25:19.91
I would invite you to join
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00:25:19.95\00:25:23.82
the process of becoming excuse.
00:25:23.85\00:25:32.93
Hey, family.
00:25:32.96\00:25:34.03
I know the weekends can be long.
00:25:34.10\00:25:36.43
They can be hard.
00:25:36.46\00:25:37.73
And you go through a lot.
00:25:37.77\00:25:39.77
And so at the end of each
week, I want to encourage you to
00:25:39.80\00:25:43.07
join me and the Breath of
Life team for the weekend.
00:25:43.10\00:25:46.88
Exhale with BOL.
00:25:46.91\00:25:49.48
We were having
these programs on Sunday,
00:25:49.51\00:25:51.95
but now we want
to begin the week in
00:25:51.98\00:25:54.08
giving you a little
nourishment, a little nurture,
00:25:54.12\00:25:57.09
giving you a little
boost as you start the weekend.
00:25:57.12\00:26:00.32
Every first Friday, I'm
going to be doing a Bible study
00:26:00.36\00:26:03.66
entitled The Playbook,
00:26:03.69\00:26:05.43
where we're going to be looking
00:26:05.46\00:26:06.43
at issues of
doctrine and culture
00:26:06.46\00:26:08.46
through the lens
of the scripture.
00:26:09.30\00:26:10.57
You don't have to guess.
00:26:10.60\00:26:11.97
You don't have to hope.
00:26:12.00\00:26:13.23
God is giving us
a script in the word
00:26:13.27\00:26:15.77
because the word
is this playbook.
00:26:16.60\00:26:18.41
I'm gonna invite you to join me
every second Friday for a show
00:26:18.44\00:26:21.41
called Point of View, where
Gianna and I do a deep dove
00:26:21.44\00:26:25.71
into issues of marriage
dating and relationships.
00:26:25.75\00:26:29.08
Every third
Friday, join Pastor Nugent
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and myself in the Vision Lab
where we're going to be making
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a heavy deposit into
leaders of all fields.
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We're going to be pouring into
pastors, entrepreneurs, CEOs,
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ministry leaders, authors,
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and we're going to be talking
about how to build that vision
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and move it from
an idea to a reality.
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And then on the fourth Friday,
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we're introducing a new program
called what Just Happened.
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We're going to be
looking at whatever
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the trending
topics in culture are.
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Danita, Pastor
Nugent and myself,
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we're going to be
addressing whatever
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the trending culture topic
is for that week or that month.
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We're going to be
engaging with you.
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We're going to be
answering your questions
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and trying to figure
out how we as believers
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find our place in
the larger culture.
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We go through a lot
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during the weekends.
You can get overwhelmed,
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you can get a
little stressed out.
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But before you go into the
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weekend, take a moment
and join us to stop, breathe
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and exhale with BOL
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(Breath Of Life Music)
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