#S057 - Love Hurts,
But Love Heals (Part 2)
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Welcome to the Breath of Life
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Television Ministries broadcast
with Pastor Debleaire Snell.
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In today's episode,
Pastor Snell will continue part
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two of the powerful
message titled Love Hurts,
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But Love Heals.
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Now let's hear more
from the word of God.
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In other words,
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I need yall to
understand that God has created
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and He's going to
do that for somebody.
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He creates a divine intersection
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so that God
literally ordains exactly
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what time Ruth is
going to land in the field.
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He ordains what role
she's going to be in.
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It is ordained that she
happens to wind up in the field
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that Boaz has ownership
of God ordains that all,
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but goes back home so that
Boaz doesn't see two women.
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He just sees one.
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And I need you to know
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that God has ordained
Boaz in steps as well.
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God has ordained that
he came home a day early
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and not a day later.
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God ordained
that somebody talked
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his head off on the journey
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so that he
wouldn't get there too soon.
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God ordained
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when he would get thirsty
and have to stop for water.
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God had ordained when
he would get to the field.
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And I need you to see
the providential hand of God.
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Moving Naomi. And moving Boaz.
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So that when he
looked down, I'll three.
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She just happened
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to be there right
when he showed up.
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And what I'm saying to
somebody today, friends of mine,
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is that God still
creates divine intersections.
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I need somebody that
is looking to be married
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one day to understand that
God is ordering your stuff.
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So I have anybody
that believes that today
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that God is already
his steps, are her steps,
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and that God is
going to create a construct
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that is outside of
your own devices devising.
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So that run day,
right at the library,
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right at the snack bar,
right here in Sabbath school,
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you won't run into
your Boaz or your Ruth
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in a way that you
could not cook it up.
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I see.
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This is why I need
somebody to catch this. Ladies.
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I need you to
catch this about Ruth.
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See, Ruth.
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She's just seeking.
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She's not serving.
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Okay.
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In other words, Ruth
is not with her cell phone
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taking a bunch of pictures
to post on Facebook every day.
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Ruth in trying on
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18 dresses a day
so she can get notice.
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Ruth is not running
around pulling her skirt up
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and putting her cleavage out
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and becoming a
desperate thirst trap
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in order to get noticed. Why?
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Because she realizes
her value in Jesus Christ.
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And what I'm saying to somebody
today, you got to be careful
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about putting
out desperate energy.
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In other words,
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I need you to know that even
when you have good character,
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if you put out desperate energy,
it's going to be unattractive
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to those that you're
ultimately trying to win.
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I need somebody to
understand that people can tell
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when you want to partner
or when you want and a donor.
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He can tell
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when you want a partner or
whether you want an accessory.
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In other words, I need
you to realize, friends,
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that man,
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when you're getting to desperate
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it literally
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anybody ever tried to hold
on tight to a wet bar of soap?
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And the more you cling
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to it, the harder
it is to hold on to.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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I need you to get
beloved that sometimes
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you've simply got to
stand back and let God be God
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over your life.
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You are hearing the
pastor today, friends.
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I need you to understand
that your steps and your stops
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have been ordered by God.
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I need you to
know that God didn't
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bring you to Oakwood at
this time for no reason.
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You didn't wind up in Huntsville
in this season for no reason.
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I need you to know
that you are the result
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of divine providence.
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And as long as
you stay in the steps
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that I've ordered by God
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and what you find and tell me.
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Help me if I'm
telling the truth.
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Sometimes you'll find the one
when you finally stop looking.
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No, no, no.
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I need you to know
that this is the key.
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This is the key. Just
be about your business.
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Just go about
your father's work.
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Go ahead and get
on that dean's list.
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Become the most
spiritual woman you can be.
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Become the most
spiritual man you can be.
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Discover the calling
that God has for you.
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Because I need you to
realize this about God.
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That God has some unique parts
that are dangerous for you.
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And on that path,
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he has everything
that will bring you love
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and fulfillment,
joy and completion.
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And see, that's why I said
last week, you got to be careful
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about always
holding on to a backup plan,
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because your backup
plan will make you miss God's
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original plan.
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And so I need you
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to understand, this is
about God because he got done.
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Just punish you
because of your disobedience.
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But the one
result of disobedience is
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you have to wait
longer than you should.
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Oh, God.
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So let's just
say we're on the path
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that God has ordained for you.
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And let's suggest that on this
path, God has ordained for you
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to meet your Boaz and your roof
at this spot on the timeline.
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But I need you to understand
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that if you spend too much
with the wrong man or woman,
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God is not going to
give them to somebody else.
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But guess what?
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He knows that if
he gives them to you
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while you're still holding on
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to somebody else,
you won't even be able
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to recognize them
when they show up.
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So then, even though
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you are supposed to meet them
when you turn 23 or 24 or 25,
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because you spent all your
early twenties with Shaquanda
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or Pookie,
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what God now has to do
is push the timeline back.
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And the one you were
supposed to marry at 27,
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you don't meet
him or her to your 29.
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And if you disobey too
long, God, reassign them
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to somebody who's
gonna obey his word.
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I hear me today, friends.
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And what I'm saying to somebody
today is that you find a whole
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lot more joy if you stop chasing
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and just start becoming.
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I need you to understand that
if you just focus on becoming
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the man or woman that
God has ordained, true to be.
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Because I need you to
get this critical truth.
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See, there are some of us
that are praying to be wives
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when we ain't wife material yet.
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No, no.
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You pray for
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God to give you a wife
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when you ain't got no
husband traits in you.
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And I need you to understand,
because by the time you get
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to a wedding day, a
wedding doesn't make you a wife.
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A wedding
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just confirms you as one.
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A wedding doesn't
make you a husband.
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A wedding just
confirms you as a husband.
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In other words,
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those inner traits
or those inner virtues
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have to grow and
ripen to a point.
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And the wedding is
simply the outward confirmation
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of who God has grown
you to be on the inside.
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And so I need you to know,
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listen, just be
about your grades.
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Just be about your anointing,
be about your purpose.
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And in due time,
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God will give you
what you stand in need of.
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Can and should say, man.
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So go back with me, if
you don't mind. To Ruth.
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Chapter two.
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I want you to look
quickly at verse number five.
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There are some
things I need you to see.
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There's a harsh truth
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I'm about to share with
you, but it's the truth anyhow.
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So Boaz said to his servant,
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who is in charge of the
Reapers, whose woman is this?
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What is he doing?
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He's gathering information.
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Oh, y'all, y'all
acting brand new.
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So the servant who
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is in charge, the rebels,
say it is the young mobile woman
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who came back to Naomi
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from the country of
to the country of Moab.
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Then look here with
me in verse number eight.
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Then Boaz said through, you will
listen, my daughter will not.
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Will you not do not glean
in another man's field, nor
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go from here, but stay, mother,
stay close by the young women.
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Are you all
catching this today, friends?
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All right, so I need
you to notice something.
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Third thing this
teaches is that repeat nation
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matters.
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See, I need you
to notice something.
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Notice how much of Ruth history
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Boaz already knows
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before he even steps to her.
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He first finds out if she's
connected to somebody else,
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but then notices this like.
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Man, listen,
Aden already told me
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all of the
stuff that you've done
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for your mother in law
since the death of your husband.
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In other words,
he's already gathered
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a whole lot of detail
before he ever stepped to her.
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In other words, all her beauty
could do is get her noticed.
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It was what was
understood about her character
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through the community
that gets her approach.
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Are y'all hearing
what I'm saying today?
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And see,
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I need somebody to
understand this about reputation
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because your reputation
determines who approaches you
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or who receives you.
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See are some folk that
have made up their mind
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about who who ain't
never talked to you,
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but they've gathered
information about you.
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Okay.
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How many of us understand
that reputation doesn't follow
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you where you're going.
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It beats you
where you're headed.
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So you win this heart.
Man, this is hard truth.
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Because we in this culture,
man. Well, my past is the past.
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And what happened
yesterday, it don't matter.
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No, the devil is a lie.
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It matters to somebody.
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And that's why,
brother and sister,
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you need to be careful
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how you handle yourself
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while you're here
at Oakwood in college.
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You need to be careful
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how you manage your
life in this little, small
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black heaven, this world
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where
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everybody knows everybody
and everybody's related
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to everybody and everybody's
connected to everybody.
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And the truth
is, it doesn't matter
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how many different
cities you move to.
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Social media makes
the world very small.
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Somebody can always be
friend, somebody who's friends
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with you and friends with them
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are you hear what I'm saying?
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So they're going to be folks
that are going to make decisions
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about your future potential
based upon your past behavior.
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And it's funny because
most people are guarded,
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too guarded when
it comes to love.
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So they don't ask
around, am I telling the truth?
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I mean, so
they're going to be times
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when that brother
is a careful hunter,
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even though he's observed you,
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he notices that
you got it going.
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Oh, man, he knows
that you got the one,
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but sometimes
before he even steps,
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if he's serious, he's
going to do some homework
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and some reconnaissance.
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There's going to be some time
when you step to her brothers.
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All right. She may entertain
you. She may flirt a little bit.
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But before she gives her heart
to you, she's going to begin
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asking people about your
family, about your friends,
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about your yesterday,
about who you are as a person.
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Are you hear what I'm saying?
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It's crazy because like,
you know, this pastor, Angley,
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like one of my goals is
to not know certain things
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and every zombie
will know because people,
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they'll ask me,
they like your past.
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You think about him,
what you think about her.
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It's crazy because like,
man, when I don't want to
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because I don't want to
be a blocker for nobody.
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I want to black love.
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So I have to tell
you to find creative ways
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to tell people to keep
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on moving. All.
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So, Pastor, do
you think, you know,
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should I stay in
relationship with him?
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If you hear me
quote Philippians three,
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put those things
which are in the past behind
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and reach forward to
those things that are before
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you know what I'm saying.
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Know there'll be
times where if it's a good,
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good young leader
or a good young man,
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I'll say to them, What
would Jesus say to Judas?
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What they'll do is do quickly.
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Are you are
hearing what I'm saying?
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I mean, if it's the wrong one,
I'll send in the book of John
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that one little
Texas says Jesus wept.
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That's all you need to know.
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That's all you need to know.
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I mean, I don't want a
black I don't want to endorse.
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I don't want to curse.
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But, man, the truth
is, I can't lie to nobody.
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I know what I'm saying.
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I see.
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The reason you need
to do it prayerfully is
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because in many instances,
kind of the best predictor
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of future
behavior is past behavior,
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not historic past,
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but your recent past.
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Because what we want to do
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is we want to just
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turn the page on yesterday
like it ain't never happened,
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but yesterday
still has some DNA on us.
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Come on and say, man.
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All right, so, man,
you say, oh, it's the past.
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But but she's
going to need to know
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not just how you are
promising to treat her,
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but how have you treated
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every other woman
you've had interactions with?
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Do they all end in the same way
with bitterness and resentment
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and heartbreak and scorn?
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In other words, that
pass is going to inform
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something about you.
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In other words, brother,
when you're doing your research,
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you don't want to just
see if she's nice to you.
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You want to see if she's
generally nice to everybody.
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In other words, if
she's just sweet to you
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and nasty to everybody
else, understand that one day
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that nastiness is going to
get aimed in your direction.
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And so that's why is crazy.
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Every now and then you've
got to do a relational carfax
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Yeah, you know how it is.
00:14:02.24\00:14:03.14
When you buy a car,
you don't just go get it
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and do a test drive.
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You want to get the
history of that car.
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You know what I'm
talking about today?
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You want to understand
why it's had so many owners.
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You want to know why, how
many accidents it's been in.
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You want to know
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if the mileage on the
odometer is the actual mileage.
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You want to
know, man, why is that?
00:14:18.72\00:14:20.66
People get keep
getting rid of this car
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because there's something about
its past that says something
00:14:22.56\00:14:25.46
about how it may perform.
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And there are some of you
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that before
00:14:28.06\00:14:29.16
you plunge headlong, you
need to do a relational carfax.
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You need to figure out why
he's been in so many crashes.
00:14:32.50\00:14:36.14
You need to see how many
miles that person has on them.
00:14:36.17\00:14:39.71
You need to see why
00:14:39.74\00:14:40.91
so many people are
trading him or her away.
00:14:40.94\00:14:43.85
And it's not to say
00:14:43.88\00:14:45.05
that they're not a person
that you should not entertain,
00:14:45.08\00:14:48.25
but I need you to be
informed before you purchase,
00:14:48.28\00:14:53.42
because I need you to
get this thing about love.
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What we say is
that love is blind.
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No, it ain't.
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No matter what that show
tells you all on Netflix.
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Hey, man, infatuation is blind,
00:15:03.43\00:15:09.67
but love has 2020 vision.
00:15:09.70\00:15:13.51
So you see infatuation, man.
00:15:13.54\00:15:14.84
It's so caught up, it's so
blind, it's so many lustful
00:15:14.88\00:15:18.58
overlooks obvious things
00:15:18.61\00:15:20.42
and see the
problem with the person
00:15:20.45\00:15:21.68
whose relationship is
driven by infatuation.
00:15:21.72\00:15:24.09
What happens is when
they finally get married
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and the infatuation wears
off, they wake up and say,
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Oh man, they changed.
00:15:29.56\00:15:32.96
No, they didn't change.
00:15:32.99\00:15:35.30
That's kind of who they are.
00:15:35.33\00:15:37.53
But love sees it
00:15:37.57\00:15:40.14
all, sees the good,
sees the not so good.
00:15:40.17\00:15:44.77
And it makes a choice to
say, for better or worse, rich
00:15:44.81\00:15:48.11
or poor, sickness and health
till death do us part and see.
00:15:48.14\00:15:51.35
And that's why, in
order to avoid infatuation,
00:15:51.38\00:15:53.95
one of the things you
00:15:53.98\00:15:55.05
actually need to do is you
need to date with oversight.
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Oh, help me, Holy Spirit.
00:15:57.75\00:16:00.22
Every now
00:16:00.26\00:16:00.72
and then, you need
00:16:00.76\00:16:01.96
somebody who is not all up in
their feelings with that person,
00:16:01.99\00:16:05.39
who ain't got who has
some objectivity, who's
00:16:05.43\00:16:07.36
not connected, that can
help you see what you can't see.
00:16:07.40\00:16:11.60
All right, you
know, I can bring new.
00:16:11.63\00:16:12.70
Okay,
00:16:12.73\00:16:13.77
if you have to hide the
relationship from everybody
00:16:13.80\00:16:16.34
spiritual in your life,
00:16:16.37\00:16:17.84
you need to cancel
that joint this afternoon.
00:16:17.87\00:16:21.14
And in other words,
I'm going like, man,
00:16:21.18\00:16:22.84
I'm just at a stage
in phase in life, man.
00:16:22.88\00:16:25.21
I've got a bunch of
nieces, most of my family,
00:16:25.25\00:16:27.78
you know, in my
family they're females.
00:16:27.82\00:16:29.68
And it's crazy
because when they bring home
00:16:29.72\00:16:31.19
somebody, man,
00:16:31.22\00:16:32.25
I can smell a loser
before he even gets in the door.
00:16:32.29\00:16:35.22
I can see the joint a
mile away from the way he will
00:16:35.26\00:16:38.89
or won't look me in the
eyes the way he responds
00:16:38.93\00:16:41.30
to certain questions.
00:16:41.33\00:16:42.60
I need you to
know you need somebody
00:16:42.63\00:16:44.23
that's a little
further from the situation.
00:16:44.27\00:16:47.07
Do me a real quick
favor. Quick experiment.
00:16:47.10\00:16:48.87
Take your hand.
00:16:48.90\00:16:49.77
Put it right here on
the tip of your nose.
00:16:49.80\00:16:51.27
Look at your hand real quick.
00:16:51.31\00:16:52.97
Look at your hand.
He wanted to be a nose.
00:16:53.01\00:16:55.08
Now, do me a favor.
00:16:55.11\00:16:56.38
Study it now.
00:16:56.41\00:16:58.05
Put it away. About ten inches.
00:16:58.08\00:17:00.52
Could you see it
better when it was close
00:17:00.55\00:17:03.69
or when it was further away?
00:17:03.72\00:17:06.19
And see, the reason
00:17:06.22\00:17:07.29
we get deceived is
because we're looking like this.
00:17:07.32\00:17:11.06
And you need somebody
that's got some distance
00:17:11.09\00:17:13.96
from the situation
00:17:14.00\00:17:15.60
who is able to see
what you cannot see and see.
00:17:15.63\00:17:19.30
They're not making
the choice for you.
00:17:19.33\00:17:21.34
But sometimes, man, God
will raise up the spiritual
00:17:21.37\00:17:25.71
antennas of godly
people who love you
00:17:25.74\00:17:30.15
so that they're
going to be times
00:17:30.18\00:17:31.28
when you're in the
wrong relationship.
00:17:31.31\00:17:32.61
Young brother, young sister,
00:17:32.65\00:17:33.62
your mom and dad won't
be able to sleep at night.
00:17:33.65\00:17:36.72
God is calling them into deep
prayer and deep intercession
00:17:36.75\00:17:39.89
because the Spirit
will put something in them
00:17:39.92\00:17:42.19
that lets you know
that something ain't right.
00:17:42.22\00:17:46.90
Are hear me
today, Prince, for thing
00:17:46.93\00:17:49.96
this story teaches us is
that when somebody's serious,
00:17:50.00\00:17:53.64
they don't
leave it up to chance.
00:17:53.67\00:17:56.60
They'll catch this seriously.
00:17:56.64\00:17:58.77
But don't leave it up to chance.
00:17:58.81\00:17:59.77
I In other words, I
need you to catch this.
00:17:59.81\00:18:01.94
Notice what Boaz says.
00:18:01.98\00:18:04.05
He's like, Don't go glean in
00:18:04.08\00:18:06.41
no other man's field.
00:18:06.45\00:18:10.22
He's like, I got
everything you need right here.
00:18:10.25\00:18:13.86
He's like, Don't even get well.
00:18:13.89\00:18:15.22
Water from another man's well,
I got all the water you need
00:18:15.26\00:18:19.19
right here on this land.
00:18:19.23\00:18:20.56
In other words,
what your boy Boaz did
00:18:20.60\00:18:22.80
after he had
gathered his information,
00:18:22.83\00:18:25.00
after he had come
to some conclusions.
00:18:25.03\00:18:27.04
I need you to know he
doesn't just step the route
00:18:27.07\00:18:28.97
with ambitions.
00:18:29.00\00:18:30.04
He's got a plan,
00:18:30.07\00:18:31.54
and that brother
makes his intentions known.
00:18:31.57\00:18:37.28
So I need somebody to
understand this about it.
00:18:37.31\00:18:39.45
And let me just
say this. Assistance.
00:18:39.48\00:18:40.82
I need to know when a
brother is serious about you,
00:18:40.85\00:18:43.99
he ain't going to be
00:18:44.02\00:18:44.92
like, Well, let's
just see what happens
00:18:44.95\00:18:50.23
here.
00:18:50.53\00:18:50.99
Going to be like,
00:18:51.03\00:18:51.39
well, well,
00:18:51.43\00:18:52.03
you know, let's, you know,
00:18:52.06\00:18:53.19
just one day we'll just
happen to run into each other.
00:18:53.23\00:18:55.23
If he's serious,
he's going to be like,
00:18:55.26\00:18:56.73
Well, let's just stay
in an open relationship.
00:18:56.77\00:19:00.24
I need to know when that brother
is serious about that thing.
00:19:00.27\00:19:03.74
He is going to literally
dig a trench around you,
00:19:03.77\00:19:07.54
put a barricade around you.
00:19:07.58\00:19:09.51
His language is
going to be clear.
00:19:09.54\00:19:11.58
There'll be no ambivalence.
00:19:11.61\00:19:13.35
He's going to talk and
certainties and sureties.
00:19:13.38\00:19:16.05
He's going to make sure
00:19:16.08\00:19:17.09
that, you know, are
you hear what I'm saying?
00:19:17.12\00:19:21.62
And in other words,
00:19:21.66\00:19:22.59
there are times
where we deceive ourselves
00:19:22.62\00:19:24.13
because you
sitting there by the phone
00:19:24.16\00:19:25.53
waiting for him to call.
00:19:25.56\00:19:27.30
No, y'all. Worse
waiting on him. The text.
00:19:27.30\00:19:31.90
No, real man, don't text.
00:19:31.93\00:19:34.47
We open our mouths, we talk,
00:19:34.50\00:19:38.27
we claim territory, we
make our intentions known.
00:19:38.31\00:19:42.91
I hear what I'm saying today.
00:19:43.61\00:19:47.52
This crazy man.
00:19:47.55\00:19:48.42
I think I told you
the story last year
00:19:48.45\00:19:49.75
when I first
started dating my wife.
00:19:49.78\00:19:51.52
We were both I was in
grad school and Andrew,
00:19:51.55\00:19:53.76
she was an undergrad,
00:19:53.79\00:19:54.86
you know, we had been
friends for a little while.
00:19:54.89\00:19:56.49
And it's crazy
00:19:56.52\00:19:57.13
because now
00:19:57.16\00:19:58.06
when I was getting
ready to be serious, man,
00:19:58.09\00:19:59.33
I wanted to make sure that
she understood where I was.
00:19:59.36\00:20:01.90
I remember like our house,
you know, I said last year
00:20:03.03\00:20:04.13
our house off campus was like,
00:20:04.17\00:20:05.77
you know, kind of like the
place of social engagement.
00:20:05.80\00:20:08.07
So sometimes the undergrads
would come to our house
00:20:09.20\00:20:10.44
and kick it.
00:20:10.47\00:20:11.14
So I remember one of my friends
00:20:11.17\00:20:12.11
was coming up
for the weekend come.
00:20:12.14\00:20:13.88
He wanted to
meet some young ladies
00:20:13.91\00:20:15.54
are there at
Andrew's and it's crazy
00:20:15.58\00:20:17.48
because it means, you know,
we weren't even talking, man.
00:20:17.51\00:20:19.91
This show was very
arrogant. It presumptuous of me.
00:20:19.95\00:20:22.05
But I told the brother
that when you get here,
00:20:23.02\00:20:24.69
I need you to know I said it
just like, man, God told Adam.
00:20:24.72\00:20:27.79
I said, you can have any
tree that's in the garden.
00:20:27.82\00:20:32.33
I know this.
00:20:32.36\00:20:33.76
Is this a little Midwest?
00:20:33.80\00:20:34.56
I think you can
pick from any tree
00:20:34.60\00:20:36.77
that's in the
garden but the one.
00:20:36.80\00:20:38.57
Gianna Elise.
00:20:38.60\00:20:39.83
Norman Don't
look at it or touch it
00:20:39.87\00:20:44.77
lest she die.
00:20:44.81\00:20:45.84
Y'all not hear
what I'm saying today.
00:20:45.87\00:20:48.98
Like I had to make
my intentions known.
00:20:49.01\00:20:50.78
In fact, like my
wife and I, we, you know,
00:20:50.81\00:20:52.48
most of our
relationship was long distance.
00:20:52.51\00:20:54.28
We we got together officially,
probably about a month
00:20:54.32\00:20:57.32
before I left Andrew's.
00:20:57.35\00:20:58.75
But I need you to know, when
it was time for me to leave.
00:20:58.79\00:21:00.92
I didn't flip a coin. I
didn't leave it up in the air.
00:21:00.96\00:21:03.46
I begin to communicate
my vision for my life.
00:21:03.49\00:21:06.56
And where I saw
her fitting into it,
00:21:06.59\00:21:09.20
I said, I'll be
living in Mississippi.
00:21:09.23\00:21:11.30
We can meet here.
00:21:11.80\00:21:12.60
This is how
often I'll come here.
00:21:12.63\00:21:14.10
We can meet in
Nashville, spend time
00:21:14.14\00:21:15.60
with your parents
on the cell phone.
00:21:15.64\00:21:17.17
There was no
ambivalence about it.
00:21:17.21\00:21:20.41
I made the intention clear.
00:21:20.44\00:21:22.28
And what I'm saying is, Brother,
00:21:22.31\00:21:23.41
when you serious
about that thing,
00:21:23.45\00:21:24.95
you're going to kind of
make your intentions clear.
00:21:24.98\00:21:27.35
And I need you to know this.
00:21:27.38\00:21:28.35
When he's serious,
you ain't got to guess.
00:21:28.38\00:21:31.65
You're not the
way for him to call.
00:21:31.69\00:21:34.02
You ain't going to have to track
him down for a second date.
00:21:34.06\00:21:39.06
Oh, you're not hearing me.
00:21:39.09\00:21:40.90
No, no, no. He.
00:21:41.30\00:21:41.80
He is gold moon.
00:21:41.83\00:21:43.16
Listen, when he's serious,
00:21:43.20\00:21:44.40
he'll move heaven and
earth to be where you are.
00:21:44.43\00:21:49.17
He'll make it start raining.
00:21:49.20\00:21:50.61
Just make sure you
come inside the dorm
00:21:50.64\00:21:52.14
because he's waiting there.
00:21:52.17\00:21:54.14
No, no.
00:21:54.18\00:21:55.18
What I'm saying is
when it when they're serious
00:21:55.21\00:21:56.38
with these serious brothers,
I need you to know that man.
00:21:56.41\00:21:58.98
She's not going to be desperate.
She's not gonna overwhelm you.
00:21:59.01\00:22:01.12
She's not going to be clingy.
00:22:01.15\00:22:02.32
But guess what?
00:22:02.35\00:22:03.18
She's going to
make herself visible.
00:22:03.22\00:22:07.22
She's going to
make sure you see her.
00:22:07.26\00:22:09.99
She's going to be where you
have access and you got to act.
00:22:10.03\00:22:13.16
Wow, the door is still open.
00:22:13.19\00:22:15.00
Can the church
say, man? All right, so.
00:22:15.03\00:22:17.67
So I need
somebody. No friends of mine.
00:22:17.70\00:22:19.40
That that that sometimes we
kind of leave things to chance.
00:22:19.43\00:22:25.31
There's a time for you to act on
what it is that God is saying.
00:22:25.34\00:22:28.11
Are you are. Hear what
I'm saying today, friends.
00:22:28.14\00:22:30.41
And see, the thing I
love about the story of Ruth
00:22:30.45\00:22:33.05
is that even though she
has suffered great loss,
00:22:33.08\00:22:37.45
God uses sometimes heart break
00:22:37.49\00:22:45.89
to introduce us to the heart.
00:22:45.93\00:22:47.83
Fix her.
00:22:47.86\00:22:51.30
I don't know.
00:22:51.33\00:22:51.97
Maybe there was another way
00:22:52.00\00:22:53.54
that Ruth would have come to be
a part of the family of God in
00:22:53.57\00:22:57.07
this way.
00:22:57.11\00:22:58.01
But I need you to
understand that through
00:22:58.04\00:22:59.91
this very painful story of loss,
00:22:59.94\00:23:01.94
and when you
read the story, it's
00:23:01.98\00:23:03.28
not going to
really make you tingle.
00:23:03.31\00:23:04.51
There are some cultural norms
that don't necessarily align
00:23:04.55\00:23:07.88
with the values
that we have in our time.
00:23:07.92\00:23:10.29
But I need you to know
00:23:10.32\00:23:11.49
that even those that
she suffers heartbreak
00:23:11.52\00:23:13.62
and they only
suffers heartbreak, theirs
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is because of that.
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Somebody else has heartbreak
for a different reason.
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But I need
somebody to understand
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this critical truth
that Romans 828 does not lie,
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that all things work together
for good to them, that love
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the Lord and are called
according to His purpose.
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So God ordains it in such a way
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that Ruth hooks
up with my man Boaz.
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Boaz takes her to be his wife
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and understand that Ruth
and Boaz have a baby name.
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All bad, all bad
has a son named Jesse.
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Jesse has a son named David.
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And 22 generations,
through the lineage of
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David comes a child named Jesus.
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And they call him Jesus Boy.
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He will save his
people from their sins.
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Are y'all catching this?
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And it was through
painful heart break
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that she
experiences divine restoration
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and see
ultimately gets connected in
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an immovable way to the
lineage of Jesus Christ.
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And it's amazing
because Boaz becomes
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what was known in that
culture as a kinsman redeemer,
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and he was a
forerunner of Jesus Christ
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who takes the one
who has been left aside,
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the one that had no
support, the one that had no
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particular way of survival.
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And he stands with her
and she experiences wholeness
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and renewal and
redemption in her
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relationship to
her kinsman redeemer.
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And I want to just
say to somebody today,
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just this message of hope.
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I pray that you're
finding encouragement,
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even if it's not your
time to start dating again
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or entertaining
somebody else again.
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I need somebody to
know that even though
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the marriage or
relationship ended, guess what?
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Your life is
still supposed to go on.
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Let me just say to somebody,
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let me just say to that person
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who had somebody break
up with you last semester,
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I mean, you all
feel in a certain way
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because of rejection.
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You've heard me say, I
think you realize that sometimes
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rejection is
just God's direction.
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Rejection is just
divine redirection.
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Man There going to be a day.
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Man Probably about 12.
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Alumnus From that, yeah,
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you're going to see
him with a bald spot.
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You're going to see her. She's
even meaner than she is now.
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And you can praise God
right in the middle of the von
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Braun and
church going to be over
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because God was and it's
not that he or she is bad.
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They just are not for you
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because God use the
redirection to redirect you.
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I do need to say
this because again,
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I'm not for judging
people for their past.
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I'm anti that in every way.
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But I do need you
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to be careful, young
people, about your reputation.
00:26:15.67\00:26:19.04
You need to be careful
how you handle yourself.
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You don't even know me
because you're praying for this
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spiritual, godly man who
is like about serious things.
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But man, you know, it's crazy,
because every now and then,
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you know, I'll be
up late, late at night.
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It's crazy because
some of y'all turn up
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big time on social
media late at night,
00:26:34.69\00:26:38.19
y'all
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possibly that's I
wouldn't post at any other time
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but when you go on a cursing
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twerking tirade,
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he might be saying, I
don't know if that's my wife
00:26:47.97\00:26:51.97
when she sees you,
man, you in the club
00:26:52.01\00:26:54.58
and you acting out
foolish and you doing this
00:26:54.61\00:26:56.21
that in the third.
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I mean, she she
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she may be
disqualifying you because of how
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you handling yourself.
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Don't let yourself get
passed around to him and her and
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and all the other.
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Because I need, you
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know, it's a small
world and there is somebody
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that's going to be
comfortable with your history.
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But what I'm saying is you don't
want to disqualify yourself,
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assuming that
everything that happens at
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Oakwood stays at Oakwood.
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No, I don't know. It don't.
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I need somebody to understand
this fundamental truth
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that men the same way
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God ordained
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truth and bold steps that
God is ordering your steps
00:27:29.98\00:27:32.85
that God has moved you
here, that he's growing you
00:27:32.88\00:27:35.48
spiritually.
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He's developing your work ethic,
00:27:36.35\00:27:37.82
your character,
your prayer life.
00:27:37.85\00:27:39.39
He's put you through situations
00:27:39.42\00:27:40.92
that your peers
are not going through
00:27:40.96\00:27:42.69
that are designed to
mature you and growing you.
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And guess what?
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They are literally
developing wife traits, husband
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traits and ways that you
could not even see coming.
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But more than anything
else, I need you to know
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that there is a redeemer
in Jesus Christ who sees you.
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Who cares about you,
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who knows you,
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and he wants to restore
you in any and every way.
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If God's Word was a blessing
to me, hear you say Amen today.
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