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Sermon #S029 - Stop
Babel-ing - (Part 2)
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Welcome to the Breath of Life
Television Ministries broadcast
with Pastor Debleaire Snell!
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In today's episode, Pastor Snell
will share Part Two of the
dynamic message titled: “Stop
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Babel-ing.” Now, let's go deeper
into the word of God to
understand God's vision for our
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families. Pastor Snell: And
what I'm saying to us today,
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friends of mine, is we got to
get to a place where our battle
is not for control,
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it is not for authority, but we
fight to out serve, to out
submit and out please one
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another. Are y'all hearing me
today friends? So I need us to
know friends of mine that even
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as you establish roles, that the
roles ought to be based on
gifts, not just gender. Are
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y'all here the pastor
today? [Congregation: Amen]
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Because let's just tell the
truth. In every marriage you got
one that's a little less
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financially literate and they'll
burn through all the money in
one day. And sometimes that's
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the husband and you don't put
the paycheck in his hand if
that's not his gift. Are y'all
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hearing what I'm saying? In
other words, there're in every
house there are roles, there's
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going to be one to the kids,
that's going to be the law.
There's another parent that's
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going to be grace. But together
the image of God is revealed to
those kids as they see law and
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grace operating for their good.
And there are building in every
home, there's going to be one
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that don't really care nothing
about the house being clean.
There's going to be somebody
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that's always up in arms about
stuff not being clean. In fact,
even though I'm the man, I need
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you to be clear. Ain't no sugar
in my tank, but when I see a
dirty room, man, I'm going to be
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in there with my vacuum. I'm
going to be washing something,
I'm going to be cleaning
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something. And it's not based on
gender is based upon how my mind
sees systems and structure and
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organiza... Are y'all hearing
the pastor today? Do y'all
realize that some of the
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strongest brothers I know they
like to cook. [Congregation:
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Clapping] Are y'all? Am I
preaching anybody today? Like do
you realize Jacob is the father
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of the nation but he got Esau to
sell the birthright because he
made the best stew anybody ever
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wanted to eat? Are y'all hearing
what I'm saying today? And what
I'm saying to us today, friends
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of mine, is that we've got to
get to a place where we base our
roles based upon the gifts God
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gave, not just the gender
we were assigned at birth.
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Now I do want to say this, I do
believe friends that that
husbands are called ultimately
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to be the head. If you
agree, let me hear you say amen.
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[Congregation: Amen]
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Now again ladies,
before you get mad at this,
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I need you to be clear that the
head is not the one husbands
that has all authority.
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The head is the one that's
held accountable. [laughter]
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[Congregation: That's right]
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No, no, no. That's what the head
is. Because even though Eve ate
the fruit first and handed it to
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the man, when God showed up in
the garden, he didn't say, Eve,
where are you? He called for
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your boy Adam. And so in other
words, the head is the one that
is going to be held ultimately
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responsible. See, I need us to
understand what headship is.
Headship is the one that takes
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the blame when it goes wrong.
See, we want to walk around, be
not chest talking about I'm the
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head, but when it goes wrong, we
want to do like Adam did and say
it's the woman that God put
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here. Are y'all hearing what I'm
saying? See, being in head is
kind of almost like this.
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Anybody got siblings in your
house? If you're the oldest
child, let me hear you. See you
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raise your hand. So being the
head is like being the oldest
child so that when your parents
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leave you at home with your
brothers and sisters, they leave
you in charge. They make you the
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head. But guess what? Even when
your little brothers and sisters
break something or the jobs
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doesn't get done, they don't
come and ask for the brother and
sister that broke it. They call
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the name of the one they left in
charge. [Congregation: Applause]
And see that's what it means to
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be the head. It is the one that
shares the credit when things go
well. And here's the one that
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takes responsibility when things
are not as God ordained. See,
and that's why the Bible in
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Philippians two says that God
gave him a name that is above
every name, that the name of
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Jesus. Every knee shall bow and
every tongue shall confess. Why
did Jesus become the head? He
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became the head. Why of the
body. He's the head of all
things that pertains unto the
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church. Why? Because he took
responsibility. He took
responsibility when he went to
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the cross, he is the one that
jumped in front of the judgment.
He is the one that says, I'll
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take the penalty. He is the one
that says put the transfer of
sin on me. And understand that
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you can't be the head. Whether
that's you are willing not just
to stand in front of the altar,
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you are not the head until
you're willing to lay on the
altar [Congregation: Applause]
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And make sure that there's a
sacrifice so that everybody can
be saved though. Y'all hearing
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me today friends? Second thing
this teaches us, and if I can
shift to my singles for just a
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moment, that when it comes down
to what you're evaluating,
you've got to let communication
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break the tie. In other words,
friends, the success of their
endeavors hinge upon their
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ability to communicate. As long
as in Babel they were able to
communicate, everything went
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good. But as soon as they lost
the ability to communicate,
guess what? Everything went
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chaotic and turned into a
disaster. And see what God does.
Friends of mine is he sabotages
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the language. See friends, y'all
got to kind of see in your
mind's eyes the chaos that now
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takes place on this work site.
Once God sabotages the language,
see what happens. Somebody asks
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for a screwdriver, but then
somebody hands them some pliers,
somebody's asking for some
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concrete and somebody's handing
them a bale of hay. Somebody is
instructed to go and paint the
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wall, but then somebody's
against the wall drilling a hole
in the wall. Because even though
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they have tools, they can't
build nothing because they can't
communicate. [Congregation:
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Amen] And the reason I'm saying
this singles is that society is
always telling you to just
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evaluate their tools, evaluate
what they're working with,
investigate what they're
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utilizing. But I need you to
know it doesn't matter what
they're working with if they
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can't communicate. And it's
crazy because see, too often our
brothers will make all of their
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evaluations based upon what
she's working with physically.
But I need you to understand
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that you've got to evaluate more
than what she's working with.
You got to evaluate how she's
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able to communicate. In other
words, it's cool to have your
preference. There ain't nothing
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wrong with that. But let's be
clear, the complexion of her
skin, the size of her bust, the
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length of her hair ain't going
to keep you when your world
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[Congregation: Applause] In
other words, you got to be
asking yourself, does she know
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what to say in a crisis? turns
upside down. Does she add calm
when there is chaos? Does she
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know how to speak with respect?
Does her words build or do they
tear down? Does she know how
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when to speak up and when to be
still. Verbally is she vaccine
or is she virus? [Congregation:
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Applause] Are y'all hearing what
I'm saying today? And see, the
problem is we focus so much on
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what she's working with
physically. When the truth is
that if it comes down to pretty
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or respect, let respect break
the tie. If it comes down to
attraction or attitude, let
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communication break the tie. And
brothers, this is the key. The
girl who is the one is not just
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the one you like looking at.
It's the one you like listening
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to. [Congregation: Clapping]
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In other words, it's not the one
you like touching, it's the one
you want to stay in touch with.
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It is that girl that is your
best friend. You like being
around her. You can talk to her
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all night. The one that's going
be with you is not just the one
you like looking at.
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It's the one you like li... Am
I preaching anybody married folk
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today? Because how many of us
know Proverbs 31 says that Charm
is deceitful, beauty is fading.
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But a woman who fears the Lord
shall be praise. Because see,
this is the crazy thing about
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looks that that a woman you
enjoy becomes even more
attractive when you like talking
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to her. But when you can't
communicate with her, all that
pretty goes out the window. Are
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y'all hearing me today friends?
[Congregation: Laughing]
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In other words, sisters, when
you're evaluating, don't just
look at what he's working with
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physically or financially.
You got to ask, can that brother
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communicate? In other words,
because you realize, sister, you
going to be nurtured and fed
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through communication. That's
what's going to keep you when
you've been married 35 years.
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Because understand that them
little abs, they going to be
sagging into jello. Am I
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preaching to anybody today? Are
y'all hearing what I'm saying?
[Congregation: Clapping]
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And so you got to begin asking
yourselves the question, is the
greatest strength in his biceps
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or in his triceps? Or does he
know what to say? Do his words
have wisdom. Do his words bring
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comfort, are his words timely?
And even though he tends to be
left brain in his thinking, can
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he cross the street emotionally
and not just talk on the level
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of facts and data? But can he
talk on the level of feelings
and emotion? Can he say, I'm
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sorry, can he say I'm wrong? Can
he say I love you? Does he know
how to express himself when he
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gets mad? Does he go off or is
he calculating so that his words
don't destroy you, but his words
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build you even when things get
hard? In other words, friends of
mine, you got to ask yourself
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the question, do you have a
relationship? Are you connected
when you are not touching?
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And listen, him being a good
provider is good. You ought to
look for that. But if he can
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only provide, but he can't
communicate, you going to be the
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loneliest, most miserable
housewife with your nice house
in your nice car who's
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disconnected from her partner.
Are y'all hearing what I'm
saying? And the reason I'm
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focusing on communication
friends is this Is because lust
starts with the eyes, but love
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happens in the ears. It is what
they have to say. It is
conversation that carries the
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day. Do you realize brothers,
your wife, she can't just be
your subject or your toy, she
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needs to be your best friend.
She needs to be the one you like
doing life with that you ought
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to enjoy talking with her across
the dinner table each and every
day. You need somebody's sister
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that after you come home from a
long day and life has worried
you and life has overwhelmed
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you, you need somebody that is
emotionally available and can
make that make a contribution
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outside of baby what we eating
for dinner tonight?
[Congregation: Laughing]
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So when it comes down to pretty
or communication, let
communication break the tie when
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it comes down to he got a car or
communication, let communication
break the tie. When it comes
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down to handsome or
communication, let communication
break the tie. You've got an
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heir on the side of that which
is going to last. So what God
says is I'm going to cause
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Babylon to scatter and friends
of mine, it wasn't just, see,
the issue wasn't just that they
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could not communicate. You see,
the larger issue friend is that
they cared. Babel, they were
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infested in what they were
building. They wanted to build
something together. They were
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determined to see the structure
come the past and understand
that if they did not care, God
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confounding the speech would not
have really been such a great
deal. But because they cared
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about being able to build
something, once the
communication was lost, they
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would literally begin to get in
arguments and fights because
they cared so much about what
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they were building. And when
they lost the ability to be able
to communicate, what happened
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was chaos, confusion, war in
strife because they wanted to
build it. They just couldn't
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communicate it. And whenever
you've got care without
communication, you going to
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always have chaos.
[Congregation: Amen] Because see
what baby love says. Well, you
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know, we don't really have to
have communication. We don't
have to have this. We ain't got
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to have spirituality. All we got
to have is love. Love is good,
but if you can't communicate it,
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I need you to know that love
will turn against you. It'll
turn you against one another if
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you can't communicate. Are y'all
hearing me today friends? And so
what I want to do is I want to
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give you some action steps
before I close. I want to just
give you a few action steps
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before I take my seat. See
friends of mine as we grow
together both in marriage and in
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dating, the first action step I
want to share with you before
I'm seated, is I want to
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encourage you to prioritize
communication. Somebody say
prioritize it. See, I want to
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just give some brief action
steps in the household of faith.
I want to encourage every couple
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to make sure that you spend at a
minimum 30 minutes of
uninterrupted conversation with
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one another. I need to go preach
out of town. I don't know where
y'all at today. [Congregation:
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Laughing] I mean no, no, no. Am
I preaching to unbelieving folk?
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Listen, the pastor is saying
that we ought to spend at least
30 minutes of uninterrupted
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communication with one another.
And what I mean when I say this,
I'm not talking about 30 minutes
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watching a movie. I'm not
talking about 30 minutes playing
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video games. I'm talking about
where there is an interface
where you are sitting across
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from a meal where you're sharing
thoughts and ideas and visions
and dreams. You see friends of
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mine. There's this whole thing
that I hear people say. They
say, pastor, we just drifted
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apart. Do you realize that what
keeps you united and connected
is a steady stream of
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communication where there's a
time where you put all of your
devices in time out and you
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allow one another to be the
center of your attention. Are
y'all hearing me today friends?
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And it's crazy because I want to
say to the brothers, we got to
prioritize communication. Come
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on and say amen. Stay with the
pastor today because you realize
that our ladies are fed by
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communication, right? There is
always going to be discord if
there is no communication. It's
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crazy. Like even in my house, I
have two boys and I have a girl.
And it's crazy because like me
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and my boys, we can be chilling
in the room. We can just be just
maxing and relaxing. We watching
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the game, we're playing the
video game. Ain't nobody
talking. We focus on the screen
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and ain't nobody mad about it.
[Congregation: Laughing] We
working, we're playing about,
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we're doing something and our
attention can be diverted to
something else. And we are
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straight. But even though my
daughter's going to be in the
room after a while, she's going
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to put down that joystick after
a while, she's going to get in
front of the TV. But wow, that
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girl is going to get right in my
face. [Congregation: Laughing]
And she's going to require some
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conversation, some up close and
personal time. I am not going to
be able to stay in relationship
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with her as long as my attention
is focused on something else.
Are y'all hearing what I'm
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saying? Our ladies are wired
that way. And it's crazy because
there's a great book. His needs,
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her needs. Ashanti Feldman. She
said it this way husbands, and
it helped me to understand it.
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She says that for a woman
talking is like breathing and a
lack of communication is
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equivalent to suffocation. And
and she put it in a way that we
could understand it. She says,
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husbands, she says, the same
release you get through intimacy
is the same release they get
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through conversation. And there
are times friends of mine where
we're mad because we're saying
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she needs to increase her our
bedroom libido. What we need to
increase is our emotional
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libido, our communication
libido. And when we increase on
that end, everything we need is
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going to fall in place. Are
y'all hearing me today? Second
action step I want to say about
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communication I want to say to
the church is this, I need you
to know that there is nothing
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self-explanatory. Okay. Let me
just say this. Everything you
consistently think, but never
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say gives the enemy an upper
hand to sabotage the unity of
your home. And what I'm saying
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to us today, friends of mine, is
we got to get to a place where
we don't under communicate. I
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need you to know in a blessed
home, we over communicate. In
other words, sisters, don't make
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him audition to see how
sensitive he is by making him
read your mind. [Congregation:
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Laughing] He can't see nothing
past that TV on the wall. Are
y'all hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Don't make him guess. Don't
leave him in the dark If there
is an issue, if it's causing
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something's causing the fester.
If there is a resentment that is
building, you've got to open up
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your mouth, young wive, find
your voice and communicate what
you stand in need of.
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Husbands we've got to find a way
to find out how to be a little
bit more expressive with how we
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feel. Amen. Come on, say
amen brothers, don't leave me by
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myself. [Congregation: Laughing]
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I will switch sides with the
quickness and see, when we talk
about being expressive,
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I'm not talking about changing
the way you think I'm saying
just release what you're already
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thinking. So, that, you know,
women need to hear I love you.
They need to hear you pretty,
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they need to hear that you
still find attraction for them.
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Now it's crazy because this was
something that had to be a long
time learning lesson for me
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because in my mind,
why do I need to say that
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I married you and so my wife
would say, yo, do you think I'm
beautiful? I'm like, yeah, I
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think that all the time. I feel
like I'm one of the luckiest
cats on the planet. I have the
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baddest chick on my arm whenever
I walk into a room. That's what
I'm thinking. But what I had to
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do was release the seal from my
lips to be able to say what I'm
thinking. And there are some of
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us that in our hearts, we, we
appreciate them in our hearts.
We think they're beautiful in
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our hearts. We admire them in
our hearts. But I need you to
know there'll always be a
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misunderstanding until you
release what you are thinking
and give expression to it. Are
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you hearing what I'm
saying? [Congregation: Clapping]
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Don't make them have to guess.
Don't make them have to wonder
because if they're asking you,
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it's because there's already a
deficit and see friends of mine,
this is why we've got to be
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expressive with certain things.
What we want to avoid, and we
talked about this when we talked
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about infidelity the other day.
What we got to avoid both
husbands and wives is this
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threshold where most of our
communication or the only thing
we express is correction or
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negativity. See, I need you to
know that you've reached a
dangerous and volatile point
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when at least 60% of your
communication is corrective or
critical in nature. And I need
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you to know friends that there
is a dynamic you have to avoid.
There is a dynamic where husband
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and wife is always telling them
what they do wrong, what they,
how they mess up, what they're
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not doing. And somebody's on the
job and saying, man, I wish
there was more good men like
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you, man, I wish there was a
woman like you that would stand
by my side. See, you got to
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avoid the dynamic of saying how
awful they are when somebody's
saying how great they are. Are
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y'all hearing what I'm saying?
We got to show value and
appreciation and we don't need
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to leave anything unsaid. And
part of this friends is we got
to have conversations,
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especially hard ones in the
right season. You know what the
Bible says? The Bible says,
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don't even let the sun go down
while you're angry. Because when
you do, you give a foothold or
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place to the devil. Ain't it
crazy how like, man, you can go
to sleep mad about one thing,
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but then you wake up mad about
10 things. [Congregation:
Laughing] And the funny thing is
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that when you got seven or eight
things that have built up over
time because it's not been
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communicated, because it's not
been said, because it's not been
stated, do you realize that even
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by the time you address it, you
can never get to a place of
resolution because you don't
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even know what you arguing
about. You started out talking
about the toilet seat, but
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really the underlying issue is
the fact that when you got your
hair did, he didn't notice it
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and he ain't saying nothing
about it. [Congregation:
Clapping] Are you hearing what
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him saying today? You got to
make sure you prioritize
conversation and that you don't
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leave anything unsaid. Third
thing is you got to speak one
another's love language.
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[Congregation: Amen] Amen. All
of us have a love language. We
all have a love language. There
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are five of them that Gary
Chapman talks about that there
are words of affirmation, there
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are gifts, there's quality time,
there's physical touch there is
a ti... Everybody has a love
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language. And you know what the
problem with humanity is? Is
that we always like to give love
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the same way we receive it. But
I need you to know that you've
got to identify your partner's
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love language and you've got to
pour into the language they
speak because it doesn't matter
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how hard you try to bless them
according to the way you like to
be loved. Because remember we
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talked about in communication
what doesn't matter is what my
intent is not What wins the day
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is what I actually communicate.
So that if I'm itching on my
shoulder and you scratch me on
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my leg, you don't help me, you
actually offend me. You've got
to scratch where the itch is.
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Are y'all hearing me today?
Listen I know it's late, but
this is where I wanted to get.
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Listen, I'm done, I'm done, I'm
done. I'm done-ish. No, I'm just
kidding. [Congregation:
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Laughing] Now some of you going
to turn me off on this, but in
order for you to have effective
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unity and communication, this is
it. Help me holy spirit. Do you
know what you need to be praying
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for? You need to be praying for
the Holy Ghost. [Congregation:
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Clapping] See Louis, somebody's
listening to say, and they check
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it out. Now listen, say, oh
pastor here, you're always
trying to spiritualise. No, the
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issue is not that I'm
spiritualizing. And the issue is
that you don't have no spiritual
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eyes. [Congregation: Clapping]
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In order to learn how to
communicate effectively, you
ought not just be praying for
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word selection or word choice.
Your greatest prayer ought to be
asking God, give me the power of
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the Holy Ghost. Why are you
saying that Pastor? Do you
realize that at Babel what God
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did was he scattered them by
confounding the language? But do
you realize that the solution
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for Babel was Pentecost? Do you
realize that when the day of
Pentecost had fully come and the
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Holy Spirit fell with cloven and
tongues of fire, what would
happen is that the Holy Ghost
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would become the translator of
foreign languages so that when
Peter stood up and spoke in a
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Hebrew tongue, the Holy Ghost
would catch it in the air
translated so that everybody
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would hear the word in their own
language? In other words, the
Holy Ghost is our Rosetta Stone.
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And what I'm saying to somebody,
if the Holy Ghost could make
strangers understand one
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another, can't the Holy Ghost
make a husband understand his
wife? He can make a wife
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understand their husband, he can
make children understand their
parents. He can make a nephew
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understand the uncle you are
praying for money, you are
praying for things. But do I
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have seven or eight saints that
are saying I want to get rid of
Babylon in my life and the ray I
00:26:22.21\00:26:27.05
get rid of, Babel is praying for
Pentecost? Holy ghosts come down
in my life. Holy ghosts, break
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up the confusion. Holy ghosts,
send out the chaos. Holy ghosts
bring oneness and unity. Holy
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ghosts put us on the same team.
You see, the job of the Spirit
is not just to make you laugh
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and run in church, but it brings
opposite sides and puts them
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together. And do I have somebody
that's going to go home and
rebuild a family altar?
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And before you get the
Christmas, you are not saying,
give me a car, give me more
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stuff. You are saying give me
your spirit! Are y'all hearing
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the word today? Hello, family,
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Speaker/Director of the Breath
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