Sermon #S026 - I'll
Take it From Here - (Part 2)
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Welcome to The Breath of Life
Television Ministries broadcast
with Pastor Debleaire Snell.
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In today's episode, Pastor Snell
will share Part Two of the
dynamic message titled "I'll
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Take It From Here." Now let's go
deeper into the Word of God to
understand his plan for our
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family. Pastor Snell: See? This
is why young people I need you
to get that the call to
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abstinence is not restrictive.
It's protective. [Congregation:
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Clapping] Oh, God. I thought I
would get one witness in the
Church of the Living God that
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the call to abstinence is not
restrictive. It is protective.
In other words, because the act
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itself, hear me, is an act of
covenant. In other words, when
you engage it is more than the
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exchange of body and fluid,
there is a soul interface, there
is a spirit mixing that is going
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to bind you permanently to
someone that might not even be
there next week. Are you all
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hearing what I'm saying? And
see, what the devil's going to
try to convince you is that now
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it's just physical, it don't
mean nothing but how many of us
know that our spiritual
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and our physical are so
interwoven that the two cannot
be compartmentalized?
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Amen]
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The two operate with such
oneness that when my soul is
hurting guess what? My body
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starts crying. That when my soul
is stressed, guess what? My
blood pressure goes up, my
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breathing becomes irregular, my
heartbeat goes up. Why? Because
whatever touches my soul is
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going to touch my body and
whatever touches my body is
going to also touch my soul so
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you can't touch one without the
other. [Congregation: Cheering]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Are you all hearing what I'm
saying? And see, I need you to
get that. That's why in 1
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Corinthians 6. Have you ever
noticed that Paul says that
"Every other sin is the sin
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outside of the body, but
fornication is a sin against
your own body." In other words,
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when you lie and you steal, you
hurt somebody else, but when you
fornicate the word says "You
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bring pain and destruction to
yourself." [Congregation: Amen]
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And that's why there is
no such thing as safe sex.
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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That only applies if you think
the greatest consequence is an
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STD or pregnancy. But do you
realize that there is an
emotional brokenness that
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happens when you bond yourself
in a permanent way to somebody
that's not going to be there
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next week? See the danger? The
reason the church can't stop
preaching this, is because if we
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do, we start endorsing
our brokenness. [Congregation:
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Clapping] And see the problem
with the behavior is that your
spirit or your body is making a
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covenant that your spirit cannot
handle. [Congregation: Clapping]
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That's why I can't be done
casually. You got to be in
covenant. Somebody say in
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covenant.
[Congregation: In covenant]
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You got to be in a relationship.
It's for married folk. Are you
all hearing the word today,
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friends? [Congregation: Amen]
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As I remember my very last month
or two at Andrews, I had some
previous roommates that I was
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living with but then Neil, about
two months before graduation. I
exchanged roommates and I had
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two roommates that moved in and
so because I had been in the
apartment the longest, the phone
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bill was in my name. Do you all
remember back in the day when
long-distance was an additional
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charge? [Congregation: Amen]
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Come on, you all remember? Okay,
Amen. And it's crazy because I
lived only in the house for a
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month or two together. So what I
don't require is I don't require
them to put their name on the
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bill. I allowed them to have
service with the phone, without
being in the contract. Do you
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all hear me? And so all of us
calling our mamas and daddies,
all of us calling our
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girlfriends from out of town,
all of us calling our friends
from back in the day. But guess
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what? When that last month's
bill is due and everybody's
moving out of the house, guess
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what? Everybody wants to walk
away, why? Because there was
only one name on the contract.
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And see? The problem is, I
allowed them to get service
without signing their names on
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the dotted line. And what I'm
saying to somebody today, don't
let them get service.
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Cheering]
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If there is no contract, no
covenant, don't let them walk
away without being committed.
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[Congregation: Cheering]
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The old folks would say "Why
buy the cow?" Yall mighty quiet
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Cheering]
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The third thing this teaches,
friends of mine, and what the
adults to hear me on this?
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Is that sometimes your freedom
comes at the expense of the
children's bondage.
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[Congregation: amen]
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See? Things have reached a
tipping point between Hagar and
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Sarai. See, once Isaac is born,
I need you to get to by the time
Isaac is weaned and a festival
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is thrown, this literally pushes
your boy Ishmael into a place of
trauma so much so that he
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and his mother begin to mock
Sarai and Isaac essentially
exposing the truth that as the
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oldest one, I am the heir to the
birthright and understand your
girl Sarai ain't having this no
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more, she's making it clear to
Hagar that you ain't got to go
home. But you going to have to
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get on up out of here. And it's
crazy because she steps to
Abraham with no negotiation in
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her voice. She's making it
clear. It's going to be her or
it's going to be me.
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And the thing I need somebody to
get is that Abraham is at a
point where he can't manage
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this. He can't appease it. He
cannot hold it together.
Understand your boy Abraham is a
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hundred-some years old. He is
too old to be dealing with baby
mama drama. All your boy Abraham
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wants is some peace and this
thing is not about a lack of
love for his son, Ishmael.
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Abraham's got to do what he's
got to do to maintain some peace
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in his house. In other words,
the rejection of Ishmael is not
about the child. It's about the
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immaturity of the
adults. [Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Cheering]
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And let me just say to some of
the Ishmaels in the room that
did not have Mom or Dad around.
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If they walked out who please
hear me? I need you to know.
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It's not on you.
[Congregation: Amen]
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See? There are some Ishmaels
that have been carrying this
unnecessary baggage and weight.
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Because what the voice of
abandonment says it says,
"You're not good enough."
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It says, "If you had only
behaved. " It says that "You're
the reason and the problem."
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It says that "If you had acted
better, somehow things would
have worked out a little bit
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differently." But my prayer
is to set some Ishmael's free.
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Don't blame yourself if Mom or
Dad did not stick around, don't
blame yourself because you had
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to be raised in foster care.
Don't blame yourself if Mom and
Dad could not stay married. In
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fact, sometimes God, in wisdom
had to push one or two parents
outside of the door, because
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they were not worthy to be
stewards of your gifts, and your
talents, and your potential. And
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even though they had to leave, I
need you to know we serve a God
that says, I'll take it from
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here. [Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Amen]
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See? There are no
illegitimate kids.
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There are just illegitimate
parents that are not worthy to
oversee what has been gifted to
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them. [Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Amen]
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Can you all imagine, friends of
mine? Just stay with me. How
traumatic your boy Ishmael's
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life must have been? You see
every time a family functions
outside of God's design, it
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brings harm to the children. He
adores his father. He literally
hangs on every word that his
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father speaks. When he looks in
his father's face, he gets a
glimpse of what he shall one day
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look like and what he shall one
day become. His sense of
identity, his sense of self
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hinges on his father's approval.
But I need you to get friends of
mine, how traumatic it is for
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Ishmael to see his daddy showing
preference to another woman
outside of his mother. Do you
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realize how hard it is for
Ishmael to have to go and visit
his daddy with his new family?
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It's traumatic when his brother
is born and it should be a
matter of family celebration,
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but the birth of the new child
literally makes his life
completely irrelevant at this
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time. And see friends, I need
you to embrace the trauma of
this moment. As man, God has
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given this very harsh word to
Abraham. He says "Listen,
Abraham, this is not going to
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work, you going to have to send
the bondwoman away." Can you
feel what it must be like to be
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Ishmael when he sees Abraham and
his mother having that
conversation? When he sees his
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dad put a water bottle and a
loaf of bread in his hand and he
pushes them on the outskirts of
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the camp? And I can imagine your
boy Ishmael as he's looking over
his shoulder thinking that
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somehow it's a joke. He's
looking over his shoulder
assuming that at some point,
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Daddy's going to change his
mind. He's looking over his
shoulder assuming that somehow
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it's going to get better. Can
you imagine what Ishmael is like
as he lays in the desert? When
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all the bread is gone and all
the water is gone and he is
lying there on the precipice of
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death. He holds out hope that
any moment, Dad is going to show
up. Any moment, Dad is going to
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come to the rescue. Any moment,
Dad is going to come and see
about me. But eventually, that
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disappointment creates a rage
and that rage that even starts
out hunting him. It eventually
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impanels him and it ultimately
defines who he will become.
Notice what God said about
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Ishmael. The Bible literally
says, God said to his mama, he
says "He's going to be a wild
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man. He's going to be against
every man. Hence every man is
going to be against him. And I
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need you to know that God is not
articulating his plan. He has
prophesied what the results will
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be of Abraham and Sarah's
treachery. He's saying he's
going to struggle with
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self-esteem. He's going to
struggle with his emotions. He's
going to struggle with his
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feelings. He's going to struggle
communicating. He's going to be
volatile. He's going to have
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outbursts, it's going to look
bad. But even though it looks
crazy, I want you to know Hagar,
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I'm not going to leave you by
yourself. I'm going to take it
from here." And see friends. I
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need us to get that
fatherlessness or parental
abandonment on either side comes
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with certain fruit. See, one of
those fruit is anger. Somebody
say anger. [Congregation: Anger]
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See, the problem is we think
that just because a child is not
loud or boisterous that they are
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not anger. How many of us know
the anger can be silent? And the
anger can lie right dormant
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under the surface of a child.
And guess what? It matures along
with their puberty. So that as
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they get facial hair, and as
they develop curves and as they
develop muscles, guess what? The
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anger matures simultaneously and
it's crazy when they begin to
have outbursts as adults. We
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think something has all of a
sudden changed. No, something
did not just shift that simply
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which has been under the surface
has finally broke free. One of
the things that happens when
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there's abandonment is boys and
girls who have abandonment, they
struggle with broken
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relationships. There's a sense
of abandonment. that brings you
to extremes. There are some,
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because they've been hurt and
disappointed by abandonment.
They'll put up such walls that
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they won't allow anybody to get
close with them. And they will
struggle with intimacy, or they
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will struggle with all human
interaction. But there's another
extreme to abandonment. Because
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when you've been abandoned,
you'll have one so bad just to
have somebody in your life that
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you will hold on even to those
that don't treat you well.
[Congregation: Amen] So they are
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cheating on you and yet you will
stay. They talk down to you and
you'll still stay. They even
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knock you upside your head and
yet you'll stay. Why? Because
you're just so desperate to have
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somebody that you will put up
with anything. Can I say
fathers, that's why we got to
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stay present. Our daughters need
to not have to deal with that.
Are you all hearing what I'm
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saying today? [Congregation:
Amen] [Congregation: Clapping]
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I want to be there for my
daughter so that anybody that's
a suitor down the line knows
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that they got big shoes
to fill. [Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Can I get a witness? I need that
to be a standard that she's
looking at and I want you to be
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clear. I want her to be a nice
person. I want her to be a kind
person. I want her to embrace
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all people, but when it comes
down to dating, I want her to be
just a little bit uppity.
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[Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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I want her to be hard to
impress. Do I have a witness?
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I don't want her to be some
easily impressed chicken head
that gets excited because
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somebody took her to Taco Bell.
Are you all hearing what I'm
saying? There is a standard
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that's been set by her daddy and
her granddaddy where you got to
step with something in order to
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get something. Are you all
hearing what I'm saying? In
other words, she had not to be
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impressed cause you got a job.
You are supposed to have a job.
You shouldn't be impressed cause
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they got a degree. They are
supposed to have that. You
shouldn't be impressed because
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they took you out to dinner.
Your Daddy had been doing that
your whole life. Are you all
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hearing what I'm
saying? [Congregation: Clapping]
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See, the problem is because
Daddy's ain't there, they are
treating basics like bonuses.
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Stop treating them seat on the
floor like the ceiling. But is
there any ladies that has
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realize that you are a virtuous
woman? That your value is high
above rubies? That you ain't
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cheap? That you are fearfully
and wonderfully made? You are a
child of the king? You are God's
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workmanship.
[Congregation: Clapping]
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Are you all
hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Don't be afraid to play hard to
get. Don't answer the phone,
every time. Where yall at?.
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Every now and then, brothers
like a chase. We want something
you have to work for
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because if he ain't got to work
to get you, he ain't going to
work to keep you. Am I preaching
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anybody today?
[Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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If you got to ask him for the
first date and the second date,
and the third date,
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and you got to pick him up and
you got to pay. Come on. There
are to come on now. Listen,
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I'm married and my wife still
make me pay when we go out.
Listen, it's crazy.
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Hey Malcolm, the server will
come out and put the little bill
right in the middle of the
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table. And I'm looking to see if
she's gonna get it. She, looking
like, "You asked me out." I'm
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like, "Baby, it's coming from
the same account." Are you all
hearing what I'm saying?
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But make him work. Are
you all hearing the word?
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[Congregation: Amen]
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When there is abandonment, there
is a struggle with emotional
development and identity.
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You see some of the things that
we struggle with is their
inability to handle things like
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rejection. Because a daddy is
supposed to be there to help a
boy the first time a girl says,
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"I don't like you." Mom and dad
is supposed to be there, to
teach him how to handle
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bullying. Mom and dad are
supposed to be there to teach
them what happens when you fail,
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when you don't make the team,
when you don't get the grade and
things don't play out the way
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that you should. Do you realize
the basic things of life our
kids are having to figure out
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through trial and error? And you
realize friends that God has set
this thing up where kid is
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supposed to be covered by Mom
and Dad. Two parents on both
sides. Are you all hearing what
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I'm saying, church? See, that's
why we cannot, help me say it
right, let certain things become
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too commonplace. We've got to
maintain a standard. If nowhere
else in the house of God. Why?
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Am I telling the truth?
Parenting is a job for two
people. [Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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It's crazy at times where I'll
see a young lady with two or
three or four kids.
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It's great to have to catch
myself cuz sometimes in my
spirit, I just be shaking my
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head. And I'm not shaking my
head out of judgment because of
what has happened to her having
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to babysit some of the issues.
It's because I know how hard
parenting is. And I grieve that
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she's gonna have to do that much
by herself. Listen, I got a wife
and my parents live around the
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corner. This joint is a job for
a whole village. Are you all
hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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So let us stop judging the
single mom or the dad. And let's
put our hands on the plow and be
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an aid. Let's be an asset. Let's
be an encourager. Don't spend no
time asking why she got all them
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kids. She got them now that
ain't no time to be asking that
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question. Be a mentor,
be a shadow, be a covering.
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[Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Are you all
hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Amen]
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It's a job for two people. Why?
Because you realize that male
and female, the Bible says
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"Create the image of
God." [Congregation: Amen]
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It's a job for two people. Why
do you keep saying that, Pastor?
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Because you realize that it is
in the union that a child gets
completely covered.
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[Congregation: Amen]
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Because even in relationships
you realize opposites attract.
So from one parent,
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they're going to learn how to
work hard. From the other
parent, they are going to learn
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how to relax. From one parent,
they can learn how to take
everything serious. From the
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other parent, they are going to
learn how to not take life so
seriously. Do you realize in a
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marriage one parent is going to
be the law? The other parent is
going to be grace and together
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the image of God is completed
in the life. [Congregation:
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Clapping] And see this is how
God set this thing up. So that
individually, my last name is
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Snell, my wife's maiden name is
Norman. So that when we got
married, I bought some Snell
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crazy. [Congregation: amen]
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She bought just a little bit,
just a little bit. Just a little
bit, Amen. Maybe just a little
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bit of Norman crazy. But do you
realize how God set it up that
through my exposure to her,
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guess what? Some of that Snell
crazy gets diluted. And through
her exposure to me, some of the
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Norman stuff gets diluted. So
that through exposure to one
another, they get our stress.
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But guess what? The crazy is
supposed to be filtered out
because it is filtered through
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the relationship between Mom and
Dad. But guess what? When there
is only one in the place, guess
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what? You get some of my stress.
But to get all my crazy
[Congregation: Clapping]
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Are you all
hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Amen]
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What I'm saying to somebody
today is that before you walk
out that door, think about what
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your freedom is going to cost
them. Before you leave your
post, think about brother, the
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cost that they will have to pay.
Before you sign the divorce
papers, before you go and see
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the judge, before you decide to
move to another city, because
the commute is going to pay a
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little bit better. Before you
decide to hurry up and remarry.
You need to give some
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consideration about what is
going to happen to the offspring
that are left behind. And my
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conviction is this, is that
children are not supposed to
suffer for the wellness of the
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parents, but parents are
supposed to to suffer for the
wholeness of the kids.
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Amen]
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Yes. It's going
to be quiet in here .
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Do you realize what it does to a
girl when she has to see you
showing affection to somebody
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besides her mom? Do you realize
that boys are not supposed to
see their mother's date?
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[Congregation: Amen]
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Do you realize what it does to
them? To see you with your new
family? See? The problem is we
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just want them to adjust. We
want them to get over it. Oh,
they're just kids gonna be kids
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and we don't even realize what
we are setting in motion.
[Congregation: Amen]
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That's why God shows up in the
middle of a desert, right when
Ishmael is about to take his
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last breath and God steps into
that space. And he says to that
Ishmael the same thing that he
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says to the Ishmael's in our
time. He wants you to be clear
that even if they did not want
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you, he says, "I still want
you." Even if they didn't see
your value, he wants you to
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know. "I see your value." You
may not have had the best
upbringing. You might not have
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had the most righteous start but
I need you to know that we serve
the God that says "All things
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work together." Sew good to them
who love the Lord and are called
according to his purpose. And
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God says, "I'll take it
from here." [Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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Can I say to the single moms
quickly? I need you to know
Hagar, that God sees you.
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He hears your prayers, he
sees your tears, he sees your
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lamentations, and notice what
happened in the story that when
she thought the child was about
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to die, she stood far enough
away because she can't handle
him seeing breathing his last
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breath. Notice that He
says "Hagar, what ails you,
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I've already made you a promise
15 years ago that I'm going to
make of him a great nation."
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And even though she didn't think
that there was water already
there, He just said, "Open up
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your eyes again." And when she
opened up her eyes she didn't
realize that a well was right
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there waiting to supply all of
her needs. What I'm saying to
the single mom is when they
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don't pay child support, when
they don't send the alimony.
When they don't do their part,
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God has already parked you next
to a well so that you and your
family will lack no good thing,
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my God shall supply all your
needs according to his riches
and glory. [Congregation: Amen]
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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And see, that's some of you all
will step into my office and
say, "Well, Pastor, I just
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decided I didn't want to draw my
anger. I'll make him pay child
support. The Devil is a liar.
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That's the least he can
do. [Congregation: Clapping]
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And some of you all
brothers you all be tripping.
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"Well, that's how I take care of
my responsibilities. I pay child
support." You know what?
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I'd be saying that stuff as if
I'm about to give them props for
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it. If all you do is write that
$700 check, you got off easy.
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When the real dads, they have to
get up early to have to stay up
late to have to help with
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homework. They have to pay
tuition and you have to make the
financial investment. You ain't
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getting no grace over
here. [Congregation: Clapping]
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Well, you should be using money
and get your hair done and
pedicure. Well, that's the least
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you can do. She had to get a
massage and a new car. Are you
all hearing what I'm saying?
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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[Congregation: Amen]
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I'm calling the men to recognize
your basic and that ain't no
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bonus. But I love the promise he
gives. He says, "I'm going to
make of Ishmael a great nation."
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See? Sometimes we are so busy
living with anger because they
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left. Stay with me, kids. Do you
realize God says, "Because of
what I want to do in Ishmael,
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I've got to get him out
of Abraham's house." Oh, God.
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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In other words, Abraham and
Sarah are not worthy to oversee
what I'm putting inside of you.
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Oh, God, are you all hearing the
word today? In other words, in
Abraham's house, you'll always
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be second best. You will always
be the other child. In that
house, you'll never be able to
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become the great nation. So what
I've got to do is I've got to
remove you from a situation
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that's going to smother your
potential and somebody's always
asking why didn't they stay.
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But maybe what you should be
asking of what would have
happened if they had just
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remained. But sometimes God is
so awesome that he literally
removes you from situations that
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were being so toxic that if Mama
had stayed, if Daddy had stayed,
you would have seen it on
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first-hand witness of abuse and
pathology, and sickness, and
cycles that would make you worse
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than what you are right now. But
the reason you've made it as far
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as you've made it, is because
God saved you and removed from
you that which what damage you.
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[Congregation: Clapping]
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(Breath of Life Theme Music)
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[END]
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