Participants: Pr. Walter Pearson
Series Code: BOL
Program Code: BOL000407
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00:02 Announcer: BREATH OF LIFE PRESENTS EXPERIENCE THE POWER
00:08 WITH WALTER L. PEARSON, JR. 00:11 (music) TODAY, PASTOR PEARSON'S 00:18 MESSAGE IS ENTITLED "WATER FROM YOUR OWN WELL." 00:24 WP: HERE IT IS. 00:25 PROVERBS, CHAPTER 5, VERSE 15 SAYS, DRINK WATERS OUT OF 00:28 THINE OWN CISTERN AND RUNNING WATERS OF THINE OWN WELL. 00:35 THERE IT IS. 00:36 TONIGHT WE'RE SPEAKING ON THE TOPIC, DRINKING 00:38 FROM YOUR OWN WELL. 00:41 WOULD YOU PRAY WITH ME BEFORE WE BEGIN ? 00:43 FATHER IN HEAVEN, WE ARE SO GRATEFUL TONIGHT FOR ANOTHER 00:46 OPPORTUNITY TO ENJOY THE WORD OF GOD, TO EXPERIENCE THE POWER 00:51 OF JESUS IN THE WORD OF GOD. 00:54 SOME PEOPLE SEEM TO THINK THAT IT'S DRUDGERY TO 00:57 BE IN THE BIBLE. 00:58 THEY SEEM TO WANT TO MAKE IT DRUDGERY. 01:01 BUT WHEN WE OPEN THE WORD, THERE IS POWER, THERE IS 01:05 JOY, THERE IS SALVATION. 01:08 AND SO TONIGHT WE PRAY, FATHER, THAT THE HOLY SPIRIT 01:11 WILL HOVER OVER US AND MOVE AMONG US SO THAT WE MIGHT 01:14 FEEL THE POWER AND SENSE IT IN OUR MINDS AND HEARTS. 01:18 IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AMEN. 01:21 LET ME DO SOMETHING TONIGHT THAT I'VE DONE AT LEAST ONCE BEFORE. 01:26 I HAVE INVERTED MY SERMON. 01:30 I SOMETIMES WANT TO PUT THE BEST FOR LAST. 01:35 IN THE BIBLE, YOU REMEMBER ABOUT THE WATER THAT JESUS CHANGED. 01:39 AND WHEN HE HAD FINISHED, THEY SAID, WHERE DID THIS COME FROM. 01:43 AND SOMEBODY REMARKED, YOU SAVED THE BEST FOR LAST. 01:46 WELL, IF JESUS COMES IN THE HOUSE, IT'S GOOD AT 01:49 THE BEGINNING, AND IT GETS BETTER AND BETTER. 01:51 WHAT DO YOU SAY ? 01:53 INCIDENTALLY, A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE OUGHT TO BE THAT WAY. 01:56 IT OUGHT TO BE JUST LIKE THAT. 01:58 JESUS PERFORMED THAT MIRACLE AT A WEDDING. 02:01 IT'S A GOOD SYMBOL. 02:02 IF YOU ARE CONNECTED IN CHRIST, IT OUGHT TO START 02:05 GOOD AND GET BETTER. 02:08 SO, LET'S BEGIN WITH A FEW GENERAL ADMONITIONS. 02:13 MOST OF THE FOLK IN HERE WHO ARE MARRIED ALREADY 02:16 KNOW THESE THINGS, BUT LET'S JUST REMIND YOU. 02:19 FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO 02:22 MAINTAIN FAMILY WORSHIP. 02:26 NOW, IN THESE DAYS, IT'S NOT EASY, BECAUSE EVERYBODY'S 02:28 ON A DIFFERENT SCHEDULE. 02:30 BUT IF YOU TAKE THE TIME, IF YOU MAKE THE TIME TO PULL THE FAMILY 02:35 TOGETHER AND TO WORSHIP THE GOD OF HEAVEN, TO LET JESUS HAVE A 02:40 PLACE IN YOUR LIFE, I GUARANTEE IT WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE. 02:44 YOU OUGHT TO PLAN WEEKLY FAMILY DAYS. 02:47 FAMILY DAYS. 02:49 NOT EASY TO MAINTAIN, BUT YOU OUGHT TO SIT DOWN AND LOOK 02:52 AT EACH OTHER AT LEAST ONCE. 02:54 A LONG TIME AGO, LET ME TELL ALL OF YOU YOUNG PEOPLE, AGES AGO 02:56 PEOPLE USED TO EAT TOGETHER. 03:01 I KNOW IT'S HARD TO BELIEVE. 03:03 BUT THEY ACTUALLY SAT DOWN AT A TABLE, ALL AT ONE TIME, AND AT 03:08 THAT MOMENT THEY WOULD SAY GRACE OVER THE FOOD AND THEN SOMETIMES 03:13 THEY'D REPEAT TEXT, SOMETIMES THEY'D SHARE SOMETHING. 03:16 BUT IT GAVE THEM A MOMENT TO COME TOGETHER. 03:18 YOU OUGHT TO PLAN NOT ONLY WORSHIP BUT DAYS WHEN THE 03:21 FAMILY COMES TOGETHER. 03:22 YOU OUGHT TO MAKE FAMILY ACTIVITIES JOYOUS. 03:25 SOME HOUSES RESEMBLE MAUSOLEUMS. 03:34 AND IF YOU THINK THAT'S GOING TO MAKE YOU GROW AND BE HAPPY, 03:37 IN FACT, SOMETIMES IT WORRIES ME THAT PEOPLE BELVE THAT 03:40 IN ORDER TO BE HOLY YOU SHOULD BE SAD. 03:46 OH, COME ON. 03:47 DON'T LIKE YOU HAVEN'T SEEN ANY OF THEM. 03:51 I'VE MET PEOPLE WHO LOOKED LIKE THEY WERE, WHO ACTED LIKE THEY 03:53 WERE BAPTIZED IN LEMON JUICE. 03:56 THEY WANTED TO BE HOLY, BUT THEY PRETENDED THAT BEING 04:00 SAD MAKES YOU HOLY. 04:02 IF YOU EVER READ IN GALATIANS CHAPTER 5, WHERE IT TALKS 04:06 ABOUT THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT, OF COURSE LOVE IS 04:10 THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT. 04:11 BUT THE FIRST MANIFESTATION AFTER THAT IS JOY. 04:15 SO IF THE HOLY SPIRIT DWELLS IN YOU, THERE OUGHT TO BE JOY. 04:18 YOU OUGHT TO DEMONSTRATE LOVE CONSTANTLY. 04:21 NOW, GENTLEMEN, THIS IS A TIME WHEN MAYBE WE NEED TO TALK. 04:26 BECAUSE I KNOW SOME OF US THINK THAT IF YOU BRING HOME MONEY AND 04:32 IF YOU BRING FOOD AND IF YOU SUPPLY THINGS, THAT YOUR WIFE 04:38 OUGHT TO KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HER. 04:42 WELL, THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT THE WAY WOMEN ARE WIRED. . . 04:46 THEY LIKE TO KIND OF HEAR IT, EVEN THOUGH IT MAY 04:49 SEEM OBVIOUS TO YOU. 04:51 SO LOOK, IT REALLY WON'T, IT WON'T CRACK YOUR JAW, IT WON'T 04:55 HURT YOUR THROAT, IT WILL NOT MAKE YOUR TEETH LOOK WORSE. 04:59 YOU CAN ACTUALLY SQUEEZE IT OUT. 05:01 REMEMBER BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED ALL THAT STUFF YOU USED TO TALK? 05:08 YOU HAD SONGS THAT EVERYBODY KNEW, BUT YOU PUT A LITTLE 05:11 TWIST ON THEM. 05:13 YOU HAD POEMS THAT YOU THOUGHT SHE HAD NEVER HEARD 05:15 BEFORE AND YOU PRETENDED THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE BEEN YOURS. 05:18 BUT YOU ALWAYS HAD SOME LITTLE SWEET SOMETHING TO SAY. 05:21 NOW WHEN YOU GET MARRIED, ALL YOU GO TO DO (MAKES NOISE). 05:26 YOU'VE GOT TO DO BETTER THAN THAT. 05:28 THE FACT IS THAT MARRIAGE DOES NOT CONSIST OF TEMPORAL THINGS. 05:36 THAT'S A $5 WORD THAT MEANS IT DOESN'T MATTER 05:40 HOW MUCH YOU HAVE. 05:42 I WANT TO READ A TEXT ABOUT THAT ONE BECAUSE THERE 05:44 ARE SOME PEOPLE, IN FACT, I KNOW LADIES WHO ARE LOOKING 05:47 FOR A MAN WITH MONEY. 05:52 AND YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE. 05:57 LUKE, CHAPTER 12. 05:58 THIS IS IN THE BIBLE. 06:00 AND WHILE I'M ON IT, I MIGHT AS WELL SAY THAT THERE 06:02 ARE SOME MEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR WOMEN WITH MONEY. 06:08 IF MY GRAND-DADDY COULD HAVE GOTTEN A HOLD OF YOU. 06:13 GRAND-DADDY HAD SOME STUFF TO SAY ABOUT A MAN WHO WOULDN'T 06:15 TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSE. 06:17 BUT I GOT THAT COMING. 06:20 THIS IS LUKE, CHAPTER 12, AND VERSE 15 SAYS THIS. 06:22 AND HE SAID UNTO THEM, TAKE HEED AND BEWARE OF COVETOUSNESS, 06:27 FOR A MAN'S LIFE CONSISTETH NOT IN THE ABUNDANCE OF 06:32 THINGS WHICH HE POSSESSETH. 06:35 LIFE IS NOT MADE UP OF MONEY. 06:38 I USED TO READ ALL THE TIME ABOUT HOWARD HUGHES. 06:41 A WEALTHY MAN WHO DIED IN A STRANGE SITUATION 06:45 AND PROVED BY HIS LIFE THAT MONEY CAN'T BUY HAPPINESS. 06:52 MONEY IS OKAY. 06:53 I'M NOT MAD AT MONEY, BUT MONEY OUGHT NOT BE THE ONLY 06:58 CRITERIA YOU USE TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK. 07:02 THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE LOTS OF MONEY. 07:04 WHEN I STARTED IN THE MINISTRY, I WENT TO A CHURCH JUST FOR A 07:08 WHILE, AND THEY ASSIGNED ME A COUPLE THAT NEEDED COUNSEL. 07:14 I FELT VERY OUT OF PLACE. 07:16 I HADN'T BEEN MARRIED THAT LONG MYSELF. 07:18 AND WHEN THESE PEOPLE CAME IN, I DISCOVERED THAT 07:20 THEY WERE VERY WEALTHY. 07:24 IN FACT, WHEN I ASKED THE LADY WHAT WAS THE PROBLEM, 07:27 SHE SAID, I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH. 07:30 HE WON'T SHARE ENOUGH. 07:33 AND HE OUTLINED WHAT HE GAVE HER, HE SAID, WELL, I GAVE HER 07:38 JAGUAR AND SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT. 07:39 I BOUGHT HER A SEVILLE AND SHE DIDN'T LIKE THAT. 07:42 I BOUGHT HER A MERCEDES AND SHE DIDN'T LIKE THAT. 07:44 I GIVE HER AN ALLOWANCE. 07:45 I THINK WAY BACK THEN IT WAS SOMETHING LIKE $2,000 A WEEK. 07:51 AND YOU KNOW WHAT MY BRAIN WAS SAYING, HE DIDN'T GIVE 07:53 YOU ENOUGH MONEY ? 07:56 IF HE GAVE IT TO ME, I COULD BE HAPPY AND MY 07:58 WIFE COULD BE HAPPY. 07:59 WE COULD BOTH BE HAPPY. 08:03 WHAT I DISCOVERED WAS THAT IT'S NOT MONEY THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. 08:06 IT'S WAY MORE THAN THAT. 08:07 WHAT DO YOU SAY ? 08:09 FIRST TIMOTHY, CHAPTER 5, AND VERSE 8. 08:12 LADIES, YOU OUGHT TO TURN OVER HERE BECAUSE THIS IS 08:14 GOING TO TALK ABOUT WHAT A MAN OUGHT TO DO. 08:17 AND I KNOW YOU WANT TO TAKE THIS SOMEWHERE AND HANG 08:19 IT ON THE WALL, BUT YOU'D BETTER BE CAREFUL, BECAUSE 08:22 I'VE GOT ONE FOR YOU. 08:24 FIRST TIMOTHY, CHAPTER 5, AND VERSE 8. 08:28 SHORT LITTLE TEXT. 08:29 IT'S AMAZING. 08:31 I DON'T KNOW HOW IT CAME TO BE THAT WAY, BUT THE THINGS 08:34 THAT SAY WHAT MEN OUGHT TO DO TEND TO BE KIND OF NARROW. 08:37 AND THE ONES THAT SAY WHAT WOMEN OUGHT TO DO, KIND OF GET BROAD. 08:40 SOME PEOPLE SAY IT'S BECAUSE OF THE TIME WHEN 08:43 THE BIBLE WAS WRITTEN. 08:45 I DON'T KNOW. 08:45 LET'S JUST SEE WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS. 08:49 THIS IS FIRST TIMOTHY, CHAPTER 5, AND VERSE 8. 08:51 BUT IF ANY PROVIDE NOT FOR HIS OWN, AND ESPECIALLY FOR 08:55 THOSE OF HIS OWN HOUSE, HE HATH DENIED THE FAITH AND 09:01 IS WORSE THAN AN INFIDEL. 09:05 IF THAT STRONG ENOUGH ? 09:07 SO I GUESS WHAT I WANT TO SAY TO A BRETHREN IS, BEFORE YOU SAY, 09:10 I DO, MAKE SURE YOU CAN. 09:21 I AM STILL SHOCKED AT THE PEOPLE WHO GET READY TO GET 09:25 MARRIED AND IF THEY COME TO ME FOR COUNSEL, ONE OF THE 09:28 SECTIONS OF MY COUNSEL IS, LET'S TALK ABOUT YOUR BUDGET. 09:32 AND THEY SAY, BUDGET ? 09:36 YEAH, BUDGET. 09:38 WHERE'S YOUR INCOME GOING TO COME FROM ? 09:40 AND I AM SHOCKED SOMETIMES TO DISCOVER THAT MAYBE 09:43 NOBODY WORKS. 09:47 WELL, I'VE GOT TO LEAVE THAT ALONE BECAUSE I'LL SPEND 09:49 TOO MUCH TIME ON IT. 09:50 WHAT DO THEY THINK IS GOING TO HAPPEN ? 09:53 YOU KNOW, BEING ALONE WITH NO INCOME IS BAD ENOUGH. 09:57 YOU'RE GOING TO JOIN WITH SOMEBODY ELSE IN THIS SITUATION? 10:01 SO WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ? 10:03 I KNOW WHAT THEY BELIEVE. 10:05 THEY BELIEVE THAT LOVE CONQUERS ALL. 10:09 AND THAT MAY BE TRUE, BUT IT WILL HAVE A STRUGGLE 10:11 WITH HUNGER PAINS. 10:15 LOOK AT PROVERBS, LADIES, BEFORE YOU GET TOO EXCITED. 10:20 PROVERBS. 10:21 ACTUALLY THERE'S A WHOLE CHAPTER IN PROVERBS THAT YOU OUGHT TO 10:23 READ, BUT I WON'T GO THROUGH IT BECAUSE IT WOULD SEEM UNEVEN. 10:27 SO, I'M ONLY GOING TO READ ONE VERSE FROM PROVERBS, CHAPTER 31. 10:31 PROVERBS, CHAPTER 31 AND VERSE 30. 10:37 HERE IS THE CONCLUSION. 10:39 LADIES, IF YOU REALLY WANT TO CHECK, BECAUSE THE REASON 10:41 WHY YOU OUGHT TO CHECK IS BECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND IS 10:43 GOING TO GO READ THIS. 10:46 SO YOU MAYBE WANT TO KNOW WHAT HE READ. 10:49 HE WILL READ PROVERBS, CHAPTER 31. 10:52 YOU MIGHT WANT TO READ IT. 10:53 I'M ONLY GOING TO GIVE YOU THE CONCLUSIVE END, AND HERE'S 10:56 WHAT IT SAYS IN VERSE 30. 10:57 WELL, LET ME READ VERSE 30 AND 31. 11:00 FAVOR IS DECEITFUL AND BEAUTY IS VAIN. 11:03 BUT A WOMAN WHO FEARETH THE LORD, SHE SHALL BE PRAISED. 11:07 GIVE HER THE FRUIT OF HER HANDS AND LET HER OWN WORK 11:10 PRAISE HER IN THE GATES. 11:13 IF YOU GO BACK THROUGH THIS CHAPTER, YOU WILL DISCOVER THE 11:17 TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE DESCRIBED. 11:20 TODAY WE KNOW THAT THERE ARE MARRIAGES THAT ARE 11:23 NONTRADITIONAL OR CONTEMPORARY. 11:25 THERE ARE MARRIAGES WHERE THE MAN IS NOT THE ONLY 11:29 BREAD WINNER. 11:31 IN FACT, SOME WOULD SAY THAT YOU CAN'T MAKE IT WITHOUT 11:35 HAVING BOTH OF THE SPOUSES BEING BREAD WINNERS. 11:40 WHEN THE WIFE GOES TO WORK, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN A 11:46 TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE. 11:48 NOW, THERE ARE MEN WHO BELIEVE THAT EVEN AFTER SHE GOES TO 11:52 WORK, THE RULES STILL APPLY. 11:56 I WISH YOU'D GO IN THERE AND COOK SOMETHING. 12:09 SOMEBODY NEEDS TO VACUUM. 12:13 SOMEBODY OUGHT TO DO THE LAUNDRY. 12:16 WELL, IF YOU'RE WORKING AND SHE'S WORKING, THE 12:19 SOMEBODY MAY BE YOU. 12:27 I'LL BE HONEST WITH YOU. 12:28 MY WIFE HAD A JOB, WELL, SHE'S HAD A FEW JOBS WHERE SHE MADE 12:30 WAY MORE MONEY THAN I DID. 12:33 YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN ME. 12:39 WHEN SHE BROUGHT THE BIG OL' CHECK HOME, I PUT A 12:41 SMILE ON HER FACE. 12:44 (MAKES NOISE). 12:50 EVERY NOW AND THEN I'D EVEN GO IN THE KITCHEN AND 12:51 GET ME A BUNCH OF TIMERS AND A BUNCH OF RECIPES AND 12:54 AT LEAST LET HER KNOW I WAS TRYING TO COOK SOMETHING. 12:56 COME ON IN, GIRL. 12:59 SHE MAY HAVE HAD TO PUT SOMETHING IN IT TO MAKE IT 13:01 RIGHT, BUT WHAT I WANTED TO LET HER KNOW IS HONEY, WHEN 13:04 YOU PLUNK THAT BIG CHECK DOWN AND IT GOES BONG--I'M A MAN 13:10 WORKING TO MAKE IT GOOD FOR YOU. 13:12 (LAUGHTER AND APPLAUSE) SO, HERE'S WHAT 13:17 YOU'VE GOT TO DO. 13:18 YOU'VE GOT TO DECIDE DO YOU HAVE A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE OR 13:20 A NONTRADITIONAL MARRIAGE. 13:21 IF IT'S TRADITIONAL, AND SHE STAYS HOME, THEN YOU GOT A 13:23 RIGHT TO GO ON IN THERE AND, YOU KNOW, UH, UH, YOU KNOW. 13:32 IF YOU'RE PAYING THE BILLS, IF YOU ARE THE ONLY BREAD WINNER, 13:38 THEN YOU WILL FIND IN THIS CHAPTER WHERE IT SAYS, SISTER, 13:41 DON'T BE HOME, YOU KNOW, DIALING UP THOSE SHOWS. 13:48 MAN LEAVES HOME, YOU'VE GOT ROLLERS--DO THEY 13:50 STILL WEAR ROLLERS ? 13:51 I THINK THEY DO. 13:53 I SAW A LADY THE OTHER DAY. 13:56 AND THEN WHEN HE COMES BACK, YOU HAVEN'T MOVED. 14:00 NOTHING IN THE HOUSE HAS MOVED. 14:03 YOU KNOW. 14:04 GO ON IN THERE. 14:05 I THINK THERE'S SOMETHING LEFT OVER. 14:08 THAT'S NOT THE DEAL. 14:09 BUT IF BOTH OF YOU ARE WORKING, THEN YOU'VE GOT TO SHARE 14:12 THE RESPONSIBILITIES. 14:13 DOES THAT SOUND OKAY TO YOU ? 14:16 LOOK AT FIRST PETER, CHAPTER 3. 14:18 FIRST PETER, CHAPTER 3. 14:20 I WANT TO TALK ABOUT SOME OF THE PRACTICAL THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN 14:25 IN A MARRIAGE TO MAKE IT BETTER. 14:27 FIRST PETER, CHAPTER 3, AND WE'RE GOING TO 14:29 START WITH VERSE 8. 14:30 THIS IS A TEXT THAT MOST PEOPLE WOULD NOT APPLY TO 14:32 MARRIAGE, BUT I'M GOING TO DO IT, BECAUSE IT FITS. 14:36 FIRST PETER, CHAPTER 3, STARTING WITH VERSE 8. 14:38 FINALLY, BE ALL OF ONE MIND, HAVING COMPASSION 14:43 ONE OF ANOTHER. 14:45 LOVE AS BRETHREN, THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE NOT 14:48 MARRIED, BUT LOVE AS BRETHREN. 14:51 BE PITIFUL AND COURTEOUS, NOT RENDERING EVIL FOR EVIL, OR 14:55 RAILING FOR RAILING, BUT CONTRARY-WISE, BLESSING, 15:00 KNOWING THAT YOU ARE THERE UNTO CALL THAT YOU SHOULD 15:02 INHERIT THE BLESSING. 15:05 FOR HE THAT WILL LOVE LIFE AND SEE GOOD DAYS, LET HIM REFRAIN 15:12 HIS TONGUE FROM EVIL AND HIS LIPS THAT THEY SPEAK NO GUILE. 15:17 LET HIM ESCHEW EVIL AND DO GOOD. 15:19 LET HIM SEEK PEACE AND ENSUE IT, FOR THE EYES OF THE LORD ARE 15:25 OVER THE RIGHTEOUS AND HIS EARS ARE OPEN ONTO THEIR PRAYERS. 15:29 BUT THE FACE OF THE LORD IS AGAINST THEM THAT DO EVIL. 15:33 WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW IS THAT WHEN YOU SHUT THE DOORS OF YOUR 15:36 HOUSE, GOD IS STILL LOOKING. 15:41 THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE SPLIT PERSONALITIES 15:43 IN THEIR MARRIAGES. 15:45 WHEN THEY'RE OUT, THEY'RE, OH, HONEY, HOW ARE YOU ? 15:48 COME DEAR, THIS IS MY WIFE. 15:52 YES, HONEY. 15:53 YOU KNOW, AND THEN WHEN THEY GET INSIDE. . . 16:00 . . .SEE YOU TOMORROW. 16:01 TAKE OUT THE TRASH. 16:03 DID YOU PAY THE BILLS. 16:05 YOU TURN INTO MAINTENENCE CONVERSATION. 16:08 BUT WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW IS THAT FAKE YOU'RE PUTTING ON 16:11 OUTSIDE, YOU NEED TO BE BETTER INSIDE THE HOUSE WHEN NOBODY'S 16:14 LOOKING THAN WHEN SOMEBODY IS LOOKING, BECAUSE THE EYES OF 16:18 GOD ARE ON YOU. 16:21 SO YOU GOT TO PAY ATTENTION TO THAT. 16:24 YOU OUGHT TO, EPHESIANS, CHAPTER 4, AND VERSE 26. 16:27 THE BIBLE SAYS THAT YOU OUGHT TO END EACH DAY WITHOUT THE 16:32 SUN GOING DOWN ON YOUR WRATH. 16:34 I'M GOING TO GET TO SOME WONDERFUL THINGS THAT WILL 16:37 KIND OF CONNECT WITH THIS. 16:40 BUT IF YOU WANT TO STAY MARRIED A LONG TIME, 16:42 DON'T LET STUFF BUILD UP. 16:46 HANDLE IT WHILE IT'S SMALL. 16:49 THERE ARE NO TWO PEOPLE WHO FIT PERFECTLY. 16:52 SOMEBODY IN YOUR FAMILY HAD A HABIT THAT YOU THOUGHT WAS OKAY. 16:57 BUT WHEN YOU GET IN A HOUSEHOLD WITH SOMEBODY ELSE, I DON'T 17:00 CARE IF YOU WERE REARED NEXT-DOOR TO EACH OTHER, THERE 17:03 ARE THINGS THAT YOUR FAMILY DID AND THINGS THAT YOUR 17:05 FAMILY DID THAT DON'T MATCH. 17:08 SO, YOU MAY BE SITTING THERE AND, YOU KNOW, IT GETS A 17:10 LITTLE QUIET WHEN YOU FIRST GET TO THE REAL MARRIAGE. 17:13 I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT THAT AHH. 17:18 EVERYBODY CAN DEAL WITH THAT. 17:19 THAT'S WHAT YOU SAW ON TELEVISION. 17:23 AND THEN IT KINDS OF GETS TO, HEY, HOW ARE YOU DOING ? 17:28 AND THEN (MAKES SLURPING NOISE) YOU KNOW, YOU'RE TRYING TO 17:35 FIGURE OUT, HOW COULD YA MISS THAT WHEN YOU ALL 17:37 WERE DATING EACH OTHER ? 17:41 DID YOU ALWAYS MAKE THAT SOUND ? 17:49 SHE SAID, WELL, YOU'VE GOT A NERVE TO TALK. 17:51 YOU DROP CLOTHES ALL THROUGH THE HOUSE EVERY 17:53 DAY WHEN YOU COME HOME. 17:55 AND IF YOU KEEP ON LETTING LITTLE STUFF GO BY LIKE 17:57 THAT, YOU'VE GOT TO HANDLE IT PROACTIVELY. 18:01 BUT THE BIBLE SAYS, NO MATTER WHAT GOES ON, DON'T LET THE 18:04 SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH. 18:06 IN FACT, PROVERBS 15 AND VERSE 1 SAYS, THAT A SOFT 18:10 ANSWER TURNETH AWAY WRATH. 18:12 I'M GETTING READY TO GIVE YOU A RULE THAT IS NOT IN THE BIBLE 18:16 BUT I CAN ALMOST QUALIFY IT AS AN EXPERIENCE-THE-POWER MOMENT. 18:21 THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. 18:30 LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ABOUT WORDS. 18:33 YOU BELIEVE THAT LITTLE STUFF YOU HEARD WHEN YOU 18:35 WERE A KID, STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES, BUT 18:38 WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME ? 18:41 THE REASON WHY YOU NEED TO THINK, IN FACT, SOMETIMES 18:43 YOU NEED TO JUST SHUT UP. 18:48 PRAY. 18:50 BECAUSE ONCE WORDS GET OUT THERE, YOU CAN'T PULL THEM BACK. 18:56 AND YOU WANT YOUR SPOUSE TO FORGIVE AND FORGET. 19:00 BUT YOU'D BE SURPRISED, NINE YEARS LATER, YOU'LL BE IN 19:02 AN ARGUMENT. . . 19:06 I REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAID. 19:10 SO TRY TO LET AS FEW NEGATIVE WORDS GET OUT THERE AS POSSIBLE. 19:14 GUARD YOUR TONGUE. 19:16 THAT'S SOME GOOD ADVICE. 19:17 TRUST ME. 19:19 THEN, LET ME RUN DOWN A FEW THINGS. 19:21 YOU OUGHT TO INSPIRE EACH OTHER TO ACHIEVE. 19:27 LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. 19:31 ANYTHING THAT A SPOUSE BECOMES, IS AFFECTED BY THEIR PARTNER. 19:42 YOU GET THE WRONG PARTNER, AND YOU KNOW, YOU COME IN WITH 19:45 YOUR IDEA, HEY, YOU KNOW SOMETHING, I'M GOING TO GO 19:47 AND I'M GOING TO TAKE SOME COURSES, BECAUSE I'M THINKING 19:51 I'VE GOT A LITTLE SKILL. 19:53 YEAH, WHAT YOU OUGHT TO DO IS STAY ON THAT JOB YOU GOT. 20:01 I DON'T KNOW ABOUT HOW YOU ALL DREAMS. 20:05 I KNOW YOU'RE GETTING A CHECK. 20:12 SO, YOU KNOW WHAT YOU JUST DID ? 20:14 YOU JUST KILLED A DREAM. 20:17 WHY DON'T YOU SIT DOWN WITH HIM AND SAY, YEAH. 20:19 LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. 20:20 YOU SEE THAT LITTLE LADY I'M MARRIED TO THERE, THAT'S 20:22 A POWERFUL LITTLE WOMAN. 20:25 THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I THINK I CAN'T DO STUFF AND SHE'LL 20:28 START TALKING HER STUFF. 20:30 I START FEELING MYSELF GROW. 20:40 YOU KNOW, I'M THINKING I'VE GOT AN IDEA. 20:42 SHE'LL SAY, YEAH, DO THAT. 20:43 YOU KNOW, SHE MAY ASK ME, NOW HOW ARE YOU GOING TO FINANCE IT? 20:45 THAT'S OKAY. 20:48 BUT YOU'VE GOT TO INSPIRE THE BEST IN EACH OTHER. 20:52 AND, UNLESS YOU FIND OUT THAT SOMEBODY DOES INSPIRE THE BEST 20:57 IN YOU, DON'T MARRY THEM. 21:02 BY THE TIME THEY GET THROUGH PUSHING YOU DOWN AND DOWN 21:05 AND DOWN, AND THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO GET EXCITED 21:07 ABOUT PUSHING YOU DOWN. 21:08 YOU CANNOT HAVE THAT KIND OF EXPERIENCE IN YOU. 21:11 YOU OUGHT TO INSPIRE EACH OTHER TO DO MORE THINGS. 21:13 YOU OUGHT TO SHARE INTERESTS. 21:16 MARRIAGE IS LIKE A LADDER. 21:19 THE TWO VERTICAL PIECES MUST HAVE CONNECTING RUNGS. 21:26 IF YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON, I ALMOST SAID IF YOU HAVE NOTHING 21:30 IN COMMON BUT SENSUALITY. 21:34 BUT IF YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON, THERE WILL COME A TIME 21:36 WHEN YOU'LL TRY TO FIGURE OUT, WHAT SHALL WE DO NOW ? 21:40 BUT YOU OUGHT TO HAVE SOME THINGS THAT ARE IN COMMON. 21:43 YOU OUGHT TO LEARN TO LIKE THE THINGS THAT INTEREST 21:47 YOUR SPOUSE. 21:49 WHEN MY WIFE AND I GOT MARRIED, I COULD CARE 21:51 LESS ABOUT FURNITURE. 21:53 THE FAMILY WHERE I GREW UP, WE DID NOT HAVE DISCRETIONARY 21:56 INCOME TO WORRY ABOUT STYLES OF FURNITURE. 22:02 WE THOUGHT A CHAIR WAS STILL A CHAIR. 22:08 BUT MY WIFE HAD STUDIED THESE THINGS AND SO I 22:10 MUST TELL YOU THAT AT FIRST IT WAS A LITTLE AWKWARD. 22:13 BUT WHAT KIND OF CHAIR IS THAT ? 22:16 THAT'S A MEDITERRANEAN--AH. 22:24 ALL RIGHT, I CAN SEE THAT. 22:30 I ALWAYS LIKE TO LOOK AT CARS, EVEN WHEN I COULDN'T BUY THEM. 22:33 SO SHE'D GO OUT AND LOOK AT CARS. 22:34 I COULD SEE SHE DIDN'T PARTICULARY LIKE CARS, BUT YEAH. 22:37 YOU'VE GOT TO SHARE THINGS. 22:40 AND THE MORE THINGS YOU SHARE, THE TIGHTER YOUR TWO 22:44 VERTICAL PIECES BECOME, AND IT WELDS YOU TOGETHER. 22:52 IF ALL THE THINGS YOU LIKE ARE WITH THE GIRLS, OR IF ALL 22:56 YOUR THINGS THAT YOU LIKE ARE WITH THE BOYS, YOU'RE GOING TO 23:00 GROW CLOSER TO THE GIRLS AND THE BOYS THAN TO EACH OTHER, 23:04 AND TROUBLE WILL FOLLOW. 23:07 I SHOULD HAVE CHARGED TONIGHT. 23:08 I KNEW IT. 23:11 REMEMBER SPECIAL DAYS. 23:15 GENTLEMEN, LET'S BE REAL. 23:19 THERE ARE SOME DAYS YOU OUGHT TO PUT IN YOUR PALM PILOT, YOUR 23:26 ORGANIZER, YOUR ROLODEX, WRITE THEM ON A PIECE OF PAPER AND 23:33 STICK THEM IN YOUR CLOSET. 23:35 BUT THERE ARE DAYS YOU CAN'T LET PASS. 23:39 ALL RIGHT ? 23:40 YOU LET AN ANNIVERSARY GO BY. 23:43 SHE WON'T COME STRAIGHT AT YOU. 23:50 I GUESS TODAY IS JUST A REGULAR DAY, HUH ? 23:57 IF YOU'VE GOT A BAD MEMORY, WRITE THEM DOWN. 23:59 PUT THEM IN A BOOK YOU ALWAYS LOOK IN. 24:01 AND LADIES, YOU OUGHT NOT MAKE IT A ONE-WAY AFFAIR. 24:05 THE MAN IN YOUR LIFE DESERVES TO HAVE SPECIAL 24:08 DAYS RECOGNIZED, TOO. 24:11 IN FACT, YOU OUGHT TO MAKE EVERY DAY SPECIAL. 24:15 THE THINGS YOU USED TO DO WHEN YOU WERE TRYING TO WIN EACH 24:20 OTHER AND IMPRESS EACH OTHER. 24:22 COME ON NOW. 24:23 I'M NOT GOING TO BOTHER WITH YOU LONG. 24:25 I DON'T HAVE TIME. 24:26 BUT YOU REMEMBER, DON'T, WAIT A MINUTE, HONEY. 24:34 YOU IN ? 24:36 MOVE OVER JUST A LITTLE BIT. 24:43 DO YOU REMEMBER THAT ? 24:45 NOT, HEY, WHAT YOU WAITING FOR ? 24:52 AND SISTER, COME ON NOW, TALK TO ME ABOUT THAT MEAL. 24:55 EVEN WHEN YOU HAD TO GO TO YOUR MOM'S PLACE TO GET HER 24:59 TO COOK THE THINGS, WHEN YOU BROUGHT IT HOME, IT WAS YOURS. 25:04 AND YOU HAD A LITTLE CANDLE LIGHT, YOU KNOW, AND 25:06 ALL KINDS OF STUFF. 25:07 AND YOU HAD A LITTLE (MAKES NOISE) YOU KNOW ? 25:11 YOU'VE GOT TO KEEP ON DOING THAT. 25:13 IF YOU KNOW THE MAN LIKES A SPECIAL KIND OF SOMETHING, 25:16 COOK IT AGAIN. 25:19 AND KIND OF LOOK LIKE YOU USED TO LOOK WHEN YOU COOKED IT. 25:27 BECAUSE IF YOU MAKE EVERY DAY SPECIAL, THE LIFE YOU 25:31 LIVE TOGETHER WILL BE A JOY. 25:33 LET ME TELL YOU WHAT I NEED TO SHARE WITH YOU. 25:35 THERE IS A GENTLEMAN IN AFRICA WHO'S LIKE A BROTHER TO ME. 25:38 I HEARD HIM EXPRESS SOMETHING AND I BORROWED IT, AND I ASKED 25:40 HIM, COULD I, AND HE SAID YES. 25:42 WE ARE TEACHING, ALL OF US MARRIED FOLKS, ARE TEACHING 25:48 A GENERATION OF CHILDREN SOMETHING THAT IS A LIE. 25:53 LET ME DEMONSTRATE IT. 25:56 YOU ARE IN YOUR CAR IN TRAFFIC. 25:59 THE RED LIGHT COMES ON AND YOU'RE BEHIND A CAR WHERE A 26:03 MAN AND A WOMAN ARE SO CLOSE TOGETHER THAT YOU CAN BARELY 26:08 TELL WHO'S DRIVING. 26:12 ARE THEY MARRIED OR SINGLE ? 26:16 YOU CAN'T MAKE UP YOUR MIND. 26:19 YOU'RE BEHIND A CAR AND THE MAN IS ON THIS DOOR. 26:29 AND THE WOMAN IS ON THIS DOOR. 26:31 MARRIED OR SINGLE ? 26:38 LET ME TELL YOU WHAT WE'RE TEACHING CHILDREN. 26:41 STICK WITH ME. 26:42 THIS IS SERIOUS. 26:44 WE ARE TEACHING YOUNG PEOPLE THAT YOU CAN ONLY 26:48 BE HAPPY WHEN YOU SNEAK. 26:52 Announcer: JOIN US NEXT TIME FOR MORE OF PASTOR PEARSON'S 26:54 MESSAGE FROM PROVERBS 5. 27:59 (music) |
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