(Theme Song) Jesus is worthy
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oh yes, he's
worthy worthy of all...
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all the praise.
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Pastor Byrd: "Pastor
Byrd, I want to talk to you.
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I'm the CEO of a company."
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No, you're not.
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You have your own
multi-level marketing
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business that you're
trying to get off the ground.
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You're not the CEO,
you're the OE--only employee
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of your company.
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[Aud. reaction] PB:
And let me throw this in.
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For all of you who want
to start your own business,
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you've got to work.
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You've got to
do what, everybody?
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Aud.: Work.
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PB: You can't have
million-dollar dreams
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with minimum-wage work ethic.
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Can you really be with
somebody who can't be honest
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with you up front?
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Just tell me what's going on
at the front, and we won't have
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all the drama at the finish.
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Because one lie
leads to another lie.
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If you don't
have a job, tell me.
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If you're still
dating somebody, tell me.
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If you've got baby
mama drama, tell me.
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If your ex-boyfriend is
crazy and possessive, tell me.
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Tell the truth, because
lying lips, the Bible says,
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are an abomination to the Lord.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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You've got to be
truthful with people.
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You've got to even have
folk in your life that are going
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to tell you the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but
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the truth.
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You've got to get these smiling,
lying folk out of your face.
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You've got to
learn how to be honest.
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You've got to be able
to talk--and listen to me
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good--this is for
the married folks.
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You've got to be able to talk
to your spouse about everything.
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You've got to be ready and
able to deal with the truth
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about you.
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Some of us, we're quick to
tell other people the truth
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about themselves, but we
don't want to hear them tell
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us the truth about ourselves.
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You'll be dead wrong.
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Wrong!
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in a situation.
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And instead of your
spouse telling you the truth
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about their
situation, they'll be quiet just
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to keep the peace.
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And you'll go out and
you'll make a fool of yourself,
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but you've got to be
able to deal with the truth
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about you.
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Listen to me.
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In many marriages
there is this 80-20 rule.
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Pareto principle.
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Some of you business
students know, Pareto principle.
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Pareto principle says 20 percent
of the people do 80 percent
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of the work.
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But there's also an
80-20 rule in marriage.
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Spouses know about 80
percent about their spouse.
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The other 20 percent
they were too afraid to tell
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them while they were dating,
because if they did, they would
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have been afraid that their
spouse wouldn't have married
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them if they knew the real deal.
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But we take that 20 percent.
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Not we--people take that
20 percent, hold it close
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to their vest until we
meet somebody outside of their
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marriage who they think
can identify with the other
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20 percent.
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But then that ends
up destroying marriages.
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That's why, when you date
right now, you've got to ask
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them for total disclosure.
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You've got to tell them,
and you ought to want to tell
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them, I want you to
feel comfortable telling me
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everything.
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Because if I can't
accept you for who you are right
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now, then we must not
be meant to be together.
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I'd rather you would
tell me now than to marry you
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and find out 10 years
later that you had a dark side.
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Your soul mate can
accept you for who you are.
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The person that comes
home, not the person that
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everybody else sees, but
the person that comes home.
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I say it all the time:
My wife and three daughters
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are my toughest members,
because they know if the Pastor
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Byrd that you see is the
same Pastor Byrd that's at home.
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When the mask if off.
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When the suit is off.
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For you, when
the nails come off.
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When the hairpieces come off.
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: When the teeth
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[laughter] come out.
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When everything
comes out, the real you.
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You need to find
somebody that can accept you
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for the real you.
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You need the truth, and
you've got to be truthful.
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Delilah does not love Samson.
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Delilah is not trying
to tell Samson the truth.
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Money is her motivation.
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But that wasn't strange to
Samson, because he was used
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to ungodly
considerations for cash.
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Which brings me to my
next point on this thing called
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honesty.
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Stop getting with people
in these relationships just
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for money or just for
what they can get out of you.
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Not only must you be truthful
and honest in your words,
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but you've got to be truthful
and honest in your motives.
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Look at verse 1.
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Samson went in
with a prostitute.
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Considerations or
compassion for cash.
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Then verse 5 illustrates
that Delilah was ready
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to provide
consideration for cash.
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Ladies, you do not
have to lower your standards
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or provide considerations
for cash just to get something
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from him.
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Just because you need a
ride somewhere doesn't mean
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you have to provide
ungodly considerations.
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Just because you need
help on an assignment doesn't
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mean you have to
provide ungodly considerations.
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Just because you need some
money doesn't mean you have
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to provide
ungodly considerations.
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The story is
told of a young lady.
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She had a friend, it was a guy.
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Male friend.
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Not a boyfriend,
but a guy friend.
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He came to her with this article
that was in the newspaper,
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and he came to her and
said, read this, read this.
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Hey, look at this article.
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They've got
something in the paper,
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they have something in
the classified section.
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I can't believe it, but
it's something somebody just
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might do.
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The proposal was: If you
will have sexual relations
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one time with a man
for 1 million dollars,
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there are three
things you are guaranteed of.
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Number one,
nobody will ever know.
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Number two, there
will be no disease.
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Number three, no babies.
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One million dollars.
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Nobody will ever
know, no disease, no babies.
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One million
dollars, no questions asked,
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out the door.
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He asked her, Would you do it?
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She thought about it, just like
somebody tonight is thinking
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about it.
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: Nobody would know.
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One million dollars,
no disease, no babies,
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out the door.
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She thought about it and she
says to him, Yes, I'll do it.
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He then said to her,
Well, will you do the same thing
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for me, for $25?
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She said, what do you
think I am, a prostitute?
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He said, We've
already established that.
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We're just negotiating price.
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[Aud. reaction] PB:
Young ladies, turn to that
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young man right now and
tell them, I'm not for sale.
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And because, friends,
you're not for sale, you need
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to take all these
for-sale and on-sale signs off.
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What am I talking about?
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I travel the country
preaching, and I go to church,
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and I see people
with all this out.
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With all this up here.
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Who are you coming to meet?
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Not the King of
kings, not the Lord of lords.
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I wish I had a
witness in this place.
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That is not of God.
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I know you don't like it,
but I'm going to preach it
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anyhow.
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All this we hear in our
world today: Come as you are.
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When we say come as you
are, you are to come with your
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heart as you are.
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Not coming and looking
any kind of way as you are.
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God receives you
where your heart is.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: If we were going
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to see President
Obama, we would look nice,
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we'd dress up, we'd be our best.
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How much more, when we come
into the house of God, to meet
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the King of kings and the Lord
of lords, take off all these
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for-sale and on-sale signs.
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You don't like that.
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That's all right.
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And it's just not
the young people, either.
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Preach, Pastor Byrd.
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I'm doing the best I can.
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We've got some old
Casanova up in here.
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[Aud. reaction] PB:
Remember in this church,
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we've got people
that are getting married
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after they are 90 years old.
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Everybody, when we
come to the house of God,
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needs to act appropriately.
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Dress appropriately.
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I don't care how old you
are, when we hug in church
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during the welcome
time, hug and keep it moving.
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All these long hugs, oh
it's so good to see--no,
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you're not
thinking that in your mind.
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You are not
thinking happy Sabbath!
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Let her go.
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Let him go.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: Come here, Marva,
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come here.
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Stand up.
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When I hug Sister Marva.
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Marva: Praise Him.
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PB: All this doesn't touch.
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Men, that's how
you hug the women.
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And men, because we've got
a lot of funny stuff going on.
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Stand up, Elder Julius.
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When the men hug the
men, all this cheek-to-cheek
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stuff has got to stop.
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Come on, say amen!
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Aud.: Amen.
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PB: We got to be
appropriate, come on, say amen!
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Aud.: Amen!
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PB: Hug appropriately,
speak appropriately.
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What are you
talking about--pssss, pssss.
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Is there a snake in here?
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: Text appropriately,
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and let me give you
some good advice on texting.
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Don't you text anything
you don't want to see again.
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E-mail appropriately,
behave appropriately, married
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people, do what married
people are supposed to do,
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and unmarried people
only do what unmarried people
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are supposed to do.
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Because if you're unmarried,
quit doing permanent things
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with temporary people.
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Aud.: Amen!
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PB: Be honest in
your motivations for being
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in a relationship.
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Don't let folk lie to
you to get what they want.
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They need to be honest.
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And speaking of
money, let me throw this in.
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I'm trying to help somebody.
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Spending all your money on
that man, spending all your
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money on that woman.
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They're going to come
into my office crying next
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semester, help me get in school.
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Listen to me, I'll
give you some counsel.
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A person does not have to
be rich for you to date them.
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And a person doesn't
have to be poor for you
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to date them, either.
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Come on, say amen.
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Aud.: Amen.
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PB: In fact, I'm
suggesting doing date somebody
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that doesn't have any money.
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I'm not saying that,
don't get it twisted.
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I'm not saying you have to
date somebody rich or poor,
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but listen to me:
When Christian, Kaylie
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and Carissa, my three girls,
when they are of sufficient
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age to date.
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And notice I said "to
date," because they are
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11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17.
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That's not sufficient to date.
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If you're going to
date and you're a teen,
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everybody dates.
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How many boyfriends?
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I got the whole class!
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[Laughter]
Everybody, go out together.
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Everybody go to
the park together.
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Everybody go to
the mall together.
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Everybody come
to church together.
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Everybody eat together.
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Do I have a
witness in this place?
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All this being
hugged up, privately.
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All this isolation.
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Young people, isolation.
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That's why I drive around
in my car, it's black and you
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can't see it at night.
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I turn off the lights so
I can see who's out there.
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Do you all hear what I'm saying?
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It should not be!
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But when
Christian, Kaylie and Carissa
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are of sufficient age
to date and marry, yes.
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I want them to love the
brother, and I want the brother
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to love them.
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But I also want the
brother to be able to take care
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of my girls.
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Do I have a
witness in this place?
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That's biblical.
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Go back to Genesis,
before God created Eve.
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Before God made Eve,
before God married Adam
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and Eve, Adam had a j-o-b!
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So, ladies, your motto
ought to be: If you want to be
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with me, you need a j-o-b.
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Hallelujah, somebody!
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Now, again, Pastor Byrd's
not saying you have to be rich
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in order to date.
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But as a man, you
should be able to take care
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of your family.
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Young ladies, if he
can't take care of himself now,
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how is he going to
take care of you later.
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So number one,
love those who love you.
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Be honest.
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But then, number three.
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There's a different twist here.
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We have to get something
different from this story
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'cause we always read it.
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So this is what I call
"negative reinforcement."
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You've got to be consistent.
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What did I say, everybody?
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Now, say what you want,
but Delilah was consistent
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in her questioning and
line of questioning with Samson.
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Now, why she was doing
what she was doing was wrong.
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But something should be said
for the consistency by which
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she was doing it.
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Delilah kept asking
Samson where his strength lay.
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And because she was consistent,
she got her desired result.
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In response to his first
answer, Delilah bound Samson
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with seven green
withs that were never dry.
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In response to Samson's
second answer, Delilah bound
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him with new ropes that
had never been occupied.
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Understand, when that didn't
work she asked him a third
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time where his strength
lieth, and in response to his
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third answer she weaved
the seven locks of his hair.
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When that didn't work,
she pressed him, came back
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a fourth time, the Bible says.
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He told her it was his
hair, then she shaved his hair.
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Now, she didn't love him.
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She wasn't truthful with him.
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But remember I said this sermon
is not only about what not
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to do, but what to do.
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Delilah was consistent.
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She was
consistent and persistent
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in her questioning.
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She was
consistent in her actions.
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She was
consistent in her behavior.
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She didn't start
anything she couldnít finish.
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If your relationship
is going to be a good
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relationship, you've
got to be consistent.
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You ought to enter
a relationship telling
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individuals: Don't start
anything that you can't finish.
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Don't start opening a
door for me now, if you're not
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going to open the
door for me in 20 years.
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Don't start
anything you can't finish.
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Don't be taking me to
Olive Garden and Mazziano's,
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Cheesecake Factory
and PF Chang's now, trying
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to impress me with that
expensive dinner just to try
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to get what you're trying
to get, and then once you get
00:15:54.73\00:15:56.76
what you're trying to
get, you take me to McDonald's
00:15:56.76\00:15:58.90
to get a Happy Meal.
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Don't start what
you can't finish.
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Don't send me flowers
now, talking about you love me.
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And then 5 years
later, I can't get anything.
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Don't start
anything you can't finish.
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In fact, don't even tell me
you love me, if you're not going
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to tell me that later.
00:16:16.56\00:16:18.06
So tell your wife, your husband,
your boyfriend, your girlfriend,
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you love them.
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People are always
talking about, Well, you know
00:16:24.03\00:16:26.03
how I feel.
00:16:26.03\00:16:27.03
No, they don't.
00:16:27.03\00:16:28.03
Tell them.
00:16:28.03\00:16:29.03
Say it.
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There's nothing
wrong with you saying it.
00:16:30.03\00:16:32.40
Open up your
mouth and tell them.
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Tell your child, your son,
your daughter, your grandchild.
00:16:35.00\00:16:37.46
Tell them you love them.
00:16:37.46\00:16:39.03
Tell your friend, you love them.
00:16:39.03\00:16:41.03
Tell your spouse, you love them.
00:16:41.03\00:16:43.03
Men, listen to me.
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Let's talk about
what not to tell.
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Stop going to the barber
shop, talking about your wife.
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Students, stop going
to brothers, talking about
00:16:49.76\00:16:51.90
your girlfriend.
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She can't cook.
00:16:52.90\00:16:53.90
She won't clean.
00:16:53.90\00:16:55.23
She's hard on a brother.
00:16:55.23\00:16:57.23
It's rough going
home to that woman.
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Y'all don't
understand what I go through.
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Hush your mouth.
00:17:02.43\00:17:03.86
And ladies, stop calling
your friends or hanging out
00:17:03.86\00:17:05.86
in the beauty salon, talking
about how trifling your man is.
00:17:05.86\00:17:07.86
He's trifling, he's
lazy, he won't do a thing.
00:17:07.86\00:17:12.16
Because let me tell
you, those same women your
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talking to are the same ones
taking notes, waiting for you
00:17:14.50\00:17:18.40
to move out so
they can move on in.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
00:17:20.56\00:17:23.20
God speaks well
of us in spite of us.
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God speaks well of
you in spite of you.
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You've got to consistently
tell your spouse you love
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him or her and speak
words of praise in your
00:17:35.96\00:17:38.36
relationship, even if
you've got to creatively stretch
00:17:38.36\00:17:41.16
the truth.
00:17:41.16\00:17:43.80
I didn't say lie.
00:17:43.80\00:17:45.80
I said creatively
stretch the truth.
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You know, it's elastic.
00:17:51.40\00:17:53.40
My wife just stepped
out, so I can say this now.
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Come on, say amen!
00:17:57.66\00:17:58.66
I know what's going on
in your minds, but something
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else has to come
out of your mouth.
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Ladies, you've still got
to say to that man, you've got
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to say to that brother,
Baby, you're the finest man
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in the world.
00:18:13.30\00:18:15.56
So my wife tells me.
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Come on, say amen.
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[Aud. reaction]
PB: When God made you,
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He must have been
setting the standard.
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Even if, in your mind,
you're saying: I just married
00:18:27.13\00:18:30.63
the first man who's going
to deliver a baby. Do I have
00:18:30.63\00:18:33.10
a witness in this place?
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Brothers, you've got to
be positive about your woman.
00:18:35.73\00:18:39.43
Say, Baby, this
lasagna is good to me,
00:18:39.43\00:18:44.66
even if it is the worst.
00:18:46.10\00:18:47.76
Are you hearing what I'm saying?
00:18:47.76\00:18:49.76
You learn to sit there,
eat it, suffer through it.
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She's gone, but--when they
come with these new recipes,
00:18:54.83\00:18:59.40
sit there, eat it, grin,
and then you get your water
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or your drink
and you wash it down.
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Come on, say amen.
00:19:09.66\00:19:11.90
Ladies, even if he goes
out and buys you something
00:19:11.90\00:19:15.26
you know you're not
going to wear, say Ooooo.
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I thank God for you!
00:19:22.60\00:19:25.20
Even if you're thinking in
your mind, What in the world
00:19:25.20\00:19:27.76
am I going to wear with this?
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Just say, Baby, that
was so precious, I love you.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
00:19:32.06\00:19:34.06
You've got to
consistently speak positive.
00:19:34.06\00:19:37.56
You've got to consistently
tell that special someone
00:19:37.56\00:19:40.66
how much you love them.
00:19:40.66\00:19:42.13
You've got to make up in
your mind that you're going
00:19:42.13\00:19:44.13
to speak well of
them, if nobody else does.
00:19:44.13\00:19:46.13
Don't you ever let anybody
else tell the one you love,
00:19:46.13\00:19:50.33
and say how fine
they are, more than you.
00:19:50.33\00:19:53.40
Don't ever let
anybody out-compliment you.
00:19:53.40\00:19:58.63
Speak positive.
00:19:58.63\00:20:00.86
Speak love.
00:20:00.86\00:20:02.93
Tell them you love them.
00:20:02.93\00:20:03.93
Let me close this way:
I heard a preacher say how
00:20:03.93\00:20:10.73
he had been drinking
a lot of water lately.
00:20:10.73\00:20:12.86
And he had been trying to
do that, drink all this water,
00:20:12.86\00:20:18.73
to purify his system.
00:20:18.73\00:20:21.66
So one day he was driving
in his car and the water bottle
00:20:21.66\00:20:29.26
that he was drinking
out of began to talk to him,
00:20:29.26\00:20:32.50
in the Spirit.
00:20:32.50\00:20:34.90
He wasn't crazy, but
as preachers we learn
00:20:34.90\00:20:38.10
to get a sermon out of anything.
00:20:38.10\00:20:40.93
And so he said, I was
looking at the water bottle,
00:20:40.93\00:20:48.50
and the water bottle was saying,
I'm going to help you preach
00:20:48.50\00:20:52.70
a sermon so that you might
understand the love of God.
00:20:52.70\00:20:58.96
So the preacher said,
Well, Mr. Water Bottle,
00:20:58.96\00:21:03.20
what's the deal?
00:21:03.20\00:21:04.20
The water bottle said,
Well, preacher, look at me.
00:21:04.20\00:21:08.46
The preacher looked at
the water bottle and said,
00:21:08.46\00:21:11.83
Well, you look
like a --water bottle.
00:21:11.83\00:21:15.00
You look nice to me, and
you're getting ready to pour
00:21:15.00\00:21:20.13
into me, and I sure need you.
00:21:20.13\00:21:21.60
The water bottle said, No,
Mr. Preacher, before I pour
00:21:21.60\00:21:27.56
into you, I really
want you to look at me.
00:21:27.56\00:21:31.53
The preacher said, Well,
water bottle, you're pure.
00:21:31.53\00:21:39.46
You look good.
00:21:39.46\00:21:43.43
I'm getting ready to
take the top off of you,
00:21:43.43\00:21:46.73
and I'm going to
pour you into me.
00:21:46.73\00:21:50.26
Because Mr. Water
Bottle, I need you right now.
00:21:50.26\00:21:53.93
The water bottle
said, Well, before you
00:21:53.93\00:21:57.40
take the top off,
before you pour me into you,
00:21:57.40\00:22:00.86
I want you to look
at me a little closer.
00:22:00.86\00:22:03.36
So the preacher began
to look a little closer.
00:22:03.36\00:22:08.73
Looking closer at the
bottle, he saw a sign that said,
00:22:08.73\00:22:13.96
"recycled product."
00:22:13.96\00:22:15.80
And I thought about that.
00:22:15.80\00:22:18.53
The water bottle
said, That's what I want you
00:22:18.53\00:22:22.23
to know about me.
00:22:22.23\00:22:23.30
You're looking at me now.
00:22:23.30\00:22:24.96
I look good, I look pure,
I'm looking like I'm ready
00:22:24.96\00:22:28.06
to be poured into you.
00:22:28.06\00:22:29.50
But what I want you to
know is where I come from.
00:22:29.50\00:22:32.13
I said, Well, talk
to me, Mr. Water Bottle.
00:22:32.13\00:22:38.53
Help me preach this sermon.
00:22:38.53\00:22:40.00
The water bottle said,
Well, let me tell you something,
00:22:40.00\00:22:43.50
Dr. Byrd. I can't
tell you what happened,
00:22:43.50\00:22:47.86
but one day somebody used me up.
00:22:47.86\00:22:52.56
One day, somebody wasted me.
00:22:52.56\00:22:58.33
Somebody threw me
out, somebody threw me
00:22:58.33\00:23:00.70
in the dump.
00:23:00.70\00:23:01.70
I was among trash,
I was in the garbage,
00:23:01.70\00:23:04.26
I was among the
lowest things of existence.
00:23:04.26\00:23:08.20
The water bottle said,
But one day, somebody came by.
00:23:08.20\00:23:14.46
They picked me up.
00:23:14.46\00:23:19.16
Dusted me off.
00:23:19.16\00:23:22.03
Took me to the recycling plant.
00:23:22.03\00:23:24.26
They recycled me, and then
they filled me back up again
00:23:24.26\00:23:27.56
so I could be here
today to pour into you.
00:23:27.56\00:23:30.96
And I just stopped by
to tell you that regardless
00:23:32.80\00:23:36.76
of how you've been used.
00:23:36.76\00:23:39.80
Regardless of how
you've been abused.
00:23:39.80\00:23:42.06
Regardless of how
you've been wasted.
00:23:42.06\00:23:44.86
Regardless of how
you've been messed over.
00:23:44.86\00:23:46.83
Regardless of how you've
been thrown out to the trash,
00:23:46.83\00:23:48.83
to the garbage, to the dumpster.
00:23:48.83\00:23:50.83
I want you to know
that Jesus loves you.
00:23:50.83\00:23:54.00
That Jesus can pick you
up again; hold you up again;
00:23:54.00\00:23:58.96
dust you off again.
00:23:58.96\00:24:00.70
He can fill you up again
so that you'll be able to pour
00:24:00.70\00:24:04.06
into somebody else's life.
00:24:04.06\00:24:07.56
Greater love hath no
man than this, who would lay
00:24:07.56\00:24:11.66
down his life for a friend.
00:24:11.66\00:24:16.03
For God so loved the
world that He gave His only
00:24:16.03\00:24:21.06
begotten Son, that whoever
believeth on Him should not
00:24:21.06\00:24:24.06
what, everybody?
00:24:24.06\00:24:25.06
Perish.
00:24:25.06\00:24:26.06
But have everlasting life.
00:24:26.06\00:24:27.06
Beloved, let us
love one another.
00:24:27.06\00:24:29.16
For love is of God and
everyone that loveth is born
00:24:29.16\00:24:33.26
of God and he that
loveth knoweth God.
00:24:33.26\00:24:35.26
He that loveth not knoweth
not God, for God is love.
00:24:35.26\00:24:38.00
Now, the two greatest
commandments of which all 10
00:24:38.00\00:24:41.90
stem from are love for
God and love for your fellow
00:24:41.90\00:24:45.66
man.
00:24:45.66\00:24:46.66
If we're talking
about Extreme Makeover
00:24:46.66\00:24:48.80
Relationship Edition,
we've got to learn how to love
00:24:48.80\00:24:51.66
each other.
00:24:51.66\00:24:53.00
But then also with that,
the other great commandment
00:24:53.00\00:24:55.76
is to love God.
00:24:55.76\00:24:58.06
So then number one, in
loving God and in loving
00:24:58.06\00:25:01.80
you, we must
understand tonight as we begin
00:25:01.80\00:25:04.70
this journey this weekend,
that we've got to learn to love
00:25:04.70\00:25:07.23
people who love you.
00:25:07.23\00:25:09.63
Stop being in relationships
with folk who can't stand you.
00:25:09.63\00:25:13.83
Love people who love you.
00:25:13.83\00:25:15.06
Number two,
you've got to be honest.
00:25:15.06\00:25:17.06
You've got to come to
the table with honesty.
00:25:17.06\00:25:19.93
What's in the dark
will come to light.
00:25:19.93\00:25:22.43
It will show up one day.
00:25:22.43\00:25:23.60
Number three, you've
got to be consistent.
00:25:23.60\00:25:28.90
Be consistent with telling
others that you love them.
00:25:28.90\00:25:33.50
And then number
four, understand that we
00:25:33.50\00:25:36.33
are all recycled products.
00:25:36.33\00:25:37.80
All of us.
00:25:37.80\00:25:38.80
Everybody in here
is an ex-something.
00:25:38.80\00:25:40.80
We are recycled products.
00:25:40.80\00:25:44.93
And we've got to love God.
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