? (Theme Song) ?
? Jesus is worthy ?
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? oh yes, he's worthy
? ? worthy of all... ?
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? all the praise ? ? (Theme) ?
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Pastor Byrd: Stop
trying to holler at every woman
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who comes your way.
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Because what will happen
is--listen to me good--you will
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develop an
understanding of women where you
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will look for a wife or
a girlfriend like you look
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for a car.
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You know, when you shop
for a car, the first thing
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you do, you go to as
many car lots as possible.
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You like that, don't you?
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Number two, you always want
to know how that body looks.
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Number three, you really want
to test drive before purchasing.
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Number four, you're very curious
about how much mileage it has
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and how many
previous owners it has had.
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[laughter/applause]
And number five,
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you want the most out of it
with the least cost possible.
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Ladies, do me a favor,
in the choir, do it now.
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Turn to that brother and
say, "You can't drive this."
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Tell them, "I'm not for sale."
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Now let me get on the ladies.
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Listen to me.
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Because you're not for sale,
you need to take off all these
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for-sale and on-sale signs.
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Preach, Pastor Byrd.
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[applause] Coming to church
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with all this out.
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All this showing.
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All this up
here, it ought not be.
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Oh, you don't like that.
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I'm gonna preach it anyhow.
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That's not of God.
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I hear all this talk.
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Come as you are.
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[laughter] Come as you are.
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Don't give that
statement bad theology.
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Come as you are is
not talking about how you
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come when you look.
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It's talking about your heart.
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Come as you are with
your heart, and God can change
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that stony heart.
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Come as you are don't mean
I'm coming into the house of God
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any kind of way, looking
any kind of way, this showing,
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that showing,
for sale and on sale.
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God is not pleased.
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If Jesus himself were in here,
the King of kings and the Lord
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of lords, you would not
come in the house of God
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looking like that.
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If hot, cover that stuff up.
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You all don't like it,
I'm gonna tell it anyhow.
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And let me say this:
it's just not the young
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folk either.
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[cheering, applause]
We got some old Casanova
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up in this place.
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You do know that
people at the Oakwood church
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at 90 years old
still get married.
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Come on, say Amen.
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Got old folk, Stella
getting her groove back.
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[applause] That's
for the old folk too.
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Cover that stuff up.
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Ain't nobody got time for that.
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Cover that stuff up.
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Everybody needs
to act appropriately.
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And when I say
act appropriately,
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that's for everybody.
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I don't care how old you are.
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Listen.
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When we hug in church
during the welcome time,
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hug and keep it moving.
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All these long
hugs are inappropriate.
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Come here, Manders, come here.
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Yes, you.
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Jill, come here.
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Come here.
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I'm trying to help you get
ready for this academic year.
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Come on, say Amen.
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When you hug the
ladies, I'm trying to help you,
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stand right there.
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When you hug the
ladies [cheering, applause].
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Brothers, when you hug
the men [laughter, applause].
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All this cheek-to-cheek
stuff, that's got to stop.
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Come on, say Amen.
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All right, I'm
through, go sit down.
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Hug appropriately.
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Speak to each
other appropriately.
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Text each other appropriately.
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And let me give you some advice.
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Don't you text anything
to anybody that you're not
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prepared to see again.
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E-mail appropriately.
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Post on Facebook appropriately.
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Behave appropriately.
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Marry people do what married
people are supposed to do,
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and unmarried people
only do what unmarried people
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are supposed to do.
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If you're unmarried,
quit doing permanent things
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with temporary people.
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[applause] Now, in Genesis
2 the Bible says that when God
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created Eve, he took a rib.
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One rib.
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Which means, brothers,
you can't be going around
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with a slab of ribs.
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One means one.
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But if you read Genesis 2:22
very carefully, ladies, again,
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because this is an equal
opportunity sermon, the Bible
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says that God
presented Eve to Adam.
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The Bible says in verse
22 of Genesis 2, "And the rib
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which the Lord
God had taken from man
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made he a woman, and he brought
her unto the man." Ladies,
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let God present you.
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Stop trying to present yourself.
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Let God present you.
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But I've got to let him see
me, I've got to let him view me.
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No!
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Let God present you.
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Listen, God put Adam to sleep.
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And we don't know how long Adam
slept before God woke him up
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and presented him with Eve.
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Ladies, it's not
your job to wake Adam up.
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Listen, some of you
are in class with your
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future husband, and
you like him, and you
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may be the one for him,
but he doesn't know it yet,
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because he's still asleep.
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Some of you go to church
with your future husband,
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and you may, yes,
be the one for him,
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and he may be the one for
you, but he doesn't know it yet,
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because he's asleep.
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But you don't
have to wake him up.
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You don't have to stalk him.
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You don't have to sweat him.
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You don't have to be
in his face all the time.
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No good man wants
a desperate woman.
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[applause]
Goodbye, relationship drama.
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Ladies, if you want to get
married, remember this counsel.
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Someone once said, "Women
fall in love and get married.
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Men decide to get married
and then look for a wife."
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Women fall in love
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and get married.
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Men decide to get married
and then look for a wife."
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That's why a man can go
one, two, three, four years
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at Oakwood and then get
down to the last semester,
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and they say, "I now gotta
find a wife." They done played
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the fool, and now
they gotta find a wife.
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Not only that,
brothers and sisters, respect.
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I wish I had more time.
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This is good, it's good.
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When we talk about
respect, and this is not just
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for the students,
this is for the older folk
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too who are
married, respect your spouse
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when it comes to your parents.
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The Bible says leave and cleave.
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When God gives you a
husband or a wife, you're going
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to have to be a team.
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No longer can you
cling to your parents.
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There's too much parental
influence in marriage today.
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You've got family
members running your house.
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You've got mommas and
daddies running your house.
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Tell Big Mama to stay in her
house, you've got your house.
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You've got to let your
family know, this is my wife.
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This is my husband.
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I appreciate your advice,
I appreciate your counsel,
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but you've got to stay out of
my house, because we're a team.
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No longer can you
cleave to your parents.
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Husbands, when God
gives you a wife, nobody comes
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before your wife.
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Don't put your
mama before your wife.
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Wives, when God gives you a
husband, don't put your mama
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or your daddy
before your husband.
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And when talking about respect,
don't be in the street talking
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about your spouse.
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Brother, you're sitting
in the barber shop talking
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about your wife.
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She can't cook.
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She won't clean.
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It's hard on a brother.
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It's rough going
home to that woman.
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And ladies, stop
going to the beauty shop
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talking to your girlfriends.
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He's so childish, he's
so lazy, he can't do this,
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he won't do anything.
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Because those same
women you're talking to
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about your
husband are the same ones
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trying to get your man.
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[applause] Husbands, you
need to be there for your wife.
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Wives, you need to be
there for your husbands.
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Listen to me.
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You need to be on the
mound, throwing strikes.
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Because if you're not on
the mound, throwing strikes,
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believe me, there's someone
in the bullpen warming up,
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ready to get your spot.
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You've got to let folk
know, I refuse to let you
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disrespect my family.
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I refuse to let you
disrespect my wife or disrespect
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my husband in front of me.
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You're not going to do that.
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People come up to me
all the time, Dr. Byrd,
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Dr. Byrd, oh, can we
take a picture. Okay.
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Husbands, when you're
with your wife and Sheila
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comes by--I don't
think we have any Sheilas.
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Hey, Johnny.
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You gotta say,
but this is my wife
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standing next to
me, and I'd like for you
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to say hello to her too.
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Same thing, wives.
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When you're with your husband
and Tommy comes by, Tommy, oh
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[laughter], Timmy comes by.
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Let me look at my wife.
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Hey, girl.
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You gotta say
uh-uh, this is my husband.
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Let me tell you something.
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Don't let folk disrespect
your spouse in front of you,
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because 90 percent of the time
they're really trying to do it.
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You gotta let folk
know where they stand.
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You gotta set parameters,
you gotta set boundaries.
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You gotta defend each
other, you're on the same team,
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you gotta respect.
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Paul said, "Love suffereth long.
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Love is kind, love envieth
not, love vaunteth not itself,
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love does not behave
itself unseemly, it seeketh not
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its own, is not easily provoked,
love thinketh no evil."
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Reciprocity, responsibility,
respect and romance.
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Love your husband.
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Love your wife.
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I love my wife.
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[applause] If you're
dating a girl, brother,
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love your girlfriend.
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Love your boyfriend.
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Love yourself, and love Jesus.
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Now, when we talk about romance,
and I'm preaching to myself,
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don't start
anything you can't finish.
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Don't start opening up the door
for me now if you're not going
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to open up the
door for me in 20 years.
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Don't start
anything you can't finish.
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Don't send me flowers
now, talking about you love me,
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and five years
later I don't get a thing.
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Don't carry my umbrella for
me in the rain now if you're not
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going to carry the umbrella
for me in the rain later.
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Don't be taking me to
Olive Garden, P. F. Chang's,
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and if you go to Nashville
or Atlanta, Maggiano's,
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trying to impress me
with some expensive dinner
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to try to get what you're trying
to get, and then once you get
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what you get, you're now
trying to take me to McDonald's
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to get a Happy Meal?
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[laughter, applause]
Baby, you can get a Happy Meal.
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Happy Meal?
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Yeah, but you can supersize it.
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Husbands, you ought to
want your wife to have the best.
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Wives, you ought to want
your husbands to have the best.
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I want my wife to have the best.
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I want her to drive the best.
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Live the best.
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Look the best, wear the best.
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So when somebody looks at
her, they'll say, you know what?
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I'm not even going
to try to tempt her.
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She's out of my league.
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She's out of my
league because she's full.
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Some sister ought to
look at a brother and say,
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don't worry about it,
I'm fine and I'm full.
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You've got to know
who God has made you
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to be because
you're in a relationship,
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and if the one that you
love is hungry, it's your fault.
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Because you know what?
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If you're real hungry,
you'll eat out of a garbage can.
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If you're real hungry,
you'll say, give me a piece
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of that sandwich.
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I know you've been eating it,
but can I share your sandwich
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with you?
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And in the church we've
got too many folks sharing
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other folks' sandwiches
because you're hungry.
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Romance--oh, they're
going to buy this tape.
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[laughter] Praise
God for the ministry,
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come on, say Amen.
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Now, brothers, I
know when you get married
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things start changing.
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When you met at
Oakwood she was fine.
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She's still fine.
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She had it going on,
but now things are changing.
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But you've got to look at
her and say, baby, you're just
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as fine as you were
when I first met you.
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This is what you've got to do.
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I'm trying to help the brothers.
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What am I, Master
C, Master P, you know,
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I'm trying to help brothers.
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Tell your wife,
brothers, trying to help you.
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Come on, baby.
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Let's go to the mall.
00:17:03.13\00:17:04.76
Let's talk to Victoria
and see if she'll give us
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one of those secrets tonight.
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Come on, say Amen.
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You've got to let her know
that she's still, she's going
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to kill me tonight.
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You gotta let her know
that she's still the apple
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of your eye.
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You've got to affirm her.
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Sisters, he knows
he has Dunlap now.
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He knows that his
stomach done lap over his belt,
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are you hearing what I'm saying?
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But you gotta let him know,
baby, I still see that six-pack
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I saw ten years ago.
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Can't nobody else see
it, but baby, I see it.
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[applause] Let me
tell you a secret.
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Don't go out of
the house like this.
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What you do.
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I'm a 44 long suit.
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I wear a large size t-shirt.
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So to show off my six-pack,
even though I'm still Dunlap
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a little bit.
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Brother, I'm trying
to give you a secret.
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When you get home at
night, you can go to the store,
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go to Wal-Mart,
I'm talking about
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the married folk,
so your six-pack's
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still in shape,
you're a large t-shirt.
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Go buy you a small.
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[laughter] And put that
small--don't come out, now--
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put that small
t-shirt on, and then...
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Love bears all things.
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Believes all things.
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Hopes all things.
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Endures all things.
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Brothers, massage her feet.
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Sisters, scratch his back.
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Go out to dinner.
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Hang out together.
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Lay and lean on
the couch together.
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Laugh together.
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Romance together.
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Young people, be
nice to each other.
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Say kind things to one another.
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Recite poetry together.
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Go to church together.
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Ladies, when he invites you out
on a date, tell him you'll meet
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him at the Oakwood church
and sit together in the balcony,
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and then have
dinner in the cafeteria.
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Go to the duck pond together.
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Romance each other.
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You gotta learn how to romance
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each other--listen to me.
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Even in tough situations.
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Every marriage goes through it.
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You have a tough situation.
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My wife and I, 14 years ago,
went through a tough situation.
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Some freshmen, you may not know,
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Pastor and Mrs. Byrd,
this is not our third child
00:20:50.96\00:20:54.16
we're expecting,
this is our fourth.
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Our first-born daughter
was four and a half months.
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She was killed in a
tragic car accident.
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When I think about it now,
Christyn's going to grade 7,
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Caileigh's going to grade 5.
00:21:11.66\00:21:14.10
Caitlin, our oldest daughter,
she was blessed right here
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in this church.
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She would be going in
the academy this year.
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Not a day goes by that I
don't see a child 14 years old
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and I look and I
say, that would have been
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my daughter.
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Even in the tough times
you got to romance each other.
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The late great
preacher, some of the preachers
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may know him, E. B. Hill,
he used to come on television,
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and he tells the story
when he preached the eulogy
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at his wife's funeral.
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He talked about when he
had been on the road preaching,
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conducting revivals all across
the United States, and while he
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was doing all this,
and he was traveling,
00:22:13.40\00:22:15.60
and I think about my own
experience when I think about
00:22:15.60\00:22:19.20
E. B. Hill, because, you
know, I travel, I go here,
00:22:19.20\00:22:22.16
got to preach for Breath of
Life and all that kind of stuff.
00:22:22.16\00:22:25.16
And a lot of times I have to
leave my wife and my children
00:22:25.16\00:22:27.16
behind.
00:22:27.16\00:22:28.16
And so he talks about how
he was preaching and conducting
00:22:28.16\00:22:31.30
revivals, traveling from city
to city, and he and his wife
00:22:31.30\00:22:34.30
at the time were going through
a very tough time financially.
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One night he came home
from revival, just like tonight,
00:22:40.16\00:22:43.20
and when he walked
into their home, the house
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was dark.
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There were candles
all lit in the house.
00:22:52.10\00:22:56.40
His wife was trying to
protect him from some things.
00:22:56.40\00:23:01.16
He walked in and the
candles were lit everywhere
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in the house, in every room.
00:23:03.93\00:23:04.93
And then he walked
into the dining room
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and he saw a candlelight dinner.
00:23:07.36\00:23:09.36
He said, oh, my baby has fixed
a candlelight dinner for us.
00:23:09.36\00:23:17.20
He sat down at the
table, he was so proud,
00:23:17.20\00:23:20.96
smiling from ear to ear.
00:23:20.96\00:23:21.96
He had just finished preaching,
he had just come home, and his
00:23:21.96\00:23:24.36
wife had made them
a candlelight dinner.
00:23:24.36\00:23:26.36
He said, let me get up and
go to the bathroom, let me wash
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my hands.
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He went into the bathroom,
he flipped on the light switch,
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and he realized
the lights weren't on.
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He went throughout the whole
house, flipping light switches
00:23:43.13\00:23:46.43
on, flipping them
on, flipping them off,
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and it dawned him that
they didn't have the money
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to pay the light bill.
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He had been preaching,
he had been traveling,
00:23:54.93\00:23:57.03
they were going
through it financially.
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They didn't have the
money to pay the light bill.
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Rather than his
wife fuss at him and say,
00:24:03.53\00:24:07.83
"You're trifling,
you don't care about us,
00:24:07.83\00:24:11.96
you're away from home
working and we can't even pay
00:24:11.96\00:24:14.86
the light bill,"
she got some candles.
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Said, "Baby, let's
have a candlelight dinner.
00:24:18.80\00:24:26.06
We'll just make the best
out of this negative situation,
00:24:26.06\00:24:29.40
because we're in this
thing together." That's the type
00:24:29.40\00:24:34.53
of romance you've gotta
have, even in the tough times.
00:24:34.53\00:24:38.66
That's how you get
rid of relationship drama:
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reciprocity, responsibility,
respect and romance.
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The world is full
of folk who get married
00:24:49.33\00:24:51.90
for the wrong reasons.
00:24:51.90\00:24:52.90
Don't get married because you
feel pressure from other people.
00:24:52.90\00:24:56.00
Don't get married just
because you made a mistake
00:24:56.00\00:24:59.00
and got pregnant.
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Don't make two mistakes.
00:25:00.06\00:25:01.06
Two wrongs never made one right.
00:25:01.06\00:25:03.06
Don't get married just because
you think your biological clock
00:25:03.06\00:25:06.06
is ticking and
time is running out.
00:25:06.06\00:25:09.00
Let me tell you something:
marriage is more than that.
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You can do bad by yourself.
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I tell young people all
the time when they come to me
00:25:18.60\00:25:21.60
for counseling, it's
better to be happily unmarried
00:25:21.60\00:25:24.13
than to be unhappily married.
00:25:24.13\00:25:28.10
Let me tell you something.
00:25:28.10\00:25:31.96
After you love yourself
and love your spouse, love your
00:25:31.96\00:25:34.16
girlfriend, your boyfriend,
on Saturday night, if you're by
00:25:34.16\00:25:40.80
yourself, you and
Jesus get together.
00:25:40.80\00:25:45.20
Get you some popcorn,
get you a DVD, get a blanket,
00:25:45.20\00:25:49.36
and you and Jesus
snuggle up together.
00:25:49.36\00:25:52.00
And when somebody calls you
and asks you what you're doing,
00:25:52.00\00:25:56.73
tell them, I'm wrapped up,
tied up, tangled up in Jesus.
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He's all I need.
00:26:04.46\00:26:05.80
If you have to go to the mall
by yourself, then you and Jesus
00:26:05.80\00:26:10.96
go together.
00:26:10.96\00:26:11.96
If you have to eat dinner
by yourself, then you and Jesus
00:26:11.96\00:26:14.76
eat dinner together.
00:26:14.76\00:26:16.10
If you have to go
to the basketball game
00:26:16.10\00:26:18.10
or the football game
by yourself, you and Jesus
00:26:18.10\00:26:20.10
just go.
00:26:20.10\00:26:21.10
It'll be cheaper if
you and Jesus just go.
00:26:21.10\00:26:24.16
You won't have to by soda
and pizza and nachos and cheese.
00:26:24.16\00:26:27.36
Jesus is the best thing
that ever happened to you.
00:26:27.36\00:26:34.10
Before you look for a man
this year, before you look
00:26:34.10\00:26:36.10
for a woman this
year, look for Jesus.
00:26:36.10\00:26:39.10
If you're in a relationship
or in a marriage right now
00:26:39.10\00:26:42.83
and it's
crumbling, look to Jesus.
00:26:42.83\00:26:46.66
What a wonderful change in
my life has been wrought since
00:26:46.66\00:26:50.46
Jesus came into my heart.
00:26:50.46\00:26:51.96
You've got to make up your mind.
00:26:51.96\00:26:53.96
I'm tired of running
after people, I'm tired
00:26:53.96\00:26:55.96
of letting people play me,
I'm tired of all the games,
00:26:55.96\00:26:57.96
I'm tired of all the hurt.
00:26:57.96\00:26:59.16
If you want to love me,
then you've got to love me
00:26:59.16\00:27:01.56
like Jesus loves me.
00:27:01.56\00:27:05.86
I love you, Jesus.
00:27:05.86\00:27:10.50
I worship and adore you.
00:27:10.50\00:27:14.16
Too many of you tonight
are in relationship drama.
00:27:14.16\00:27:23.63
It's affecting you spiritually,
it's affecting you academically,
00:27:23.63\00:27:29.56
it's affecting you financially,
it's affecting you socially.
00:27:29.56\00:27:34.20
Too many of you are
in relationship drama.
00:27:34.20\00:27:37.06
And tonight you've got to
say goodbye, relationship drama.
00:27:37.06\00:27:43.40
How?
00:27:43.40\00:27:45.26
Reciprocity, responsibility,
respect, romance.
00:27:45.26\00:27:57.96
I love you, Jesus.
00:27:57.96\00:28:00.80
I worship and adore you.
00:28:00.80\00:28:07.03
I just want to tell you.
00:28:07.03\00:28:11.46
That I love him
more than anything.
00:28:11.46\00:28:18.30
Marry people do what married
people are supposed to do,
00:28:18.30\00:28:20.10
and unmarried people
only do what unmarried people
00:28:20.10\00:28:22.10
are supposed to do.
00:28:22.10\00:28:23.43
If you're unmarried,
quit doing permanent things
00:28:23.43\00:28:25.86
with temporary people.
00:28:25.86\00:28:27.10
No good man wants
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