(Theme Song) Jesus is worthy
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oh yes, he's
worthy worthy of all...
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all the praise (Theme)
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Pastor Byrd:
Tonight is "Goodbye,
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Relationship Drama."
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And so tonight we're going
to bowl down somebody's alley.
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I just hope you're
ready to receive what God
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asks for you.
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Everybody say, "What God
asks for me." Come on, "what God
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asks for me, it is for me."
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I Corinthians 13,
the Word of God says,
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and I read, "Though I
speak with theongues of men
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and of angels, and have not
charity, I am become as sounding
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brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
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And though I have the gift
of prophecy, and understand all
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mysteries, and all knowledge;
and though I have all faith,
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so that I could
remove mountains,
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and have not
charity, I am nothing.
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And though I bestow all
my goods to feed the poor,
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and though I give my body
to be burned, and have not
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charity, it
profiteth me nothing.
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Charity suffereth
long, and is kind;
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charity envieth not;
charity vaunteth not itself,
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is not puffed up, Love doth not
behave itself unseemly, seeketh
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not her own, is not easily
provoked, thinketh no evil;
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Love rejoiceth not in iniquity,
but rejoiceth in the truth;
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Beareth all things, believeth
all things, hopeth all things,
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endureth all things.
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Charity, love never faileth:
but whether there be prophecies,
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they shall fail;
whether there be tongues,
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they shall cease;
whether there be knowledge,
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it shall vanish away.
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For we know in part,
and we prophesy in part.
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But when that which is
perfect is come, then that which
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is in part shall be done away.
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When I was a child, I
spake as a child, I understood
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as a child, I
thought as a child:
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but when I became a man,
I put away childish things.
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For now we see through a glass,
darkly; but then face to face:
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now I know in part;
but then shall I know even
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as also I am known.
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And now abideth faith,
hope, and love, these three;
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but the greatest
of these is love.
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Goodbye, relationship drama.
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God, for the next couple of
moments, breathe continually
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in this sanctuary.
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We've sung and we've prayed
and we've heard a testimony,
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but now we need to
hear a word from you.
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Disappoint us not, God, speak
to thy people, speak to this
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community, speak to the
students, speak to those who
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are watching, speak,
Lord, for your servants here.
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And we'll be careful to
give you the praise, the honor
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and the glory.
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In Jesus' name.
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Amen.
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One of the most interesting
things to observe today
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are the relationships that
many people find themselves in.
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Because many people have never
had a blueprint or ever seen
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a positive relationship.
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Many people just mirror
what they have been exposed to.
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So then if they've only
seen drama-filled relationships,
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then that's what
they find themselves in.
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Drama-filled relationships.
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As I get older I observe
that many women have never been
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taught what a
godly wife is all about.
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Many men have never been taught
what being a godly husband
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is all about.
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And for some of you, when you
look through your family trees,
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it's hard to find a positive
marital relationship where you
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can all say, "I want to be
just like that." In fact, in our
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world, unlike the church,
the media celebrates things
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like having a child
first, we'll get married later.
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Living together first,
we'll get married later.
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But years ago, I don't
care what church you went to,
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I don't care what denomination
or ministry you were
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part of, if you lived
together as a man and a woman,
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emphasis on man and woman,
and you didn't have the same
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last name, it was wrong.
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Shacking was wrong.
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Cohabitation was wrong.
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But today it's become popular
to change mates as often as one
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changes magazine subscriptions.
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Drama fills relationships today.
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And if you engage in
drama in your relationship
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long enough, you'll
start believing it's normal.
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It's normal for me to
be treated like a dog.
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It's normal for me to be played.
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It's normal for me to deal
with physical and verbal abuse.
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And so what you is
abnormal you've made normal.
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Now, the Bible has a lot to say
about relationships, what to do
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and what not to do, and
in a positive relationship,
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a drama-free relationship,
love is supposed to
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be evident.
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We read from the Word of God
where Paul says love suffereth
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long and is kind.
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Love envieth not.
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Love vaunteth not itself, love
is not puffed up, love does not
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behave itself unseemly,
it seeketh not her own,
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it is not easily
provoked, it thinketh no evil.
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That's what love
is in a relationship.
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And if you don't want a
drama-filled relationship,
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there are four things tonight
that I want to share with you
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that you will need
in your relationship.
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Now, for the single
folks, this is prevention.
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For the married
folks, this is prescription.
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So everybody can get something
from Dr. Jesus tonight.
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Do I have a
witness in this place?
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Number one, reciprocity.
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Everybody say reciprocity.
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Aud: Reciprocity.
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PB: Any positive relationship
has to be one of reciprocity.
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Reciprocity means changing
things with others for mutual
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respect and benefit.
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Reciprocity means give and take.
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It means, you
bring the ice cream,
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I'll bring the cake.
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But I'm not going to bring
the ice cream and the cake.
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I bring the peanut
butter and you bring the jelly.
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But I'm not bringing both
the peanut butter and the jelly.
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Reciprocity means
you have to love her
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and she has to love you.
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Reciprocity means you
have to love him and he
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has to love you.
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And the first time you
know something is wrong in your
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relationship is when the person
that you're so madly in love
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with you can't even
get them to say the words.
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I love you.
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Well, I care about you.
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[laughter/applause] I love you.
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Well, I'm in like with you.
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There's something
wrong when you're the one
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always calling.
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They got your home
number, your work number,
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your cell number, but
you're always the one calling.
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There's
something wrong with that.
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You're the one that's
giving and they never give you
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anything.
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You're the one that's always
supporting and they are never
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there to support you.
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You're always running
behind them and they never
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run behind you.
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You ought to make
up in your mind that
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I'm coming out of this one-sided
relationship where I've always
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got to give something and
I'm never getting anything
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in return.
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If I call you, you can call me.
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If I e-mail you,
you can e-mail me.
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If I tweet you or Facebook you,
you can tweet and Facebook me.
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[applause] If I can
rub your feet, can I
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get a witness in this place?
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That's if you're
married, come on, say Amen.
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Then you can rub my feet.
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If I can buy gifts for you,
then you can buy gifts for me.
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If I can do nice
things for you, you can do
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nice things for me.
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You've got to make up in
your mind that I'm going to stop
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falling in love with
people who don't even like me.
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[aud response]
Because there's some folk
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up in here tonight, some
folk watching, who are in
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love with folk that
can barely stand you.
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Do I have a
witness in this place?
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But not only that,
let me bowl some more.
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By the time we get finished,
you're going to be like ouch,
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ouch, ouch.
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[laughter]
There needs to be some
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reciprocity when it
comes to your faith system.
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Your belief system.
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You want no drama
in your relationship?
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There needs to be some
reciprocity in your value
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system, your moral system,
your love and understanding
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for God and the things of God.
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I'm tired of
seeing folk, young people,
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with all this godly
promise on their lives,
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and as soon as
you meet somebody,
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they're not in church,
they don't want to hear anything
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about God, and you let them
bring you down to their level.
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Now, you're too
tired for church.
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You're too tired
for Wednesday night.
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You're too tired
for Sabbath school.
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You're too tired
for choir rehearsal.
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You don't want to give
any money to God because
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you're traveling the
world, hanging out with them,
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eating out with them,
buying any and everything,
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paying their rent.
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[aud response]
Paying their car note.
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I can't get a
witness up in this place.
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But God says, why don't you
bring them up to your level,
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why don't you say to
them, if you're going to be
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with me then you're going
to have to come to church.
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Because as for me and my house,
yeah, we gonna serve the Lord.
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[organ] I believe
in salvation through
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Jesus Christ, I believe in
the second coming, I believe
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that when Jesus comes back,
the dead in Christ are going
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to rise first.
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Then we which are
alive and remain are going to
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be caught up together with them
in the clouds to meet the Lord
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in the air.
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I believe in the Sabbath.
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I believe in the
Ten Commandments.
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I believe in commitment,
I believe in integrity,
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I believe I honesty, I
believe in good credit.
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[cheers/applause] You
see, the problem with many
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of us, listen to me good,
you think God has given you
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to them to change them.
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But let me tell you something.
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You can't change anybody.
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Only Jesus can do that.
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And you need to understand,
you ought to know by now,
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if they're not doing what
God says to, you should know
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they're not going
to do what you say to.
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Do I have a
witness in this place?
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So do me a favor, turn to
your neighbor and say, neighbor,
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stop playing yourself.
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Aud:
(unintelligible) PB: Brothers,
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when the relationship is of God,
sisters, when the relationship
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is of God, then your
goals, your dreams, your desires
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that God has placed in you
will also be the same goals,
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the same dreams and the
same desires that God will place
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in that spouse.
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There is no way that
you can want good credit
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and they don't.
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There is no way that you can
want salvation and they don't.
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There is no way that you
can want the best out of life
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and they don't, because
you're flesh of my flesh,
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bone of my bone.
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When God has put that
thing together, what hurts you
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hurts them.
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What makes you
happy makes them happy.
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There is reciprocity.
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Goodbye, relationship drama.
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Now, I'm going a little deeper.
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So you might as
well get bad with me.
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Now, I'll clap my
hands with DP and all that,
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but going to still
preach out of the Word.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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Still a little old
school in my preaching.
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Now, let me tell you something.
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I'm convinced, and you
don't get this everywhere,
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that Christians ought
to be with Christians.
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[applause] You
all don't like that,
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but that's all right.
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[applause]
Christians ought to marry
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Christians.
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Man: Tell it, Pastor.
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PB: Adventists [cheer/applause]
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PB: ought to date Adventists.
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[applause] PB:
Adventists, listen to me
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good, ought to marry Adventists.
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And notice I said Christians
first, and not Adventists first,
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because there are
some Seventh-day Adventists
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who are not Christians.
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[cheer/applause/organ]
PB: Now, if dogs can get
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with dogs, cats can get
with cats, and fish can get
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with fish, and birds can
get with birds, then Christians
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ought to get with Christians.
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Amos 3:3 says, "How
can two walk together
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unless they agree?"
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[cheer/applause] Who
you marry will very well
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impact where you spend eternity.
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I'm trying to help somebody.
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Somebody needs to say,
I don't have time to be
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trying to change anybody.
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You better get
changed and change
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before you get with me.
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I don't have
time for social work.
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Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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[cheer/applause]
Repeat after me.
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Say, everybody who loves
me Aud: Everybody who loves me
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PB: has to love me
Aud: has to love me
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PB: like He loves me.
00:15:02.80\00:15:04.16
Aud: like He loves me.
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PB: All right.
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Let's get some more.
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You all want some more?
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[aud response] PB: All right.
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Beareth all things, believeth
all things, hopeth all things,
00:15:12.83\00:15:15.63
endureth all things.
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Number two. Responsibility.
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Everybody say responsibility.
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Aud: Responsibility.
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PB: Trying to get you
out of relationship drama.
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Now, when we talk about
the marital relationship,
00:15:25.63\00:15:27.63
this is for those
who are married and those
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one day who will be there.
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We can look at
the first marriage
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in the Garden of
Eden between Adam and Eve.
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Adam and Eve.
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Not Adam and Steve.
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Adam and Eve.
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[applause] In Genesis 2
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[aud response/organ]
when God, listen to me,
00:15:46.60\00:15:48.60
listen to me, when
God deals with Adam,
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there are some things that
God does to Adam before God
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allows Adam to have a wife.
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God makes sure that
Adam deal with responsibility
00:16:01.63\00:16:07.80
by making sure Adam has a job.
00:16:07.80\00:16:10.80
[applause] Oh, you
all don't like that.
00:16:10.80\00:16:12.86
That's all right.
00:16:12.86\00:16:13.86
[applause] God gives Adam,
00:16:13.86\00:16:18.96
before he gets married,
dominion over the garden.
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Before Adam gets a
wife, God makes sure that Adam
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is responsible and
that Adam has a job.
00:16:30.63\00:16:35.03
I don't think you heard me.
00:16:35.03\00:16:36.03
[laughter]
Before Adam gets a wife,
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God makes sure that
Adam is responsible and Adam
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has a J-O-B.
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Ladies, you ought not set
your standard lower than God.
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If God is requiring
responsibility and employment,
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you ought to do it as well.
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Don't listen to all
that, well, I'm fittin' to.
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You ain't fittin' to do nothing.
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[laughter] I'm
thinking about it.
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I'm working on something.
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No, you need to
work, not working on.
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I'm tracing and
chasing my dream.
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I don't mind you chasing
your dream, but while you're
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chasing your dream you need
to be working a nine-to-five
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to support yourself
while you're chasing a dream.
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[applause] Now,
you all know, my wife
00:17:31.13\00:17:36.56
and I, we're about
to have another baby.
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Come on, say Amen.
00:17:38.56\00:17:39.56
[cheer/applause] And
I believe with all this
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money the church helps some
of you all get in school with,
00:17:44.76\00:17:47.20
I ought to get
some free babysitting.
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Come on, say Amen.
00:17:49.20\00:17:50.76
[cheer] Now [laughter]
Oh, you don't like that.
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Then don't come to that office
talking about Pastor Byrd, help
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me get in school, then, are
you hearing what I'm saying?
00:18:01.03\00:18:03.40
You understand what I'm saying.
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All right.
00:18:05.40\00:18:06.40
[organ/laughter] Reciprocity.
00:18:06.40\00:18:08.40
I ain't bringing the
ice cream and the cake.
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I need a witness in this place.
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[organ/applause] I'm
talking about, you got to
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work before you get married.
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When Christyn and Caileigh,
my two daughters, our two
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daughters, 12 and 10, are
of sufficient age to date,
00:18:19.86\00:18:23.23
listen to me good, of
sufficient age to date,
00:18:23.23\00:18:27.43
because they are not
of that age right now.
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I wish I had a
witness in this place.
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So all them little boys,
they are not of sufficient age
00:18:31.50\00:18:34.53
to date.
00:18:34.53\00:18:35.53
That's right; 12, 13,
14, 15, 16 and 17 years old,
00:18:35.53\00:18:43.36
that is too early to date.
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[applause] Amen.
00:18:49.36\00:18:50.36
Preach, Pastor Byrd.
00:18:50.36\00:18:51.36
I'm doing the best I can.
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[organ] You want
to go out on a date?
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Go out on a group date.
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[aud response] That's what
some of you all need to do.
00:19:00.46\00:19:02.73
[aud response] Group
date, σσ by date together.
00:19:02.73\00:19:06.23
Come on, say Amen.
00:19:06.23\00:19:07.23
Everybody go to
the cafe together.
00:19:07.23\00:19:09.33
Come on, say Amen.
00:19:09.33\00:19:11.36
[applause] Everybody be friends.
00:19:11.36\00:19:14.10
But when they are of sufficient
age to date, and then marry,
00:19:14.10\00:19:21.90
yes, I want them to love
the brother, and I want him
00:19:21.90\00:19:28.06
to love them, but I also
want the brother to be able
00:19:28.06\00:19:31.60
to take care of my girls.
00:19:31.60\00:19:33.33
That's love.
00:19:33.33\00:19:36.33
Responsibility.
00:19:36.33\00:19:38.86
Love beareth all things.
00:19:38.86\00:19:41.93
Love bears responsibility.
00:19:41.93\00:19:44.33
Before Adam got
married, God gave Adam a J-O-B.
00:19:44.33\00:19:53.03
Ladies, this next week you
walk on this campus and let your
00:19:53.03\00:19:56.56
motto be, if you want to be
with me, then you need a J-O-B.
00:19:56.56\00:20:03.23
Amen.
00:20:03.23\00:20:04.53
[applause] Now, I'm
not talking about somebody,
00:20:04.53\00:20:07.53
someone told me.
00:20:07.53\00:20:08.53
But those that
know me for a long time,
00:20:08.53\00:20:11.36
you will know my father
made me and my brother work.
00:20:11.36\00:20:13.83
He said, "I'm not gonna have
no lazy boys." That's why some
00:20:13.83\00:20:17.23
of you know me, I
have the strong work ethic
00:20:17.23\00:20:19.23
that I do.
00:20:19.23\00:20:20.23
When I graduated from
eighth grade in church school
00:20:20.23\00:20:22.26
at Greater Miami
Academy in Miami, Florida,
00:20:22.26\00:20:25.40
my daddy said after one
week staying at the house,
00:20:25.40\00:20:27.96
"You and Buster, Buddy
and Buster, y'all not staying
00:20:27.96\00:20:31.36
around this house watching
TV all summer." He said,
00:20:31.36\00:20:34.83
"I'm gonna drop you off at
the nearest shopping plaza,"
00:20:34.83\00:20:38.16
and he said, "Don't you
come home" - 14 years old,
00:20:38.16\00:20:42.20
now, he said, "Don't come
home until you got a job."
00:20:42.20\00:20:47.03
[applause] He dropped us
off, and back in those days
00:20:47.03\00:20:52.86
there were no cell phones.
00:20:52.86\00:20:55.10
[laughter] We
couldn't call anybody.
00:20:55.10\00:20:59.10
We went from place to place
in that shopping plaza until we
00:20:59.10\00:21:03.60
found a job, because my
daddy said, "Don't come home
00:21:03.60\00:21:07.63
without one." So
you know what we did?
00:21:07.63\00:21:12.20
We worked for Publix.
00:21:12.20\00:21:15.03
We bagged groceries.
00:21:15.03\00:21:16.80
I made $3.35 an hour.
00:21:16.80\00:21:22.06
The child labor law said you
can't work more than 16 hours
00:21:22.06\00:21:27.53
a week.
00:21:27.53\00:21:28.73
We got up at 5:30 every morning
in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida.
00:21:28.73\00:21:33.50
We got on the bus to go
to Miami, 35 miles away,
00:21:33.50\00:21:37.53
at 6:30 every morning.
00:21:37.53\00:21:40.13
We caught the bus, rode it
an hour, got to Greater Miami
00:21:40.13\00:21:43.46
Academy at 7:45, went to school
from 8 to 3:30, got back on
00:21:43.46\00:21:50.46
that bus, 3:30,
4:30 we were at home.
00:21:50.46\00:21:54.46
From 5 to 7:30 Monday through
Thursday evening, because we
00:21:54.46\00:21:58.76
couldn't work past 7:30
because we were under 16,
00:21:58.76\00:22:01.20
we worked.
00:22:01.20\00:22:03.43
Sunday, we worked.
00:22:03.43\00:22:07.13
And he instilled that within us.
00:22:07.13\00:22:10.36
I don't understand young men,
brothers, how you call yourself
00:22:10.36\00:22:13.66
a man and you
don't want to work.
00:22:13.66\00:22:17.20
[aud response] Now, listen,
it's not just for the brothers,
00:22:17.20\00:22:21.33
it's for the ladies too.
00:22:21.33\00:22:22.70
[applause/organ]
00:22:22.70\00:22:26.16
This is an
equal-opportunity sermon.
00:22:30.36\00:22:34.70
Ladies, you got
to be responsible.
00:22:34.70\00:22:38.30
Come on, now.
00:22:38.30\00:22:41.66
[aud response] Now, brothers,
you all gotta say Amen.
00:22:41.66\00:22:43.66
They were all shouting
when I was talking to y'all.
00:22:43.66\00:22:45.66
Y'all got to say Amen.
00:22:45.66\00:22:46.66
[cheer/applause]
Now, this is 2013.
00:22:46.66\00:22:51.66
They don't have to pay
for every date, you can pay
00:22:51.66\00:22:53.66
for one too.
00:22:53.66\00:22:54.66
Come on, say Amen.
00:22:54.66\00:22:56.80
[cheer/applause] Be responsible.
00:22:59.00\00:23:03.46
Brothers, handle your business.
00:23:03.46\00:23:12.43
If you're still a
mama's boy or a daddy's girl,
00:23:12.43\00:23:19.10
then you don't need
to be getting married.
00:23:19.10\00:23:21.10
Come on, say Amen.
00:23:21.10\00:23:23.73
[aud response] Love beareth all
things, believeth all things,
00:23:23.73\00:23:31.93
endureth all things.
00:23:31.93\00:23:33.10
You want some more?
00:23:33.10\00:23:35.03
Well, I'm going to
give it to you whether you
00:23:35.03\00:23:37.03
want it or not.
00:23:37.03\00:23:38.03
Number three, respect.
00:23:38.03\00:23:42.13
Everybody say respect.
00:23:42.13\00:23:43.53
Aud: Respect PB: Young people,
00:23:43.53\00:23:45.53
you've got to have
respect for yourself.
00:23:45.53\00:23:47.53
Older people, you've got
to have respect for yourself.
00:23:47.53\00:23:49.53
And for others.
00:23:49.53\00:23:50.53
Let me talk about respect.
00:23:50.53\00:23:52.76
Gotta hurry this on up,
now, got to get you back home.
00:23:52.76\00:23:56.50
Brothers, stop trying to holler
at every woman who walks by.
00:23:56.50\00:24:06.63
Now, .....
00:24:06.63\00:24:09.90
[laughter] (unintelligible)
talking about pss psst
00:24:09.90\00:24:12.96
[whispers] how
about that age-old one.
00:24:12.96\00:24:16.76
Hey, Red.
00:24:16.76\00:24:17.76
Ha, ha.
00:24:17.76\00:24:22.60
Now, I'm not
saying don't be a man.
00:24:22.60\00:24:25.70
Because we need you to be a man.
00:24:25.70\00:24:29.66
And you're going to be a man.
00:24:29.66\00:24:32.76
We've got enough
question marks and confusion.
00:24:32.76\00:24:34.83
Be a man.
00:24:34.83\00:24:36.83
But stop trying to
holler at every woman who comes
00:24:37.96\00:24:41.70
your way.
00:24:41.70\00:24:42.96
Because what will happen
is--listen to me good--you will
00:24:42.96\00:24:45.80
develop an
understanding of women where you
00:24:45.80\00:24:47.80
will look for a wife
or a girlfriend like you
00:24:47.80\00:24:49.80
look for a car.
00:24:49.80\00:24:50.80
Can I break that down?
00:24:50.80\00:24:54.70
You know, when you shop
for a car, the first thing
00:24:54.70\00:24:57.73
you do, you go to as
many car lots as possible.
00:24:57.73\00:25:01.06
Number two.
00:25:03.73\00:25:04.73
You like that, don't you?
00:25:04.73\00:25:06.86
Number two, you always want
to know how that body looks.
00:25:06.86\00:25:13.83
[aud response] Number three,
you really want to test drive
00:25:13.83\00:25:19.76
before purchasing.
00:25:19.76\00:25:22.23
[cheer] Number four,
you're very curious about
00:25:22.23\00:25:25.26
how much mileage it has
and how many previous owners
00:25:25.26\00:25:28.30
it has had.
00:25:28.30\00:25:29.30
[laughter/applause]
And number five, you want
00:25:29.30\00:25:36.30
the most out of it with
the least cost possible.
00:25:38.50\00:25:42.16
[aud response] Ladies,
do me a favor, in the choir,
00:25:45.33\00:25:47.33
do it now.
00:25:47.33\00:25:48.33
Turn to that brother and
say, "You can't drive this."
00:25:48.33\00:25:56.36
[laughter/applause] Tell
them, "I'm not for sale."
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PB: Before Adam got
married, God gave Adam a J-O-B.
00:28:00.20\00:28:07.90
Ladies, this next week
you walk on this campus
00:28:07.90\00:28:10.83
and let your motto be,
if you want to be with me,
00:28:10.83\00:28:15.13
then you need a J-O-B.
00:28:15.13\00:28:18.50
If you're still a
mama's boy or a daddy's girl,
00:28:20.83\00:28:27.53
then you don't need
to be getting married.
00:28:27.53\00:28:29.00
Come on, say Amen.
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