Hello, friends,
and welcome to another
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Wednesday Night Bible Study
here at the 3ABN Worship Center
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at A Sharper Focus.
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We thank you for taking the time
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to tune in to study
this important topic with us,
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and we are studying a topic
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that sometimes
often gets ignored,
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how to deal with
day-to-day issues,
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in particular this one is
called dealing with anger.
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What's the title?
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Dealing with
anger, a very real emotion
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that every one of us
at one point or another
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has to deal with.
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And in a moment we'll tell you
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where to get a
copy of the lesson,
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but for the next 57 minutes
and 5 seconds to be specific,
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we're going to walk through
what the Bible has to say
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and use some
real-life situations
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to find out how
we can gain strength
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to overcome these
issues that we all confront.
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But before we even
have our theme song
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and before I tell you where
to get a copy of the lesson,
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let's bow our heads and
invite the Lord to be with us.
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Our Father in
heaven, we thank You
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for the opportunity to
study Your Word tonight.
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We do pray that
You'll be with us,
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guide our hearts and
minds that we may grasp
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what Your Holy
Spirit teaches us,
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that we may know and understand
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that as we
comprehend intellectually
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that we'll find
strength also spiritually
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to live in
harmony with Your will.
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We do pray in Jesus' name. Amen.
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Now to get a copy
of lesson number 37,
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go to this
website, it is ASF.3ABN.org
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and download lesson
number 37, lesson number 37.
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Now lesson number 37 has...
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Actually, we're covering
about 11 questions tonight,
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but based on our syllabus
here, we may only cover 6,
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but we'll see what
we're able to cover tonight.
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We have an amazing opportunity
to walk through the scriptures
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to see what the
Word has to say to us.
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But before we do that,
we always sing a theme song.
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And our theme
song is on the screen.
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If you want to
join us, it is entitled,
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"Victory in Jesus."
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Let's sing this
theme song together.
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I heard an old, old story
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How the Savior came from glory
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How He gave His life on Calvary
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To save a wretch like me
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I heard about His groaning
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Of His precious blood's atoning
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Then I repented of my sins
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And won the victory
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O victory in Jesus
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My Savior forever
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He sought me and bought me
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With His redeeming blood
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He loved me ere I knew Him
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And all my love is due Him
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He plunged me to victory
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Beneath the cleansing flood
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I heard about a mansion
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He has built for me in glory
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And I heard about
the streets of gold
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Beyond the crystal sea
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About the angels singing
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And the old redemption story
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And some sweet
day I'll sing up there
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The song of victory
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Key change.
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O victory in Jesus
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My Savior forever
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He sought me and bought me
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With His redeeming blood
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He loved me ere I knew Him
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And all my love is due Him
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He plunged me to victory
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Beneath the cleansing flood
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He plunged me to victory
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Beneath the cleansing flood
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Amen.
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In the day-to-day that we live,
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you know, the
weather is changing
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and it's a little
warm here tonight,
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but I think we'll
be able to make it.
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In the day-to-day of our lives
we go through various emotions
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and among one of those
that the Bible addresses
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I think clear, fully of a
man by the name of Uzziah.
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Uzziah was a man in the Bible
that the Bible talks about,
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he became a king
when he was 16 years old,
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and he reigned for 52 years
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which means from
16 if you add 52,
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what does that come up with?
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What age did he
reign till? Sixty-eight.
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And all of his life,
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his successes were
contributed to the Lord
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leading in one aspect
of his life or the other,
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but at 68, he
made a turn in his life
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and the Bible
says, matter of fact,
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go with me to the story,
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let's look at
this very carefully,
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and it is in the
book of 2 Chronicles.
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Let me turn there
and tell you exactly
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where we can find our story.
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2 Chronicles,
here we are, Kings.
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You know, Chronicles used to be
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one of my least
favorite books in the Bible,
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but that is 1 Chronicles.
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But when you get
into 2 Chronicles
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and the stories
that you find there,
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here we are, that's Asa, Moab,
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okay, evaluation, this is...
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Let's go to 2 Chronicles 26.
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Okay, 2 Chronicles 26.
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And I remember
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reading a story of a person
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whose day started with one event
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that tumbled into another event
that tumbled into another event
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and each of the events
that followed the first event
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became deeper and
darker and more anger filled.
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And by the end of the day,
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with all the
things that tumbled,
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this individual traced all
of his anger during the day
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back to one singular event.
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And that one singular event,
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the way that he
responded to that
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was the indication
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that if he had only
responded to that first event
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with a clear mind,
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then all the other
events would not have tumbled
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the way that they did.
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Have you ever
been in the situation
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where you can trace the things
that happened during your day
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with one decision you
made early in the morning?
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Have you ever been there?
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Each of us has been
there in one way or the other.
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And we think about
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if we could make
decisions on issues of anger.
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Anger is more
than just being upset.
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I remember one day when
I was on my way to work,
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I was working at
a bank at the time,
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the Bank of
America in New York City,
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and it was a rainy day,
and I had a large umbrella.
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And I remember
walking down my steps,
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and as soon as I
crossed the street to my house,
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right across the street
there was a large church
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and I heard a man yell to
call his dog to come back.
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And I turned
around just in enough time
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to bend my
umbrell down and block it
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from a German
Shepherd attacking me.
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And I kept blocking every way
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that he was trying to come to me
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until the owner
called his dog back.
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And I was so upset.
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Then I went to the subway
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right there on
Fulton and Franklin
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for those of you that
are in Brooklyn, New York.
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And as I enter the subway,
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it's kind of a
terrible story to tell
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because He said, "Confession
is good for the soul,
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but hard on the reputation."
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I went down the subway,
walked through the turnstile
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where you pay your
fare ticket on the train,
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and as I'm
waiting on the platform
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to get on the train,
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a police officer walks
up to me and arrests me.
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And I said,
"Well, what have I done?"
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And, you know, police officers,
they don't explain anything.
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He said, "Come with me."
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And I went with him, I
was on my way to the bank,
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dressed up in my suit,
beginning my day of work,
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and instead of ending
up at Bank of America,
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I was down in a police
station in a holding cell,
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and I kept trying
to say to the police,
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"I've paid my fare.
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Here's the change
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from the dollar
that I gave him back."
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Then the fare was a
lot less than it is now.
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He still wouldn't believe me.
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He said, "Tell
that to the judge."
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So here I am in the
back of the police car
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and I remember in
my anger I said to him,
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"If I lose my job,
I'm coming after you."
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Now I mean, Okay, I wasn't...
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I wasn't a
pastor, I was very angry.
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Here I am dressed up in my suit
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talking to a
police officer that way,
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anyway I got down to the court,
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and about 11:30, I
couldn't make a phone call,
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didn't want to call my
job and tell my supervisor,
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"I'll be in late, I'm in jail."
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How do you say that?
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So I appeared before
the judge and he says,
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"Why are you here?"
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And I said,
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"Well, I told the police officer
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that I paid my fare,
but he said I didn't."
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He said, "What
proof do you have?"
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And I took out my change,
I said to the Your Honor,
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I said, "Well, here's the change
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from the fare that I paid."
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And he said, "Case
dismissed. Get out of my court."
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And I went to work
and I thought to myself,
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"Oh, I'm glad
nothing worse happened."
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But I traced that
response to that event
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back to me getting
angry and I thought to myself,
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"What if something
worse had happened?"
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And when we
think about the angers
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that we face in life,
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they don't always turn out
the way that they would like,
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but the Bible gives us counsel
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that helps us deal
with situations in life
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that will result in honor to God
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rather than in
detriment to ourselves.
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Honey, pass me that
tissue you have in you hand,
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it looks so good, I need it.
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Okay, give me that 'cause
I'm a little warm in here.
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I was thinking of
turn on the air on,
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but it is a little cool outside,
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and I said, "Well,
let me go ahead and see
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if I can make it through."
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But thank you very much,
I'm just going to dab my nose.
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Go with me to the
Book of Psalms 103.
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We're going to look at
some of these questions tonight
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on how to deal with anger.
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We're going to begin
with our first question,
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dealing with anger.
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How do we deal with anger?
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How do we find answers
when the anger is stronger
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than sometimes we
are able to handle,
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how do we deal with it?
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Let's begin with our
first question tonight.
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All right, question number one,
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"What does the Bible
reveal about God's Anger?"
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Kind of a strange way to begin,
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but the Bible does say
that the Lord has anger.
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"What does the Bible
reveal about God's Anger?"
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Let's go to Psalms 103:8-9.
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Psalms 103:8-9, let's
look at that together.
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Okay. Psalms 103:8-9.
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And by the way, all
you've got to do is...
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Here we are, Psalms 103:8-9,
here it's on the screen.
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Let's read the
first one together.
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The Bible says, are you ready?
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"The Lord is..." What?
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"Merciful..." And what else?
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"Gracious..."
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And then it says,
"Slow to anger..."
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And what else?
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"Abounding in mercy.
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He will not
always strive with us,
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nor will he keep His anger..."
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For how long?
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"Forever."
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So if we put the answer
there, what would you put in,
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how would you respond to that?
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Give me some
feedback. How would you respond?
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Slow to anger. Slow to anger.
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Does it say He gets angry?
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Yes, but does He
get angry quickly?
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No. He gets angry slowly.
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And, you know, if we
think about God getting angry,
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that's kind of...
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that's a hard thought
to wrap your head around
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because
oftentimes when we get angry,
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it's a different
emotion altogether.
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It's not a general anger.
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It's an anger that
has an emotion behind it.
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It's an anger that often
elevates our blood pressure,
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our heart rate, our
thoughts begin to change,
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we begin to feel
differently about our anger,
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and it often affects
everything we do after that.
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But the anger that God has,
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I can safely say
God's anger does not affect
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the way that He
deals with His children.
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Can you say amen to that?
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Because He also
says in his Word,
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"The Lord has not dealt
with us according to our sin."
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So He doesn't say, "I
can't wait to get you."
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Or "You wait..."
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Like my mother used to say.
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When I was being raised,
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she disciplined
me and she would say,
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"You wait till your dad get in."
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Or "You wait till
your father gets home."
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It's kind of like
this fearful looking
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for of the punishment to follow,
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but God doesn't
deal with us that way.
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He is slow to
anger, abounding in what?
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Mercy.
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What is mercy? What is mercy?
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What's the difference
between mercy and justice?
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What's the difference
between mercy and justice?
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Justice is what
a person asks for
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when they know they're innocent.
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Mercy is what a person asks for
when they know they are guilty.
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So the Lord seeing that
we are guilty in what we do,
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and it brings out anger in
Him based on what that may be,
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He's still abounding in mercy.
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And then it says, "He will
not always strive with us."
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Meaning the word strive there
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is different from
the word used in Genesis
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when the Bible says,
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"The Spirit will not
always strive with man."
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That's appealing to man's heart.
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The word there is better use,
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the Lord is not going
to always argue with us.
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He's not going to
always irritate us
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about what we have done.
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He deals with the
issue, then He moves on,
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but He moves our heart
to a point of repentance.
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But thank the Lord
He's slow to anger.
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Let's go to the next one.
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Let's go to question number two.
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And by the way, here's a slide,
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I've used slides to
illustrate some of these points.
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If the guys in
graphics could bring this up.
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What I've put in there a
slide, "Be slow to anger."
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And notice where
the piece of tape is.
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Where is it?
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What happens when we get angry?
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We yell.
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Huh? We yell.
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We yell, what else do we do?
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Okay, well, we use
words that we shouldn't use.
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Say mean things.
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Usually, our anger is
translated not only in words
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but sometimes in actions,
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but oftentimes, mostly in words.
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We express things
that we should not express.
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We say things that,
as one person once said,
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"Anger is sometimes
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like taking a feathered
pillow outside on a windy day
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and beating that pillow
till the feathers start flying
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in all different directions."
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Sometimes we say things in anger
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that we wish we can take back.
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And then the person that gave
me that illustration once said,
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"Okay, now go to the next day
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and try to gather all
those feathers back up."
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Can you do it?
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And so when we get
angry, we have to be careful
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with how we express ourselves
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because anger often
translates our emotions
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to a point where we
don't think carefully
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about what we
say before we say it.
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But the Lord doesn't ever
have to repent on what He says
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even when He gets angry with us.
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Let's go to number
two, let's go to number two.
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Question number two.
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Okay.
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"What kind of emotional
disposition should we have
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towards Anger?"
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"What kind of emotional
disposition should we have
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towards Anger?"
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In other words, how
should we respond to anger?
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What should we do? How
should we handle our anger?
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Psalm 145:8.
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Psalm 145:8, let's
look at that together.
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All right, Psalm 145:8,
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David the Psalmist
was in many situations
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and the reason why you
find that the first two text
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come from the Book of Psalms
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is David the
Psalmist was in situations
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where he could have been angry.
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He could have
easily lost his temper
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based on how the
moments and the situations
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that he was in.
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For example, can
you think of somebody
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that wasn't very nice to David?
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Who can you think of
if you think about him?
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Saul. Saul.
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Was he very nice to David?
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He was his King.
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Did David have opportunities
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where he could have
gotten back at Saul?
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Yes, he did.
But what did he say?
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"Touch not the Lord's
anointed and do my prophet..."
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What? "No harm."
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So in moments where
David could have reversed
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or responded to Saul
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for what Saul had done to David,
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David was not that kind of man.
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He allowed the Lord
to handle the matters
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that brought him to anger.
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He didn't do that.
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So let's look at what
advice he has given to us.
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Psalm 145 and let's
look at verse 8 together.
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Here it is, Psalm 145:8.
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It says, "The Lord is
gracious and full of..." What?
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"Full of compassion."
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He is what else also?
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"Slow to anger
and..." What else?
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"Great in mercy."
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So write that down.
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What do you find in
the character of God
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that's vitally important to us
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that we could
implement in our own lives?
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"Slow to anger."
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I think of things
that I saw growing up,
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I was raised in a household
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where the man that
was raising me, he...
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There was a particular show
on television he like to watch,
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it was called
"The Honeymooners."
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Old black and white.
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Oh, yeah.
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You remember "The Honeymooners"?
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What was, Norton? Yeah.
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Ralph Kramden. Yes.
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Jackie Gleason.
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And his wife's name was Alice.
Jackie Gleason's wife name.
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He was Ralph
Kramden in the program.
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And he would always...
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This program was
a constant lesson,
00:19:46.68\00:19:48.65
almost every episode
was a constant lesson
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on why you shouldn't get angry
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'cause it almost seemed in
like every show was he got angry
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for something or the other,
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either with
Norton or with his boss,
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or with his wife,
almost every episode,
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it seemed like the
entire purpose of the program
00:20:02.96\00:20:06.07
was how to get angry
and how to apologize.
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He did that often and often.
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And so there was
one particular episode
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where his wife was
trying to raise extra money
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to get him a
wonderful birthday present.
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And since she did not
work outside of the home,
00:20:22.78\00:20:26.22
she decided to take a
babysitting job on the side.
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But she didn't want her
husband to know about it
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because he wanted to
be the sole provider.
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So she was taking care
of her little boy named...
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Let's just say
Marcus was his name.
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And when he was on his way home,
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he overheard her on the
phone talking about Marcus,
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"Wait till my husband
leaves and come over afterwards.
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And then when he goes to work
then you could bring him over,"
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trying to make arrangements.
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And he walked
in and having heard
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came to the conclusion himself
00:20:57.62\00:20:59.62
what this
situation could have been.
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He was completely
wrong, completely utterly wrong
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about the
conclusions about his wife.
00:21:07.23\00:21:10.73
And when he found out about it,
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after losing his
temper to his wife,
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she said to him,
00:21:18.31\00:21:22.61
pins and
needles, needles and pins.
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An angry man is a
man... A happy man...
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An angry man is a man that...
Something to that effect.
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Because he could never
smile when he was angry.
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And after he lost
his complete composure
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over something that he
was completely wrong about,
00:21:38.89\00:21:41.63
she said, "Your
response should have been
00:21:41.66\00:21:43.00
completely the opposite."
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But in the same way, in
many of our situations in life,
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we are not slow to anger.
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We come to what they
call rush to judgment
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about certain circumstances.
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And we're not slow to anger,
00:21:52.74\00:21:54.18
but we are
often slow to forgive.
00:21:54.21\00:21:56.54
We're often slow to forget.
00:21:56.58\00:21:58.35
We rush to anger,
and we're slow to forget.
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And the thing that
also comes to my mind
00:22:01.45\00:22:03.72
when I go back to
the first text we had
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was David the Psalmist says,
00:22:07.32\00:22:09.86
"The Lord will not
hold His anger forever."
00:22:09.89\00:22:12.79
How many homes have
been divided for years
00:22:12.83\00:22:17.50
because people don't
get rid of their anger?
00:22:17.53\00:22:21.87
Many situations,
homes, jobs, companies,
00:22:21.90\00:22:24.67
relationships have been divided
because people have not held
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and dealt with
their anger accordingly.
00:22:28.31\00:22:30.11
But let's go to the next one.
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So here's a
slide that illustrates
00:22:31.51\00:22:34.25
this very particular
point, slow to anger.
00:22:34.28\00:22:37.12
And it comes out and
says, look at this, it says,
00:22:37.15\00:22:39.95
"Don't let anger become your..."
00:22:39.99\00:22:41.76
What?
00:22:41.79\00:22:43.12
"First reaction."
00:22:43.16\00:22:44.49
So under the
points you'll notice,
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the scriptural point, the
line under the scriptures there,
00:22:46.46\00:22:50.13
write that answer down
00:22:50.17\00:22:51.50
as to what the
scripture communicated to us.
00:22:51.53\00:22:54.30
And then under
the point number two,
00:22:54.34\00:22:57.51
write this point
down that's on the screen,
00:22:57.54\00:22:59.77
"Don't let anger
become your first reaction."
00:22:59.81\00:23:04.08
"Don't let anger
become your first reaction."
00:23:04.11\00:23:09.45
When anger is
your first reactions,
00:23:09.48\00:23:10.89
then what usually
happens after that
00:23:10.92\00:23:13.25
is something that we
are often not in control of.
00:23:13.29\00:23:16.26
"Don't let anger
become your first reaction."
00:23:16.29\00:23:21.20
Okay, let's go to number three.
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Let's go to
number three tonight.
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"What happens when anger
becomes an early reaction?"
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"What happens when anger
becomes an early reaction?"
00:23:35.28\00:23:40.08
We're going to go
to Proverbs 14:29.
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Proverbs 14:29.
00:23:43.82\00:23:47.49
Okay.
00:23:47.52\00:23:50.83
Let's look at that together.
00:23:50.86\00:23:53.16
Okay, here it is on
the screen. Proverbs 14:29.
00:23:53.19\00:23:57.57
It says, "He who is..."
Read that with me together.
00:23:57.60\00:24:01.20
"Slow to wrath has..." What?
00:24:01.24\00:24:04.57
"Great understanding, but
he who is impulsive exalts..."
00:24:04.61\00:24:10.15
What? "Exalts folly."
00:24:10.18\00:24:12.51
Write that down.
00:24:12.55\00:24:13.88
"He who is slow to wrath
has great understanding."
00:24:13.92\00:24:17.29
Now what does that mean?
00:24:17.32\00:24:19.32
Let me explain
that in greater detail.
00:24:19.35\00:24:22.86
This is talking about
evaluating a situation.
00:24:22.89\00:24:25.56
This is talking
about what you see
00:24:25.59\00:24:29.16
as compared to what is
a situation evaluation.
00:24:29.20\00:24:32.93
So a person
that is slow to wrath
00:24:32.97\00:24:35.24
has great understanding.
00:24:35.27\00:24:37.04
They often evaluate,
00:24:37.07\00:24:38.41
am I seeing what
I think I'm seeing?
00:24:38.44\00:24:41.61
Am I hearing what
I think I'm hearing?
00:24:41.64\00:24:44.81
They use great evaluation.
00:24:44.85\00:24:47.12
They assess the situation
00:24:47.15\00:24:48.58
before they
come to a conclusion.
00:24:48.62\00:24:50.49
And so when you
assess a situation,
00:24:50.52\00:24:52.42
it takes great understanding
00:24:52.45\00:24:54.22
to evaluate what
a person might see
00:24:54.26\00:24:57.13
and evaluate what
a person might hear
00:24:57.16\00:24:59.63
and then conclude
after that whether or not
00:24:59.66\00:25:01.90
what they thought is that way
or what they heard is that way.
00:25:01.93\00:25:06.37
That's why it
uses the phrase here,
00:25:06.40\00:25:08.14
"But he who is
impulsive exalts folly."
00:25:08.17\00:25:14.31
Have you ever had to apologize
for coming to a conclusion
00:25:14.34\00:25:17.91
about something
that was not that way?
00:25:17.95\00:25:21.52
Yes?
00:25:21.55\00:25:22.88
Have we all at one
point or the other?
00:25:22.92\00:25:25.05
More than once?
00:25:25.09\00:25:27.16
In many examples
we come to conclusions
00:25:27.19\00:25:29.02
about things that are
not the way they appear.
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As we have one of
the lesson folders here
00:25:32.23\00:25:35.20
that talks about the Sabbath.
00:25:35.23\00:25:36.56
On the front of the folder,
it has a hat that looks like
00:25:36.60\00:25:39.90
Abraham Lincoln's hat,
the brim and the height,
00:25:39.93\00:25:42.70
and they say,
"Measure, which one is longer?"
00:25:42.74\00:25:45.44
And it looks like the
height of the hat is longer,
00:25:45.47\00:25:48.91
but in fact the
brim, although thinner,
00:25:48.94\00:25:51.08
is actually longer
than the height, which means
00:25:51.11\00:25:53.42
things are not always
the way they appear to be.
00:25:53.45\00:25:56.72
So when we evaluate situations
00:25:56.75\00:25:58.72
what could have
resulted in anger
00:25:58.75\00:26:00.56
doesn't result in anger
00:26:00.59\00:26:01.92
because we've evaluated
what we've seen, all right.
00:26:01.96\00:26:05.19
So write this down,
here's another example.
00:26:05.23\00:26:08.26
If you put the answer
down, what did you put down
00:26:08.30\00:26:09.86
for question number three?
00:26:09.90\00:26:12.80
"What happens when anger
becomes an early reaction?"
00:26:12.83\00:26:15.67
What is it?
00:26:15.70\00:26:18.71
Don't be impulsive.
00:26:18.74\00:26:20.08
Don't be
impulsive. Don't be impulsive.
00:26:20.11\00:26:23.48
Sometimes people build up what
I refer to as an anger bank.
00:26:23.51\00:26:29.58
An anger bank...
00:26:29.62\00:26:30.95
No, think about this,
00:26:34.22\00:26:35.56
an anger bank is
really an important thing
00:26:35.59\00:26:37.73
that I want to
consider for a moment.
00:26:37.76\00:26:40.63
An anger bank is when a
person holds on to one situation
00:26:40.66\00:26:46.80
about a person and
then another thing happens
00:26:46.84\00:26:49.97
and they invest more
anger toward that individual
00:26:50.01\00:26:53.64
and another thing happens
and they invest more anger
00:26:53.68\00:26:57.11
in their anger bank
toward that individual.
00:26:57.15\00:26:59.45
And what happens is it
becomes easier and easier
00:26:59.48\00:27:02.58
for them to hear
the slightest thing
00:27:02.62\00:27:05.29
and begin to express anger
about a particular situation.
00:27:05.32\00:27:08.22
That's where
the impulse comes in
00:27:08.26\00:27:10.43
'cause the first thing they say
00:27:10.46\00:27:11.79
if you even
mention a person's name
00:27:11.83\00:27:13.16
before you even
finish what you have to say,
00:27:13.19\00:27:15.03
they're already angry
00:27:15.06\00:27:16.40
because they've
invested into that anger bank,
00:27:16.43\00:27:18.87
and it stays there and sits,
and it's like putting garbage
00:27:18.90\00:27:22.20
into a garbage bag and
you keep that garbage bag
00:27:22.24\00:27:25.04
by your bed or under
your desk or in your closet.
00:27:25.07\00:27:28.51
And after a while,
that anger begins to stink
00:27:28.54\00:27:31.95
and it doesn't take very much.
00:27:31.98\00:27:33.31
The moment you open that
anger bank or that garbage,
00:27:33.35\00:27:36.72
then the stench comes out
00:27:36.75\00:27:38.09
and all that has
to happen for you
00:27:38.12\00:27:40.12
to go from zero to
anger is just the thought
00:27:40.16\00:27:43.53
or the mention
somebody might say,
00:27:43.56\00:27:45.09
"Don't tell me so
and so said that."
00:27:45.13\00:27:48.03
And before you
even say what they said,
00:27:48.06\00:27:50.77
that person has
already become impulsive
00:27:50.80\00:27:53.87
and the reaction is not
one that brings glory to God.
00:27:53.90\00:27:56.40
Let me give you some examples.
00:27:56.44\00:27:58.11
I told you
earlier, go to 2 Chronicles,
00:27:58.14\00:28:00.38
but I didn't tell you what book.
00:28:00.41\00:28:02.08
Go to 2 Chronicles 26.
00:28:02.11\00:28:04.35
Let's look at some
of the examples here,
00:28:04.38\00:28:07.38
2 Chronicles 26, the
evaluation of Uzzaih.
00:28:07.42\00:28:13.25
The evaluation of Uzziah.
00:28:13.29\00:28:14.86
What we're going to see
00:28:18.89\00:28:20.40
is a man with a lot of successes
00:28:20.43\00:28:23.13
and then one moment
00:28:23.16\00:28:25.03
where he turns in
a different direction
00:28:25.07\00:28:27.04
and then it begins to...
00:28:27.07\00:28:28.40
and then what the Lord
reveals about his anger,
00:28:28.44\00:28:30.94
reveals about the condition
of his mind and of his heart.
00:28:30.97\00:28:35.51
Let's go ahead and see.
00:28:35.54\00:28:38.15
Let's go to verse
15. Let's go to verse 15.
00:28:38.18\00:28:43.28
Let's go to verse 15.
00:28:43.32\00:28:45.65
And I'm reading in the
New King James Version.
00:28:45.69\00:28:49.36
The earlier verses
talk about his successes,
00:28:49.39\00:28:53.93
how from a young man
the Lord blessed him,
00:28:53.96\00:28:58.37
and that's in verse 3,
00:28:58.40\00:28:59.73
he became a king
when he was 16 years old,
00:28:59.77\00:29:01.50
it talks about his
fame and his success
00:29:01.54\00:29:03.57
growing from
generation to generation.
00:29:03.61\00:29:05.84
But there's a change
that happens in verse 15,
00:29:05.87\00:29:08.18
let's look at this.
00:29:08.21\00:29:10.15
And it says, "And he
made devices in Jerusalem
00:29:10.18\00:29:13.98
invented by skillful men
00:29:14.02\00:29:16.62
to beyond the
towers and the corners
00:29:16.65\00:29:19.42
to shoot arrows
and large stones."
00:29:19.45\00:29:22.02
Talking about
his prowess in war.
00:29:22.06\00:29:24.26
And it says, "So his
fame spread far and wide
00:29:24.29\00:29:27.70
for he was
marvelously helped..."
00:29:27.73\00:29:29.96
And what's the next word?
00:29:30.00\00:29:32.90
The next phrase is,
"Till he became strong."
00:29:32.93\00:29:36.20
So all of his successes
00:29:36.24\00:29:38.11
caused him at one point
or the other in his life
00:29:38.14\00:29:41.64
to begin to rely
less and less on the Lord
00:29:41.68\00:29:45.38
because if you look earlier,
I need to support that point,
00:29:45.41\00:29:49.42
let's go back a...
00:29:49.45\00:29:53.82
Let's go back a few verses here
00:29:53.86\00:29:56.19
and see the
examples of how the Lord...
00:29:56.22\00:29:59.43
I said Chapter 20.
00:29:59.46\00:30:00.80
Oh, here it is,
Chapter 26 it was.
00:30:00.83\00:30:02.46
I said 27? Did I say 27?
00:30:02.50\00:30:04.77
I did say 26. Okay, good.
00:30:04.80\00:30:07.10
Let's look at...
00:30:07.14\00:30:09.30
Okay, verse 5
of 2 Chronicles 26,
00:30:14.34\00:30:18.81
verse 5, showing how
his early stages of his life
00:30:18.85\00:30:21.82
he relied on the Lord.
00:30:21.85\00:30:23.42
It says in verse 5,
00:30:23.45\00:30:24.79
"He sought God in
the days of Zechariah
00:30:24.82\00:30:27.59
who had understanding
in the visions of God."
00:30:27.62\00:30:30.73
And look what it says,
00:30:30.76\00:30:32.09
"And as long as he..." Did what?
00:30:32.13\00:30:34.30
"Sought the Lord,
God made him..." What?
00:30:34.33\00:30:36.46
"Prosper."
00:30:36.50\00:30:37.83
That was in the early
stages of his kingly reign.
00:30:37.87\00:30:41.50
But as you go further,
many, many years later,
00:30:41.54\00:30:44.07
going back to verse 15,
00:30:44.11\00:30:45.81
"So his fame spread far and wide
00:30:45.84\00:30:47.81
for he was
marvelously helped till..."
00:30:47.84\00:30:50.88
What happened?
"Till he became strong."
00:30:50.91\00:30:54.52
It was no longer
the Lord's strength,
00:30:54.55\00:30:55.98
but it was now his strength.
00:30:56.02\00:30:57.75
And then he looked
at all of his successes
00:30:57.79\00:31:00.09
and sometimes
you get to the place
00:31:00.12\00:31:01.46
where you're so successful
00:31:01.49\00:31:02.89
that you rely less
and less on the Lord.
00:31:02.92\00:31:05.06
And that's the
dangerous turning point
00:31:05.09\00:31:06.70
because look at the
next verse, verse 16.
00:31:06.73\00:31:09.96
It says, verse 16,
00:31:10.00\00:31:13.60
"But when he was
strong, his heart was..." What?
00:31:13.64\00:31:18.07
"Lifted up to his destruction
00:31:18.11\00:31:21.64
for he
transgressed against the Lord
00:31:21.68\00:31:24.68
his God by doing..." What?
00:31:24.71\00:31:27.32
"Entering the temple of the Lord
00:31:27.35\00:31:29.08
to burn incense on
the altar of incense."
00:31:29.12\00:31:33.15
Now was he a king
or was he a priest,
00:31:33.19\00:31:36.19
which one was he?
00:31:36.22\00:31:37.73
He was a king,
00:31:37.76\00:31:39.09
but he crossed the
line from being a king
00:31:39.13\00:31:41.86
to trying to carry out
00:31:41.90\00:31:44.70
the responsibilities of a priest
00:31:44.73\00:31:46.84
that God had never ordained,
00:31:46.87\00:31:48.20
that God had
never qualified him for,
00:31:48.24\00:31:50.81
that God never called him for.
00:31:50.84\00:31:54.71
So he decided to burn
incense on the altar of incense.
00:31:54.74\00:31:59.25
Now to understand clearly,
00:31:59.28\00:32:01.02
to burn incense,
you had to be a priest.
00:32:01.05\00:32:04.92
You couldn't be just anybody.
00:32:04.95\00:32:06.65
You couldn't just go
into the temple unless
00:32:06.69\00:32:08.22
that was what God
ordained you to do.
00:32:08.26\00:32:10.56
And look what
happened, verse 17,
00:32:10.59\00:32:12.89
we're gonna go down to the area
00:32:12.93\00:32:14.60
where anger begin to be
manifested in his own life.
00:32:14.63\00:32:19.33
"So as Uriah," verse 17,
"the priest went in after him
00:32:19.37\00:32:24.67
and with him were 80
priests of the Lord who were,"
00:32:24.71\00:32:29.18
what kind of men?
00:32:29.21\00:32:31.01
"Valiant men,
00:32:31.05\00:32:32.68
and they withstood King
Uzzaih and said to him,"
00:32:32.71\00:32:36.18
look at what they said.
00:32:36.22\00:32:37.85
"It is not for you, Uzziah,
to burn incense to the Lord
00:32:37.89\00:32:41.92
but for the
priests, the sons of Aaron
00:32:41.96\00:32:45.36
who are
consecrated to burn incense.
00:32:45.39\00:32:49.86
Get out of the sanctuary
for you have trespassed.
00:32:49.90\00:32:53.00
You shall have no
honor from the Lord God."
00:32:53.03\00:32:57.14
Now the key verses, verse
19, look at what happened.
00:32:57.17\00:33:02.34
"Then Uzziah became..." What?
00:33:02.38\00:33:06.15
Was he angry?
00:33:06.18\00:33:07.52
Yes.
00:33:07.55\00:33:08.98
Was he angry or was he furious?
00:33:09.02\00:33:11.72
He was beyond anger.
00:33:11.75\00:33:13.69
Now upset is where it starts.
00:33:13.72\00:33:16.86
He went beyond anger
to the point of fury.
00:33:16.89\00:33:19.96
Fury, another
word for fury is rage.
00:33:20.00\00:33:23.77
In other words, "I'm the
King, how dare you tell me,
00:33:23.80\00:33:29.37
as the king, what
I can and cannot do?"
00:33:29.40\00:33:31.44
That's where
Uzziah entered into,
00:33:31.47\00:33:34.51
he entered into
that kind of mindset
00:33:34.54\00:33:36.48
because to become furious.
00:33:36.51\00:33:38.38
But the priest
didn't come by themselves,
00:33:38.41\00:33:40.22
it was 80 priests,
00:33:40.25\00:33:41.68
so they were all in one accord
about what Uzziah had done.
00:33:41.72\00:33:45.65
They didn't come by themselves.
00:33:45.69\00:33:47.02
It wasn't a
one-to-one conversation.
00:33:47.06\00:33:48.39
In other words,
we discussed this.
00:33:48.42\00:33:49.76
We've got to all confront
him about what he had done.
00:33:49.79\00:33:52.39
And notice what happened.
00:33:52.43\00:33:54.36
And it says...
00:33:54.40\00:33:57.73
Where am I now?
00:33:57.77\00:33:59.10
Verse 18,
00:33:59.13\00:34:00.70
"And they withstood
king Uzziah and said to him,
00:34:00.74\00:34:03.84
'It is not for you, Uzziah,
to burn incense to the Lord
00:34:03.87\00:34:07.64
but for the
priests, the sons of Aaron
00:34:07.68\00:34:10.21
who are
consecrated to burn incense.
00:34:10.25\00:34:15.12
Get out of the sanctuary
for you have trespassed.
00:34:15.15\00:34:17.62
You shall have no
honor from the Lord God.'"
00:34:17.65\00:34:21.32
And then it says in verse
19, "Then Uzziah became furious
00:34:21.36\00:34:25.19
and he had a censer in
his hand to burn incense.
00:34:25.23\00:34:28.26
And while he was..." What?
00:34:28.30\00:34:30.87
"Angry with the priests,
leprosy broke out on..." Where?
00:34:30.90\00:34:36.00
"On his forehead."
00:34:36.04\00:34:37.51
Now this is a
very important point.
00:34:37.54\00:34:40.21
Before the priest in
the house of the Lord,
00:34:40.24\00:34:42.48
beside the incense altar
00:34:42.51\00:34:45.08
leprosy broke
out on his forehead.
00:34:45.11\00:34:47.02
Now what is that indicating?
00:34:47.05\00:34:48.85
What is that indicating?
00:34:48.88\00:34:50.22
The condition of his mind,
00:34:50.25\00:34:54.29
leprosy breaking
out on the forehead,
00:34:54.32\00:34:55.72
the condition of his mind,
00:34:55.76\00:34:57.23
the very place where
the anger was seated.
00:34:57.26\00:35:00.10
It was not what other
people thought about Uzzaih
00:35:00.13\00:35:02.90
but what Uzzaih
thought about himself.
00:35:02.93\00:35:05.13
The leprosy broke out
where his anger was expressed.
00:35:05.17\00:35:08.00
And you have
two men in the Bible
00:35:08.04\00:35:09.77
that are talked about majorly
when it comes to leprosy.
00:35:09.80\00:35:12.74
Do you remember
the one that dipped
00:35:12.77\00:35:14.11
in the Jordan seven
times, what was his name?
00:35:14.14\00:35:16.51
Naaman.
00:35:16.54\00:35:17.88
Naaman, the Bible says,
was a leper and 1 Kings 5,
00:35:17.91\00:35:21.42
"He was a leper until
God removed his leprosy."
00:35:21.45\00:35:25.35
But Uzziah was a
man of great success
00:35:25.39\00:35:28.12
until he
transgressed against the Lord,
00:35:28.16\00:35:31.39
burned incense
where he should not have,
00:35:31.43\00:35:33.29
became furious,
angry with the priest,
00:35:33.33\00:35:36.56
and look what
happened, look what happened.
00:35:36.60\00:35:39.30
Verse 20,
00:35:39.33\00:35:40.67
"And Azariah the chief priest
00:35:43.41\00:35:45.07
and all the
priests looked at him,
00:35:45.11\00:35:47.88
and there on his
forehead he was a leprous.
00:35:47.91\00:35:51.88
So they thrust
him out of that place.
00:35:51.91\00:35:54.15
Indeed he also..." What?
00:35:54.18\00:35:56.58
"He hurried to get out
00:35:56.62\00:35:57.95
because the
Lord had struck him."
00:35:57.99\00:35:59.62
In other words not only
were the priest upset with him,
00:35:59.65\00:36:03.16
but when the Lord
gets upset with you,
00:36:03.19\00:36:04.89
you're in a
different ballpark altogether.
00:36:04.93\00:36:07.63
You're in a
different ballpark altogether.
00:36:07.66\00:36:10.70
Was not only the priest
upset, but the Lord said,
00:36:10.73\00:36:13.60
"I didn't call
you to be a priest.
00:36:13.64\00:36:15.10
I didn't anoint
you to be a priest."
00:36:15.14\00:36:16.47
He had to be dedicated.
00:36:16.50\00:36:17.84
He wasn't
dedicated to be a priest.
00:36:17.87\00:36:19.97
He was dedicated...
00:36:20.01\00:36:21.34
He had the skills of a king
00:36:21.38\00:36:22.94
trying to do
the job of a priest.
00:36:22.98\00:36:24.78
In other words,
00:36:24.81\00:36:26.15
this is a very important story
because there are some people
00:36:26.18\00:36:28.05
that are in
companies or in churches,
00:36:28.08\00:36:30.49
and I've heard
some horror stories
00:36:30.52\00:36:31.85
about board meetings.
00:36:31.89\00:36:34.02
You know, people tell
many of our board members,
00:36:34.06\00:36:36.66
"You have board meeting tonight.
00:36:36.69\00:36:38.03
We're going to pray for you."
00:36:38.06\00:36:39.69
And we say, "We don't have
those kinds of board meetings."
00:36:39.73\00:36:42.66
Thank the Lord in all
the churches I've been in,
00:36:42.70\00:36:44.53
now we've had some
of that kind of board,
00:36:44.57\00:36:46.17
we've had members
that would eat pepper
00:36:46.20\00:36:47.90
before they come
to board meeting,
00:36:47.94\00:36:49.54
and I would tell,
00:36:49.57\00:36:50.91
we had one
particular guy in our church,
00:36:50.94\00:36:52.91
he was one of our elders,
00:36:52.94\00:36:54.28
and he liked a
lot of hot pepper.
00:36:54.31\00:36:57.28
And I could always tell
when he had pepper in his meal
00:36:57.31\00:36:59.81
and at board
meeting he would bring up
00:36:59.85\00:37:01.68
some of the most
controversial topics,
00:37:01.72\00:37:03.82
and I said, "Did you
have pepper tonight?"
00:37:03.85\00:37:06.89
And he'd break out and
say, "How did you know?"
00:37:06.92\00:37:08.39
I said, "I can tell."
00:37:08.42\00:37:09.96
Because what we eat
often affects our attitude.
00:37:09.99\00:37:13.29
So as time went on,
00:37:13.33\00:37:16.70
for the sake of
the board meetings,
00:37:16.73\00:37:18.07
but we didn't have
those kind of board meetings.
00:37:18.10\00:37:19.77
There are some
churches where people...
00:37:19.80\00:37:21.47
And I may be
talking to a situation
00:37:21.50\00:37:22.84
you have where some people,
00:37:22.87\00:37:24.21
when the nominating
committee comes around,
00:37:24.24\00:37:25.71
they don't get the
position they want,
00:37:25.74\00:37:27.78
and that becomes
in-fighting, they're angry.
00:37:27.81\00:37:30.28
I've been here for X amount
of years, I should be that.
00:37:30.31\00:37:34.88
But if God didn't
call you to be a priest,
00:37:34.92\00:37:37.79
be whatever God calls you to be.
00:37:37.82\00:37:39.39
Amen?
00:37:39.42\00:37:40.76
Somebody may be just a
deacon or an elder or the one
00:37:40.79\00:37:44.26
that directs the cars
were ever God called you,
00:37:44.29\00:37:46.86
be content there.
00:37:46.90\00:37:48.40
As the Apostle Paul says,
00:37:48.43\00:37:49.93
"Be content in whatsoever
state you are in." Be content.
00:37:49.96\00:37:53.60
And when we're content,
00:37:53.64\00:37:54.97
then we don't have to
deal with the issues of anger.
00:37:55.00\00:37:56.87
Let's go to the next
one. Let's go to the next one.
00:37:56.91\00:37:59.77
Uzziah, and by the way
00:37:59.81\00:38:01.98
the reason why this
story was intriguing to me,
00:38:02.01\00:38:04.55
just to give you
the last part of that,
00:38:04.58\00:38:07.62
go with me to
Isaiah very quickly.
00:38:07.65\00:38:09.15
Just since I opened that
door, I might as well give you
00:38:09.18\00:38:11.42
the other
component to this story.
00:38:11.45\00:38:13.25
Go to Isaiah 6 and
you'll see something
00:38:13.29\00:38:16.32
that may answer a
mystery for some of you
00:38:16.36\00:38:19.06
because there are
no stories in the Bible
00:38:19.09\00:38:21.03
that are disconnected.
00:38:21.06\00:38:22.40
Sometimes we find pieces of them
00:38:22.43\00:38:24.13
other places in scripture.
00:38:24.17\00:38:26.20
Look at this
story in particular,
00:38:26.23\00:38:27.57
you'll find that
true about this one.
00:38:27.60\00:38:30.11
Isaiah 6, I always
wondered about this verse
00:38:30.14\00:38:34.54
why Isaiah would
talk about Uzziah.
00:38:34.58\00:38:38.05
Look at verse one, it says,
00:38:38.08\00:38:39.51
"In the year that
King Uzziah died..."
00:38:39.55\00:38:42.95
Isaiah said, "I saw..." Who?
00:38:42.98\00:38:45.35
"The Lord sitting on a
throne high and lifted up,
00:38:45.39\00:38:50.73
and the train of
his rope did..." What?
00:38:50.76\00:38:53.56
"Filled the temple..."
00:38:53.60\00:38:55.40
I always wondered,
00:38:55.43\00:38:56.77
because when you go
through the rest of the chapter
00:38:56.80\00:38:58.73
or the rest of
the book of Isaiah,
00:38:58.77\00:39:00.97
you don't see
Uzziah mentioned anymore.
00:39:01.00\00:39:03.30
In another words, why
would he bring Uzziah out
00:39:03.34\00:39:05.91
when he talked about the year
00:39:05.94\00:39:07.28
that he saw the Lord sitting on
His throne high and lifted up?
00:39:07.31\00:39:10.05
And it dawned on me
00:39:10.08\00:39:11.41
as I was researching
this and studying into that,
00:39:11.45\00:39:14.35
the vision that Isaiah had...
00:39:14.38\00:39:15.75
This is very important.
00:39:15.78\00:39:17.12
The vision that God had
for Uzziah was taken from him
00:39:17.15\00:39:21.72
and given to Isaiah
00:39:21.76\00:39:24.19
because he defeated the purpose
that God had for his life
00:39:24.23\00:39:27.40
by getting angry
with the priests,
00:39:27.43\00:39:31.40
crossing over into an area
00:39:31.43\00:39:32.77
that God had never
ordained him to be in,
00:39:32.80\00:39:34.57
and then God adding
leprosy at the end of his life,
00:39:34.60\00:39:38.74
he lost favor with God.
00:39:38.77\00:39:40.58
And God gave
the vision to Isaiah
00:39:40.61\00:39:43.51
that he intended for Uzziah.
00:39:43.55\00:39:46.28
So it says in the
year that King Uzziah died,
00:39:46.31\00:39:49.02
the vision was
transferred to Isaiah.
00:39:49.05\00:39:51.92
So it really does matter
00:39:51.95\00:39:53.52
how we deal with
situations in life.
00:39:53.56\00:39:55.62
They could become a blessing
or our responses to them
00:39:55.66\00:39:58.43
can make them a tragedy.
00:39:58.46\00:40:00.70
Let's go to number four.
00:40:00.73\00:40:02.06
Is it number four? Number four.
00:40:02.10\00:40:04.43
And by the way,
here's the slide to the one
00:40:04.47\00:40:05.97
that goes with number three.
00:40:06.00\00:40:07.70
I kind of thought it
was kind of light hearted,
00:40:07.74\00:40:09.14
but it says, "Don't
let anger control you."
00:40:09.17\00:40:14.68
Just an amazing guy
arguing with his cellphone.
00:40:14.71\00:40:17.75
I don't know if
that's his counter or not,
00:40:17.78\00:40:19.11
but don't let anger control
you 'cause anger does control.
00:40:19.15\00:40:24.05
It's a powerful emotion.
00:40:24.09\00:40:25.42
Let's go to
number four, here it is,
00:40:28.29\00:40:29.76
question number four.
00:40:29.79\00:40:32.49
"When it comes to anger,
00:40:32.53\00:40:36.26
where should our focus be?"
00:40:36.30\00:40:38.43
When it comes to anger,
00:40:38.47\00:40:40.64
where should our focus be?
00:40:40.67\00:40:43.51
I think now that we
read the story of Uzziah,
00:40:43.54\00:40:46.61
it gives us an opportunity
to find the answer to that.
00:40:46.64\00:40:50.21
When it comes to anger,
where should our focus be?
00:40:50.25\00:40:53.78
Go to Proverbs 16:32.
00:40:53.82\00:40:57.65
Proverbs 16:32,
let's look at that.
00:40:57.69\00:41:02.92
Wow.
00:41:02.96\00:41:06.36
You'll notice in your syllabus
00:41:06.39\00:41:09.83
that we find text in Proverbs,
in Ecclesiastes, and Psalms,
00:41:09.86\00:41:15.57
three books that are
closely associated together.
00:41:15.60\00:41:18.81
Proverbs is a book of a wise man
00:41:18.84\00:41:22.44
who went through
all kinds of emotions,
00:41:22.48\00:41:25.25
all kinds of situations in life.
00:41:25.28\00:41:27.68
He's the one that says
there's a time to be born,
00:41:27.72\00:41:31.19
a time to die.
00:41:31.22\00:41:33.49
I got to look back at that
00:41:33.52\00:41:34.86
and if you put time to be angry,
00:41:34.89\00:41:37.89
let me pick at that very quickly
00:41:37.93\00:41:39.26
'cause right now as
I'm thinking about it,
00:41:39.29\00:41:40.83
but let's go to Proverbs.
00:41:40.86\00:41:42.46
Here it is, I'm looking at that.
00:41:42.50\00:41:45.67
Well, after we
answer the question,
00:41:45.70\00:41:47.04
we'll walk through
Ecclesiastes 3 together.
00:41:47.07\00:41:50.11
But look at the
answer, here it is.
00:41:50.14\00:41:51.84
Proverbs 16:32 says this.
00:41:51.87\00:41:54.61
"He who is..." What?
00:41:54.64\00:41:57.25
"Slow to anger is
better than the mighty..."
00:41:57.28\00:42:01.48
Wow.
00:42:01.52\00:42:02.85
"And he who rules his spirit
than he who takes a city."
00:42:02.88\00:42:07.76
That's a huge...
00:42:07.79\00:42:09.12
You know what that means?
00:42:09.16\00:42:11.23
That means if you can
control your emotions...
00:42:11.26\00:42:14.46
if you can
control your emotions,
00:42:14.50\00:42:17.60
you are better than
a person that's mighty.
00:42:17.63\00:42:20.14
If you can rule your spirit,
you are better than a person
00:42:20.17\00:42:24.87
that has been victorious
over bringing down a city,
00:42:24.91\00:42:27.91
and that's the
phrase that's used here,
00:42:27.94\00:42:29.28
that's the example
that's used, that takes a city,
00:42:29.31\00:42:31.75
because
throughout the Scriptures,
00:42:31.78\00:42:33.11
you had many men
that gain many victories.
00:42:33.15\00:42:36.08
Well, let me use
one as an example
00:42:36.12\00:42:37.75
that's not often
referred to in the Bible,
00:42:37.79\00:42:39.69
but in history,
00:42:39.72\00:42:41.06
a man by the name
of Alexander the Great.
00:42:41.09\00:42:44.39
He was one of the most
prolific generals in war
00:42:44.43\00:42:47.76
ever cited in history.
00:42:47.80\00:42:49.96
But he couldn't
rule his own spirit.
00:42:50.00\00:42:53.30
And his end came
00:42:53.34\00:42:54.67
at the result of
his own decisions.
00:42:54.70\00:42:56.40
At the end,
00:42:56.44\00:42:57.77
his end came as the result
of his own choices and habits.
00:42:57.81\00:43:01.28
He was a man that drank
himself to death, alcoholism.
00:43:01.31\00:43:05.15
You find people in the Bible...
00:43:05.18\00:43:07.42
I mean people in human history
00:43:07.45\00:43:09.12
that are hailed for the
great conquests that they have,
00:43:09.15\00:43:13.46
but they can't
rule their own spirit.
00:43:13.49\00:43:15.19
And so says it says,
00:43:15.22\00:43:16.56
"He who is slow to anger
is better than the mighty."
00:43:16.59\00:43:19.76
And you know what?
00:43:19.79\00:43:21.13
If you had a job
that was a very tense job,
00:43:21.16\00:43:25.07
who would you rather have,
00:43:25.10\00:43:26.43
and this is a
very important point,
00:43:26.47\00:43:27.80
who would you rather have,
a very knowledgeable person
00:43:27.84\00:43:31.31
or a person who's very calm?
00:43:31.34\00:43:36.68
Now you're all gonna to
say that now that we have that,
00:43:36.71\00:43:38.95
but if you think about it,
00:43:38.98\00:43:40.38
a person that is
very knowledgeable
00:43:40.42\00:43:42.42
or a person that's very calm?
00:43:42.45\00:43:44.75
Now the calm person,
you can teach knowledge,
00:43:44.79\00:43:48.09
but the person
that loses their temper,
00:43:48.12\00:43:50.09
you can't teach
them how to be calm.
00:43:50.13\00:43:52.19
It's completely different.
00:43:52.23\00:43:53.90
The person that's always
angry, "Would you calm down?"
00:43:53.93\00:43:58.60
You could see
them seething at me.
00:43:58.63\00:44:00.10
I've been in situations
00:44:00.14\00:44:01.47
where I could see a
person's face building,
00:44:01.50\00:44:03.41
they're just listening
00:44:03.44\00:44:04.77
and they're
building, and they're building,
00:44:04.81\00:44:06.14
and their emotions
are growing and growing,
00:44:06.17\00:44:07.51
and you think,
"Just relax, relax."
00:44:07.54\00:44:12.68
So it's better to
have a person that's calm
00:44:12.71\00:44:15.98
than a person
that's knowledgeable.
00:44:16.02\00:44:18.25
I go back to one example
and I use this illustration,
00:44:18.29\00:44:21.39
I had a situation many years ago
00:44:21.42\00:44:22.82
where I had to take
somebody at a leadership
00:44:22.86\00:44:24.89
because they
couldn't control their anger.
00:44:24.93\00:44:27.46
And their response to me was,
00:44:27.50\00:44:29.80
"But if you remove
me from my position,
00:44:29.83\00:44:32.03
who's gonna do the job?"
00:44:32.07\00:44:34.97
'Cause he had a
lot of knowledge,
00:44:35.00\00:44:36.34
"Who's gonna do?"
00:44:36.37\00:44:37.71
And they mention
all the things they did.
00:44:37.74\00:44:39.07
"I do this. I do...
Who's gonna do the job?"
00:44:39.11\00:44:40.84
And I said to the person,
00:44:40.88\00:44:42.28
"Oh, we could train
somebody to do the job,
00:44:42.31\00:44:44.51
you just don't
have the right spirit.
00:44:44.55\00:44:46.55
You're always angry.
People can't deal with you.
00:44:46.58\00:44:48.72
People can't
ask you a question."
00:44:48.75\00:44:51.42
And you know what?
00:44:51.45\00:44:52.79
It was the hardest thing to do.
00:44:52.82\00:44:54.86
Took that person
out of leadership,
00:44:54.89\00:44:56.69
but after working with him
for about a year to get calm,
00:44:56.73\00:45:00.53
to say it was the
same guy that ate pepper.
00:45:00.56\00:45:04.60
But after working with
that person to get him calm,
00:45:04.63\00:45:07.27
you know, to this
day, we're good friends,
00:45:07.30\00:45:09.37
periodically I get a phone call.
00:45:09.40\00:45:11.57
And when we left that
place that we were pastoring,
00:45:11.61\00:45:16.41
you know, oh, so happy,
00:45:16.44\00:45:18.55
that last year was
the best year of my life.
00:45:18.58\00:45:21.55
And sometimes people don't...
00:45:21.58\00:45:24.75
Wow, it's kind of...
00:45:24.79\00:45:26.12
I don't want to give any hints.
00:45:26.15\00:45:27.56
But if you're in leadership
00:45:27.59\00:45:29.62
and you can't
handle the stresses
00:45:29.66\00:45:31.49
and you get angry with people,
don't be in that position.
00:45:31.53\00:45:35.30
Can I get an amen?
00:45:35.33\00:45:36.80
Because some
people are well qualified,
00:45:36.83\00:45:38.87
but they cannot
control their spirit.
00:45:38.90\00:45:44.04
And because
they're well qualified,
00:45:44.07\00:45:45.51
they try to justify their anger.
00:45:45.54\00:45:48.94
"What do you want?"
00:45:48.98\00:45:50.45
"Okay, forget
about it, nothing."
00:45:50.48\00:45:53.28
"Couldn't you ask me earlier?
00:45:53.31\00:45:55.25
Why you are so last minute?"
00:45:55.28\00:45:56.62
When you're in leadership,
00:45:56.65\00:45:57.99
you have to learn how
to roll with the tide.
00:45:58.02\00:46:02.16
And remember that it's
more important to be a servant
00:46:02.19\00:46:06.49
than to be one that's served.
00:46:06.53\00:46:08.56
A servant spirit is
one that finds a way
00:46:08.60\00:46:11.83
to keep peace and
accomplish the purpose
00:46:11.87\00:46:13.80
rather than tell people
how they need to do things.
00:46:13.84\00:46:17.57
So be slow to anger.
00:46:17.61\00:46:19.81
Now here's the picture
I want to put to that one,
00:46:19.84\00:46:22.84
slow to anger.
00:46:22.88\00:46:25.21
I had to figure out and
put a lady in there somewhere.
00:46:25.25\00:46:28.12
Okay, look at this picture.
00:46:28.15\00:46:29.88
"Focus on controlling..." What?
00:46:29.92\00:46:32.19
"Your emotions."
00:46:32.22\00:46:34.62
You ever heard
the phrase "buttons"?
00:46:34.66\00:46:37.86
You ever heard people
say, "They press my buttons?"
00:46:37.89\00:46:42.66
Whose buttons are
these? Whose buttons are these?
00:46:42.70\00:46:45.93
These are my buttons.
00:46:45.97\00:46:49.17
I learned psychologically
that no one press your buttons,
00:46:49.20\00:46:53.88
those are your buttons.
00:46:53.91\00:46:56.68
That's your elevator.
00:46:56.71\00:46:58.05
You press the
up and down button,
00:46:58.08\00:46:59.41
nobody presses your buttons.
00:46:59.45\00:47:01.08
That's what I learned.
00:47:01.12\00:47:03.08
And I learned
this educating myself
00:47:03.12\00:47:05.55
into this particular point.
00:47:05.59\00:47:07.39
And that helped
me kind of lay down
00:47:07.42\00:47:10.43
blaming other people
about how I react to situations
00:47:10.46\00:47:13.40
because sometimes you say,
00:47:13.43\00:47:14.76
"Oh, just the thought
of the person drives me..."
00:47:14.80\00:47:18.30
You ever heard, "Just the
thought of that drives me..."
00:47:18.33\00:47:20.74
No, you drive yourself.
00:47:20.77\00:47:22.70
You think about it
00:47:22.74\00:47:24.07
and you drive yourself
to a place you shouldn't be.
00:47:24.11\00:47:26.37
Very real emotion.
00:47:26.41\00:47:28.28
You end up there and
you wonder how I got there
00:47:28.31\00:47:30.51
because of the way you
responded to that situation.
00:47:30.55\00:47:32.75
So look at that,
00:47:32.78\00:47:34.42
let's write that
down, and here's the answer.
00:47:34.45\00:47:36.42
Did you write that
down under number four?
00:47:36.45\00:47:38.75
Focus on
controlling whose emotions?
00:47:38.79\00:47:43.66
'Cause you can't
control anybody else's.
00:47:43.69\00:47:46.23
You can't, don't try to do that.
00:47:46.26\00:47:47.83
If you try to control
other people's emotions,
00:47:47.86\00:47:50.53
it makes you emotional
00:47:50.57\00:47:52.90
because you're focusing so
much on fixing that individual.
00:47:52.93\00:47:56.84
And sometimes...
00:47:56.87\00:47:58.27
This is another one,
00:47:58.31\00:47:59.87
I'm falling into the
counseling mode here.
00:47:59.91\00:48:02.18
Sometimes a person
could be completely silent
00:48:02.21\00:48:07.45
and you're
wracking your mind as to.
00:48:07.48\00:48:09.92
"Are they angry with me?
00:48:09.95\00:48:11.55
Did I do something?
00:48:11.59\00:48:13.19
Why are they upset?
00:48:13.22\00:48:14.56
Why am I getting
the silent treatment?
00:48:14.59\00:48:16.06
What's going on?"
00:48:16.09\00:48:17.43
And you work your
way into a situation
00:48:17.46\00:48:20.73
where you might say to a person,
00:48:20.76\00:48:24.03
"Lorraine, was it
something I did to you,
00:48:24.07\00:48:26.40
is that's why are you so quiet?"
00:48:26.43\00:48:28.60
And then all of a sudden
00:48:28.64\00:48:29.97
you give them
license to tag you.
00:48:30.01\00:48:32.51
"Yeah, last week, when
you walked past me in church
00:48:32.54\00:48:34.84
and didn't say anything."
00:48:34.88\00:48:36.71
"When was that?"
And you don't remember,
00:48:36.75\00:48:38.91
so be really
careful when a person...
00:48:38.95\00:48:41.68
No, really, ain't that right?
00:48:41.72\00:48:43.75
When you ask a person,
00:48:43.79\00:48:45.12
"What did I do
to make you upset?"
00:48:45.15\00:48:46.86
You right away
admit you did something,
00:48:46.89\00:48:49.42
but you say, "What did I do?"
00:48:49.46\00:48:51.19
And they come out,
"Okay, what do they do?
00:48:51.23\00:48:53.66
It was your cologne. I
don't like your cologne."
00:48:53.70\00:48:55.70
It was the way you
looked at me at Sabbath school.
00:48:55.73\00:48:57.53
It was the way you
didn't invite me to potluck.
00:48:57.57\00:48:59.13
You left me out at...
00:48:59.17\00:49:00.50
You know, people tag
you, so really be careful
00:49:00.54\00:49:03.44
not to insinuate
yourself into a situation
00:49:03.47\00:49:05.57
just because you're
wondering what's going on.
00:49:05.61\00:49:10.11
Control your own emotions.
00:49:10.15\00:49:12.48
Let's go to the next one.
00:49:12.51\00:49:13.92
Number five.
00:49:13.95\00:49:15.42
Let's go to the next one.
00:49:15.45\00:49:16.79
Now I'm stretching
this for a particular reason
00:49:16.82\00:49:18.45
because I noticed...
00:49:18.49\00:49:19.82
and I'm stretching this
for a particular reason.
00:49:19.85\00:49:22.06
I had 11 questions
00:49:22.09\00:49:23.76
and I realized I sent only
the one with six questions.
00:49:23.79\00:49:27.36
So you didn't get
the syllabus with 11,
00:49:27.40\00:49:29.46
we don't have
the syllabus with 11,
00:49:29.50\00:49:31.43
so we're gonna just go
ahead and cover the six tonight
00:49:31.47\00:49:33.74
and cover the
others at another time.
00:49:33.77\00:49:35.80
Number five, "How does
the Bible describe those
00:49:35.84\00:49:40.51
that cannot control anger?"
00:49:40.54\00:49:45.91
Wow.
00:49:45.95\00:49:47.48
Let's not rush.
00:49:47.52\00:49:50.99
Okay, Ecclesiastes
7 and look at verse 9.
00:49:51.02\00:49:56.12
Ecclesiastes 7 and
let's look at verse 9.
00:49:56.16\00:50:01.23
Are you ready?
00:50:01.26\00:50:02.66
Write something down here.
00:50:02.70\00:50:06.43
Okay, here it is.
00:50:06.47\00:50:11.47
Let's read this together.
This is an everybody text.
00:50:11.51\00:50:15.21
It's on the
screen, are you ready?
00:50:15.24\00:50:16.88
"Do not hasten in
your spirit to be..." What?
00:50:16.91\00:50:20.88
"To be angry, for
anger rests in..." Where?
00:50:20.92\00:50:24.65
"The bosom of fools."
00:50:24.69\00:50:27.69
I don't want to
read that by myself
00:50:27.72\00:50:29.89
because you know when
you read it by yourself
00:50:29.92\00:50:31.69
and you tend to
look around the room,
00:50:31.73\00:50:33.09
people talk, "Is
he calling me a fool?"
00:50:33.13\00:50:36.16
So even in my sermon,
sometimes I talk straight out
00:50:36.20\00:50:40.54
because there's certain text
in the Bible, when you read,
00:50:40.57\00:50:42.47
you just don't look at anybody
00:50:42.50\00:50:44.07
because, "He looked
right at me when he said that."
00:50:44.11\00:50:47.44
So that's why I said,
"Let's all read it together."
00:50:47.48\00:50:48.98
So we're all looking
at the screen together
00:50:49.01\00:50:51.41
because this is something
that we all don't know.
00:50:51.45\00:50:54.12
Why did the Bible say
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that anger rests
in the bosom of fools?
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You know why?
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When you look at
the wise man Solomon,
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Solomon gave so
much counsel as to...
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If we could use him today
in the context of counsel,
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you can put together
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one of the most
psychologically solid books
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if you put
together categorically
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what Solomon talked about
in Proverbs and Ecclesiastics.
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But the reason why he says
it rest in the bosom of fools is
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because fools often
don't evaluate situations
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before they react to that.
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They fly off the handle.
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They don't control their spirit.
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They want to show their anger.
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They want to show how they
could deal with the situation.
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They don't evaluate
things, and therefore,
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they are analyzed in such a way
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that the Bible
uses the word fools.
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Now let's soften that
by saying foolish, amen?
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'Cause that sounds a
little bit more palatable.
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In other words, it's foolish...
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it's foolish when a person
hastens in his or her spirit
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to become angry.
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It's a foolish decision to make
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because oftentimes
you have to try to reverse
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and try to find out
how could I fix this.
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And I tell you it's
better to be slow and not angry
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than to be angry and
try to find a way to fix it
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because sometimes
people get angry...
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And I remember
being in a situation
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where I knew that two people
were angry with each other,
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and I got them
together to try to resolve it.
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And it was the hardest thing
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because you'll find out as
we go further in our lesson
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and we're not going
to cover this tonight,
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but I'll plant the seed,
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one of the first things
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you have to do to
resolve issues of anger,
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what's the first
thing you have to do
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to resolve an issue of anger?
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Pray?
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You have to humble yourself.
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Pray, humble
yourself, that's good.
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What's the first
thing you have to do?
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Let's just use the
different examples.
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What's the first thing
the alcoholic has to do
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to find a way of
out of alcoholism?
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Acknowledge it.
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Acknowledge that
there is an anger problem.
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You know, they
even have programs,
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what do they call them?
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Anger management.
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So unless you acknowledge
that there's an issue,
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you wouldn't even think that
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there's a need to
deal with the issue.
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But when you acknowledge
that there is an issue,
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then that's the first step
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in being able to
resolve the issue.
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So let's put this answer down.
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And I want to give you a slide,
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so do not hasten in your spirit
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to be angry for anger
rests in the bosom of fools.
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What did you put
down? What did you put down?
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I'm interested.
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What did you write
down for your response?
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Wow, somebody said
they wrote fool, one word.
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You cannot control anger for
that's a foolish thing to do.
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Let me give you some
advice for number five,
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look at the slide
that I put to this one.
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Okay, "Don't resort to yelling."
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Now I don't know why I
chose a woman yelling at a man,
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but that was the
picture that I found.
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And if you notice the
graphic artist who did the job,
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it looks like his
head is being bent convex
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because she's
letting him have it.
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Okay, don't resort to yelling
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because anger is manifested
in so many different ways,
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matter of fact,
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do you remember
what happened when...
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I'll tell you...
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When Cain
killed, how did it begin?
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With anger, it began with anger.
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And you look at the
examples in the scriptures,
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just do yourself a
favor and even just type
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that word in
"anger," and you'll find that
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there are 234 results
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about just the word anger.
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Not angry, not
the other derivatives,
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not the synonyms to
anger but just anger itself,
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234 responses.
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Don't let anger allow
you to resort to yelling.
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And let's go to the
last one for tonight.
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Okay, here it is.
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"What is the best method
to not plant anger seeds?"
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What is the best method
not to plant anger seeds?
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I remember hearing
this one growing up.
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I think all parents
tell this to their children.
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Okay, don't say
yeah, Proverbs 15:1.
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We all know that one.
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A lot of parents say
this to their children.
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Let's read this last
one together, here it is.
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"A..." What?
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"Soft answer does..." What?
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"Turns away wrath, but a
harsh word..." Does what?
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"Stirs up anger."
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Write that down.
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What's the best method
not to plant anger seeds?
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How is it?
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A soft answer.
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Now some people have the art
of saying angry things softly.
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They say, "I don't like you.
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I just don't like you."
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They don't raise their voices.
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You could tell
somebody off softly,
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"Stay away from me."
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But that's not
what I'm suggesting.
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It didn't say, "Say
your angry words softly."
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It's says a soft
answer, not a soft approach.
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There's a difference.
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I want to make that clear
because sometimes you think,
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"Well, if I say it softer..."
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"I just don't
like you, I never did."
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It's not saying to say that.
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It says soft answer, right?
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You know, let me just
stop, but a soft answer.
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It's not what you
say but how you say it.
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No, but also it's what you say
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'cause that's what
I'm just illustrating,
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it's not just what you say,
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it's not just how you say
it but it's why you say it.
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That's what is
being illustrated here.
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One of the biggest
misconceptions in life is,
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"Sticks and stones
may break my bones..."
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What?
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"Words will never harm me."
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Oh, that is not true.
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The anti-bullying law
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because the words, young people,
00:57:15.70\00:57:17.97
they attack each
other on Facebook.
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Some young people
have committed suicide
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because of words
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that were not
verbally expressed but typed.
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So I got to give you
this picture before we go.
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Speak kindly, let's
say that together, what?
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Speak kindly.
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When you speak kindly,
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your words don't
take on a different life.
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When you speak kindly.
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So like instead of...
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Here's an illustration,
instead of saying I'm sorry,
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say I apologize.
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Begin there and
only the presence of God
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can turn an
apology into godly sorrow.
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Well, we've laid the foundation
about the topic about anger,
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but we know if it doesn't
make sense, keep studying,
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one day it will come
into a sharper focus.
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God bless you.
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