Participants: Doug Batchelor
Series Code: AFP
Program Code: AFP000171A
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00:03 AMAZING FACTS MINISTRY.
00:11 >>IS MONOGAMY OVER? 00:14 WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH A CULTURE WHERE THE PROGRAM AND 00:17 THE MOVIES IS ALL ABOUT SEX IS LIKE SHAKING HANDS. 00:21 ISN'T THAT RIGHT? >>FOR OVER 40 YEARS AMAZING 00:25 FACTS HAS BEEN DEDICATED TO SHARING GOD'S WORD 00:28 THROUGH MEDIA. THIS PROGRAM FEATURES HIGHLIGHTS 00:31 FROM SOME OF OUR BEST TELEVISION BROADCASTS. 00:34 WE INVITE YOU TO SIT BACK AND ENJOY THIS EDITION OF 00:37 AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS . >>A RECENT CNN REPORT: 00:47 MORE MILLENNIALS ARE SAYING 'I DON'T'. 00:51 TODAY'S YOUNG ADULTS ARE ON TRACK TO HAVE THE LOWEST RATES 00:54 OF MARRIAGE BY AGE 40 COMPARED TO ANY PREVIOUS GENERATION - 00:59 ALMOST TWICE AS LOW AS THE GEN X-ERS - THE PREVIOUS GENERATION. 01:03 IF THE CURRENT PACE CONTINUES, MORE THAN 30-PERCENT OF 01:07 MILLENNIAL WOMEN WILL REMAIN UNMARRIED BY AGE 40. 01:11 LOWEST PERCENT OF MARRIAGE - NOW, SOME OF THE REASONS FOR 01:16 THIS ARE MANY ARE LIVING TOGETHER WITHOUT GETTING MARRIED 01:19 - SORT OF JUST TRYING IT OUT. THEY'RE DOING IT - SORT OF DOING 01:23 THE FAMILY THING WITHOUT THE COVENANT. THIS IS ALSO TRUE IN 01:27 ENGLAND, EUROPE, MOST OF THE WESTERN WORLD - RATES OF 01:31 MARRIAGE ARE GOING DOWN. ONE REASON IS THE SACREDNESS AND 01:35 THE SIGNIFICANCE OF MARRIAGE IS UNDER ATTACK. 01:38 IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, IF ANYBODY AND ANYTHING CAN GET 01:42 MARRIED - IF ONE MAN CAN MARRY FOUR SISTERS - IF TWO MEN CAN 01:46 GET MARRIED OR TWO WOMEN CAN GET MARRIED OR ONE WOMAN AND TWO 01:48 MEN, THE RELEVANCE OF MARRIAGE JUST STARTS TO BE DELUDED SO IT 01:53 JUST DOESN'T SEEM AS IMPORTANT AS IT USED TO BE. 01:56 IT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT COVENANT - BIG OCCASION - 01:58 WEDDINGS - THE BIBLE BEGINS AND IT ENDS IN A WEDDING AND IT'S 02:02 SOMETHING SACRED. IT'S - THIS BOOK IS CALLED - 02:05 YEP, IT SAYS IT RIGHT THERE - HOLY BIBLE. 02:07 'HOLY' MEANS 'SET ASIDE; SACRED; UNIQUE; TO BE TREATED AS 02:10 SPECIAL.' MARRIAGE IS CALLED 'HOLY MATRIMONY'. 02:14 IT IS A HOLY COVENANT RELATIONSHIP, BUT THAT 02:19 CONCEPT IS BEING LOST BY OUR CULTURE. 02:23 IT'S INTERESTING, ALSO, TO NOTE THAT MARRIAGE RATIOS ARE 02:27 DECLINING AT THE SAME RATE AS CHRISTIANITY IS DECLINING. 02:32 YOU'VE PROBABLY SEEN SOME OF THE SURVEYS IN THE LAST DECADE, THAT 02:36 HAVE BEEN MADE, THAT SHOW THAT PEOPLE BELIEVING IN GOD IN NORTH 02:39 AMERICA - IT'S BECOMING MORE SECULAR, MORE ATHEISTIC - AT THE 02:42 SAME RATE, THE IMPORTANCE OF MARRIAGE IS GOING DOWN BECAUSE 02:46 MARRIAGE IS A BIBLICAL INSTITUTION. 02:48 IT'S GOD'S IDEA, AMEN? GENESIS 2, VERSE 24, "THEREFORE 02:53 A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS 02:57 WIFE, AND THEY SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH." WE'RE TALKING ABOUT 03:01 BEING TOGETHER FOR LIFE. NOW, THAT MEANS TOGETHER FOR 03:05 LIFE AS IN DURATION AND TOGETHER FOR LIFE AS IN ABUNDANT LIFE. 03:09 SO YOU'LL NOTICE IN GENESIS 2 IT SAYS A MAN LEAVES HIS FATHER AND 03:13 HIS MOTHER AND IS JOINED TO HIS WIFE. 03:15 SO YOU'VE GOT FATHER AND MOTHER - THAT'S THE ARRANGEMENT - 03:17 MALE/FEMALE - THAT'S THE ARRANGEMENT - THAT'S THE GENESIS 03:21 ARRANGEMENT, REGARDLESS OF WHAT MIGHT BE HAPPENING IN SOME 03:24 COUNTRIES OR EVEN OUR OWN COUNTRY, AND I THINK THAT THIS 03:28 IS A VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH THAT NEEDS TO BE REITERATED. 03:31 NOW WE'RE ENTERING ONTO THE REMAINING POINTS. 03:34 POINT #1 - I'VE TRUNCATED WHAT COULD BE A VERY LONG SERIES ON 03:39 MARRIAGE - FORGIVE QUICKLY. YOU KNOW THE SAYING, 'FORGIVE 03:45 IN CASE THERE'S A REASON TO FORGIVE'? 03:47 THERE'RE GOING TO BE DISAGREEMENTS - I HEARD SOMEONE 03:51 SAY ONE TIME, 'JUST SUPPOSE - IMAGINE - THAT YOU COULD MARRY 03:55 AN IDENTICAL CLONE OF YOU - OF COURSE, THE OPPOSITE SEX, BUT 04:00 IDENTICAL IN EVERY OTHER WAY - SAME THOUGHTS, SAME LIKES, GOT 04:05 YOUR PERSONALITY - IF YOU COULD CLONE YOUR [SELF] AND 04:09 MARRY THEM, WOULD YOU BE HAPPY? WHEN YOU GOT TO THAT LAST EAR OF 04:15 CORN, WOULD YOU ALWAYS SAY, 'NO, YOU.' 'NO, YOU TAKE IT.' 'NO, 04:18 YOU.' OR WOULD THERE EVER BE MOMENTS OF SELFISHNESS? 04:22 WOULD YOU HAVE AN ARGUMENT WITH YOURSELF? 04:25 SOME OF YOU MIGHT EVEN WANT TO FILE DIVORCE IF YOU WERE MARRIED 04:27 TO YOU. (LAUGHTER) AND SO, YOU KNOW, 04:30 THIS IDEA THAT THAT PERSON ISN'T AS PERFECT AS THEY COULD BE AND 04:33 THERE'S GOING TO BE NO PROBLEMS, IF YOU WERE MARRIED TO A PERFECT 04:36 CLONE OF YOU, YOU MIGHT HAVE MORE PROBLEMS. 04:40 SO THERE'S GOING TO BE PROBLEMS AND YOU'VE GOT TO LEARN TO 04:43 FORGIVE AND FORGIVE QUICKLY. THE BIBLE SAYS, 'CONFESS YOUR 04:48 FAULTS TO ONE ANOTHER AND PRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER.' AND THAT'S 04:52 ESPECIALLY TRUE IN A MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. 04:56 WHEN THERE ARE THESE PROBLEMS, DEAL WITH THEM AS QUICKLY AS 05:01 POSSIBLE. NOW, I'VE TOLD KAREN - I SAID, 05:06 'YOU KNOW, WHEN I GET MAD, JUST - SOMETIMES I NEED TO BE MAD AND 05:09 JUST LET IT COOL OFF AND WE'LL BE OKAY. 05:12 DON'T TRY AND FIX IT RIGHT AWAY - I WON'T BE MAD FOR DAYS BUT 05:14 JUST, YOU KNOW, LET ME GO STOMP AROUND AND BE MAD AND THEN I'LL 05:16 BE ALRIGHT. (LAUGHTER) AND I JUST NEED MY TIME FOR THAT. 05:20 BUT THE BIBLE SAYS 'DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.' 05:23 THAT MEANS DEAL WITH THINGS AT THE END OF THE DAY. 05:26 HIS MERCIES ARE NEW EVERY MORNING, RIGHT? 05:28 THE BIBLE SAYS, FOR US - THEY SHOULD BE NEW FOR EACH OTHER. 05:32 AND SO, IT'S A GOOD IDEA TO JUST SETTLE THOSE THINGS. 05:35 SOMEONE ASKED A COUPLE THAT HAD BEEN MARRIED FOR 60 YEARS, TO 05:39 WHAT THEY OWED THEIR LONG AND HAPPY MARRIAGE. AND THE OLD 05:42 RANCHER SAID, 'WE MADE UP OUR MINDS EARLY ON THAT WE WOULD 05:45 NEVER LET THE SUN GO DOWN - WE'D NEVER SLEEP IF WE STILL HAD AN 05:50 ARGUMENT.' AND HE SAID, 'THERE WERE WEEKS WE DIDN'T SLEEP' - 05:54 (LAUGHTER) - BUT DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH. 06:00 PHILIPPIANS 3:13, "...FORGETTING THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE BEHIND' - 06:04 YOU KNOW, ONCE YOU HAVE FORGIVEN, YOU MAY STILL REMEMBER 06:07 THERE WAS AN OFFENSE AND SOME OF THESE MAY BE VERY SERIOUS AND 06:10 SOMETIMES IN AN ARGUMENT PEOPLE HAVE UTTERED THINGS THAT ARE 06:13 VERY CRUEL AND THEY LEAVE SCARS AND IT'S HARD TO FORGET, BUT 06:17 YOU'VE GOT TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE NOT TO REMEMBER AND DON'T KEEP 06:20 BRINGING IT UP. IF SOMEONE SAYS, 'I AM SORRY' 06:23 AND YOU'VE FORGIVEN THEM, THEN THE NEXT TIME AN ARGUMENT COMES 06:25 AROUND, DON'T DIG AROUND IN THAT OLD FORGIVEN BAG AND PULL 06:28 THOSE THINGS BACK OUT AGAIN. THAT'S UNFAIR - THAT'S 06:31 AGAINST THE RULES, AMEN? >>AMEN. 06:34 >>DO YOU WANT THE LORD TO DO THAT WITH YOU? 06:35 HE CASTS YOUR SINS IN THE DEPTHS OF THE SEA AND YOU NEED TO BE 06:38 WILLING - IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU'VE FORGOTTEN, IT MEANS YOU CHOOSE 06:41 NOT TO REMEMBER THOSE THINGS. EPHESIANS 4:32, "BE KIND ONE 06:47 TO ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED, FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER," - HOW? 06:51 - "EVEN AS GOD IN CHRIST FORGAVE YOU." 06:55 I'VE SEEN COUPLES COME TO CHURCH - I WAS INVOLVED IN COUNSELING 06:59 THEM AT THE TIME AND I KNEW THAT THERE WAS A CHALLENGE AND THEY 07:04 ACTUALLY WOULD STILL COME TO CHURCH. 07:06 THEY HAD TWO CHILDREN AND ONE SAT ON ONE SIDE OF THE CHURCH 07:08 WITH ONE CHILD AND ONE SAT ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CHURCH, 07:11 AND NOT ONLY WAS THEIR ANGER HURTING THEM, IT WAS HURTING THE 07:16 KIDS - IT WAS HURTING THE WHOLE CHURCH. 07:19 AND THAT OUGHT NOT BE. WE NEED TO DEAL WITH THESE 07:24 THINGS TOGETHER AND FORGIVE EACH OTHER. WHY? 07:29 IT'S KIND OF A CONTRADICTION TO COME TO CHURCH AND NOT SIT WITH 07:33 THE PERSON - THE BIBLE SAYS, 'LOVE YOUR ENEMIES'. 07:37 IT SAYS 'LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS' - I WOULD THINK THAT YOUR SPOUSE 07:40 COULD QUALIFY AS AT LEAST ONE LEVEL HIGHER THAN YOUR NEIGHBOR 07:44 AND YOUR ENEMY. SO SIT TOGETHER - WORK THINGS OUT. 07:49 "IF YOU FORGIVE MEN THEIR TRESPASSES," - JESUS SAID - 07:52 MATTHEW 6:14 - "YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER WILL ALSO FORGIVE YOU. 07:55 BUT IF YOU DO NOT FORGIVE MEN THEIR TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL 07:59 YOUR FATHER FORGIVE YOUR TRESPASSES." 08:01 IF YOU CANNOT FORGIVE YOUR SPOUSE, YOU'RE BURNING THE 08:04 BRIDGE OVER WHICH YOU MUST PASS TO HEAVEN. 08:07 AND SO, IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT YOU LEARN TO FORGIVE. 08:10 NOW, DON'T TURN TO YOUR SPOUSE AND MAKE A FIST AND POINT A 08:13 FINGER AND SAY, 'SEE, YOU'VE GOT TO FORGIVE ME!' 08:15 FORGIVENESS MUST COME FROM THE HEART. 08:17 BUT IT IS VERY IMPORTANT, IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE A CHRISTIAN, 08:20 IT'S A FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH, AMEN? AND THE OTHER THING IS THAT, 08:25 WHEN YOU DO FINALLY APOLOGIZE AND MAKE UP, MAKING 08:29 UP CAN BE FUN. SO JUST GET IT OVER WITH. 08:31 IT FEELS GOOD WHEN YOU MAKE PEACE. COMMUNICATION - WE TALKED 08:36 ABOUT FORGIVENESS - FORGIVENESS IS THE REPAIR KIT FOR MARRIAGE. 08:40 YOU WILL NOT NEED NEARLY AS MANY REPAIRS IF YOU DO THE 08:44 COMMUNICATING. YOU'LL AVOID THE BREAKDOWNS. 08:46 AND SO, COMMUNICATING IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS. 08:49 WE ARE LIVING IN A VERY BUSY WORLD TODAY - BUSIER THAN ANY 08:53 OTHER TIME - AND PEOPLE TRAVEL MORE THAN ANY OTHER TIME. 08:57 IT USED TO BE MARRIED COUPLES KIND OF LIVED - YOU KNOW, THE 09:00 FAMILY THEY WERE IN - THE SHOE-FIXING BUSINESS AND 09:02 EVERYONE WORKED IN THE SHOE SHOP OR THE HAT SHOP OR THE FARM - 09:06 AND YOU'D, YOU KNOW, SIT NEXT TO YOUR WIFE AND YOU'D MILK THE COW 09:09 AND SHE'D MILK THE GOAT - AND YOU WERE WITH EACH OTHER OUT IN 09:11 THE FIELD, PLANTING AND SOWING AND HARVESTING AND THERE WAS SO 09:15 MUCH OPPORTUNITY TO COMMUNICATE. AND BACK AROUND THE TURN OF THE 09:18 CENTURY, THERE WAS ONE DIVORCE IN AMERICA FOR EVERY 32 09:22 MARRIAGES. NOW IT'S CLOSE TO 50%, BUT THAT'S BACK WHEN 09:27 EVERYBODY - THE FAMILIES WERE - YOU HAD TO COMMUNICATE. 09:30 AND MAYBE THEY EVEN FOUGHT MORE BUT, YOU KNOW, THEY DID A STUDY 09:36 THAT CAME OUT IN 2012 - THEY FOUND THAT COUPLES THAT FIGHT 09:40 ONCE A WEEK ARE MORE INCLINED TO STAY TOGETHER THAN COUPLES THAT 09:46 DON'T. AND THEY FIGURED THE REASON 09:48 WAS THEY WERE COMMUNICATING. NOW, I'M NOT RECOMMENDING WE 09:51 ALL JUST START PLANNING AND SCHEDULING FIGHTS, I'M JUST 09:55 SAYING - AND, YOU KNOW, IT IS IMPORTANT TO SHARE. 09:58 YOU KNOW, ONE - I'VE SEEN IT MANY TIMES WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN 10:02 A COUPLE - I'LL GET A CALL FROM A HUSBAND OR WIFE - 'I DON'T 10:06 KNOW. I NEVER SAW IT COMING. 10:08 I JUST GOT A NOTE. SHE'S FILED FOR DIVORCE. 10:10 I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON. I NEVER SAW IT COMING.' AND I 10:14 SAID, 'WERE YOU GUYS ARGUING?' 'NO!' 10:16 WELL, ONE PARTNER WAS BOTTLING IT ALL UP AND THEY FINALLY GOT 10:21 WHERE THEY COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE, AND THAT'S WHEN THESE 10:25 THINGS HAPPEN. SHARE HOW YOU FEEL. DO IT NOW. 10:28 AS CHRISTIANS - YOU KNOW, THE WORLD SAYS, 'YEAH, HAVE A GOOD 10:30 ARGUMENT ONCE A WEEK.' BUT WE OUGHT TO BE DOING IT IN A LOVING 10:34 WAY, YOU KNOW? A SOFT ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH, 10:38 BUT YOU OUGHT TO BE EXPRESSING AND SAY, 'YOU KNOW, I JUST NEED 10:40 TO LET - BUT - WHEN YOU DO THAT, IT BOTHERS ME.' AND 'OH, I'M 10:46 SORRY, I DIDN'T KNOW.' AND SO YOU CAN TALK AND COMMUNICATE - 10:49 SHARE HOW YOU FEEL - TALK ABOUT YOUR DAY AND WHAT YOU DID AND, 10:52 YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE CALLS IT QUALITY - NO, THE BIBLE DOESN'T 10:55 CALL IT QUALITY TIME, THE WORLD CALLS IT QUALITY TIME - THE 10:59 BIBLE CALLS IT SABBATH - THE SABBATH IS QUALITY TIME. 11:02 BEYOND THE QUALITY TIME IS KEEP YOUR HEARTS AND YOUR BODIES FOR 11:07 EACH OTHER. ADULTERY IS A SIN. IT IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE 11:12 COMMON. IT'S ONE OF THE TEN COMMANDMENTS IN EXODUS 20, VERSE 11:16 14 - THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT - "THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT 11:19 ADULTERY." PROVERBS 31, VERSES 11 AND 12, "THE HEART OF HER 11:25 HUSBAND SAFELY TRUSTS HER...SHE DOES HIM GOOD 11:28 AND NOT EVIL ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE." 11:32 YOU NEED TO HAVE A TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU WILL NOT 11:37 EVEN OPEN THE DOOR TO ANY FLIRTATIOUS OPPORTUNITIES, 11:41 BECAUSE AS SOON AS YOU BEGIN TO SHOW YOURSELF BEING INTIMATE AND 11:45 OVERLY FRIENDLY TO SOMEBODY THAT'S IN THAT AGE BALLPARK OF 11:48 THE OPPOSITE SEX, THEN YOU'RE OPENING THE DOOR TO TEMPTATION. 11:54 AND WHEN YOU START BECOMING INTIMATE AND SAYING, 'OH, YOU 11:56 KNOW, WE'VE BEEN HAVING THESE PROBLEMS.' AND START SHARING 11:59 PROBLEMS AND - THOSE THINGS SHOULD JUST STAY IN THE FAMILY 12:03 AND IT'S SACRED. IT'S AN EPIDEMIC IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY. 12:09 ACCORDING TO A NEW STUDY BY THE NATIONAL OPINION RESEARCH 12:12 CENTER, ROUGHLY 15% OF MARRIED AMERICANS AND THOSE WHO WERE 12:16 MARRIED, HAVE COMMITTED ADULTERY - THEY VIOLATED THE VOWS AT THE 12:21 TIME WHEN THEY WERE MARRIED - 15%. YOU WATCH TELEVISION AND 12:26 YOU'D THINK THAT IT'S A LOT HIGHER THAN THAT. 12:28 I WAS ACTUALLY RELIEVED TO HEAR IT'S ONLY 15% BECAUSE WE 12:33 SURROUND OURSELVES WITH A CULTURE WHERE THE PROGRAMING AND 12:36 THE MOVIES IS ALL ABOUT SEX IS LIKE SHAKING HANDS. 12:39 ISN'T THAT RIGHT? AND THE IDEA OF THE COVENANT AND HOW SACRED 12:43 IT IS, IS BEING LOST. THE COVER OF TIME MAGAZINE: IS MONOGAMY 12:48 OVER? MONOGAMY IS NOT A WOOD THAT'S USED IN CABINETS. 12:54 (LAUGHTER) THAT'S MAHOGANY. MONOGAMY MEANS THAT YOU ARE JUST 13:02 MARRIED TO ONE PERSON AND YOU ARE COMMITTED TO THAT PERSON. 13:05 AND WHAT DID I SAY TO YOU A LITTLE BIT AGO ABOUT THE DEVIL 13:09 IS WORKING OVERTIME TO TRY AND MAKE THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE 13:14 SEEM IRRELEVANT. WE'RE SURROUNDED BY A MEDIA 13:19 CULTURE IN OUR WORLD WHERE PEOPLE ARE COMMITTING ADULTERY 13:24 ALL THE TIME. AND JESUS SAID, VERY CLEARLY, THAT IT IS 13:29 POSSIBLE FOR A PERSON TO COMMIT ADULTERY IN THEIR HEADS. 13:33 HE SAID, 'IF A MAN LOOKS UPON A WOMAN AND LUSTS AFTER HER IN HIS 13:37 HEART, HE'S COMMITTING ADULTERY IN HIS HEART.' THAT DOES NOT 13:42 MEAN THAT IS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE. 13:46 IF THINKING IT WAS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE, THERE WOULD BE A WHOLE 13:49 LOT MORE DIVORCE TODAY THAN THERE IS. THINKING IT IS A SIN. 13:53 JESUS WASN'T SAYING 'YOU'RE THINKING IT, YOU MAY AS WELL DO 13:56 IT; THERE'S NO DIFFERENCE.' YOU UNDERSTAND THAT? 13:59 NOW THE REASON I SAY THAT IS BECAUSE THERE ARE COUPLES THAT 14:04 COME TO ME AND THE HUSBAND WILL SAY, 'I BELIEVE I HAVE BIBLICAL 14:08 GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE: MY WIFE IS ADDICTED TO SOAP OPERAS. 14:11 SHE'S WATCHING ALL THESE PEOPLE COMMIT ADULTERY AND SHE IS 14:14 VICARIOUSLY COMMITTING ADULTERY BY WATCHING IT. 14:18 AND SO, SINCE JESUS SAID THINKING IT IS THE SAME AS DOING 14:21 IT, I HAVE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.' DO YOU BELIEVE THAT? 14:24 NO, I DON'T BELIEVE THAT. I THINK IT'S A SIN, BUT I DON'T 14:28 THINK IT'S WHAT JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT. 14:30 JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT THE ACT OF ADULTERY - FORNICATION - WAS 14:34 THE ONLY BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE, ASIDE FROM THAT OTHER 14:38 EXAMPLE I GAVE YOU LAST WEEK - 1 CORINTHIANS 7 - OF TWO PAGANS 14:42 THAT GET MARRIED AND THEY CONVERT, THEN, TO CHRISTIANITY. 14:45 ANYWAY, WITH THAT IN MIND, THERE IS AN ABSOLUTE EPIDEMIC OF 14:50 PORNOGRAPHY, BASED ON HOW MANY PORNOGRAPHIC SITES ARE, IT'S A 14:55 MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY. THERE ARE A LOT MORE PEOPLE THAT 14:58 ARE STRUGGLING WITH THAT THAN YOU MIGHT IMAGINE 15:01 - MEN AND WOMEN. ALL KINDS OF DIFFERENT SITES. 15:05 IT'S A SIN. IT NEEDS TO BE REPENTED OF, BUT 15:10 THINKING IS NOT THE SAME AS DOING. 15:14 IF A PERSON GETS ANGRY AND THEY THINK MURDEROUS THOUGHTS IN 15:17 THEIR HEART AND THEY DO NOT ACT OR CONSPIRE ON THOSE THOUGHTS, 15:21 THERE'S NO COURT IN THE COUNTRY THAT WILL CONVICT THEM OF 15:24 MURDER, BECAUSE YOU SAY, 'I WISH A PERSON WAS DEAD' AND YOU WALK 15:28 AWAY AND DON'T DO ANYTHING, YOU WILL NOT BE ARRESTED AND PUT IN 15:30 JAIL FOR MURDER. BECAUSE THINKING SOMETHING IS 15:34 NOT THE SAME AS DOING IT, YOU UNDERSTAND? 15:36 A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE USING THAT, NOW, AS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE. 15:39 NOW, IF A WOMAN IS MARRIED TO A MAN AND HE'S GOT AN ADDICTION TO 15:43 PORNOGRAPHY, ESPECIALLY IF THERE ARE CHILDREN IN THE HOUSEHOLD, 15:47 THERE MIGHT BE GROUNDS FOR SEPARATION UNTIL THERE'S 15:50 COUNSELING. DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING? 15:54 THE DIFFERENCE - THERE'S A DIFFERENCE THERE - AND A PERSON 15:59 MIGHT NEED TO TAKE SOME PROACTIVE MEASURES TO URGE AND 16:02 ENCOURAGE THEIR SPOUSE TO GET SOME HELP. 16:05 BUT THINKING IT IS NOT THE SAME AS DOING IT AND, BIBLICALLY, 16:09 WHAT DOES JESUS SAY ARE THE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE AND 16:12 REMARRIAGE? MATTHEW 19:6 "THEREFORE WHAT GOD 16:15 HAS JOINED TOGETHER, LET NOT MAN SEPARATE." 16:19 'WHOEVER THEREFORE SHALL PUT AWAY HIS WIFE, EXCEPT IT BE FOR 16:22 FORNICATION, AND SHALL MARRY ANOTHER COMMITS ADULTERY; AND 16:26 WHOEVER MARRIES HER WHO IS DIVORCED COMMITS ADULTERY.' PAUL 16:32 SAYS, IN ROMANS 7, VERSE 2, "FOR THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND IS 16:36 BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES." 16:39 WITH THAT CAVEAT, EXCEPT FOR THAT EXCEPTION JESUS MAKES. 16:44 I'M NOT GOING TO STAND HERE AS A PASTOR AND TELL YOU ALL THE 16:46 GOOD REASONS TO GET DIVORCED. YOU'LL FIND THOSE ON YOUR OWN. 16:49 I'M HERE TO TELL YOU THERE ARE GOOD REASONS TO KEEP IT 16:51 TOGETHER. >>AMEN. 16:53 >>AND THAT, YOU KNOW, WE'RE TO BE WITNESSES IN OUR SOCIETY FOR 16:56 RECONCILIATION - FOR REDEMPTION, AMEN? 17:00 >>AMEN. >>SO RULE OUT THE 17:02 DIVORCE OPTION. DO ALL YOU CAN TO - THESE TIES 17:05 OF MARRIAGE ARE MEANT TO BE INDISSOLUBLE. 17:08 DO NOT NAG OR CRITICIZE, YOU'LL HAVE A LOT HAPPIER HOME. 17:13 WE ALL HAVE GOOD DAYS AND BAD DAYS AND DON'T BE CONSTANTLY 17:16 FOCUSING ON YOUR SPOUSE'S FAULTS AND RIDING THEM, TRYING TO 17:20 CHANGE THAT PERSON. IF YOU'RE GOING TO CHANGE SOMEONE, CHANGE 17:24 YOURSELF. YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE OTHER PERSON. 17:26 A LOT OF PEOPLE GET MARRIED THINKING THEY'RE GOING TO CHANGE 17:30 THE OTHER PERSON AND THAT DOESN'T END WELL. 17:32 BEN FRANKLIN SAID, 'KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE' 17:34 - THIS IS A MESSAGE TO THE SINGLES - 'KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE 17:37 OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE AND KEEP THEM HALF SHUT AFTER MARRIAGE' 17:41 BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TO FIND THEIR PROBLEMS. 17:43 COLOSSIANS 3, VERSE 19, "HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES 17:47 AND DO NOT BE BITTER TOWARD THEM." 17:49 HE'S TALKING ABOUT WIVES - HUSBANDS THAT ARE BADGERING OR 17:52 BEING BITTER AGAINST THEIR WIVES. 17:54 AND THEN YOU CAN READ IN PROVERBS 21:19, IT IS "BETTER TO 17:57 DWELL IN THE WILDERNESS, THAN WITH A CONTENTIOUS AND ANGRY 17:59 WOMAN." WHO WROTE THAT? 18:02 >>SOLOMON. >>SOLOMON. 18:04 HOW MANY WIVES DID HE HAVE? >>700. 18:06 >>700 AND THEN HE HAD 300 STAND-BY CONCUBINES. 18:11 HE ALSO SAID - PROVERBS 27, VERSE 15, "A CONTINUAL DRIPPING 18:16 ON A VERY RAINY DAY AND A CONTENTIOUS WOMAN ARE ALIKE;" 18:20 DON'T BADGER - DON'T CRITICIZE - ENCOURAGE! 18:24 IT GOES A LONG WAY TO ENCOURAGE AND APPRECIATE EACH OTHER. 18:28 AND, YOU KNOW, MEN LIKE TO BE APPRECIATED FOR - WHEN WE 18:30 ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING - WE'RE VERY TASK-ORIENTED AND SOMETIMES 18:33 WE FIX SOMETHING AND WE THINK THAT WE OUGHT TO GET A MEDAL - 18:37 THE WIFE IS GOING TO, YOU KNOW, JUST APPLAUD AND SHE GOES, 'OH, 18:39 THAT'S YOUR JOB.' I GO, 'BUT...' OUR ICE MAKER WENT OUT ON OUR 18:45 REFRIGERATOR, WHICH, YOU KNOW, WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SO BAD EXCEPT 18:48 IT WAS JUST GONE OUT OF WARRANTY - IT WAS A BRAND - IT'S A FAIRLY 18:51 NEW REFRIGERATOR. IT'S ONE OF THESE NEW ONES 18:53 THAT'S GOT ALL OF THE COMPUTER THINGS IN IT AND I 18:58 KEPT TRYING TO FIX IT. YOU KNOW, I'M ONE OF THE 18:59 GUYS THAT I JUST WANT TO FIX EVERYTHING MYSELF. I'M PRETTY 19:02 HANDY AROUND THE HOUSE, BUT I COULDN'T FIGURE THIS OUT. 19:04 IT HAD ALL THESE COMPUTER THINGS IN IT AND - SO WE DEFROSTED IT 19:07 AND I TRIED ALL THESE THINGS - I COULDN'T GET - BRAND NEW - 19:09 NOTHING'S BROKEN - WHY DID IT STOP WORKING? I GOT ONLINE - YOU 19:14 CAN FIND ALMOST ANYTHING ONLINE. >>AMEN. 19:16 >>I FOUND OUT HOW TO FIX A REFRIGERATOR CIRCUIT BOARD. 19:20 AND SO I FIGURED OUT WHAT IT WAS. 19:21 I WASN'T GOING TO CALL - A FRIEND I PLAY RACQUETBALL WITH 19:24 SAID HE CALLED IN A REFRIGERATOR REPAIRMEN WHO JUST MOVED A 19:28 LITTLE ICE TRAY BAR AND CHARGED HIM $300.00. 19:30 I SAID, 'I'M NOT CALLING ANYBODY.' I SAID, 'I'M GOING TO 19:31 FIX THIS THING!' (LAUGHTER) NOTHING PERSONAL, IF 19:36 YOU HAPPEN TO BE AN APPLIANCE REPAIRMAN OUT THERE. 19:40 I GOT ONLINE, FIGURED OUT WHAT IT WAS, I DID THE TEST, I 19:42 WATCHED THE VIDEO, I ORDERED THE COMPUTERIZED PARTS, I INSTALLED 19:45 THESE TWO CIRCUIT BOARDS, AND CLOSED THE DOOR - AND I STOOD 19:49 THERE AND KAREN'S AT HER DESK - ALL OF A SUDDEN I HEARD IT GO 19:52 'CLICK-CHHHH' - IT WAS WORKING! THE WATER WAS RUNNING INTO THE 19:54 ICE MAKER AND I DID A DANCE. I SAID, 'IT'S WORKING, DEAR!' 19:57 'OH, GOOD.' (RAUCOUS LAUGHTER) I SAID, 'I JUST - TWO COMPUTER 20:04 CIRCUIT - I PLUGGED - AND TOOK IT APART, PUT IT TOGETHER - IT'S 20:07 WORKING!' 'THAT'S GOOD, DEAR.' (LAUGHTER) AND THEN A LITTLE 20:12 WHILE LATER, WHEN WE HEARD THE ICE GO, 'CLU-CHUNK' AND IT MADE 20:16 ITS FIRST BATCH OF ICE I SAID, 'DID YOU HEAR THAT? 20:17 THAT'S MUSIC TO MY EARS!' 'HEAR WHAT?' 20:21 I SAID, 'THE ICE MAKER'S WORKING!' 20:22 (LAUGHTER) I JUST WANTED SOME AFFIRMATION. 20:25 (LAUGHTER) SHE JUST NEEDS TO SAY, 'DOUG, YOU'RE BRILLIANT!' 20:27 - SOMETHING LIKE THAT! (RAUCOUS LAUGHTER) I MEAN, 20:32 IT'S NOT HARD, YOU KNOW? IT DOESN'T COST ANYTHING. 20:36 I WAS JUST FISHING FOR 'YOU'RE A GENIUS! I'M SO GLAD TO HAVE A - 20:40 WE SAVED $300.00, BLESS YOU!' DON'T CRITICIZE, ENCOURAGE, 20:46 AMEN? >>AMEN. 20:48 >>1 CORINTHIANS 13:4, 'LOVE LOOKS FOR A WAY OF BEING 20:52 CONSTRUCTIVE' - THAT'S THE PHILIPS TRANSLATION. 20:56 A HUSBAND AND WIFE MAY HAVE THEIR PROBLEMS, BUT YOU NEED TO 20:59 ENCOURAGE THEM WHEN YOU CAN AND, WHEN THERE ARE MISTAKES, YOU'VE 21:02 GOT TO LEARN TO LAUGH WITH EACH OTHER - THAT'S DIFFERENT FROM 21:05 LAUGHING AT THE OTHER PERSON'S EXPENSE. 21:07 I HAVE SEEN VERY EMBARRASSING SITUATIONS WHERE A HUSBAND AND 21:11 WIFE WERE TOGETHER AND, FOR WHATEVER REASON, THIS POOR WOMAN 21:15 OR MAN, THE SPOUSE IS ALWAYS MAKING JOKES AT THEIR EXPENSE 21:20 AND THEY KIND OF DROP THEIR HEAD AND THEY LAUGH A LITTLE BIT, 21:22 BUT YOU CAN TELL IT HURTS THEM. 21:24 THEY'RE CONSTANTLY BEING PUT DOWN AND THEIR LAUGHING AT THEIR 21:27 EXPENSE AND THAT'S NOT THE KIND OF LAUGHING WITH EACH OTHER - 21:32 AND - I KNOW KAREN AND I WERE OUT DOING YARD WORK AND I GO AND 21:35 I TURN ON THE HOSE AND DIDN'T REALIZE THAT THE HOSE HAD SPLIT 21:39 AND IT STARTS TO SPRAY AND GET ME ALL WET AND SHE STARTS 21:44 LAUGHING. I SAID, 'WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING?' AND SHE SAID, 'THAT 21:45 HAPPENED TO ME; I FORGOT TO TELL YOU' - (LAUGHTER) - 'THE HOSE 21:49 NEEDED FIXING.' I SAID, 'WELL, THANKS A LOT!' 21:50 (LAUGHTER) WELL, YOU KNOW, AT TIMES WE HAVE A LAUGH TOGETHER - 21:53 YOU'RE LAUGHING - AND SO YOU NEED TO HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR. 21:56 YOU CAN DEFUSE A LOT OF TENSIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS BY BEING ABLE 22:01 TO VENT AND LAUGH AT YOURSELVES - AND EVEN LAUGH AT YOUR HUMAN 22:06 WEAKNESSES AND SAY - DON'T LAUGH AT THE OTHER, BUT LAUGH AT YOUR 22:09 OWN - AND IT MAKES IT EASIER FOR THE OTHER TO FORGIVE YOU. 22:13 LOVE AND SERVE ONE ANOTHER. IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT 'WHAT WILL I 22:19 GET OUT OF' - 'I WANT TO MARRY THIS PERSON BECAUSE OF WHAT 22:22 THEY'RE GOING TO DO FOR ME.' BUT JESUS DOESN'T THINK THAT WAY. 22:25 JESUS CAME TO THIS WORLD BECAUSE OF WHAT HE COULD DO FOR US. 22:29 HE SAID, "THE SON OF MAN" - MATTHEW 20, VERSE 28 - "DID NOT 22:33 COME TO BE SERVED, BUT TO SERVE, AND TO GIVE HIS LIFE A RANSOM 22:38 FOR MANY." SEE YOUR SPOUSE AS SOMEBODY 22:41 BEFORE WHOM YOU CAN MODEL CHRIST BY BEING A SERVANT. 22:44 AND EVEN THOSE WHO ARE SINGLES, LOOK FOR LIVES OF SERVICE - 22:47 OPPORTUNITY TO SERVE OTHERS. 22:49 I HEARD ABOUT THIS YOUNG COUPLE, THEY GOT MARRIED, CAME BACK FROM 22:55 THE HONEYMOON AND MOVED INTO THEIR NEW HOME THAT THEY HAD 22:57 PURCHASED AND, AFTER THE FIRST DAY IN THE NEW HOME, THE WIFE 23:00 WAS UPSTAIRS AND WHEN SHE WOKE UP THE HUSBAND IS COMING 23:03 UPSTAIRS AND HE'S GOT BREAKFAST ON A TRAY WITH A FLOWER AND HE 23:10 BRINGS IT AND HE SETS IT DOWN ON THE BED AND SHE SITS UP AND 23:13 SHE'S RUBBING HER EYES AND SHE'S SMILING. 23:14 HE SAID, 'SEE WHAT I DID FOR YOU, SWEETIE?' 23:18 'OH, THIS IS SO KIND.' 'SEE, SEE THE TOAST - HOW I DID IT?' 23:22 HE SAID, 'IT'S NOT BURNT, IT'S NOT WHITE, IT'S JUST THAT GOLDEN 23:26 BROWN. AND THE EGGS, THEY'RE NOT RUNNY. 23:28 THEY'RE JUST SCRAMBLED JUST RIGHT. SEE, I'VE GOT YOUR TEA 23:31 IN THE BACK - IT'S STILL HOT. SEE WHAT I DID?' 23:34 SHE SAID, 'OH, YOU'RE SUCH A DARLING.' HER EYES ARE TEARING 23:37 UP AND SHE SAID, 'I'VE MARRIED THE BEST MAN IN THE WORLD.' AND 23:41 THEN HE SAID, 'THIS IS HOW I'LL BE EXPECTING MY BREAKFAST EVERY 23:44 DAY FROM HERE ON.' (RAUCOUS LAUGHTER) SERVE OTHERS NOT 23:52 BECAUSE YOU HAVE AN ULTERIOR MOTIVE. SERVE OTHERS BECAUSE YOU 23:58 JUST LOVE THEM, EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN. 24:00 DIDN'T JESUS SAY, 'GIVE, EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN'? 24:04 LOVE SERVES - 1 CORINTHIANS 13 - I'LL START WITH VERSE 4, "LOVE 24:10 SUFFERS LONG AND IS KIND; LOVE DOES NOT ENVY; LOVE DOES NOT 24:14 PARADE ITSELF, IS NOT PUFFED UP;" - IT'S NOT PROUD. 24:18 SOMETIMES - SO MANY TIMES - IN MARRIAGES THERE'S STRIFE BECAUSE 24:21 SOMEONE'S PRIDE WAS OFFENDED - LOVE "DOES NOT BEHAVE RUDELY, 24:25 DOES NOT SEEK ITS OWN, IS NOT PROVOKED, THINKS NO EVIL;" - 24:29 PURITY OF THOUGHT - "DOES NOT REJOICE IN INIQUITY, BUT 24:33 REJOICES IN THE TRUTH; BEARS ALL THINGS," - PATIENCE IN OUR 24:36 RELATIONSHIPS - "BELIEVES ALL THINGS, HOPES ALL THINGS, 24:40 ENDURES ALL THINGS. LOVE NEVER FAILS." 24:44 THAT'S THE KIND OF LOVE - A LOVE THAT ENDURES - JESUS SAID, 'HE 24:49 THAT ENDURES TO THE END WILL BE SAVED.' GOD WANTS US TO HAVE 24:52 MARRIAGES THAT WAY, WHERE WE FINISH WELL. 24:54 AMEN, FRIENDS? >>AMEN. 24:56 >>DON'T YOU WANT TO HAVE THAT KIND OF LOVE IN OUR HOME? 24:58 AND THIS IS HOW WE WILL HAVE A STRONG CHURCH - STRONG FAMILIES 25:04 - AND IT'LL AFFECT OUR WHOLE COMMUNITY AND OUR COUNTRY IF WE 25:06 COULD JUST HAVE A REVIVAL OF THE BIBLICAL CONCEPT OF LOVE IN OUR 25:11 MARRIAGES. GOD WANTS YOU TO HAVE THAT KIND OF A HOME. I WANT THAT 25:14 KIND OF A HOME, DON'T YOU? >>AMEN. (MUSIC) 25:20 >>ONE OF THE MOST COMMON QUESTIONS WE GET HERE AT AMAZING 25:22 FACTS IS REGARDING TROUBLED MARRIAGES. 25:26 PEOPLE ARE STRUGGLING IN THEIR FAMILIES. 25:28 WE KNOW ABOUT HALF OF THE AMERICAN MARRIAGES END IN 25:30 DIVORCE. DOES THE BIBLE OFFER SOME ANSWERS? ABSOLUTELY. 25:34 IN THE SCRIPTURES, THERE ARE KEYS TO MAKE A GOOD MARRIAGE 25:37 BETTER AND TO HELP REDEEM AND SALVAGE A TROUBLED MARRIAGE. 25:40 WE'D LIKE TO SEND YOU THIS SPECIAL STUDY GUIDE - 25:43 KEYS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE . 25:44 YOU'LL LOOK AT THE SCRIPTURES HERE THAT WILL REALLY GIVE YOU 25:47 THE POWER TO DO SOME PRACTICAL THINGS TO INSPIRE, ENCOURAGE, 25:51 HEAL, AND STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGES. 25:54 TO GET YOUR FREE COPY, GO TO AMAZINGFACTS.ORG OR CALL THE 25:58 NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN AND ASK FOR OFFER #164. 26:02 AND FRIENDS, WHEN YOU RECEIVE THIS FREE RESOURCE, PLEASE READ 26:05 IT AND THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND. 26:07 WE WANT TO GET THE WORD OUT BECAUSE GOD'S MESSAGE IS OUR 26:10 MISSION. >>LET'S FACE IT, IT'S NOT ALWAYS 26:14 EASY TO UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING YOU READ IN THE BIBLE. 26:17 WITH OVER 700,000 WORDS CONTAINED IN 66 BOOKS, THE BIBLE 26:21 CAN GENERATE A LOT OF QUESTIONS. TO GET BIBLICAL STRAIGHTFORWARD 26:25 ANSWERS CALL IN TO BIBLE ANSWERS LIVE - A LIVE NATIONWIDE CALL-IN 26:29 RADIO PROGRAM WHERE YOU CAN TALK TO PASTOR DOUG BATCHELOR AND ASK 26:33 HIM YOUR MOST DIFFICULT BIBLE QUESTIONS. 26:35 FOR TIMES AND STATIONS IN YOUR AREA, OR TO LISTEN TO ANSWERS 26:38 ONLINE, VISIT BAL.AMAZINGFACTS.ORG . 26:44 >>I BEGAN READING THE BIBLE AND - 26:45 >>I GOT BAPTIZED INTO A SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST - 26:47 >>I REALIZED THAT THERE HAD TO BE MORE TO LIFE. 26:49 >>GOD IS REALLY DOING THIS. >>THE LIFE THAT HE'S GIVEN ME. 26:52 >>THIS MESSAGE WAS SO POWERFUL. >>I'LL FOLLOW CHRIST 26:53 WHEREVER HE GOES. >>AMAZING FACTS. 26:57 MORE THAN 45 YEARS OF PROCLAIMING GOD'S MESSAGE AROUND 27:01 THE WORLD. >>AND THEN THE LOGO POPS 27:04 ACROSS AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS . I'VE LISTENED TO A LOT OF 27:07 DIFFERENT MINISTERS, BUT THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME THAT HE'S 27:11 ACTUALLY SAYING SOMETHING WHERE I HAD TO GRAB MY BIBLE AND 27:14 ACTUALLY PICK IT UP AND I'VE NEVER HEARD THIS BEFORE. 27:17 LET ME - LET ME LOOK THROUGH AND FIND THIS. THEN I JUST 27:19 COULDN'T GET ENOUGH. >>AND SO I STARTED 27:21 DOING BIBLE STUDIES. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE GUYS 27:24 STARTED BEING CHANGED, INCLUDING MYSELF. 27:27 >>MY QUESTION WAS, 'WHY DID THAT HAPPEN TO ME, GOD?' 27:31 THE LORD WAS ABLE TO REACH OUT AND - AND I ACTUALLY SAW HIM AS 27:34 A FATHER. >>I LOST EVERYTHING AND THAT WAS 27:37 WHEN I REALIZED THAT IT WAS GOD MISSING IN MY LIFE. 27:40 >>I WENT TO A PROPHECY SEMINAR, WHICH KNOCKED ME OUT. 27:44 THIS MESSAGE WAS SO POWERFUL AND SO IRREFUTABLE, I JUST WENT, 27:48 'THIS IS REAL. THIS IS - THIS IS AMAZING.' 27:54 (MUSIC) 28:23 >>THIS PRESENTATION WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE FRIENDS OF THE 28:26 AMAZING FACTS MINISTRY. |
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