AMAZING FACTS MINISTRY.
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>>IS MONOGAMY OVER?
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WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH A
CULTURE WHERE THE PROGRAM AND
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THE MOVIES IS ALL ABOUT
SEX IS LIKE SHAKING HANDS.
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ISN'T THAT RIGHT?
>>FOR OVER 40 YEARS AMAZING
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FACTS HAS BEEN
DEDICATED TO SHARING GOD'S WORD
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THROUGH MEDIA. THIS
PROGRAM FEATURES HIGHLIGHTS
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FROM SOME OF OUR BEST
TELEVISION BROADCASTS.
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WE INVITE YOU TO SIT
BACK AND ENJOY THIS EDITION OF
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AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS
. >>A RECENT CNN REPORT:
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MORE MILLENNIALS
ARE SAYING 'I DON'T'.
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TODAY'S YOUNG ADULTS ARE ON
TRACK TO HAVE THE LOWEST RATES
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OF MARRIAGE BY AGE 40 COMPARED
TO ANY PREVIOUS GENERATION -
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ALMOST TWICE AS LOW AS THE GEN
X-ERS - THE PREVIOUS GENERATION.
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IF THE CURRENT PACE CONTINUES,
MORE THAN 30-PERCENT OF
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MILLENNIAL WOMEN WILL
REMAIN UNMARRIED BY AGE 40.
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LOWEST PERCENT OF MARRIAGE
- NOW, SOME OF THE REASONS FOR
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THIS ARE MANY ARE LIVING
TOGETHER WITHOUT GETTING MARRIED
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- SORT OF JUST TRYING IT OUT.
THEY'RE DOING IT - SORT OF DOING
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THE FAMILY THING WITHOUT THE
COVENANT. THIS IS ALSO TRUE IN
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ENGLAND, EUROPE, MOST OF
THE WESTERN WORLD - RATES OF
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MARRIAGE ARE GOING DOWN.
ONE REASON IS THE SACREDNESS AND
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF
MARRIAGE IS UNDER ATTACK.
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IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, IF
ANYBODY AND ANYTHING CAN GET
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MARRIED - IF ONE MAN CAN MARRY
FOUR SISTERS - IF TWO MEN CAN
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GET MARRIED OR TWO WOMEN CAN
GET MARRIED OR ONE WOMAN AND TWO
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MEN, THE RELEVANCE OF MARRIAGE
JUST STARTS TO BE DELUDED SO IT
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JUST DOESN'T SEEM AS
IMPORTANT AS IT USED TO BE.
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IT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT
COVENANT - BIG OCCASION -
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WEDDINGS - THE BIBLE BEGINS AND
IT ENDS IN A WEDDING AND IT'S
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SOMETHING SACRED. IT'S
- THIS BOOK IS CALLED -
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YEP, IT SAYS IT
RIGHT THERE - HOLY BIBLE.
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'HOLY' MEANS 'SET ASIDE;
SACRED; UNIQUE; TO BE TREATED AS
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SPECIAL.' MARRIAGE IS
CALLED 'HOLY MATRIMONY'.
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IT IS A HOLY COVENANT
RELATIONSHIP, BUT THAT
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CONCEPT IS BEING
LOST BY OUR CULTURE.
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IT'S INTERESTING, ALSO, TO
NOTE THAT MARRIAGE RATIOS ARE
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DECLINING AT THE SAME RATE
AS CHRISTIANITY IS DECLINING.
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YOU'VE PROBABLY SEEN SOME OF THE
SURVEYS IN THE LAST DECADE, THAT
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HAVE BEEN MADE, THAT SHOW THAT
PEOPLE BELIEVING IN GOD IN NORTH
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AMERICA - IT'S BECOMING MORE
SECULAR, MORE ATHEISTIC - AT THE
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SAME RATE, THE IMPORTANCE OF
MARRIAGE IS GOING DOWN BECAUSE
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MARRIAGE IS A
BIBLICAL INSTITUTION.
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IT'S GOD'S IDEA, AMEN?
GENESIS 2, VERSE 24, "THEREFORE
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A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER
AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS
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WIFE, AND THEY SHALL BECOME
ONE FLESH." WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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BEING TOGETHER FOR LIFE.
NOW, THAT MEANS TOGETHER FOR
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LIFE AS IN DURATION AND TOGETHER
FOR LIFE AS IN ABUNDANT LIFE.
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SO YOU'LL NOTICE IN GENESIS 2 IT
SAYS A MAN LEAVES HIS FATHER AND
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HIS MOTHER AND IS
JOINED TO HIS WIFE.
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SO YOU'VE GOT FATHER AND MOTHER
- THAT'S THE ARRANGEMENT -
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MALE/FEMALE - THAT'S THE
ARRANGEMENT - THAT'S THE GENESIS
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ARRANGEMENT, REGARDLESS OF
WHAT MIGHT BE HAPPENING IN SOME
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COUNTRIES OR EVEN OUR OWN
COUNTRY, AND I THINK THAT THIS
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IS A VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH
THAT NEEDS TO BE REITERATED.
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NOW WE'RE ENTERING
ONTO THE REMAINING POINTS.
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POINT #1 - I'VE TRUNCATED WHAT
COULD BE A VERY LONG SERIES ON
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MARRIAGE - FORGIVE QUICKLY.
YOU KNOW THE SAYING, 'FORGIVE
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IN CASE THERE'S A
REASON TO FORGIVE'?
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THERE'RE GOING TO BE
DISAGREEMENTS - I HEARD SOMEONE
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SAY ONE TIME, 'JUST SUPPOSE -
IMAGINE - THAT YOU COULD MARRY
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AN IDENTICAL CLONE OF YOU -
OF COURSE, THE OPPOSITE SEX, BUT
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IDENTICAL IN EVERY OTHER WAY
- SAME THOUGHTS, SAME LIKES, GOT
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YOUR PERSONALITY - IF YOU
COULD CLONE YOUR [SELF] AND
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MARRY THEM, WOULD YOU BE HAPPY?
WHEN YOU GOT TO THAT LAST EAR OF
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CORN, WOULD YOU ALWAYS SAY, 'NO,
YOU.' 'NO, YOU TAKE IT.' 'NO,
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YOU.' OR WOULD THERE EVER
BE MOMENTS OF SELFISHNESS?
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WOULD YOU HAVE AN
ARGUMENT WITH YOURSELF?
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SOME OF YOU MIGHT EVEN WANT TO
FILE DIVORCE IF YOU WERE MARRIED
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TO YOU.
(LAUGHTER) AND SO, YOU KNOW,
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THIS IDEA THAT THAT PERSON ISN'T
AS PERFECT AS THEY COULD BE AND
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THERE'S GOING TO BE NO PROBLEMS,
IF YOU WERE MARRIED TO A PERFECT
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CLONE OF YOU, YOU
MIGHT HAVE MORE PROBLEMS.
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SO THERE'S GOING TO BE PROBLEMS
AND YOU'VE GOT TO LEARN TO
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FORGIVE AND FORGIVE QUICKLY.
THE BIBLE SAYS, 'CONFESS YOUR
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FAULTS TO ONE ANOTHER AND PRAY
FOR ONE ANOTHER.' AND THAT'S
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ESPECIALLY TRUE IN A
MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP.
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WHEN THERE ARE THESE PROBLEMS,
DEAL WITH THEM AS QUICKLY AS
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POSSIBLE. NOW, I'VE
TOLD KAREN - I SAID,
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'YOU KNOW, WHEN I GET MAD, JUST
- SOMETIMES I NEED TO BE MAD AND
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JUST LET IT COOL
OFF AND WE'LL BE OKAY.
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DON'T TRY AND FIX IT RIGHT AWAY
- I WON'T BE MAD FOR DAYS BUT
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JUST, YOU KNOW, LET ME GO STOMP
AROUND AND BE MAD AND THEN I'LL
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BE ALRIGHT. (LAUGHTER) AND
I JUST NEED MY TIME FOR THAT.
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BUT THE BIBLE SAYS 'DON'T LET
THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.'
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THAT MEANS DEAL WITH
THINGS AT THE END OF THE DAY.
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HIS MERCIES ARE NEW
EVERY MORNING, RIGHT?
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THE BIBLE SAYS, FOR US - THEY
SHOULD BE NEW FOR EACH OTHER.
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AND SO, IT'S A GOOD IDEA
TO JUST SETTLE THOSE THINGS.
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SOMEONE ASKED A COUPLE THAT HAD
BEEN MARRIED FOR 60 YEARS, TO
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WHAT THEY OWED THEIR LONG
AND HAPPY MARRIAGE. AND THE OLD
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RANCHER SAID, 'WE MADE UP
OUR MINDS EARLY ON THAT WE WOULD
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NEVER LET THE SUN GO DOWN - WE'D
NEVER SLEEP IF WE STILL HAD AN
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ARGUMENT.' AND HE SAID, 'THERE
WERE WEEKS WE DIDN'T SLEEP' -
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(LAUGHTER) - BUT DON'T LET
THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR WRATH.
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PHILIPPIANS 3:13, "...FORGETTING
THOSE THINGS WHICH ARE BEHIND' -
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YOU KNOW, ONCE YOU HAVE
FORGIVEN, YOU MAY STILL REMEMBER
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THERE WAS AN OFFENSE AND SOME
OF THESE MAY BE VERY SERIOUS AND
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SOMETIMES IN AN ARGUMENT PEOPLE
HAVE UTTERED THINGS THAT ARE
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VERY CRUEL AND THEY LEAVE SCARS
AND IT'S HARD TO FORGET, BUT
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YOU'VE GOT TO CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE
NOT TO REMEMBER AND DON'T KEEP
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BRINGING IT UP. IF
SOMEONE SAYS, 'I AM SORRY'
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AND YOU'VE FORGIVEN THEM, THEN
THE NEXT TIME AN ARGUMENT COMES
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AROUND, DON'T DIG AROUND IN
THAT OLD FORGIVEN BAG AND PULL
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THOSE THINGS BACK OUT
AGAIN. THAT'S UNFAIR - THAT'S
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AGAINST THE RULES, AMEN? >>AMEN.
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>>DO YOU WANT THE
LORD TO DO THAT WITH YOU?
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HE CASTS YOUR SINS IN THE DEPTHS
OF THE SEA AND YOU NEED TO BE
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WILLING - IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU'VE
FORGOTTEN, IT MEANS YOU CHOOSE
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NOT TO REMEMBER THOSE THINGS.
EPHESIANS 4:32, "BE KIND ONE
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TO ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED,
FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER," - HOW?
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- "EVEN AS GOD IN
CHRIST FORGAVE YOU."
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I'VE SEEN COUPLES COME TO CHURCH
- I WAS INVOLVED IN COUNSELING
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THEM AT THE TIME AND I KNEW THAT
THERE WAS A CHALLENGE AND THEY
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ACTUALLY WOULD
STILL COME TO CHURCH.
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THEY HAD TWO CHILDREN AND ONE
SAT ON ONE SIDE OF THE CHURCH
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WITH ONE CHILD AND ONE SAT
ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CHURCH,
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AND NOT ONLY WAS THEIR ANGER
HURTING THEM, IT WAS HURTING THE
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KIDS - IT WAS
HURTING THE WHOLE CHURCH.
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AND THAT OUGHT NOT BE.
WE NEED TO DEAL WITH THESE
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THINGS TOGETHER AND
FORGIVE EACH OTHER. WHY?
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IT'S KIND OF A CONTRADICTION TO
COME TO CHURCH AND NOT SIT WITH
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THE PERSON - THE BIBLE
SAYS, 'LOVE YOUR ENEMIES'.
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IT SAYS 'LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS'
- I WOULD THINK THAT YOUR SPOUSE
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COULD QUALIFY AS AT LEAST ONE
LEVEL HIGHER THAN YOUR NEIGHBOR
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AND YOUR ENEMY. SO SIT
TOGETHER - WORK THINGS OUT.
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"IF YOU FORGIVE MEN THEIR
TRESPASSES," - JESUS SAID -
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MATTHEW 6:14 - "YOUR HEAVENLY
FATHER WILL ALSO FORGIVE YOU.
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BUT IF YOU DO NOT FORGIVE MEN
THEIR TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL
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YOUR FATHER
FORGIVE YOUR TRESPASSES."
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IF YOU CANNOT FORGIVE
YOUR SPOUSE, YOU'RE BURNING THE
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BRIDGE OVER WHICH
YOU MUST PASS TO HEAVEN.
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AND SO, IT IS VERY IMPORTANT
THAT YOU LEARN TO FORGIVE.
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NOW, DON'T TURN TO YOUR SPOUSE
AND MAKE A FIST AND POINT A
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FINGER AND SAY, 'SEE,
YOU'VE GOT TO FORGIVE ME!'
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FORGIVENESS MUST
COME FROM THE HEART.
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BUT IT IS VERY IMPORTANT, IF
YOU'RE GOING TO BE A CHRISTIAN,
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IT'S A FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH, AMEN?
AND THE OTHER THING IS THAT,
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WHEN YOU DO FINALLY
APOLOGIZE AND MAKE UP, MAKING
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UP CAN BE FUN. SO
JUST GET IT OVER WITH.
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IT FEELS GOOD WHEN YOU MAKE
PEACE. COMMUNICATION - WE TALKED
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ABOUT FORGIVENESS - FORGIVENESS
IS THE REPAIR KIT FOR MARRIAGE.
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YOU WILL NOT NEED NEARLY
AS MANY REPAIRS IF YOU DO THE
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COMMUNICATING.
YOU'LL AVOID THE BREAKDOWNS.
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AND SO, COMMUNICATING IS ONE
OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS.
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WE ARE LIVING IN A VERY BUSY
WORLD TODAY - BUSIER THAN ANY
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OTHER TIME - AND PEOPLE
TRAVEL MORE THAN ANY OTHER TIME.
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IT USED TO BE MARRIED COUPLES
KIND OF LIVED - YOU KNOW, THE
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FAMILY THEY WERE IN -
THE SHOE-FIXING BUSINESS AND
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EVERYONE WORKED IN THE SHOE SHOP
OR THE HAT SHOP OR THE FARM -
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AND YOU'D, YOU KNOW, SIT NEXT TO
YOUR WIFE AND YOU'D MILK THE COW
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AND SHE'D MILK THE GOAT - AND
YOU WERE WITH EACH OTHER OUT IN
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THE FIELD, PLANTING AND SOWING
AND HARVESTING AND THERE WAS SO
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MUCH OPPORTUNITY TO COMMUNICATE.
AND BACK AROUND THE TURN OF THE
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CENTURY, THERE WAS ONE
DIVORCE IN AMERICA FOR EVERY 32
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MARRIAGES. NOW IT'S CLOSE
TO 50%, BUT THAT'S BACK WHEN
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EVERYBODY - THE FAMILIES
WERE - YOU HAD TO COMMUNICATE.
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AND MAYBE THEY EVEN FOUGHT MORE
BUT, YOU KNOW, THEY DID A STUDY
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THAT CAME OUT IN 2012 - THEY
FOUND THAT COUPLES THAT FIGHT
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ONCE A WEEK ARE MORE INCLINED TO
STAY TOGETHER THAN COUPLES THAT
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DON'T. AND THEY
FIGURED THE REASON
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WAS THEY WERE COMMUNICATING.
NOW, I'M NOT RECOMMENDING WE
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ALL JUST START PLANNING
AND SCHEDULING FIGHTS, I'M JUST
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SAYING - AND, YOU KNOW,
IT IS IMPORTANT TO SHARE.
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YOU KNOW, ONE - I'VE SEEN IT
MANY TIMES WHEN ALL OF A SUDDEN
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A COUPLE - I'LL GET A CALL FROM
A HUSBAND OR WIFE - 'I DON'T
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KNOW. I NEVER SAW IT COMING.
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I JUST GOT A NOTE.
SHE'S FILED FOR DIVORCE.
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I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON.
I NEVER SAW IT COMING.' AND I
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SAID, 'WERE YOU
GUYS ARGUING?' 'NO!'
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WELL, ONE PARTNER WAS BOTTLING
IT ALL UP AND THEY FINALLY GOT
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WHERE THEY COULDN'T TAKE IT
ANYMORE, AND THAT'S WHEN THESE
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THINGS HAPPEN. SHARE
HOW YOU FEEL. DO IT NOW.
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AS CHRISTIANS - YOU KNOW, THE
WORLD SAYS, 'YEAH, HAVE A GOOD
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ARGUMENT ONCE A WEEK.' BUT WE
OUGHT TO BE DOING IT IN A LOVING
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WAY, YOU KNOW? A SOFT
ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH,
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BUT YOU OUGHT TO BE EXPRESSING
AND SAY, 'YOU KNOW, I JUST NEED
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TO LET - BUT - WHEN YOU DO THAT,
IT BOTHERS ME.' AND 'OH, I'M
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SORRY, I DIDN'T KNOW.' AND SO
YOU CAN TALK AND COMMUNICATE -
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SHARE HOW YOU FEEL - TALK ABOUT
YOUR DAY AND WHAT YOU DID AND,
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YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE CALLS IT
QUALITY - NO, THE BIBLE DOESN'T
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CALL IT QUALITY TIME, THE WORLD
CALLS IT QUALITY TIME - THE
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BIBLE CALLS IT SABBATH -
THE SABBATH IS QUALITY TIME.
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BEYOND THE QUALITY TIME IS KEEP
YOUR HEARTS AND YOUR BODIES FOR
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EACH OTHER. ADULTERY IS A SIN.
IT IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE
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COMMON. IT'S ONE OF THE TEN
COMMANDMENTS IN EXODUS 20, VERSE
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14 - THE SEVENTH COMMANDMENT
- "THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT
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ADULTERY." PROVERBS 31, VERSES
11 AND 12, "THE HEART OF HER
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HUSBAND SAFELY TRUSTS
HER...SHE DOES HIM GOOD
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AND NOT EVIL ALL
THE DAYS OF HER LIFE."
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YOU NEED TO HAVE A TRUSTING
RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU WILL NOT
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EVEN OPEN THE DOOR TO ANY
FLIRTATIOUS OPPORTUNITIES,
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BECAUSE AS SOON AS YOU BEGIN TO
SHOW YOURSELF BEING INTIMATE AND
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OVERLY FRIENDLY TO SOMEBODY
THAT'S IN THAT AGE BALLPARK OF
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THE OPPOSITE SEX, THEN YOU'RE
OPENING THE DOOR TO TEMPTATION.
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AND WHEN YOU START BECOMING
INTIMATE AND SAYING, 'OH, YOU
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KNOW, WE'VE BEEN HAVING THESE
PROBLEMS.' AND START SHARING
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PROBLEMS AND - THOSE THINGS
SHOULD JUST STAY IN THE FAMILY
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AND IT'S SACRED. IT'S AN
EPIDEMIC IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY.
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ACCORDING TO A NEW STUDY BY
THE NATIONAL OPINION RESEARCH
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CENTER, ROUGHLY 15% OF MARRIED
AMERICANS AND THOSE WHO WERE
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MARRIED, HAVE COMMITTED ADULTERY
- THEY VIOLATED THE VOWS AT THE
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TIME WHEN THEY WERE MARRIED
- 15%. YOU WATCH TELEVISION AND
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YOU'D THINK THAT IT'S
A LOT HIGHER THAN THAT.
00:12:26.98\00:12:28.98
I WAS ACTUALLY RELIEVED TO
HEAR IT'S ONLY 15% BECAUSE WE
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SURROUND OURSELVES WITH A
CULTURE WHERE THE PROGRAMING AND
00:12:33.25\00:12:36.32
THE MOVIES IS ALL ABOUT
SEX IS LIKE SHAKING HANDS.
00:12:36.32\00:12:39.45
ISN'T THAT RIGHT? AND THE IDEA
OF THE COVENANT AND HOW SACRED
00:12:39.45\00:12:43.36
IT IS, IS BEING LOST. THE COVER
OF TIME MAGAZINE: IS MONOGAMY
00:12:43.36\00:12:48.80
OVER? MONOGAMY IS NOT A
WOOD THAT'S USED IN CABINETS.
00:12:48.80\00:12:54.90
(LAUGHTER) THAT'S MAHOGANY.
MONOGAMY MEANS THAT YOU ARE JUST
00:12:54.90\00:13:02.01
MARRIED TO ONE PERSON AND YOU
ARE COMMITTED TO THAT PERSON.
00:13:02.01\00:13:05.98
AND WHAT DID I SAY TO YOU A
LITTLE BIT AGO ABOUT THE DEVIL
00:13:05.98\00:13:09.15
IS WORKING OVERTIME TO TRY AND
MAKE THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE
00:13:09.15\00:13:14.06
SEEM IRRELEVANT.
WE'RE SURROUNDED BY A MEDIA
00:13:14.06\00:13:19.89
CULTURE IN OUR WORLD WHERE
PEOPLE ARE COMMITTING ADULTERY
00:13:19.89\00:13:24.77
ALL THE TIME. AND JESUS
SAID, VERY CLEARLY, THAT IT IS
00:13:24.77\00:13:29.90
POSSIBLE FOR A PERSON TO
COMMIT ADULTERY IN THEIR HEADS.
00:13:29.90\00:13:33.51
HE SAID, 'IF A MAN LOOKS UPON A
WOMAN AND LUSTS AFTER HER IN HIS
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HEART, HE'S COMMITTING ADULTERY
IN HIS HEART.' THAT DOES NOT
00:13:37.91\00:13:42.48
MEAN THAT IS
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.
00:13:42.48\00:13:46.02
IF THINKING IT WAS GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE, THERE WOULD BE A WHOLE
00:13:46.02\00:13:49.72
LOT MORE DIVORCE TODAY THAN
THERE IS. THINKING IT IS A SIN.
00:13:49.72\00:13:53.96
JESUS WASN'T SAYING 'YOU'RE
THINKING IT, YOU MAY AS WELL DO
00:13:53.96\00:13:56.00
IT; THERE'S NO DIFFERENCE.'
YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?
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NOW THE REASON I SAY THAT IS
BECAUSE THERE ARE COUPLES THAT
00:13:59.40\00:14:04.51
COME TO ME AND THE HUSBAND WILL
SAY, 'I BELIEVE I HAVE BIBLICAL
00:14:04.51\00:14:08.44
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE: MY
WIFE IS ADDICTED TO SOAP OPERAS.
00:14:08.44\00:14:11.88
SHE'S WATCHING ALL THESE PEOPLE
COMMIT ADULTERY AND SHE IS
00:14:11.88\00:14:14.45
VICARIOUSLY COMMITTING
ADULTERY BY WATCHING IT.
00:14:14.45\00:14:18.32
AND SO, SINCE JESUS SAID
THINKING IT IS THE SAME AS DOING
00:14:18.32\00:14:21.26
IT, I HAVE GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE.' DO YOU BELIEVE THAT?
00:14:21.26\00:14:24.86
NO, I DON'T BELIEVE THAT. I
THINK IT'S A SIN, BUT I DON'T
00:14:24.86\00:14:28.90
THINK IT'S WHAT
JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT.
00:14:28.90\00:14:30.37
JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT THE ACT
OF ADULTERY - FORNICATION - WAS
00:14:30.37\00:14:34.94
THE ONLY BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR
DIVORCE, ASIDE FROM THAT OTHER
00:14:34.94\00:14:38.07
EXAMPLE I GAVE YOU LAST WEEK -
1 CORINTHIANS 7 - OF TWO PAGANS
00:14:38.07\00:14:42.14
THAT GET MARRIED AND THEY
CONVERT, THEN, TO CHRISTIANITY.
00:14:42.14\00:14:45.08
ANYWAY, WITH THAT IN MIND,
THERE IS AN ABSOLUTE EPIDEMIC OF
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PORNOGRAPHY, BASED ON HOW MANY
PORNOGRAPHIC SITES ARE, IT'S A
00:14:50.49\00:14:55.09
MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.
THERE ARE A LOT MORE PEOPLE THAT
00:14:55.09\00:14:58.16
ARE STRUGGLING WITH
THAT THAN YOU MIGHT IMAGINE
00:14:58.16\00:15:01.06
- MEN AND WOMEN. ALL
KINDS OF DIFFERENT SITES.
00:15:01.06\00:15:05.53
IT'S A SIN. IT NEEDS
TO BE REPENTED OF, BUT
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THINKING IS NOT
THE SAME AS DOING.
00:15:10.77\00:15:14.64
IF A PERSON GETS ANGRY AND
THEY THINK MURDEROUS THOUGHTS IN
00:15:14.64\00:15:17.75
THEIR HEART AND THEY DO NOT ACT
OR CONSPIRE ON THOSE THOUGHTS,
00:15:17.75\00:15:21.75
THERE'S NO COURT IN THE COUNTRY
THAT WILL CONVICT THEM OF
00:15:21.75\00:15:24.49
MURDER, BECAUSE YOU SAY, 'I WISH
A PERSON WAS DEAD' AND YOU WALK
00:15:24.49\00:15:28.32
AWAY AND DON'T DO ANYTHING, YOU
WILL NOT BE ARRESTED AND PUT IN
00:15:28.32\00:15:30.83
JAIL FOR MURDER.
BECAUSE THINKING SOMETHING IS
00:15:30.83\00:15:34.00
NOT THE SAME AS
DOING IT, YOU UNDERSTAND?
00:15:34.00\00:15:36.16
A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE USING THAT,
NOW, AS GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE.
00:15:36.16\00:15:39.10
NOW, IF A WOMAN IS MARRIED TO A
MAN AND HE'S GOT AN ADDICTION TO
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PORNOGRAPHY, ESPECIALLY IF THERE
ARE CHILDREN IN THE HOUSEHOLD,
00:15:43.94\00:15:47.41
THERE MIGHT BE GROUNDS
FOR SEPARATION UNTIL THERE'S
00:15:47.41\00:15:50.58
COUNSELING. DO YOU
UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING?
00:15:50.58\00:15:54.78
THE DIFFERENCE - THERE'S A
DIFFERENCE THERE - AND A PERSON
00:15:54.78\00:15:59.19
MIGHT NEED TO TAKE SOME
PROACTIVE MEASURES TO URGE AND
00:15:59.19\00:16:02.49
ENCOURAGE THEIR
SPOUSE TO GET SOME HELP.
00:16:02.49\00:16:05.29
BUT THINKING IT IS NOT THE SAME
AS DOING IT AND, BIBLICALLY,
00:16:05.29\00:16:09.36
WHAT DOES JESUS SAY ARE
THE GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE AND
00:16:09.36\00:16:12.43
REMARRIAGE? MATTHEW
19:6 "THEREFORE WHAT GOD
00:16:12.43\00:16:15.94
HAS JOINED TOGETHER,
LET NOT MAN SEPARATE."
00:16:15.94\00:16:19.27
'WHOEVER THEREFORE SHALL PUT
AWAY HIS WIFE, EXCEPT IT BE FOR
00:16:19.27\00:16:22.78
FORNICATION, AND SHALL MARRY
ANOTHER COMMITS ADULTERY; AND
00:16:22.78\00:16:26.61
WHOEVER MARRIES HER WHO IS
DIVORCED COMMITS ADULTERY.' PAUL
00:16:26.61\00:16:32.35
SAYS, IN ROMANS 7, VERSE 2, "FOR
THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND IS
00:16:32.35\00:16:36.16
BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER
HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES."
00:16:36.16\00:16:39.69
WITH THAT CAVEAT, EXCEPT
FOR THAT EXCEPTION JESUS MAKES.
00:16:39.69\00:16:44.17
I'M NOT GOING TO STAND HERE
AS A PASTOR AND TELL YOU ALL THE
00:16:44.17\00:16:46.27
GOOD REASONS TO GET DIVORCED.
YOU'LL FIND THOSE ON YOUR OWN.
00:16:46.27\00:16:49.30
I'M HERE TO TELL YOU THERE
ARE GOOD REASONS TO KEEP IT
00:16:49.30\00:16:51.77
TOGETHER. >>AMEN.
00:16:51.77\00:16:53.38
>>AND THAT, YOU KNOW, WE'RE TO
BE WITNESSES IN OUR SOCIETY FOR
00:16:53.38\00:16:56.81
RECONCILIATION -
FOR REDEMPTION, AMEN?
00:16:56.81\00:17:00.68
>>AMEN. >>SO RULE OUT THE
00:17:00.68\00:17:02.48
DIVORCE OPTION. DO ALL
YOU CAN TO - THESE TIES
00:17:02.48\00:17:05.79
OF MARRIAGE ARE
MEANT TO BE INDISSOLUBLE.
00:17:05.79\00:17:08.46
DO NOT NAG OR CRITICIZE,
YOU'LL HAVE A LOT HAPPIER HOME.
00:17:08.46\00:17:13.36
WE ALL HAVE GOOD DAYS AND
BAD DAYS AND DON'T BE CONSTANTLY
00:17:13.36\00:17:16.60
FOCUSING ON YOUR SPOUSE'S FAULTS
AND RIDING THEM, TRYING TO
00:17:16.60\00:17:20.90
CHANGE THAT PERSON. IF YOU'RE
GOING TO CHANGE SOMEONE, CHANGE
00:17:20.90\00:17:24.24
YOURSELF. YOU CAN'T
CHANGE THE OTHER PERSON.
00:17:24.24\00:17:26.84
A LOT OF PEOPLE GET MARRIED
THINKING THEY'RE GOING TO CHANGE
00:17:26.84\00:17:30.08
THE OTHER PERSON AND
THAT DOESN'T END WELL.
00:17:30.08\00:17:32.11
BEN FRANKLIN SAID, 'KEEP YOUR
EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE'
00:17:32.11\00:17:34.95
- THIS IS A MESSAGE TO THE
SINGLES - 'KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE
00:17:34.95\00:17:37.75
OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE AND KEEP
THEM HALF SHUT AFTER MARRIAGE'
00:17:37.75\00:17:41.29
BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING
TO FIND THEIR PROBLEMS.
00:17:41.29\00:17:43.96
COLOSSIANS 3, VERSE 19,
"HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES
00:17:43.96\00:17:47.60
AND DO NOT BE
BITTER TOWARD THEM."
00:17:47.60\00:17:49.43
HE'S TALKING ABOUT WIVES -
HUSBANDS THAT ARE BADGERING OR
00:17:49.43\00:17:52.87
BEING BITTER
AGAINST THEIR WIVES.
00:17:52.87\00:17:54.07
AND THEN YOU CAN READ IN
PROVERBS 21:19, IT IS "BETTER TO
00:17:54.07\00:17:57.27
DWELL IN THE WILDERNESS, THAN
WITH A CONTENTIOUS AND ANGRY
00:17:57.27\00:17:59.87
WOMAN." WHO WROTE THAT?
00:17:59.87\00:18:02.58
>>SOLOMON. >>SOLOMON.
00:18:02.58\00:18:04.51
HOW MANY WIVES
DID HE HAVE? >>700.
00:18:04.51\00:18:06.75
>>700 AND THEN HE HAD
300 STAND-BY CONCUBINES.
00:18:06.75\00:18:11.75
HE ALSO SAID - PROVERBS 27,
VERSE 15, "A CONTINUAL DRIPPING
00:18:11.75\00:18:16.96
ON A VERY RAINY DAY AND A
CONTENTIOUS WOMAN ARE ALIKE;"
00:18:16.96\00:18:20.36
DON'T BADGER - DON'T
CRITICIZE - ENCOURAGE!
00:18:20.36\00:18:24.03
IT GOES A LONG WAY TO ENCOURAGE
AND APPRECIATE EACH OTHER.
00:18:24.03\00:18:28.07
AND, YOU KNOW, MEN LIKE TO
BE APPRECIATED FOR - WHEN WE
00:18:28.07\00:18:30.77
ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING - WE'RE
VERY TASK-ORIENTED AND SOMETIMES
00:18:30.77\00:18:33.91
WE FIX SOMETHING AND WE THINK
THAT WE OUGHT TO GET A MEDAL -
00:18:33.91\00:18:37.01
THE WIFE IS GOING TO, YOU KNOW,
JUST APPLAUD AND SHE GOES, 'OH,
00:18:37.01\00:18:39.81
THAT'S YOUR JOB.' I GO, 'BUT...'
OUR ICE MAKER WENT OUT ON OUR
00:18:39.81\00:18:45.02
REFRIGERATOR, WHICH, YOU KNOW,
WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SO BAD EXCEPT
00:18:45.02\00:18:48.56
IT WAS JUST GONE OUT OF WARRANTY
- IT WAS A BRAND - IT'S A FAIRLY
00:18:48.56\00:18:51.26
NEW REFRIGERATOR.
IT'S ONE OF THESE NEW ONES
00:18:51.26\00:18:53.83
THAT'S GOT ALL OF THE
COMPUTER THINGS IN IT AND I
00:18:53.83\00:18:58.00
KEPT TRYING TO FIX IT.
YOU KNOW, I'M ONE OF THE
00:18:58.00\00:18:59.20
GUYS THAT I JUST WANT TO FIX
EVERYTHING MYSELF. I'M PRETTY
00:18:59.20\00:19:02.70
HANDY AROUND THE HOUSE,
BUT I COULDN'T FIGURE THIS OUT.
00:19:02.70\00:19:04.87
IT HAD ALL THESE COMPUTER THINGS
IN IT AND - SO WE DEFROSTED IT
00:19:04.87\00:19:07.88
AND I TRIED ALL THESE THINGS
- I COULDN'T GET - BRAND NEW -
00:19:07.88\00:19:09.61
NOTHING'S BROKEN - WHY DID IT
STOP WORKING? I GOT ONLINE - YOU
00:19:09.61\00:19:14.15
CAN FIND ALMOST
ANYTHING ONLINE. >>AMEN.
00:19:14.15\00:19:16.38
>>I FOUND OUT HOW TO FIX A
REFRIGERATOR CIRCUIT BOARD.
00:19:16.38\00:19:20.32
AND SO I
FIGURED OUT WHAT IT WAS.
00:19:20.32\00:19:21.66
I WASN'T GOING TO CALL - A
FRIEND I PLAY RACQUETBALL WITH
00:19:21.66\00:19:24.56
SAID HE CALLED IN A REFRIGERATOR
REPAIRMEN WHO JUST MOVED A
00:19:24.56\00:19:28.13
LITTLE ICE TRAY BAR
AND CHARGED HIM $300.00.
00:19:28.13\00:19:30.47
I SAID, 'I'M NOT CALLING
ANYBODY.' I SAID, 'I'M GOING TO
00:19:30.47\00:19:31.80
FIX THIS THING!'
(LAUGHTER) NOTHING PERSONAL, IF
00:19:31.80\00:19:36.14
YOU HAPPEN TO BE AN
APPLIANCE REPAIRMAN OUT THERE.
00:19:36.14\00:19:40.08
I GOT ONLINE, FIGURED OUT
WHAT IT WAS, I DID THE TEST, I
00:19:40.08\00:19:42.38
WATCHED THE VIDEO, I ORDERED THE
COMPUTERIZED PARTS, I INSTALLED
00:19:42.38\00:19:45.05
THESE TWO CIRCUIT BOARDS, AND
CLOSED THE DOOR - AND I STOOD
00:19:45.05\00:19:49.92
THERE AND KAREN'S AT HER DESK
- ALL OF A SUDDEN I HEARD IT GO
00:19:49.92\00:19:52.19
'CLICK-CHHHH' - IT WAS WORKING!
THE WATER WAS RUNNING INTO THE
00:19:52.19\00:19:54.76
ICE MAKER AND I DID A DANCE.
I SAID, 'IT'S WORKING, DEAR!'
00:19:54.76\00:19:57.99
'OH, GOOD.' (RAUCOUS LAUGHTER)
I SAID, 'I JUST - TWO COMPUTER
00:19:57.99\00:20:04.70
CIRCUIT - I PLUGGED - AND TOOK
IT APART, PUT IT TOGETHER - IT'S
00:20:04.70\00:20:07.14
WORKING!' 'THAT'S GOOD, DEAR.'
(LAUGHTER) AND THEN A LITTLE
00:20:07.14\00:20:12.44
WHILE LATER, WHEN WE HEARD THE
ICE GO, 'CLU-CHUNK' AND IT MADE
00:20:12.44\00:20:16.01
ITS FIRST BATCH OF ICE I
SAID, 'DID YOU HEAR THAT?
00:20:16.01\00:20:17.88
THAT'S MUSIC TO MY
EARS!' 'HEAR WHAT?'
00:20:17.88\00:20:21.02
I SAID, 'THE ICE
MAKER'S WORKING!'
00:20:21.02\00:20:22.38
(LAUGHTER) I JUST
WANTED SOME AFFIRMATION.
00:20:22.38\00:20:25.45
(LAUGHTER) SHE JUST NEEDS TO
SAY, 'DOUG, YOU'RE BRILLIANT!'
00:20:25.45\00:20:27.32
- SOMETHING LIKE THAT!
(RAUCOUS LAUGHTER) I MEAN,
00:20:27.32\00:20:32.93
IT'S NOT HARD, YOU KNOW?
IT DOESN'T COST ANYTHING.
00:20:32.93\00:20:36.13
I WAS JUST FISHING FOR 'YOU'RE A
GENIUS! I'M SO GLAD TO HAVE A -
00:20:36.13\00:20:40.87
WE SAVED $300.00, BLESS YOU!'
DON'T CRITICIZE, ENCOURAGE,
00:20:40.87\00:20:46.64
AMEN? >>AMEN.
00:20:46.64\00:20:48.68
>>1 CORINTHIANS 13:4,
'LOVE LOOKS FOR A WAY OF BEING
00:20:48.68\00:20:52.15
CONSTRUCTIVE' - THAT'S
THE PHILIPS TRANSLATION.
00:20:52.15\00:20:56.69
A HUSBAND AND WIFE MAY HAVE
THEIR PROBLEMS, BUT YOU NEED TO
00:20:56.69\00:20:59.69
ENCOURAGE THEM WHEN YOU CAN AND,
WHEN THERE ARE MISTAKES, YOU'VE
00:20:59.69\00:21:02.26
GOT TO LEARN TO LAUGH WITH EACH
OTHER - THAT'S DIFFERENT FROM
00:21:02.26\00:21:05.16
LAUGHING AT THE
OTHER PERSON'S EXPENSE.
00:21:05.16\00:21:07.30
I HAVE SEEN VERY EMBARRASSING
SITUATIONS WHERE A HUSBAND AND
00:21:07.30\00:21:11.53
WIFE WERE TOGETHER AND, FOR
WHATEVER REASON, THIS POOR WOMAN
00:21:11.53\00:21:15.47
OR MAN, THE SPOUSE IS ALWAYS
MAKING JOKES AT THEIR EXPENSE
00:21:15.47\00:21:20.28
AND THEY KIND OF DROP THEIR HEAD
AND THEY LAUGH A LITTLE BIT,
00:21:20.28\00:21:22.94
BUT YOU CAN TELL IT HURTS THEM.
00:21:22.94\00:21:24.88
THEY'RE CONSTANTLY BEING PUT
DOWN AND THEIR LAUGHING AT THEIR
00:21:24.88\00:21:27.65
EXPENSE AND THAT'S NOT THE KIND
OF LAUGHING WITH EACH OTHER -
00:21:27.65\00:21:32.32
AND - I KNOW KAREN AND I WERE
OUT DOING YARD WORK AND I GO AND
00:21:32.32\00:21:35.56
I TURN ON THE HOSE AND DIDN'T
REALIZE THAT THE HOSE HAD SPLIT
00:21:35.56\00:21:39.69
AND IT STARTS TO SPRAY AND
GET ME ALL WET AND SHE STARTS
00:21:39.69\00:21:44.13
LAUGHING. I SAID, 'WHY ARE YOU
LAUGHING?' AND SHE SAID, 'THAT
00:21:44.13\00:21:45.83
HAPPENED TO ME; I FORGOT TO TELL
YOU' - (LAUGHTER) - 'THE HOSE
00:21:45.83\00:21:49.10
NEEDED FIXING.' I
SAID, 'WELL, THANKS A LOT!'
00:21:49.10\00:21:50.91
(LAUGHTER) WELL, YOU KNOW, AT
TIMES WE HAVE A LAUGH TOGETHER -
00:21:50.91\00:21:53.51
YOU'RE LAUGHING - AND SO YOU
NEED TO HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
00:21:53.51\00:21:56.51
YOU CAN DEFUSE A LOT OF TENSIONS
IN RELATIONSHIPS BY BEING ABLE
00:21:56.51\00:22:01.65
TO VENT AND LAUGH AT YOURSELVES
- AND EVEN LAUGH AT YOUR HUMAN
00:22:01.65\00:22:06.25
WEAKNESSES AND SAY - DON'T LAUGH
AT THE OTHER, BUT LAUGH AT YOUR
00:22:06.25\00:22:09.62
OWN - AND IT MAKES IT EASIER
FOR THE OTHER TO FORGIVE YOU.
00:22:09.62\00:22:13.63
LOVE AND SERVE ONE ANOTHER.
IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT 'WHAT WILL I
00:22:13.63\00:22:19.37
GET OUT OF' - 'I WANT TO MARRY
THIS PERSON BECAUSE OF WHAT
00:22:19.37\00:22:22.00
THEY'RE GOING TO DO FOR ME.' BUT
JESUS DOESN'T THINK THAT WAY.
00:22:22.00\00:22:25.61
JESUS CAME TO THIS WORLD BECAUSE
OF WHAT HE COULD DO FOR US.
00:22:25.61\00:22:29.64
HE SAID, "THE SON OF MAN" -
MATTHEW 20, VERSE 28 - "DID NOT
00:22:29.64\00:22:33.78
COME TO BE SERVED, BUT TO SERVE,
AND TO GIVE HIS LIFE A RANSOM
00:22:33.78\00:22:38.19
FOR MANY." SEE
YOUR SPOUSE AS SOMEBODY
00:22:38.19\00:22:41.29
BEFORE WHOM YOU CAN MODEL
CHRIST BY BEING A SERVANT.
00:22:41.29\00:22:44.96
AND EVEN THOSE WHO ARE SINGLES,
LOOK FOR LIVES OF SERVICE -
00:22:44.96\00:22:47.60
OPPORTUNITY TO SERVE OTHERS.
00:22:47.60\00:22:49.33
I HEARD ABOUT THIS YOUNG COUPLE,
THEY GOT MARRIED, CAME BACK FROM
00:22:49.33\00:22:55.04
THE HONEYMOON AND MOVED INTO
THEIR NEW HOME THAT THEY HAD
00:22:55.04\00:22:57.07
PURCHASED AND, AFTER THE FIRST
DAY IN THE NEW HOME, THE WIFE
00:22:57.07\00:23:00.68
WAS UPSTAIRS AND WHEN SHE
WOKE UP THE HUSBAND IS COMING
00:23:00.68\00:23:03.78
UPSTAIRS AND HE'S GOT BREAKFAST
ON A TRAY WITH A FLOWER AND HE
00:23:03.78\00:23:10.12
BRINGS IT AND HE SETS IT DOWN
ON THE BED AND SHE SITS UP AND
00:23:10.12\00:23:13.02
SHE'S RUBBING HER
EYES AND SHE'S SMILING.
00:23:13.02\00:23:14.92
HE SAID, 'SEE WHAT I
DID FOR YOU, SWEETIE?'
00:23:14.92\00:23:18.19
'OH, THIS IS SO KIND.' 'SEE,
SEE THE TOAST - HOW I DID IT?'
00:23:18.19\00:23:22.86
HE SAID, 'IT'S NOT BURNT, IT'S
NOT WHITE, IT'S JUST THAT GOLDEN
00:23:22.86\00:23:26.10
BROWN. AND THE
EGGS, THEY'RE NOT RUNNY.
00:23:26.10\00:23:28.84
THEY'RE JUST SCRAMBLED JUST
RIGHT. SEE, I'VE GOT YOUR TEA
00:23:28.84\00:23:31.81
IN THE BACK - IT'S
STILL HOT. SEE WHAT I DID?'
00:23:31.81\00:23:34.51
SHE SAID, 'OH, YOU'RE SUCH A
DARLING.' HER EYES ARE TEARING
00:23:34.51\00:23:37.71
UP AND SHE SAID, 'I'VE MARRIED
THE BEST MAN IN THE WORLD.' AND
00:23:37.71\00:23:41.25
THEN HE SAID, 'THIS IS HOW I'LL
BE EXPECTING MY BREAKFAST EVERY
00:23:41.25\00:23:44.55
DAY FROM HERE ON.' (RAUCOUS
LAUGHTER) SERVE OTHERS NOT
00:23:44.55\00:23:52.43
BECAUSE YOU HAVE AN ULTERIOR
MOTIVE. SERVE OTHERS BECAUSE YOU
00:23:52.43\00:23:58.40
JUST LOVE THEM,
EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN.
00:23:58.40\00:24:00.97
DIDN'T JESUS SAY, 'GIVE,
EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN'?
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LOVE SERVES - 1 CORINTHIANS 13
- I'LL START WITH VERSE 4, "LOVE
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SUFFERS LONG AND IS KIND; LOVE
DOES NOT ENVY; LOVE DOES NOT
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PARADE ITSELF, IS NOT
PUFFED UP;" - IT'S NOT PROUD.
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SOMETIMES - SO MANY TIMES - IN
MARRIAGES THERE'S STRIFE BECAUSE
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SOMEONE'S PRIDE WAS OFFENDED
- LOVE "DOES NOT BEHAVE RUDELY,
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DOES NOT SEEK ITS OWN, IS
NOT PROVOKED, THINKS NO EVIL;" -
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PURITY OF THOUGHT - "DOES
NOT REJOICE IN INIQUITY, BUT
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REJOICES IN THE TRUTH; BEARS
ALL THINGS," - PATIENCE IN OUR
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RELATIONSHIPS - "BELIEVES
ALL THINGS, HOPES ALL THINGS,
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ENDURES ALL
THINGS. LOVE NEVER FAILS."
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THAT'S THE KIND OF LOVE - A LOVE
THAT ENDURES - JESUS SAID, 'HE
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THAT ENDURES TO THE END WILL
BE SAVED.' GOD WANTS US TO HAVE
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MARRIAGES THAT WAY,
WHERE WE FINISH WELL.
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AMEN, FRIENDS? >>AMEN.
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>>DON'T YOU WANT TO HAVE
THAT KIND OF LOVE IN OUR HOME?
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AND THIS IS HOW WE WILL HAVE A
STRONG CHURCH - STRONG FAMILIES
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- AND IT'LL AFFECT OUR WHOLE
COMMUNITY AND OUR COUNTRY IF WE
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COULD JUST HAVE A REVIVAL OF THE
BIBLICAL CONCEPT OF LOVE IN OUR
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MARRIAGES. GOD WANTS YOU TO HAVE
THAT KIND OF A HOME. I WANT THAT
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KIND OF A HOME,
DON'T YOU? >>AMEN. (MUSIC)
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>>ONE OF THE MOST COMMON
QUESTIONS WE GET HERE AT AMAZING
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FACTS IS REGARDING
TROUBLED MARRIAGES.
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PEOPLE ARE
STRUGGLING IN THEIR FAMILIES.
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WE KNOW ABOUT HALF OF
THE AMERICAN MARRIAGES END IN
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DIVORCE. DOES THE BIBLE
OFFER SOME ANSWERS? ABSOLUTELY.
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IN THE SCRIPTURES, THERE
ARE KEYS TO MAKE A GOOD MARRIAGE
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MISSION. >>LET'S
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EASY TO UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING
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>>I BEGAN
READING THE BIBLE AND -
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>>I GOT BAPTIZED INTO
A SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST -
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>>I REALIZED THAT
THERE HAD TO BE MORE TO LIFE.
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>>GOD IS REALLY DOING THIS.
>>THE LIFE THAT HE'S GIVEN ME.
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>>THIS MESSAGE WAS SO
POWERFUL. >>I'LL FOLLOW CHRIST
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WHEREVER HE
GOES. >>AMAZING FACTS.
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MORE THAN 45 YEARS OF
PROCLAIMING GOD'S MESSAGE AROUND
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THE WORLD. >>AND
THEN THE LOGO POPS
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ACROSS AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS
. I'VE LISTENED TO A LOT OF
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DIFFERENT MINISTERS, BUT THIS
WAS THE FIRST TIME THAT HE'S
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ACTUALLY SAYING SOMETHING
WHERE I HAD TO GRAB MY BIBLE AND
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ACTUALLY PICK IT UP AND
I'VE NEVER HEARD THIS BEFORE.
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LET ME - LET ME LOOK THROUGH
AND FIND THIS. THEN I JUST
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COULDN'T GET
ENOUGH. >>AND SO I STARTED
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DOING BIBLE STUDIES.
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE GUYS
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STARTED BEING
CHANGED, INCLUDING MYSELF.
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>>MY QUESTION WAS, 'WHY
DID THAT HAPPEN TO ME, GOD?'
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THE LORD WAS ABLE TO REACH OUT
AND - AND I ACTUALLY SAW HIM AS
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A FATHER. >>I LOST
EVERYTHING AND THAT WAS
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WHEN I REALIZED THAT IT
WAS GOD MISSING IN MY LIFE.
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>>I WENT TO A PROPHECY
SEMINAR, WHICH KNOCKED ME OUT.
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THIS MESSAGE WAS SO POWERFUL
AND SO IRREFUTABLE, I JUST WENT,
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'THIS IS REAL. THIS
IS - THIS IS AMAZING.'
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(MUSIC)
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