>>THIS PRESENTATION IS BROUGHT
TO YOU BY THFRIENDS OF THE
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AMAZING FACTS MINISTRY.
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>>MARRIAGE IS AMONG THE
MOST IMPORTANT COVENANTS - OR
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PROMISES - THAT ARE MADE.
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SOME PEOPLE LOOK AT
DIVORCE AS AN ESCAPE HATCH.
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I'D LIKE TO RECOMMEND, IF YOU'RE
A CHRISTIAN, SHUT THE HATCH,
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WELD IT, LOCK IT,
THROW AWAY THE KEY.
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>>FOR OVER 40 YEARS AMAZING
FACTS HAS BEEN DEDICATED TO
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SHARING GOD'S
WORD THROUGH MEDIA.
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THIS PROGRAM FEATURES HIGHLIGHTS
FROM SOME OF OUR BEST TELEVISION
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BROADCASTS. WE
INVITE YOU TO SIT BACK AND
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ENJOY THIS EDITION OF
AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS.
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>>OUR MESSAGE FOR TODAY, AND
IT'S GOING TO BE MAYBE A TWO- OR
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THREE-PART MESSAGE, IS GOING
TO BE CALLED TOGETHER FOR LIFE -
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TOGETHER FOR LIFE: BIBLE
KEYS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE .
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IN OUR WORLD TODAY,
DIVORCE IS EPIDEMIC.
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YOU'VE PROBABLY HEARD
THE STATISTICS THAT SOMEWHERE
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BETWEEN 40 AND 50 PERCENT
OF MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE.
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THE REASON THOSE STATISTICS
ARE SO SLOPPY IS BECAUSE SO MANY
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PEOPLE LIVE TODAY, WITHOUT EVEN
THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE, IT'S
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HARD TO REALLY MEASURE
IT. I BELIEVE IT WAS - SOMEONE
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THINKS MAYBE, 'WELL, MAYBE THE
SECOND MARRIAGE'LL BE BETTER.
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60 PERCENT OF SECOND MARRIAGES
END IN DIVORCE AND IT'S EVEN
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WORSE FOR THIRD MARRIAGES.
PAIGE PATTERSON, WHO WAS THE
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PRESIDENT OF THE BAPTIST
THEOLOGICAL SEMINARY IN FORT
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WORTH, CITING THE DEMISE
OF TWENTY-ONE OF THE WORLD'S
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GREAT CIVILIZATIONS.
ACTUALLY, THE HISTORIAN WHO
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WROTE ABOUT THIS WAS AN ATHEIST,
BUT HE SAID THAT HE DISCOVERED
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THAT AMONG THE 21 OF THE WORLD'S
GREATEST CIVILIZATIONS, PART
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OF THEIR BREAKDOWN WAS
THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME.
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ADDING TO THAT HE SAID, 'AMERICA
COULD BE LIVING OUT ITS FINAL
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CHAPTERS IN THE ANNALS OF
HISTORY UNLESS THE BIBLICAL
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MODEL FOR THE
FAMILY IS RESTORED.'
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JAMES DOBSON SAID, IN MAY OF
THIS YEAR, 'I DO NOT RECALL A
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TIME WHEN THE INSTITUTIONS
OF MARRIAGE AND THE FAMILY HAVE
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FACED SUCH PERIL OR WHEN THE
FORCES ARRAYED AGAINST THEM WERE
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MORE FORMIDABLE OR DETERMINED.
BARRING A MIRACLE, THE FAMILY
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THAT HAS EXISTED SINCE
ANTIQUITY WILL LIKELY CRUMBLE
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FORESHADOWING THE FALL OF
WESTERN CIVILIZATION ITSELF.
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AND MANY ARE WONDERING IF WHAT
HAPPENED WITH THE SUPREME COURT
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AT THAT RECENT RULING ON
MARRIAGE WAS DRIVING A SILVER
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SPIKE IN THE HEART OF
AMERICAN MARRIAGE ALTOGETHER.
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NOW I DON'T WANT TO DWELL
TOO MUCH ABOUT THIS, BUT IT'S
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SOMETHING THAT WE PROBABLY
ARE GOING TO HAVE TO TALK ABOUT.
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WHAT ARE THE MAIN
REASONS THAT DIVORCE HAPPENS?
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I'M JUST GOING TO GIVE YOU 24
OF THE TOP REASONS THAT ARE LTED
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WHEN PEOPLE CITE THE REASONS FOR
DIVORCE: FINANCIAL PROBLEMS -
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YOU KNOW, A LOT OF PEOPLE,
THEY THINK, 'WELL, BEFORE WE GET
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MARRIED, WE SHOULD LIVE TOGETHER
SO WE GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER TO
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FIND OUT IF WE'RE COMPATIBLE.'
HAVE YOU HEARD THAT ONE BEFORE?
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'YOU GUYS AREN'T MARRIED,
WHY ARE YOU LIVING TOGETHER?'
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'WELL, WE'RE JUST - WE WANT
TO MAKE SURE WE'RE COMPATIBLE
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BEFORE WE, YOU KNOW, MAKE IT
OFFICIAL AND...' AND I HEARD A
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PASTOR SAY, 'IF YOU WANT TO FIND
OUT IF YOU'RE COMPATIBLE, YOU
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DON'T NEED TO SHARE A BED, SHARE
A CHECKBOOK.' BECAUSE THE NUMBER
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ONE REASON THAT PEOPLE GET
DIVORCED IS NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE
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SEXUALLY INCOMPATIBLE,
IT'S THEY'RE FINANCIALLY
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INCOMPATIBLE.
FINANCIAL PROBLEMS - NUMBER ONE.
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INABILITY TO MANAGE
OR RESOLVE CONFLICT.
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INFIDELITY. CULTURAL
AND LIFESTYLE DIFFERENCES.
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NOW THAT, SOMETIMES,
IS BIGGER THAN YOU THINK.
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PEOPLE, YOU KNOW, THEY GROW
UP IN A WHOLE DIFFERENT CULTURE
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WITH DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
AND DIFFERENT PATTERNS AND
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TRADITIONS THAT CAN SEEM
SO BIZARRE TO PEOPLE FROM A
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DIFFERENT CULTURE. A LACK
OF COMMITMENT IS PUT DOWN.
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LACK OF
COMMUNICATION BETWEEN SPOUSES.
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ABANDONMENT. ALCOHOL OR
DRUG ADDICTION. PHYSICAL ABUSE.
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EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES OR
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IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES
- HAVE YOU HEARD THAT BEFORE?
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DIFFERENCES IN
PERSONAL OR CAREER GOALS.
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DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS
ABOUT HOUSEHOLD TASKS.
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THEY GET DIVORCED BECAUSE SHE
THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO DO IT
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AND HE THOUGHT SHE
WAS GOING TO DO IT.
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DIFFERENT EXPECTATIONS ABOUT
HAVING OR REARING CHILDREN.
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THAT'S A BIG ONE. INTERFERENCE
FROM PARENTS OR FROM IN-LAWS.
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LACK OF MATURITY IS
LISTED AS A DIFFERENCE.
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INTELLECTUAL INCOMPATIBILITY.
SOMETIMES JUST THE EDUCATIONAL
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LEVEL CAN BECOME A PROBLEM.
SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY IS
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LISTED, BUT IT'S
PRETTY FAR DOWN THE LIST.
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NOT ALLOWING ROOM
FOR PERSONAL GROWTH.
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FALLING OUT OF LOVE.
RELIGIOUS CONVERSION OR
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RELIGIOUS BELIEFS - I'VE SEEN
THAT BECOME A SERIOUS ISSUE.
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MENTAL
INSTABILITY OR MENTAL ILLNESS.
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CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR AND
INCARCERATION FOR CRIME.
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IT'S VERY HARD ON MARRIAGES WHEN
ONE SPOUSE IS INCARCERATED FOR A
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LONG PERIOD OF TIME.
INABILITY TO DEAL WITH EACH
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OTHERS' PETTY IDIOSYNCRASIES.
NOW, YOU MIGHT FIND THAT SOME
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OF THESE ARE ISSUES IN YOUR
MARRIAGES - THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE
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MARRIED HERE, BUT NONE
OF THEM NEEDS TO BE THE
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REASON FOR DIVORCE.
AND I'M GOING TO GO THROUGH
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A LIST OF MAYBE 18 DIFFERENT
SUBJECTS THAT ARE BIBLE SECRETS.
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AND IF WE UNDERSTAND
THESE THINGS, THEY CAN REALLY
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CONTRIBUTE TO HEALING A MARRIAGE
AND MAKING A GOOD MARRIAGE
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BETTER IF WE
FOLLOW THESE PRINCIPLES.
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FIRST OF ALL, 1) REMEMBER THAT
MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE COVENANT.
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WE ARE SAVED. YOU'RE
IN CHURCH TODAY BECAUSE,
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OSTENSIBLY, YOU WANT TO BE OR
ARE A CHRISTIAN AND WE ARE SAVED
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BASED ON A COVENANT - A PROMISE
- THAT GOD HAS MADE TO US.
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HE GAVE HIS SON TO SAVE US AND
WE, BY FAITH, ACCEPT HIS WORD
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AND WE MAKE A PLEDGE THAT WE'RE
GOING TO COMMIT OUR LIVES TO
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HIM. A COVENANT
IS MADE - COVENANTS
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- AGREEMENTS -
PROMISES - VERY IMPORTANT.
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MARRIAGE IS AMONG THE MOST
IMPORTANT COVENANTS OR PROMISES
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THAT ARE MADE.
YOU'RE MAKING VOWS IN THE
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PRESENCE OF GOD AND OTHER
WITNESSES. IT'S A COVENANT
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THAT'S NOT ONLY SOMETHING
THAT IS DONE BEFORE YOU AND GOD.
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IT'S SOMETHING
THAT IS DONE SOCIALLY.
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IT'S A COMMITMENT - A COVENANT
THAT MAKES - FOR ONE THING, IT
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IS SAYING PUBLICLY 'WE ARE
OFFICIALLY COMMITTING OURSELVES
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TO EACH OTHER. SHE IS
OFF THE MARKET FOR ANYONE
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ELSE THAT MIGHT BE
INTERESTED.' SHE'S SAYING 'HE
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IS OFF THE MARKET. WE
ARE A NEW FAMILY UNIT THAT IS
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TO BE GUARDED AND RESPECTED
BY THE CULTURE AND SOCIETY.'
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IT IS A PUBLIC
COMMITMENT. >>AMEN.
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>>AND IT USED TO BE THE REASON
THE GOVERNMENT IS INVOLVED IS
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BECAUSE THERE WAS OFFSPRING THAT
WAS THE PRODUCT OF THOSE UNIONS
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AND IF ONE OF THE SPOUSES
DIED OR BOTH SPOUSES DIED, THEY
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NEEDED TO DETERMINE HOW
TO DEAL WITH THE CHILDREN.
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AND THEN, SOMETIMES, THE
GOVERNMENT WOULD HAVE TO STEP IN
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TO CARE FOR THOSE THINGS -
AND THERE WERE LAWS INVOLVED.
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BUT IT DOES MATTER THAT
YOU ARE LEGALLY MARRIED.
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IS IT REQUIRED THAT YOU
ARE MARRIED IN A CHURCH?
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NO, IT DOESN'T SAY SO IN THE
BIBLE, BUT I THINK IF YOU'RE A
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CHRISTIAN YOU WOULD WANT IT TO
BE A RELIGIOUS SERVICE BECAUSE
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IT'S A COVENANT IN THE PRESENCE
OF GOD AND YOU WANT TO COMMIT
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YOUR LIVES TO GOD. JESUS SAID -
MATTHEW 19, VERSE 5 - "FOR THIS
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CAUSE SHALL A MAN LEAVE FATHER
AND MOTHER AND SHALL CLEAVE TO
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HIS WIFE: AND THE TWAIN SHALL BE
ONE FLESH. WHEREFORE...WHAT GOD
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HATH JOINED TOGETHER,
LET NOT MAN PUT ASUNDER."
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THE DISCIPLES CAME TO JESUS AND
THEY SAID, 'WELL MOSES, HE GAV
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US A LAW ABOUT DIVORCE AND
HOW WE ACCOMPLISH A DIVORCE AND
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YOU'RE TEACHING SOMETHING
DIFFERENT.' AND JESUS SAID,
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'YES, BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS
OF YOUR HEARTS MOSES MADE THOSE
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LAWS.' THEY ACTUALLY HAD A LAW
THAT, BY THE TIME OF CHRIST, A
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MAN COULD DIVORCE HIS
WIFE IF SHE BURNED HIS FOOD.
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I MEAN, THEY KEPT EXPANDING WHAT
THE EXCUSES FOR DIVORCE WERE
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BECAUSE OF THE
HARDNESS OF HEARTS.
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AND, GOD SAYS, 'I HATE
DIVORCE.' AND THAT TRANSLATES
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ABOUT THE SAME IN ANY VERSION
OF THE BIBLE THAT YOU HAVE.
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NOW I KNOW THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE
HERE ARE AFFECTED BY THIS AND I
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NEED TO LET YOU KNOW THERE ARE
TIMES WHEN, BIBLICALLY, IT IS
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APPROPRIATE TO DIVORCE.
AS MUCH AS GOD HATES DIVORCE
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IT WAS GOD WHO TOLD ABRAHAM
TO DIVORCE - PUT AWAY - HAGAR.
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OF COURSE, HE HAD ONE WIFE TOO
MANY AT THE TIME AND HE HAD TO
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DEAL WITH THAT. BUT LOOK AT ALL
THE HEARTACHE THAT IT BROUGHT.
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IT'S DANGEROUS TO GO INTO
MARRIAGE THINKING THAT DIVORCE
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IS AN OPTION BECAUSE IF YOU, IN
THE BACK OF YOUR MIND EVEN THINK
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IT, THEN YOU CAN END UP HAVING
PROBLEMS. SOME PEOPLE LOOK AT
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DIVORCE AS AN ESCAPE HATCH.
I'D LIKE TO RECOMMEND, IF YOU'RE
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A CHRISTIAN, SHUT THE
HATCH, WELD IT, LOCK IT,
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THROW AWAY THE KEY. >>AMEN.
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>>AS SOON AS YOU KNOW IT'S NOT
AN OPTION AND YOU REALIZE THAT
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YOU'RE ON A DESERTED ISLAND WITH
THIS PERSON CALLED YOUR HUSBAND
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OR YOUR WIFE,
YOU'VE GOT TO GET ALONG.
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THEN YOU START DOING YOUR
BEST TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT.
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NOW, AGAIN, I RECOGNIZE THERE
ARE SOME, EVEN BIBLICAL, GROUNDS
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FOR DIVORCE. DO
YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE?
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THERE ARE TWO REASONS THAT ARE
REALLY GIVEN IN THE BIBLE WHEN
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IT'S APPROPRIATE TO DIVORCE
- AND NOT JUST DIVORCE, BECAUSE
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YOU CAN SEPARATE, YOU KNOW,
IF THERE'S ABUSE IN THE MARRIAGE
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YOU SHOULD SEPARATE.
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BUT TO DIVORCE, OFTEN PEOPLE ARE
THINKING DIVORCE IS DESIGNED TO
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PUT THEM BACK ON THE
MARKET SO THEY CAN REMARRY.
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ONE IS FOR THE CAUSE OF
FORNICATION, JESUS SAID.
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IF ONE SPOUSE OR THE OTHER
VIOLATES THOSE SACRED VOWS AND
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COMMITS THAT INTIMATE ACT WITH
ANOTHER PERSON, THEY BIBLICALLY
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HAVE GROUNDS - THEY HAVE BROKEN
THE COVENANT - THEY HAVE GROUNDS
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TO DIVORCE AND THEN TO REMARRY.
IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY HAVE TO.
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NOWHERE IS JESUS SAYING
THAT YOU HAVE TO DIVORCE.
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RECONCILIATION IS
ALWAYS MUCH BETTER.
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AND LET ME ASK YOU, DOES
THE BIBLE SOMETIMES USE THE
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EXPRESSION THAT THE LORD IS
OUR HUSBAND, THE CHURCH IS THE
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BRIDE? DOES GOD
SAY THAT SOMETIMES HIS
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PEOPLE, WHETHER IT WAS ISRAEL
OR THE CHURCH, HAS PLAYED THE
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HARLOT AND COMMITTED ADULTERY?
DOES THE LORD FORGIVE - READ THE
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BOOK OF HOSEA - AND TAKE
HER BACK? IF THERE HAS BEEN
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INFIDELITY, IT DOESN'T
MEAN YOU HAVE TO GET DIVORCED.
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AND I TOLD YOU
THERE WERE TWO REASONS.
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IN 1 CORINTHIANS CHAPTER
7 ANOTHER EXAMPLE IS GIVEN.
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PAUL IS TALKING TO PAGANS -
THERE WERE PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT
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WORSHIPED THE GRECO-ROMAN ARRAY
OF GODS, AND ONE OF THEM ACCEPTS
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JESUS - LET'S SUPPOSE
THE WIFE THEN ACCEPTS JESUS.
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AND THE HUSBAND SAYS, I
DIDN'T SIGN UP FOR THIS.
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I DON'T WANT TO BE A
CHRISTIAN. I DON'T WANT TO
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FOLLOW YOUR LAWS. I'M LEAVING.
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IF THAT HUSBAND ABANDONS THE
WIFE BECAUSE SHE HAS ACCEPTED
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JESUS - THEY BOTH GOT MARRIED AS
PAGANS - THEN, PAUL SAYS, SHE IS
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FREE IN THAT
REGARD, LET HIM DEPART.
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BUT HE SAYS, 'IF YOUR HUSBAND
IS WILLING TO STAY MARRIED, STAY
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MARRIED THAT THE HUSBAND MAY
BE CONVERTED BY THE BEHAVIOR AND
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CONVERSATION OF THE
WIFE - OR VICE VERSA.
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BUT THAT WAS SORT OF A SECOND
CLAUSE WHERE PAUL SAID 'IN THE
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EVENT THAT YOU'VE GOT TWO PAGANS
THAT ONE OF THEM CONVERTS AND
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THE PAGAN SPOUSE SAYS, 'WELL,
I'M LEAVING' - DOES THAT MEAN,
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NOW THE PERSON WHO'S NEWLY
CONVERTED CAN NEVER REMARRY?
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NO, PAUL SAYS THEY ARE NOT
UNDER BONDAGE IN SUCH CASES.
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I JUST WANT TOAKE SURE
THAT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND THAT WAS
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A SPECIFIC SCENARIO THAT
PAUL IS TALKING ABOUT THERE.
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SO MARRIAGE HAS TO BE A COVENANT
WHERE YOU STICK WITH THE PERSON
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- IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH.
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I REMEMBER HEARING ABOUT THIS
LADY THAT WAS AT HER HUSBAND'S
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BEDSIDE IN THE HOSPITAL AS HE
WAS KIND OF SLIPPING IN AND OUT
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OF A COMA DURING WHAT
WAS TO BE HIS FINAL ILLNESS.
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AND DURING ONE OF HIS LUCID
MOMENTS SHE WAS AT HIS SIDE AND
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HE SAID, 'HONEY,' - SHE DREW
CLOSE WHEN HE WAS TALKING - HE
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SAID, 'I REMEMBER.
YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN AT MY SIDE.'
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AND HE SAID, 'WHEN I
LOST MY JOB YOU WERE THERE.
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WHEN THE BUSINESS FAILED, THERE
YOU WERE.' HE SAID, 'WHEN I
00:13:42.95\00:13:47.76
BROKE MY LEG YOU WERE THERE.' HE
SAID, 'WHEN I GOT SICK YOU WERE
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THERE.' HE SAID, 'YOU KNOW,
DEAR, I JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU,
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I REALIZED SOMETHING.' SHE
DREW CLOSE AND HER EYES WERE ALL
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MISTY. HE SAID, 'I THINK YOU'RE
BAD LUCK!' (RAUCOUS LAUGHTER)
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>>OH! THAT'S SO
BAD! >>OH COME ON.
00:14:04.34\00:14:11.68
THE GUYS THINK
IT'S FUNNY. (LAUGHTER)
00:14:11.68\00:14:16.12
NOW THAT WAS JUST THE
FIRST POINT - IT'S A COVENANT.
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POINT NUMBER 2:
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME.
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I'LL READ IT TO YOU AGAIN -
GENESIS 2:24, "THEREFORE SHALL A
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MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER
AND SHALL CLEAVE" - IT'S CALLED
00:14:25.79\00:14:29.80
LEAVE AND CLEAVE - AND THAT
WORD, CLEAVE, IT ACTUALLY DOES
00:14:29.80\00:14:32.63
COME FROM THAT - AN ANCIENT
JEWISH WORD WHERE THEY MADE GLUE
00:14:32.63\00:14:35.77
OUT OF HORSE HOOVES OR SHEEP
HOOVES AND IT WAS GLUE - IT
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MEANS BE ATTACHED. IT
SAYS YOU'RE TO LEAVE - IT'S
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IMPORTANT TO
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN HOME.
00:14:43.51\00:14:46.61
IF YOU HAVE TOO MUCH OF THE
IN-LAWS AND THE OUT-LAWS ALL
00:14:46.61\00:14:51.39
THERE WHEN YOU'RE TRYING
TO ESTABLISH YOUR FAMILY - THE
00:14:51.39\00:14:54.29
FIRST COUPLE OF YEARS ARE
TOUGH AND YOU NEED TO HAVE SOME
00:14:54.29\00:14:57.69
PRIVACY BECAUSE YOU'RE TAKING
YOUR WHOLE SCENARIO OF WHAT
00:14:57.69\00:15:02.50
LIFE'S ABOUT AND ALL
YOUR EXPERIENCES AND YOUR
00:15:02.50\00:15:04.93
EXPECTATIONS AND YOU'RE BRINGING
THEM TO THE MARRIAGE AND THEN
00:15:04.93\00:15:07.84
YOUR WIFE IS TAKING HER
EXPERIENCE AND BRINGING IT TO
00:15:07.84\00:15:10.37
THE MARRIAGE - AND KAREN AND I
KNEW WE WERE GOING TO HAVE SOME
00:15:10.37\00:15:12.57
CHALLENGES BECAUSE KAREN WENT TO
THE SAME SCHOOL TWELVE YEARS AND
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THEN WENT TO CHRISTIAN
COLLEGE. I WENT TO FOURTEEN
00:15:16.48\00:15:18.45
DIFFERENT
SCHOOLS. SHE GREW UP IN A
00:15:18.45\00:15:21.42
CHRISTIAN FAMILY. I
GREW UP IN A PAGAN FAMILY.
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AND - JUST THE WAY YOU THINK
AND YOU COMMUNICATE AND YOUR
00:15:25.15\00:15:27.92
EXPECTATIONS - WE KNEW THERE
WERE GOING TO BE DIFFERENCES.
00:15:27.92\00:15:31.99
AND IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU'RE
ABLE TO BRING THOSE THINGS
00:15:31.99\00:15:34.20
TOGETHER SO THAT YOU CAN
COALESCE YOUR LIVES WITHOUT
00:15:34.20\00:15:38.20
OUTSIDE INTERFERENCE AND
IF THERE ARE THIRD AND FOURTH
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PARTIES IN THE HOME - AND
I REALIZE, SOMETIMES IN SOME
00:15:41.50\00:15:44.47
CULTURES IT BECOMES - IT CAN
BECOME DIFFICULT, BUT GOD SAID
00:15:44.47\00:15:49.44
'A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER
AND MOTHER AND CLEAVE UNTO HIS
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WIFE.' THE OTHER THING IS, IF
A MAN HAS HIS FATHER AND MOTHER
00:15:51.98\00:15:54.95
LIVING IN THE HOUSE, HE'S ALWAYS
COMPARING HIS MOTHER'S COOKING
00:15:54.95\00:15:57.29
TO HIS WIFE'S COOKING AND
THAT MAY NOT BE GOOD FOR HIS
00:15:57.29\00:16:01.19
RELATIONSHIP
WITH ONE OR THE OTHER.
00:16:01.19\00:16:03.43
ESTABLISH YOUR OWN
HOME. DON'T LET THIRD
00:16:03.43\00:16:05.53
PARTIES COME BETWEEN. SPOUSE
SHOULD BE THE BEST FRIEND.
00:16:05.53\00:16:11.10
POINT NUMBER 3 IN A MARRIAGE,
IT SAYS, 'ABOVE ALL THINGS,
00:16:11.10\00:16:15.44
CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP.
WHAT BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER IN
00:16:15.44\00:16:20.11
THE FIRST PLACE NEEDS TO GO
ON. 1 PETER 4:8, "AND ABOVE ALL
00:16:20.11\00:16:24.95
THINGS BE UNFAILING IN YOUR
LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER SINCE LOVE
00:16:24.95\00:16:30.05
COVERS A MULTITUDE OF SIN."
YOU KNOW WHERE JESUS SAYS IN
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REVELATION, 'NEVERTHELESS
I HAVE THIS AGAINST YOU' -
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BECAUSE WHAT? YOU'VE
LOST YOUR FIRST LOVE.
00:16:36.26\00:16:40.30
AND HOW MANY TIMES HAVE PEOPLE
THOUGHT, 'WHAT IN THE WORLD WAS
00:16:40.30\00:16:42.73
I THINKING. I LOVE THIS PERSON.
00:16:42.73\00:16:45.47
WHERE'D THAT LOVE
GO? WE FELL OUT OF LOVE.
00:16:45.47\00:16:48.14
WE DRIFTED APART.' WELL, THE
THINGS THAT BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER
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IN THE FIRST PLACE MUST BE
CONTINUALLY NURTURED AND FED AND
00:16:51.34\00:16:56.54
ENCOURAGED AND REVIVED.
SOMEONE SAID, 'MARRIAGE IS LIKE
00:16:56.54\00:17:00.92
RUING A FARM - YOU'VE
GOT TO START OVER EVERY DAY.'
00:17:00.92\00:17:03.22
(LAUGHTER) AND YOU
DON'T REALLY GET A DAY OFF.
00:17:03.22\00:17:07.49
EVERY DAY THERE NEEDS TO BE
THINGS THAT NURTURE THAT FIRST
00:17:07.49\00:17:11.29
LOVE. PROVERBS 31:28, "...HER
HUSBAND ALSO, AND HE PRAISES
00:17:11.29\00:17:15.33
HER." YOU NOTICE
THAT'S AN ONGOING VERB?
00:17:15.33\00:17:19.30
YOU CONTINUE TO
ENCOURAGE AND TO PRAISE.
00:17:19.30\00:17:22.37
WE NEED THOSE
THINGS. WE APPRECIATE IT.
00:17:22.37\00:17:25.11
1 CORINTHIANS 7:34, "...SHE WHO
IS MARRIED CARES...HOW SHE MAY
00:17:25.11\00:17:29.04
PLEASE HER HUSBAND." AND
SO IT'S AN ONGOING CONCERN
00:17:29.04\00:17:34.05
- PRAISE, CARING
ABOUT PLEASING THIS PERSON.
00:17:34.05\00:17:37.02
WHEN YOU START TAKING THE PERSON
FOR GRANTED, THEN YOU HAVE A LOT
00:17:37.02\00:17:40.39
OF PROBLEMS. YOU
NEED TO SHOW AFFECTION AND
00:17:40.39\00:17:44.33
IT - IT NEEDS TO BE CONSCIOUS.
YOU MIGHT SAY, 'WELL, BUT I
00:17:44.33\00:17:47.36
DON'T FEEL LOVE.' DO IT ANYWAY
AND YOU'LL BE SURPRISED, YOU
00:17:47.36\00:17:49.40
MIGHT START FEELING THE LOVE
AGAIN. 'DO THE FIRST WORKS',
00:17:49.40\00:17:52.60
JESUS SAID. 'REMEMBER
FROM WHERE YOU HAVE FALLEN.
00:17:52.60\00:17:55.77
REPENT AND DO THE FIRST WORKS.'
ROMANS 12, VERSE 10, "BE KINDLY
00:17:55.77\00:18:00.11
AFFECTIONATE TO ONE ANOTHER WITH
BROTHERLY LOVE, IN HONOR GING
00:18:00.11\00:18:03.35
PREFERENCE TO ONE ANOTHER;"
BILLY SUNDAY SAID, 'TRY PRAISING
00:18:03.35\00:18:06.48
YOUR WIFE, EVEN IF IT
DOES FRIGHTEN HER AT FIRST.'
00:18:06.48\00:18:08.95
(LAUGHTER) AND YOU'VE HEARD THE
EXPRESSION BEFORE, 'TREAT HER
00:18:08.95\00:18:13.46
LIKE A QUEEN AND SHE WILL TREAT
YOU LIKE A KING.' AND SOMETIMES
00:18:13.46\00:18:17.06
YOU WILL GET, FROM THE OTHER
PERSON, WHAT YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN
00:18:17.06\00:18:20.83
WANTING TO GET, WHEN YOU
TREAT THEM THE WAY THAT THEY'RE
00:18:20.83\00:18:23.33
LONGING TO BE TREATED.
AND SO IT'S THROUGH THE
00:18:23.33\00:18:26.53
COOPERATIVE NURTURING OF
EACH OTHER IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
00:18:26.53\00:18:31.67
DON'T OVERLOOK THE LITTLE
COURTESIES, ENCOURAGEMENTS, AND
00:18:31.67\00:18:35.44
AFFECTIONATE
ACTS. DON'T TAKE EACH
00:18:35.44\00:18:37.91
OTHER FOR GRANTED. WHAT
YOU DID WHEN YOU COURTED
00:18:37.91\00:18:40.48
EACH OTHER - THE EXCITEMENT,
THE LOVE - YOU NEED TO HAVE DATE
00:18:40.48\00:18:42.95
NIGHTS WHERE YOU GO OUT
AND YOU DO THINGS TOGETHER.
00:18:42.95\00:18:46.59
AND THEN, MAYBE I'LL PAUSE WITH
THIS THOUGHT AFTER - I'LL DO
00:18:46.59\00:18:49.62
POINT NUMBER 4 AND WE'LL TAKE
IT UP WHEN WE BEGIN NEXT TIME -
00:18:49.62\00:18:54.10
GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS.
DON'T LET YOUR SENSES TRAP YOU.
00:18:54.10\00:18:58.23
NOW YOU'D BE SURPRISED HOW
MANY MARRIAGES ARE DESTROYED
00:18:58.23\00:19:00.30
BECAUSOF BAD THINKING.
00:19:00.30\00:19:03.71
PROVERBS 23, VERSE 7, "FOR AS HE
THINKS IN HIS HEART, SO IS HE."
00:19:03.71\00:19:09.41
A LOT OF ADULTERIES
BEGIN WITH THOUGHTS.
00:19:09.41\00:19:13.75
YOU KNOW ONE OF THE NUMBER
ONE THINGS THAT CONTRIBUTES TO
00:19:13.75\00:19:16.35
DIVORCE MAY NOT BE THE ACT
OF ADULTERY BUT IT'S MENTAL
00:19:16.35\00:19:21.56
ADULTERY THAT'S HAPPENING EITHER
THROUGH PORNOGRAPHY ON THE
00:19:21.56\00:19:25.79
INTERNET OR SOAP
OPERAS ON TELEVISION.
00:19:25.79\00:19:30.43
AND I'M NOT SAYING THEY'RE
EXACTLY THE SAME THING BUT, YOU
00:19:30.43\00:19:34.80
KNOW, WHEN EVERY DAY WIFE OR A
HUSBAND - IT'S NOT TYPICALLY THE
00:19:34.80\00:19:40.88
HUSBAND - IS WATCHING OTHER
PEOPLE, VICARIOUSLY, HAVING
00:19:40.88\00:19:45.68
AFFAIRS, THEN YOU'RE
REJOICING IN THOSE THAT DO IT.
00:19:45.68\00:19:50.95
IT'S SOMETHING THAT'S HAPPENING
IN THE THINKING AND WHAT'S
00:19:50.95\00:19:53.22
HAPPENING IS PEOPLE LOOKING
AT THESE UNREAL IMAGES ON THE
00:19:53.22\00:19:57.96
INTERNET, ON TV, ON
THEIR COMPUTER - OR TELEVISION
00:19:57.96\00:20:03.50
PROGRAMS THAT ARE GIVING A
COUNTERFEIT HOLLYWOOD VERSION OF
00:20:03.50\00:20:06.67
WHAT MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO BE
AND TOTALLY UNREALISTIC, SAPPY
00:20:06.67\00:20:11.04
LOVE STORIES THAT ARE SO
FAR-FETCHED FROM ANY REAL LIFE
00:20:11.04\00:20:15.94
THAT PEOPLE CAN START TO BE
DISSATISFIED AND THINK - YEAH,
00:20:15.94\00:20:20.52
THEY GOT SOME DEBONAIR ACTOR
THAT'S JUST - 'HE'S THE MOST
00:20:20.52\00:20:22.75
THOUGHTFUL GUY IN THE WORLD AND
HE'S DOING ALL THESE THINGS AND
00:20:22.75\00:20:25.19
HE'S SO ROMANTIC AND HE'S GOT
LOTS OF MONEY AND FANCY CARS AND
00:20:25.19\00:20:27.52
HE ALWAYS LOOKS BUFF AND WORKING
OUT AND HE'S JUST - EVERY HAIR'S
00:20:27.52\00:20:31.53
IN PLACE AND...' HOW
CAN YOU COMPETE WITH THAT?
00:20:31.53\00:20:35.90
(LAUGHTER) AND THEN SHE - YOU
KNOW, YOU COME HOME FROM WORK
00:20:35.90\00:20:40.20
AND SHE LOOKS AT YOU AND GOES,
'OH BROTHER, HE DOESN'T LOOK
00:20:40.20\00:20:44.97
ANYTHING LIKE THAT GUY.'
(LAUGHTER) AND SO, IN THE MIND,
00:20:44.97\00:20:48.74
GUYS ARE LOOKING AT THESE GIRLS
THAT HAVE GOT THESE PERFECT
00:20:48.74\00:20:51.25
BODIES - AIRBRUSHED,
PHOTOSHOPPED - AND THEN THEY
00:20:51.25\00:20:56.08
SEE, YOU KNOW, A COUPLE OF
WRINKLES AND A LITTLE CELLULITE
00:20:56.08\00:21:00.19
AND THEY START THINKING -
AND THINGS START HAPPENI IN THE
00:21:00.19\00:21:03.26
MIND. NOW WE'RE KIND OF LAUGHING
00:21:03.26\00:21:05.23
BECAUSE WE KNOW IT'S TRUE,
BUT TELEVISION HAS CONTRIBUTED
00:21:05.23\00:21:13.20
A GREAT DEAL TO DESTROYING
MARRIAGES. TURN OFF THE TV.
00:21:13.20\00:21:22.61
IN AN ARTICLE BY DR. ARMAND
NICHOLI, WHO IS A PSYCHIATRIST
00:21:22.61\00:21:26.35
AND A MEDICAL DOCTOR IN
THE FACILITY OF HARVARD MEDICAL
00:21:26.35\00:21:29.32
SCHOOL, HE SAID, "ANOTHER TREND
THAT IS GOING TO DESTROY THE
00:21:29.32\00:21:33.05
FAMILY AS WE KNOW IT AND
CAUSE EMOTIONAL CRIPPLES, IS THE
00:21:33.05\00:21:38.73
INVASION OF
TELEVISION INTO THE HOME."
00:21:38.73\00:21:41.06
ONE-FIFTH OF THE LIFETIME,
IN THE NEXT GENERATION, WILL BE
00:21:41.06\00:21:44.20
SPENT WATCHING TELEVISION.
IF YOU LIVE TO BE 80 YEARS OF
00:21:44.20\00:21:47.50
AGE, WHICH IS YOUR AVERAGE,
YOU'LL HAVE WATCHED TELEVISION
00:21:47.50\00:21:51.07
A TOTAL OF FOUR THOUSAND DAYS,
CREATING A TREMENDOUS IMPACT.
00:21:51.07\00:21:56.04
AND SINCE WE KNOW THAT
TELEVISION IS PART OF A SYSTEM
00:21:56.04\00:21:58.28
THAT TEARS DOWN THE FAMILY.
YOU'LL HAVE A TOTAL OF 4,000
00:21:58.28\00:22:01.32
DAYS OF ANTI-FAMILY PROGRAMMING
ON ONE LEVEL OR ANOTHER.
00:22:01.32\00:22:06.12
AND SO, EVERYTHING FROM WHAT WE
READ TO WHAT WE WATCH AND WHAT'S
00:22:06.12\00:22:09.92
ON THE INTERNET, IT IS AFFECTING
THE THINKING AND PEOPLE BRING
00:22:09.92\00:22:13.40
THESE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
INTO REAL MARRIAGES.
00:22:13.40\00:22:17.63
THEY BRING THESE UNREALISTIC
IMAGES INTO REAL MARRIAGES AND
00:22:17.63\00:22:21.70
THEY ARE DISSATISFIED.
00:22:21.70\00:22:24.14
AND THEN THOUGHTS COME INTO
THE MIND AND THEY START HAVING
00:22:24.14\00:22:26.84
SECOND THOUGHTS AND THEY START
HAVING DOUBTS AND THEY HAVE
00:22:26.84\00:22:29.71
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
AND - THE IMPURITY IN THE MIND.
00:22:29.71\00:22:33.72
KEEP YOUR MIND - KEEP YOUR HEART
- LET THE BIBLE AND THE WORD OF
00:22:33.72\00:22:38.02
GOD AND THE THINGS OF GOD BE
THE CATALYST FOR YOUR FAMILY AND
00:22:38.02\00:22:43.43
YOU'LL FIND THAT THAT LOVE
AND APPRECIATION FOR THAT PERSON
00:22:43.43\00:22:46.36
THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU - THAT
YOU ARE - YOU'VE BECOME ONE WITH
00:22:46.36\00:22:50.10
THROUGH MARRIAGE, WILL
BE RESTORED AND REVIVED.
00:22:50.10\00:22:53.67
>>AMEN. >>A
COUPLE WAS - THEY WERE
00:22:53.67\00:22:56.74
HAVING DAILY BICKERING,
ARGUMENTS, OFTEN OVER LITTLE
00:22:56.74\00:22:59.81
THINGS. THEY
REALIZED THAT EVERY DAY
00:22:59.81\00:23:02.14
THEY WERE AT EACH OTHER.
AND THE WIFE CAME UP WITH AN
00:23:02.14\00:23:05.58
IDEA. SHE SAID, 'LOOK, YOU KNOW,
THIS IS SILLY. IT'S IMMATURE.
00:23:05.58\00:23:09.42
IF WE HAVE DIFFERENCES -
IF THERE'S THINGS WE WANT TO
00:23:09.42\00:23:13.02
COMMUNICATE, LET'S
GIVE EACH OTHER A BREAK.
00:23:13.02\00:23:15.29
IF THERE'S SOMETHING I'M DOING
THAT'S BOTHERING YOU, WRITE IT
00:23:15.29\00:23:18.09
OUT ON A SLIP OF
PAPER. PUT IT IN THIS BOX HERE
00:23:18.09\00:23:21.03
ON THE KITCHEN COUNTER.
IF I'VE GOT SOMETHING, I'LL
00:23:21.03\00:23:23.63
WRITE IT DOWN, I'LL PUT
IT ON THE KITCHEN COUNTER.
00:23:23.63\00:23:25.77
AT THE END OF THE MONTH,
THEN WE'LL TALK THROUGH IT.
00:23:25.77\00:23:28.34
WE'LL HAVE ONE BIG ARGUMENT AND
GET IT OVER WITH.' SO HE SAID,
00:23:28.34\00:23:32.21
'OKAY, DEAR.' SO EACH DAY SHE'D
MAKE AN OBSERVATION, SHE'D WRITE
00:23:32.21\00:23:37.51
IT DOWN, SHE'D PUT IT IN THE
BOX AND WOULDN'T SAY ANYTHING.
00:23:37.51\00:23:40.02
HE'D WRITE SOMETHING DOWN, HE'D
PUT IT IN THE BOX AND WOULDN'T
00:23:40.02\00:23:42.22
SAY ANYTHING. THIS
WENT ON FOR THIRTY DAYS.
00:23:42.22\00:23:45.52
AT THE END OF THIRTY DAYS
SHE SAID, 'OKAY, LET'S SIT DOWN.
00:23:45.52\00:23:48.32
LET'S OPEN THE BOX.'
SHE TOOK OUT THE BOX AND SHE
00:23:48.32\00:23:51.69
PULLED OUT HER PINK PAPERS.
00:23:51.69\00:23:54.36
IT SAID, 'LEAVING THE
LID OFF THE JELLY JAR AGAIN.'
00:23:54.36\00:24:00.10
'DIRTY SOCKS ON THE FLOOR.'
AND SHE JUST WAS GOING TOUGH
00:24:00.10\00:24:03.17
HER LITANY OF - JUST ALL
THESE THINGS AND FINALLY SHE
00:24:03.17\00:24:07.21
SAID, 'OKAY, YOU CAN READ
YOUR BLUE ONES NOW.' HIS SAID,
00:24:07.21\00:24:10.98
'I LOVE YOU.' 'I LOVE YOU.'
'I LOVE YOU.' AND SHE BEGAN
00:24:10.98\00:24:19.19
TO FEEL A LITTLE BAD.
THE THINGS - BY THE WAY, THAT
00:24:19.19\00:24:22.69
STORY CAN BE TOLD EITHER WAY.
LOVE COVERS A MULTITUDE OF SIN.
00:24:22.69\00:24:31.20
YOU KNOW, WE
NATURALLY ARE NOT LOVABLE.
00:24:31.20\00:24:36.27
GOD DIDN'T DIE FOR US
BECAUSE WE'RE LOVABLE.
00:24:36.27\00:24:38.17
IT'S EASY TO LOVE THE LOVABLE.
WHILE WE WERE YET SINNERS,
00:24:38.17\00:24:41.28
CHRIST LOVED US AND
DIED FOR US. >>AMEN.
00:24:41.28\00:24:43.98
>>AND IF THE LORD CAN LOVE
US AND THE LOVE OF CHRIST CAN BE
00:24:43.98\00:24:48.92
SHED ABROAD IN OUR HEARTS - YOU
KNOW WHAT ONE - WHAT'S THE GREAT
00:24:48.92\00:24:52.12
COMMANDMENT IN THE LAW?
'LOVE THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR
00:24:52.12\00:24:55.66
HEART AND LOVE' -
WHAT? >>YOUR NEIGHBOR.
00:24:55.66\00:24:57.73
>>LOVE WHO? >>YOUR NEIGHBOR.
00:24:57.73\00:24:59.86
WHO'S A CLOSER
NEIGHBOR THAN YOUR SPOUSE?
00:24:59.86\00:25:02.76
>>NOBODY. >>IT'S
INTERESTING. THE BIBLE
00:25:02.76\00:25:04.80
SAYS YOU NEED TO LOVE YOUR
NEIGHBOR. IT SAYS YOU NEED TO
00:25:04.80\00:25:06.47
LOVE YOUR ENEMY.
SOMEONE BROUGHT OUT IT'S OFTEN
00:25:06.47\00:25:08.90
BECAUSE YOUR
NEIGHBOR BECOMES YOUR ENEMY.
00:25:08.90\00:25:12.54
AND IF WE CAN'T LOVE OUR
SPOUSES, HOW ARE WE GOING TO
00:25:12.54\00:25:17.31
LOVE OUR ENEMIES?
HOW ARE WE GOING TO
00:25:17.31\00:25:18.95
LOVE OUR NEIGHBORS?
THAT'S WHERE IT STARTS.
00:25:18.95\00:25:22.35
AND IT'S A CHOICE
THAT NEEDS TO BE MADE.
00:25:22.35\00:25:24.42
NOW THERE'S A RULE IN LIFE -
IT'S SAYS THERE'S A SIMPLE RULE
00:25:24.42\00:25:28.36
OF PHYSICS - THAT THE CLOSER
THAT TWO OBJECTS COME TO A
00:25:28.36\00:25:32.26
COMMON DESTINATION, THEY WILL
INVARIABLY COME CLOSER TO ONE
00:25:32.26\00:25:36.36
ANOTHER. AND IF CHRIST IS AT THE
00:25:36.36\00:25:39.60
MIDDLE OF YOUR LIFE - IF YOU,
PERSONALLY, HAVE SURRENDERED
00:25:39.60\00:25:42.80
YOUR LIFE TO JESUS, THE CLOSER
YOU ARE COMING TO JESUS - AND IF
00:25:42.80\00:25:46.04
YOUR SPOUSE IS COMING CLOSER
TO JESUS - YOU WILL INVARIABLY
00:25:46.04\00:25:49.24
BE COMING CLOSER
TOGETHER. >>AMEN.
00:25:49.24\00:25:51.68
>>GOD IS LOVE AND IF HE IS
THE CENTER OF OUR LIVES, HE WILL
00:25:51.68\00:25:56.65
DRAW OUR HEARTS TOGETHER AND
OUR FAMILIES AND OUR MARRIAGES.
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DO NOT LET THE WORLD
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GOD HAS GIVEN US
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